I would like to share an experience I had a while back that made me realise just how powerful our choices can be.
I was in London for the weekend to attend the Esoteric Developers Women’s Group, a group that explores what it is like to live as a woman in today’s society. The group presents Women’s Health from a different and non-imposing perspective where taking responsibility for our own wellbeing and our choices is part of the key topics presented.
As I left my hotel in the morning I noticed it was very warm and humid outside. I had my whole life struggled with humidity, it made me go warm headed, sweaty and really uncomfortable. I would say I was extraordinarily sensitive to it and it has always had a huge impact on my wellbeing.
So my first thought was “Oh! this is going to be a sticky day”. The next moment I wondered “where did that thought come from?” To be honest it felt like a bit of a curse! As if at that moment I purposely chose/demanded of myself to step into a world of well-known discomfort. I could feel how it automatically made me go into hardening my body, as well as feeling a subtle but nagging anxiousness. I could literally feel how my body braced itself to make it through the discomfort.
By the time I got to the event, this profound realisation (the fact that I actually had activated the discomfort myself by choosing an old and very negative spiraling thought pattern) made me feel very uncomfortable (so double discomfort at this point…).
And I acknowledged that I AM NOT the discomfort. I am the precious woman that left the hotel a few minutes earlier feeling truly lovely! What I realised was how up until this point I had identified with the discomfort and given it fuel in the form of negative thoughts that made it grow bigger.
So, there I was, having realised and acknowledged this self-made setup, and I could either choose to keep myself trapped in that crippling pattern or I could choose differently: which was to stay empowered and connect back with myself and the loveliness that I felt in my body before I chose to comply to this old pattern.
I chose the second option.
In order to truly connect back with my body and not make this a mind thing, I chose to go for a few minutes walk down the Hyde Park promenade. Walking is for me one of the major ways to bring myself back to me and my body when I find myself hooked in by the mind, by emotions or by anything coming from outside of me. In this particular case I was walking with acceptance, as taught by Serge Benhayon.
When I am walking with all of me, all of who I am, no holding back (no doubt or fear, no judgement or arrogance etc) – just plain and simply ME – there follows a natural acceptance of ME and an acceptance of ALL around me that is deeply felt and known.
It’s a feeling of simplicity and grace.
Instead of staying trapped in the old pattern of reacting to the physical discomfort and hence hugely magnifying it, I allowed myself to not only connect to who I truly am but also with that, connecting to everyone and everything around me equally.
Did the discomfort change? – Completely!
It was amazing to feel how easily the presence of myself was regained. It was no big process; it just felt lovely, natural and totally uncomplicated.
The humidity hadn’t changed, but how I responded to it had changed.
How can something so incredibly uncomfortable not only change, but turn into something completely different so easily??
The answer is simple – THE POWER OF CHOICE.
Forever and deeply inspired by the Esoteric Women’s Health as well as the entire work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
By Eva Rygg, Norway
425 thoughts on “The Power of Choice”
Reading this blog reminded me that we simply have a choice as to which way we want to take life to be. This statement confirmed it, ‘that I AM NOT the discomfort’ that we are not identified by it, even though some people identify themselves by those ailments.
We are more then this and it is the willingness to make that choice is the key. Once we make that choice, it requires commitment and consistency and the rest is taken care off.
This statement applies to anything, ‘The humidity hadn’t changed, but how I responded to it had changed’. When we loose ourselves in the reaction, then we are in the issue. If we stay present or connected to ourselves then, the issue stays outside of our bodies and we don’t become absorbed in it. A marked difference.
Consider what our lives would look like if we lived from this and, how we respond to any situations. Wouldn’t our lives then be more enriched and joyous? I feel so…
Eva, I also love how you have shared about the walking being a tool that you use to support yourself back to being all of you – movement and walking in particular is super powerful even though it is such a simple thing to do and inexpensive at that too! I too love using this to support myself but I admit that I do forget how easily accessible it is to us and I do not use it often enough – so this is a fantastic reminder for me! Thank you!
Yes a great reminder that a simple walk can bring us back. It is a stop moment to reconnect to every body part without picking up the phone and calling another. It’s a check in point as to where we are in ourselves and this can be done anywhere, in other words within an area that allows you to walk.
There is also a choice to go for a walk or not go for a walk. One allows the opportunity to re-connect, the other allows you to remain in the issue. They’re both choices offered continually.
The simple choice to allow a thought to have control over us or not is a powerful process which of course requires an awareness of how we are thinking all of the time so that we can catch these moments as needed. Awareness awareness awareness. And of course awareness of our movements is important too as these will of course affect our thoughts.
Choices are indeed very powerful and with each choice comes a consequence that then teaches us much about responsibility – a word we often shy away from but in fact is the key to our own growth and evolution.
We don’t have to be stuck in the rut of our patterns of reactions, we can choose to be who we are whatever the weather of event that is blowing our way.
And, it is our choice as Eva showed in this blog, ‘having realised and acknowledged this self-made setup, and I could either choose to keep myself trapped in that crippling pattern or I could choose differently: which was to stay empowered and connect back with myself and the loveliness that I felt in my body before I chose to comply to this old pattern.’
It’s so true – when we don’t make a choice, we keep ourselves trapped in the pattern repeating itself over and over and over and over. Even when it is very uncomfortable, there’s something very comforting in familiarity as it does not ask us to stop or change.
This morning I wake up exhausted, stub my toe and other things go ‘wrong’. But I stopped myself and said it doesn’t HAVE to be this way today. Yes I am exhausted but I don’t HAVE to make it worse by being negative about it.
Life lived from the inside out does not allow the outer to interfere. It is when that connection with ourselves is left that any wild thought can intrude. How simply and graceful that reunion can be as you share here.
Your blog highlights the power we hold in the movements we make, to either react or simply respond to life. Thank you Eva.
We can choose to walk to connect with our body as Eva chose, ‘When I am walking with all of me, all of who I am, no holding back (no doubt or fear, no judgement or arrogance etc) – just plain and simply ME – there follows a natural acceptance of ME and an acceptance of ALL around me that is deeply felt and known.’
There does come a time when we have to make the choice to let go of old perceptions of ourselves and be willing to accept that there is more to us than we what we have run with for lord knows how long.
To accept and then surrender to simplicity and grace is the way to be with ourselves and to not go in reaction to what is outside of us and not in our control to change.
This we should learn from young onwards: that we are not the product of our environment.
It is very liberating and empowering to realise and feel that we are not our thoughts and that our thoughts in fact are a response to the quality of energy we have aligned to. When our body and being is aligned to our Soul our thoughts signify the honouring of this as an expression of love and truth.
This is indeed a very sobering realisation – for sometimes we can have thoughts drop in that are not supportive and loving and instead of being critical of ourselves for having such thoughts. It is exposing of our movements and hence our alignment and can be a great clue to us that we need to move and adjust how we are so that the true source of energy can flow through us unopposed.
We make ourselves so dependant of the outside world, meanwhile how we feel can be entirely detached from what is going on around us. And that is the beauty that we can bring to this world, to be ourself and bring this in full to everything we do. Only this will truly change the world.
I love coming back to the simplicity of this blog and being reminded of how powerful our choices are, we can either experience misery or magnificence it is all up to us and the quality of our movements.
We are powerful, and as you say Anna, it is up to us and our choices, how we choose to move, ‘Instead of staying trapped in the old pattern of reacting to the physical discomfort and hence hugely magnifying it, I allowed myself to not only connect to who I truly am but also with that, connecting to everyone and everything around me equally.’
Doesn’t this demonstrate that we are one hundred percent in control of the direction our lives go in? How many times do we have a bad day or a bad moment where we feel uncomfortable or whatever and by virtue of not choosing to change it we are choosing to stay in it. I think we massively under-estimate the power we have to change things.
Well said Meg – in fact considering it like this is rather confronting as it shows the masterminds we are to have terrible or amazing days all engineered by our very own hands so to speak. We have a choice and it it through these choices that we learn and then learn some more, build consistency and grow.
It makes no sense that the world carries on whilst we all lack the love in our lives ; in our living ways. It is like God’s walking life as UnGod’s. That would equally make no sense too. We are loving beings, we just have chosen to let go of that innate beingness and create something different — that we all can observe, is loveless. Time for a change. Creation is not it, it has to come from inside us – our Love, that is always of co-creation with God.
When we keep it simple and don’t give attention to any complicated or negative thoughts we get shown how we can go with the flow of harmony.
Everything we give energy to magnifies itself. It is interesting to observe the same situation handled in different ways and how this completely changes our experience of it.
So let us give energy to love, and allow that to magnify, not to discomfort, or what is not love, ‘I acknowledged that I AM NOT the discomfort. I am the precious woman that left the hotel a few minutes earlier feeling truly lovely! What I realised was how up until this point I had identified with the discomfort and given it fuel in the form of negative thoughts that made it grow bigger.’
We are very powerful ‘creators’, though we have a choice each moment and with every movement to create hell or heaven so to speak.
Swimming in discomfort is a whole body choice of moving in disassociation from ourselves.
This really exposes our willingness to have issues and discomfort! Because we are the masters of our own life, even though it might need a consistent different choice, we can turn everything around by choice.
Consistent is a key word here, I think often we think making a choice once is enough – it’s a great start but I find choices need to be made consistently and rarely maintain themselves as a one-off decision.
If we create every situation and every discomfort and struggle, then I wonder what is possible if we stop focusing and putting effort into what’s wrong and put the same amount of effort into forging a new, incredibly loving, incredibly steady way forward?
Appreciation is very unifying…
We have the choice to feed the non-supportive thoughts that keep our bodies hard and tense OR to let them go and open our wings to bring our amazingness wherever we go. It’s up to us.
I love reading your experience Eva, it feels very empowering. How life-changing walking with acceptance of ALL of us can be, this includes the beauty, the grace, the simplicity, the pure gorgeousness of who we really are…no matter what’s going on outside we can return to ourselves in such a simple way. There is no greater choice that makes me feel more blessed and truly joyful than this.
Very awesome Eva. I remember when I first reconnected back to my Soul (essence) and returned to my path of healing / discarding and catching those thoughts that I had always run with as if it was me. It was great to feel me nominating and renuniciating that they were not me.
A great reminder to choose quality first and foremost and then all our next choices follow in line – thank you.
That is a great sharing Eva – how we can mentally lock ourselves into a set-up because we default to this. But what you have shared is the possibility of approaching something differently and knowing that the environment can be the same but that we are always changing.
I like the terminology you have used HM
“how we can mentally lock ourselves into a set-up because we default to this.”
What I don’t feel we understand is just how many default programs are running our bodies, we think we are okay but actually we have been preprogramed to live a certain way without out ever knowing it in some cases. To the point where we will defend what we know in our minds which could be completely different if we lived from our bodies.
I agree a wonderful example of the ‘power of choice’ we can choose how we respond to life and the quality of the thoughts we entertain. Love it.
I just read a quote by Serge Benhayon, that one choice leads to the quality of the next moment, and this blog is a great reminder we are never “stuck” in our choices as we sometimes like to think we are, and that every choice has the potential to liberate and empower us from whatever we are stuck in and start us back on the road of rediscovering what is possible through our moment to moment choices.
Before choice comes movement, we move in accordance to the energy we have aligned to, and this energy gives us the array of choices available under its impulse. So alignment is what creates life.
That is our power of choice Eva, we can set ourselves free from the imprisonments as long as we are honest and willing to let go of them… Change.
Love it. Love it deeply as we are powerful beings when we move on and let go – we expand.
‘I had identified with the discomfort and given it fuel in the form of negative thoughts that made it grow bigger’ Great point Eva. This is indicative of what our mind can do when we let it have its way without checking from which stream our thoughts are coming from.
Amazing how our mind behaves as if it knows what the body is going to experience is going to be liked before the body even gets a chance to have a feel for itself, even though it is the body that will have the tangible experience of whatever is to come. And equally amazing how our body is obedient to whatever has been pre-determined and tries its best to keep its homeostasis. How powerful when the body is given a chance to imprint by itself the quality of what we are going to experience by its movement.
If we have thoughts which are negative or destructive we can directly decide to not give the thought any attention and what supports that is to move the body in a different attitude. This breaks the energy what is running through the body on that moment. We can choose to re-connect to the love source we equally carry within us.
Going for a walk and re-connecting with the body is very supportive when the mind is running it’s own story. I find the quality of my movements affect the quality of thoughts coming through.
I love this Eva, so simple, “having realised and acknowledged this self-made setup” we have the power to change it also.
It really is that simple when we choose to respond to life rather than react to life.
Thank you Eva for showing us how the way we go about things does actually make the difference. The choice we have to share what is true after something, or having done something that had not been truthful or loving, is our key to re-imprint.
A number of applied insights like these and your life can be transformed. Surprisingly, it is really that simple to turn your life around – noticing something, accepting the discomfort, responding, noticing the change, continuing with the new response.
Yes, it turns drama on it’s head. A very empowering way to live.
Our approach to life is everything. One amazing tip I had recently was to step back like I was observing myself, for me this can really put things into perspective when my approach to life is completely wrong and helps me reset everything so I can approach life again from a more truthful, accurate and caring angle.
I like this tip Meg, of stepping back like I am observing myself, ‘ One amazing tip I had recently was to step back like I was observing myself, for me this can really put things into perspective when my approach to life is completely wrong and helps me reset everything so I can approach life again from a more truthful, accurate and caring angle.’
Yes the reaction to a situation that is not ideal can be worse than the situation itself! I remember I never could stand heat and would know if it was very hot and humid I would be getting a headache for sure. This changed when I let go of the ideal I could not bare the heat and took it easier when it was hot. Now I actually love warm weather very much!
This is a spot on example how easily we set ourself up for the day ahead and how indeed powerful we are that we are not bound and determined by these unconscious decisions but can make a different choice.
Yes, all we need to be is become aware of them and choosing to stay aware of them.
We all to easily can be set up by our mind to worry or be irritated by something that may or may not happen that we can completely underestimate how easy it is to change the trajectory of those thought processes by coming instead from a loving heart.
Great sharing Eva. I had something similar recently where a situation happened that in the past I have always reacted to in a particular way and for a moment expected it would be the same. However, I realised that I have changed and it does not need to be the same and in fact I did not react in the slightest and it was not an issue at all. I love to now live more and more without any expectation of how something might or might not be or holding onto previous behaviours – there is a great freedom in that.
It is interesting, that how we think is how we are, I remember in the past looking at the clock in the morning and seeing how many hours sleep I had, and if I didn’t have the perceived right amount I would tell myself I am going to be tired for the rest of the day, after a while of telling myself how tired I am, I realised this was a set up, so I choose to not take on those thoughts and what a difference that made to my day.
‘When I am walking with all of me, all of who I am, no holding back (no doubt or fear, no judgement or arrogance etc) – just plain and simply ME – there follows a natural acceptance of ME and an acceptance of ALL around me that is deeply felt and known.’ – this is it Eva, it is the choice to align to all that I am, and let this be my focus, let this be what I rest in as opposed to what is happening outside of me.
This reminds me of the common thought that will arise before an extremely busy day – of, ‘this day is going to be so busy, so intense, so horrible.’ And of course – it is! I was reflecting on this just the other day and how this thought is a precipitation to the day I intend to have.
So reading your blog is very timely Eva – it is not the outside that needs to change, but our responsiveness to it.
An issue does not make it into a problem until and unless we accept it as such.
Yes making it a problem amplifies it, a choice that can easily be slipped into but also to come out of.
“The humidity hadn’t changed, but how I responded to it had changed.” This is true of so many things where we can either fall into ingrained patterns or change how we move and respond.
I am choosing love and I am also choosing to look at exposing the ways in which I still resist love ( having spent a life -time of not, in avoidance…..
We were all born equal in our free will – to choose love or everything that is not love.