525 thoughts on “Blowing in the Wind”

1. No more fitting in, only saying yes to love, that we innately are, ‘we individually choose to not accept self-abuse and to stop being so accommodating with others, no longer ‘blowing in the wind’ but calling out anything we can feel in our bodies that is not love.’

2. Being a Student of Silence is sometimes necessary as we learn to deepen our relationship with our Souls and understand and eliminate the incessant noise from our wayward spirit.

3. I like what you have shared about how we let ourselves ‘blow in the wind’, as it describes the way I too have not honoured what I truly feel, and accommodated others By going along with how things are, and not checked in to connect to what would be supportive for myself. And, on the larger scale, not calling out what is harmful in family, groups, or society, and just allowing it all to happen without any input.

4. True-Love / Non-imposing-Love is forever deepening and as we understand that the way to open our-selves to evolution is to also be transparent and thus accept all the abuse we have also dealt out so that evolving is undoing our own ill ways.

5. Calling out abuse against us or others around us, by speaking the truth may not be welcomed, but truth stands alone. It creates a moment of space, one of those that you could hear a pin drop moments. There is a pause for everyone to hear and feel the peal of truth as it rings in the silence.

6. “I had repeated the same old pattern and set myself up for another failed relationship… and all because I did not fully express who I was at any moment in time.” A great exposé of how we contribute to abuse in relationships by accommodating, making excuses for the person, and not our own addressing issues around speaking up. I can see this same pattern in my life, yet the potential is there to honour how I feel and give myself the space to speak honesty and share the truth, even if it’s after the situation.

   1. I was one of those people who accommodated others while raging inside at the injustice of doing so. I agree with you Melinda it becomes a habit that forms a pattern that gets repeated over and over. When we start to honour what we feel and express however painful this feels our bodies actually rejoice and come alive.

   2. And what we don’t heal comes round in a cycle so we have the opportunity to learn and heal it with the new scenario.

7. ‘Some of us tolerate abuse without question, sometimes without even realising it is abuse’ I would say many not some and I know I have added to this ill by being a bystander many times. It is truly time to see we are part of the all and that everything matters and everything affects everything. For the more people that do not accept any form of abuse the more reflection and holding this gives to others to also not accept this.

   1. Being and saying yes to love, and no to abuse starts with self.

8. When one person calls out the truth with authority, they have the power to change a nation. Imagine the power when many do so.

9. Maybe the boat is so overloaded and full of holes it would be better to sink it and start again?

   1. We are trying to make a corrupt system better. The foundation on which it stands is not love.

10. When ever our body is burning to hate anything that is less than love then we are on the path of evolution and deepening the innate Love that resides within.

11. We are so used to not rocking the boat and going with what the majority are doing, that it is a scary prospect to step out of line and be noticed for not agreeing to the lies and the illusion. Calling out the lies make us stronger and the lies weaker.

    1. Saying no to lies and corruption, exposing the rot is imperative, otherwise we are in fact colluding with this energy.

12. Love this Martin. I see young children making ‘inappropriate’ comments and their parent hush them. Indeed I’ve done this too. Yet the innocence and honesty of young ones is refreshing, because they haven’t yet learned how to ‘play the game.’ Seeing the world through the eyes of a child enables us to see the illusion most of us live in.

13. “I had repeated the same old pattern and set myself up for another failed relationship… and all because I did not fully express who I was at any moment in time.” I can relate to this too. Not expressing how I was feeling has caused issues in past relationships. This wasn’t something we did in my family growing up so coming to Universal Medicine and learning this was ok was a revelation to me!

14. This sentence is so true
    “We are being railroaded by systems that do not truly care for the people they are supposed to be supporting.”
    We have allowed these systems to be put in place because we have given our power away, it started with religion and it has been all downhill from there. Until we are prepared to take back responsibility for our own lives any change will be slow.

    1. There is a definite lack of true care in many institutions, and this is partly because many people do not understand what it means to truly care for themselves.

15. To actually take control and responsibility in life in a true sense appears to be a huge burden but yet can be and is one of the most freeing experiences – it is not freeing per se of responsibility (for we take more responsibility on), however, it is very freeing as we can drop the games, the lies, and the resentment of holding back which takes a huge toll on the body and the psyche.

    1. I agree Henrietta. It could feel burdensome – to take more self responsibility – but the freedom to just be yourself – no game-playing – is so liberating.

       1. When we reconnect to the essence that is inside of us and allow more of the beauty to be felt then responsibility becomes easier and easier until it is something that is just a natural part of who we are. Just as breathing is a natural part of who we are and what we do.

    2. When we begin to connect with true responsibility we can feel very uncomfortable with the choices we have made that weren’t in line with this and so quite often we find it easier to suppress this discomfort rather than look at it in the clear light of day without judgment.

16. Awesome expose Martin – a blog in its own right about rocking the boat and how it is a responsibility we all hold to rock the boat when indeed we have become blind to what does not work,

17. Through our honesty in expression in our day to day, we support in putting and end the vile and more extreme behaviours in the world for any in-expression of who we are, feeds the expression of who we are not.

18. Thank you Anonymous for your sharing. From a young age we learn to accommodate to others at the expense of ourselves and we are then praised for this and so called ‘loved’. And yet to be and express truly and freely as ourselves is the most liberating and healthy experince when it is done whist holding self as equal in importance and respect as any others. Not an easy thing to live in our current world that fosters and celebrates the accommodation at the expense of self.

    1. Accommodation at the expense of self is abuse, ‘Some of us tolerate abuse without question, sometimes without even realising it is abuse and then once we do it is sometimes too late because we have allowed resentment to build up.’

19. This is a great question to ask ourselves ‘How can we prevent more harm happening in the future on the micro as well as the macro scale?’ and as always it starts by looking at ourselves, how are we living, how are we speaking to or about others etc. Everything matters ✨

20. There’s something really humbling and supportive about noticing when we haven’t actually fully healed a way of being. There are many examples I know of this in myself where I’d turn around and ask, why is this happening again? I thought I’d healed this only to feel a deeper level of healing is required. Not being fixated on an end result, of reaching a pinnacle, but feeling throughout I’m 100% ok, that there’s nothing wrong with me and great, here’s another level whereby I can let go of what doesn’t belong and know who I am, makes life a joy and not an arduous task!

    1. Yes I find this too – a ‘here we go again’ feeling when an old hurt resurfaces. I’m now looking on it as an opportunity to go deeper and heal some more, knowing that things unfold in their own time.

21. ‘We are being railroaded by systems that do not truly care for the people they are supposed to be supporting.’
    I work in such systems and I see people trying to make the system work or give up caring or be in reaction. I do all three but I am starting to admit the system is caput. This means I no longer worry about it not working and I no longer react to it not delivering, I know it doesn’t. But I’m not left given up, I see what I can bring through to everyone I meet and this is empowering.

22. Knowing what is true and standing by it, is a great counter to being wishy washy and being swayed by what other people think.

    1. Yes we know what is true but what prevents us from claiming it? Whilst I recognise that standing for the truth is more than incredibly important, I need to bring understanding to those hurts that have been the foundation of the wishy washy. When I get honest and feel deeply what is going on for me I can nominate and clear the patterns that I have used to hold me back, making my knowing of the truth my claiming of it.

23. When we sit in the back seat of the car and abdicate responsibility for where we go in life and what we do, resentment builds about the constant compromising we are having to do. It is far easier to blame another, or be a victim of circumstance but far more empowering to take stock and consider the choices we are making in every moment. Time to take the driving seat perhaps?

    1. Such an awesome analogy. If I apply it to my life and how I feel it’s spot on. So there I am in the back seat of the car being driven places I do not want to go to! I’m either shouting turn around, or wrong way; or I’m ending up in places feeling sorry for myself or blaming and lamenting about having a hard or terrible life. The rut of emotions entailed with this range from frustration, bitterness, self fury for allowing this to happen, helplessness, giving up on myself and life, anger, hurt, sadness, regret, the list can continue.

       I love the analogy because I get to see so clearly all that happens when I hand over the driving to anything other than me driving from my inner knowing. (Examples are like trying to be more like someone else or even something like letting in energy so that I’m not feeling totally with it). Whatever place I find myself in if I have let go of the wheel I simply need to come back to myself.

       1. Exactly, we are the ones who let go of the wheel and then flail around not knowing how to get back! If we stop the drama we allow ourselves space to see that there is even a wheel to be taken and then clock that we are able to take the wheel again and drive. The point is, driving comes with responsibility and we seem to prefer to blame another rather than take the lead.

    2. This is great Lucy and I can certainly relate to the inner resentment and compromise. In my case blowing in the wind has been the outplay of a deep seated lack of self-worth that has had a pernicious hold over the choices I have been making today. I have dealt with many layers of this and they still keep coming! I will eventually hit the root of it, but taking the time and responsibility to be honest with each layer, to feel them and heal them I am building a foundation that in time will become much deeper – very much in the driving seat of the quality I consciously say yes to.

       1. Me too, there is a feeling of not being up for the job, or someone being better at it than me, but that is all coming from a lack of self-worth and in that space anything or anyone could be driving my car, in fact, I would just be grateful ‘something’ was taking the lead. Yet all the while the inner resentment at the compromises was building till there was an emotional breakdown of one kind or another. It is seemingly such a simple question to ask ourselves but offers great insight into how empowered we feel in our lives and how much responsibility we are prepared to take.

       2. There is a such a vast difference to feel within the body when we simply make the choice to claim our own natural authority. This feeling can be transitioned to in a nano second. I have learned that all this sense of feeling unworthy or not equal or not good enough is simply a game we play so as not to step into the responsibility we have to be who we are naturally.

    3. Yep and many a time do we sit in the back seat .. and if we do that then who or what is driving?

    4. Yes, for me, having pictures and expectations of what the other will do – has been the making of resentments. Taking back responsibility for our own part in things reduces the tendency to blame and then feel resentful. Far more empowering!

    5. What a great conversation and analogy with the car. It’s highlighted to me again that I’m the master of my ship, and every choice takes me somewhere and has a consequence.

24. Is it possible that we want to see only what we want to see and disregard the rest, we disregard the truth. Until it is so in our face that it cannot be ignored, even then we try to ignore it. I know I have done this so many times turning myself inside out in a vain attempt to keep the peace; only it builds up such resentment that looking back I wonder why on earth I put up with such self inflicted abuse. I feel having pictures or investments of how something should be is one of our greatest downfalls.

    1. I have experienced the same in my own life Mary, where I see I’m accepting abuse because I’m invested in a picture of how a relationship could be and what that could give me if it met the picture (all an illusion), when all I truly need is to be the love that I am and express the truth as I need to.

       1. Yes, being the love that we are, and expressing truth keeps it simple.

25. Yes if we say how we feel, stand for what is true, do not give our power away and love ourselves deeply then of course this will have a ripple affect on the world which is much needed.

26. There is just so much abuse in the world in one form or another that we must all start to call it out for what it is and stand up for truth, for if we don’t the consequences will be unfathomable.

    1. Yes, saying no to abuse is imperative, ‘By speaking up. By calling out wherever we feel there is abuse and by honouring what we feel in our bodies and expressing it regardless of the outcome.’

27. At the time, it’s not pleasant feeling my hurts but actually when I do I also feel the love we are all held in all of the time. A great understanding opens up of all parties involved and I can move more freely in life unweighted by protection from those hurts I’ve released. Love is then free to emanate.

28. I experienced many times how not having a relationship is a time of deepening with ourselves but does not per se mean that we have dealt with our issues in relationships. Therefore it is so great to be in all parts of life so we can see where we still can learn to be ourselves, whatever is going on around us without being controlling.

29. The small things we take for granted can be the most important. Why do we wear seat belts in a car, but to negate a huge impact!

30. Staying in connection to ourselves is the foundation of living life. That way we don’t get swayed but can stay rock solid with every choice and every action.

    1. Yes, and when we stay connected to ourselves we take responsibility for the choices we are making in every moment and therefore, the consequences. If you don’t know who you are and don’t live in a way that consciously chooses to stay in connection to your self, and don’t value taking a moment to consider if what you are about to do you really want to do, then you are more likely to be swayed to do things you may not have wanted to do in the first place.

       1. ‘Silently accepting everything for the sake of the relationship’ is something I vowed I’d never do. But I did it in other ways like if someone asked for help I couldn’t say no, or if I did I’d feel so ‘bad’ whilst also feeling resentful if I did help out. There was a huge sadness at neglecting myself for others.

          What I’m learning is to look after myself and support where it’s needed. It’s not always possible because I have abused myself in the pursuit of being validated as worthwhile and then I have to be loving with myself and say someone else can step in instead. With close relatives this is a work in progress.

       2. Good on you Karin for working with that. It is a little like an onion, a slow peel but be dedicated to offering yourself and therefore everyone else more of you because then you will build a body that can be there for others when it is needed.

31. That quote is so simple and so clear. I love it and the responsibility it offers/inspires.

32. Yes I agree and I know it the other way around too. When someone speaks up, it is often what I have been thinking and I really appreciate the opportunity for more openness, transparency and honesty.

33. Someone once shared with me that I could try being like a reed… super firmly rooted but able to flow in the stream. This supported me to relinquish control and deepen my relationship with truth (the roots).

34. In every moment we express how we feel we give ourselves permission to do so and the more we do it the easier it becomes regardless of the outcome. It is learning to appreciate our every step on the way.

35. I have come to the realisation that the only way we can leave our ‘old life’ behind is if we heal the hurts that bind us and keep us locked down. To me this requires a large dose of honesty to be able to admit that we have stuffed up and can forgive ourselves for the mistakes we have made. It reminds me of a toddler learning to walk, they fall down and then get back up and go again.

    1. I agree, when we heal the hurts we allow space for expansion within our body. We free ourselves of the cycle that once kept us bound from living the light that we are.

    2. Thank you Mary. I don’t think we can ever be told enough times to be honest about our mistakes without criticism… because then we can move on fresh.

    3. Forgiving ourselves for the mistakes we make, just as we would a toddler, ‘It reminds me of a toddler learning to walk, they fall down and then get back up and go again.’

36. ‘Evil continues because we say nothing. This has to stop if the world is going to change.’ Very true. I have been blowing in the wind much of my life. Speaking up is something that does scare me but then I am speaking up coming first from the honesty with myself that hey, something doesn’t feel ok and not ignoring this.

37. What has been shared here is huge and affects both men and women, as many of us have been brought up to be seen and not heard and that what we have to say holds no value what so ever. It is this lack of expression that leads to all the frustration of not being heard and so swallowing our words are just as bad having the conversation in our head instead. Learning to let go of all these ideals and beliefs that we have saturated ourselves in takes a bit of time; but so worth the effort in the end.

38. It’s supportive to say things that need to be said (that may be perceived as uncomfortable) in a loving, holding way. If expression is felt as a truth and an offered advance because the person is loved and cared about it can be received completely differently. The point is even if something is direct it doesn’t have to be aggressive or confrontational.

39. The more I repeat expressing how I feel the easier it becomes to say no to what squashes my expression.

    1. very cool .. and makes sense, for if we start to honour ourselves and express what we feel then why on earth would we suddenly not want to do this!! Expressing how we feel then becomes the normal. Of course there is a way to express how we feel as well i.e. respecting ourselves and the other/s and holding both in love to our best ability while doing so because as we know if we express in judgement, fear, anger, hate, jealousy this has a detrimental effect on our body and of course isn’t lovely for the other person to receive! 😶❤️

40. A beautiful analogy Gill. Feeling rooted, connected and steady regardless of what life – and the weather- throws at us – a great way to live.

41. “By speaking up. By calling out wherever we feel there is abuse and by honouring what we feel in our bodies and expressing it regardless of the outcome.” A great way to respond to abuse, whether its directed at ourselves or to others. By staying silent we are enabling.

    1. When we call out abuse we are saying that we are worth more but we are also giving ourselves permission to let go of it. When we don’t call it out it stays in the body and continues to hurt us.

    2. What supports abuse the most is the good people that never say anything and the cycle repeats like an old vinyl record that is stuck in a groove forever.

    3. Yes and this takes practice, just like walking, we get bumped into things and we may fall over but the willingness to value our own voice makes the learning process a solid foundation upon which we stand.

       1. Yes, I’m coming out of the straight jacket I once wore which said I had to please people so I wouldn’t get attacked. A foundation of love is far more powerful than any unplesant attention.

42. ” The world’s change begins with the self when we individually choose to not accept self-abuse ”
    This is true, to bring the world to its truth one must live the truth of their essence so others know their true essence.

43. Feet firmly on the ground, open to what comes along and ready because there is a relationship with a bigger purpose… what is not to love?

44. I love the flow I am letting into my life, hanging up my control and micro management grip, realising that this does not mean blowing around in the wind but actually that deeply anchored in what I feel and my body tells me is true, I can let things unfold ready for whatever is needed. Much to develop here.

    1. I love what you are sharing here. We are not being airy fairy or nebulous when we are truly living in the moment and listening to the body. Letting go of pictures and investment in outcomes certainly helps to appreciate the authenticity of what the body is communicating.

45. ‘When I went into a career, with every job I adapted to what I thought I needed to be at work as an employee, and as a manager.’ This is really interesting and makes me realise that so often we do not go into jobs honouring and expressing who we truly are and what we feel, but rather we often go into jobs and try to fit into how we think we need to be and try and please and gain acceptance.

    1. When we continue to look outside of us for recognition, being devoid of self worth and appreciation we will do much to get that recognition even if it means compromising who we are.

46. ‘We are being railroaded by systems that do not truly care for the people they are supposed to be supporting.’ I am learning not to react to systems that are so complicated that huge resources in time and money ploughed into them do not work. No solutions or overhauls work because, well we choose complication over simplicity. Such systems create frustration, anger and all sorts of emotions but I don’t have to play ball with this. Getting on my high horse only adds to the emotional soup that feeds complication. Rather I get an understanding so I can choose harmony and simplicity.

47. ‘By the time I got divorced I was miserable and hugely overweight, so I lived on my own for five years and worked on my Livingness, refining the food I ate and slowly the weight dropped off and I was back to my ‘normal’ slim self, thinking I had left my old life behind.’ it’s interesting and revealing how the food we eat reflects the way in which we are living so is really only a symptom.

48. We are a bit like salmon that begin life in a sheltered place, then we live our life exploring the seas of this planet and closing this cycle by returning to the place of our origin.

49. Blowing in the wind, that seemed normal to me for so many years, but it left me without a solid foundation, always trying to please others yet always failing to do so.
    Yesterday I stood firm on something, feeling within myself that it was the only thing to do, the only loving thing to do for myself and for the person concerned. I don’t know the outcome yet but the feeling I have within myself is expansive and solid and true. I know without doubt I have served both of us equally.

50. ‘Evil continues because we say nothing. This has to stop if the world is going to change.’ This is so true. I was inspired to say something when talking with a friend about a car wash I’d paid for that was just a really bad job. She mentioned standards. I could feel the disregard, them doing the bare minimum for the cost and so I went back and had a chat with the them. One chap, I could feel his fury, but the other was understanding. If I’d not said anything then the standards would be just what they could get away with. This might be a small example but it was big to not just accept and put it down to learning.

51. The more we fill-up with self love the less room there is for the old patterns of abuse to come in. When we deepen in this way the reflection we bring for others is beautiful.

    1. The more we are love, the less space there is for anything else.

52. Adapting is a great virtue to have, as different situations require different input, but if we alter the quality of that input, that’s when we drop the ball.

53. I guess something we need to heal and learn will always be presented to us until we are truly aware of it and can finally heal it, like how you have done with giving your power away to others. This is something I am aware of now in how my body is clearing and letting go of things that never were me but I have taken on as being me.

54. Have we have become ducks that water runs off their backs? Has this just become an automatic defence to keep everything out and to insulate ourselves from the world? Or, we can open our mouth and express.

55. Allowing our bodies to feel and thus understand the level of disregard we are living is the first step to allowing ourselves to become at-least gentle.

56. Covering up how we feel is a travesty for us and for those around us. It is a closure and block on our relationships with ourselves and others and is one of the seeds that leads us to living a false facade life. The more honest I can be the freer, clearer, simpler and more magical life is.

57. As a child and teenager I remember actively trying to accept the lack of love feeling like I was the one at fault for not being tough enough or strong enough to let it not affect me. We learn from young that life is tough and if you can’t handle it then we are the ones with the issue, not the other way round. I then spent the next 20 years building a wall of protection doing precisely what you are sharing Gill, pretending on the outside everything was ok when inside it was everything but that.

58. ‘Blowing in the wind’ is draining… trying to keep the status quo takes a lot of energy and takes its toll on the body, which I am learning to my cost. Not holding back and speaking one’s truth supports a level of vitality I had not appreciated before.

59. Yes all is felt and as such it nudges how we respond and behave in situations that may have no bearing on the original experience. Building and nurturing the relationship with our body gives us a consistent reflection of how we are feeling and then we can trust we are held by that support till we build tools to respond.

60. Well said and it actually doesn’t need to be dramatic or the end of a relationship. Speaking up honours everyone because it let’s people be themselves without our assumption they are going to react to what we have to say.

    1. We under estimate the power of speaking up when it is done from a place that is without reaction. The trust expressed, whilst it may be a challenge to hear sometimes, is a breath of fresh air that is deeply felt and most often appreciated.

    2. Yes, I’m discovering how much people love honesty and truth.

       1. Truth can be challenging for some people, but it is essential in the world.

61. I was the Great Adapter too Anonymous, in fact when I was clowning I thought about assuming a clown character called “Bendy”! I have this image of the long slim me bending one way then the other, never being able to hold myself in my centre place, agreeing with one person and then the next, such a pleaser was I. It was horrible and I hated myself. It is such a long history of many lives and all of this lifetime, but now at last I am coming to know myself and how I feel about life, the world, relationships, and our purpose here on earth. This brings a stability and makes my choices so much easier, and getting it right is fading away as my priority. The result is more vitality, confidence and Joy. It’s been a long journey but definitely worthwhile, this claiming of who I truly am.

62. ‘When I went into a career, with every job I adapted to what I thought I needed to be at work as an employee, and as a manager.’ realising that our work is to bring who we truly are in full to work and everything we do in life changes our perspective on life totally.

    1. Whatever our job is, it is an opportunity to deliver ourselves in full, open to learning and growing every step of the way.

63. The only thing with bending in the wind to suit others is that we lose the sense of who we are. Then that behaviour becomes ingrained in the way we live, and we believe it’s who we are. To lose ourselves in this way is not worth it because we go through life pretending to be something we are not; a lesser version of ourselves.

    1. Absolutely, the more we bend in the wind the more we lose who we truly are.

64. ‘no longer ‘blowing in the wind’ but calling out anything we can feel in our bodies that is not love.’ There is so much that constitutes choosing to being blown in the wind, from not saying no to gossip, from saying to ‘treats’ we know aren’t self-loving. Saying no to what’s not love and saying yes to love is where it’s at. It’s where the world gets an inspiring reflection and not more yuckiness added to it.

65. Yes any change we want to see in the world has to start with ourselves and our immediate ‘world’ or surroundings and the ripple effect of this is not to be under-estimated.

66. The more I honour myself and my own body the more refined my awareness becomes of abuse from others and the less I can put up with it.

67. I love how this confirms that the changes we seek in life need to be addressed internally first. Changing the scenery alone is not the answer to our woes, learning how to love all our selves is the only dependable way to lay new tracks.

68. “…bending this way and that, adapting to my environment, trying to establish a control over all my relationships so that I wouldn’t get hurt.” I can relate, it’s in the compromise of being our true selves and managing people a certain way so we can avoid hurts we’ve previously experienced. There is such a freedom instead in healing those hurts and allowing ourselves to live the fullness of who we are in the world without attachments or investments in others or life…. something I am learning at the moment.

69. Raising and setting new standards. Lets do it ✨ …. Universal Medicine already are ❤️

70. So important to understand that we always have a choice – to be taken by the wind of our own creation, or to stand steady in the knowing of who we are while all else around us is in chaos.

    1. Yes, standing steady knowing who we are. We are not taught form young that this is such an important knowing to hold on to. From that space we can discern anyone and also any situation.

71. If we stayed totally rigid we would break, it is our roots (heart) which must be well developed to support the flow of movement in life.

    1. We need to be a willow tree: tall and strong but not affected by the wind as it rages around us.

72. Holding a facade and pretending everything is fine is a game that is played very much by society. One only needs to go on social media such as Facebook and see how most people only post things that say everything is great. Those that are honest enough will post the ups and downs and use it as a platform to express what is really going on in their life – but these posts are more rare compared to the ones that want to paint a rosy picture.

73. Early on in life I learned to be a chameleon and to fit in wherever I was and with what was needed. I used to think this was really good, but now looking back it was a survival mechanism that I still fall back to easily. It is not the easiest thing to stand by who you are and hold yourself no matter where you go and who you encounter, but it is one of the most empowering things to do.

74. Going through life pretending everything is ok requires us to not only be untruthful to ourselves but also lying to those around us – since when is it considered a failure to find life difficult, especially as it hasn’t been designed to be easy. That sense of ease comes with being honest with ourselves and transparent to those around us.

    1. Absolutely Julie and in feeling that we can talk about this with others means it allows others to be honest and open about their own experiences of life and the reasons for them.

75. Are we just mimicking the animal kingdom when it comes to not being seen by being quiet and blending into the environment? But, we have a voice that is for us to express.

    1. A voice with a choice to use our will so we stand up to being at-least honest with what we feel and hold the decency, respect as we consider what we would like as a way of being treated.

76. We are always the cause of our own experiences – amazing what becomes possible when we start to live by this.

    1. Wise words Michael, we are the ones making the choices and hence we are the ones responsible for the outcome(s).

77. Being caught in the corruption and greed of the systems that disconnect us from our essences so we have little or no idea about who in Truth we are so when it comes to passing over we are caught in the usual confusion and conjecture around having a wake or a funeral. After being to a few celebration of life gatherings while people are still with us is a complete blessing for all concerned and sets a tone for the person to pass-over without any of the attachments and stigmas that go with churchy and spiritual new age type beliefs. As a reconnected Soul, life takes on a whole new approach and passing is looked forward to. As a Soul-full life brings a responsibility and purpose so we appreciate every aspect of life as well as passing-over so that we bring our lived wisdom to our next incarnation with no regrets.

78. Blogs like these should be studied in school, this is the kind of education we need.
    We need to know that many things we currently accept in society are abusive.

    It’s time to set the standard.

    1. Absolutely everyone can benefit from understanding what decency and respect is on so many different levels.

79. As we deepen our awareness of what is true and what is not, it becomes easier to steer clear of situations we might otherwise be drawn to. This is not avoiding life but walking lightly in it, being super aware, and honest in our expression.

    1. So true Kehinde, and adding to what you have shared that our movements and the way we walk holds the Truth of our divine expression.

80. ‘I tried to be ‘good’ and not upset any of the teachers.’ I can relate to this… I tried to be good to my family, friends and everyone I met as I hated the possibility of upsetting anyone and getting the ‘comeback’, but in doing so I was actually repressing myself and squashing myself into a box.

    1. Yes – the true Rachel disappeared. There was no strength there just a bundle of insecurity and an identification with lack of confidence and inability. Wen we fail to support ourselves and our kids to understand and be aware of our innate essence we set ourselves up for reaction or passiveness but never truth.

81. Living a life of appeasement fuels the lies, abuse and corruption.

    1. Where appreciation could be likened to be the fuel of the Soul!

82. The carnage that is left when we do not speak up and live true to ourselves, honouring our qualities, is evidence enough to inspire change, yes?

83. ‘Evil continues because we say nothing.’ This is so true, our world is rife with evil because of our silence and lack of true expression.

84. Changing ourselves to fit in or to be accepted never works in the end because what we are trying to fit into in the first place is only an ideal or belief of what we should be.

85. “We have been so conditioned throughout the centuries by abuse, torture and death that somewhere deeply embedded in our psyche is the belief that speaking out is dangerous to our survival so we clam up” I would say this is why we in England are currently going through Brexit as many people have not spoken out.

    1. And, when many speak, they contribute little except to add to the din.

86. I never really cottoned on to the damage I was doing to myself and others by being a people pleaser. Not standing firm with what felt true made me flaky and didn’t support others to feel their choices also. To trust myself now and make choices for myself not based on what others think is liberating.

    1. Rachel, as your sister, having watched your journey from flakey to the utter powerhouse you really are has been incredibly inspiring. Standing firm in what feels true for us can indeed be very confronting for others who would like us to pander to their hurts. In the pandering we offer nothing to them but a compromise of our selves that damages our sense of who we are and our self worth.

       1. Equally, standing firm in what feels true for us can also be inspiring for others as it gives them permission to back themselves too and ‘not blow in the wind’ any more. I was deeply inspired by seeing those who live their truth and wanted to do the same… it’s still a work in progress, but I have come a long, long way. Definitely something to appreciate. Thanks, Michelle.

       2. So great to claim – yes we have the power to inspire others just as we have been inspired. The only difference between those who are inspired and those who are not is simply how ready we are. Ultimately we are all headed in the same direction, it is only a matter of when we choose to get there because we all most certainly will.

87. Being blown away from our stuck-ness as we get close to passing-over and having a remembrance celebration of a persons life, while they are still with us is absolutely setting a True foundation for them to come back to in there next incarnation. As we re-learn to appreciate a person and what they bring in each incarnation as a celebration of life and not being focused on dying and the death process then this is creating the space for them to pass-over in the most Loving way possible for them.

88. It also feels there could be a certain amount of healthy surrender blowing in the wind however this is from a point of knowing and honouring who you are first, in our expressions and movements.

89. One day I was walking down the street and realised that all of the relationships i had been in to date were purely based on the fact that the other person liked me. I got a sense of acknowledgement and worth in having a partner, I could relate to other women and talk about our boyfriends, I always had somebody to text about my day, or call to have a chat without it being weird. Although, I have had some very beautiful relationships with men, I can see the falsity and just how much I had put my partners on a pedestal, two, three steps above me. So, we as women want equality and to be treated as equals, yet it is a common trait that we put men above us, we treat them like kings and hold ourselves as their servants, so when they respond to what we offer, we blame them, point the finger and accuse them for being arrogant, ignorant and all else. But the truth is, we set the standards, we allow ourselves to be treated this way and therefore it is our perceptions and behaviours that need to change before we can expect this to happen in any man.

90. Often what we are fearful of happening if we speak up does not happen if we speak from our heart and truthfully or if it does it is nowhere near as severe as we imagine.

    1. Speak from ideals from the head and it can fall on deaf ears, but when we speak with a genuineness you can’t but help but be engaged by it. Even if it is something the other person doesn’t want to hear, it can still give them pause for consideration in the face of any reaction they may have which they can always come back to.

    2. Brilliant Michael, when we express from a true intention fuelled with love, then there is not any hint of fear at all. The fear we allow into our thoughts is a way to avoid expressing love. I find there is no consequence more hurtful and harmful than us stopping ourselves from expressing love.

    3. When we speak truth without investment it is heard. It is the energy of the emotional investment that triggers the reaction, not the truth.

91. It’s interesting to observe in myself that I don’t need other people’s views or opinions to blow me off course, just having a busy day in the office can do that. Steadily though I am learning how to come back to feeling which job takes priority and reminding myself I don’t have to do everything all in one day, tactics which all help to keep a steady hand on the tiller.

    1. Yes – very easy to blow ourselves off course with all the beliefs and ideals about how we want our day to pan out. If we are very busy we can often put our tasks ahead of the quality in our bodies and say I’ll take a moment later, which in such cases is often when we get to bed time! Whilst it is much easier to say than do, remaining with our bodies and clocking our connection can be in short moments throughout the day that support with this steadiness along with an ability to call the day complete even if there are tasks outstanding (I am still working on this one).

92. This very much exposes how we need to deal with our issues before moving on to whatever is next, otherwise the same issues come with us and arise in the next situation. Once we truly heal an issue it no longer follows us.

93. We learn that it is ok or even natural to be taken by life where it is taking us to, but we have all experienced how that feels and that it is not a very steady way of living. To live by our inner truth and make that our daily marker brings a steadiness that has us stand tall in a world where chaos and disharmony reigns and this then will become a marker for all; that there is another way to live in this world, a way of living that has true love and deep care at its anchor and core.

94. When we claim our truth and that truth is the truth, I find that I am far less rigid, far more open and part of society as a whole. It’s the difference that I feel each and every day that counts so much.

95. There are many things in life that generate the wind that blows us off track. Emotions, drama, holding up pictures which we then try and calibrate to, beliefs that we take on unquestionably, which in turn get us acting and thinking in a way which is not true, food and drink choices, entertainment, zoning out with technology, sport etc. But what all of these things have in common is that they disrupt and interfere with our connection to our bodies. It is our connection to our bodies that supports us to steer a steady course through whatever life presents us with.

96. I used to put up with things and then, when the resentment and hurt got so much, I exploded. It’s like I was afraid of being rejected or judged for saying anything and then, when I did explode, the relationship suffered. Both ways I avoided intimacy. I didn’t give the person a chance to feel who I was or care for me.

    1. This is such an honest revelation and one that we can all learn from. I can relate to the lack of worth that means we are afraid to express honestly what we feel and that we settle for compromises consistently that don’t feel true. I used to convince myself, perhaps not in so many words, that what I settled for was what I deserved. Yes, that explosion too is the fall out of not expressing in the moment. Over time I have realised that my increasing foundation of self worth has supported me to express much more honestly in the moment which has resulted in a much more seamless and even life.

       1. When we express what is there to be expressed at the time, we can freely move on. Holding on to something by not expressing leaves us in that energy until it is expressed creating a great deal of tension along the way.

    2. This is an important aspect you address here, that when we do not express we do not allow another to see who we truly are, what is going on, and thus shutting them and the world out. We do not allow for the natural care that lives within us to be there and in expression.

97. “The world’s change begins with the self when we individually choose to not accept self-abuse and to stop being so accommodating with others…” Learning to say no – to ourselves and to others – a sea change in how to live a life of quality.

    1. Learning to say no I think is one of the most self loving things we can do. Not getting caught up in sympathy and not compromising ourselves to please, we can support ourselves far more than we know. When we are strong we actually support others so much more and in ways that are much more true.

98. It took me a long time, and much introspection, to see that for most of my life, especially in relationships, I had accepted “abuse without question, sometimes without even realising it is abuse”. I could give myself a hard time for not recognising what was actually abuse, but I can see that I simply accepted certain behaviours from others as normal. But it was not until I began to bring an honest look at the often abusive way I had been treating myself, that the truth of what abuse truly was, was exposed, and in the process I was continually amazed as how much abuse there had been in my life.

99. What is very evident to me is that every time I do bend with the wind I usually end up regretting it. So important to honour what we feel and learn how to express that with love.

    1. Yes and it’s the expressing with love bit that’s so important too. If we express in a hard and unloving manner it can set up reactions all round. Honouring what we feel is so important.

100. ‘When I was married I tried to get it right at home as a wife, with friends as a friend and then with the children as a mother.’ so many ways in which we seek to get it right based on things which we believe or think are the ideal ways to be so much to our own cost.

     1. Our pictures – ideals and beliefs – sell us so short of the beauty and glory we innately all are.

101. Yesterday, I had a goldfish day where my mind was blowing in the wind, feeling into why I concluded that the body was telling me to slow down and except a bit of repose into my life.

102. The pretence we live in is an outward sign of the pride which holds us from accepting we are making choices which are all contributing to the circumstances we wish to change.

103. How common is it for us to pretend that everything is OK when it is not, and to just soldier on and bottle things up? I am certainly familiar with this and used to do it all the time. Now thankfully I have learned that this does not serve me at all. And so once again, though it still happens to me to bottle things up, I have learned to express things – either speak to another about what I am feeling, write in a journal or in some way move or walk with myself in a way that allows me to feel what I am feeling and do what is needed in order to acknowledge any hurts or issues and hold myself lovingly around this.

104. I too have allowed myself to be ‘swept around’ by things around me, not really holding myself steady in life. But once we realise how we have been living and learn to be flexible and maleable in and with the wind and yet hold our steadiness then life begins to take on a different experience. It is easy to be affected by the things around us, to let ourselves be swayed by what we hear and see around us especially IF we do not hold a steady connection and anchor deep within. And this is a life long work in progress that we are all here to learn and deepen.

     1. I have found that letting go of my hurts, especially the deep rooted ones have really supported me to build that foundation of connection and settlement. The more i have let go the more I have been supported by my body in this steadiness. It really is incredible that you don’t have to try. The more clear the body is the less emotional and the more steady you become.

105. ‘Blowing in the wind’ is a great analogy for the chaos we as a humanity create every day – what if we were to breathe our own breath and bring stillness to our everyday, how different the world would be then.

106. By wanting to be accepted and ultimately to get recognition I have – and sometimes still do – let things pass or play nice. And if you’re like me you know deep down it doesn’t feel right. Like you’re sacrificing how you really feel for the sake of being ‘safe’.

     1. I know this one too Nick. Learning to express how I feel – with clarity – so there’s no ‘fudge.’

107. It has taken a long time for me to start to realise just how abusive it is, and not just to myself, but also to others, when I keep bending to please others (which I tell myself is to make it easy on the other person, but really it is an attempt to make it easy on myself and deeply manipulating). The truth is that by choosing to not offer my full expression I am cheating everyone – myself as well as others. Even if the person does not like what I reflect and reacts, they still deserve the best that I have access to.

108. Oh my I can so relate, I have been blowing in the wind in many situations in my life, especially growing up, I was very flexible to the needs of other – forgetting myself in all of it.
     Not now though, now a days I am a lot more knowing of myself and have the confidence to stand strong in what is true for me.

109. “… there comes a time when we consider why it is that we bend and blow in the wind for everyone else…” so true Gill – there always seems to be a time in everyones lives when we re-set, and its usually triggered by our bodies bringing us to a stop eg exhaustion, or a major event occurs (to us or to another) that makes us re-assess our lives.

110. When we have a solid foundation of knowing who we truly are, then we can hold ourselves steady, no matter what force is coming at us.

     1. Spot on Paula, and just because we might be on occasion swayed or even knocked off this foundation, does not mean we cannot climb back on again, and each experience offers us an opportunity to learn more about ourselves and any potential areas of growth (which really is an endless experience).

111. The power of expressing how we feel is not to be underestimated for in this we get to know our self and can begin to explore and unfold more of who we are and let go of who we are not.

     1. There are children today that are being raised to embrace what we are all born with and have no fear or trepidation of expressing what lies within which is the truth and love.

112. We need to be told as kids its okay to say no.

     1. True Michael, speaking up starts in our homes when we are young, and builds the foundation for the rest of our lives.

     2. I agree Michael and having had a strict upbringing from ‘the children should be seen and not heard’ era it took me years to learn how to speak up, and even now I have to watch I don’t slip back into old patterns. Encouraging children to have a voice and ask their opinions on things goes a long way to having mature and confident adults.

113. Until we know who we truly are, and stand solidly in that knowing, we will always be swayed by whatever wind is passing by.

114. We learn to conform, adapt and fit in, which in itself is maybe not a bad thing, but we have created a world where we live by pictures and beliefs and that what is innately ours is not honoured nor lived. To return to our natural way of living we have to tune in with ourselves, every single one of us, and live by the deepest truth we know, which then can be deepened with every step more.

115. It is astonishing and very interesting what we put up with or accept for the sake of keeping a relationship functioning or what we believe to be intact. But what is the quality of the relationship if we tolerate abuse from others so that they don’t leave us or get angry or stop talking to us etc? And what is the real effect on our physical and emotional health when we compromise in this way?

     1. It is absolutely astonishing Andrew, but it is exactly what I did. I grew up with the reflection from those around me, continually saying that to keep a relationship going you had to compromise; so compromise I did, for way too long. And I can say without doubt, that my health, on all levels, suffered immensely.

116. Until we realise we are already everything without any aspect of life outside of us we will always be seeking to fill an emptiness that we feel.

117. ‘…and all because I did not fully express who I was at any moment in time.’ such a huge lesson in learning of what manifests when we live less than all of ourselves according to our awareness.

118. We set ourselves up when we make our lives about being good, looking for approval or recognition and believing we are the labels placed on us. Our body communicates what is going on and we have the choice to listen or reject its offerings. It is simple when we stop and know we are already enough and if we choose to live the love we already are then everyone and everything benefits.

119. Part of feeling able to sleep well at night is when I feel my day is complete – and this really only comes about when I feel that I have expressed what was needed in the day. Of course this is a work in progress of learning what and how much to express and in what way, but essentially if there is something that remains un-expressed or in-complete as I call it, even just nominating this fact, helps to complete it till such time that I can address the situation at hand again and give this another go. This is all a means of being able to support the microcosm in its expression so that then we can bring more harmony to the macrocosm and its expression.

120. “The world’s change begins with the self” – this is a key sentence that reveals that for any true change, we must first be open and willing to allow that change from within. But there is more to this than just allowing change for it is not just about any kind of change – it is about a connection to our deepest essence that than allows the rest to unfold in its natural way, not ever in a way that is unnatural or requiring masses of effort. For it is all about the source of energy that determines whether the change is true and lasting or not.

121. This is so true, Gill. The shallower the roots the less we engage with life in case we get blown over; the deeper the roots the more solid the steadiness and stillness within which supports us blossoming and branching out in all directions.

122. Why do we have to be drowning before we ask for help?

     1. A great question Steve. Why do we wait so long before we ask for help? We make life hard but it need not be that way. We are not alone here, we are many, many to help and work together with.

        1. Our pride runs very deep, does’t it? It doesn’t make sense that we would wait for the end game before becoming humble, but sometimes it is only disaster than can get us over the hurdle of deeply seated pride.

     2. A great question to ask Steve … why do we leave things until we are desperate when there are so many others constantly around us to ask for support – we are never alone unless we believe we are. And why not make changes when things start to go pear-shaped rather than when they have become a squashed pear?!

     3. …and when true help is right in front of us, why do we not recognise it? what are we still wanting?

123. Thank you Anonymous, I could have kept reading. I have recently realised how much self abuse and self neglect I live in, still anchored by the belief that doing for others feels good, but not for myself. I can see how the feeling good by helping another is really just a temporary relief from not living in a self loving way (ironic, isn’t it?). The truth is my doing for others doesn’t come with the quality of love because I’m not living love first for myself in my foundation.

     1. The less that love was my foundation the more I was compelled to do for others but as love becomes more and more of a foundation for me the more that I can feel that I am doing for others by simply being myself.

124. Indeed Ariana … a new year and a new way of being in the world, breathing our own breath and holding steady in the truth of who we innately are.

125. We are at the mercy of life when we allow it to control our lives. When we hold ourselves steady in the knowing of who we are we have a solid foundation to go out into the world, be a part of it but not affected by it.

     1. Yes this is what I would call living from the inside out, rather than from the outside in and makes a massive difference to health and wellbeing.

126. ‘I had repeated the same old pattern and set myself up for another failed relationship… and all because I did not fully express who I was at any moment in time.’ – it’s amazing how relentlessly we can repeat the same pattern over and over again, we would rather abuse our selves in this way than re-connect and trust in the truth of who we are. Instead we trick ourselves into ‘thinking’ that this is protection, we’re saving ourselves from being hurt again, but the opposite is true, we are deeply hurting ourselves, more than we can ever imagine. The only way out of this abusive cycle is love – to deepen our love for our selves, express our truth trusting in our own amazingness and accept others as they are, holding them deeply in our love.

127. ‘ Evil continues because we say nothing. This has to stop if the world is going to change.’ We have allowed ourselves to be caught in a vicious cycle of thinking we’ve let the world get out of harmony too far and cannot stop it for fear of repercussions to ourselves and our families so we say nothing and the state of the world becomes increasingly abusive. But, at some point, we have to make a stand. Saying nothing incurs such evil that saying something is preferrable. What if saying something is always preferable? We won’t then be living with the painful knowing we are enabling evil to reign, and engaging in the abusive ways of trying to rub this awareness out of our awareness

128. “… but I laughed it off and pretended I was having a great time.” What a massive disservice we do our selves and one another when we hide the struggle and pain we are experiencing, as it then allows the disharmony to devolve into abuse and in the process our true marker of how loving and honest life should really be becomes totally submerged.

     1. Honesty is our best friend and pulling a facade fools no one in the end, and serves no one either.

     2. Pretending that I wasn’t hurt by something was as equally damaging to myself and to the person/group that I was being hurt by. Not expressing what hurts us, enables the ill action to continue.

     3. Pretending only encourages abuse to continue. Honesty brings a reality check that is supportive for everyone.

129. The word trying comes to mind, especially to match a picture held in our heads. Relationships are rarely lived spaciously in the here and now, we’ve already capped them by racing into the future. Allowing them to deepen and unfold naturally comes from a place within ourselves where we are steady and ever evolving.

130. We live in a system that is set up to not care for people, but those systems were set up by people. I witness this so regularly, we are so wrapped up in our issues, our dilemmas and hurts that we are losing the will to do our everyday job. We no longer do our jobs properly simply because we are way too focussed on ourselves, and our lack of consideration for others stops us from realising that our behaviours actually have an impact. The person who answers their emails in a rush and frustration because they’re getting too many of them, or the person in customer service who is just looking to pass you onto somebody else… all of these behaviours are creating a society where we don’t trust one another even the slightest.

     1. So true Viktoria, and to be on the receiving end of this lack of care may confirm to us that we are not worthy of care, we feel the hurt, contract a little bit more and tell ourselves that we have to look after ourselves in this loveless world, leading us to be even more focussed on our selves to the exclusion of others, who don’t care about us anyway ….. and so the cycle continues. Or, we can buck the system and be the love that we are, enjoying caring for those around us, as we deeply care for ourselves and reflect that there is another way to live that reflects the truth of how we all want to live together, honouring the divinity of who we are.

131. Yes, to stand our ground and live by what we know is true. Simple and a recipe for true change.

     1. The over commercialisation of Christmas is obscene and exploitative. To be able to stand apart from it all, see it for what it is, and choose a truer way brings, stillness to the season.

132. ‘The hurt, the pain and the overwhelm I experienced was huge when I realised that I had repeated the same old pattern and set myself up for another failed relationship… and all because I did not fully express who I was at any moment in time.’ There is a lot of comfort in giving our power away but there is usually a price to pay for it – a lack of evolution and a huge stagnation. The wake up call is sometimes not pretty. The lesson you are sharing here is so incredibly pertinent for all of us. Simply allowing ourselves to be all that we are in every moment allows each relationship to deepen rather than using it as a place to hide and retreat from our power.

     1. Michelle what you share is very pertinent to me. It is some time since I have chosen to act in a pleasing way with others in order to lesson potential attacks but having started a new job recently I have felt the pull to go into old ways of being, a sort of ingratiating niceness. And I can feel clearly how it stunts both me and the person I’m engaged with.

        1. I am sure this is very common and it is so important we bring understanding to ourselves in situations like these. When we realise that our blocks to being ourselves in full are simply filters we put up because of our hurts then it makes it easier to deal with our hurts objectively and let them go. Sometimes the hurts run very deep and we are not even aware that we are carrying them, but over time under the blessing of cycles we come round to the same point again and again where we are offered awareness and healing. When we have gone around enough times we miraculously get to the point where not only are we able to nominate the awareness that something is amiss, we are ready to go there and feel the hurt that precipitated the behaviour. When we finally let it go we can look back in appreciation to all those moments that allowed us in awareness to chip away at it until we got to the core of the issue. No matter how much we try we cannot force the issue and clear it. I have learned that it is only when I am truly ready can I deal with those deep seated issues, so it is important to give the issue space in the appreciation that everything constellates the way it does so that we can heal it. In doing so we bring more of who we are to humanity. With this in mind we are healing not just for ourselves but for all.

        2. Michelle thank you so much for expanding the topic further. You have laid the process out very clearly and enabled me to connect with the fact that my ‘ingratiating niceness’ began at school when I was attempting to lessen the verbal attacks I was getting from other girls. Your words have really helped me to understand the behaviour more. Thank you.

133. ‘….adapting to my environment, trying to establish a control over all my relationships so that I wouldn’t get hurt.’ The path of surrendering any need to control life in any way frees us from so much stress in trying to make it a certain way and lets a greater intelligence come to the fore.

     1. To me one of the most responsible things we can do is heal our hurts. Without any hurts to protect we are more accepting, open and transparent with others; much more at ease with life and ourselves we no longer impose on others or try to hide who we are.

     2. Surrender is a quality I’m becoming more familiar with. I’ve learned to ditch control and simple allow space to be between myself and others. It takes time to release pictures once held dear about how we should be in relation to others. But once we do, there’s a freedom that allows life to unfold in its own way.

134. Blowing this way and that by whatever breeze is coming our way, we lose touch with our own truth and what supports us to be able to live that truth, allowing ourselves to be a puppet for different winds to work through us, rather than being true to who we are. The world is crying out for us all to re-connect within and stay steady to what feels true for us, this is the only way we can regain a true way of being together that honours the divinity of who we all are.

135. The wind is our own creation – when we stand steady in who we are, everything else is a breeze that simply passes by.

     1. Yes, we create the excess motion and then are buffeted by it until we are reminded of the stillness that we can live from if we choose.

136. It feels great not to go in the flow with the mad commercial spending spree, and general Christmas stuff, but take a quieter more gentle approach to the holiday season.

137. “Some of us tolerate abuse without question, sometimes without even realising it is abuse.” Yep been there and got the T-shirt and forever thankful that in meeting Universal Medicine, I have the opportunity to re-assess my standards and begin to raise them to a new marker, one of unconditional respect, a quality that at present is not that abundant in the world but one that everyone is entitled to receive.

138. ‘… and all because I did not fully express who I was at any moment in time.’ The space we leave when we contract and do not express ourselves in full will be taken by an expression of something which is not true which then manifests itself in our life. We totally underestimate the owner of expression.

139. Truth is the fence that stops tumbleweeds in their tracks.

     1. Truth invites the tumbleweeds to stop tumbling and instead appreciate and share their innate beauty within.

140. When we allow ourselves to be blown by the wind we are contributing to the world being as it is, change happens when we accept that change is needed and following what everyone else is doing is not the answer. As you say speaking up and allowing truth to be expressed regardless of what may come at us is the way to bring about change.

     1. True Alison, it is about a true change and not a solution which is like a band aid. It is stepping out of what we have created together and letting our expression come through us no matter what.

141. More recently I have appreciated that when I stop and really pay attention to what my body is feeling to do, the more I naturally synchronise my decisions and actions with my partner and/or my work colleagues, as I connect into an inner wisdom that is innately in tune with my fellow beings. This alleviates a lot of stress in attempting to fit in, please others and actively anticipate the next move, when all that is needed is to become obedient to the next leading impulse.

     1. I love this Rowena. I was at a sound group the other evening and as we were toning I found myself simply observing the impulses that came from my body. I had no idea what tonal range my voice would produce with each new out breath but with each one the tone would be different and they fitted in perfectly with what everyone else was doing, supporting the whole group. When we get ourselves out of the way (and without thinking) we can follow the impulses that come through without attachment to them or investment in outcomes, which allows us to observe more – deepening awareness.

     2. Our bodies are a natural part of the Whole, they therefore always take the Whole into consideration. As opposed to the spirit that sees itself as separate from the Whole and therefore acts in separation to the Whole.

142. Fulfilment can only come from within, nothing outside of us can provide this for us.

143. We, or rather I have tended to think as blowing in the wind as being ‘free’ but what you show here is the exact opposite (which I also know from experience) in that with blowing in the wind we do not have an anchor or foundation in truth and the truth of who we are, and instead just go with what everyone else is doing.

144. Anonymous, reading this article I can feel how important it is that we stay true to ourselves, express honestly what we feel and stay steady rather than trying to please others, be liked and fit in.

145. Finding the power of love is the key to understanding how to respond in a true way as each situation presents itself, which we cannot through a blanket that will cover every situation.

146. I like the metaphor of no longer blowing in the wind to adapt ourselves to fit in and belong, and yet there is great value in no longer living in the rigidity and protection of struggling against life.

147. “… with every job I adapted to what I thought I needed to be at work as an employee, and as a manager.” How exhausting playing this adaptation game is, always second guessing how to behave and what persona to assume. Life becomes a lot easier when we learn how to simply be ourselves and respond to our responsibilities from our inner knowing.

148. It is easy to fall into a way of living which makes our experience of life about events and people around us when we are actually able to experience it by knowing ourselves first and then bringing that to life.

149. I agree Gill, whilst we may think we are doing the right thing we are saying things are ok when we felt they are not, and so allow the abuse and disharmony to continue unabated and so nothing changes and not only does that harm us, it also takes away the opportunity for the other person(s) to see their ill choices.

150. ‘The world’s change begins with the self’, so very true after all how can we expect another to change if we 1st do not change our ways?

151. In how many situations in life, have they stayed the same only because no-one spoke up? Our silence affects every relationship we have!

152. As a parent I can feel how important it is to allow my children to form and deepen their own roots through their own experiences, however difficult this may be for me to observe without butting in; it doesn’t support to jump in and make things ‘easy’ for them as I am then depriving them of being able to determine their own foundation. The best support I can offer is to love them for who they already are and support them to be true to their already amazing selves.

153. ‘Evil continues because we say nothing. This has to stop if the world is going to change.’ – when we say nothing, evil wins, we are silenced into accepting the status quo, despite knowing that it is not a true reflection of how we innately can and want to live together. Evil can only continue if we allow it too.

154. “On reflection I could see that once again I had given my power away, adapting everything I did to fit in with what I thought was wanted, despite being told to just be myself.” This can be a life time of retraining for so many of us self included, learning how to trust our inner knowing again, sometimes in the face of steep opposition to what we know deep within us is true.

155. It’s crazy that we profess to be doing ok in so many situations in life, such as during university here, despite the experiences we are having. Bringing and allowing a level of honesty would give us the opportunity to begin to understand things on a greater level and change some of the patterns in life which are not healthy.

156. When we think of it it’s crazy to be changing ourselves to please others or change to what we think the others want; especially if it’s not true for us – where is the honouring of ourselves in that.

157. Its amazing the lengths we will go to to ‘fit in’ to any situation, and all because we want to please others or to be accepted. But in truth, at what expense do we do that?

158. We only get swayed in life when our foundations are weak.

159. I am currently moving into a full time carer situation at home and more than anything I need to take care of my body so that I can cope with the demands of each day, and one of those ‘take care’ moments is checking how I am being spoken to. Sometimes I am asked to do a task and I notice when there is no ‘please’ but make allowances, and yet my body can feel abused. It is very slight but I need to feel and respond appropriately, not just jump up and react and ignore what I feel. In the past I have always been so willing to be seen as helpful I have abused my own body in the process by putting others first and exhausting myself in the process. Now I have an opportunity to re-imprint that and learn more about self care.

     1. Great Carmel, that you’re now sensing more and have greater awareness of abuse. Caring for another is as much about the care giver as those being cared for and how we respond to what we’re offered is a beautiful opportunity for both to expand. I’ve learned that to move and express with love and a deeply held authority from our body, determines the degree of respect we receive in return.

        1. I have had a situation at work where I have ‘…learned that to move and express with love and a deeply held authority from our body, determines the degree of respect we receive in return.’ Although the shift itself has felt negligible, the effect has been colossal in that the other person and I have evolved into an unspoken honouring of and love for each other that has transcended what was a very fractious working relationship. Every day we work together I am in appreciation of all that has taken place for this miraculous change to occur.

160. “The world’s change begins with the self” A simple truth denied by many, We rush out with banners and placards to save the world, when all we’re called to do is to first save ourselves and in doing so we offer a reflection to others that may inspire some to equally save themselves.

161. It has slowly been dawning on me that I can not control another person’s response or reaction. All there is for me to do is present me and what is in my heart as simply and clearly as I can. Trying to please others or control the outcome is a waste of energy and it hardly ever works anyway.

     1. Absolutely Golnaz, It is freeing to finally get this. All there is, is to focus on self and express truth as best we can. Outcomes are of no importance. True power lies is in the ripple effects felt by others when we simply stay present with self and honour who we are.

162. That is the beauty about living life, we hold the power in our own two hands and do not need to wait for the world to change. It is us who bring (or not) change to this world.

     1. One of the main reasons why we allow ourselves to trash the world is because we think it’s separate from us but it’s not. The world and us are intrinsically linked.

        1. Yes, when we understand that we are part of the grand all what we call the universe we will start to see the responsibility we have and how everything is interconnected.

163. Where there is no love there is no true confidence in oneself and we try to manipulate and control relationships. Trying to manipulate and control relationships may seem we are getting somewhere but this is a lie. Manipulation and control always backfires and eventually catches up with us ( I speak from experience) so we may as well deal with the hurts that arise once and for all in the first place.

164. We can put our shoulder to the grindstone, but we know how that Sisyphean task never ends. What we speak up and remove the mountain? Then, there is no need to push anything!

165. We change life through our own choices and no one else can save us or change us…we have to make that choice to say no to abuse in any way and area of life to truly heal and empower.

     1. There’s an arrogance in trying to change another, the assumption being we are in some way better. One of the most empowering thing we can do is to stop trying to change other people and focus attention on our own life and choices.

166. It is a common fallacy we are fed that if we change the outside somehow we will be a different person, our life will be different and we have ‘moved on’ from the past … but this is so not true as many can attest … because the agenda running behind our ‘previous’ way of living remains with us and until this agenda is called out for what it is, it will always be running behind the scenes morphing as it needs to.

     1. To run from a job or relationship without understanding does not solve residual problems. Sometimes it pays to choose to stay and work through problems, reach understanding and leave with a sweet taste of appreciation rather than bitter taste to resentment. Without this we will soon meet the same again.

     2. I agree, Paula, for the opposite is true, that when we change ourselves from the inside, everything on the outside changes. Letting go of our arrogant attitudes, our beliefs, our ideals, our pictures allows the space within for truth to be felt.

167. To know what feels true from our body and to follow it, rather than listening to what’s going on in our heads flips our relationship around with life completely.

168. Adapting is great and necessary, but only when done without selling yourself out.

     1. Yep or giving our power away or seeing ourselves as less. Being flexible/adapting but always being Love and staying true to this.

169. Delete our arrogance, so we see everyone as an equal then we are setting the stage for treating everyone with decency and respect thus all relationships will improve.

170. For some living life in dis-ease means that they will try to bring this to others so that they do not feel the tension of the choices they have made to bring them to the point in life they find themselves.

171. I am really beginning to understand the damage that is done when we accommodate abuse and a quality of relationships that we know is less than is possible and natural for us all. Deep down we know how much we love and it is this that we need to access and bring to the fore without compromise or hesitation.

     1. Thank you Matilda, and may I add that stepping forth and moving into a Loving space deepens all our relationships!

172. Taking stop moments to check-in with ourselves throughout our day allows us to observe and understand rather than react, which is when we get caught by the wind.

173. We can be swayed by all that life presents us, such as another’s opinion or story … or we can choose to honour the truth of our lived experiences, to live what we know deep within is true.

174. I think most of us are blowing in the wind, until the agony gets too much of not living a life that is true to us. But quite often people do not have any other reflections either. We feel something is not quite right but there is on the other hand not many that are doing much about it either. We just follow the flow, the stream, until we’ve had enough, and then we might start asking what is going on. The great thing though is that we don’t have to come up with something to follow, we can just start to feel what feels true and then begin the journey of rediscovering that everything we ever wanted and was looking for was, is, already inside of us. Then we discover the Esoteric (innermost) aspect of us, The inner flame that never went went out. Serge Benhayon has been presenting this for many years and the teachings never fade in significance.

175. We can be blown off course so subtly. It takes a great deal of commitment to our inner impulses and wisdom to remain true to our path in life. Fortunately we have some very substantial tools now courtesy of Universal Medicine by which to navigate our way forward, tools that have been tried, tested and have definitely passed the test of time.

176. Bob Dylan sang, ‘The answer, my friend, is blowing in the wind’, meaning the answer to all that is corrupt is there all the time, just waiting for us to grasp it. Through the Teachings of the Ageless Wisdom we can grasp it and make it real, as it always has been throughout time.

177. Anonymous, I can relate to what you share and know how it feels to find myself in the same place in a new relationship, after believing I’d ‘moved on. It is only when we shift focus and build a relationship with self as first priority, that we stop doing things to accommodate other people because we feel they are more important than we are.

178. A great place to be when we can honestly appraise ourselves and understand repeating patterns that have held us prisoner. When we listen to our bodies, not our minds, we honour ourselves rather than feed false pictures of how we should be.

179. To speak up is an honouring of the body and when we honour our body we honour the body of others. Others may not want to hear what is being said and that is ok and not to be reacted to. What matters is listening to our body and being true to ourselves.

180. A beautiful honest sharing of our responsibility to be steady and speak up lovingly and not hold back the love and vulnerability we are and feel from our body.

181. There is such a strong conditioning in society to ‘be polite,’ nice, good, don’t rock the boat … like the truth is to be avoided at all costs – and yet the truth lovingly presented is a game-changer for us all.

     1. Yes and I can still at times feel the pull of the social expectations and niceties even though I know that they are false and damaging to truth and the quality we can have in relationships. The more we talk about this false set up the less pull it has.

182. “Evil continues because we say nothing.” This is indeed true – from not being honest with ourselves to not speaking our truth in relationship, with family, work colleagues, we continue the energy of abuse.

183. ‘Some of us tolerate abuse without question, sometimes without even realising it is abuse and then once we do it is sometimes too late because we have allowed resentment to build up.’ Developing awareness, self-awareness and a greater amount of self-worth, self-love and self-care prevents accepting abuse in the first place. It allows for an inner strength, a strength which can allow for the simple the word ‘no’.

     1. One of the hardest things can be to say ‘no’ if we are worried about offending, standing out from the crowd or missing out. However with all of the above things you mention Rachel as a foundation, then the word ‘no’ is simply an extension of the expression of self love that has been developed.

     2. As a witness to abusive behaviour just yesterday, I spoke out, which caused the abuser to react, as though they were hurt. However, I then spoke to them again in private and it was clear that they knew they shouldn’t have said what they did, but they were frustrated because a plan had been made the night before and the other person ‘let them down’ the following morning. The abuser knew they were saying hurtful things out of frustration and I could feel how they didn’t like themselves for this afterwards, there was a sense of shame in being caught out and the truth being spoken out loud. However, to say nothing allows this behaviour to continue – it’s a pattern of behaviour that only the person themselves can address, but it’s up to everyone else to call it out as it’s not ok to be on the receiving end of this kind of behaviour. It is very loving the speak up and call out the ill energy that the abuser is allowing in, as it is not who they are, but how they are choosing to be in that moment that is so offensive.

        1. It’s a great thing when we can gently, lovingly and with authority, call out another for abusive behaviour. Bringing understanding as to why someone may be acting in the way that they are supports them to stop. Calling out abuse in the same abusive manner gets us nowhere.

184. By not speaking up are we allowing a wildfire to burn unabated until it has consumed everything?

185. This is a great example of how important it is to understand our behaviours especially in relationship – once we know why we do what we do, we are able to make different choices and to grow in relationship … this is what relationships are all about – to evolve together.

186. The ultimate ‘wind’ in this world is energy – and if we don’t take a stock what type we allow our self-esteem can be blown to smithereens.

     1. So true Joseph. Energy sits behind everything and comes at us in all ways, words, actions, thoughts and movement. And so we have a choice, to move and live with a grace that nourishes and nurtures us or not. One restores our inner acceptance, appreciation and knowing, the other gnaws away at it.

     2. Very true Joseph, the moment we discount energy we are completely at the whim of the ‘wind’ and can literally get blown anywhere and everywhere all the time thinking we are in control.

187. Until we live the truth what we are sharing is preaching and no wants to be preach at even when we have mastered life to some extent are people ready to listen to the Truth?

188. Thank you for this call to responsibility, truth and getting on with speaking up about what we know to be not okay. I find this very supportive as I break out of patterns of appeasement and trying to fit in.

189. “The world’s change begins with the self when we individually choose to not accept self-abuse” and therein lies a responsibility for every single one of us in this world. If we all draw the line within our personal lives, including the self-abuse that we inflict on ourselves, it reduces the potential for abuse to exist on a bigger scale until one day it becomes an impossibility.

     1. So true, Rowena, and in so doing, in saying no to all abuse, we are supporting everyone around us to have the awareness to do the same – we all have a choice, in truth, no one wants abuse in their lives.

190. When we realise that to change the world we only have to start making changes in our own lives we are empowered with true responsibility.

     1. Absolutely – and when we start to make real changes in our own lives we learn to give others space to be where they are at, with no investment in outcomes. This is liberating.

     2. Yes, one person trying to change the whole world doesn’t work. Start in our own backyard, bringing loving responsibility, harmony and truth, and the ripple effects are felt far and wide. With each of us doing this, this is how we change the world.

        1. This to me is magical for as more people choose to make similar choices to make changes in their own lives they also begin to develop harmony between them and understand the greater potential we have in being together.

     3. And there is a simplicity in this that we cannot deny, so if we do resist this responsibility we can curiously ask ourselves the ‘why’ question.

191. Being true or showing our true colours does not necessarily mean that one will be Mr or Mrs Popular and this can be a hard thing to accept, hence understandable why one opts to try to please others. However, in this process of pleasing others, and compromising what we know to be true, there inevitably must be consequences. And the sooner we learn to hold ourselves to the truth no matter what atempts to pull us out of it, the ‘better’ for ourselves and for everyone else too as from this we learn so much.

     1. When we no longer compromise ourselves it becomes much easier to read the reaction of others for not having played ball and it’s far easier to understand where they are coming from and therefore easier to observe without getting affected.

192. The macrocosm only changes once the microcosm is addressed. Without one the other cannot be.

     1. Without judgement, there is no reaction!

        1. Love the simplicity and yet your comment is profound. Master not judging another but ultimately myself and I deliver what is to be said with absolute love.

193. What a huge shift it is to go from People Pleasing to holding true to your own view and opions. It requires us to let go of Right and Wrong and to dig deeper within our selves to connect to our true values and integrity, qualities that do not need to be confirmed by the outer world, simply lived by us.

     1. Yeah, agreed Rowena, our Livingness hold the key to us expanding the Love we all innately have in our essences.

194. ‘We have been so conditioned throughout the centuries by abuse, torture and death that somewhere deeply embedded in our psyche is the belief that speaking out is dangerous to our survival so we clam up.’ I have certainly carried this fear all my life. But not speaking up – is it worth it? No, in my case I’ve poisoned myself to keep quiet. I’m coming to understand speaking up is about me not denying truth in myself and living what I know – it’s not going round with a megaphone persuading others to see through the lies. I’m not here to give energy to what is not love which includes healing what’s beneath any reactions I may have from what I see in the world.

195. We create the chaos we are blown around in.

196. We allow abuse from outside and can be abusive to ourselves when we disconnect and give up. I did a presentation yesterday on a lot of what you’ve shared here in your blog…the constant manipulation of the self to fit whatever role we believed was needed. And everyone in the group could relate. We all know it, so why do we continue the game? We either keep confirming this game as worthy or we let it go and show another way.

197. In speaking up when we feel something is out of place or abusive we place a marker there that everyone else can do the same when they feel that to.

198. “…..bending this way and that, adapting to my environment, …..” How we are experiencing our environment is the consequence of our own perceptions of it. Therefore we are only bending and adapting to our illusions and delusions.

199. When others had tantrums, or made life challenging I would often give way for an easy life. I would give way to the discomfort that the other was in because it made me feel so uncomfortable, even if that went against myself. Yesterday. I noticed a specific change. Someone I knew was having a tantrum, wanting to get their way… I simply observed, didn’t react, or give way and certainly didn’t get blown about by the wind. What a difference to be living life this way.

     1. So True Rachel, boundaries have to be set and then not adjusted but adhered to.

200. I am currently in a situation with an unknown outcome and it has been good to let go of pictures about how I expect my life to turn out. Much of the outcome is dependent on factors outside of my control and it is great training for living with uncertainty and trusting that as each choice arises I can make a true one that will work for my own evolution.

     1. In truth we are all living with an unknown outcome though we live pretending this is not the case. Seeing someone living in the truth of this uncertainty, particularly when it is fully in one’s consciousness as in your case Carmel, it is inspiring as you are.

     2. Beautifully said Carmel and deeply exposing for us all when we realise how much we have been trying to control the show. I know I am only allowing myself to see snippets of the control I wield on my own life, with the pictures that I have and the entitlement I feel at times. But this is the best medicine when this gets exposed, for then it paves the way for a true life and not a controlled life.

     3. I too appreciate life’s current uncertainty because as you say Carmel it offers the opportunity to become surer, steadier, stiller and more steadfast… fit for anything.

201. I agree Ariana, sadly our current education system and even parenting methods train us to accept everything from outside of ourselves and do not encourage us to feel from deep within and to trust what we feel. It brings great joy when I see children who are brought up in a way that inspires them to feel their grandness and gloriousness and to appreciate who they truly are.

202. It is so refreshing to be able to listen to our body and know that what it feels is true, and not to rely on the mind trying to convince us that something is true when it is not.

203. We can be like leaves in life, blowing around all over the place – or we can be like the tree that stands solid and true in its essence, growing in its own unique way.

204. Anonymous, what you are sharing feels really important. The more I take care of and respect myself, the more I am stand up for what does not feel loving in the world – I have noticed that the abuse becomes more clear and it feels more natural to call it out.

     1. I love how simply you have put this.

205. Not only do we not accept and live the love we already are, we avoid the responsibility this brings.

206. ‘Blowing in the wind’ or being a chameleon and changing colour depending on what is in front of us – all too common behaviours when we try to fit in, please, cajole and not rock the boat. And for the sake of what? Is being liked really so much more important than being who we are and expressing that freely?

     1. So true Gabriele … and is being liked so much more important than truth?

     2. And also this chameleon behaviour keeps the world feeling fickle, uncertain, ever-changing and inconsistent.

207. I can relate to being blown by the wind, just living by what the world next demanded of me, but in a world where the truth is hard to be found this is a dangerous thing and thus living by our inner hearts is what will all lead us back to the truth we deep down know and yearn for.

208. It is powerful to discern what is true and untrue and walk away or say No to anything that does not resonate with the deep knowing in my body.

209. Experience is life’s classroom, as students and teachers we’re are constantly offered learning opportunities to evolve self and others.

210. The majority of humanity is ‘blowing in the wind,’ bouncing from one reaction to another. It is only when we come to understand we are the ones creating the ‘wind’ that we can stop, develop solid foundations and respond to life.

     1. Ha! yes, Paula, we are definitely the ones creating the wind and it is life-changing once we learn that.

     2. Yes, true, that makes it a double whammy. We not only let ourselves be blown by the wind but are creating it ourselves. A very exhausting way of life, but one we definitely have the power to change.

211. And until we have a Livingness and that is obtained through staying connected as we speak up and move, as our movements bring so much, there is no Truth in our expression. So simply reflect, as each occasion needs to be understood for what is there, so ‘casting pearls in front of swine’ comes to mind as our expression of Love is also in our movements and reflection is the greatest benefit to everyone no words needed.

212. We hold pictures, beliefs, ideals, and expectations in our hands like a deck of cards. Then in a lightning flash we pluck cards seamlessly from the deck, calibrating how we are to each card. We can be socialising in a group and pluck a different card for each different person we speak to, how we are really is as random as that.

213. So many things in our societies blow us around today: the state of our politics, economics, media feeds and the TV. Working out who we are and what our true values are is essential if we are to know what the true path forward is – one of integrity, honesty, transparency, values that support and nourish everyone not just serve self and empower us all to properly evolve.

214. I’ve learned to speak up especially when something is said about me in my presence that is an untruth couched in humour. To respond and correct the statement immediately, with clarity, not attack, gives another a strong sense of who you are and your true worth. This takes awareness and is another reason to build a body of Love and be alert to what is going on.

     1. Sarcasm, insults, joking criticisms they are all supposed to be funny but all contain a little barb that goes deep. It is a way of putting us down, and we may laugh it off but as we become more sensitive, we become aware of the harm they are doing and, as you say, it is great to call it and correct it. Words become so easily twisted and bastardised away from the truth.

        1. When we build a body of love, it holds us strong in the face of attacks, subtle or overt. We’re more likely to read what is going on for the other person and when we speak up it is as much for them as it is for ourselves.

215. For most of my life I lived not speaking up and constantly buffeted by the winds, went this way and that. Now it’s more natural for me to express truth and when I do it comes from my whole body.

216. Just attempting to fulfill all the images we have in our heads will keep us being blown about by the wind. What a huge freedom it is to let go of all the ideals and pictures in our heads and learn instead to follow the impulse in our hearts and bodies.

217. Being true to oneself is being true to all. When we are not being ourselves any old thing can blow through us. We can all feel the difference in our bodies and getting real is one of the most loving qualities we can bring, without attachment to any particular outcome.

     1. Yes, presenting truth in a loving but deeply honest way, with no attachment to outcome, is a very refreshing and liberating way of living.

218. We only blow in the wind when we have no foundations, no solid ground to hold ourselves steady when the wind blows so we get caught up in all the chaos swirling around us.

219. When the time is right there will always be an opening to share the Truth especially when we are continually moving in a way that gives the most divine reflection of our Livingness! And our reflections are the greatest asset and should never be underestimated.

220. ‘Some of us tolerate abuse without question, sometimes without even realising it is abuse and then once we do it is sometimes too late because we have allowed resentment to build up.’ Once I realised that it was me that set the ground rules I began to understand my part in my life and let go of blame and accept responsibility.

221. I am learning more and more to feel the abuse in someone’s tone when they speak with hurt or frustration. When it was directed at me recently I was able to express that I’d got the message but that I found the way it was delivered toxic. It felt good to express it but there may well have been judgement in my own voice and I’m not sure they understood what I meant. We all have ways of expressing that we think are natural and we can’t always sense how harming any expression laced with emotion is.

     1. When we are in reaction we are not delivering with love.. so important therefore to keep discarding the hurts so that we can observe more without emotion.

        1. So True Michelle, our responsive-ness without emotions is a True way of deepening our evolution and this starts through expressing with honesty and then absolute-honesty.

        2. Reactions expose underlying hurts and are blessings in disguise.

        3. So true Michelle … our reactions come from our hurts – once we discard the old hurts that are running the show, there is no traction for reactions.

     2. Because emotions are not natural for the body, they are therefore a form of abuse when they are introduced into our bodies. Even happiness is a form of abuse because it’s origins do not come from truth.

     3. It’s true tone, not words conveys more of what someone feels about us. Appreciate your honesty and ability to feel the quality of your own response and consequences. To be aware of where we’re at and how we express is still a marker of our evolving self.

     4. It is like a fast track learning curve, and the more space we give the simply the response becomes, then we all learn to deepen our expression and delivery of a True-message.

     5. The more sensitive we become, the more each nuance is felt from what others express. Important to not take it some comments personally, for when we do and reply in a similar energy, no-one learns..

222. Stand steady, stand strong, stand true.

223. What I am appreciating these days is that is it far better to express truth than create a false sense of security by attempting to please others and if we have no agendas, there is usually a very graceful/playful way to do it.

     1. So true Rowena … pleasing others actually harms them and ourselves because it doesn’t offer evolution for either, whereas truth offers expansion for the deliverer and an opportunity for healing for the receiver.

224. When we choose to live more love in our body, any form of abuse stands out and we can see with clarity what needs to be done. When we align to the fiery energy of love to express through our body, it will know exactly how to expose, discard and eliminate evil in the disguise of being nice and in the more obvious forms. Now, this is what I call intelligent, connecting to love means we cannot be fooled by the evil that hides behind a mask of ‘good and nice’.

225. Blowing in the wind creates a huge amount of stress and tension – we are constantly on edge wondering what will come our way next and how we will need to be … and ultimately this is exhausting – hence the many stimulants like coffee, alcohol, sugar and salt we consume to keep us going.

226. “Evil continues because we say nothing”. This is so important for us all to feel into and how we we all contribute to this. Considering why we say nothing, what are we protecting, what don’t we want to look at and truly see. We know what goes on at very detailed levels and yet we can ignore every part of what we know and play dumb. But who does this serve? No-one, not even ourselves.

227. “….. trying to establish a control over all my relationships so that I wouldn’t get hurt.” The belief that we can control our relationships so that we do not get hurt is a complete illusion and in attempting to do so we suppress the opportunity for intimacy and evolution.

228. People who are blowing with the wind are maybe perceived as easy people who do no harm but it is a great question to ask if they are actually allowing abuse to happen by just going with the flow because then it becomes another story.

229. I feel we are as children brought up on a diet of right and wrong, I know I was but someone recently said to me that there is no right or wrong just a learning either way. Too be honest I’m still working this one out as being right or wrong is so ingrained in my behaviour. What I do know is that there can never be true understanding if we approach life from the ideas and beliefs of right and wrong.

     1. Mary, I totally get what you share. The investment in right and wrong seems deeply embedded and entrenched from our education system; we judge ourselves and others harshly too. Yet, taking a step back there is only learning. What if we allowed ourselves to make mistakes and learn form them with no attachment of criticism… this would free us up enormously!

     2. To see life as a learning either way rather than right or wrong, brings simplicity and removes judgement and blame. This frees us from an imprisoned mind (ideals and beliefs) attachment to fixed positions and opens the way for us to work with whatever is before us..

230. I can recognise this pattern of not speaking up and then feeling the tension of this in my body and then seeking other things to numb or distract myself from the tension eg food, an argument, internet etc

     1. Yes, I think we can all relate Andrew, I have done this many, many times. I can feel something has shifted for me recently. I feel it is easier than ever before to be able to speak up and express truth from my body and this didn’t just happen overnight, it is a combination of commitment to expressing truth and saying yes to the loving energy being constantly offered to us to expose the evil that currently runs humanity by exposing the evil the runs through our own life.

231. ‘Evil continues because we say nothing.’ This is so true

232. I sooooo know this one about adapting ourselves to the environment we are in instead of being who we truly are and being the same in all environments we are in at any given time. It just goes to show how important this is … knowing who we are and staying true to ourselves and not aka blowing in the wind.

233. It is amazing how easily we change ourselves to be with others rather than staying true to who we are. Even the slightest change which we think may be supportive is doing a disservice to ourselves but also to them.

     1. Yes I agree James that even being nice and polite can be toxic if we are compromising ourselves and not being true to ourselves in that moment. Of course I am all for being respectful and decent with each other but sometimes in conversations we may find ourselves subtly agreeing or siding with things that we don’t fully want to.

        1. Very true and yes definitely agree with you that being respectful and decent is the important and a foundation of all relationships. It is when we let go of the truth we know that the slippery slide slowly starts. At first it may be subtle but before you realise you may be way off.

     2. Goodness – isn’t this evidence for how little we regard ourselves, feeling that we need to be better or different from that which we are? When we go into trying all that lovely naturalness is gone – not nearly as engaging, much more forced and false.

        1. Very true, it does show how little regard we generally have for ourselves when we can literally change who we are depending on who we are with. I used to think I could put on different hats to fit in with different people and groups especially at school but I found this exhausting and also extremely isolating as it meant I kept everyone at a distant only showing them part of me but never the whole in case they did not like me fully and so I could avoid being rejected – yet I was the one rejecting myself.

     3. Well said James and Christmas provides a great opportunity to observe this happening and deepen such an understanding.

        1. It sure does Michael. I find it a great time of year for reflecting within myself how the year has been and also deepening relationships with those around me.

234. Whenever we are unsettled we tend to look for and blame someone or something. Yet the main source of distress and devastation tends to come from how we have chosen to reduce ourselves in reaction to that situation.

235. ‘Calling out anything we can feel in our bodies that is not love’ is taking a stand for love, which is something that most of us haven’t done for eons.

236. I used to bend myself almost in half in an attempt to please others. My behaviour was so ingratiating and at the same time so false. When behaving in this way I used to think that others benefited from me trying to please them but what I realise now is that everyone lost out as there was no truth in the way that I was being.

     1. People pleasing indeed may provide momentary relief and avoidance of rejection, however long term the cost of not living and expressing who we are authentically can really add up.

237. “All my life I have been blowing in the wind, bending this way and that, adapting to my environment,”
     I can totally relate to this way of living on shifting sands as the goal post got moved around or being led by a carrot on a stick. I have just allowed myself to receive a lesson in the power of a lived experience over intelligence and I came back to the knowing in my body that a lived experience is far more powerful than an intelligent mind. So no more blowing in the wind and adapting, now I can fully live what I know to be true to me.

     1. All of our lived experiences come from the absoluteness of our bodies. I salute the body in it’s natural authority and I’m practicing surrendering to that authority and letting it lead the way, knowing full well that it is the body that will take us all Home.

        1. Yes, our bodies offer us pure gold, innate wisdom of the ages if only we allow that to flow.

        2. After living with such a dominating mind, I have found switching to listening to my body a challenging thing, but in the surrender and awareness this gets easier with time… and oh my gosh, what a difference it makes to living life and making decisions! I am trusting more and more acting on the feelings and impulses from my body; the end result is never wrong.

     2. I love this and it brings a realisation that in this the mind is a servant of the body not it’s controller.

     3. A beautiful example of how when we trust and follow the impulses of the intelligence of the body, there is simply no doubt about our choices.

238. Not only does it feel awful, it is poisonous and abusive.

239. When we hold back from speaking truth it is poisonous self-abuse and the perpetuation of evil.

240. And when we stop ‘blowing in the wind’ it is possible, if not easy, to feel what is warm and nurturing around us vs things that are discordant, wrong, out of sync or anything that is not in line with the way we are living.

241. The truth never wavers. Ever.

242. Most of my life has been lived like a piece of clothing pegged out to dry, blown this way and that by externals factors like other people’s agendas and situations that felt out of my control, feet never on the ground long enough to gain my own traction. Enter Universal Medicine and my feet have finally touched down. As I put what has been learnt into practice my inner confidence steadily flourishes, as does my knowing that who I am is very much needed in this world, so time to get all of Me out there.

243. ‘The world’s change begins with the self when we individually choose to not accept self-abuse and to stop being so accommodating with others, no longer ‘blowing in the wind’ but calling out anything we can feel in our bodies that is not love.’ So true. I know when I don’t admit how something truly feels, when I try to discount my knowing I am doing the world a HUGE disservice that goes beyond the particular situation at hand. And conversely, when I do stand up for truth and love this is a stand that others can stand to too.

244. Learning to respond to life rather than react to life is an amazing and truly supportive way to live.

245. This is a great example of how important it is to deal with our issues, our ideals and beliefs and pictures of how we want life to be, because they keep coming around until we deal with them.

246. Part of life is learning to stand tall and have an authority over our life and not be swayed by outer influences.

247. Anonymous, reading this I can feel how we do this – try and fit in, rather than staying true to us; ‘When I went into a career, with every job I adapted to what I thought I needed to be at work as an employee, and as a manager.’ Changing ourselves to fit in is exhausting and leaves us feeling empty, being true to us and moving and expressing in our natural way is what allows life to be joyful and us to feel vital.

     1. Yes, and what we need to understand is that by conforming to that what already exists we cannot bring true change as we try to fit into a system that is not true to us. So, as you say, being true to us is the key and brings the changes we so deserve.

248. When we havent dealt with issues from our past relationships we are guaranteed to attract the same issues in the next relationship.

249. ‘Blowing in the wind’ may be interpreted by some as being flexible or considerate but what serves others the most is staying absolutely rock solid in the truth of who we all are. With no deviation from that truth whatsoever.

250. When we don’t call out the abuse or disturbance we can all feel in our bodies when we experience something that is not loving, we allow that abuse to be the normal standard of living for everyone. And when we do call it out we raise the standards for everyone.

251. ‘… and all because I did not fully express who I was at any moment in time’ – if we are not willing to share the truth of how we feel, we are actively avoiding getting to the root cause of whatever is going on for us, therefore, we can’t ever truely resolve anything, hence, the same pattern will keep on repeating until we’re willing to let go of our protection and allow ourselves to be vulnerable and intimate. This is where true healing and advancement can flourish.

252. ‘…by honouring what we feel in our bodies and expressing it regardless of the outcome.’ I haven’t yet come to this and I know my first step is to be admit things to myself. When I do I know that I then will invariably express.

253. Every little choice affects all the bigger choices too that we make as one builds upon the other – so how important is it to maintain the awareness of all the so called ‘less important’ choices which in the end are really the important one as they are laying the foundation for the so called ‘more important’ choices.

254. How is it that we can connect to what is true and beautiful for us, and yet abandon this in the blink of an eye? Why is it that even the most basic and simple of self caring and self loving choices that are obviously supportive to us seem to at times be the hardest ones to make, hold and maintain? There has to be something that is there interfering with our choice to hold onto this? What energy is at play? And how much are we really willing to hold the depth of power and hence responsibility that is our birth right?

255. Our expression is very powerful, more powerful than any weapon we have created because it has the ability to cut through energy.

256. I’m learning to express in full and not hold anything in whilst at the same time holding others in love and knowing what they are ready to hear.

     1. Awesome HM, our expression is extremely powerful. The fact that we have to relearn to express in full shows us how much we have suppressed our power to such an extent that we have forgotten how to truly express. So, relearning is brilliant because our world needs more and more people to express in full, not hold back and to fully express love unconditionally.

     2. How gorgeous to be on the receiving end of so much love – imagine how life will be when this is our norm.

     3. Ah HM I feel that it’s the ‘holding others in love’ that is the key to expressing in full because without it they are just as likely to feel as abused as us.

257. I have grown up always thinking that being flexible, i.e. blowing in the wind, is a good thing. However, what you clearly show here is how blowing in the wind is not loving for us to do, not allowing us to honour who we are and what we feel and in many cases, how others have shared here in the comments, giving our power away. On reflection when I think of blowing in the wind the branches of trees come to mind, the branches go with the flow of nature = divinity with the roots being very firmly in the ground. There is a learning for us here.

     1. Without a foundation, we become the reeds that are controlled by the wind!

258. We accept things as normal because we have been conditioned to not speak up and not want to stand out. Therefore, as we start, it is unfamiliar and can feel overwhelming, but it simply takes a willingness to see what is there and stand steady rather than look away.

     1. Being a chameleon and blending in or fitting in with everything around you is in fact a lot of hard work. Whereas in fact when you can let go and allow others to see your true colours, it is the least amount of work, however, the challenge lies in your steadiness to stand by yourself and back yourself if and when others are not in appreciation of who you are and what you bring.

259. Are relationships really ever beyond repair – perhaps if we try to mend the flawed foundation of what is already there. However, if we are willing to let go of what we have created and together, build a new foundation based on truth, honesty and absolute open-ness with each other, as equals, then anything is possible.

260. At least now everyday I am learning how to stand tall in the wind, some day are better than others, a work in progress but at least one that has now been identified and is being tenderly worked on.

261. So important to call out those moments that abusive. But you are correct that we tolerate much that we may not yet even consider as abusive. I can also feel of importance is to appreciate and confirm those moments that we see as truly loving and deeply caring so that this then becomes more of our norm and we are more that way with ourself and others.

262. To end self-imposed numbness to abuse and degradation requires an expression about what is truly being felt within. Initially it can be a real struggle to express in this way as there is a strong investment in not ‘upsetting the boat’ from fear of how people may react against us. The great thing is there is another way that emerges when we begin to honour and value ourselves more deeply.
     “By calling out wherever we feel there is abuse and by honouring what we feel in our bodies and expressing it regardless of the outcome.”

263. A great analogy about blowing in the wind Anonymous – from my own experience it is a heinous place to be in as there is no inner foundation to hold firm with and the abuse of shaping and pretzeling oneself to conform to what appears to appease others is deeply detrimental and harming to all parties concerned.

     1. Very true, Stephanie, it’s very dis-honouring of our selves and everyone else to hold ourselves as less whilst pandering to the behaviours of others, it doesn’t truly serve or support anyone in any way.

264. It is great to recognise what is going on, how we have contributed to the state of the world and understand and embrace responsibility. I realise it is no use blaming the world for the lovelessness but be open to seeing our part in it and accept the fact that we have the power to change the world.

265. I used to pride myself in being good at blowing in the wind, swaying and moving with what everyone else is doing but after a while, the resentment builds up because I have been living in a way that wasn’t honouring who I am and how I was feeling. Resentment leads to bitterness, then rage, if I don’t deal with it, it ends up hurting me and everyone else around me. I also realise this is the main cause of many relationship conflicts/issues.

266. When we dont have that foundation of self-worth we will always be at the mercy of the whims of others.

     1. Clearly and well said. This is the key to so much … having a strong foundation of self-worth.

267. I was inspired from a presentation last night to look at where I have accommodating conversations, where do I keep to safe topics, or safe levels of other topics. It will be an interesting journey as so often I can stick to safe levels where in truth we could all be asking for more.

     1. Same for me Sarah. I am spending some time with family this Christmas and there will be many conversations around the dinner table. The key is to observe the conversations and open them up to a deeper level/vibration whenever possible. I find the worse form of conversations are the ones base on gossip and a complaining energy.

268. We have many learnt behaviours. From my own experience of being told since a child that I wasn’t good enough, or I didn’t fit in I got so used the negativity, I took it on and assumed this was me. It was not until I met Serge Benhayon that I started to question life as he asks such questions that really make you sit up and take notice. Thank heavens I met him is all I can say because through questioning myself my beliefs, ideas etc., I have come to understand that the real me was hidden under all this weight of negativity. I am still finding stuff that has got hidden away, but my life is so much clearer now.

     1. Yes, I can relate to this Mary – so much gets taken on as true, when it is actually so far away from what is the truth in evolution. Thank God for Serge Benhayon continuing to reflect truth and to offer the opportunity to question and expose the ideals and beliefs that continue to imprison us in an illusion

269. Much to ponder here Anonymous. Being good and accomodating of others may enable us to get along with people without ‘rocking the boat’, but as you have described its dishonouring of ourselves and what we truly feel and only leads to frustration and resentment and the emergence of the victim mentality.

270. Wow powerful blog thank you. I know it is self-abusive every time I do not speak up and express how I feel in any situation.

     1. And there is such a freedom when we do just respond with how we feel – as we get used to it that comes out without the barbs and sleights that used to build up with them… and instead offer some truth to a situation, a reflection and more often than not an interesting opportunity for the conversation to go deeper.

271. We have had so much atrocity, corruption and devastation throughout history and we are still having them today. And all of this is there because the majority of us choose personal security and control, rather than honouring the depth of love, truth and power we carry in our heart and avoid at all costs the possible discomfort of sticking out of the crowd.

272. Blowing in the wind is a good analogy. The one I used for myself, was that of a pin ball in a pin ball arcade game. I felt like I was constantly being pushed from one event, or moment to the next, only to ricochet to the next event or moment… all out of control.

     1. Your pin ball is a great analogy too Rachel. Mine was to be a Chameleon – I would change my colour/ behaviour to fit in with whoever I was with so I would be accepted, even sometimes down to the clothes I would wear. At the time I prided myself on how great it was that I could do this, and had different types of friends that reflected each facet of my personality. Sad but true. But I eventually realised how way off that was from being true to who we are, when ultimatley we are all the same.

273. It’s funny but when it gets really windy I get really scared. Like the worst that’s happened has been a few tiles off the roof. I don’t like being out when it’s really windy either – it’s like I can’t breathe. Reading this and reflecting on my relationship with windy weather I know I’ve needed the outside world to stand firm, not saved in truth so that I have a chance of not wavering too. The anxiousness of a windy day is the same as the anxiousness of a world that is in turmoil and not being in stillness. This shows me I need to focus on my stillness and not look outside for it.

274. A simple answer to a seemingly mountainous task when looking at the global landscape of corruption and abuse. But actually one person comes into contact with hundreds or thousands of people every day so really ‘little me’ doesn’t exist.

     1. So true Leigh … and also it shows just how powerful an effect ‘little me’ can have on the world landscape.

275. ‘Blowing in the wind’ is here exposed for the harm that it causes society when the majority do not express their truth for fear of being attacked and ridiculed. It is only when we start to honour our bodies that we can bring about change for ourselves which will challenge the evil that has been allowed to proliferate for too long.

276. Whenever we think we are in control we are in fact controlled. Because as soon as we think we are in control we have a picture and thereby confined within that.

     1. So true, Jonathon, control lures us into believing that everything is ok, when in fact it’s not, as we are channeling everything into getting an expected outcome and in so doing we are dismissing the potential of what could be to be something far less.

277. When we sense the tension of abuse in our body do we clam up, ignore and hold back or do we respond to the tension and to what is needed. Our body is a wonderful marker if we listen and respond to it, to support and guide us to living love.

278. The oak and the reed fable, about one falling in the wind and the other bending doesn’t deal with the wind, it just shows the results of ignoring the wind!

279. Changing ourselves to fit into what others want us to be or what we think they want us to be is quite a common strategy to protect ourselves and to control our lives and the lives of others. Although we may think that we are being pleasing to others, it’s actually quite manipulative because it has an agenda and takes some doing.

     1. In truth, we all want everyone to be exactly who they truly are. Truth is the only point of reference that supports us to live the glory of who we truly are. Therefore, unless we are prepared to expose our true selves, we are all just playing a game with each other, creating a way of living that isn’t true. Worse than that, it’s incredibly destructive, as reflected in the state of our health and all the atrocities that are happening all over the world every single day.

280. I can imagine a lot and I have been very good at giving my power away thinking that this is a loving thing to do. Now, I realise it is, in fact, the opposite of love.

281. We only get swayed by the wind if we do not have a strong foundation of love.

     1. Having a daily rhythm which supports me and deepening and refining this rhythm is the key to holding a solid, foundation of love. If I am swayed at all by the wind it is a clear message for me to deepen the love I hold for self so that I bring a greater level of love in my body.

        1. Yes I agree Caroline Francis. I recognise this for myself too. If I skip some of the usual things I do to look after and nurture myself at the beginning of the day I find myself being a little careless and less loving in the rest of the day and that can make things more complicated, delayed, smooth flowing and generally less enjoyable and I can sometimes be more excitable.

     2. Wise words…the more I have built my foundation of love in my life the more aware I have become of any abuse or lack of love that still exists within it and the more confident I have become in calling this out and taking responsibility for making the changes that are needed.

     3. At the same time values and beliefs and like bindweed that entangle our lives and stop us from evolving!

282. Dear Anonymous I love your honesty! Thank you for sharing and not holding back that we can so easily repeat our old behavior as it can be so embedded in our bodies. Therefore the key to come out of this trap is our body as you so wonderful describe.

283. Realising that we are responsible for everything that happens in our lives makes such a difference as we move from victimhood to taking full responsibility for the energy in our every thought, word and deed.

284. This shows that if we do not heal things at a root level they re-emerge.

     1. Ain’t that the truth! It’s like that game for toddlers where you bang the mole and it pops up somewhere else to be banged.

     2. So true Vicky and also, when we avoid healing our hurts they get buried deeper and deeper and it is easier to cement them into our body that then restricts us from moving freely with love and joy. If we move a body full of hurt, it moves in a way that is closed, in protection and in an energy of victimhood but when we heal our hurts we are free to walk our true self and allow love to flow through us.

     3. And the only path to healing the root cause of our ‘issues’, is one of love, because we care enough about our selves to be completely honest, exposing the truth of what is actually going on. Pealing back the layers of protection that we’ve hidden ourselves under can be challenging and painful, however nothing hurts us more than not living the truth of who we are.

285. If we are not in harmony within ourselves no matter what we experience externally however ‘marvellous’ it may seem it will eventually never bring true satisfaction.

286. Interesting observation here about a whole heap of things in life. I used to carry extra weight, I feel it numbed me, in relationships I just got bigger and did not want to feel what was going on; honesty has naturally resulted in less bloating and weight gain.

287. ‘Somehow it felt like I couldn’t get anything right and the constant barrage of what I took as criticism slowly wore me down because I silently accepted everything for the sake of the relationship.’ It’s tragic how easily we can slip into accepting abuse, whether from our selves, or others, when, in truth, any blame/judgment is a way of avoiding taking responsibility for the role we or others play in the situation. Constructive feedback offers enormous learning, when it comes with love, it’s then our choice whether we are open to deepening our understanding or whether we take it personally and become defensive or upset.

288. It is the way we speak up that counts…the energy that we choose to express in and with. And changing from reaction to true response may not completely happen overnight – our actions do not always follow our best intentions -however the more we are aware and open to being and expressing the love and truth that we are the more we are offered to consolidate and confirm this way of being.

289. Living our lives as chameleons, adapting to everything and everyone around us, is detrimental to our health and well-being as it creates a constant anxiety and tension within our bodies that eventually affects our nervous system and adrenals – hence the high exhaustion rates that are masked by all the stimulants we consume.

290. “but I laughed it off and pretended I was having a great time.” – how much of this is humanity doing? Well at least the western world….quite a lot I would think. We need to start getting much more honest with ourselves.

291. Micro behaviour is what feeds the macro picture in the end…this is fascinating to consider and ponder on. Hence putting a stop to the little things that are not honouring in our lives, is actually supporting to put an end to the larger events of abuse happening in the world.

     1. This is empowering as it is too easy to give up and feel that we cannot make a difference but we can and the more we claim this the greater the potential for change.

292. How is it that we can be so quick to abandon what we know to be True for ourselves and choose instead a way of being that fits in or pleases others? Could it be that our foundation of self love and our relationship with our deepest part may not be that strong – which would then lead to being swayed so easily? Does this then not expose what is needed by us all to strengthen our connection with Truth – to develop our relationship with self and keep investing in deep care and love of the body and hence connection with Soul? This sounds so simple and it is, but the reality is that it is not always that easy to do because of the mass of past choices we have made in the opposite direction and hence which hold a momentum that can affect us and delay our relationship with Soul. Increment by increment is how it happens, like the turtle that won the race against the rabbit, not because of its speed but because of its focus and its capacity to maintain consistently the choice to keep moving forwards. Consistently making loving choices that foster our relationship with Soul and living these on a daily basis might just be the way to go.

     1. I agree, Henrietta, I am finding this too, that when we focus on how we are in each moment, some things constellate beautifully on a larger scale

     2. Thank you for the analogy of the turtle and the rabbit it is the daily focus to consistently make choices that feel supportive to our bodies. To reestablish a loving foundation that can then sustain us no matter what comes our way we will not be swayed.

293. Thank you Anonymous for this blog – in many ways I can relate to what you have shared, for I too learned early on in my life how to be a chameleon and fit in and be liked no matter where or with whom I was. I still sometimes fall back into that as a habit, but as you have said when we do not live who we truly are there is a resentment that can build up really easily and then this clouds our joy instantly. Life is hard to enjoy when you are not living who you are.

294. The thought of it being too much to deal with or turn around in itself is not true as we can change by making different choices. What we can not control though is our surroundings so a relationship or employment might end when we make different choices and so on but we ourselves are always free to change.

295. I agree – without choosing love for ourselves, there won’t be love to go around.

296. Getting along and fitting in is the opening that let’s evil reign. We seek refuge in similarity when we can find salvation in the energetic truth.

     1. ‘We seek refuge in similarity when we can find salvation in the energetic truth.’ – sadly, this is so true, we seek the comfort of fitting in perhaps as a form of protection, to avoid ridicule, being attacked or being ignored. In truth, our greatest protection is to be our amazing, divine selves and allow others to be who they are choosing to be, without letting their choices affect our choice to live the truth of who we are.

297. At high school I was bullied from the first year. To get back some status I became a ‘class clown’. I was in trouble quite a bit there after. It did not change how hurt I was and proves I too was blowing around in the wind. For instance, after I became a boarder I had to make friends. I moved from one group or friends to the next. Whatever was accepted the most I became. Eventually becoming one of the most looked at – the football players. Inside nothing changed and I did not want to feel it. Only when I began to feel and call out what is not true could I discard it.

     1. Wow Rik, this is a great sharing in turns of showing how we can attempt to fit in but all the time we can feel inside that this does not sit right and nothing changes, until such time that we no longer let ourselves be governed by the outside.

     2. This is so powerful to share, thank you for doing so. The honest reflection of how life can be is so refreshing. We often think it is normal to try and fit in, to blend in with the crowd, but there is inevitable damage in our lives from it. What about who we are without the trying. Being accepted for who we are. It is like wearing fancy dress and not revealing the beauty of who we are with out the labels and identities.

298. “The world’s change begins with the self when we individually choose to not accept self-abuse and to stop being so accommodating with others…” So true Anonymous. Standing on our own two feet and not accepting anything less than truth is a significant step towards true change for ourselves and the rest of the world.

299. Fitting in at the expense of ourselves can only ‘work’ for so long. The real hurt is not the feeling of being crushed by others, but going against ourselves and what we feel is true. I am learning more and more not to compromise this and have found a greater depth of settlement, contentment and strength inside.

     1. And the only one responsible for this is ourselves – this is the hardest pill to swallow as in the end it comes down to a choice we make ourselves!

     2. Beautiful, Rachel, I completely agree and can attest to how gorgeous it feels to choose to be true to yourself and honour how you’re feeling, rather than joining in with what’s going on around you just to fit in. I’ve had a few situations at work where I have been actively excluded, after feeling a prickle of hurt, I asked myself if I would have wanted to partake with the group and I could feel that I did not as there was strong pack energy at play. I let go of the initial hurt without feeling any resentment towards anyone else, understanding that that was how they were choosing to be in that moment.

300. Responding to the question what do we do when we see abuse happening your response feels so accurate “By calling out wherever we feel there is abuse and by honouring what we feel in our bodies and expressing it regardless of the outcome.” Expressing what we feel is so important. If we stand by and say or do nothing we are part of the problem, by enabling it to continue.

301. There are many ways I give my power away, some very evident but many very subtle, all those moments when someone else attempts to push me out of my shape in order to fit theirs. A continual work in progress to hold true to my integral boundary that is slowly empowering me to spot and call out the manipulation, denigration and corruption this world is steeped in.

302. So long as we blow in the wind and accept everything that comes our way without questioning it we will stay in our comfort zone and never speak up. As you have shown Anonymous this affects us, and long term can affect our health and wellbeing and allows the world to stay as it is. It is us changing our very old and ingrained patterns that will bring about the change that is so desperately needed in the world today.

303. Anonymous, many will relate to what you share. Blowing in the wind, being the perpetual chameleon, was also my way for decades, until I found Universal Medicine. Discovering our own true voice and holding it regardless of where we are or who we’re with is our steady standard for daily living and never is it relinquished to fit in or please another.

     1. Many indeed Kehinde as it is often the default to life itself. No purpose, no true direction just blowing from one place to the next. Yet when we truly open our eyes to the world, then purpose appears and there is no longer a blowing in the wind but a focused application of what is needed next.

        1. I love this David, when “purpose appears and there is no longer a blowing in the wind but a focused application of what is needed next.”

304. We fight our own divinity, there is a part of us that separated from the soul eons ago and created for itself the reality we have today. This other part of ourselves (spirit) created addictions so that our bodies became so disoriented from the truth we live a lie believing it is the truth, that’s how far we have fallen from the divinity we come from.

305. So many of us live with abuse, not realising that it is actually abuse, as to us, it is simply a normal way to live. Maybe this is what we witnessed growing up from the adults around us so we accepted it as normal, without question, and maybe it is because we don’t actually want to take an honest look at how we treat ourselves. Are we truly loving ourselves or do we let those little moments of self-abuse, like staying up too late, slide into normality, not being prepared to call them out as abuse, but simply saying – that’s life?

     1. Saying ‘that’s life’ or even accepting ‘that’s just the way he is’ is fine as it is part of being non-judgemental but if we feel deep inside that how we have been spoken to is abusive then it needs to be called out.

306. Getting it right, versus getting it truly – a distinct difference on one’s sense of well-being and energy levels.

307. ‘and all because I did not fully express who I was at any moment in time’. What a huge lesson, which I can very much relate too…This is very subtle, in how we contract and make ourselves small, nevertheless, it is a form of self-abuse. And what a difference I feel in my body when I do speak out or just express what is there to express.

     1. I had an interesting exchange recently with my husband where we almost had an argument until I stopped and simply said ‘I don’t understand why you do it that way’ and gave him space to explain. That gave me a different perspective and I let go of trying to be right. Harmony was instantly restored and it felt lovely.

308. Keeping a low profile so as to not upset anyone not only contributes to our own misery but that of the world also.

309. Have we all become tumbleweeds that get blown by the wind? We need roots that are solid as the oak and that can only begin by standing up to the evil that we have been supporting for far too long by our silence.

310. ‘Evil continues because we say nothing’ – there cannot be any excuse or justification to allow evil to reign… where there is abuse, there is evil and we can put a stop to it by speaking up. What is more important – keeping things together to not disturb the comfort or speaking up even if it means observing the reaction in others.

311. ‘Evil continues because we say nothing. This has to stop if the world is going to change.’ A powerful statement.

312. What I realise reading this article is that we get so conditioned to please others such as parents and teachers that we stop expressing what is true and stop being ourselves in order to fit in and ‘be good’ and not get told off. We then live a life of trying to get it right because we don’t want to rock the boat or stand out, from my experience this is crushing.

313. When we learn to understand what is going on in the world, and this is superbly portrayed in the latest Robin Hood movie produced by Otto Bathurst, change will happen from the grass roots up!

314. Anonymous, I love this; ‘The world’s change begins with the self when we individually choose to not accept self-abuse and to stop being so accommodating with others, no longer ‘blowing in the wind’ but calling out anything we can feel in our bodies that is not loving,’ Reading your article I can feel how much we accept even though it does not feel loving and true.

315. Politeness is also a big killer, saying words that other people want to hear.

     1. I agree Alexandre, it is really a form of lying when we do not speak from truth.

316. The winds of change can be felt when one by one and then many more choose to stand up for truth.

317. Fitting in has never done me any favours, it led me down a path which ended in misery and despair, rebuilding myself to know who I am has been a slow process but well worth every minute.

318. It is never too late for love.

319. What we need to understand is that we all have a unique expression and quality that we bring and they are all needed in this world.

320. ‘Some of us tolerate abuse without question, sometimes without even realising it is abuse and then once we do it is sometimes too late because we have allowed resentment to build up.’ – when we put up with abuse, whether it’s self inflicted or from another, resentment absolutely does build up as we are deeply hurt that we are allowing ourselves to be treated in this way and resent the fact that we’re not choosing to do anything about it, that we are making others more important than our selves.

321. I absolutely love the honesty with which you write the golden truth that you are sharing, Anonymous. I can very much relate as I have been quite a chameleon myself, changing colour to blend in and not draw too much attention. I can really feel how abusive it has been to live in this way and to not love and value myself enough to stand up and express how I am feeling, rather than opting to ‘go with the flow’.

     1. I too used to be a chameleon and even prided myself on being able to adapt to people and situations! Staying true to me and my values I now recognise is the only way forward. Others feel it and do what they feel with that – accept or reject it – and me. Learning not to take things so personally by knowing its all about energy and what they are aligned to that makes the difference, not them personally either….

322. Super wise words, as much as I fought it there is only one true answer and that starts with ourselves and the choices we make.

323. Thank you Anonymous for sharing so honestly about how life has been for you, and the choices you have made which you are now healing. For me this reminds me of the word “honour”, to honour all we feel and express it to those around us, not with reaction, but in our honesty, vulnerability, and with care for ourselves and others. We are all deeply hurt by allowing abuse to exist, so we must speak up.

324. ” Evil continues because we say nothing.” To say nothing is greater evil than the act perpetrated.

325. It is painful to keep repeating the same patterns and yet this is what we do because we are addicted to the vibration. Being aware of our patterns and observing them repeat themselves like a letting go of what doesn’t belong and over time we notice the patterns start to drop away.

     1. Yes, the more awareness we bring to the behaviours and what they feel like in the body the less hold they have on us, we start to very gently let them go. Ill-behaviours only have their way with us when we choose to be ignorant, defiant and arrogant towards the movement of the body. When we begin to accept the fact that every abusive movement towards the body has an impact on it and its surroundings and that over time causes illness and disease then we may think twice about the way we treat the body.

     2. There is something about the word addiction that resonates, most of us have addictions that we are not aware off I’m not talking here of the usual drug, drink or smoking addictions but life times of living a certain way that becomes a pattern that is so familiar it becomes second nature; it is who we think we are. Discarding these addictive patterns of behaviour I feel requires support and to me this is where the practitioners of Universal Medicine come into their own as they are incredibly supportive because they understand how our bodies instinctively know truth. However there is a part of us that will lie to keep control and it this part that holds on to the addictive patterns as it knows that once it starts to surrender to the soul it will loose its identity and this is what it fights often times at the expense of our bodies.

326. When we give our power away, this leads to resentment, misery, and exhaustion. It doesn’t make sense to do this but it is very common to live this way. This blog shows that we can make a different choice, and live in our full power without compromise or being blown in the wind.

     1. So true – giving our power away is so common and something I am addressing big time in my life now. We can make different choices and this is very empowering.

327. We are so supported in life. I read this today and it was exactly what I needed to read. Be open and the teacher appears, thank you.

328. It is true that by being more respectful and honouring of ourselves we are saying no to abuse, which has a ripple effect with all those around us – they feel this and then have a choice to also do the same or not, and this is how we change the world with each of us taking responsibility for our choices.

329. I can so relate to the ‘blowing in the wind’ analogy … calibrating myself to accommodate everyone else rather than staying true to myself. It is such a great wake-up call to feel this and understand it, to see it for what it is and to make the next choices more self-honouring and self-respecting.

330. ‘Blowing in the wind’ and metamorphosing into whatever we think is needed in every situation is detrimental to our wellbeing and ultimately to our health; it sets us up for victimhood and thus for resentment, if not bitterness or outbursts of rage.

331. One of the biggest mistakes we make is thinking that if we change our circumstances then this changes our patterns. Our patterns or addictions remain until we deal with them directly. Otherwise we keep repeating the same thing over and over again, not to punish but so we begin to understand that we repeat and repeat until we learn what is being presented in life. This then becomes a blessing not a judgement.

     1. Yes Jennifer a great myth exposed. To discover it’s not a situation that has to change, but ourselves, is a turning point and supports us to break cycles of self destructive behaviour. Until we change, nothing changes.

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