Colour and Class Distinction – Where Are You From?

As a woman of 38 years I have a mixed complexion that today is very normal, even the norm with the continuing integration of races, nationalities and cultures.

As a child growing up though, this was not quite so and ‘Skin Colour’ itself was a distinct theme which over the years had created a distinct sense of minority, inferiority, disadvantage, exclusion but also inclusion. And tainted by background or class, it seeded a supremacist ideal to spoil any ease or joy being felt or lived…

From a visual perspective I remember my looks confusing as much as fascinating and sparking wonder from people. I would get things like “…with that sounding name, where are you from?” and then they’d ask again “no, I mean where are you originally from?” And when I’d give the exact same reply to the first question, the third question came, “oh ok, but where are your parents actually from?”…

Such wonder makes sense given that my four grandparents are each from four different nationalities and in addition, they birthed and raised their children (my parents) not in their own country of nationality – so I’m a mix of White Russian, Polish, North Indian and French Seychelles nationalities, with Italy and East Africa being the places of birth for my parents. And since I was born and raised in the UK that totals a representation of 7 countries. Such questions about ‘where I’m from’ never caused offense, and I’ve become quite good in reading faces and countering what people might ask (of) me, and by virtue have always felt it normal to explain myself to people, just as much as it was ‘normal’ to want to get people’s acceptance or approval – to be included.

‘Englishness’ as well as education was encouraged at home because of how it would lead to inclusion into society, the necessary laying of roots, safety, security and… ‘a good life’. In spite of all the different colours within our family, skin colour itself was never an issue and I felt we were all the same, i.e. ‘colour-less’. Yet at the same time was the sense that background, colour, or foreignness was somewhat of an obstacle, a taint, even cross to bear, which would lead to an experienced inequality in life.

Although I didn’t suffer much from racism growing up, and could feel more fondness from others in regards ‘my looks’, I nonetheless still felt indirect silent racism from some teachers, friends, friends’ parents and neighbours that had become intertwined with another plague – self-comparison between my siblings.

Post-university I began to work in London and see all the different nationalities. It felt great to blend in and to not stick out, and I started to enjoy and love my complexion because it allowed me to relate with people from all over the world, with many thinking I was ‘one of them’. Equally, blending in was a way to fit in and be easy with people, colleagues and friends, and I began to adjust myself in various ways like moderating my voice or accent depending on who I was with, my appearance or clothes, or the type of men I dated and had relationships with. Even for work purposes and to increase my ease in employability (as was very common in the late 90’s), I anglicised my name to ‘Sophie’ to fit in. To be English.

Amidst the typical social climbing through activities, respectable friends, dinner parties, introductions, VIP nightclub scenes, I always felt ‘an outsider’: not only with regards the skin colour and class but also in regards to education in not having attended the ‘right schools’, the ‘right universities’, with the ‘right degrees’, that brought life-long ‘right friendships’… to end up with the ‘right boyfriend’ and eventually the ‘right husband’ to father kids… Education was the key to winning favour and also others’ acceptance. They were things, or more conditions I had longed for yet could not attest in having, to end up internally feeling quite failed, though externally through outer presentation looking successful, independent and strong.

When a long-term relationship ended with a guy who had all ‘the right educational, family and societal standing’, every light shone on the falsity of the relationship and its foundation, which had not been based on any deep true love, but more an idealised version from ‘right’ images that sat upon a pile of personal hurt and frustrations.

Experiencing senses of inferiority, inequality, or not feeling good enough for my partner, I saw that just by wanting ‘that right background’ in order to feel accepted, I only added to the inequality and supremacy that had been stinging its separatist tail for a very long time…

In 2006 I met Serge Benhayon: everything started to make sense as I spoke to him of my tension – “I just don’t belong or fit in anywhere”, “I feel no allegiance to any country”, “I don’t know why I was born into a family with such roots… which I love, but at the same time also do not”. Serge presented to me that it was to show me what I already did know; that the Soul knows no country, border, race or nationality i.e. confirming that my diverse racial heritage is what breaks down the belief that where we are from, matters. That to Soul it matters not which part of the earth we are from because where we are all from, and where we all belong to, is the same place – love.

Since that meeting, and over the years up until today in 2012, through continuing as a student with Universal Medicine and with healing many of the injurious hurts and afflictions, I realised that the insecurities or ‘outer shells’ I held about myself – colour, class, background, education, religion, nationality, and culture – had been keeping me separate, divided from everyone else. That they had not resulted in the very one thing I had truly longed for, which was to feel, and be, unified.

Furthermore, the ideals and beliefs I had exhaustively given my energy to, spawned issues of low self-worth, trust and confidence, and had given rise to an inflated sense of self or arrogance that stemmed from an initial sense of not ever being ‘good enough’ based upon ‘my background or upbringing’. And that if I was holding such notions of myself, I realised how I’d been tarring with the same insecurity brush all those I met, viewing them with the exact same judgment and criticism I placed upon myself…

Through developing the inner-most part of myself and self-accepting the beauty of this – as opposed to accepting the ugliness of the outer layers and impositions that only led to all the worldly differences and divisions of ‘outer shells’ – I completely transformed how I lived and held myself in life, with more ease and acceptance. Wholly embracing not just my own background and presentation but also others’ too in appreciation, knowing (contrary to before) that it really and truly doesn’t matter when it comes to Love. That although insult or racism can be hurtful, such attacks are only ever made to that outer shell (shells that we ourselves uphold), and dent not the inner-most natural part of us, the esoteric.

The esoteric way naturally makes sense and it is the most freeing way to be and to live life – and, from my own experience, living from all those outer shells in which everything gets personalised and made: “all about our colour, country, school, race, where we’re from, or not from” etc., are only excuses that serve to turn us away from love, and where we’re truly from – heaven…

It’s only really very recently that Serge Benhayon’s words in that first esoteric healing session made completed sense to me and it is with this reminder I am forever graced by the true love and magic that I am; that we all are.

by ZS, UK

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Brotherhood Here on Earth
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110 thoughts on “Colour and Class Distinction – Where Are You From?

  1. Thank you ZS for the reminder that it is with the inner aspect, the essence of another, is where solid foundations are formed to all true relationships.

  2. What is shared here has triggered for me how the same beliefs, ideals etcetra apply to many aspects of our heritage. Wether we come from mixed race or not is not the deeper issue, how we feel about ourselves and the beliefs we take on from the world are the true ill.

  3. Deeply beautiful a reminder for all of us that we create the belonging to those outer shells and that in fact underneath ‘it really and truly doesn’t matter when it comes to Love’ … we are always this, and can live this no matter what.

  4. “That to Soul it matters not which part of the earth we are from because where we are all from, and where we all belong to, is the same place – love.” This sums it up so simply and beautifully and as you have unravelled and we all deep down know the borders we have drawn cannot sustain when we let our hearts speak.

  5. Such a gorgeous blog to read ZS, thank you so much for sharing your experience, so much of society live lives as you have described only looking at the outer to find acceptance, so beautiful that you have found your true love, that no outer shell can cover, knowing that neither race colour of creed make any difference, for we all are love in our innermost and come from love.

  6. Thank you ZS for sharing your experiences, it has made me realise why 50/70 years ago there were very few mixed race marriages, and how families disowned their sons and daughters, life is changing it is becoming more acceptable, and when we see people from their essence there is no colour, no education, no class, we are all very much the same.

  7. Deep down we know that colour, race, culture and religion (to name just the most obvious ones) are only ever skin-deep and do not in truth divide us; it is when we strive for individuality and security and enter into competition with one another that these labels/classifications rear their head and are used to spawn division and gain an advantage over another equal human being/a group of them, at times a whole nation.

    1. Yes, so it is always just a superficiality when we play that card but never what we deep down feel and know to be true.

  8. We can never take another at face value for what is presented can be merely an empty facade that is created by the illusion of what the judgments of that particularly culture or society call ‘right’ – all the while we are deceived by this facade we can totally underestimate and miss the true depth and breadth of the beauty and potential that lies within.

  9. Its amazing how we give ourselves a hard time by not accepting that we are enough just the way we are, and that we are all the same in love but we all have different flavours to express that love.

  10. If this was the foundation of any philosophical and religious class we took in school we would have a totally different basis to stand on in this world – so many conflicts and complications would simply not be.

  11. Trying to know ourselves by the colour of skin, the race, the class, the education etc. doesn’t really work, they just put us into separate boxes to measure ourselves up against each other and what we end up with is just labels – we are much more than that. I really get a sense how supremacy and unworthiness are just the 2 sides of the same individuality coin.

  12. Great to talk about our investment in skin colour, race etc…for whilst we may not like being the target of racism etc. to what extent do we identify ourselves with e.g. skin colour and use it to gain advantage (as you mentioned ZS we can even change our accent to be more accepted)?

  13. As I was reading I was wondering about the companies now that check our DNA and how what they are confirming is that we all have the genetic code for all other backgrounds within us. To look at us you would never guess, but it confirms the truth of us all being connected and from us all being from everywhere. It also exposes the falseness that is a boarder or a culture what we may identify with.

  14. Once we connect to our inner beauty, the wisdom of our body and everything that wisdom is from – then race, gender, age and any other defining category seems much less important. Essence to essence is how we are designed to be with each other.

    1. “Essence to essence is how we are designed to be with each other.” So true and beautiful and so very simple. We can drop the many layers of disguise we have taken on and stand with each other in equalness.

  15. What a powerful and profound sharing – reaching my heart straight away. Noticing that all that is being shared is known in the heart, feeling it right within.. As when we connect to what is being said here – we allow ourselves to be part of the Universe again, part of that Something that is Us, that is ONE, the Oneness where we are from ! Gorgeous, my heart is filled with joy reading this. Knocks out any separation that we have introduced on earth (on this planet of life in the Universe).

  16. Coming back to our divine essence shatters’ any ideal and beliefs we have ever had around separation. From a place of connection and love we begin to feel the absoluteness that we are all one and the same. Beautiful sharing Zofia.

  17. It is amazing to read the words that Serge Benhayon spoke to you about the purpose of your heritage. How incredible that there can be such a purpose to the exact configuration of people that you were born in to. And how gorgeous that he was able to show you that this configuration is a confirmation of who you are.

  18. We all can feel that we ‘belong’ somewhere but we have made it about an outer identification and with that limit ourselves to only ‘belong’ to a small part, while we are all a part of the grand whole and thus never only just part of a part of the whole.

  19. Thank you ZS. We all know the power of simply being ourselves. Our steadiness and grace is there every time we do. Your article makes it simple and clear cut. It is not our heritage that makes us who we are, it is us.

  20. We have and still have a worldly problem with racism and class. This woman ZS and how she lives her truth now can truthfully change this longstanding issue with how she has proven to live. With all the wars, riots, diplomacy and short-standing peace we have experienced we can resolve it forever. “That although insult or racism can be hurtful, such attacks are only ever made to that outer shell (shells that we ourselves uphold), and dent not the inner-most natural part of us, the esoteric.” Beautiful!

  21. Superb blog ZS. You are perfect to write about this subject. I attended a high school college that was ‘prestige’ in what it produced. The first thing I was related to was the principal so I was looked after by my peers more than others by my last name. Second what location I came from I was classed and grouped. Thirdly, my skin complexion I was treated less would you believe it. It was racism and I was born in Australia. You were then classed by how good you were at rugby union. Many footballers from my school went on to play for the state or my country proving it to be a grade or class to meet in my school. It’s shocking how terribly entrenched this behaviour is starting from a very young age.
    I am proud to be who I am now. To choose my sensitivity, my feminity, my religion – my esoteric way. “I realised that the insecurities or ‘outer shells’ I held about myself – colour, class, background, education, religion, nationality, and culture – had been keeping me separate, divided from everyone else.”

  22. I love this blog, it unpicks so many of the ways we get caught in pictures of looks, where we’re from and how at the end it’s not about who we truly are, and ‘That to Soul it matters not which part of the earth we are from because where we are all from, and where we all belong to, is the same place – love.’ We have love sight of this and it’s important to see this, and how we come back to living this, we unpick all false ways we’ve bought into and this is a blog I will read over many times to see and feel my own false ways of how I’ve fitted in rather than living the love I am, and we’ve all done this in many ways.

  23. What I dearly sense from this blog is that we have a goldmine inside of us , a richness that has no end, that by choice can be lived and felt by all. And we have access to that love inside us every single day..and that Serge Benhayon is simply offering us tools that lead the way to this absolute richdom inside. BUT, and this is a great BUT, it always requires our full 100% commitment, as they are no magic tools, simply practical tools to connect. The rest will be given to us by our Soul naturally. Actually it always has, just we have possibly denied.

  24. W have used many things to highlight our apparent differences – complexion, race, gender, education, career, school, so many things. However like you have said ZS they are but an expression of what is truly inside, which is love. As I ponder on this it seems that we get something out of the differences, making us unique, individual. But we really need to consider how this has worked for us as humanity – which it clearly hasn’t and look for what is true and see what is already there that will truly unite. The illusion of difference.

  25. Reading this Z, I can feel how much of a distraction we set ourselves up for with looking for the right place in society, the right education, right friends etc., and how in fact we’re missing the one thing we all share – we are of and from love, and all the outer stuff does not matter, and if we give it credence either from the point of view of being on the right track, or being outside it, it’s in fact the same and we’re missing the point of the love we are.

  26. We would do well to remember what you’ve shared here ZS, every day of our lives. For it is so very easy to be swayed by the outer appearance of someone, their background, education, accent, and the rest – and not go that step deeper to connect with the essential nature of the person.
    After all, differences in features between nationalities and the rest, account for the most very minuscule part of our DNA – and yet we are, by and large, deeply identified by our own nationalities, let alone our view skewed when we see and connect with others…

  27. Such wisdom and beauty in your words here ZS. To go past ‘the outer’ and to what really matters, is what all of our relationships are truly about. How amazing that you come from such a rich and diverse background family-wise, and yet, how powerful, that you know that the truth of who we are runs far, far deeper, and in this, we are innately all one.

  28. Discrimination can happen at all walks of life. It’s always surprised me when it’s come my way having a face and hair that people have interpreted as coming from certain backgrounds etc. I’ve often got asked where am I from and it’s a mixed bag but reflecting on this now I have given answers that people accepted as what is true, mother from x father from x grandmother x etc. but what’s fascinating is a feeling that people are dissatisfied with the answer! It’s like there is more to it than that. And there is. I don’t identify as being half this or quarter that but that we are all here together but none of us is a particular race or country. We are one soul and perhaps that’s the answer people really are expecting to hear for themselves.

  29. An amazing breakdown of how we allow our outer shells and their resultant hurts to define us and all along in us is an inner most which is ever true and exists in all, no matter the outer shells, be it background, gender, work etc. So do we live from the outer shells and try to fix the issues there or find a comfortable identity we can sit or do we come back to our inner most and live life from there?

  30. ‘Soul knows no country, border, race or nationality.’ And how true this is, the relief of being able to be ourselves is tangible. To stand out is something we all too often shrink away from. Yet to stand out and shine is so needed in the world. Remembering that Soul knows no boarders is like having an anchor to keep us firmly rooted in a foundation of universality.

  31. When we look at people just from the outside, we see a lot of diversity, different shapes, colours and sizes, but when we connect within and from that inner connection look at people we can feel that we all carry the same essence and look the same on the inside.

  32. The images we create from lining up all the perceived ‘right’ way of doing things causes us to be constantly seeking outer influences to fill that perceived emptiness within. This will never ever fulfill our being because true nourishment comes from within.

  33. I just love ‘That although insult or racism can be hurtful, such attacks are only ever made to that outer shell (shells that we ourselves uphold), and dent not the inner-most natural part of us, the esoteric’. We spend so much time protecting ourselves from these things with facades and the like, without realizing that the part that really matters is untouchable and holds the truth that we are all one and the same beneath them.

  34. The kind of equality that ZS is talking about here is beautiful because it goes so far beyond skin or culture or nationality – deep. What we have here is an example of being-equality. I wonder why on earth we pay so much attention to the differences that divide us and I am reminded of how clever the mind likes to think it is, that it has power over the human body to disassociate itself from what it is naturally a part of. But in reality, this is a game that can only last so long, as eventually our human bodies do begin to ask to be a part of the bigger picture again, and eventually we will all want to listen, as the extremes of illness and disease sky rocket out of control – even more so than they are now.

  35. Thank you ZS. This article shows that the United Nations should be One Nation as there is no separation within the inner-heart of every person on Earth. When we identify ourselves with any group we equally separate others into different groups instead of feeling that in our essence we are all one and the same.

  36. Great blog ZS! I have been around so many people of different cultures, backgrounds and nationalities in my life that for me the outer is actually a beautiful expression of a different quality of the inner. I have learnt to appreciate that no matter what background a person is from their inner qualities are always Divine and hence Divinity, Love and Truth can be brought to any outer expression

  37. A truly powerful explanation of what it feels like not to belong and how we put that sense of separation on ourselves through applying layers of ‘not good enough’ by any means available when all that’s really needed is to live from our innermost, where we truly know that we are all, underneath everything, equal and connected.

  38. “Serge shared: ‘it is to show you what you already do know; that the Soul knows no country, border, race or nationality’, i.e. confirming that my diverse racial heritage breaks down the ill belief that where we are from, matters.” Love this Zofia. So many of us felt we didn’t fit in – for various reasons – but our soul knows no barriers. We are all alike under our skin.

  39. I am also a half cast, being born to a Japanese father and a Australian mother. During my life I have discovered that my appearance does not dictate me to a nationality. If a person is trying to guess my background, if they be Japanese or Australian, 50% think I’m one of them and 50% think I’ll something else. This is how silly nationality is. It is based completely of perceptions of colours and feature which affect naught the person’s being. Looking at someone’s completion is a cheap and short cut way to help hone our security on whom to be around or not.

    Most of the time people can’t even accurately pick what nationality you are, which highlights that nationality only exists because we continually put energy into it to exist.

  40. “I had been tarring with the same insecurity brush those I met, viewing them with the exact same judgment and criticism”. I know well what you express here ZS. I never felt I belonged anywhere or to any group yet reading your blog I realised I chose to live in different countries, marry in a very different culture, have friends from different nationalities but my own… It is a paradox that only came to light through reading you. Since becoming a Universal Medicine student I know that I belong to the human race, that I am no different to anyone else, that my appearance is only a shell, that life is bigger than all the differences my eyes can detect. And as a result life is so much more joyful.

  41. ZS you know all too well the insidious nature of exclusivity, status and elitism and have felt the separation in the societies around you. You know to the core that these are all false and based in insecurity, I would even say that anybody who looks down on another ironically, has a lack of self worth. I would also say that those of us with mixed color, class, background, education, religion, nationality, and culture are there to show people that these things only take people away from the love in their hearts. it is our responsibility to call out the separation and bring out the unity in the people of the world.

  42. Thank you ZS for honestly sharing your experience with ‘fitting in’ because of your colour and diverse family background.
    What a beautiful daily inspiration you are to all you meet when love is your true foundation, breaking down the barrier of nationality, race, religion or colour of skin as being important.

  43. I relate to what you share about our ‘outer shells’, we often attack each other for the differences that are apparent on the outside and yet we all have far more in common on the inside, our differences and issues with each other are very superficial but some how we often exacerbate and exaggerate what is not us. We are equal, we all have an inner light, an inner wisdom and divinity in equality and it only takes a choice to feel it in ourselves and appreciate it in others.

  44. Great to re-read your blog ZS. You are a true citizen of the world. I have always had the view that we are one human family or human species and anything that we have invented on this planet to divide us up into culture, religion, class and nationality only keeps us separate and at odds with each other. As your blog shows we all know deep down that this does not feel right but we just go along with it believing it is the only way. But as Universal Medicine has shown us, there is another way to consider human life and there are many who are now starting to live this way.

  45. Thank you for sharing your journey of acceptance of yourself ZS and how all the ‘outer shells’ kept you in separation for so long until you chose to live from your beautiful inner essence that is then reflected in everyone around you. It’s amazing how we all manage to find issues that keep us separate even if we visually appear to fit in with whatever society we happen to be in and fail to understand that ‘the Soul knows no country, border, race or nationality’.

  46. Thank you, ZS, for sharing Serge Benhayon’s responce to your concerns – “‘it is to show you what you already do know; that the Soul knows no country, border, race or nationality” – the depth of love held in this sentence debases any ‘issue’ we might identify ourselves with. The understanding that’s offered here is just enormous. Thank you for sharing.

  47. This is a great blog ZS, and really highlights how all these things -colour, race, class, nationality etc. act as a great complication to excepting the simplicity that we are all equal.

  48. If we can accept ourselves we do not have to look to others outside of us for acceptance, or to feel worthy. Colour, race, class, nationality etc are just illusions to keep us separate should we so wish to play that game.

  49. ZS, your experience with Serge Benhayon sharing with you ‘that the Soul knows no country, border, race or nationality’ is so true. I love how you describe that our culture, race and colour are only our outer mask, our outer shell, and that innately underneath all that we are all the same. Great blog.

  50. Very honest and beautiful blog ZS. What it highlights for me is how crazy it is that a woman of so many cultural influences, you would think would feel at home almost anywhere and with anyone but yet because we are fixated on homogeneity of race or culture and want to easily place people in a convenient box, your mixed race diverse heritage made you feel isolated rather than included.

  51. Thanks for sharing ZS ! It becomes more and more apparent as I go along that race, education, where you come from or the family that you have really doesn’t matter. It’s more about who You are and how you want or choose to live.

  52. A wonderfully honest sharing ZS and I particularly love what Serge Benhayon shared with you at your first session regarding the lesson that was coming from the many nationalities that comprised your family: “ that the Soul knows no country, border, race or nationality.” How amazing it would be if children were taught this from day one: perhaps we would then be living in a world of harmony and brotherhood, not one where our differences are used to create such huge degrees of separation; a reality that deep down inside we know not to be the true way of living.

  53. Thank you for sharing ZS. Wow what an upbringing and mix of backgrounds you have. I love how you have come to the realisation that no matter what people may say, or how you may feel we all deep down are the same equal beings regardless of race, skin colour, nationality, etc..

  54. Thank you for your beautiful sharing ZS. I am hopeful that as the world becomes more culturally blended the ideal of fitting into an outer appearance to belong will lose it’s hold on humanity and that relating to each other for who we are, as equal sons of God, will prevail.

  55. This is absolutely groundbreaking ZS. I love how you expose the ill belief that our racial heritage breaks matters, by bringing it back to our true heritage – our divine origin. Yes our divine heritage matters as we are all Son’s of God!

  56. Your example, ZS, shows clearly how human beings learn to act and react in reaction of other peoples’ reactions and issues. Life becomes a series of games in comparison. We all learn to find relief in feeling more than others while others swim in misery of feeling less than others. All that to avoid feeling that we are equally human, equally have a Soul, and equally are Sons of God.

  57. Beautifully written ZS. It’s very inspiring to read how your expression has developed and that you are not influenced by the separative nature of the ideals and beliefs you once had.

    1. Indeed Peter, it is inspiring to read how someone who was so caught up in the culture divide we experience in society is no free of it, showing us all that no matter who we are, where we come from or what colour our skin is we are all the same.

  58. Beautiful ZS. It is really quite shocking the things we do to de-form our true selves, our true expression in order to fit in, or blend in so as not to stand out in the brilliance that we naturally are from within. Thank you for the wisdom you have shared. We are all equal in our grandness yet beautifully unique in our expression. Your return to your brilliance is truly inspiring – thank you for sharing.

  59. ZS, this was just a pleasure to read and so beautifully written. I loved how you exposed the shells we carry ‘that cause painfully-felt separation, individualism and exclusivity’ and hide our natural expression because in truth they do not matter, for on the inside there is equality… we are all the same. Gorgeous.

  60. This is amazing ZS, as there is so much in what you share. The greatest revelation being that it is not our outer shell/beliefs and ideals that define us, but what we hold within. A truly beautiful article to read – thank you.

  61. Beautifully written ZS, and beautifully exposing of all the ideals and beliefs that keep us separate; colour, class, background, education, religion, nationality, and culture. Your words offer healing and truth, the Soul just IS, equal in all of us. Thank you for your clear expression.

  62. It’s so beautiful to read your sharing of how you got to understand that – no matter what nationality, religion, culture, skin colour, hair colour – we are all the same inside and totally equal. And we all want to give and receive love. It’s simple.

  63. This is a great blog, ZS and one I can relate to as I am of light brown skin and I have been called plenty of names in the past. I get asked a lot if I am Greek or come from the Middle East. If I say I am from London, they ask again as they want to know more. They know the colour does not fit white English so then I go on and say my parents are from India and I was born in London.
    I love what you said about another denting the outer shell but that it cannot touch the innermost core and for me this is true. I recently felt racism in full blow and at first I thought, ‘How did this happen?’, then I had the understanding (thanks to the teachings of Serge Benhayon) but underneath I remained me and it did not affect me. As you say at the end of your amazing blog – not to take things personally. That sure helps.

  64. Beautiful post ZS, lovely to feel and read your journey to truly knowing in you that the soul has no nationality, race, class or colour. Isn’t it amazing no matter what our background we all have masks we put on to fit in, different ones in different situations often and it’s super exhausting and having done this for years I’m now finding as I let go and allow more of just who I am out, it’s such a relief, and so much easier to relate to people. That’s what I really felt reading your blog, no matter who we are, underneath we’re all the same and just want to connect with each other. Thank you for an awesome blog.

  65. Your story echo’s the lives of many of us and for me I can relate to the searching and bettering of myself. Gaining the next qualification, improving physical fitness, becoming a better person… Constantly refining. Ahhh the relief to just go about living, loving and honouring what was already there, my inner love.
    Thank you for a healing post!

  66. Thank you ZS for this beautiful article. Those words uttered by Serge ‘the Soul knows no country, border, race or nationality’… wow, so, so true. Being of mixed nationality, I could relate to alot of what you shared, never the sense of belonging, ‘those’ people not being able to understand etc. With the support of Serge and Universal Medicine over the last 2 years, I’m gently, steadily reconnecting to the beautiful essence within, as you have said, the inner quality. And what I can feel is how that has always been untainted, untouched by all the separativeness I felt growing up in a ‘foreign’ country, with ‘foreign’ people while I spoke a ‘foreign’ language. I’m also realising that I can choose to live my life from those shells and keep all that up, keep up being separate, or I can choose to live and express from what I now feel within, the lovely, tender essence that is equal and just as pure as what is within everybody else too. I choose to live from the loveliness inside and not from those shells that keep us all apart.

  67. ZS, thank you for your loving expression. We really are all the same and yet, there are so many ways in which we feel as though we don’t fit in with the “norm” and are teased/singled out/etc. in our lives. For many people it is about nationality and skin color. For me, it was my size – being too thin of all things. I used to eat and eat and eat (all the wrong things of course) to try to gain weight so I would not be teased as a kid, and it never worked. No matter how much I ate, I would still be skinny. I used to hate my body and feel so uncomfortable with how I felt others would view me and talk to me, as though there was something innately wrong with me, some problem that I was born with… But then in the past 3 years I’ve learned so much about the choices I’ve made that are not true and loving, and the choices I can make that are more supportive. To learn about who I am in truth, and then to see this same beauty in others, it’s amazing… ZS, your words are so heartfelt and true. It’s joyful for me to read your blog. 🙂

  68. Beautiful expression of the loveliness of you ZS and Serge Benhayon shared: ‘it is to show you what you already do know; that the Soul knows no country, border, race or nationality’.
    Your blog is a testament to the truth of that statement. Thank you, inspiring.

  69. Thank you ZS for expressing so beautifully how we can all choose to let go of so many ideals and beliefs regarding race, nationality, class etc. to find our true selves waiting inside all along. It was especially enlightening for me to read the section that described how if one is holding on to feelings of “not being good enough” that it fosters an exaggerated sense of self or arrogance that gets transferred to others as judgement too. I can certainly relate to that from my personal experience.

  70. Inspiring sharing ZS – it is utterly crazy how we (many of us) learn from young age to measure the differences, rather than being allowed/allowing ourselves to learn and feel that – in fact, we are all equal!

    1. Absolutely crazy our focus on the differences between us, whereas we are all the same, yet with an unique expression and come from the same source: from divine love.

  71. I can relate to what you are saying about the outer shell or mask. Growing up I was a fat child, that is what people saw when they looked at me – the fat. The fat was of course a protection for me but it made me invisible as the fat was what people related to, not the child I was inside or the adult I became. Nothing else was seen, so I grew up with people relating to the outer shell, I could feel judgements being made constantly about the outer shell I carried. Being invisible however allowed me to see the world others could not. I was able to see very clearly how people related and the games they played with each other. This confirmed my view of the world as alien and it was a world I desperately wanted to be a part of yet at the same time could not relate to at all.
    Whilst I was aware that others saw my fat as alien, my fat also felt alien to me. I knew on some level I was not that, but that is what I carried for the world to see. When I came to my first Universal Medicine workshop and met Serge Benhayon, here was someone who actually spoke to me, not my shell. The gentleness of his manner and the openness he presented with was something I had not experienced before. I had ‘searched’ all my life, from Yoga to Reiki and all manner of ‘new age’ type modalities, Serge was the first person I found who saw me as I am and who spoke the truth, who didn’t see me as fat or a shell. This has introduced me to a way of being that allows me also to meet people for who they are and not for what they look like, sound like or for what they do.
    It’s been a process of discarding the fortress of separation I had built but it’s been hard work and great fun in the process. I become more me everyday, and as a bonus I’ve dropped from size 24 to size 10, it’s great not to be carrying that barricade of protection around and great to learn to be me, as equal to everyone else.
    Thank you ZS.
    Ariana Ray, Wales, UK.

    1. Great sharing Ariana – this should make it into a complete new blog – must be huge for so many children as they are getting larger and larger and other children’s tolerance (as well as adults’) gets lesser and lesser!

  72. Thanks for sharing your story ZS. It is representative of life in the 21st century. We all have mixed heritage, even those of us with blonde hair and blue eyes. We are born in one country, but we live in another. We are just people of planet earth. We are all ONE.

  73. Thanks for sharing ZS.
    I can totally relate to this – even though I do not have the nice tan I have a very German name and being born and grew up in New York, USA did not help. Then living and studying in Germany were everybody picked up my accent and now in Australia just adds to the mix.
    I enjoy it now but as a kid & teenager I had my struggles.

  74. Your words are so beautiful, they echo the Love that comes from the Ancient Halls of Wisdom, ZS I really appreciate all you have shared, it has been very healing for myself and touched me very deeply, Thank you.

  75. Awesome blog ZS, I got a healing reading it. What you express resonates from my own feeling of ‘sticking out like a sore thumb’ in school and other situations where I wasn’t ‘the same’ as everyone else. Thank you.

    1. We can choose to focus on the outer shells or the inner beauty that is equal in everyone. When we do the former it leads to inferiority, separation snd suffering. Which is why I’ve never been drawn to enjoining conversations about having allegiance to a certain sport or any other cultural leaning. When we live with a focus on the innermost part of us we find that regardless of culture or nationality or race we are all so very much the same. And when we talk with people from another side of the world the connection can be so rich and beautiful, for we feel the unequivocal equallness of the beauty we all come from in that connection. No cultural comfort zone can come close to this.

    2. Likewise, I can relate Jane and ZS. I was very much the odd one out with a different look in high school and the looks and taunts I would get would make me feel very uncomfortable wanting to disappear. Reading your blog ZS reminded me of what I felt and it was very beautiful to wash any hurt I was still holding on to for that time with the love I feel and know that I am now. If we were all taught in school that it is what is within us that truly matters, we would have much less bullying and alienating behaviour in schools.

  76. ZS, this is an amazing and remarkable piece of writing which documents so articulately the separative consciousness of class, race, religion, nationality, and culture. This piece is totally universal (and so also ‘medicinal’!) and applies to everyone without exception. This doesn’t make it at all ‘samey’. It has been seeded forth with your own adorable ray magic, with your brilliant ability to observe and speak truth, with your profound commitment to unification.
    As you say, the ‘shells’ of education (the way it is currently), accent, class, skin colour, even home decoration, are all used as agents of either separation or enjoining, always leaving everyone cut-off or falsely secure, unable to rejoice in the Love that we are. The more I am aware of my own mental constructs the more I can see how people are unconsciously and erroneously using these shells, these ideals and beliefs, as their protective shields – if someone can place you and put you in a box then you can be kept at bay. At the same time nobody, but nobody really wants to live in that flat, dried out world – we all long to fully know the living pulse of love. But you have said all this and much more! Thank you for your AMAZING blog and for being you.

    1. I agree lyndysummerhaze that all these shells are ‘used as agents of either separation or enjoining, always leaving everyone cut-off or falsely secure, unable to rejoice in the Love that we are’ which causes so much pain whether you are held within a group or excluded because deep down we all know that it is false so there is a feeling of constant insecurity. It is only when we can recognise that we are all equal and live from there that we can start to feel ‘at one’ with the world around us.

  77. Amazing ZS, thanks for taking the time to express all that. You have so clearly captured the inspiration from your session with Serge – presenting a truth to you, and you then unfolding that truth for yourself. It is so clear to feel that this is now YOUR TRUTH and such a pleasure to read how you got there. Very inspiring thank you!

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