Why Make a Fuss about Writing?

Years ago, I started reading Serge Benhayon’s books and attending presentations with him and Universal Medicine. Over time much has changed for me and something that has particularly developed is a strong understanding of the importance of supporting and caring for each other.

A valuable source of assistance in learning to do this has been through reading blogs on the various websites by Universal Medicine students. These blogs have frequently highlighted what I have been feeling and thinking, but perhaps dared not express outwardly before, or the writer has given me new insight into a topic I hadn’t paid much attention to or didn’t know anything about previously. I have felt inspired and appreciative of those who have been willing to share their stories in writing and to readers for their broad ranging comments on articles.

I know I’m not alone in feeling daunted with honestly letting others know what is going on in my head and heart. Verbally expressing myself is often a big step; one filled with trepidation around how others might react. When I have spoken up, experience has taught me that often I have drawn surprising responses from others which has taken relationships to new depths. At other times, I’ve been challenged by reactions from the alternate end of the spectrum.

What I have noted however, is that written expression has its own set of self-imposed trials. While finding the writing of others, especially on the Universal Medicine student websites, often inspirational, I seldom contribute my own written material to such forums. Taking the time to honestly examine why this is the case has proved interesting with reasons including the following:

  • Using the excuse of lack of time; telling myself I’ll get to it ‘later’, which of course, doesn’t happen.
  • Comparing my level of writing skills to others; thinking that my writing style is boring for readers.
  • Baulking when I feel a spark of enthusiasm by assuming the task will be laborious and unpleasant.
  • Using negative self-talk to block further progress: “What if my views are deemed repetitive, nonsense, pathetic or just plain silly and therefore subject to ridicule?” or “Will others respond kindly and with interest or react aggressively to what’s been written, and I’ll end up humiliated and embarrassed?”
  • Feeling concerned about the permanent nature of the written word with no control over where it ends up and the possible subsequent implications of this occurring.

When I stop and look back at what I have written here, it’s glaringly obvious that all my excuses are imbued with a desire to maintain the current status quo where written expression is concerned. Yet, if the writing scope is broadened from me in my individual self-protection mode to considering how my behaviour impacts on others, this avoidance seems indulgent, selfish and childish. It’s like I am expecting the world to support me while I go on a permanent holiday. However, placing writing in a compartment and treating it as separate from the whole, directly contradicts my values in terms of caring for and supporting others. I know that my behaviours impact either negatively or positively on others and therefore contribute to the overall quality of the world we live in.

At a societal level, our concern for the welfare of others affects how we care for our children, rates of illness and disease, how and where governments spend money, what’s legal and so forth, because collectively the standards accepted by the majority become the norm. While I can’t singularly change world environments, I know that it’s important that I play my part fully and that every little step counts.

The way I walk, talk, my level of openness and genuineness etc. all affect the quality of my relationships with myself and others. It can be a very warm, loving experience… or the opposite. When in reaction, the anger, defensiveness, blame, judgement, criticism etc. often feel like a physical blow to not just myself, but also for the other person. How can people stop to question the quality of the standards that are being set if there is nothing available to spark their awareness of how everything is interconnected to the whole, and that it’s up to us all to play our part in creating the type of world we would like to live in? Wouldn’t all this make it even more important that I made the time and effort to write and share it in the public domain?

The more I examined my excuses for not writing, the more I have learnt about myself and my relationship with others and the world. When I let go of this avoidance, including any attachments around the outcomes with the finished product, I now realise I am offering so much more than what it appears to be on the surface.

For instance, there is a level of intimacy and openness offered through a willingness to let others in, which is essentially what I am doing when I write something that others are reading. Readers can feel the quality in which I have shared my views; it’s like there is a certain vibration that invites a response from the reader. Of course it’s up to them if and how they respond, but the important thing is that I have offered an alternate ‘menu’ around a topic for others to consider. I have no way of knowing where others are at in their lives, so possibly what I write about is something they have been grappling with also. Perhaps this is the support they were looking for elsewhere but were unable to find? What might the ripple effect of this be? And what’s the impact of my holding back due to my own concocted box of beliefs etc.? Is that not irresponsible and simply adding to the current high levels of individual isolation for myself and others?

When I take this broader view and value writing as something that offers opportunity for both self-development and a form of service for humanity, I can feel the shifting of a self-imposed load off my shoulders that allows a spacious lightness and flow to enter. In the expansion my perceptions are sharpened.

This emerging capacity to take a helicopter view and consider things from this grander vantage point has undoubtedly been enhanced by the support offered through Universal Medicine, Serge Benhayon, fellow Universal Medicine students and practitioners. The seeds sown by this group of fellow travellers, who have committed to writing and sharing their wisdom, just highlight even more to me how important our expression truly is compared to the defeated sounds of silence.

By Helen Giles, Social Worker, Townsville, Australia

Related Reading:
The Gift of Expressing from our Essence
My Relationship with Writing
Healing through Writing and Expressing

518 thoughts on “Why Make a Fuss about Writing?

  1. I have just started writing a journal again, a little bit every night. I love this practise it completes the day for me and there is something about writing with a pen instead of on the laptop that allows for a different kind of flow which I feel to be very supportive right now. The actual process of writing with a pen, the way we move across the page, it is like a dance and shows us a lot about how we are – just as much if not more than the content.

  2. Expression is everything, as is communication and it is when we don’t express or communicate that things start to get complicated or misunderstood.

  3. Writing is a wonderful way to express ourselves, and need not be feared. In so many ways it is no different than speaking.

  4. Self-worth issues are a killer…. for writing. When you write, particularly, when you share something that is personal, you get exposed to others and that may prove to be a reason to not do it, just in case, you get rejected somehow confirming your fears and self-worth issues. So, self-worth issues guarantee a movement that returns to itself. Breaking this pattern requires a lot. Most importantly, it may bring a way out of the known pattern that leads you nowhere and that leaves you with nowhere to go.

  5. I love considering this paragraph: “When I take this broader view and value writing as something that offers opportunity for both self-development and a form of service for humanity, I can feel the shifting of a self-imposed load off my shoulders that allows a spacious lightness and flow to enter. In the expansion my perceptions are sharpened.” It applies to every single aspect of life.

  6. When we hold back our expression the world misses out on what we can offer. For me it has been about getting ‘self’ out of the way and letting go of any ideals and pictures as this was crushing my expression and my natural flow.

  7. When we make it all about us there can be a heavy feeling around whatever we are doing, alternatively making it about humanity, our larger family, somehow allows more space and a lightness to pervade our activity. I find this interesting as usually it is thought upon as the other way round… Could it be our connection that makes all the difference here?

  8. Holding back from expressing either in writing or speaking up creates a tension in the body. It is this tension that is actually supporting me to express and set a standard/marker in my life. From setting standards I can build and keep on developing and building my relationship with expression.

  9. From experience I have found that when I get myself out of the way and write from my inner knowing, then the words just flow. Its only when I start thinking about what I am going to write that it becomes complicated and hard.

  10. Many of us get bogged down with the pictures that we have nothing to offer or that we are not good enough, or only certain people with x,y,z can write. Whatever the beliefs and things stopping us, at the end of the day they are designed by nature to stunt our natural expression. Taking the risk of putting yourself out there is a huge step forward to breaking down those false beliefs.

  11. Viewing writing as something we can do for humanity completely takes the self out of what we can do. Getting ourselves out of the way – great for many things in life….

  12. Writing, like all modes of expression is a responsibility and something to be embraced rather than feared.

  13. I have found that since I have become more self loving and living my life in a more responsible way than I did previously, that my written expression is more flowing and that I am starting to enjoy connecting to the true meaning of words.

  14. When we write and publish, on the WEB it becomes like cave paintings and dinosaur footprints, they are out there forever. It is always the author’s responsibility for what is submitted and the energy it was written. Every time we hit the send button, it sends out a ripple on the pond that cannot be recalled!

  15. I don’t always find it easy to ‘get across’ what I am feeling inside me to where another can understand me, but the more I am with myself, the more ‘comes across’.

  16. Writing (and publishing it) is making a statement that exists on its own, a creation we are responsible for. It is actually the same with words or even thoughts but the moment it is manifested in matter we are much more aware of the responsibility and that we can and will be held accountable for it.

  17. The reasons you give for not contributing to something by writing about it from a place of true connection are all things I can relate to. However once I overcame this inertia I had to not write and just made a start, I found that it not only supported others, as I do have something worth expressing through writing, but that it has also supported me to be more expressive about how I feel about things in so many other aspects of my life. And so even more people can beneift from what I have to say. It has highligted the responsibility I have to be consistant with my own expression.

  18. Why make a fuss about writing? Why make a fuss about life? It’s not difficult, and the quality we align to takes care of the rest. All that we need to do is choose it.

  19. “When I take this broader view and value writing as something that offers opportunity for both self-development and a form of service for humanity, I can feel the shifting of a self-imposed load off my shoulders that allows a spacious lightness and flow to enter.” This shows how we can support ourselves by making it about the bigger picture instead of making it totally about us and our problems we have to solve. Most of the time the making it about ourselves only, is actually the source of the problems anyway. Opening ourselves up again is then a natural part of healing.

  20. “Yet, if the writing scope is broadened from me in my individual self-protection mode to considering how my behaviour impacts on others, this avoidance seems indulgent, selfish and childish.”

    I feel that you could take out the word writing and insert almost any type of behaviour and I think the results would be the same.

  21. A wonderful sharing on writing and expressing ourselves that offers so much love and understanding that it really makes one want to write and share all that we feel to express with true responsibility and purpose and is very inspiring.

  22. The ‘helicopter view’ is our willingness to see life beyond the end of our own noses; to be open to understanding all of our inter-connectedness and the big plan that life on earth offers.

  23. When things get difficult it is always wise to take a few steps back and look at the bigger picture. This brings understanding and acceptance and a greater capacity for love.

  24. I have also felt incredibly inspired, touched and supported by all the insightful pieces of writing on this blog site and other similar ones. So many times I have read something that approached the subject from a different angle that I had not considered before which means that my own understanding has deepened and grown. This is how we can support each other in humanity.

  25. ‘it’s up to us all to play our part in creating the type of world we would like to live in’ yes indeed we can choose to live the future now and be role models for our children and our fellow human beings.

  26. Just as with writing it is with speaking up and expressing whatever we feel needs to be expressed for us and everyone involved to have received the full package of what everyone needs to receive by one´s expression. We know it when we do or don’t do it, the body always shows us.

  27. I too appreciate and am inspired by those who write from their heart. There is no doubt it is having a knock-on-effect supporting me to write, share and also express in other ways too.

  28. Writing is a joy like breathing, it cannot be separated from Life as it is a part of life like everything else. Compartmentalizating writing as something special is going to cause a lot of problems in life thinking it’s more or less important than other things. But Truth is Life is Life, it is only one experience.

  29. When we stay silent we allow that gap to be filled with another’s interpretation of what we think and who we are. We are always expressing, even when we’re silent and holding back- that is still communicating a message.

  30. I have re-read items I have expressed in writing in the past and found many that were profound. I feel it is because I did not have any ownership of what came out of my fingers.

    1. I love those moments when it is glaringly obvious that what I have written or said is not of my doing or ownership; that free of a need or attachment to self-identification, we can express so much more than we are.

  31. The written word can be very challenging no different to a photo: one cannot pretend it was not what they meant to say or do – there it is in ‘black and in white’, the truth for all to see.

  32. Yes, writing in connection is a healing all around. It also allows us to grow and even learn from what comes through us as we never own it.

  33. We are born to express… whether that be by movement, by word or thoughts written – however, what is key is the quality of that expression and we need to know the importance of this from very young.

  34. I have not been a prolific writer knowing every one of the excuses listed here so well. Being a frequent visitor of blog sites such as this one, I also know what a gift and blessing it is to read what someone has written from their heart, and what a joy comes through. This means that instead of making a big deal of those reasons that stop me from writing, I could just connect more deeply to my heart and letting the love flow.

  35. I feel that many people including myself may have baggage around being made to do things, made to do your homework and so on, which is related to an aspect of ‘self’ wanting “me time” and so forth. There are many things that I do, like my work, that I really love anyway and feel very expanding, but there are other things where due to old hurts I suppose I don’t feel as naturally willing, and I guess writing is one of them. Good to discuss this.

    1. Yes and when we express from our truth and it rings true with another no level of academic structure or rules can compare!

  36. Helen, I can relate to many of these excuses for not writing, the lack of time being a common one. When in fact if we are writing from our hearts and not our heads then this can be really quick and not take long at all. I can feel how by not writing we are saying that what we have to share is not as important or helpful for people as other writers, when in truth we all have something to share that can support another.

  37. “Why Make a Fuss about Writing?” – and why make a fuss about ourselves too … since our writing and ‘making a fuss’ of it is equally making a fuss of our expression and thus who we are; therefore everything to “fuss over”.

  38. Thank you Helen for highlighting how important it is for us all to express – and knowing that this is indeed something to develop gradually!

  39. Expressing myself allows me the space to feel things in my body and actually learn and grow rather than sit and wallow.

  40. Whenever we justify ourselves with excuses we are making it all about us. This keeps us stuck in a pattern that leaves us feeling helpless and given up. When we connect to the responsibility we have to express all of who we are we realise that our choices have an impact on everyone.

  41. The old excuse of getting red marks and crosses all over our school books in primary school has curbed our expression in writing may have been true, but for most, that was a long time ago. It is so easy to let that go, and allow what we know needs to come through to express in full.

  42. So could it be that the old saying, ‘silence is golden’ has little true value as true expression shows caring, respect-full and Loving ways of sharing so much that is needed to be shared within a society that has no true concept about Love in expression?

    1. It is interesting, but out of date that; writing is silver and silence is golden. To not express and staying silent was a discretion for whom? Perhaps someone that would become uncomfortable? How can the truth ever not be evolutional?

      1. This is great Steve, and may I add to the conversation by sharing is it possible that ‘the pen is mightier than the sword’? Which I feel is “True” then blowing your-self up would fly out the window and become a relic of the past!

  43. The defeated sound of silence is what we have accepted as being normal, not putting our head above the rest of the people and for it to be looking different. Not all, over history there have been a few that have stood for the truth. Having these blogs by students who are sharing another way is what is super inspiring.

  44. I was, or still am a bit if I’m honest a bit concerned with my lack of higher education when it came to writing but I know that is totally an idea and belief situation because if it comes out on paper from the heart it can’t be wrong, even if the grammar is.

    1. How long and how many people hold back on writing what we feel just because we don’t like all the rules. Is it not the same telling some past Olympian runners from Africa they could not run fast barefoot? There is a lot of expression with all of us; we just need to let it run.

  45. If we settle for the status quo of what we are expressing we actually are settling for less. This is because we are forever able to deepen the connection with who we truly are and it can be felt energetically as everything is energy and because of energy.

  46. ‘When I stop and look back at what I have written here, it’s glaringly obvious that all my excuses are imbued with a desire to maintain the current status quo where written expression is concerned.’ – Your own expose here is simply gold – I can feel how this stirs up my own protection and head in the sand tactics when it comes to writing.

  47. Our expression is so important whether it be written or spoken. We all have something to say that is of great benefit to others. We may never see the results of what we say or write, but that is what makes it so important because then there is no investment in any particular result or being recognised for what we say. Our expression also supports others in their expression too.

  48. A great understanding of what is going on and what the world dictates as to our expression and the written word. Learning to express fully what we feel in our own expression is very empowering and supportive and something to learn to appreciate and love for ourselves.

  49. Our resistance to doing something takes so much effort, and when we eventually begin, that all drops away and whatever is needed flows effortlessly… when we allow our minds to rule we exhaust ourselves; allow our bodies to move by impulse and life flows with vitality.

    1. And in our resistance we are blocking and or fighting everything we are being offered to get the task done.

  50. By making a fuss about anything we have reason to keep us from doing, expressing or living from what actually is naturally there for us to activate and thus refrain from the responsibility of contributing to the all.

  51. “The way I walk, talk, my level of openness and genuineness etc. all affect the quality of my relationships with myself and others. It can be a very warm, loving experience… or the opposite.” Yes, the most important factor in our life, how loving we allow ourselves to be in every moment. When we allow for this that is where the magic starts with no end.

  52. Is writing like the liquid that we fill our fountain pen with? Is it clear spring water or muddy pond water laden with all kinds of nasty bugs. What are we truly expressing?

  53. We have been indoctrinated into a world of ‘average, better and best’, a league of rating and competition over how we express. This whole way of measuring is horribly wrong. Each of us has access to great beauty – however it comes out. We don’t need to be Shakespeare to have something wise to say.

  54. When being honest we realize that we have a responsibility to express what serves everyone equally as by withholding the expression everyone is left less. That gives some perspective to our ‘issues’ of not expressing.

  55. When we express ourselves honestly we open ourselves up to the world and let the world really see us for who we are. Unfortunately we learn from very young that when we do this we often get rejected, so it is very healing and empowering to claim back our expression as adults and to honour who we are and how we feel without the need for approval or recognition from others.

  56. “…collectively the standards accepted by the majority become the norm” – this makes so obvious that we have to contribute the qualities to societal life that we want to be the norm by living, practising and thus setting the standards that are truly serving everyone equally to bring out the best in us, in other words, to evolve back to the divineness we innately are but have not yet activated.

  57. An internal voice can still criticise me with my expression, so there is always more learning to be had and an appreciation of how we are changing our patterns. It is really important that we express what we are feeling, for communication in relationships, for being open and intimate, for stating truth when it needs to be said. I have learnt so much from other people’s expression, and it feels like it is time for us all to write more for all to read.

  58. Before we attend school, we have found our voice, which allows us to express everything. Then school requirements and standards require end products. Is it not dissimilar to the production of force-feeding the goose to create foie gras? Do too many rules kill our expression at a young age?

    1. A great point Steve – we start out with something natural and end up with something manipulated and formed to fit into a box.

  59. We make a fuss about writing because we are caught in self identification and recognition. This cripples us from expressing from who we truly are.

  60. Thank you Helen for a great article, I too feel the same as you, reading the articles here has been so inspiring and expansive for me, we all have wisdom from our individual experiences to share and when we do the world is indeed blessed.

  61. When we grow up with judgment not only of ourselves but of others, it’s easy to see how this stunts us. We hold back in the fear that others will think us stupid, uneducated, foolish or what we have written is not perfect – there are so many so-called valid reasons. In the end, everyone loses out due to this holding back of expression.

  62. When I read blogs that are from people of all walks of life, sharing openly their experience of how their lives have changed with the inspiration of Serge Benhayon it is just another confirmation of what is on offer. The teachings of the Ageless Wisdom and how practical yet multidimensional they are simple nails it every time.

  63. It is crazy to keep on as I have most of my life (and I am sure many lives) waiting for a sign that people are ready to hear and accept what I have to say before I say it. Because that ensures that there is nothing put forward to inspire a change maybe not in this moment, but sometime in the future. What a self-created stale-mate I have been realising.

    1. Golnaz, I know its so much better just to say how we feel. For me this has been a gradual process of building more trust in myself until the point that I feel solid in myself and have now started sharing and expressing what feels true in that moment. What I realise is if I am being true to me then what I say is never too much.

  64. Thank you Matilda for the understanding shared of our education system and each other in crushing our writing and natural expression and also for the knowing that we can change this and free ourselves to be and express naturally all we are and feel for humanity and to make a difference that is so much needed.

  65. I had lived with trepidation for years, with just the thought of expressing in any form of writing. Six years ago the students of the Way of the Livingness started a collection of blog sites to communicate to the world our thoughts and how we have chosen to live our lives. I felt the pull to express and put my words in writing when it was announced that they were going to set up these sites and needed blogs. I put fingers to keyboard and submitted something that is now in the new Library of Alexandria the WEB.

  66. ‘When I take this broader view and value writing as something that offers opportunity for both self-development and a form of service for humanity, I can feel the shifting of a self-imposed load off my shoulders that allows a spacious lightness and flow to enter.’ This expansion of awareness has such a huge impact on our lives, changing forever how we communicate.

    1. I agree that having an intention to write to support other people to have greater awareness or something deeper to consider makes a huge difference to how writing is normally done. Generally, I would say that writing is about getting your emotions and feelings out, which is effectively adding to the state of emotions and issues in society. Writing needs to be free of this, if it is to offer a hand up out of the mud we are in.

  67. So often we use the ‘I’ll do it later’ excuse, which avoids the science that there is a perfectly designed moment to complete things, initiate or start up a new project in. Fighting what’s on offer in each moment in our day is fighting our worth and maximum potential to be an agent of change.

  68. It seems crazy that we should be scared of expressing at all. In an ideal world we would be able to express how we are feeling without the fear of being attacked or judged. This just highlights how much work we have to do in terms of accepting and understanding others and allowing our differences. We have a long way to go if we want true harmony.

    1. I do agree, Rebecca. What I have experienced is that if someone does not like what is being said, they can use education to attack and concentrate on the words spoken or written to debase a person. It seems like the strict rules we have on grammar and constructing a sentence can be too complicated and can be used to squash our expression, if we allow it, that is.

  69. I understand why people do make a fuss about writing; when it comes to writing our education system incrementally steals away the joy and confidence we naturally have to express. It is very inspiring to realise, from this blog and comments, that we can throw this caution and fear back to the wind and go for it. Thank you.

    1. Thank you Matilda for addressing this simple truth, our eduction system indeed does not support the joy of expressing ourselves but full frontally crushes it. But this does not mean we cannot go back to the joy and ease we used to express that we knew as children and which was absolute and natural to us. Nothing is ever lost and all can be reawakened.

      1. “Nothing is ever lost and all can be reawakened.” Wise words Esther… our Soul is always calling us back to our innate joy, to the love and truth we knew within us as children, that is equally within us as adults and waiting for us to reconnect to.

    2. Lovely to hear the way you say that Matilda, as I was definitely one of the crushed ones. To cast the caution and fear to the wind and go for it – sounds great.

    3. ‘that we can throw this caution and fear back to the wind and go for it’ Thank you Matilda, very supportive to read your comment today. I have been all wrapped up in a belief about writing stemming from my school days, which very recently I have let go of and now feel inspired to write.

  70. When we are connected to our inner essence and write it is so healing for another to read because it shows us that we are all the same in essence.

      1. Yes, when we are all connected to our essence everyone gets a healing, and when we are disconnected we are all harmed.

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