Why Make a Fuss about Writing?

Years ago, I started reading Serge Benhayon’s books and attending presentations with him and Universal Medicine. Over time much has changed for me and something that has particularly developed is a strong understanding of the importance of supporting and caring for each other.

A valuable source of assistance in learning to do this has been through reading blogs on the various websites by Universal Medicine students. These blogs have frequently highlighted what I have been feeling and thinking, but perhaps dared not express outwardly before, or the writer has given me new insight into a topic I hadn’t paid much attention to or didn’t know anything about previously. I have felt inspired and appreciative of those who have been willing to share their stories in writing and to readers for their broad ranging comments on articles.

I know I’m not alone in feeling daunted with honestly letting others know what is going on in my head and heart. Verbally expressing myself is often a big step; one filled with trepidation around how others might react. When I have spoken up, experience has taught me that often I have drawn surprising responses from others which has taken relationships to new depths. At other times, I’ve been challenged by reactions from the alternate end of the spectrum.

What I have noted however, is that written expression has its own set of self-imposed trials. While finding the writing of others, especially on the Universal Medicine student websites, often inspirational, I seldom contribute my own written material to such forums. Taking the time to honestly examine why this is the case has proved interesting with reasons including the following:

  • Using the excuse of lack of time; telling myself I’ll get to it ‘later’, which of course, doesn’t happen.
  • Comparing my level of writing skills to others; thinking that my writing style is boring for readers.
  • Baulking when I feel a spark of enthusiasm by assuming the task will be laborious and unpleasant.
  • Using negative self-talk to block further progress: “What if my views are deemed repetitive, nonsense, pathetic or just plain silly and therefore subject to ridicule?” or “Will others respond kindly and with interest or react aggressively to what’s been written, and I’ll end up humiliated and embarrassed?”
  • Feeling concerned about the permanent nature of the written word with no control over where it ends up and the possible subsequent implications of this occurring.

When I stop and look back at what I have written here, it’s glaringly obvious that all my excuses are imbued with a desire to maintain the current status quo where written expression is concerned. Yet, if the writing scope is broadened from me in my individual self-protection mode to considering how my behaviour impacts on others, this avoidance seems indulgent, selfish and childish. It’s like I am expecting the world to support me while I go on a permanent holiday. However, placing writing in a compartment and treating it as separate from the whole, directly contradicts my values in terms of caring for and supporting others. I know that my behaviours impact either negatively or positively on others and therefore contribute to the overall quality of the world we live in.

At a societal level, our concern for the welfare of others affects how we care for our children, rates of illness and disease, how and where governments spend money, what’s legal and so forth, because collectively the standards accepted by the majority become the norm. While I can’t singularly change world environments, I know that it’s important that I play my part fully and that every little step counts.

The way I walk, talk, my level of openness and genuineness etc. all affect the quality of my relationships with myself and others. It can be a very warm, loving experience… or the opposite. When in reaction, the anger, defensiveness, blame, judgement, criticism etc. often feel like a physical blow to not just myself, but also for the other person. How can people stop to question the quality of the standards that are being set if there is nothing available to spark their awareness of how everything is interconnected to the whole, and that it’s up to us all to play our part in creating the type of world we would like to live in? Wouldn’t all this make it even more important that I made the time and effort to write and share it in the public domain?

The more I examined my excuses for not writing, the more I have learnt about myself and my relationship with others and the world. When I let go of this avoidance, including any attachments around the outcomes with the finished product, I now realise I am offering so much more than what it appears to be on the surface.

For instance, there is a level of intimacy and openness offered through a willingness to let others in, which is essentially what I am doing when I write something that others are reading. Readers can feel the quality in which I have shared my views; it’s like there is a certain vibration that invites a response from the reader. Of course it’s up to them if and how they respond, but the important thing is that I have offered an alternate ‘menu’ around a topic for others to consider. I have no way of knowing where others are at in their lives, so possibly what I write about is something they have been grappling with also. Perhaps this is the support they were looking for elsewhere but were unable to find? What might the ripple effect of this be? And what’s the impact of my holding back due to my own concocted box of beliefs etc.? Is that not irresponsible and simply adding to the current high levels of individual isolation for myself and others?

When I take this broader view and value writing as something that offers opportunity for both self-development and a form of service for humanity, I can feel the shifting of a self-imposed load off my shoulders that allows a spacious lightness and flow to enter. In the expansion my perceptions are sharpened.

This emerging capacity to take a helicopter view and consider things from this grander vantage point has undoubtedly been enhanced by the support offered through Universal Medicine, Serge Benhayon, fellow Universal Medicine students and practitioners. The seeds sown by this group of fellow travellers, who have committed to writing and sharing their wisdom, just highlight even more to me how important our expression truly is compared to the defeated sounds of silence.

By Helen Giles, Social Worker, Townsville, Australia

Related Reading:
The Gift of Expressing from our Essence
My Relationship with Writing
Healing through Writing and Expressing

573 thoughts on “Why Make a Fuss about Writing?

  1. Helen I’m with you about how others may feel with our expression, it’s a biggie for me. Afraid or worried that it may not be accepted and when it is accepted, then I am feeling good about myself. It’s since meeting Serge Benhayon has my expression evolved and I’ve learnt to express from within me. What I found that when I calculated or calibrated with an expectation, my expression would be affected and later left wishing or thinking I had said this or said that. When I express from within my body, and the words just flow out, with no hesitation or expectations/outcomes, I’m left feeling, I said what was needed and feel complete.

    I’m finding the more I express, the more I learn about myself and where others are at. Learning to not to hold back is so supportive for everyone including me and in this, I realise more and more that expression is everything and in everything…

  2. Expressing from our Essences, Inner-most-hearts / Souls opens us to a plethora of wisdom that can only be shared when we are connected to this innateness that has always been within.

    1. Greg there’s a contentment when we express from our souls, because it isn’t for us to keep or own, it is for the all – that’s what I love when expression comes from our essence.

  3. One step at a time, one word after another. When we say or write something and then let go of the ownership of what we have expressed it is for others to react, respond or be inspired.

  4. When we allow ourselves to be totally honest in our expressions, then this liberates us from the societal incarcerations of how things should or should not be. I still find it hard to be completely open and honest all of the time, especially in certain situations, as it requires a certain surrender to situations that I am still giving myself space to learn and allow. But when I do allow the total openness, I can feel the difference in the quality and in the way I feel afterwards, regardless of the physical/temporal outcome or perceived success of the situation.

  5. Helen I love how you have made it about the quality of your expression and how much this actually impact on your life but equally so on the life of others.

  6. Every opportunity to speak, to write, to sing, to draw and even to move is an opportunity to express that which naturally what lies deep within.

  7. Yes if we really do have something to say, that is if we feel impulsed to say something, and then don’t we can feel defeated and this drop in our energy impacts everything thereafter until we choose to come out of the doldrum we have created for ourselves.

  8. Well done in overcoming all the list of barriers to putting pen to paper, it was well worth it. A couple of friends that spring to mind both have a dictum that states “just get on with it” and I have found that this approach works well and leaves all the doubts and negative thoughts behind.

    1. There really are many excuses/barriers we present, some of which Helen listed , ‘ Using the excuse of lack of time; telling myself I’ll get to it ‘later’, which of course, doesn’t happen.
      Comparing my level of writing skills to others; thinking that my writing style is boring for readers.’

  9. Reading this has confirmed to me that I need to get on with writing. My biggest issue is the comparison to how others write and mine won’t be good enough.
    I feel everyone has their unique expression and this expression serves everyone and it could be in the simplicity of just one word.
    Like anything, consistency and commitment is the key to bringing about change.

    1. It is a big barrier when we feel that we have to do it ourselves and that we will be judged by others, but the ageless wisdom tells us it is never us doing it, it always comes from a source. To be able to connect to the right source we have to first get ourselves out of the way. Otherwise everything we write will be from the only other source, the one that has created the mess we are all in.

  10. Silencing ourselves in expressing the love that we are is against out nature and at the end very, very exhausting.

      1. Our auto-immune conditions are all about the body fighting itself, symbolically so. The body speaks loudly to us and lets us know when we are not choosing something that is deeply nurturing and loving for self and others equally so.

      2. When we attack ourselves, we can be pre-disposed to get an auto-immune condition, which is simply the body attacking itself.

  11. In holding back the love we hold to be expressed, we allow space for the opposite, for the bullying, controlling and abusive ways of expression with we see so much in our nowadays societies. And when we look in history we will find that this is the case already for thousands of years.

    1. Wise words Nico, for expression cannot truly be stopped – if we simply choose not to express our natural love and tenderness and put a stop to that, then another form of expression must take over which then allows the separatism, the violence, and the bullying etc in all its obvious but also far more subtle ways, to come through. It is one or the other, as there is not middle fence to stand on.

    2. Whatever we choose will have an impact on the world, how do we choose to impact the world, ‘I know that my behaviours impact either negatively or positively on others and therefore contribute to the overall quality of the world we live in.’

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