1,104 thoughts on “Jealousy”

1. “These moments are now stepping stones, taking me to an ever-deepening love and understanding of myself and others.” Understanding the cause and effect of jealousy offers a way to live with the freedom to be the love that we are.

2. I was talking to someone recently and they suddenly came out with the fact that they were jealous of me because I was doing something they were not and had no chance of doing in this lifetime. I asked them if it was possible that they could verbalise what they were actually feeling and they could not but I could feel they were crying which I felt was a great release for them because at least they were letting go of the tension they were feeling and had been in for sometime. I believe that when we hang on to things that upset us or we feel hurt by, it can be a precursor to illness and disease because our bodies are out of a rhythm of harmony this harmony is the same harmony we can feel when we walk in nature.

3. This is amazing to have such a strong love of self, ‘ I love myself deeply and this grows every single day, at an amazing pace as I see everything in my life as God gently nudging me to take the next loving step.’

4. I can see how jealousy is an anti-evolutionary force, something when directed at us we can reduce how much of our true selves we live, keeping us all in the cycle of mediocrity. Compromising kind of pits us against each other in a fight to the top. Because jealousy is here and the energy of comparison that feeds it is so pervasive in life, the most sensible way to approach it is exactly as you say, through loving understanding and using it to identify where our potentials are that haven’t been activated that others have begun to live for themselves.

5. Jealousy to me is a cancer that can if not dealt with leaves us feeling bitter and twisted towards others and ourselves. What I am starting to fully appreciate is that we are all the same we come from the same source what makes us different is the choices we have made not just in this life but the previous lives we have forgotten because we do not live in a way that we could easily access them. We are the product of our choices so if we can see/feel that others are making more informed and positive choices to reconnect back to themselves and we cannot or have not been bothered to do this then jealousy rears its ugly head. What if we were instead to get behind that person as by their reflection they are showing us and the world that there is another way to be, another way to live and that we can live this way too. Rather than bringing them down so there is no reflection for anyone and we all stay in the misery we have self made and hate at the same time.

6. “..to live the love that I am.” What a beautiful simple way to embrace each day.

   1. What a beautiful choice to make, ‘One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life.’

7. “ what I was really jealous of was the choices others had made ……….. something I wasn’t choosing for myself.” It’s interesting how we feel jealousy on occasions rather than be inspired by another’s choices. Damaging to both parties. Accepting where we are at and appreciating – ourself and the other- makes a huge difference.

8. I have been observing how someone can be very envious of another. And it is quite toxic as everyone gets affected by it and it is not something that you can hide because it can be felt by everyone. What often occurs though is those people involved pretend nothing is occurring when actually the very air being breathed is full of toxic fumes which is absorbed by our bodies. So is it any wonder we get sick and ill when we are exposed to the poisonous fumes that we are all contributing to.

9. “what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself.” That is exactly how it is for me, the problem with jealousy is it comes in lightning fast, we clock the person and then the self fury of not making those same choices we had the same freedom to make kicks in, and we are then poisoning our own body and another’s with the jealousy that comes through. But as you say Leigh, it’s then a choice to work with it constructively by initiating more love in our life by what’s been reflected by another, or stay stagnant. I feel the fact we all have so much jealousy is because we have been living in comfort and not growing and saying yes to the love on offer, and not activating our potential.

10. Energetically when we understand and live with a deep-humble-appreciate-ive-ness there is no room for any jealousy.

    1. Truly appreciating another and ourselves gives less space for jealousy.

       1. Appreciate-ive-ness is heavenly!

       2. And True Appreciation is a science that has divine intimacy, joy, authority, confirmation (of our divine connection) thus when the body move in a way that is true or with true movements this is part of our true expression and when we Appreciate the feeling of being a humble student of our-self the movements are cemented into our bodies.

    2. Also Greg I feel we all have something different to bring to the world as the light catches a crystal and reflects the colours of the rainbow so to do we reflect different colours and all the different colours make up the one that we all come from. If we all come from the one source, then there is no reason to be jealous or in comparison to anyone as we are all equal in our own way. I wonder why we are not taught this from a young age as it would knock out sibling jealousy and rivalry.

       1. Absoulutely, Mary, thank you your words, as they are also heavenly and what a blessing for what you have shared has illuminated my day!

11. It’s fascinating to watch jealousy within children at such very young ages, for example where a sibling will be jealous of the attention another is receiving and they are not. So where does this jealousy come from and is it possible we bring it in with us when we reincarnate from a former life?

    1. I would love to read more about this, if anyone has explored it further. I stumbled upon Serge’s writings on jealousy by way of a comment on a Guardian article about sibling rivalry. I was instantly fascinated and the idea resonated with me, but I still wonder how it explains the very early feelings of jealousy at the arrival of a new family member.

12. I feel I have learnt the true meaning of Jealousy which is we are jealous of another’s true light their connection to heaven and the love that pours forth. When we see someone with heaven pouring through them in a Nano second we have compared, judged and if we are not feeling the same love within our own bodies then we are jealous that someone has got that flowing love that we so desperately want ourselves but haven’t made the choices or commitment to care for ourselves that then allows the love to flow.

13. How many of us have been honest about the level of jealousy that is present in our lives? I remember a couple of years ago, realising that I am jealous of a good friend of mine. Before the realisation, i wouldn’t call it jealousy but I compared my life to hers, I looked at her partner, her choices, the way she dresses and more and made judgements whether they were up to scratch or not. That is not jealousy per say, but the reason that was going on to begin with was because I thought she was better looking than me, thinner, longer hair & on top of that she had an amazing job that she loved. In that comparison, I felt like I was perhaps somewhat less than her, that my life isn’t up to scratch. So, slowly but surely i began to have digs at myself, completely irroding my insides with resentment. In that contraction, my only option is to pull in jealousy because when we feel like we’re not good enough, when we make ourselves feel as big as a fruit fly, there is absolutely no possibility to see that perhaps there may be a divinity to us, and that perhaps we too can make choices which are different.

14. Jealousy is a destructive force – however, there must be a purpose behind this too…as with everything. What if we used the jealousy we feel to understand that there are aspects of our own development that are yet to be lived and have thus been brought to our attention with and by the reflection of another?

    1. I like what you say Henrietta, using jealousy as a springboard to deepen and evolve, rather than stay stuck in the quagmire of emotion that can be so debilitating.

15. Jealousy is a topic we do not really like to talk about for it makes us all squirm…we are not comfortable with it as we all dabble in it and it is very familiar to us in one way or another – from the way we have been jealous of another and also from the way another has been jealous of us.

16. What I have felt is that envy and jealousy are when we clock that someone has something that we want and we could have/could have had, but in fact have not or are not willing to do the work to get there or wanting to admit that we could have done this too. I’m not here necessarily talking about material possessions but rather a quality or a way of being in another. We are all prone to this (jealousy thing), for life is our school of learning as I see it, so we will always encounter those who have lived a deeper quality and those who have yet to live it – hence no one is really free of jealousy.

17. Something that you have said here Leigh that I really love is how when you observe that jealousy comes up for you now, how you do not berate yourself anymore, but seek to understand why this has come up. In that simple action there is a lot to appreciate. Often when we berate ourselves it drives those feelings of jealousy even deeper, so much that we don’t even want to look at them or why they are there for us. Being willing to show ourselves understanding is a great act of self love. The more we are this way with ourselves, then we can more easily be this way with others. There is always a ripple effect.

18. To be willing to look at the things/people we are jealous of is a great first step towards being able to address any issues of jealousy that we may have with others.

19. Jealousy, envy, comparison and competition are all bedfellows … there cannot be one without the other.

20. It is the only way with jealousy and comparison that is to be real and acknowledge to the best of our ability when these emotions surface in the body, to then turn them around and live what is being offered.

21. It’s so easy to get stuck in the self judgement or another judgement of ourselves when we experience jealousy. This is a much wiser perspective to see it as a stepping stone and examine what’s there to be claimed, integrated into our life, and for more love to be lived.

    1. Judgement or berating ourselves is not a loving choice if we clock jealousy or comparison, ‘what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself.’

22. How gorgeously empowering and evolving it is to choose to relate to moments in life that we feel uncomfortable about as an opportunity to reflect and deepen our understanding, awareness and living the fullness of the love that we inherently are. Thank you for the beautiful example offered here.

    1. Yep I agree Golnaz to ‘relate to moments in life that we feel uncomfortable about as an opportunity to reflect and deepen our understanding’ feels like a door wide open and to condemn or berate ourselves for our own behaviour feels like the same door slammed shut.

23. To be aware of the true harm of jealousy and understand it, we can see how it attacks not only the other person but also ourselves. We are all born with our own unique essence, if we forget this truth we behave in ways that are unloving.

    1. Awesome point Anna – and when this happens, when we get caught by the bug of jealousy, one of the antidotes is to deeply appreciate ourselves and all the qualities we hold – for each and every one of us has unique qualities to unfold and share with others, as well as those qualities we are yet to live fully.

24. By not reacting and deepening to the Love that we are and knowing that this is who we are, I have started to feel and experience that you can’t hold the other in jealousy, it is a process of understanding and one that is deeply supportive for everyone involved.

25. This is super beautiful and inspiring, Leigh – ‘I am not yet fully clear of feeling jealous of another and this is something that I am acutely aware of. No longer do I berate myself when I feel it, but instead surrender to the love that I have within and understand it. These moments are now stepping stones, taking me to an ever-deepening love and understanding of myself and others’. Understanding jealousy enables us to commit to being more.

    1. Yes Janet, there is no shame or guilt in sensing jealousy or comparison with another; it is there to support us to deepen the love that we are.

       1. Choosing to love and appreciate ourselves naturally spreads out to include others, ‘I feel my grace daily, there is an acceptance and love of others that I had not ever before considered was even possible, let alone now to be living’.

26. Jealousy causes people to behave in ways that go against their essence.

27. This is beautiful to read Leigh and brings somehow a beauty to jealousy and all other separating emotions, in that we do not need to condemn them but are simply asked to be honest with ourselves why we choose / are ruled by them. There is much to explore about oneself to be able to let go and heal.

28. If we consider jealousy as just a choice or choices we have not fully initiated in our lives then the answer is simple – we just need to refocus on ourselves and explore the potential we have within us, rather than comparing to others who are making choices we have no yet considered or gone for.

    1. Yes, and hence the importance to understand the true meaning or words and what they do with us. If we do we are not longer at the mercy of them but can start to make different choices.

    2. That is great wisdom Meg, I like how you have expressed this as potential not yet explored and more choices to be made to live even more of the love we are.

29. I often still feel the jealousy of those that I hold near and dear to me but the difference now is reading that it is happening and knowing that it is the ability to appreciate that what we are reflecting is the level of love that is on offer for all if they choose.

    1. I like that Natalliya, that jealousy is a sign that there is something amazing we are offering and more appreciation of ourselves to go to.

30. Jealousy gets us nowhere, it is very destructive and very dishonouring of each other. I have found the less you take anything personally the easier it is not to be affected by others.

31. This is super cool from jealousy, turning it back in on itself to envious and then to counter and not feed this you focused on the love that you are building for yourself and not accepting anything that is not love, even from yourself. This is powerful.

    1. Focus on the love that you are building, and accepting nothing less, ‘to live the love that I am’.

32. When jealousy is let go of it is like releasing poison from the body, space that can fill with appreciation.

33. Comparison is deadly, as someone is always deemed lesser than, and when we are perceived as being the one lesser, by ourselves in our own mind, then there is fertile ground for jealousy to develop.

34. ‘One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life.’ A very beautiful and supportive choice to make Leigh, for when we chose love first and foremost anything that is unloving stands out a mile and we can begin to look at that and let it go.

    1. Imagine how our world would be if we all made this choice, ‘One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life.’

35. The moment we compare ourselves with another we are setting ourselves up to find fault with us or them in someway. We are all great at some things and not so good at others. It would be crazy for example for me to be jealous of a musician who has spent their life mastering what they do whether it be song writing, singing etc.. or equally say a tennis star who has practised hours on end and for me having done none of either to expect to be equally as good – it is absurd really yet is something we can easily get caught up doing. Often we need to make things sound absurd to see the ridiculousness behind them.

36. Yes, jealousy is truly coming from seeing another making true choices for themselves that we have not been willing to make for ourselves. Understanding this brings clarity for either if you are sensing you yourself are jealous or when you feel jealousy coming at you.

37. Thank you Leigh – it is huge to note that building more love in your body was what has stopped the envy and jealousy you once felt. it is so important we get to the bottom of why we feel the way that we feel.

38. Thanks, Leigh, for sharing this revelation – “what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself.” I have also found that by choosing to deepen the love I have for myself, I am not missing out on anything as I feel the love expanding within my own body.

39. As a woman, I know what it is like to give and receive jealousy – and it does really affect me and others. This sharing is so powerful because it is you wanting to go there and understand what is behind jealousy and know that it is just us comparing without appreciating we are all making different choices.

40. Jealousy is something that has to be constantly fed and developed, because with out all of that effort it would simply disappear.

41. “To accept only love in my life” – so gorgeous how it all comes back to this very simple thing.

    1. Love it so an amazing gift we can give ourselves and everyone else and such a simple thing to do.

42. Once we start to be truly responsible, we can never be jealous, because we can actually feel all of the choices that we have made.

    1. Very true, we get to see and feel all the choices we have made whether they were loving or not! And so now are where we are as a direct result of them, not as a punishment rather a form of learning. So if we see another has more or something we would like we can be inspired by the choices they have made and so can also make similar choices.

    2. I agree Chris, when we honestly and responsibly look at and feel the choices we have made in our lives we can understand where we are at, and why, and if we can take another step further, those we may have been jealous of can actually be an inspiration to us.

43. Jealousy works best as a threat as it stops those who are targeted from being in their fullness as, the moment they express more love and truth they get attacked. However, this attack is ultimately empty.

44. Appreciating all that we currently have and are is an important step in nullifying the force of jealousy, which focuses on what others have, without acknowledging what they have chosen to be where they are.

    1. Appreciation is such a wise choice for many reasons, one being that it reduces the stronghold of jealousy.

45. Envy is a poison that traps us within our own body.

46. Beautiful Leigh Strack, what a revelation, seeing and observing jalousy for what it is – makes it look rediculously small, which it is, and so we can actually love ourselves instead and be open to another instead of continuing this evil and attack that jalously causes, which is in truth not even a small bit of who we truly are.

47. Envy is a game that helps us to confirm that we are not enough. Jealousy brings a different thing to the table: our true knowing of truth. We do not feel jealous of just about anybody, but of someone who has walked toward truth more than we had. Jealousy is directed towards them, but in truth is against ourselves.

48. I’ve been noticing my jealousy recently and how horrible it’s felt but coming to an understanding that it’s there to remind me of the steps I can take to be more loving in how I am, starting with me, and to appreciate the steps I have taken. Having felt the poison of jealousy in my body and it’s impact on others asks for a deeper level of honesty and highlights that each of us taking the steps we feel in each moment, for to ignore those leaves the door wide open for jealousy to come in.

49. This is great Leigh, and may I add that starting out with our Gentle Breath is still a “choice to live by the very basic principle that lies at the base of that which Serge Benhayon presents,” and when disconnected from our essence we can always return to our Gentle Breath as in the Gentle Breath Meditation!
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50. Like this jealousy can really let us see where we are at and, if we are willing, let go of attachments, ideals and beliefs and come back “to surrender more deeply to our own love” From here we can begin to live with ourselves and focus on the love that we are and not get pulled out by what we falsely consider to be more in someone else.

    1. Yes, it is very embarrassing and revealing when we notice ourselves being jealous and how much we have a choice to behave differently.

51. It blew me away when Serge Benhayon presented, years ago, that jealousy was self fury. But, of course, it makes sense, its so simple! Hold back on yourself, leave others to lead, express etc. and you are constantly on the back foot trying to keep up and watching others through the eyes of comparison. But, be yourself , express when you are impulsed, be in the joy of who you naturally are, and everything is complete.

52. I never considered how deeply damaging jealousy really is until I heard Serge Benhayon present about it. It is truly horrible to feel it and it ought to be considered equal if not worse that taking a sword to yourself and another.

    1. This is very true, but there must be the willingness to give ones self the grace to first of all, honestly feel it and secondly, steadily, consistently and lovingly eliminate from ones life the choice to allow it in our bodies. For with out this honest process jealously, comparison and envy in all its levels of intensity will continue to impregnate the sea of energy we live in.

       1. This is true when I first heard the presentation about jealousy it took me a while to even go there with regards to my own jealousy. We have to come to terms with how we have lived and contributed to that pool of energy in order to heal. It’s a hard one to look at without being love because the self-condemnation can be brutal and there’s no point in going down that route. It’s such a destructive force and there are no winners.

53. I agree that the true jealousy is about the choices that another person has made, not so much what they have. What they have chosen and the reflection they offer is infuriating to the part of us that is convinced that we can’t make those choices. Yet there is this person in front of us who has done it and often with ease. That feels like the rub to me and jealousy is a defence to not letting myself feel that.

    1. It is interesting that we look at others and perceive that they have chosen supposedly ‘with ease’ the choices they have made. But if we look a little deeper we may just feel that this supposed ease is a result of facing the very same, or similar demons that we come up against. So maybe there was not an ease for them, but aacceptance of and dedication to their inner love that has allowed them to drop away the demons and to again live their essence.

54. I see people around me with many things that I don’t have as I didn’t have the awareness to choose like they did in the past. I adore the life I have now and focus on it. Whether I will have those things or not does not matter because there is no time to think about anything else but this moment. When I feel envious of anyone I have left myself and so I lovingly give myself an invisible hug and come back to the self-connection that no physical situation can give me.

55. A gorgeous blog Leigh, learning to feel, understand and let go of the energy of jealousy is huge in allowing you to live the love that you are.

56. Jealousy is an unnatural state that has left unity and brotherhood. Yet it is so ingrained that it is a great question to ask why. Why is it so normal that we berate each other for our potential evolutionary power and we buy into it? Why do we take with such lack of preciousness the relationship we have with evolution?

    1. And why do we not support ourselves and another to live our evolutionary power?

57. Jealousy is one of the greatest handbrakes in living a true life. It stunts us completely and does not allow us to grow into the open and loving person that we can be. If we are willing to really look at it, it shows us the choices we have made to not evolve and where we have accepted less. Its a hard place to be willing to see and feel at times. But as you have shown here Leigh it is very possible to let go of jealousy through being honest, open and tender with ourselves. Then we are willing to see more of who we are not.

    1. And allow ourselves to take off all the handbrakes we have created in our minds and live the potential we have felt in full service to humanity and the ultimate evolution of all.

58. When we observe a person acting from jealously it is easy to see and feel that they are regretting something about their own life and are in total self fury about it. This teaching was first presented by Universal Medicine and it really supports people to not take it personally when people are jealous of them because in truth it has nothing to do with another but everything to do with the person who is being jealous.

59. Remembering the old feelings of jealousy I used to have as a teenager, it is a deep appreciation to know that no longer is part of my life.

60. Thank you Leigh for you coming back to the love that you are and making more space for love where jealously has no enter.

61. When I first heard Serge Benhayon say that jealousy is an inner issue, ie it is showing some aspect of yourself you regret or haven’t looked at, everything changed. No longer could jealousy be about another person, and just like that… the door was open to true evolution.

62. I agree Brendan, the jealousy we can feel is more about the fury we feel towards ourselves for not making loving choices.

63. When we connect deeply to the love we are, there is simply no room for jealousy as we can feel the grandness within ourselves and everyone around us.

64. Jealousy is a force that attacks everyone including and especially the one expressing it. It is great to expose it for it does not have power in the light.

65. “When I made this choice I immediately felt that what needed addressing more than anything else was how I held myself, how I thought about myself and how I treated myself.” – This is a great, simple step towards living with love in all we do, and one that reveals to me just how self-critical I have been, even in my development towards my soul. This seems quite silly when I really feel into it, and like a game of delaying the connection that is there waiting for me to accept, but I welcome the renewed focus of just asking myself during the day if each choice I am making is a loving one or not. Simple and yet profound in its effects.

    1. Simple, profound and forever a deepening and humbling experience.

66. Jealousy is a poison in our bodies… tainting everything we then do, say and think.

67. Leigh this is a powerful exposure of how envy and jealousy can play out in our lives and the steps taken to re-dress this imbalance by choosing to accept only love in our daily way.
    “I love myself deeply and this grows every single day, at an amazing pace as I see everything in my life as God gently nudging me to take the next loving step”.

68. Leigh, this is gorgeous and really helpful; ‘No longer do I berate myself when I feel it, but instead surrender to the love that I have within and understand it.’ Not berating ourselves and instead having understanding feels key for how we are in life. The berating ourselves really keeps us small and not evolving. Whereas if we have understanding of ourselves and others then we can change behaviours and patterns and move on.

    1. When we are truly connected to our love there can be no jealousy. Jealousy is an expression of who we are not whereas love it an expression of who we are.

    2. A much needed way of living as the stench of jealousy, comparison and competition is escalating in today’s society. Without debasing it within each of us, it continues to be a force that society chooses.

69. “To live the love that i am” what a beautiful inspiring way to live our lives fully embracing this with everything we are . True medicine true healing and true appreciation . Well said Leigh and the real antidote to Jealously.

70. Thank you Leigh, I really enjoyed the empowerment you brought in this article, to go beyond envy to understand the jealousy, to realise that we each have the same love inside of us but live different depths of this love, and that we can hold ourselves and each other in love as we understand and let go of jealousy and set more of the love we naturally are free.

71. …”how I held myself, how I thought about myself and how I treated myself.” What a great reminder that this is the way that we can drop jealousy. Literally treating ourselves the way we would like to be treated.

    1. We so tend to fight loving ourselves, there seems to be an inbuilt radar inside of ourselves that wants to keep us forever in the momentum of needing to be ‘better’ before we can love ourselves. It is this falseness that we desperately need to say no to, and begin to hold ourselves with the absolute focus and loving care that we hold a newborn child with.

72. Recently I realised that at work I am constantly comparing workloads and the level of commitment with everyone around me which just invites emotional reactions – and what a mess that creates! But more importantly what a fabulous awareness to have as now I can actually do something to correct this pattern instead of feeding the collective mess all the more.

    1. Awarenesses like this are the stepping stones to building a life true to the essence of living in brotherhood.

73. Jealousy- a great moment to stop and ponder on what the reflection is offering.

    1. It’s a great moment for honesty to reflect on what we did not say yes to that was equally available to us.

       1. Totally, a little moment to feel it is us that has stepped away from our grandness that has allowed such a force to flow through us.

74. “to live the love that I am”. A beautiful foundation for sharing love with humanity.

75. Living who we truly are in full is the greatest antidote to jealousy.

    1. I agree Nicola, if we let jealousy affect us and reduce the fullness of who we are then we also can become someone who is jealous of others. It’s an insidious energy and if we allow it to knock us down we too can become a vessel for it.

76. When instead of going into jealousy we let ourselves be inspired by what we see another has chosen, this opens up the gateway of ourselves as well. We let ourselves be pulled up. Whereas when we go into jealousy instead, we shut the gateway and don’t even look that way, but in the fury of our own choices that keeps us stuck in them.

    1. I agree Katerina, well said! And what an absolute waste of energy going into fury is when we could be looking at the blessing that has been offered and getting on with it.

77. So inspirational Leigh and shows how powerful intention can be when it is true.

78. ” No longer do I berate myself when I feel it, but instead surrender to the love that I have within and understand it. These moments are now stepping stones, taking me to an ever-deepening love and understanding of myself and others.” So beautiful to read Leigh, knowing the love that we are allows for the what is not in us to be seen, felt and healed so that more of our love can be lived.

79. Leigh, a very important topic and I agree that connection, acceptance, understanding and appreciation, in this order, will liberate us from the grips of jealousy.

    1. I agree Kathleen. Deepening the love and understanding for ourselves. When we have this we clock jealousy when it comes in, stop it in its track and let it turn into the inspiration that is on offer.

80. ‘One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life.’ Having read this line a few times, I started to understand it differently. what it says to me is that we don’t need to try to get love, but that it is always there and it is a choice to accept and open the gates to either that flow (of love) or the other flow which is not love.

    1. Yes Simone that is how I felt it, the allowing of being the love we are not the acquiring or ‘finding’ love as it is so often falsely desired.

    2. It is an undeniable fact that absolute love resides within every single one of us. The grace is in allowing it to be how we move and live. A grace that is forever asking for ever more surrender as the clarity and depth of our love is forever expanding.

81. I love how you stood up and dealt with jealousy Leigh and took on board all that it was offering. You asked the question and deeply felt what was being communicated to you, realising that it was never a case of others having something better. ‘I immediately felt that what needed addressing more than anything else was how I held myself, how I thought about myself and how I treated myself. ‘

82. I agree that there is a bitterness in envy. A bitterness of regrets, blame and excuses from not living the fullness of our potential.

    1. A bitterness we can only truly release when we appreciate who we are and allow the potential we feel to be our guide to living the full life we are here to live.

83. It is wonderful to call out jealousy when it is not real eg. how can I be jealous of another when they are praised for what they do or how well they do it without taking anything else into consideration eg. the quality with which it is done in. Attack can come through another in sneakily ways so obviously creating an emotion such as jealousy to arise within me yet seen for what it is and I respond to the call to bring a greater love to myself and to others. Oh, how we are being supported to be the love we are in every moment.

    1. Yes, we are being constantly suppprted. Every single moment there is the opportunity to see, in full, the response to the choices we have made. We all feel when that is against what we absolutely know to be true. To choose to personally begin to live life from the truth we know can feel a lot like a fish out of water. But to swim in a sea of jealously and everything that comes with that is to swim in a sea of pollution. Let’s all begin to make the sea of energy we live in one that holds the choice to live in a way that does not add to this pollution.

84. Thank you Leigh what a beautiful sharing and yes I too celebrate every day the blessings and amazing life I now live thanks to the blessing of Serge Benhayon. Unimedpedia Jealousy http://www.unimedliving.com/unimedpedia/word-index/unimedpedia-jealousy.html provides further great insights into the enormous harm and destructive force of Jealousy and yes acceptance, understanding and appreciation are all factors in freeing ourselves.

85. I use to get caught in jealousy too, and what it was for me was I was not wiling to take responsibility for my choices, I was blaming others for the way my life had planned out, what a big ouch. When I started to take responsibility for my choices things started to change, my self worth changed and as to my self love. This was the beginning to let go of jealousy.

    1. Responsibility is the key here, nothing comes to us that is not for us to grow from. And with a surrender to this truth we begin to feel how important it is to not let opportunities pass by, as our responsibility is not to ourselves alone, but to everyone, equally.

86. To see that ‘what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself’ is a great starting point. So often we can cast out judgements and comments which have an undertone and try to bring another down without even realising and not because of them but rather because they are choosing to live the love they are just as we are but have simply chosen not to. So rather than stop and take responsibility for our choices and lives it is far easier to sit back and do nothing and say well life is not fair rather than doing anything about it. And so the cycle continues until we wake up and see the love that we are and have always been we have simply not been choosing it.

87. To have the willingness to firstly look at and then to get an understanding of why you were jealous of another has to be very deeply appreciated, as I suspect this is not the case for the majority of the human race. By addressing and then letting go of feeling jealous, you are paving a true path for all your relationships.

    1. It is very much about having the understanding, working with that for yourself and appreciating another for the choices they have made.

88. Appreciation and acceptance of self and all others is what dilutes the poison of jealousy. Judgement cements us deeper in.

    1. It sure does and starts with ourselves and then naturally we appreciate others around us and what they bring rather than wanting anything from them or wishing we were like them, because we start to feel and get a sense that we are all the same equal divine beings just have made different choices so how can we compare ourselves to another – its impossible.

    2. Yes I agree, appreciation and acceptance of self is definitely the key things to diluting the poison of jealousy. When we appreciate and accept, we appreciate and accept another, then there is no space for jealousy to creep in.

89. Leigh, thank you for sharing this; ‘When I made this choice I immediately felt that what needed addressing more than anything else was how I held myself, how I thought about myself and how I treated myself.’ I have been realising recently that how I treat myself is super important, putting myself first and deeply caring for myself is key.

90. It is truly inspiring when someone chooses to look at certain aspects of their lives, as you have done with envy and jealously even if it is not that comfortable to do. For otherwise how can we clear the body of all it is not if we are first not willing to see what is actually there.

    1. We have to be ready to look at jealousy and envy for ourselves if we are to choose to heal this in our body, otherwise we will go in a spin of deepening the jealousy in our body, allowing for deeper issues to come up.

91. This is beautiful Leigh and brings a real understanding of what jealously really is and why we feel it makes so much sense. This sharing allows a healing and inspiration to make changes in our lives to accepting only love and the knowing of what is really going on and choosing to live the love we are every evolving as we do.

92. Jealousy offers nothing but the chance to deepen our separation to ourselves and others. For in-truth what we are saying when we go into envy is that our majesty is meaningless, our connection to our Soul and to God is not enough as such we disregard all that is already a given and as such abuse our relationship with the Divine. Of course, and without judgement, wherever we feel jealousy creeping in we can always return to deepening our connection to love through appreciating the truth we know and feel in our bodies of all that we innately are in essence.

    1. Beautifully expressed Carola and a great reminder of what we are actually doing when we entertain jealousy or separate ourself by comparing to another making our self greater or lesser in any way. It is indeed a direct denial of the Divine, our connection to our Soul and to God!

93. Jealousy comes through us when we dishonoring who we are.

    1. When we dishonour who we are, what we bring, we just down our power, we make choices which are not lovingly supportive for us, and hence then we go into jealousy and comparison.

       1. Beautiful expansion on my one line Amita, thank you.

94. If jealousy is lingering, evolution is on offer. What are we calling in in order not to take the offering?

    1. Thats a great question for all of us to pondering on, what are we calling in for jealousy to linger, when we constantly have evolution on offer…….

95. Leigh – this is a powerful testimony to the deep healing and changes that you have been willing to accept and continue to embrace in your life. Your grace is felt deeply throughout this blog and your appreciation of yourself and others. Gorgeous!
    “I love myself deeply and this grows every single day, at an amazing pace as I see everything in my life as God gently nudging me to take the next loving step”.

96. Jealousy requires one to deny all the beauty, love and grace that is already present in one.

    1. So true Heather, and along with that denial is the huge effort it takes to try to outdo, over-ride or undermine the majesty we already are = frustration and exhaustion.

    2. When we honour this beauty, love and grace, we reflect the divineness in us for others to feel and choose for themselves.

97. Thank you Leigh, the love and grace you have chosen to live is easily felt in your blog. I appreciated your words about understanding how another is living as the reason for their jealousy and to continue to hold both of you in love as that is the essence of who we all are. Also very inspiring is your choice to not accept anything but love from yourself.

98. Jealousy is one of those emotions that very rarely gets spoken about and when it is, the true extent of its harm is not fully realised.

99. Jealousy is a devastating movement directed at someone who is joyfully exercising his/her freedom of movement right by someone who cannot move freely because is totally taken and governed by his/her patterns.

100. The more we appreciate about ourselves, our lives and others the less room there is for comparison.

101. The qualities we bring, we all have amazing qualities that many we know remind us of, but how many of us shrug them of? When we do this they become a now and then way to live instead of being the foundation from which we form our life. Appreciation of them is integral to us living with the integrity we want to live.

102. Like any other time when we are observing a pattern or behaviour, if something is coming up then it is an opportunity for healing and an offer of understanding for ourselves and others. I am learning at these times asking myself “what is the learning in this moment” rather than saying “oh no I feel jealous, I don’t like that”, opens myself up to that greater understanding. It also reduces the likelihood of me going into reaction.

103. “I could feel deep within that there was another way to live that fully supported myself, and in so doing, actually would have supported all the others in my life” – Amazing Leigh, and what’s more incredible is that you changed your movements and took steps towards this way of life, and as a result brought a lot more purpose into your everyday.

104. If we are not living full our potential at any point in our day we have an opening to allow jealousy to flood in, it is definitely a self fury of not living all we can be. To turn this around within ourselves is hugely healing for ourselves and all. To choose to be inspired instead of jealous is a beautiful humble choice that is deeply empowering for all involved.

105. Choosing to only align to love, is a choice to live the truth of who we are which may look quite different to another’s choices. So comparison can lead us into following or replicating another’s choices when in fact they are individual to us all.

106. In reading your description of what envy is, I can see there is also a lot of tension. And perhaps this is an internal tension ultimately generated from knowing that you are so much more than what your life currently shows, that is – when our lives do not reflect back to us the stupendous grandness that we naturally are, it feels somehow wrong or out of kilter and this can cause tension. But this is a tension that perhaps can be inspirational towards bringing that stupendousness back out into life again through our movements and as a result, to change and grow according to what is felt as truth.

     1. Well said Shami,
        We really are forever supported to know how stupendously grand we are, yet in what we feel we can get caught for lifetimes struggling to deal with emotions that we choose. The guidance to again know our essence that Serge Benhayon has reminded us all of is the most awesome gift.

107. This is a wise and profound truth, “One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life. This is a very personal choice that I am discovering doesn’t have anything to do with another,”

     1. Irena it’s the beauty of true responsibility.

108. Appreciating ourselves and the qualities we bring really helps to disarm jealousy.

109. We can only look sideways and compare ourselves to another if we have not first looked deep within ourselves and appreciated the wealth of beauty found therein.

     1. So true, our inner wisdom far exceeds any false thought that engenders jealously. Knowing the beauty and divinity of our essence is the only true education we need, yet comparison and jealously continue to be unashamedly chosen. What does such a choice say about our personal connection to ourselves?

110. Jealousy is evil — from all angles. We are shown that when we allow evil in it harms us (in the many ways it can).. So seeing and detaching from any openings we have that allows that — we heal ourselves instantly. To see the forces that can come through.. any one of us, by seeing that everything is energy.

111. Leigh I really appreciate your blogs and the way you are prepared to look at yourself and everything that is going on in your life and then looking at how to make the changes; because you have come to the understanding that it is not about the other person but how we personally care, love and hold ourselves.

112. We can be inspired by another, but spending time wanting what another has is a pure distraction from evolving and being all that we can be in our own lives.

113. Jealousy comes when we do not appreciate ourselves in every movement. And, appreciation therefore needs to be astutely looked at, and explored. Because ultimately it is a quality that can be lived through movement which is the expression of what energy is in your body.

114. If we allow ourselves to fully appreciate who we are and what we have to offer as a part of the whole then jealousy would no be an issue. Millions of grains of sand make a beach.

115. Jealousy is such a destructive energy in the world, it is great to be discussing and feeling ways where it no longer has a control or power over us.

116. Thank you for providing such a great description of jealousy. There is no judgement in what you have expressed and this makes your words very accessible.

117. Having avoided admitting I was jealous, because I knew it was an ugly emotion and I was ashamed, it is actually really amazing to realise that it was not because of what other people had that I was jealous, but because of the choices I saw I had not made to develop a life that I longed for. This realisation puts me back in the driving seat, responsible and empowered.

118. “I have begun to explore what choices I have felt for myself that I had not fully claimed and integrated into my life, and then began to do so.” I like this way of exploring our jealousy, seeing what the things are that we can love ourselves more with – in this way it is an opportunity for growth and learning and not just a thing that comes over us.

119. Jealousy is a lifestyle whereby the need to compensate for being less than who we are is masked by concepts of competition like ‘Competition is good for business.’ or that it brings out one´s real strengths, it is confused for being evolutionary as it makes us strive for more. In truth it is a race to avoid feeling one´s inner lack of fulfillment, the lack of expression of one´s innate genuineness and everytime we see someone else making choices that express and confirm this innateness we are triggered to feel the ache of not making such choices.

     1. A very powerful comment drawing out and deepening the insidiousness of jealousy and comparison.

120. Jealousy is like a virus that has spread throughout our communities, workplaces, families and societies. The only way to curb it is to develop an inner awareness of life, to know when it comes from you, and when it comes at you, and to be able to work with both knowing neither are the love that you essentially are.

     1. Nor is jealousy the love that others equally are. We all come from the same essence and jealousy is but a very clever and at times very sneaky emotion that keeps us in the lie that we are different from others.

     2. Jealousy is something most of us do not want to admit to but we need to recognise and be honest about the loveless behaviour if we want to start to see change.

121. I used to let myself be crushed by the jealously of others but lately I have come to see that jealously cannot affect us if we are appreciating ourselves and living true to who we are as we simply see it for what it is – a fury at oneself for not making more loving choices.

122. Jealousy an old foe and yet it would seem ally as well. I always thought that jealousy was something that came from another and would dismiss it coming from my end. I never really looked deeper into what it was about until The Way of The Livingness presentations. Now I look or feel jealousy for what it is, a self fury that may play out as being directed at someone which is true but the true affect is what we do to ourselves. Jealousy opens the door to many other things and at this point to appreciate that I see more of how it plays out is a great step. The way we live either supports jealousy to be there or clears it for us. If we don’t honour what we truly are feeling to do then this will forever leave the door wide open for it to enter and seeing that nothing is ever exactly the same then this means the way we live will need to forever change or more so expand.

123. If someone was to say they are envious of my situation I point out that in that they then miss out of appreciating all they have that it’s perfect for them. Trying to live like someone we are not doesn’t work.

124. If we allow ourselves to feel and become aware of the enormity of jealousy and comparison that we live amongst and with, we are likely to understand more fully the interaction and choices of others and ourselves rather than to react and close down.

     1. Very well said, we have all lived locking ourselves away, trying to avoid the intensity of comparison and jealously, not though truly realizing that in doing so we are actually fully open to letting this energy affect us and then choosing to live it ourselves. Hense we find ourselves in a viscous circle, until we become aware of the fact that jealously and comparison is not needed in a world where all accept their absolute worth and live from their essence.

     2. I love bringing this understanding to things rather than the shame and judgement that I am so used to wielding against myself. From here I can appreciate my willingness to explore, heal and make different choices.

125. Having heard about the antidote to jealousy being appreciation I can vouch for this working. What a turn around – and so simple!

126. The powerful antidote to jealousy is appreciation. This was once just knowledge for me, something I’d heard presented but did not know for myself from my own experience. Now I do as I focus on appreciating myself which naturally then includes appreciating others. This leaves me free to be inspired by another’s choices instead of green with envy and throwing jealous daggers at them. And the reality is that we can’t just be a little bit jealous. Jealousy is all consuming, self-fury that is being directed at another with full force. It’s deeply harming whether full on jealous rage or ‘just a little bit jealous’.

     1. Yes appreciation is a great key and works both ways. When we are living our life in full and appreciating ourselves we do not need to compare ourselves with others or be jealous. Equally when we fully and truly appreciate ourselves we can understand that not everyone is making those choices and therefore they will be jealous of us and we can take that jealousy as further confirmation of our awesomeness!

127. I don’t often give much thought to jealousy from the other way round, ie it directed at me. Yet it happens and I do diminish myself on occasions in an effort to reduce that. Its the flip side to the one being jealous and equally damaging – an awful dance that two people can have together that does nothing to inspire either.

128. I’ve definitely played small to avoid jealousy, because I’ve witnessed it’s brutality. But as you’ve described here, I’m now able to bring more understanding to where it might be coming from, and in that, how I feel about it doesn’t hurt so much. I’m constantly also having to watch myself and any jealousy or particularly for me, comparison, creeping in, as that can be equally as poisonous.

     1. Agreed Elodie,
        Comparison is something that has tendrils in areas of our life that we may not at first be aware of. For myself it is a constant unfolding, discovering it’s affect and the impact even the smallest snippet has on my body and the quality I choose to live by. However it is not more powerful than my quality, and every time I become aware of another aspect of it, there is a deep knowing of the choice I have made to deepen, that now allows this to be shown.

129. “When we are disconnected to our full expression and how we feel when we are this then anything outside of us that looks good or better than is when we are, is going to hammer and slam down any developed self love and care.”
     This is an energetic truth that needs to be explored, accepted and understood in full. For the milli-second that we go into any comparison, the thoughts we are slammed with do nothing but divide us further from our full expression.

130. I find when I appreciate myself and others thoughts of jealousy and comparison are less likely to creep in. If it does, I know I have stepped away from love and my essence in order for these thoughts and feelings to come through.

131. Wow, that is amazing Leigh, and how gorgeous, ‘One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life. ‘

132. Jealous is such an evil thought that comes in along with comparison. When we are disconnected to our full expression and how we feel when we are this then anything outside of us that looks good or better than is when we are, is going to hammer and slam down any developed self love and care. These thoughts are intense and they are ingrained in our make up as being a default mode we are continually in but saying no to this and knowing this is not true is an amazing start.

     1. One of the most freeing things for me has been to learn that thoughts enter us. They are not ever mine. That I have a choice as to how I speak and move in this world. My thoughts do not own me, nor do they hold power over me. I hold the greatest power, I can choose how I speak, respond and move, constantly. Could this be what it means to master oneself?

        1. Same for me Leigh, it is empowering to know we don’t own our thoughts. So whenever thoughts that are not loving comes through I know I can choose to shift them by choosing to move in a more loving energy and my thoughts will then naturally align.

        2. Absolutely Leigh. What a powerful and very true statement. When we are holding ourselves in a loving and graceful way thoughts that are designed to pull us down or make us small cannot enter.

133. ‘ I see everything in my life as God gently nudging me to take the next loving step.’ Such a simple way of looking at life but one that can change everything. We can get entrenched beliefs and prejudices that keep us from that free flow of love and it can take a very conscious and continued effort to change this. I am beginning to realise that this is possible and with the support of wise and lovingly learned friends and by nourishing and nurturing my body and opening up to more connection and appreciation and becoming more responsible any jealousy that was once there diminishes and gradually fades away.

134. I do feel that we squeeze ourselves into a niche in life based on being secure and comfortable and once we get into this position then we stay there by looking after ourselves and our loved ones. And if we look around us everyone is fighting each other to achieve the same desire. Because we have been lead to believe that this is how life is.
     It wasn’t until I met Serge Benhayon and his family and observed how they lived that I got to see that there was a different way to live and as you said Leigh, by living in a way that fully supports me I am able to reflect back to all others in my life.

135. Leigh, I love this; ‘It offers a moment in time for us both to surrender more deeply to our own love and to let go of the falseness that jealousy offers, to instead claim our true power and strength ‘I can feel how important appreciation is when it comes to jealously, that if we appreciate our own strengths and qualities then this is the antidote to jealousy.

     1. Absolutely Rebecca. Nothing can touch us when we stand in the fullness of the glory of our essence. All we want when in this space is to connect and share it with another. Any jealously another may feel is present and real, but not able to get in and affect us. There is only the true grace of holding another in the very same way you hold your self. None of which can happen without appreciation.

136. For the last 2 days I have been doing some filming for a course with another 2 ladies and their was not an ounce of jealousy between us. We deeply appreciated each others delivery when any – one of us nailed it and lovingly critiqued ourselves and each other on areas of our presentations that we could improve on. The support and love between us was beautiful and a great example of how women can support each others evolution when there is no nonsense getting in the way.

     1. This is a beautiful example of how appreciation of ourselves and each other supports true purpose. Thank you Mary-Louise.

137. With in jealousy we forgot to stop and appreciate the choices others have made in their lives, and the lack of choices we have made. It so easy for us to go into comparison and jealousy without stopping and appreciating what true choices have been made.

     1. Well said Amita, we have all made choices, every single day and no matter the flavor of those choices, recognizing the effect they have on our life and knowing we can change how we make choices and the actual choices we make is hugely freeing. None of us are trapped into the seeming only choice possible. Our hearts have much to share, jealously doesn’t allow for us to feel the power of our heart and commitment to life that is our birth right.

     2. This is true – how often we make life about us rather than appreciate each other and celebrate the living of truth.

     3. Yes Amita, appreciation of ourselves and of others and the choices we have all made is absolutely key here. So when we can appreciate another for the choices they have made rather than be jealous of them, and let go of the hurts we have around our lack of making similar choices, suddenly there is nothing in the way.

138. If every time someone felt jealous, they knew that there was a message there for themselves, a message about how they regret some action or inaction by themselves, a message that offered a way of healing that regret, the world would be a different place.

139. If we are insecure within ourself it is very easy to look out and compare – and hence react when someone is emanating a living quality which is reflecting something grand – and thus the cause of jealousy, a seriously capping force which forbids us in seeing inspiration in another and instead confirms the insecurity.

140. Being able to understand where jealously comes from helps us be gentle with ourselves and others. With this understanding we can stop taking it personally when jealousy comes from others, and not beat ourselves up if it’s us who is jealous.

     1. Yes it is the understanding and honesty that opens us up to realise that we can, at any point, call the changes in our lives and make different choices.

141. The word Jealousy conjures up for me bitterness and resentment against another person thinking that they have something you don’t have and want. And mostly the want comes with I want what the other person has but I don’t want to work hard for what they have achieved. So for me Jealousy comes from a lack of contentment within our selves, we don’t seem to be able to appreciate that we all ready have everything we are just not tapping into it because sometimes it does take hard work to discard what is not working for us to get to the contentment with life. The energy of jealousy withers, twists and distorts people it is a very nasty energy to come up against especially when it comes from our families and friends.

     1. Jealously is truly a horrible force that can damage us, irreversibly. It is very necessary to understand that it is a reality of the world we live in and to bring understanding to every time we either allow it within ourselves or feel it from another. It is our responsibility to call out this insidious energy so that we create a body that no longer allows it within and our awareness of others jealously no longer impacts on our own joy.

142. “The word ‘jealousy’ has been used to describe how we feel in relation to what another is doing” – I like how you have put this. I really get the sense that we make it about others while it is completely personal, as if the others are at fault for making the choices they make.

143. We are like billionaires arm wrestling the corner shop owner over small change. We fixatedly focus on the wrong thing when all the time we have the key to unlock our own vault and realise the riches we always had inside. Why continue to make life about fighting for scraps when we deserve and are served Gods full banquet? Ah Leigh your blog helps me see how absurd the way we live today truly is.

144. Jealousy is one of those ‘secret’ feelings that are destructive although not seen with the eyes. When it appears in my life, it shows me that I’m not with myself. I just can be honest about it, stop comparison and come back to me, returning to Love, where there is no separation with anyone.

145. When there is jealousy in a relationship or you are feeling jealous towards another, it is so damaging and can only lead to conflict most of the time. It can present you with an amazing opportunity if jealousy does present, that you are not appreciating yourself or the qualities in another that they may have mastered more than you have, so can be a flag for yourself to go deeper and learn something more about yourself.

     1. Yes the key word here is not going back to self- appreciate or building a foundation that prevents this doubt feeding ill truths in the first place.

146. Jealousy and comparison comes from looking outside of ourselves and missing the gold within us that can be expressed and revealed.

     1. Absolutely Adele, when we start to look outside of ourselves and not appreciate what we bring and the choices we have made, we open ourselves up for jealousy and comparison.

     2. So true Adele – by looking outside we miss the love that we are.

147. I appreciate and enjoy all that is in my life, all the choices that have brought me here to today. When I feel the resistance towards another’s reflections in these moments I understand everything that I appreciate has come to be called to more deepening.

148. Being understanding why ourselves and others are jealous is a big key to enable ourselves to walk free of the prisons of habits and imposition from the world. We stay small when we react to it, understanding why it is there allows us to walk tall.

149. We are equal in essence and yet we all do not make loving choices and get jealous for others choices who are loving.

150. The key is that we are forever being pulled up, supported and deeply held by God. When we allow ourselves to feel this , which is very loving choice to choose, we allow to be all that God is. Hence there is no difference, no separation and definately no individualism – let that part of us that seeks individuality render forth and surrender to the love of God back again..

151. In jealousy there can be a lack of appreciation of the choices another has made and in that not appreciating that we can change the quality of choice that we make moving forwards and appreciate the reflection that spurred us on to do so… And there’s also envy of what we think another has that may in truth be a false picture of happiness, intelligence, success, comfort or apparent security that we are buying in to…

152. “Thank you Serge Benhayon for living the love that you are.” This is such an astronomical gift to and for humanity. By living the love he is Serge shows us all that we can live the love we are and thereby that humanity can live the love it is.

153. “what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself.” Without a doubt this is the true foundation of jealousy.

154. I find I don’t consciously register what I want in my life and so am unaware of what I will be jealous or envious of. It is very specific to each person and the reflections we get from others are designed to waken that part of us we are not living. The excuses we make to ourselves why we can’t live this are blown apart by seeing it easily being lived by another and that feels like a big part of what pushes our buttons.

     1. I like what you share here Fiona. You expose how caught up we can become in our own lives, to the degree that when we see another living their glory and simplicity, we are challenged, not by their choice to live how they are, but by our own choice to not live what we innately know is our truth.

155. ‘One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life.’ A beautiful choice we can all make and the more we begin to do so the more we inspire others by our loving reflection.

     1. I am coming to feel that it is also a constant choice to accept the deeper levels of love that we connect with and feel. For to feel them, but not live them equates to us holding back the depth of our essence and the quality of love we have to share with another.

156. This is very significant, not holding ourselves back in the face of jealously is actually a responsibility we hold, to shine innately from within a way of living that we all know.

157. ‘One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life.’ I know that any jealousy I feel I trace back to seeing someone choosing love when I have not. The choice is simple: to be inspired and pinpoint where I have not been loving and choose to be love, accept my choices and deal with whatever has arisen lovingly; or to continue to be jealous, feel that poison spread to the relationships around me and in my body, self-bash and continue a path of abuse. It’s a bit of a no brainer and also a call to super appreciate those who do live their loving way and inspire us all.

     1. Well said Karin. Love is the greatest medicine ever and true appreciation is right up there!

158. Understanding what you write here is very valuable, as one of the point we struggle feeling is jealousy and that if we sense it we often switch off to not feel it. Gives us the sign that we already have sensed it anyway. Also, for myself, I start to be honest with myself when I do feel envy and why : so that I can feel what is underneath and stop this envy going through my body, which feels like a dishonesty, and stop sending this to the person I feel jealous with.

159. When we acknowledge jealousy and use it in the way you have Leigh, it becomes an opportunity to learn and grow, when we feed the emotion and identify with it, it is harmful to our self and the other it is directed at.

160. I agree Doug only recently I discovered the capping aspect of jealousy. It is not always what I want to feel when jealousy comes my way but the only way to not get affected by the harming energy it is. Also when I am comparing myself and start to be jealous, to be aware of it and to be completely honest with myself stops the jealousy and brings the focus back to myself to heal this pattern by loving myself more and more.

161. …’ I see everything in my life as God gently nudging me to take the next loving step.’ Love this Leigh and sometimes I ‘forget’ this and complicate my life by having the focus on the outside and then there is this comparing and being jealous coming in. A gentle return to the depth of love that is inside me and to build this presence in my body is the only and needed remedy to accept and understand myself and others.

162. Reacting with jealousy is so simple to appreciate – not willing to feel that the potential that is offered to all has not been said YES too!

163. “One of the most significant changes that I have made is to accept only love in my life.” Wow Leigh, this feels amazing. Inspirational. To accept less is to deem ourselves less worthy. Loving ourselves to bits – a great response to feeling even a hint of jealousy or comparison.

164. If we lack appreciation for ourselves, when we see another who is doing “better” than us it is easy to slip into comparison and jealousy rather than be inspired by the reflection they offer.

165. ‘what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself. My focus was instead on fitting into the life that I had.’ Very recently I have had to look at where in my life I make the choice to ‘fit in’ rather than hold myself for who I am. I am making choices more often than not now to be myself and enjoying this more and more.

166. ‘ I feel my grace daily, there is an acceptance and love of others that I had not ever before considered was even possible, let alone now to be living.’ Gorgeous, I can feel the true beauty of this Leigh.

167. So beautifully expressed Leigh. We may fool ourselves into thinking that we are jealous of another’s wealth, beauty or sense of ease but in truth we are really furious with ourselves for not living the truth of who we are.

     1. Spot on Leonne, when we have these reactions we can take the opportunity to uncover what has triggered us, living in this way supports us to then learn to respond to life instead of being in reaction to life.

168. Thank you Lee – you are a brilliant !

169. Jealousy is very much about the choices that people make. We can feel when a person has made choices that we are still making excuses for not choosing. This irks us as it proves to our rather stubborn spirit that our excuses have no basis. It is a magical opportunity when we recognise what they have chosen, and feel empowered that we can do the same

170. It is deeply freeing to not react or be swept up by another reactions and choices for when we remain connected to ourselves and understanding of another’s behaviours we will not be consumed by them and will be able to respond with detachment and love, as is deeply called for in life.

171. I have discovered for my self that I cannot help it if another person is jealous of me in the past I would cringe and back away trying to make myself as small as possible, I allowed myself to feel I was a threat to the other person or people. But what I have come to understand is that they actually have the issue not me, so I don’t have to clam up, retreat, say sorry and all the other negative things I used to do.
     Recently when I felt jealousy from across the room, I just said to myself well suck it because I cannot and will not change one iota of who I am just to make that person feel better about themselves. This is a huge step forward for me, not being bothered by what other people think or say I should be doing so that they feel better about themselves.

172. Comparison keeps us very superficial and stuck in the physicality of life when we are so much more than that. It’s great to practice and exercise our multidimensionality by feeling deeper into why and what we are comparing ourselves to. Ok, so someone has an awesome car that is better than mine – but how did they get that car, why did they get that car, what did they sacrifice to get that car and what force did they use?

173. As much as jealousy seems to be and is directed at another person it is first and foremost targeting oneself for all the failed opportunities/choices, the procrastination of what already is waiting ahead and further fighting the impulses within that pull to step up into the more that awaits us.

174. ‘One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life… I immediately felt that what needed addressing more than anything else was how I held myself, how I thought about myself and how I treated myself.’ Self love runs at different levels, and paying attention to our thoughts about ourselves is important because we can do ourselves more harm than anyone else can.

175. What strikes me is how truly painful for you all that jealousy was, nothing honouring or loving towards yourself, just lots of self-abuse.

176. Through Jealousy we counteract the greatest asset we have – The power to accelerate our evolution beyond the magnetic pull of the Universe.

177. Jealousy when admitted and explored with utmost honesty reveals with laserlike accuracy the choices we have not yet made but know we could and actually are longing to make as they would lead to where, who and what we are destined to be.

178. The plague of jealously is something that has been with humanity for a very long time. It is totally crippling to those who engage in it. When another makes choices that are more supportive for them and everyone, then those who are not making those choices can and do become very jealous and this incites them to want to bring the other person down. The way out of it is to be inspired by others, appreciate them and start to make different choices if we do not like where our choices have lead us.

179. A great sharing Leigh. Jealousy is something most of us suffer from at some time in our lives. When we start to understand we are not lesser than, but rather all equal in the eyes of God there is an opening for us to change the way we perceive ourselves. I love that you say one of the most significant choices you have made is to “to accept only Love in my life.”.

180. How wonderful to be committed to defeating jealousy Leigh, and without beating yourself up in the process. Your description of your steps back to yourself and God is exquisite.

181. When we read another reaction to us we will know that it is not personal but a relationship between that person and their living commitment to Love.

182. Coming out of envy is a path of learning about love, for yourself and for everyone. But it starts with yourself – this is what I have learnt – that self-love is the key to love for others.

183. Living in and with Grace, we are at one with the Universe and all others and looking outside of ourselves at others or comparing in any way, is not even a thought let alone an activity.

     1. This is very true, a key component of living ‘in and with grace’, I am discovering is the willingness to move my body to the rhythm of the grace within. At times this can feel very uncomfortable, with my body being asked to hold its self more full, erect and in absolute support of that which it holds within and this is very different to how I used to hold my body, so Muscles, Connective Tissue and Bones are being asked to move differently and this can cause my body to feel sore as these movements are chosen. Staying consistent with the new graceful movement no matter the tension and soreness is key to living the grace.

184. ‘One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life.’ When we embrace and accept the love we truly are this supports us immensely in life leaving no space for any feelings of jealousy or comparison.

185. To be aware of how if we get jealous it is showing us that there are choices that we truly felt to make but didn’t really helps to bring understanding to what it is bringing up in us. And from that we can let it go and focus instead on the way that we are living now – being genuinely authentic to who we are in every way and appreciating those who give us the reflection that there is more truth that we can embrace in our way of living.

186. What makes us feel jealous is not what another has and we don’t, but that which underlies our different choices: our own sadness and fury at ourselves for not living as who we truly are. Jealousy and comparison are closely linked: comparing with another and making ourselves more or less than them is equally harming. And there’s no victim here as playing either one of the less or more roles feeds the other and keeps the game going. What is the antidote to all of it? I’m starting to feel that it must be appreciation and self care as a foundation for self love. For when we deeply care for and appreciate ourselves and all that we bring, we know it to be equal to that which is brought by all others.

187. just imagine if every time we felt jealousy we changed colour… For all to see… This would be illuminating at the very least and things would definitely be out in the open

     1. I love this. If this occurred to us with all the different moods and thoughts that we allow to cross our mind and take over we would have quite a disco going on 24/7. But most importantly, as you say, it would be out in the open, and maybe we would take the responsibility we have, or, as is our usual way of shirking responsibility, turn it into something of normalcy and entertainment.

188. Awesome to expose what jealousy is here – the fact that we are comparing with another’s choices knowing we have not made them for ourselves. It makes so much sense to me!!! I know that when I feel jealous – it is exactly for that reason and I can see in another that they are making different choices. And on top of that i am not appreciating who i am.

189. ‘One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life. This is a very personal choice that I am discovering doesn’t have anything to do with another, but is ever-present in how I personally care for myself.’ It always comes down to the relationship we have with ourselves and you’ve started with being honest and to look jealousy in the eye and it has lost its power over you ( and everybody else who chooses to do so) as going within and choose the love that you are is the only remedy and connects you with the grandness you are and come from.

190. Following my heart and living the joy of who I naturally am, totally debases any ideas of comparison that try to enter my mind. There is no platform for jealousy to stand on.

191. We can only choose jealousy and comparison when we are not living all that we are and saying yes to our full potential – therefore eliminating jealousy is as simple as accepting the grandness of who we are and living it.

     1. A way of life that opens our hearts to a potential we didn’t ever think we had. Jealousy keeps us stuck and cold to life, the complete opposite to our grandness.

192. Sweet and simple Leigh, you just brought us the key how to deal with jealousy. First it starts with observing where this jealousy comes from in relationship with you, by this honesty we will be able to see it for what it is and grow from those moments instead of being it instances were we confirm ourselves in hardning up or withdrawl to not feel. Which as this blog shared it is actually very enlighting to reveal what is behind this jealousy, because we can then choose to understand and let it go.. Beautiful.

193. It makes absolute sense to me that ‘to live the love I am’ is to care and nurture me in every way possible. Why berate myself when I feel jealousy in my body towards another? Why put myself down when I feel jealousy towards me? Why get anxious when I don’t understand something straightaway? Why do I allow myself to wobble when sexual energy is being directed at me! The list goes on yet making space for only love for myself regardless of what is going on I am inspired, inspired because I know it is the way. Thank you Leigh.

194. It is simple, all we need to do is “to live the love that I am” yet we have created a world that is so far from accepting and living this – that it may make little sense right now.. Trying to solve complication from the complication only adds to it, but here is the key to letting go of all the complication and struggle.

195. When you read this you automatically think it applies on how others do things to you, “One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life”. In other words don’t allow people to say or do certain things to you or in front of you. But as this article clearly sets out and just how personal this is, “When I made this choice I immediately felt that what needed addressing more than anything else was how I held myself, how I thought about myself and how I treated myself.” So to accept love from others fully we need to accept that same love from or to ourselves. This takes away most if not everything from the to hard basket or the out of my control arena. The way to go about anything in life is to make the steps yourself so that when you present the same to others they feel how you have been with it. Anyone to talk the talk but it’s through walking the walk that we inspire ourselves and others.

196. “The feeling of grace is full and encompassing, steady and strong, offering a space for jealousy to be let go of and our true loving light to be set free.” I love this line! When jealousy is expressed towards me I often feel ‘wronged’, your blog shows me that these moments are simply an opportunity to read and bring understanding to another.

197. This is beautifully inspiring Leigh. How amazing that it is possible to feel totally different in life and towards others simply by focusing on how you hold yourself in grace. Just beautiful.

198. Jealousy is an avoidance of what is being offered to us once again through the reflection of another.

199. Jealousy begins when we cannot handle the ‘more’ that we are that another reflects by virtue of what they live, that is not yet being lived by us. It is a poison and a curse to both parties. It is a force of ‘darkness’ designed to ‘destroy light’ and thus inhibit our expression of the love we are and have for each other. Thank you Leigh for being so open and honest about your observations and your willingness to expose that which has no place taking up space within you. It is a valuable lesson for us all.

200. This is an awesome subject to tackle Leigh, one that needs deconstructing and being honest about for ourselves, as if we are not feeling full of ourselves and with ourselves, thoughts can come in and then build and build. This is where our responsibility comes in, to call them out when they do and then come back to the truth of us all, as absolutely equal in every way.

201. When I read about committing to only have love in ones life it immediately challenges all the beliefs and pictures I have around the word and notion of love. It seems there are quite a few exceptions in my book as to what I already know is not love and why I tolerate it. Thanks time to revisit parts of my life.

202. Leigh, what you are sharing about jealousy feels absolutely true, ‘what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself.’ Reading this supports me to understand why I may feel jealous, this is a gorgeous way to deal with jealousy, ‘instead surrender to the love that I have within and understand it’. And the key for me feels rather than staying in that jealousy, is to take steps to make changes in my own life.

203. I lived riddled with jealousy for a long time; an emotion that ate away at my relationship with life and myself. Working with Universal Medicine gave me a two fold tool to re-write the patterns and history here: accepting and appreciating my innate values and worth alongside understanding that jealousy is simply my fury with myself for not making wise and loving choices that someone else has.

204. Jealousy is really quite an insidious response, very damaging to both the instigator and the recipient…. as you so clearly express Leigh it is actually realising you have not made the choices that the other has to support themselves, this creates an anger within ourselves that we turn into a jealousy rather than face our anger at ourselves and the truth of the situation. Once we have faced jealousy within and healed it there is an incredible space and ease in our body and deeper feeling of responsibility in supporting ourselves to go forward and an acceptance and appreciation of where others are at.

205. “I am not yet fully clear of feeling jealous of another and this is something that I am acutely aware of.” Such honesty Leigh, I can feel that there is a lot in this, there are many who would jump at saying they are not a jealous person, I would be on of those people in fact. But when i really feel more deeply into it, that isn’t the case, I can be jealous of others. It isn’t green eyed monster jealous, but a more subtle and more sinister jealousy, so reading your blog has shone a light and level of honesty to go deeper with this within myself, so thank you.

206. The more we build a level of consistency and appreciation in our bodies the more we can read jealousy and not react to it. It is the building of this foundation that allows us to become more heightened in our awareness yet gives us the backing of how to stay present and bring more of who we are and embrace the reactions with gusto!

207. Leigh, I haven’t read this article for a while and its really interesting to come back to and re read and discover just how far I have come on from being jealous. And Serge Benhayon teaches that the more we love and appreciate ourselves the less room there is for jealousy or comparison because and it sounds a bit strange to say this but we fill ourselves up with our own love and this is a truth that I can back up because I have worked really hard to love and appreciate myself so that when I see others there are no triggers points in my body to set me off, only a deeply held sense of love and it is the most wonderful feeling to have.

208. Jealousy is very interesting to observe and see for the envy that it is, It is our reaction to a choice another made. But so often I feel when I think I’d like to have that that it isn’t true for me to be that way and that there is a comparison that kills off any true evolution with myself. Having an image of another living in their way that I should obtain. It is for ourselves to make the choices and see that living our love is the only choice we need to make to truly be confident and feel at home in our body.

209. The trap of jealousy is interesting to observe, for if we had the things or lifestyle we were jealous about would we really feel fulfilled or would we just find something else to be jealousy about? When we choose to separate from the stupendous love we already are within, which forever awaits to guides us to live its fullness, we instead make loveless choices and we are left feeling a gap, an emptiness. Feeling the quality of reflection of another living the results of consistent loving and supportive choices, we are faced with an opportunity to be honest with what we have chosen, appreciate the reflection and be inspired, or we further our disconnection and resistance by going into jealousy. When in comparison we choose to live less as we forgo appreciating the unending depths of amazingness that we are and uniquely express whenever we are connected to who we already greatly are within.

210. “No longer do I berate myself when I feel it, but instead surrender to the love that I have within and understand it. These moments are now stepping stones, taking me to an ever-deepening love and understanding of myself and others.” This movement is universal in it’s application and can be applied to all areas of our lives, not just where we feel jealousy. thank you Leigh.

211. “When I made this choice I immediately felt that what needed addressing more than anything else was how I held myself, how I thought about myself and how I treated myself.” We could all do with a tune-up in this area. Self-loathing in women breeds comparison and separation. When we regard ourselves more lovingly we are able to share this with others more readily.

     1. It is incredible to feel and see the changes in ourselves and those around us when we start to treat ourselves with respect, care, understanding, tenderness and dare I say it, love.

212. “Hiding very sneakily behind this envy was the true jealousy that I had not considered until recently: what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself.” As I read this I am wondering if there is a level of this playing out in my own life. Your honesty is inspiring Leigh, another layer is here to be disarmed if we choose to be honest with ourselves, as you have.

213. This shows how powerful an antidote self love is to jealousy.

214. I can relate to everything you say Leigh. For myself, I know I have been focused on when others are praised – sitting there sad and going ‘what about me?’ or becoming super critical and reducing down when others step up by focusing on any area they may not have mastered quite yet -‘see they are flawed!’. This way of being is disgusting in itself, but it all seems to flow from a deep misunderstanding or to be more accurate, a big fat lie: that we are separate beings, here to compete and ‘fight for our right to live’ to our last breath. In reality there is no ‘I’, the sooner we truly understand that the swifter we will be able to rise.

215. The word jealousy has even been bastardized and underestimated of what it is and the effect it is having on our society. Yet we can feel that jealousy is an energy that is evil and has been allowed through us, by our choice, as we are reflected a certain feeling of choices we have made or not have made. The key is to understand yourself, allow yourself to feel you and your choices and to accept that you are okay, no matter what previous choices you have made.

     1. Beautifully said Donna. Jealousy is behind many of the most heinous acts. Much harm is done with jealousy as the driving force. If we refuse to see jealousy for what it is we are sitting ducks. When we are honest about our own jealousy and the jealousy that is expressed towards us we are able to mitigate the harm it seeks to cause.

216. In my experience jealousy has already snuck in before I am aware of its presence and the thoughts and feelings are all ready underway, and I can feel my body beginning to re-configure, not very comfortably, in response. It has taken a while to note the awakening of jealousy in my body, but now I can clock it quite quickly, then ask myself one simple question – why? – why am I jealous of this person? By doing so I am now able to see what it is; the awareness then begins to dissolve it and gives me the space to replace it with another question – what inspires me about this person? Now this new way of being feels a whole lot more loving in my body and so slowly but surely it is replacing the destructive reaction of jealousy.

217. Jealousy fuels us with skewed reason and excuse to not take responsibility for how we are living to not bring our all – it is a tactic of diversion, delay and creates a life of complexity and struggle, all the while taking our focus far from ourselves and living the true Love we divinely are.

218. When we surrender to the Love we are, we may observe life and not react to anothers fury, choices or reactions to what we reflect.

219. I am slowly, slowly learning to be inspired by others rather than feeling jealousy. It has been quite revealing to feel how jealousy can still creep in but I now see these moments as precious opportunities to look at what I am still not choosing for myself.

     1. Well said Jane. It is all too easy to pick up on anothers jealousy and to then judge them for it, instead of seeing it as an opportunity to look at what it is triggering in us, and that we may too have feelings of jealousy that we have not been willing to look at, let alone acknowledge that they might even exist.

220. It can be hard to admit to ourselves but all too often we may actually find ourselves feeling jealous of another, because we are not appreciating their choices and being inspired by instead choosing to berate ourselves and dismiss them.

     1. It is a simple, amazing and transformative moment, when we are inspired by someone, rather than jealous (furious with ourselves) about the choices they have made.

221. I love the honesty and willingness to explore jealousy, as most of us do not respond like this. We often pretend its not happening, find fault in others or reasons why we should be feeling like this. It is not a comfortable feeling to be jealous but you have shown that it can be turned into a learning experience. If we feel jealousy, to explore what it is that they have chosen that we have not, then make the steps to re-claim that. If we can spot it in another person, it must be there in us, just not activated.

222. This is such an awesome and all encompassing blog on jealousy. I can so relate to seeing another living a truth I’ve felt for myself but denied myself and how I’ve turned to jealousy – an emotion that’s super toxic but one easily dissolved by feeling what I’ve not lived and choosing to live this way and appreciate myself. Attempts to avoid being the target of jealousy through not living my truth are far more painful than any jealousy I could receive especially now I can understand what is at play and choose to see the equal beauty in that person they are denying themselves.

223. It’s brilliant Leigh to see that when jealousy turns up – that it doesn’t just do that like an uninvited house guest. It is there to show us something vital we need to see. For the jealousy only ever seems to occur when there is an area we have held back, that we don’t want to embrace, that we have neglected and not included in our space. So really we could say that jealousy is a massive support and a key – if only we stop and fully acknowledge just why it is on our doorstep today.

224. I did not realise till only recently how much jealousy was in my life and I did not think for a second I was jealous! Not even a thought would give it a way. It is deeply ingrained in making ourselves small and insignificant and by the very choice of that alone the door inadvertently opens wide for jealousy and comparison to enter

225. I’m loving this new awareness around jealousy and what it actually means. It really helps break down what’s actually going on for us.

226. “One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life.” when we do accept love in our life, there just is never any room for jealousy!

227. “One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life.” And what a great choice to make Leigh. From here it is possible to then only allow what we know to be true to be part of our lives, as anything else is immediatley felt and we are offered an opportunity to deal with it.

228. “…what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself.” What a revelation Leigh, and how beautifully honest this is. When we can admit this to ourselves we can then begin to really look at what we can do to change our own choices and start living a life that has no room, let alone a need to be jealous.

229. “One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life.” I love this Leigh and is very inspiring. Reading that I’ve pondered on what I choose for myself. This is not based on how I let others treat me, but on how I treat myself.

230. Leigh I like that you have used jealously as a trigger to go beneath the surface and uncover the root of it and from there then committing to make new self loving choices.

231. Jealousy is such a sneaky emotion. I used to think that I wasn’t a jealous person and prided myself on that…yet, I realised a while ago that jealousy comes in subtle forms and how embedded it was in me. The beautiful antidote that Serge Benhayon has shared…. is appreciation. Appreciation of myself and what I bring and appreciation of others, what they bring, which is different from my own.

232. There are so many opportunities for healing when we start to take responsibility for our choices and action, changing situations for me always starts in my own backyard. I take a look at what i can develop within myself I do my part. It is not about changing another. It may mean learning to speak up and calling out behavior that is not ok, but that is more about my expression that a need to correct anothers.

233. Jealousy is so misunderstood, often people never admit that they are jealous and will even staunchly cover it up… in this way we never learn from it. You sharing your lived experience Leigh is showing a true way of seeing where jealousy comes from and how to heal it.

234. I see everything in my life as God gently nudging me to take the next loving step.Thank you Leigh, this is exactly the reminder I needed right now.

235. Thank you Leigh, knowing who you are and from there doing things is the most amazing thing. As we are in expression so much more than what we see and do, it is so powerful to feel and have this knowing of were we come from ( a planet, a star) that we will return to. Hence if we take the theme jealousy, we can say that by virtue of resisting this very pull one would go and look back at there choices (‘oh, I have not done that, whilst I could do that and achieve that easily too’ etc).. but we could , if we choose to no longer resist this pull, life a life that is honest and actually open to learn and once feelings of jealousy come to express them and let go of that envie of that ‘not made choice or act’.. as we can no longer hold ourselves onto things that are no longer existing right? Gorgeous blog, truly to consider and ponder on.

     1. “No longer hold ourselves onto things that are no longer existing.” This statement could cure our world of envy, jealously, resentment and bitterness, if it was to be not just the words, but a chosen way of living.

236. “what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself.” this was so true for me as I knew in my body that I could have made choices that would have not only supported me but others around me. When I became aware of this and started to make more loving choices, I could see the changes around others too.

237. I never would have thought myself to be a jealous person, yet only last week I felt it come up. There was a situation with some friends that I had felt this jealousy present. I wasn’t sure initially why this had come up, so it took a little while for me to even admit to myself that it was jealousy, when I did, it was actually amazing how quickly the feelings I was having subsided. I was able to then be honest with myself and ask deeper questions as to why had this presented. Because of the honesty, i was able to go deeper and feel what it was all about.

     1. Jealously is almost like a naughty child, once it is outed it looses its power. Could this be why when we are feeling we can find it difficult to call it for what it is? Anyone who chooses the honesty shared here is a land mark shining light for others to follow suit, if they so wish to feel the true hurt and harm that comes with jealously.

238. Bringing understanding to ourselves when we feel jealous or to others when its directed at us is important. I know I used to judge myself for feeling it, labeling it as a bad thing, and definitely not to be talked about. It really is a harmful distraction away from us appreciating ourselves and others. If we flip our focus to appreciating our own unique qualities, there is little or no room for jealousy.

     1. Appreciation is definitely the tool to use to clear the layers of jealousy that we have laced our bodies with, it is also the much needed attribute to live with to enable us to hold another with the same level of appreciation. Then jealously becomes an energy and no longer a personal attack.

239. Wow Leigh, gorgeous article, this feels so true,’ I immediately felt that what needed addressing more than anything else was how I held myself, how I thought about myself and how I treated myself.’ I have been changing how I feel about myself thanks to the inspiration of Serge Benhayon, I used to be very self critical, notice all my ‘bad’ points and lack confidence, this has changed a lot, I now see and feel my beauty daily, I know how amazing I am and am confident in myself, changing how I feel about myself has been huge and has affected not only the relationship I have with myself but all of my relationships.

240. Jealousy creeps into a lot of daily thoughts. Having more or better material possessions is one that we humans can obsess over. A bigger/better car or house, more expensive clothes etc. Making choices to be yourself rather than fit in is a big step, but it is well worth it because you free yourself from the hamster wheel that keeps you trapped in distraction and anxiety.

241. Building a way of living to my best ability as a Student of The Livingness addresses the previous tendency that allows jealousy to arise.

242. It is amazing what can happen when we truly make the decision to commit to loving ourselves. There is so much power if absoluteness.

243. Feeling the effects of a jealous comment towards us is just as harming as it can cause us to shut down. The alarming power of harmful words, gestures and movements are all clocked in every inch of our day. When we ignore we are saying yes to less harmony and that there is a greatness we all have that we are preventing the world from seeing, reflecting and being inspired to live. Is this true evolution or is this keeping humanity at bay?

244. Sometime the most uncomfortable feeling is looking at someone and knowing that they have made choices that you haven’t. But what if instead we could look as someone as a point of inspiration – willing to make choices we have yet to be ready to make.

245. What a great choice to have made, ‘One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life,’ and what a turnaround to your life this has made.

246. With understanding of oneself and the other there can be no jealousy, only appreciation of what they bring to life.

247. “I have begun to explore what choices I have felt for myself that I had not fully claimed and integrated into my life, and then began to do so” this is inspirational Leigh, the way you have consistently and steadily been prepared to look at the ugly stuff, build understanding, and bring changes to your life.

248. It is very easy to fall for jealousy and think others are better of than us. But in the in end it all comes down to our relationship with ourselves that we don’t fully support ourselves in the way we know we can. It is a reaction to our own disregard in a sense.

     1. Yes it is Benkt. Feeling and acknowledging the disregard that we carry becomes ever more present in our lives and it brings with it a call to being responsible and halting the disregard as we become aware of it. There is a need for commitment, yes, but more so an acceptance of the love we hold within, as it is this love and the willingness to let it lead that will eventually clear all layers of disregard we as humans have chosen for way too long.

     2. This is so true Benkt as the relationships with others reflects how we live with ourselves. Jealousy is the by product, of our own unravelling and not wanting to get real with the choices we make as uncomfortable as that may feel.

249. It’s cool to be aware when we feel jealousy either coming at us, or when we feel jealousy toward another, because it just alerts us to what we have been holding back, or alerts others what they have been holding back.

     1. This is interesting Elodie I was very aware of jealousy coming towards me, and I sat with the feeling and decided there is nothing I can do to change the circumstances that the jealousy was arousing. What I didn’t consider was that the other person was holding back on their love. This has put an entirely different slant on the situation, and brings more understanding. So thank you for your comment 🙂

250. How we hold ourselves is such an important ingredient of not choosing to be jealous, so we can understand where it is coming in and to say no to this ‘looking outside of ourselves’ but to truly care and nurture the loving being we are.

251. ‘To live the love that I am’ – the simplicity of this has had me reeling in the past, so invested was I in the struggle and complication of life… now I explore and practise this with utmost commitment and willingness to learn.

252. This is the most beautiful and real understanding of jealously Leigh I have ever read and the love from reading this is pouring out and felt. “With this understanding there is a sense of grace in my body that holds us both in the love that we naturally are.” I love how you have made so many changes starting with accepting only love in your life and the amazing love and healing this has offered you from the claiming of jealously at its roots and doing something about it. A real inspiration, Thank you.

253. Understanding jealousy, and the root of it is understanding the origin of man’s waywardness and our choice to be so much less. And then we can appreciate when jealousy rears its ugly head – it’s that moment of reckoning for the choices we made, and if we allow ourselves to feel this and nominate it for what it is, we can turn the jealousy on its head and feel inspired by anothers choices knowing that their reflection is showing us how we can make more loving choices as well.

254. I do not reckon that anyone should ever be harsh towards themselves for having jealous thoughts about another person, because so much of life these days is about generating these emotions, mostly through the media in its many forms. And this is why self-love is so important in and throughout our lives today, because with this simple element placed with care and attention to detail – that which seeks to pull us out and be overly concerned with the activity of others has no pull to wield and we are set free to be ourselves.

     1. I agree Shami, jealousy, comparison and competition are there impacting us in all areas of our life. It is not the goal to not feel jealously, it is for us to feel, but not give our selves over to the forces of it. For it will be there in our world for some time to come, understanding it is the beginning of clearing it from ourselves and eventually the world.

        1. The levels of jealousy that we can feel is often clouded by the obvious. When we stop to take stock of the subtle moments that are often offered by those closest to us, we have the opportunity to react or note that what we are offering more and more is the quality that others can feel and choose to embrace.

     2. Beautifully said Shami for when we are harsh on ourselves we just feed the emotional pot all the more.

255. This is such a great understanding to have: “what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself.” As opposite to the current accepted understanding of jealousy, that it is just an emotion that comes over us when someone has something we don’t have but want and we cannot stop it, this understanding you give is giving us a clear way forward to truly heal and let go of jealousy in full to not have it coming back again.

256. “Thank you Serge Benhayon for living the love that you are.” – I echo this. Serge has been a constant reflection of how life can be lived for 10 years for me, and although I wobble and falter at times, I feel the steadiness of what he lives and teaches, and know I can choose the same for myself.

257. The power of surrendering to the love we are within and allowing moments of awareness to be opportunities, to deepen and expand the understanding of ourselves and others, cannot be denied. There are lessons within everything that support us to grow, or, bury our issues depending on the next choice we make to embrace the lesson and expand, or not.

258. Jealousy cannot enter our thoughts if appreciation for one and all is filling the gaps. In other words, when we appreciate all we are, there are no openings for jealousy and feeling less.

259. I remember I used to feel jealous of people who had lovely friends surrounding them, this was obvious because at the time I was very self conscious and withdrawn so no-one ever felt inspired to be around me but I was craving a deeper connection with others. As I began to develop love and respect for myself I naturally opened up to others and any jealous feelings towards another simply fell away as I was no longer needy of another’s love or acceptance because I was giving this to myself first.

260. What a great description of how the layers of envy and jealousy work can work when we compare ourselves to others. Rather than looking to others we would be better at looking at why we have not made choices that are true to our inner hearts and essence.

261. Jealousy and comparison really are insidious behaviours and can really hold you in the grip of resentment and even anger towards another person or situation. This is just a distraction from the real truth of what we are not choosing for ourselves and don’t wish to feel.

262. I am trying to feel the difference energetically between envy and jealousy and at the moment it is not that clear for me. It feels like a very similar feeling (although probably not!) which then lead me to …. how do these words come around? Where did these words come from, what energy and who, and there must be a difference between the two however slight it may be. When it comes to anything … judgement, comparison, jealously, envy, bitterness, resentment etc we absolutely need to first look at the choices we have made and take responsibility for these instead of looking out to others .. otherwise the cycle of abuse keeps going and nothing ever truly gets healed.

263. Understanding jealousy and how it manifests in myself and others has been one of the most freeing things in my life

     1. Yes Nicole – being aware of the way jealously works, where is comes from and why it enters is very empowering. We always have a choice, but it’s much more simple to make choices when we are aware of the energetic factors at play.

264. “I see everything in my life as God gently nudging me to take the next loving step.” What a lightness and love filled me as I read those words….God’s love and gentle holding of us always, is beyond anything we can imagine.

265. What I have come to learn when start to love ourselves and live the love that we are, we build that inner strength. This strength supports us in making the choices that are true for us. When we make choices that are true for us, there is no space for comparison or jealousy.

266. Facing and reflecting honestly one´s jealousy is a direct route to taking responsibility as jealousy exposes our lack of responsibility and what we are actually longing to eventually choose and live.

267. Jealousy and comparison can only happen when we have abandoned ourselves and we can’t feel our own love to confirm us at that moment. We listen to the voices from outside of us and our eyes give us a picture that we react to because the energy we then run with does not have love in it, so we judge ourselves as less in some way and are taken over by our thoughts.

268. Comparison and jealousy are killers – they kill our joy and rob us of our love. We forget that we are all equally divine beings and that no Son of God is more divine than another. But who compares? It’s our ‘me, myself and I’, the part of us that thinks it is separate and that allows such dividing thoughts to confirm that apparent separation. We imprison ourselves but this jail is not locked – we have the keys to the door but we have forgotten where to find them. Your blog Leigh, reminds us where to find our key – thank you.

269. Deciding to accept only love is a concept foreign to most of the world. This is in my mind not an easy thing to do, but at the same time highly commendable to even conceive of the fact that love is something any of us can choose, and it is actually possible to live with love.

270. ‘…to live the love that I am’ and not the behaviours that I am not… it is endlessly inspiring to get to know myself and others beyond the defense, protection and hiding of our learnt reactions.

271. ‘…there is a sense of grace in my body that holds us both in the love that we naturally are’ This is true Leigh and we can appreciate and connect with this at any time.

272. Jealousy is a poison in the body but being inspired by another to be all that we are is to choose to commit and evolve to a deeper connection and love.

273. Gorgeous that you are choosing to feel jealously, being it through you or through another.. As the feeling of if it is often we would want to dismiss. But how enriching when feeling it, so we can move on from there and feel what we have missed or not claimed in our lives and or what we can feel within another person. Great to claim clarity back as dismissing our feelings can only result in blur vision.

274. There are so many opportunities in our days when we react to something to stop and ponder what emotions have come up within us and why and understand that God is ‘gently nudging me to take the next loving step’ to let them go.

275. These days I know as soon as I get any sense of jealousy creeping up on me that I need to stop and allow myself to feel what this is showing me about my life. In the past I would have not even wanted to take the time to figure it out but would have just allowed the jealously to infiltrate into every part of my being, whereas today I am always ready to get a sense of what it is telling me and even though sometimes I initially may not like the message, I know that it is always one I need to hear.

276. Jealousy is like a white noise that I use to avoid responsibility. When I actually stop to look at it, it is superficial and gets dissolved instantly by a moment of self-acceptance, appreciation and the willingness to be inspired by other people and their choices.

277. When two people truly connect there is no room for jealousy.

278. Thank you Leigh for this awesome blog. I love reading it again and again. I know we have all experienced jealousy at some stage in our lives. I certainly have felt jealousy from people I have met and I have also felt jealous of others, this has affected my life hugely. The more I become aware of jealousy I feel more equipped at exposing it and cutting the harmful energy that separates us. Jealousy can be expressed in the most subtle ways and it can even be disguised as being nice but when we read the energy of what is expressed and trust what we feel, it supports us to not be affected by it and to not feed into it. I have learnt that if I react to jealousy I have given my power away, so the most loving thing for me to do is to simply observe it, not take it personally and stay open to people no matter what.

279. The impact of jealousy is a deep degrading of the person who is jealous. The jealousy assumes that you are less than, not enough and never will be. It is a path to self-loathing.

280. Awesome blog that basically gives us the remedy for jealously and comparison. We can start to nail jealously once and for all when we nominate that what we are really jealous of is choices that others have made for themselves that in truth we wish we had. When we see this it is far more easier to choose to be inspired by them rather then jealous.

     1. Oh yes and yabadabadoo to that: being inspired by others is the master tool to dismantle jealous.

        1. That and having appreciation for what the other person brings, along with self appreciation will go a long way to combatting the jealousy.

281. A great honest blog Leigh, showing that paying attention and giving focus to your own self love is a wonderful way of addressing jealousy, and bringing understanding to what you see and feel.

282. Jealousy and comparison are truly insidious… And yet they are not inevitable consequences of living… They are choices we make, and they have such an effect upon our lives that making the right choice now is vital.

283. We often don’t give enough credence to the underlying energies which are at play 24/7, jeoulousy being a very insidious one. When I have been jealous or envious because I was comparing myself to what others had, it definitely was not coming from my own self worth, which if full would be able to realise and celebrate others rather than constantly compare.

284. What is the often unconsidered and hidden evil of jealously is not only how it cuts another person down but equally how the damage it can leave afterwards and leave a very deep scar within ourselves because at the moment of feeling the fury that stirs on the jealously is a giving up on ourselves and the potential we can bring. I know this for a fact because whenever I have felt jealous in the past I know that I have had to make the choice to give up in the moment on any possibility that I can too live the potential of the other that I am jealous of, just not at the moment perhaps but in time if I but allow myself to appreciate who I am, what I bring and the choice to bring it so.

285. Jealousy is so insidious and completely distracts us away from living our own life and making choices that truly support us. We can look at another and desire to be where they are and then resent them but what really are we resenting? Could it be that we have had the opportunity to make the same choices but have chosen not to? I know this has been the case for me, not that I have always wanted to see it this way. The more I say ok and take responsibility for my life the more everything makes sense and the more I can be and am inspired by others who have already made the choices that I see before me.

286. When we admit to ourselves that we are feeling jealous of another, it doesn’t have the same hold over us, and whilst there is jealousy, there can be no appreciation for what the person is reflecting us that triggered the jealousy in the first place.

287. When we start to really expose jealousy within ourselves it is the start of reconfiguring our relationships with everyone …. Because comparison and jealousy are the terrible twins of dysfunction

288. An honest blog about the current globe epidemic that is rife. Jealousy is an opportunity to be inspired by another if we are willing to get down to root of the feeling.

289. We think that we want and envy the things in life; the car, the looks, the job etc. But as this writer has pointed out, it’s actually the self-loving, supportive choices that others make and the ease, simplicity and fullness that this brings that we really envy.

290. Leigh for a topic that can be difficult and uncomfortable you bring so much grace and beauty to it.

291. There is a beautiful and powerful moment in this piece when Leigh you talk about letting go of jealousy and how this actually sets you free to love to the depths of the love that you feel. How gorgeous that is to read and to know that there is you living in the world.

292. I love your honesty Leigh. Jealousy is insidious and destructive and incredibly harming to both ourselves and the one it is directed at. This line stood out for me “One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life.” because it is the answer to so many of life’s issues. I know when I accept only love in my life and claim this in full there is no room for jealousy or any other emotional upset that will take me away from being love.

293. Jealousy is a nasty one when we stop and see it for its full package. You project out at another what we are frustrated and angry at ourselves for not choosing what that person is reflecting to us is possible. Looking at our own choices and avoiding the responsibility that is required to be all of who we are can get a bit ugly so we revert it out to others.

294. Over the last few weeks friends have got new cars or received or been given a lot of money and I could feel this slight pull in my mind, an energy trying to throw me off course of ‘that never happens to me’. Thankfully I caught this instantly and nominated it as I knew this was not a truth from me, my body was clearly telling me this but had I gone with this energy (and the pull was quite strong!) I would have gone into jealousy and comparison, which in turn throws us completely off track with regards to who we truly are. When we make it about love everything falls into place. There is an order in the Universe which is beautifull and jealousy, comparison and envy are definitely not a part of it.

295. I don’t like feeling jealousy, I have a feeling I avoid feeling it being directed at me, and with this I go into anxiety and eat food to not feel this. I wonder what it would be like to allow myself to feel this, maybe it would ease the tension and holding in my body – but to also feel it as an energy and not the person. That is another learning for me, to not hold a behaviour as someone – to still hold them in love, to not harden, and see them for who they really are, why this is happening, to have understanding, thats a big one, and see it as something coming through them.

296. Very wise words Leigh, I remember being a teenager and being jealous of other girls who I thought at the time were popular or those who had loads of confidence, but only in the last few years have I come to the understanding that they were reflecting back my own lack of self worth. This shows how important it is to talk about these things because in my case I went for years without questioning these jealous moments, and if left we will be asleep to even realising that these thoughts are harming to ourselves and others.

297. If we let ourselves feel and accept there is jealousy, and be open and understanding with ourselves, we can then be open to the reflection offered by another. In that moment jealousy can be transmuted to the inspiration before you of so much more that is possible.

298. A beautiful sharing on a much needed topic- jealousy and comparison is something that is there in many interactions yet not something that we often talk about. Its important to discuss this so that we can understand it deeper and learn what the reflection offers us and how we can use this as inspiration.

299. “To accept only love in my life.” That sure is a ‘significant choice’ and one which will indeed change your life, as it is doing. Great choice, Leigh.

300. Now I will always stop to feel deeper what choices I have been making and the way I have been living in jealousy around another. This allows me too see things in a different light, and accept what I am truly choosing for myself.

301. Jealousy and comparison is an exposing of the inequality lived between people. That is not truth as by birth we are equal, we are born with the same make up within us, same organs, same blood—we make have differences in our external appearances or different upbringing, but it does not change the fact that we are the same within. When we choose to live truth, jealousy and comparison will stand out very jarringly in our lives, and it is wise to be aware of this, and return to choose love.

302. Very wise words Leigh in that when you feel jealousy towards another, you look at why and what choices you yourself haven’t made. Jealousy is toxic and if we ‘think’ we are not jealous of another when we are, we just bury the emotion in our body and delude ourselves. Just nominating that we are jealous and taking responsibility for it is a loving step.

303. I love the fact that you are not suggesting we are expecting to be free of jealousy but simply to spot and take responsibility for it. Actually, from this place to realise that it can be an opportunity to develop our understanding of ourselves, relationships and the dynamic connection between all of us.

304. Only in separation to our true selves can we look to another and feel they have something we do not, for we each carry within us a light divine that knows no comparison as all are held equal in the warmth of its glow. Re-connecting to this simple truth and appreciating that we all bring slightly different flavours to the table at which we all sit, is the way forth for us all out of this mess that has owned us as a humanity for way too long.

305. Great to unpick and observe ‘why’ Jealousy….”When I now feel jealousy coming from others there is this sense of knowing why each person is living like they are.” It has such a sting if we do not observe it and if we allow it we choose to die and become small in its presence, this done for years, retards our true expression. Knowing it is about the choice another is making, a self fury, takes that sting out and instead allows understanding. Amazing.

306. Jealousy is a strange thing indeed for really instead of wasting all that energy we could just note it coming up, see it as a reflection and name whatever it brings up for us just like you have so beautifully done here Leigh. Very inspiring.

307. When we take our focus away from what others are doing and bring attention to our own lives and addressing areas that may be amiss, that is I feel when jealousy of others just slips away. For if we fulfil our own potential then we need have no regrets about how we live and thus can instead celebrate others for the quality of how they live. Jealousy can be a poisonous thing and can be the undoing of many a relationship, far better to clock it and see what we can do to avoid letting it take control of how we interact.

308. Leigh, I felt inspired when you shared that those moments of jealousy you feel are now seen as stepping stones to deeper understanding. How wonderful to drop any self bashing over it and to see these moments as opportunities to learn and grow. Thank you.

     1. Each moment we realise the way we are being is not in line with our essence is an innate gift. In the realisation we have a choice, continue with the behaviour, or change it. The power to make our life the one we want to live is always ours.

309. I can remember feeling jealous of every driver of a car because I had used a million excuses and had not bothered to learn, as soon as I dropped my jealously and instead let myself get inspired I learnt to drive and got my own licence.

     1. What a beautiful, simple example of jealousy as a stranglehold and then, transformed to inspiration through honesty and self-awareness, a catalyst for change.

310. “what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself’” I had in the past got into this trap and It was harming for myself and my relationships with others. When began to understand where this was coming from I was able to make different choices in myself which shifted the jealousy.

311. “With this understanding there is a sense of grace in my body that holds us both in the love that we naturally are.” This is a beautiful line and shows how much you have embraced this understanding, Leigh. In that place of love there is no judgement or comparison and therefore no jealousy or envy and when people feel understood and held they also are less likely to indulge in such negative thoughts.

312. Thank you Leigh for your sharing. I love the comment “One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only Love in my life” This is definitely on my agenda from now on!

313. Jealousy feels like it is in complete opposition of something I feel is very real and true, we all have something unique, divine and amazing to share, to make the whole in harmony. To oppose this and think we have to compete, or that we must fear or resist someone else shining, opposes this… we are in one universe, all interlinked, there is nature in harmony, there is no reason for humanity to not flow with ease and harmony also.

314. I wonder what goes on when you are jealous of someone unlikely. When this jealousy comes I almost feel guilty and strange. For example, I might feel jealous of women that get Botox and or surgery, its not that I want that for myself but I am jealous on some level, I can feel it, that they get to feel younger and prettier. Thoughts come up like I feel as if they have cheated. I know this sounds really crazy but I want to explore this type of jealousy as I only recently realised I even feel it.
     After reading this blog I have been considering if it will take more understanding from my part, for the women that choose these types of surgeries in order to clear up these strange jealous but not jealous thoughts.

     1. I wonder Sarah if these feelings of jealously open up for us to consider how it is that we choose to cover up something about ourselves that we may not like. Which is essentially what having botox etc is. For me personally I know that i don’t like having a bulging belly, yet some days I do have this. Just yesterday I choose to wear clothes that would disguise my belly. What you have shared here today is making me look at this for myself and to consider that it is in no way honouring myself in full to be doing this. It is bringing up a new level of acceptance for me to consider about myself and I sense a new level of acceptance for all.

        1. So the cover up, is possibly to avoid feeling the choices we have made…the lines on our faces, the “bulge from our tummies” show all those choices we have made and maybe when we cover them up we get to escape our past in a way…Maybe the “jealousy” I feel is just a small part of me wanting to take the easy way out, which is actually the hard way, for your past always catches up with you, for time really is not what it seems.

315. Usually jealousy comes in disguise as its ugly face otherwise would be too obvious and shocking both for the recipient and the one being jealous. The moment we clock jealousy for what it is we can undo it, as long as we cannot clearly identify it we will be affected by it in one way or another.

316. From your blog Leigh you can see how we are all linked. How when we are say going into jealousy of another how it also makes them feel. After that if they are effected by how we were then they in a way pass that onto the next interaction. In another way we could say it adds to the ripple effect of the choices we make. We have this thing where we only say it’s effecting us but as you can see it goes far wider then that. We make a choice and then think we can just make another possibly even different choice but what is the impact of these choices on others. When we cut someone off in our car what do they do to the next person, how are they at work thereafter, what were their thoughts at the time? Yes by all means we can change and feel better and therefore not cut someone off next time but what if we then get cut off do we go back to how things were because people don’t understand? What if every choice we make goes out and then comes back to us? So when we choose to cut someone off it may not come back to us in the same way but the impact is felt by others and at some point we will need to balance that choice out. The whole of nature works on balance within cycles and we are no different. It is our choice to see how we would like things to be, we can either see things coming because of the choices we are making or be almost blind because of the same thing. Jealousy is no different and you can change the heading around to suit whatever we are talking about, our choices effect us all.

317. Amazing blog Leigh, I too have been envious of others or down right jealous of some peoples talents and the choices that they have been able to make but you are so right if we take it back to building the love we have for ourselves and live it we can feel the envy and jealousy just fade out of the picture altogether.

318. There is so much we can do in life to support a population that is without doubt suffering, but we cannot provide any support when we are in the trap of jealousy.

319. When we don’t take responsibility for ourselves and our loves, jealousy can easily creep in. Other people make their choices and we make our own. When we take responsibility for that fact we realise we have the power in our lives. Jealousy looses its grasp and the door by which it enters closes.

320. I had to take a very big piece of humble pie so that I could see the amount of underlying jealousy that used to be an energy I would call in. When I started to accept the love that I am and look lovingly at all my choices, this is when my life started to turn around. Thank God for the presentations by Serge Benhayon, which are slowly transforming my life to one of being love to the best of my ability.

321. Jealousy is one of the most insidious of all human emotions, for it is an emotion that is firstly unlikely to be recognised or understood by the recipient, and equally unlikely to be recognised by the instigator, for no-one likes to admit that they are in comparison or jealous of another, and so often it is masked by justification as to why one person deeply dislikes another.

322. Hello Leigh and is jealousy possibly one of largest hidden ills? When you stop and look you can see it everywhere and yet it remains so hidden. At school and growing up I heard it used a lot and it was usually around interactions with girls but rarely was it used in this way if at all. I see jealousy everywhere and not that this is a big deal as I’m sure it’s been there the whole time but to speak about it so openly is refreshing. How much do we hold each other back and down or more still hold ourselves back around feeling jealousy? It would seem a lot and it would also seem we need to relook at the word as there is more to jealousy then what I saw growing up, it has many faces.

323. I really like this part about accepting love as being a very personal choice that has nothing to with anyone else, and yet it affects everyone else. For me, this brings together the micro and the macro of life which I find very humbling.

324. The fury of jealousy gets it’s fuel from the fury at self. Which proves that we all know the responsibility that we are shirking.

325. It is an important distinction to make how we envy another but only because we are jealous or indeed furious that we have not made the same choices that another has.

326. So much I could relate to in this blog, especially as the jealousy and comparison is so much part of our every day. It never occurred to me that it was wrong or even existed until it was pointed out to me – I did not see it as a big problem in my life, so much so that I did not want to look at it for some time. These days it is easy to admit and to clock it when it comes up, and I find to counter this appreciation of the person I am jealous of works wonders.

327. Great blog Leigh, we allow jealousy to override the love we hold within, it eats away our relationship with ourselves and others, and when we acknowledge that jealousy arises because others have made more loving choices then we have, it gives us an opportunity to change the choices we make going forward, and appreciate another for the choices they have made and the reflection that they offer us.

328. When I am honest with myself about jealousy rearing its head, I stop it running amok with my subsequent behaviour. When I am understanding but firm with myself about it, like parenting myself through a challenging moment, I open up the opportunity to move on and learn, incrementally chipping away at the habit of the jealousy game.

329. Everything keeps coming back to observe, observe, observe. Energy has countless forms and guises and jealousy is yet another one to be observed, studied and understood.

330. So simple and further so very simple – At times things can seem like there’s no where to go yet when we surrender into where we are and what we feel, even though we do not want to feel it, the answer can be there in a split second. Usually in my experience the struggle is there because we choose to struggle, as in keeping a status quo even though we do not like it. Making the leap into the unknown can be very rewarding and in truth that unknown is very well known otherwise we wouldn’t feel the dissonance. Now that last part was definitely a note to self : ) Thank you Leigh

     1. Dear Matts,
        Also a note to me. Thank you.
        What if my choice to surrender to this knowingness is not for me, but for all?

        1. Now that would change the focus on things and bring in the ingredient of being responsible, since the wisdom that can be emanated through me cannot be emanated through anyone else in exactly the same way. That also brings in some room for appreciation as well.

331. It is so simple to live the love that I am. For me the simplicity of being love is still a work in progress!

332. It is easy and in some ways all to convenient to see oneself as a victim of life. And when one views oneself from such a point of contraction, it is all too easy to allow oneself to become jealous of another’s choices.

333. ”No longer do I berate myself when I feel it, but instead surrender to the love that I have within and understand it.” What a beautiful confirmation of the relationship of love you have built with yourself Leigh. I am also learning that any reaction I have to another is all about the lack of love within me and looking for others to support, placate or appease me! Hideous when seen objectively, torturous when one is caught in it.

334. From my Livingness I have found that is the only way “to live the love that I am”! When my love is not part of my Livingness then other energies are able to enter me and distract me, so I can bring in the judgements of myself and others.

335. Imagine if we all put ourselves on a jealous diet.. so just like you have done Leigh, we get really honest when we go into jealousy through out our days, weeks, months and years and slowly but surely stamp out a viscous reaction that is slowly eating us alive. I had no idea how much I would go into it until I started to bring my awareness to it. Focusing on myself and how I feel and the quality that I am living along with a big dose of appreciate this, the jealousy that was is starting to become the no more.

336. To hold those who are jealous of you in love and know where they are in understanding is so healing. No more lying low because I’m scared of the jealousy I know I’ve dished out to others coming my way. Jealousy is such toxic waste to know it cannot touch us if we hold another in love and understanding and that this presence offers others a great healing is divine.

337. What a fantastic practice you have introduced to your life, Leigh. I find it very inspiring.

338. Leigh, I love how simple you make this, ‘I have begun to explore what choices I have felt for myself that I had not fully claimed and integrated into my life, and then began to do so.’ I can feel how I can go into jealousy and feel sad that I have not made the choices that I could have, what feels lovely Leigh is that you simply choose to be aware of the choices you could have made and then you take action to integrate these into your life.

339. Having no expectations about the way anyone will react or respond is part of the appreciation process too. When we stay in observation the energy of anyones reaction towards us has nowhere to go. As truly, they are only reacting to their own stuff.

     1. So very true Jenny, also very lovingly bringing to our consciousness that another is really amazing and beautiful, as the choice to live with their own essence has already been felt and acknowledged, however, yet to be chosen.

340. When you can see jealously for what it is – your frustration at not making similar choices that another had made – it is a game changer. And you can turn it on its head when it rears its ugly head and go OK…I can feel jealously, and then look at what has triggered it and then get inspired by the choices you see and set about making them yourself. Simple.

     1. So simple. A teaching, awareness, learning about choice that we need in our education curriculum.

341. This warmed my cockles this morning – “I love myself deeply and this grows every single day”. It is rare that you hear these words spoken in such a honest way – no rah rah, no trying, just a simple statement of your love for yourself.

     1. And it comes without indulgence or self satisfaction; only responsibility and inspiration about the opportunities that lie ahead.

342. When reading what is shared on ‘holding back what is true for me and fitting in to life’ I can feel the resentment that has come up for me when I have chosen to live like this. It makes sense to me that this would act out also as jealousy when I see someone living their life with any sense of freedom and validation I’ve not offered myself. To accept only love in my life absolutely offers the freedom and space within that I have been envious of in others in the past.

343. We seek peace when in peace there is jealousy and judgement only it is masked by tolerance and passiveness. We may not be at physical war but it is still war if it is not true brotherhood.

344. Leigh I love how you “celebrate every day the difference in my life”, for many of us this is something that we can find a challenge, to appreciate and celebrate ourselves yet I get the feeling that if we don’t allow this personal celebration and appreciation we also leave big gaps that get filled with other things like jealousy.

     1. This is actually a very wise truth. My experience is exactly this. Appreciation of everything I am is the antidote to energies such as jealously.

345. Jealousy is one of many things we wedge between us and our natural pull to be in respectful, loving relationship with ourselves and each other. It is a cold hard weapon that fights our natural expression of love.

     1. Well said Matilda. Well said.

346. Jealousy is a harmful energy for both the person expressing it and the person receiving it, your honesty is much appreciated and the tips provided are most helpful.

     1. I agree Joe, sharing practical tips like this empowers us all particularly on taboo subjects like jealousy that we can be totally driven by but yet feel too uncomfortable and awkward to call it exactly for what it is.

347. ‘what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself’ – well said, Leigh. We are feeling absolute fury that we have shown such disregard towards ourselves when others are making loving choices.

     1. What is great with your sharing Alison is to be aware of the choices that others are making towards you is the difference between going into a hurt and choosing to understand instead.

348. When I have thought about accepting only love in my life I have immediately gone to thinking about others and their behaviours and while there is nothing wrong with calling out that which is not love, to bring it back to me and accept only love in the way I am with myself changes my perspective on the meaning of accepting only love in my life.

349. ‘I feel my grace daily, there is an acceptance and love of others that I had not ever before considered was even possible, let alone now to be living. I love myself deeply and this grows every single day, at an amazing pace as I see everything in my life as God gently nudging me to take the next loving step’ – this was so beautiful to read and feel Leigh

350. Do we look at another and be inspired by them and the choices they have made and so change our ways? or do we get frustrated with ourselves for not making those choices and then try to pull the other down? If we truly allow ourselves to be inspired by somebody like Serge Benhayon then everything changes. In essence what Serge presents is for us to live the love that we are – so simple yet so profound.

351. ‘I celebrate every day the difference in my life, and the joy I now feel in my days – none of which was possible until I made the choice to live by the very basic principle that lies at the base of that which Serge Benhayon presents, “to live the love that I am”.’ Gorgeous Leigh , this is all we need to do!

352. Whenever I find myself feeling jealous of someone else I know it is because I am feeling frustrated with myself for not taking the steps that they have taken, or that I have not been true to myself. Instead of focusing on them I turn the attention and focus back to myself and what is needed in order for me to feel good about myself.

353. To be envious of someone one has to not be in their heart and instead in self judgement and critique for what we have chosen to live by.

354. Jealousy the green eyed monster that pops up every now and then and pushes our buttons that can produce reactions and strong emotions which can be a recurring pattern. What you have done is to stop the pattern and to examine what was underneath the jealousy or envy you felt Leigh and in which you bring so much understanding and love. Thank you for all you have shared here and all the little gems of wisdom sprinkled throughout.

355. One of the most significant choices that I have made in my life was to put myself first and take care of my own needs, with this choice, I immediately knew what would support my body and that was to treat myself with gentleness and to learn how to nurture and nourish myself. All baby steps which have led to many big shifts in my movements, my awareness and my life.

356. Leigh, it has been very interesting pondering on your blog recently, I have been honest with myself that I do get jealous of others and have been looking at where this is and then rather than beating myself up about it actually making different choices.

357. Jealousy is such a poison to ourselves and also the person to which this jealousy is directed. For me, jealousy always stems from comparison and a lack of appreciation of myself. When I fully appreciate my amazing life and all the amazing choices I have made, then I am also able to appreciate the choices of another. When I don’t have this self-appreciation first, I then go into comparison and jealousy shortly follows.

358. “It offers a moment in time for us both to surrender more deeply to our own love and to let go of the falseness that jealousy offers” When we surrender to our bodies and feel the magnificence we are all connected to it is hard to feel jealously, of course if we leave this place of divine equality then it is easy to feel the spite of jealously.

359. I have come to understand that to feel jealousy is to understand that I have made the choice to not do something I was absolutely capable of doing. It can be an unpleasant realisation.

     1. Very unpleasant indeed Nicole…but nonetheless important to understand and be transparent about so we can learn that jealousy is an emotion that feeds itself over and over until we break its hold over us.

360. My relationship with jealousy started to change when I became very honest with myself that I was feeling this rather than pretending to myself that I wasn’t. With the honesty I have developed a friendly relationship with jealousy, feeling and observing when it arises, no longer pushing it down or berating myself for having the feeling, but use it as a marker to look at what areas of my life that I need to address where I am not making choices that I see others are.

361. We have to be really discerning. It is easy to be envious of another one based on what we observe. But not always what we observe is true. Envy works based on comparison and the truth is that we do not even compare in a way that makes justice of us in the first place. So, we compare a devalued version of us with an overvalued version of another. Comparison is a total set up to confirm our lack of self-worth. Envy goes from there.

     1. Well said Eduardo. What a n extremely manipulative energy jealously is. I love the correlation to comparing from a ‘devalued version’ of ourselves, so very true are these words. They so expose just how willing we have become to live less than who we actually naturally are.

362. Is jealousy the foundation for depression? The envy of missing the boat because of our choices and now we are stranded with no way to go forward? But why did we choose not to get on the boat should be our first question? Why did we feel less and covet something that was outside of us? Jealousy is what paints us into a corner when we have walls.

     1. All great questions Steve, I can clearly state that jealously has a part to play in depression, as for years I lived with a constant low grade depression. Because I felt helpless to change my life, jealously had a part to play in this reality, in that it kept me lost and feeling powerless.

363. When we really listen and surrender to our bodies we can appreciate ourselves for everything we are and where we are at, it is in this acceptance that jealousy can not survive or even get a foot hold.

364. Leigh I love what you said, to accept only love in your life. To live this would ask us to feel and be present in our lives, therefore to clock and not dismiss anything that does not feel loving. Accepting love asks us to deepen our awareness in all that we encounter.

365. Comparing to others around us takes it’s toll more than we may realise – it is tiring, depleting and sets us at odds with each other rather than in the appreciation of what we each bring and in unity with each other.

366. Envy is a most destructive emotion, it can eat away at you, it can be all consuming, causing pain and sorrow. I realise that if I feel envy it is really only my sadness and internal anger that myself for not making certain choices in life, once realised I can start to take responsibility for my choices and allow others to make theirs, and appreciated them for the reflection.

367. I eat to not feel jealousy directed at me from others.

368. Jealousy from others is a strong emotion and when it is directed at us we can absorb it and feel uneasy without knowing why. Noticing it reduces the impact considerably.

369. A great blog Leigh, clearly setting out for us to reflect on what the repercussions of jealousy are. The only way to free ourselves from this jealousy is to appreciate our differences and valuing them. Seeing each other as individually unique but still part of the whole.

370. When jealousy rears its head it is our responsibility to spot it, arrest its escalation and then when we have the space to do so be willing to explore its source, understanding that they may be many layers to unveil.

371. Jealousy is lack of appreciation for all that we bring… we compare with others rather than acknowledging we each have something unique to bring to the world.

372. As toxic as jealousy is it offers every time a chance to recognise and become aware of an aspect of our life where we haven´t yet lived our full potential. Embracing that potential, living and expressing it in full is what fills the empty pockets the poison of jealousy can enter and do its devastating harm.

373. Jealousy is a poison and when we notice that we are in it, it is our responsibility to do something about it.

     1. I agree. It hurts us and it hurts and inhibits the other.

374. When I now feel jealousy coming from others there is this sense of knowing why each person is living like they are. With this understanding there is a sense of grace in my body that holds us both in the love that we naturally are…’ – This is a joy to read Leigh as so often we can retract or defend when we feel jealousy coming our way, or even choose to ignore it which is what I’ve been doing recently. But really this is an opportunity to not shy away but claim who we are and our choices and hold the other person in the love we have developed.

375. This is so true Katie. Jealously, comparison and their counterpart ‘competition’ are seen as normal and are actually encouraged in us from young children. So much so that many cannot see the true harm that they cause, because if we did, so much of how we live would be exposed for the falseness it is.

376. I am leanring to live love in my life more and more as each day passes. I am happy to be getting more confident with it and seeing how in the end, it is the only way to live.
     I have had so many people challenge me in unpleasant ways and yet I am learning to let go of protection and keep living love more and more.

377. Jealousy offers incredible healing to all that experience it, whether that is to be the one in jealousy or the one receiving it. Either way it is an opportunity to feel all that it brings up and the choice we each have to choose our truth or not in that moment.

378. During those times that I have felt jealousy from myself, there are different kinds of jealousy to experience. In the past I have felt huge resentment towards another and wanting to blame them for why I was jealous so that I couldn’t feel the lovelessness and lack of self appreciation that I was feeling inside me. The one that is more uncomfortable though, is the one that you feel but then ignore, and then don’t address it because it was only a tiny little jealous moment.

379. It’s very lovely, tender and honouring to feel the way you support yourself along the stepping-stones of awareness to ‘surrender to the love with-in’. This is such an important choice to make – to appreciative and know innately we are love and recognize that a fleeting thought is not who or what we are, only something that is passing through us to be cleared. The simpler and more loving we approach this step the simpler and quicker it clears out for good.

380. It’s like we all have access to a large, grand meal and jealousy comes in when we see others take a seat, dine and then carry on with life while we sit on the floor knowing all we need to is make the choice to do the same. People feeling the love within them, that’s equally available to us all, and acting on it. To not feel that we have chosen to not exercise our own divinity we have to call in jealousy that distracts us and attacks the other person. From experience, giving and receiving this attack is self inflicted first and then directed towards them with a pretty strong force that doesn’t necessarily mean they are rude or aggressive but can be hidden under polite and quiet.

381. Amazing sharing! one thing I have noticed is that these forces are quite powerful, jealousy or envy are not just an emotion experienced by an individual they equally have an effect on others around them.

382. Even though jealousy is triggered by another the fuel in which our fury burns is set provided.

     It is our choices that provide us the fuel to scorn and spray others with our dis-ease with the choices we have made that we know we have chosen more supportive choices for ourselves.

383. Amazing what the depth of one principle brings when we stick with it …

384. A life void of self appreciation and responsibility results in the misery we can call envy and jealousy. Not unlike disease, it is all-consuming and deeply poisonous to the body.

     1. I agree in full, it is literally poisonous to the body, I learnt that one day by choosing to feel what I was doing to myself.
        Never again have I indulged jealousy carelessly, if it does come up, I am now willing to look at what I need to work on, and know that’s all I need to do.

385. I am not sure how deeply society acknowledges the problem of comparison and jealousy, and yet it is there, underneath the surface of so many interactions.

386. On some level, most of us will have felt some form of jealousy towards another – and as Leigh has presented, this is actually just a part of us that does not want to feel what we have not stepped up to, and so we turn it towards another. But in understanding this, how simple can it be then to just make the choice to just live the love that we are. I am not saying this is necessarily easy, however it is certainly simple. And something that I certainly want to keep working on and embracing constantly.

387. Being open to reading jealousy that may be coming our way helps to also understand and actually feel when we may choose that same energy going into comparison or in jealousy with another and underneath that to understand what we are really reacting to, that is acknowledge where we know we have not made the choices that were there for us to make, and so now have the clarity and willingness to make a true choice once more.

388. Celebration of who we truly are is one sure way to bash jealously on its ugly head!

389. Living the love that we are, to paraphrase one of your sentences – seen in this light, it it so, so simple and transparent, putting an end to comparison, jealousy, envy and everything that is not of our true nature.

390. It seems like the envy you describe here Leigh is all about other people and what they have got and achieved. But what your sharing illustrates simply is envy actually stems from me. For if we don’t appreciate what we have got, don’t see that every last detail, every last thread is placed and arranged in such a way that we can learn and develop as we so need to, then of course we will see what others have got as what we might want. But the truth underneath is we are wealthy and amazingly rich.

391. It is very confronting when we understand the reason for our jealousy is nothing more than rage at ourselves for the choices that another has made that we have not.

392. Understanding how jealousy works and why we choose it is very supportive. I realise recently how sinister jealousy is and this highlighted to me how I can choose to be responsible for closing any opening that allows jealousy to seep in. Choosing to be aware and responsible for what I express and choosing appreciation more, supports me to expose and eliminate jealousy’s hold.

393. Jealousy is exhausting and debilitating – an extraordinarily dysfunctional way to divert our attention from what is really needed. To take responsibility for our choices and the fact that we lay the way our lives pan out.

394. The evolution that we are taught by jealousy, whether from us or to us, is that we are all each responsible for our own love, our own honouring of others, and our own experience of life. This lesson is there equally for all should we choose it.

395. “live the love that I am”. It doesn’t sound complicated…it sounds easy enough….yet for years and years I have done everything but that. But this morning after a terrible nights sleep (made the mistake of allowing one of my wriggly kids to share my bed) and a tired body, I have a choice…to drag my body around the day feeling resentful and contracted…or to live the love that I am…As I sit here it’s amazing..I can literally oscillate between the two and can see exactly how both versions would play out through the day. It really is just a choice. I think I know which one I’m going with today.

     1. Otto, this is a beautiful honest sharing. Feeling the difference between living love and not is a choice one has constantly, especially when the intention is to live our love. That which is not is felt even more clearly. I personally find this to be an amazing phenomenon for the choice then really is to choose to physically live the love, with our body movements, posture and how we speak and respond. All aspects of life that are seeming auto pilot, become again our personal choice.

396. When I used to see the word jealousy I would see it as a person or people that I have felt jealousy come through directed at me, I don’t feel this anymore, I see it more as about the choices I make, one that I am simply not ready or unwilling to choose more self-loving choices another may be making, and two when I feel it through another, it’s not personal, it simple the choices they are not making, and I don’t need to react to people anymore. It brings much more space in the sense of being able to observe what’s going on, understand and love that person.

397. Bringing a deeper understanding of what lies beneath and fuels reactions such as jealousy and comparison we can, with honesty and awareness, heal these separative emotions. Much more inspiring and empowering to see it as you have here Leigh.

398. I have found jealousy to be this little intruder in my life every now and again. It has then become a marker for me that I have not been appreciating the choices that I have made, or that I have been making choices that are not true for me. So when I feel any degree of jealousy I take the opportunity to stop and look at the choices that I am making, whether they are true, and how much appreciation I truly have for these choices.

399. What is so vital to acknowledge is how poisonous, literally to our bodies and our hearts, these emotions are, … and yet we can harbor them for all our lives, choosing to let them eat us away from the inside out.

400. Having an understanding around the meaning of jealousy for yourself, does help to turn it around and own your part in it, instead of getting stuck in feeling guilty for having the feelings in the first place.

401. It’s time for me to realise and admit “I was envious of what others did and had in their lives.” and still am at times, only then can I let it go, and not see I am jealous of them, it actually has nothing to do with them, but the choices they have or do make. Then I can heal. But to pretend or be arrogant enough to think it’s not there creates a wall of hardness and protection, to not let people get to know me or in.

402. There is a nasty energy with envy, it drains us and empties us with bitterness. Feeling into the origins of it as you have done, Leigh, nominates the cause..”what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself.” This gives us clarity to understand it and be responsible for choosing it, and then appreciate being able to cut it from owning us and stop it. Brilliant work.

403. It can be a bitter pill to swallow knowing where your jealousy and envy is coming from. That it is actually because you have not made the same choices that someone else is reflecting to you. Rather sobering and a great place to realise every moment we have a choice.

404. When we live the love that we are, there are no limits to what is possible. In not living the love that we are, we will find every limit and excuse possible to justify or keep us there – Jealousy is part of the latter.

405. When I am jealous myself I cannot detect jealousy of another, hence we will be hooked in complication. The moment I start working on jealousy I am able to read another’s jealousy and bring simplicity into the relationship.

406. Jealousy is insidious, we are not even aware of the fact that it is there, we look at people who are doing something we are not and we criticise them, send out daggers of hate, justify our own behaviour, completely unaware of the evil energy we are dealing with. How much better then to look at another who is living their truth and to feel inspired, to look at our own choices and to allow ourselves to feel the devastation of what we have chosen for ourselves, and from there to evolve and make different choices. We do not need to catch up, be like another, or even ‘do better’ for we are already enough, we are all equal, just living differently.

407. When I realised that jealousy was simply me regretting that which I hadn’t stepped up to in my own life, my relationship to jealousy changed completely – I found this amazingly liberating and so much easier to nominate and work on any comparison that pops up.

408. I find that I can only be jealous in areas where I refuse to appreciate myself so I feel a lack and experience the other person’s amazingness as another nail in the coffin and painful. This makes me feel horrible and I can well understand that I could be also unwittingly sending horrible energy their way. In contrast the beauty of when I already have built deep appreciation for myself, every reflection that I can be more is not seen as a threat or evidence that I am not enough, but it is the most glorious inspiration of the amazingness that exists in the world and therefore in my life. It also shows my own potential if I choose to see it.

409. Thank you for writing about jealousy Leigh. For me, jealousy always comes from comparison first. I am beginning to realise that comparison only occurs when I am not fully appreciating all the choices that I have made to be where I am. When I appreciate my own choices, I don’t go into comparison with another but rather, I appreciate their choices and see the reflection that they offer. This shows me that the key to not getting caught in a cycle of jealousy is self-appreciation.

410. When all is said and done it really does not matter what another person is doing if we don’t react to them and just remain true to ourselves. The fact is that a person will be jealous until such a time as they are not jealous and we do not need to let it affect us in any way.

     1. The simplicity and practical-ness of this comment is inspiring, thank you, Elizabeth. Nothing to resist here.

411. I never would have called myself a jealous person, but as I have really unpacked what it means and felt more into it. I know that I have been jealous of others, quite a lot in fact. I have allowed a lot of comparison to rule over my feelings and in doing so bringing in a lot of emotional investment in relationships and situations. Less so these days, but it is still there at times, when it does arise, I use as a marker that I am not feeling a connection with myself, because when we are in connection with self, there is no jealousy or comparison at all.

412. It’s interesting to note another jealousy and feel it for what it is and where it comes from, often a deep sadness, but even more so to feel our own jealousy of another or others and call it for what it is, as often we assume we don’t have jealously of another and are past it. This only keeps us trapped in a fog of believing we are somewhere when we are not and this is often in out head instead of the truth of how we are living, the joy that can be felt, where we are, what’s really going on for us, and the magic of God all around us.

413. This is very beautiful to read, jealousy is a reaction on the choices we see in others that we haven’t made, I feel it comes back to ourselves at all times, and bringing understanding, trough love, is all that is needed to heal this envy, bringing us back to our own path.

414. Jealousy can be a great marker if we are prepared to go there – it feels pretty toxic so it takes a deep level of honesty to actually admit and feel it in full. When jealousy comes through me I can look at why. Has the other person made choice I haven’t? If so, then clearly it is self fury turned outward which is irresponsible. Am I not appreciating both the reflection of the other person and myself? If so, that is also irresponsible. The reflection of others is a gift. We can either shoot the gift in the mouth or embrace the evolution it offers.

     1. This is true Nikki, jealousy is an emotion that comes through us, it is not us. If we have allowed our self to be consumed by any emotion, we have in that moment lost connection with ourselves and in that place anything can come through. With this awareness any ill emotion can be a great mirror of the energy we are choosing and allowing to fuel us, and whether this is supporting our growth and evolution.

415. It’s interesting in reading this as it’s shown me how I can still see behaviours or emotions as the person, instead of seeing the person themselves.

416. Living and expressing our Truth and being content with where we are at in life, leaves no entry for jealousy to enter. When our internal world is rich, we seek not from the outer.

417. It is amazing when you feel that no thing will make you happy or satisfied , it is truly freeing to know it is only your connection to your breath and divinity that can fill you up.

418. ‘One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life’; what a wise choice to make Leigh in overcoming and ousting jealousy.

419. To accept only love in our lives means that we must say no to what is loveless and that often requires letting go of the security and protection that we have invested in.

     1. This is very true Jennym,
        What I thought was security and protection was in fact restriction and a way that hide in bitterness and resentment. This I could not continue to live, so yes I have let go of a lot. But what I have accepted is far more beautiful, true, solid and real.

420. Jealousy can come at us in subtle ways that we don’t recognize. It is insidious and we are not necessarily always aware of it. It is designed to knock us off balance, feel insecure, doubt ourselves or shrink away from claiming what we live and what we know. By learning to recognize when jealousy is present we are more able to see it for what it is and not allow it to have such a harmful affect.

421. Jealousy is often an undercurrent that lives in many relationships and we don’t even realise it, sisters, siblings, friendships, partners and even passing acquaintances. I love what you’ve claimed here Leigh, ‘One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life.’ To do this makes everything feel very different and it’s a simple choice but it turns the tide of how all relationships can be.

422. Jealousy is a force that comes in, I experienced this probably very many times but once I was aware of the whole process of how it happened, I actually felt it come in. I was observing someone I love dearly and respect beyond words and I was thinking how great this person is and my mind wandered a bit and the next thing I had this ferocious jealousy directed at him. I was totally shocked and couldn’t believe I was capable of such thoughts. When I came back to me the jealousy wasn’t there.

423. This is a super blog as you share the way, or the the ‘how to’ in addressing jealousy. The dedication and commitment …”in how I personally care for myself…” certainly makes all the difference in the way we interact in life.

424. It’s common to justify jealousy, as in saying it’s unfair that someone else has a certain something or looks a certain way, and in that we cement ourself in the dishonesty of avoiding what we’re really feeling – that there were choices we could have made but didn’t.

425. “…what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself.” This is a huge realisation and exposes the root of jealousy. If I feel even the slightest bit of jealousy these days, I try to immediately look at the choices the person has made and ask myself why I have not made those choices, and then celebrate the fact that another has made those choices and is then offering a reflection of those choices for me.

426. The “stepping stones” is a lovely analogy Leigh. Something as simple as just saying no to unkind thoughts holds true power. For when we do so we then can connect to a much more positive thought process, one that loves ourselves and knows our own value.

427. The word jealousy conjures up an image of the green-eyed dragon that when released consumes everyone near when it strikes. The beast sucks the energy from everyone and tries to make them all less. Jealousy can’t be summoned when we are complete with the love of ourselves that lies within and as you have said that it becomes simple to feel the energy is what it is.

428. Choosing to be open and willing to understand jealousy is a truly loving choice. Jealousy has little tendrils going into areas that we may not pick-up so easily or obviously. Opening up the discussion is a great way to bring a light and understanding of what’s in the shadows and appreciating it’s not just our own dark little covered up secret. It is a reality it exists, so lets breath with appreciation that it is a very honest guidepost to how we feel about ourselves that isn’t true.

429. The counter part to jealousy is to choose in every moment to live the fullness of who we are. No holding back, no excuses, no playing small. At the same time deeply appreciate every part of us to the enth degree. Appreciate the beauty that is there inside of us and not to be afraid to fully express and let it out.

     1. There is no room for jealousy when we make our lives about building appreciation. The difference here is the consistency and responsibility to begin with.

430. Jealousy reveals much about another and their choice to take responsibility in that moment and appreciate the reflection we offer or rather to indulge in defence of their choices. Another’s jealous fury cannot touch us while we remain in the loveliness of deep surrender with ourselves and having dealt with our own hurts and insecurities.

431. Your blog so deeply reminds me of how power-full love and letting someone into your heart really is. Jealousy is really just on the surface, it is not the truth of what is going on. It is always a reaction and while it may trigger a hurt in us, the beauty of what is offered by the situation is a reflection of more love and how we can expand that in our lives.

432. Leigh your in-depth exploration of jealousy has prompted me to explore what prompts feelings of jealousy when they arise … your explanation ‘what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself’ has helped me see that I have at times harboured what I called resentment but under that was really plain old fashioned jealousy because I was holding back in being all I could be in that situation.

433. The grace and love we hold in our body is the grace and love we behold another and all others in.

434. Could jealousy be a game to distract us from appreciating who we are and what we bring? If we allow jealousy to let us compare with what is outside of us, what others have, then where is the space to acknowledge ourselves. And yes, jealousy comes from seeing that we have not made choices other people have, but then we are not appreciating that every single moment is a choice. And in each moment we can choose to live in a way that appreciates ourselves and others; or someone who lets in comparison and jealousy and therefore cannot see the bigger picture.

435. Someone’s behaviours can change completely when fuelled by jealousy, and it is quite poisonous for this to play out in any relationships, families or workplaces as the consideration of another can easily go out the window if you see through a filter of jealousy.

436. When we live in a loving way it just wipes out all those emotions that come our way such as envy and jealousy. I have felt love do this when I have felt jealousy in me but I cannot always hold it over time. The more I am connected to me the more I am aware of how subtle jealousy is and how it sneaks in. This is an inspiring sharing, Leigh.

437. Thanks leigh for opening up the conversation up about Jealousy in this blog. As when we go into comparison and then use the energy of jealousy to pull down another or many by not accepting there path or choices in relation to our own we also pull our selves down . The whole world feeds and reflects back and forth the retarding force of jealousy and it has the effect of keeping everyone playing it small.This is from the fear one can react to, when feeling the wrath or energy of jealousy directed at them in full effect . It is awesome to be able to be honest enough to learn to clock ourselves in jealousy and others and call it out ,instead of contracting /reacting etc . When said in and by truth ,words like they are “just jealous ,or that just jealousy “pack a big punch in dispersing or neutralising the damaging energy of jealousy .
     How could we ever compare ourselves ,with some many lives with so many experiences, hardships, ,choices etc ,all in the past ,but leading our way forth. The fact of reincarnation and people alighting to this truth alone ,would help people understand how we really cant compare each other it gets us nowhere .

438. I love to read your blog which supports me to expose jealousy and envy in my own life.

439. Jealousy is an energy we allow in our lives if we do not choose to live in the grace of the divinity we are. As it does not belong to our divine origin, it only comes when we choose for that life of creation we in fact not belong to be but are in because of us employing free will.

440. The more I feel my issues, as well as those silly thoughts that used to occupy my mind, they become less and less, which means that I am no longer contracting and burying my head in the sand but instead stand tall in my power, that is my soul! This way of seeing others and myself has taken away any comparison and jealousy. Being in my power is still something I practice on a daily basis, so I feel there is a forever learning how to be with others and myself.

     1. I like that Greg, being in our power. As I explore what this actually means to live, I feel a sense of calm and inner knowing that doing so is the way to live, implementing it and not shirking from the beauty of the level of responsibility it engenders is a forever learning.

441. Something I get strongly from your words Leigh, is that ‘jealousy’ is not actually a reflection of our true natures. Its presence, offers us the opportunity to understand ourselves and each other far, far more deeply – always returning to this fact: that for all its force and how it may play out, it is not who we truly are.
     If we, by virtue of the way we ourselves live, happen to ‘trigger’ this in another – it offers an immense opportunity, to actually get in touch with our own capacity for understanding, and, for the other if they so choose, to recognise just what their experience of jealousy is alerting them to within themselves.

442. Deeply appreciating how you have taken the more surface layers of ‘envy’ here Leigh, to another level – in your willingness to explore and get in touch with jealousy in your life. We can remain quite ‘comfortable’ in being envious can’t we – wishing for more, for ‘better’, deciding that the world (not ourselves) has stacked cards that are not in our favour, resenting those who seem to be living in a fullness we feel removed from…
     Yet the truth of the matter, can most definitely be that we harbour deeper resentments and jealousy towards those who have reclaimed the truth of love in their lives. What they then represent, not being so much about the ‘things’ they may have, but about the strength and power of the light they consistently shine. Getting in touch with how this may rock our boat is essential in getting to the core of any jealousy we may harbour – offering us the potential to recognise it and make our own foundational choices in life, as you’ve shared Leigh. Choices that set us free from long-held patterns of self-limitation and denial of just how grand that we ourselves actually are…

     1. Whilst we pretend these ‘deeper resentments’ are not there we give jealousy a vast playing field to act out on against others. The core understanding that jealousy is actually self-fury directed out, is a key to relinquishing its perceived hold over us. Jealousy walked alongside me for a long time, but has incrementally diminished in size as I have built a respectful, then loving, relationship with myself – this feels like taking responsibility in a real way.

443. Retreating in the face of jealousy serves no one – for we confirm another in their separation from their soul and connection to God and enjoin them in a mode of self-abuse.
     To observe another and to understand their reaction is not personal to us, but to them and their own choices, allows them to be with their choices and to be inspired to connect and make more Loving choices should their Will allow.

     1. Then for some Deborah it is not retreat, but retaliation that can be the response to jealously, as you share though, neither way works.
        A deep honoring love for the essence that we all carry is the response that stops jealously in its tracks, for it has no where to go, but to be felt by the person who let it be in their body. Healing is triggered, like it or not when this is felt.

444. When we are living with all of us jealousy is unable to get a foot hold, as when we are living the Love we are there is no reason for us to want or to be more.

445. A very beautiful sharing Leigh. I really appreciated the way you explained the distinction between envy and jealousy. It allows me to feel what each of these ways of being does to my body. When I am envious I feel anxious and unsettled but when I am jealous I feel out of control and the force that comes through me feels absolutely awful. It is great to be reminded that both of these emotions are choices and if we remain aware and observe we can receive the gift of inspiration.

446. Jealousy is a profound ensettlement in one’s body triggered but a reading of life in terms of competition.

447. I have found it is amazing how much we can look outside of ourselves and compare with others without actually taking any responsibility for our own life. Naturally some people are more talented at some things more so than others, and with this are we considering the amount of time, effort and dedication they have put in or are we just looking at the end result and wanting that. I always sought the quick and easy route in life, through school etc… but realise that we are here to learn and not simply get by and cheat the system. So this actually means commitment and dedication is required!

448. The first part of the journey of return for me is to understand what I am not to then be able to feel all that I am.

449. I love here Leigh how you have transformed the experience of jealousy from something that is all bad into something we can learn from. This is very supportive for me as I tend to beat myself up when I feel jealousy or envy or anger towards myself or towards someone else, but understanding that these things are there to show us something that we perhaps are not giving enough attention to is a great way to look at it and definitely will help to keep those self-critical or self-judgemental thoughts at bay.

450. I have realised in the past when I have felt the energy of jealously from another towards me I have contracted thinking there is something wrong with me, lately I am learning to deal with this by using it as a reminder to stand tall and appreciate myself more. Through deep self-appreciation we know God.

451. What people are most jealous about is how much love we are able to express and receive and how easy it is for us to be truthful. These items dwarf material possessions, status etc in my experience.

452. Leigh it’s such a powerful choice you made to “…. accept only love in my life.” How simple it is as well to do this, just across the board only accept love. This is also confirming that you yourself are love and won’t accept any lesser version of you.

453. When we are in comparison and jealousy we are avoiding being the Love that we truly are, and focussing on all that we have not been, and all that we are still not being. But jealousy can disappear in an instant when we come back and appreciate the incredible Love we are and that we have all around us.

454. What strikes me is how normal the behavior of jealousy is in everyday life. It doesn’t usually get a whiff of awareness let alone mention that it is going on in the background of our thoughts. We have become blind, deaf and mute to the invasiveness of it. Unless there is an explosive reaction which is emotional and usually accusing, and when this blows over it recedes back under the cover of polite pretence. It’s great to bring the conversation to light and be light with the fact that it is there and understanding how it plays and being able to discuss some of the traits is freeing and joyful and cover ups become awkward and unnecessary.

455. It is a comic tragedy well described Ariana

456. Jealousy can be so deeply hidden that we are not always aware that it is what we are feeling. I have been working on appreciation for some time, when we appreciate self and others there is no room for jealousy.

457. Honesty and appreciation are key in order to turn around the ugliness of jealousy into the celebration and inspiration of others.

458. There is a key point here for me in the words “…what needed addressing more than anything else was how I held myself, how I thought about myself and how I treated myself.” Looking at my relationship with myself in daily life and appreciating how incredibly committed and loving I can be is an enormous leveller of judgement, comparison and jealousy.

459. I love how jealousy is accompanied by a stab in the guts. Like with any emotion our body corresponds with a physical symptom in order to gently alert us to the fact that there is a problem.

     1. That is true, that support from the body is great. What I have found, though, at times jealousy is there without me actually feeling any physical symptoms.

460. I had a situation recently where I felt the full force of my irresponsibility in not wanting to face the outcome of my own choices. We get so proud about things and we want it both ways. In this instance I had clearly made a choice and when the consequences came along I did not want to feel them or accept them, but instead went into denial and defence which are other ways along with jealousy that we avoid responsibility in our lives.

     1. Andrew,
        It is awesome you are being so honest here. In your comment you have explained why our world is constantly at logger heads with bitterness and conflict, be that on the smaller scale of tension between family and friends, or on the bigger scale of war. Either way it is the not wanting to take responsibility, and surrendering to the deeper truth offered. It is instead letting our pride take over and defending our obuiously un-loving actions. A comment that has taken this simple understand into a deeper responsibility for myself and a path way for which to halt any moment I go into defense, knowing the absolute harm it causes.

461. Comparison with others is such a dangerous thing to do. Either we believe we are better than someone else and superior, or we get jealous of someone else who seemingly has it better. For me when I am comparing myself with someone else it is a giveaway that I am not honouring, appreciating and loving myself enough and accepting exactly where I am at in my life which is based on all the choices I have made up until that point.

462. Comparison is killer but what I love about what you share is how comparison comes about from us actually knowing what we have chosen is not the same as another. That we already know that deep within we haven’t been living to our full potential, honouring who we are and so in this we don’t want to admit the separation we have been living in and how much this really hurts so we look else where to avoid such pain.

463. Your blog, Leigh, leads me back into my childhood and the feeling I had there about others. In our family we had a strong believe that we are better than the others. Perhaps we had no better car or rented a better house but there was a belief that we are better people because we have no attachement to material things. I realize this feeling better or superior to others even does not go to the point of envy or jealousy in order to deal with this, but hides behind a belief which is not true.

464. It is very inspiring to read Leigh how you focused on investing in yourself as a means to addressing the jealousy that can arise at times. To connect and feel what is there and then go even deeper in confirming our own inner joy means that we can be inspired by another’s self loving choices.

465. Thank you Leigh for supporting us to understand jealousy more. It’s a word that holds me up and as you say at this point we need to surrender to what we are feeling and simply feel it. The next part or moment will then present itself and you will know what to do and have more understanding from there. Jealousy can almost paralyse you and in this you don’t get to truly feel what is there. It shows us no matter what the heading we need to let go of the thoughts and get to the feeling. From what I see you can’t think your way out of jealousy only feel it, thank you Leigh.

466. Thank you for offering such a beautiful understanding of envy and jealousy. By avoiding the details of our emotions, they can become all-consuming and overwhelming. By committing to observing them and bringing understanding, they can be cleared and healed to allow more space for self-love.

467. I like what you have shared here Ariana. Jealously is a cop out, a way to disengage from personal responsibility. To have this understanding early in life is needed. To live and be unaffected by jealously is to take responsibility for all the choices we have ever made. Understanding why each choice was made, with the deepest tender loving care, is by far one of the greatest healing tools available to us today.

468. Jealousy is a strangler of relationships; leaving us in silent conflict and competition with one another and so far from our longing to be truly connected.

469. To accept only love in your life is a great choice and inspiring for me to read. It shows us what love is and when we do not choose for it in our daily lives. I will take it into my days to come.

470. It may seem crazy that jealousy stems from seeing another making choices to support themselves that we are not, but I can attest to this. As Leigh points out, far better to look at why we are not bringing love into every aspect of our lives.

471. Jealousy – an ugly word for a feeling that is both horrible to receive but also to harbour, for it is two-fold in that it not only is expressed outwardly to someone one else, but also inwardly towards yourself is the fury and regret of the choices you did or didnt make compared to another.

472. Jealousy is ugly… but it becomes grotesque and invasive when I pretend I am not feeling it. Honesty has been a key for me to reveal and debase what has been a monster in my life.

473. Through healing the hurts that fuelled my self-loathing I am more able to take responsibility for my choices that lead to the consequences of my reactions as a result of jealousy.

474. Jealousy really gets us nowhere – we end up feeling the brunt of the choice to compare to another with the resulting ill we invite into our body and this keeps us from moving on in our own life and appreciating ourselves and where we are at, keeps us from honestly reflecting on our choices and making different ones as called for and jealousy keeps us in separation from others – which goes against our true nature to be in brotherhood with each other.

475. If we can appreciate that everything that is offered to us in life, whether it is something we feel like doing or not and that it is just God ‘nudging us’ to take the next step, then we can begin to understand and see our lives very differently. For when we are doing something that we have been asked to do but may not have considered doing before, with an open heart and a true willingness, what we do is then for everyone, and not just us as individuals.

476. “…..how I held myself, how I treated myself and how I thought about myself…”
     Those are crucial points and they can be so hidden, subtle and unaware.

477. A powerful choice to make, allowing ourselves to feel why we go to a certain emotion “I have begun to explore what choices I have felt for myself that I had not fully claimed and integrated into my life, and then began to do so.” Jealousy like anything else is there to reflect something for us, are we willing to learn. Being observant of when I feel jealousy from others or when I go into it myself has allowed me to learn from it and so take the energetic sting out of it, by choosing another way.

478. This is such a powerful statement, Leigh – “One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life.” It stopped me in my tracks and inspired me to consider what I am allowing in my life that is not love. When we look at our choices like this, it highlights the ideals and beliefs that warp our perceptions and negate what feels true in the body.

479. ‘As I integrate my true choices into my days, slowly but steadfastly I am adjusting the way I live my life’. Jealousy often arises when we are ingrained and narrow in our beliefs. We have a picture regarding how life should be to be successful according to what the outside world dictates. The traditional picture of Family and how a loving family behaves is a big one. Once the pictures, comparisons and expectations are let go of, envy or jealousy disappear and only a deeply held love of self and knowing that that love is who we truly exists – what is happening around us no longer holds the power to affect us.

480. Being jealous of another is really such a waste of time as we are all unique beings with our own unique journey in life, and therefore it is totally pointless to compare ourselves with another.

481. Jealousy doesn’t just come from no where and side swipe you. You can actually see it coming and the only way to bring it clear is to heal it within yourself. Some may claim they aren’t jealous people but if we watch carefully we can see how jealousy works. I agree that jealousy is a choice but at the point of the choice the way you walked to that point has already the movement of the choice you are about to make. We only think we get somewhere and choose this or that, but truly the choice is already made but the physical part may not be done. How we move in and around everything is the choice, our conscious movement with the consistent ponder of the feelings we have is a movement also. There are many ways to move we would think but it appears to me there are only two, we can move to who we truly are or not. The ‘not’ will bring in jealousy, hurt etc etc the list goes on and the ‘true’ will bring more of the ‘true’. Move to how it feels for you and not in response to what you see.

     1. I love this, Ray – “Move to how it feels for you and not in response to what you see.” What a wonderfully honouring way to live your life.

     2. Thank you Ray, your comment calls each of us to not just talk about how well we have let go of jealously, but to examine our movements in how we live in our days. Are they loving caring and supporting of myself? Do they hold another in this very same way? Most importantly are they impulsed from deep with in our bodies, imprinted with the beauty, love, honour and fragility that each of us is?

482. It is so true what you say that we all deep down know when we are not living our full potential and it not only makes us feel discontent, it HURTS. It is this hurt, because we suppress it rather than deal with it, that fuels the envy we feel towards others.

483. I am learning more and more that to combat jealousy in myself is to appreciate what I bring and what my innate qualities are… whilst also allowing myself to see in others their qualities too and to deeply appreciate what they bring. To value everyone’s expression as unique reduces the possibility of comparison.

484. For me, if I am feeling jealous, it is a reflection that I am not appreciating the choices another has made and that rather than appreciation I have gone into comparison. When I identify that I am in comparison with another I try to appreciate the reflection that their choices offer me rather than go into being jealous of the choices they have made.

485. Jealousy is a very unnecessary force that destroys relationships. To get yourself out of this energy you need to turn it around and get inspired by the other person(the one you are jealous of) and observe the choices they have made and see that you too can make choices that evolve you if you so choose.

486. I have recently been away meeting with people not seen for nearly 10 years and was clearly able to feel jealousy coming at me along side of appreciation from others who wanted to know how I was more vibrant and radiant than before. It has been an empowering experience to see the choices that people have made (from a place of non-judgment) that kept them locked into the same old cycle in spite of illness and diseases being experienced. I now can feel the same sense of grace you speak of Leigh – it is beautiful to be able to appreciate their essence and not go into reaction.
     “With this understanding there is a sense of grace in my body that holds us both in the love that we naturally are”.

487. Loving the quality of your insights on jealousy and its counterpart of true appreciation Leigh. Whenever I feel even the tiniest trace of jealousy now, there is a beautiful reminder to me that I am not being loving enough with myself and in making ill choices, I am the one responsible for temporarily closing the doors to evolve back to love. Different choices can be made at any moment and those walls of separation begin to tumble down again.

488. To be able to get to this awareness about ourselves and see how we are desperately furious at ourselves for not choosing to be the amazing Love bombs that we are is extraordinary. From here we can see that this is not the potential of who we are and that it is a choice to connect and express all that we are.

489. Jealousy is a choice and we can choose instead to be inspired. We can monitor how we feel and may not always realise it is jealousy, but we will feel the difference if we are open to it. It means taking away the self judgement and anger, and allowing that we have made choices that led to where we are now and that we can choose to move on, we don’t achieve anything by berating ourselves for what we did or didn’t do, we simply make a different choice from here on.

490. Jealousy happens within us in reaction to someone else. It happens when our attention is not with ourselves. If we were to stay with and focus on taking care of ourselves, we would be so busy feeling great that we would be less likely to look outside of ourselves and compare. We tend to want what we don’t have, and we tend to hate ourselves for not giving ourselves what we need. So why not turn the tables and begin to truly love ourselves? In this there would be no room to be jealous.

491. First of all, I’ve denied feeling jealous for all of my life. I burried it, denied it, basically did everything to avoid the fact (FACT) that jealousy exists. How ignorant could I be? Now I’m in the process of being honest about it, feeling it and not going into avoiding feeling it by going into reaction. Just before coming to this article (or the article coming to me) I actually felt jealous. Pondering on it made me realise that I was jealous of the lightness and joy I felt within somebody. Quite exposing to be honest. Making the choice to appreciate the other for being and bringing the light that they are shifted everything. Union, equality, appreciation. For me it’s important to realise that I’ve got the choice to let go of any bitterness, seriousness, sadness, etc. That the only one who’s holding on to them is me…

492. “One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life.” This seems like such a simple thing to do, but what I have come to realise is this involves a constant appraisal of my internal thought processes, emotions and actions that are in fact riddled with anti-love. However the more I focus on the loving bits and nourish them, the stronger they grow. A day-by-day process of nurturing and evolving my internal environment, which day by day manifests in the external world.

493. Jealously is very much rooted in our lives everywhere and its harm cannot be underestimated and its incidiousness however with a true knowing of what it is really as a reflection of our choices it brings to light a different and real way to change this and see it in our lives with understanding and healing for ourselves and how we see others. a great blog and very real sharing thank you.

494. A whisper of jealousy and immediately I have a choice: pretend it is not happening; feed it with justification for the unfairness of the apparent disparity in luck, good fortune etc; big myself up so that I have got something to be jealous of OR take a moment to be inspired and make my next step with that inspiration and the knowing that I am responsible for all my choices.

495. Jealousy is not something we often verbalise, it is more felt and seen in the way we are, in our movements, thoughts and actions. Hence when we say we ‘feel’ jealousy, we do in fact feel it, but often in the way a person is more so than how and what they say. This reveals that much more is communicated in the way we are than is often realised.

496. I went through a stage where I was abhorred by the jealousy coming at me by others then I realised how arrogant I was as why I was so appalled by this was because I was not owning the fact that I was jealous of others and that the jealousy was in me. This brought a greater understanding to myself and others and intimately more love and acceptance all around . . . phew!

497. When I feel the slightest twinge of jealousy creeping into my thoughts I stop and nip them in the bud before they get a hold on me, otherwise they take over and jealousy turns into resentment which make me feel less than others, which is not only an insult to myself but a lack of appreciation for others who have made different choices to be where they’re at. So what works for me is to appreciate others for their qualities and what they bring to the world and love myself more, and the more I love myself the less chance that jealousy has to enter to door and deflate me into something I am not.

498. As within so without – the more we nurture, cherish and accept ourselves the more we naturally will with others too.

     1. There is a deep dishonesty when we have a so called issue with another when often it is because they have triggered and brought light to our own poor choices. Really we should be thanking them but instead we project a vile energy to avoid feeling our lack. An opportunity always to make a true change but the arrogance within would much prefer critique the other instead of admitting to the jealously we find ourselves in.

499. Jealousy is an ugly force that poisons our world but so unnecessary when we know deep within we are all equally loving beings… and this is what we are truly missing.

500. We can learn from feeling jealousy, rather than beating ourselves up about it. Acceptance of our own choices which have landed us in the places we are in, making us feel less will make us change our choices in the future. Observing these choices and taking responsibility for them is the key.

501. This is an amazing way to live Leigh…”I celebrate every day the difference in my life, and the joy I now feel in my days – none of which was possible until I made the choice to live by the very basic principle that lies at the base of that which Serge Benhayon presents, “to live the love that I am”. The simplicity in this is very powerful as you have shared in your blog… and it is so very inspiring – thank you.

502. The spin we can put ourselves in takes us further away from who we are and addressing whatever we were jealous about in the first place, so the next time we come across a similar situation our reactions would probably be just the same. Choosing a different way makes so much more sense.

503. ‘Over the past couple of years I have been observing any moment that I felt jealous and have then considered why it is that I was jealous of that person in that moment. I have begun to explore what choices I have felt for myself that I had not fully claimed and integrated into my life, and then began to do so.’ I too have started this honest exploration into comparison and jealousy and found that there are many choices that I have felt to change which I have chosen to not do anything about. As I have started to address some of these pockets of my life I have noticed that there is a distinct shift from comparison and jealousy towards inspiration and appreciation.

504. Self regret lays a foundation for jealousy, and is a pointless past time. We can be inspired by our learnings and not hold ourselves to ransom…. for anything.

505. How can we be jealous with each other when truth is we all have our own unique expression – we can NEVER be or express what another does as then it would no longer be our own expression but a copy. Crazy thing is that the norm in our society is to live as copies.

     1. I like what you have shared Eva and it is so true. We wish to be like another but how very dismissive is this of the grandness that lives within. It is very telling of where we are at if we aren’t in the acceptance and understanding that we each have our own expression to develop and cherish.

506. ‘One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life. This is a very personal choice that I am discovering doesn’t have anything to do with another, but is ever-present in how I personally care for myself.’ This strips love back to its foundation of being a relationship one has or beholds within themselves.

507. I had this realisation too and it was a bit of a shock when I did! And that was that there came a point when I realised my jealousy of others – which went beyond the superficial – came because of feeling that choices that others had made for themselves, I had not made for myself. There are still times when these feelings come up, but having worked on this awareness and accepting more responsibility for my choices, I now find many more opportunities to be inspired by others instead of feeling jealous or envious.

508. Surrendering to the beauty within and expressing this in our every way, let’s not jealousy touch us and inspires others to live their truth also.

509. I am very familiar with a pattern throughout my life of a disgruntlement with what I perceive “I am dealt with in life’ and a refusal to accept any part in creating the situation in the first place, coupled with a desire to find someone or something to blame. My feeling of jealousy has really nothing to do with the other person. In fact they are a gorgeous prompt for me to realise how possible a different outcome could have been. Will I continue to dig myself further into the old pattern, or will I welcome the reflection as an inspiration to make difference choices? It is another opportunity to go for responsibility.

510. ‘surrender to the love that I have within’ these words stood out for me today, especially the word ‘Surrender’. When we try to control our lives and our relationships, there is no love, there is only our need and manipulating others to get our needs met. When we allow what is there within us to be expressed, life can be very different, and we do not need anything back from anyone else, no recognition, no expressions of love, nothing, because we can feel the brotherhood, the one-ness, the great beholding love that we all live within.

511. A great reminder that when we feel anything like jealousy or comparison to reconnect to the love within and lovingly look at the choices in life we have made in our lives that is making us feel this. With honesty and love it can be healed and changed. Thank you

512. Such an awesome example of honesty, love and integrity at play, where we can look at our negative behaviours in a clear light and see that they are arising from our own self loathing and are nothing to do with another person’s behaviour. Address the self loathing and the harmful choices we make as a consequence and everything else falls into place. At the end of the day there is Love and Not Love and we all have a simple choice as to which quality to choose.

513. When you put it like that, Ariana, jealousy is a complete waste of time, hurting our bodies and delaying our inevitable return to an equal grandness.

514. How many people in the world today are able to say this and mean it – “I love myself deeply and this grows every single day”? Thank you, Leigh, for bringing us back to the fundamental question of how we feel about ourselves and how this impacts our lives and everything around us.

515. “One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life” this is the best antidote for almost everything in life Leigh. I know that the more I allow love in my life the less I allow things like jealousy, frustration and all the outer imposters to affect me. Being honest with myself and looking at everything that is presented to me in my day rather than reacting in one form or another is opening up my life to so many more possibilities…

516. Leigh, this article is very interesting to read, I have never really considered that I could be envious or jealous of people or that people could be that of me. Reading this article makes me aware that actually I have been and still at times can be jealous of others with the loving choices that they have made that I have not. It feels great to bring awareness to this as I can feel how painful this jealousy is to live with and so I love how you are not hard with yourself when you feel this that you simply understand and make changes in your life.

517. To have this clarity and to feel the depth of what jealousy is, self fury at not making the same choices as another is super cool to clock and feel. We can pretend we don’t have a say in what is going on in our lives but the minute we stop such irresponsible beliefs and patterns the sooner we start living our truth.

518. So all jealousy in fact is rooted in the knowing that we all have, that we could have made a different choice ourselves. This exposes the abject irresponsibility of jealousy. Accept the choice we made and use that as an inspiration to make a different one – rather than spread the poison of jealousy.

519. Jealousy is just punishing ourselves for choosing to, not do something and then when someone else makes that choice, and it works, we beat ourselves up for not doing it first. As many here have expressed, that when we are self-loving and no longer affected by actions outside of us, life becomes simple.

520. Making life all about love is indeed the way to go as it lets no room for envy or jealousy but instead allows us to hold another in the love that we have build for ourselves and in that we can only celebrate one another as this love is the underlying nature of us all.

521. God is Love. No matter how our choices are, he forever holds us in support of returning to Love, the truth of who we are, as we are too from him. It is this depth of Love felt from God that touches me to choose Love again, as there is no room for jealousy in Love or in God.

522. Jealousy and comparison is certainly a blight on our modern day society. Thank you Leigh for sharing your experiences and wisdom thus supporting us to deepen our understanding of jealousy and the damage it causes; to ourselves and others.

523. The antidocte to jealousy is to deeply self-care in all aspects of our lives. If jealousy rears its head, I am now grateful for it showing me where I am not making better choices. The power of reflection is grand.

524. I can see how living the love brings back the joy in life, leaving the jealousy for what it is and take our own steps in life, being inspired by others along the way.

525. Jealousy and comparison is clearly a modern day plague that affects so many today. Yet it is only a consciousness that is given power to exert its force when we separate from our love, through which it then seeks to take over and destroy our loving connection to all others. As the moment we compare ourselves to another we instantly diminish all that we already are and have to offer the world, and shut ourselves off to being inspired and blessed by the majesty of God the shines through another.

526. Reading these words again made me understand on a much deeper level how related envy and jealousy actually are and how simple the ‘answer’ is. I didn’t know the word envy and had chosen to not wanting to know so far (in Dutch). Today I looked it up and instantly understood the relationship between the two. And also how envy and jealousy only have existence due to being focussed on others. You can only love another so much as much as you love yourself has a totally different meaning now. Before they were words, now I’ve felt the simple truth of this. Appreciation of one-self and others are key ingredients here to offset the envy and jealousy. I’ve already started and at the same time I’ve only put my toes in the water… Thank you Leigh for writing so clearly and honest about envy and jealousy.

527. Through the teaching of Universal Medicine i have learnt that i am so much more than my reactions and that all my choices are my responsibility. There is always another choices and opportunities to bring more love into any given situation.

528. When we allow our love for people to be blotted out by our comparison and jealousy we can no longer connect to it, and yet the love is who we are and the jealousy is who we are not. How often do we give the ‘who we are not’ more air time and space than the truth of us.

529. How easy is it for me to hold onto the thoughts that I presume come from jealousy – they can ruin my whole day if I let them persist. Pretending the thoughts do not exist does not work for me. It has been my experience that if I find what is behind the thoughts, then I can start the healing process. It has taken a lot of time and effort to get a deeper understanding of how the slightest intention towards another can come from jealousy.

530. Considering all the hate-filled acts Jealously is behind one can feel this development is imperative.

531. I have noticed that some people are jealous of me and I have also noticed that at times I have been jealous of others and that I keep this jealousy well hidden from myself. Only when I do something harsh do I notice that the reason may be jealousy. I really dislike being at the receiving end of jealousy, though this is getting better, but I also know that at times I do it myself.

     1. I feel that I have similar issues Christoph, that I am also working on and as I feel my issue more and more, I may contract by burying my head in the sand instead of standing tall in my power!

532. I love this Leigh ‘see everything in my life as God gently nudging me to take the next loving step’
     Isn’t this what it’s all about. When things seem difficult or there’s tension to when we are in total confirmation or appreciation – everything is a nudge to take the next loving step from in that moment.

     1. Johanna I love the quote you’ve pulled out of Leigh’s blog. Sometimes in life, or many times, we want things to be a certain way yet if we approach life from the perspective of everything being about taking steps that are more loving and ultimately constellated by God to help us all return to being everything we are, then no matter what comes our way we will be open to it instead of fighting life as so many of us do.

533. ’With this understanding there is a sense of grace in my body that holds us both in the love that we naturally are.’ – To bring true understanding to another person is one of the greatest gifts we can offer.

534. Thank you for your honest and very valuable sharing, Leigh, and for living the love that you are.

535. It’s a great moment when we realise that envy is merely a nudge to show us the fruits of the choices we’ve been making and a reminder that other choices are open to us – we just haven’t been making them.

     1. Cathy, looked at this way, jealously becomes a leg up rather than a stab in the guts. Evolution rather than devolution.

536. Jealousy is deeply saddening to feel, why we would we choose to harm each other and ourselves so much – instead of saying okay I stuffed up and need to take responsibility for my own life, rather that project it all onto someone else, it’s like getting physical stab – probably because I am still in reaction to feeling this – and need to make it about the person and not the energy that is being projected and felt. Not to ignore it, feel it, name it, as I often don’t do this and bury what I feel which makes it worse and results in eating to not deal with it, then I say I have an issue with food, which I don’t, I have an issue with work, I just use food to not feel / deal with what’s going on, what I feel at work. When we get past what’s being projected on the outside and don’t focus on this, life is lot more simpler and there aren’t actually any issues there. All you can feel is love for this person.

537. It’s interesting that a lot of jealousy comes about when we compare ourselves to someone who we think ‘fits in better’ to a group, environment, workplace and so forth, but if we were to all be the same and ‘fit in’ the world would be a very neutral and inexpressive place.

538. It is so great, Leigh to talk about jealousy so openly. It is something that I have felt ashamed of in the past, and it has been a bit of a taboo subject generally. To see jealousy as being related to a feeling of lack inside of ourselves, due to the choices we have made to not fully live from our glorious essence, is a much more loving approach and brings understanding into the equation.

539. Jealousy is so deeply insidious that we are not always aware that is what we are feeling. We think we feel hurt not realising that it is us hurting ourselves. We may react and hurt the person we are jealous of but justify it with criticism of how they may be living or with anger at what they just said, even though they presented a truth we hadn’t seen for ourselves. Jealousy is such a normal part of our lives that recognising it for the evil it is, is tricky, but it needs to be rooted out if we are to live with harmony in ourselves and in all our relationships.

540. Leigh I fully relate to how I would be envious of others, those that I saw as being more successful or having something I did not. From movie stars to business icons, to ‘friends’ and wider associates. In all of this it was not that other person but it was my complete rejection of myself that hurt, the fact I did not hold myself with a level of love and care and instead avoided love through envy and jealousy.

     1. What always fascinated me about the jealousy that I used to feel, was it was triggered by very specific people. For example only certain attractive friends or only certain successful friends would trigger my jealousy and so I must have been picking up on very specific things about the choices that those people had made, that highlighted my own poor choices.

541. Jealously is just an external expression of the deep self loathing we have built up as a consequence of the quality of our choices. When we focus on healing the self loathing, the jealously will naturally dry up, because it is no longer fed by a well of internal hatred and self inflicted misery.

     1. great point rowenakstewart. It is useless to focus on removing jealousy from our lives in isolation to the root cause.

542. I have had a recent experience of feeling jealousy and found that it clouds my understanding and awareness of all around me. Jealousy took over and I could not see clearly. Having resolved this and now being able to see with clarity, I can see the full harm that jealousy does to the others involved, but primarily to me. When there was jealousy I could not appreciate the amazing qualities of another.

543. Until we can truly swim like a fish and not get wet, the green eyed monster has a door to enter us.

544. We don’t have issues with other people, we simply get reflections of how we are with ourselves.

545. Thanks Leigh, to raise the topic of jealousy offers a great opportunity to unpack what and how much this affects us in the relationship we have with our selves and with others, as it can be both obvious and unconscious responses.

546. When I am jealous of someone, firstly, I don’t want to admit that I am. There’s tension already, and I seem to double it by being in denial, and it is that tension that makes it worse. Accepting that I am recognising something great about another that I wish I could have for myself but I don’t is hard enough, let alone the fact that it was all because of the choices I have made. There’s such stubbornness and pride that I can feel can often get in the way of coming to true understanding and appreciation of myself and others and each and every relationship in between.

     1. I agree Fumiyo. What I have found is that at times I am not even consciously aware that I am in denial.

547. This very article could be a good case in point in terms understanding jealousy v inspiration. I could read it and feel jealous of Leigh’s beautiful expression and awesome insights… Or I could feel inspired by the expression of another who has developed an understanding on an aspect of life that I have perhaps not. We have a responsibility to examine any jealousy that might arise in us and accept this as a sign we have not yet made the choice to evolve – to expand our own awareness in the same vein ourselves.

548. The good news is we can continue to notice another’s choices – and feel inspired by them rather than jealous. So the trick is not to stop observing others, but to expand the love and understanding we have for ourselves. If we appreciate where we have come to, and what is still in development in us, I feel we will be AOK on the jealousy front.

549. ‘When I now feel jealousy coming from others there is this sense of knowing why each person is living like they are. With this understanding there is a sense of grace in my body that holds us both in the love that we naturally are’ – this is so beautiful, Leigh, and exactly how we can support each other. I have the benefit of understanding that everything is energy and to be able to bring things back to their energetic source, we can all do this, but if we’re not aware of this fact, life can appear like a maze in the jungle, I remember being there. No words are needed when we hold another in love, there is a pull, asking them to let go of the energy that doesn’t belong, jealousy, and instead reconnect to the love that they are.

550. It is little wonder that Jealousy is so rife in society and quickly turned to – it provides the perfect excuse to blame another and to divert attention from our own choices we seek to never uncover.

551. Every time I feel jealous, I’m actually connecting to a part in me that isn’t connected to myself and in that choosing individuality over union. I find the honesty of this blog quite uncomfortable as it is clearly showing me that I’ve got a choice in being jealous or not. In choosing to connect to whatever is underneath the jealousy. I can feel the resistance in me, but also know (!!) for sure that this is something I’m to work on. Jealousy is in fact a game I choose to play in order to relate to others. Which in fact is very false and void of (true) love.

     1. Floris,
        This is an awesome sharing, your honesty is beyond refreshing. In my own continuing understanding of jealously, it’s roots go so deep that it seems impossible to love ones self, when you know you have allowed such energy to be the way of life we have lived.
        But, I know now, from how I choose to live, that making the choice to hold myself in love, no matter what I have ever done, or may do, this is the way to begin to truly let go of jealously. Also to claim the true beauty we are, that we know innately. So how insidious is jealously, when we allow it to keep us on its roundabout?

552. The harm that Jealousy causes not only to ourselves but the other person that we are comparing ourselves to is vile and disturbing indeed. I find it fascinating how it can so easily kick in from a life long pattern so calling it out now and know where it is coming from and being honest that it is coming is addressing a crippling plague worldwide.

553. Once we fully appreciate ourselves we no longer need to compare ourselves with others and we no longer have cause to regret any unloving choices for we learn from our mistakes and do not judge ourselves any the less if we do falter. In this way we gradually build a solid foundation from our loving choices which supports us at such times.

554. In choosing to only accept love in my life I say no to abuse and self abuse. So when those moments arise where I am shown that I am envious of another’s choices to choose love also, I can see there is even a deeper opportunity to self-love and choose love as the only way to live.

555. The more I appreciate all that I do have in my life and the consequences of my choices both positive and negative, the less I feel any jealousy towards others and in fact find it easier to really appreciate the quality of their choices too. Its taken a while to get there, but the more I have taken responsibility for myself the more I can celebrate another person’s qualities, achievements and success in the knowing that it is possible for me to make those choices for myself too.

556. Jealously is a killer to our lives as is comparison and leaves us comparison and nothing is ever enough. It destroys our appreciation of ourselves and life and has so much to answer for .This is a beautiful blog offering the wisdom to delve deeper and truly feel and the fullness of ourselves when doing this is simply amazing . A true sharing thank you.

557. Hello Leigh and I remember jealousy being a throw away line or word we used when someone had a go at you for something you had done or achieved. There was nothing more just saying or someone saying to you, ‘they’re just jealous’. What you are saying here which is true gives us a deeper understanding and a lived concept of this word and how it plays out in life. We think jealousy has something to do with someone else, which in part it does. But the equal reflection is for us whether you are on the receiving end or not, jealousy comes back to the choices you make in each movement.

558. Every time I see someone expressing in full, being fully committed, not holding back I get a reflection of me being less than I can and want to be. That is a moment when jealousy can sneak in or I choose to be inspired and open myself up to connect deeper and expand and express.

559. It deeply hurts and is incredibly saddening to feel jealousy, and often it is usually masked by someone being nice, which gives you a double whammy of energy that doesn’t feel great. But feeling it you must, as it allows us to feel the deeper levels of sadness or lack of self worth that may be triggering the jealousy in the first place, then understanding can be brought and we can see past the behavior / choice to the person – not the behavior. It’s this that allow opening up and trust.

560. I love the practicality of asking myself what have I felt that I know would support me but have chosen to ignore; and then to integrate these loving choices into my life. Gone then is the envy of others and what comes is an appreciation we are masters of our own paths of return to who we truly are where comparison is a nonsense.

561. We compare ourselves to others all the time – sometimes it comes from parents comparing siblings, sometimes from teachers comparing results from schoolchildren and students. We tend to use an external measure of success. Sometimes it is within ourselves but that is when we have created an image that we try to measure up to. When we can feel deep within, and know from our bodies who we are, then there is no need to measure anything. All we need to know is if we are expressing in full or holding back. Each of us has a different expression and can contribute to the whole, and holding back means the world is missing out on that contribution.

562. How beautiful is it that you have allowed greater love and grace into your life Leigh that highlights and brings out the jealousy to heal.

563. Interesting that the jealousy is also known as the green eyed monster. There are a few times in my life where I have felt jealousy and I have definitely felt like a monster. It is most unlike the me I know and I have found it a little scary as I have felt so far from what I know is true.

564. This was a beautiful blog to read and to be reminded of the healing power of appreciation and choosing to be loving with ourselves in every way. Thank you for your inspiration Leigh.

565. When someone else shows us they have made a different choice to us…. we can be inspired or choose jealousy if we don’t want to see the reality of our choices

566. As you were inspired, now you will inspire. This is how we grow and learn.

567. There is huge power in realizing that when we are jealous, we are acutely feeling the impact of our own choices in that specific area. The fact that I can see the message in another person is actually a great gift, because knowing deep down that we are all equal, this brings it home loud and clear that I too could have been expressing the amazingness I witness before me. In such moments we could decide to fester in our jealousy, or we can be inspired to make the welcome change.

568. The grass will always be greener until we come back to our inner-heart when all jealousy, envy and comparison will disappear forever, because in essence there is no jealousy, so it doesn’t make sense that we compare to each other whilst all fitting in to a life based on how we perceive ourselves to be when all we are missing is the connection to our inner-heart.

569. This is a great example of practically turning round jealousy when we notice it within us. Instead of sitting and seething in it, we can use it as the starting point to reflect and notice the areas of our life that could do with much more loving and supportive choices.

570. Leigh, I love this, ‘I celebrate every day the difference in my life, and the joy I now feel in my days’. This feels really important and very joyful, I can feel its easy to make lots of amazing changes in our lives but to not always appreciate and celebrate these, this celebration really helps us to embody them and to appreciate ourselves.

571. I am not free of jealousy. My responsibility is to spot it and use it as a red flag that I need to deepen my own appreciation of what I am, what I have at my door and what has been given to me by Universal Medicine.

572. ‘I feel my grace daily, there is an acceptance and love of others that I had not ever before considered was even possible, let alone now to be living.’ – An important pont to highlight Leigh, when we work on accepting ourselves, also the bits that we may not like to see about ourselves, this acceptance naturally transforms to our relationships and the world around us equally.

573. What you’ve presented about jealousy being a RESULT of our choices, movements and quality of relationship with ourselves is so spot on; before we even interact with someone that has a quality of life we’re ‘jealous of’, we first make the choice to not have this ourselves and instead live less.

574. Leigh, I love the celebration of your last paragraph. It’s impossible for jealousy to get a hold when that level of appreciation is expressed and lived. Thank you for your inspiration.

575. Becoming aware and honest about the obvious and subtle ways that jealousy and comparison can infuse our thinking, offers the greatest healing to our true health and wellbeing. It is like removing ugly lenses that we have been viewing the world through which have been totally distorting our perceptions of life, people and that keep us locked away in separation from the truth of love, stillness, harmony and joy that we are naturally within.

576. The more ‘at home’ and accepting of myself in my own body, there is less need for any comparison or jealousy of another.

577. Interestingly there is in fact an inner guidance and the more jealous I feel the stronger is in fact the inner guidance that I need to counteract.

578. Since reading your blog, Leigh, several times :), I am much more aware of how much I compare, it’s like a program that’s continuously running, evaluating and dare I say, judging. It can be very subtle, but even so, it’s still affecting me. Accepting that we are all where we are through our own choices and that the Universe in it’s divinity is continuously offering us the possibility to learn and evolve. It’s up to me to surrender and honour the divine Universal law for myself and allow others to do the same.

579. Jealousy is a true downer in all that we have to offer each other. I have often ignored the jealousy of another or down played it to not feel the extent of how it could harm another. This has served little in my understanding and left me lifting up the protection shield. The work of Serge Benhayon and the Ageless Wisdom has shown me that jealousy is what keeps us all apart even though we crave to be one. Allowing ourselves to feel the jealousy and understanding the root cause is where the responsibility takes place and then there is room for change.

     1. I have done this too and now that I am allowing myself to feel more I can see that jealousy plays out in a lot of different ways – obvious attacking or belittling behaviour to dismissal and a silent tension of not wanting to go there. They are all downers though.

580. “what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself.” I know what works for me and I can feel that these most important movements in my life to support me have been shut down by that same force of jealously towards me. I hold back on myself and what supports me because of it not fitting into people’s requirements. I have allowed this though by choosing it. Just goes to show how much I know how things should be – the case for all of us.
     As you have stated here Leigh “Yet I was not choosing to follow this inner, subtle, yet very loud guidance that was being offered to me. So, I held back on accepting, embracing and integrating into my life what I felt deep within.”

581. The energy of Jealousy comes through us super fast, to me it seems like it happens instantly without me even thinking about it. What I have noticed is when I feel it rising, I allow myself to recognise it and once I do that I no longer feel the impact of it, whereas if I ignore it, it can escalate. By being more aware and honest with myself has supported me to cut this energy so it doesn’t harm me or others. Also working on appreciation and being love supports me to move in a way that doesn’t allow jealousy the space to creep in is key.

582. It’s one thing feeling jealousy for your self but it’s another entirely to feel jealousy on behalf of another. I got to feel how incredible ugly, imposing and controlling this is. I found myself comparing a friend of someone very close to me, with them. It was horrendous. I could instantly feel the expectations that I have on how this person should be in the world without any appreciation for the ‘work’ that they may be doing in the constellation that they have chosen to be in right now. I’m still reeling from the arrogance of my assuming that I know more than the workings of the Universe and that they may be lacking in some way in terms of their current choices. They are exactly where they are meant to be because that is where they have chosen to be from their own free will. I am the one who is lacking in not fully appreciating them in all their divinity and supporting them to live in the fullness of who they are, to do the work that they are here to do, as are we all.

     1. This is an amazing revelation Alison, the way you are with this person will now completely transform not only your life, but quite possibly theirs as well. Super amazing.

        1. Very much so, Leigh, it already has. It’s incredible how enlightening a moment can be when you choose to be open with what you’re feeling and the root of where it’s coming from and all that that brings with it. Thanks to you starting the conversation, I’ve been very tuned in to jealousy this past week, so thank you x

583. “Jealousy, No longer do I berate myself when I feel it, but instead surrender to the love that I have within and understand it.” When we stop to understand there is more clarity within the body and it becomes clear that there is no need for any form of jealousy.

584. Self loathing is another big topic that does go hand in hand often with jealousy. Yet under both is once again that us not truly appreciating and living everyday our true innate natural beauty of who we truly are. We can either confirm who we are in each moment or deny it. Deny it simply opens the doors for judgement, self loathing and jealousy to have their way.

585. Nailed it Katie. Jealousy is the the green monster that allows us to fill the void instead of taking responsibility for living all we naturally are and appreciating that in full.

586. When Jealousy tries to sneak in I see it as an opportunity for great potential and possibilities as your only reacting to what you feel another has that you don’t, but we are all equally divine inside and in that moment of jealousy, your simply not feeling that very fact. When jealousy comes up for me, I know that feeling is not coming from my soul and say it so, then close my eyes and feel the absolute grace and sacredness of my own sweet love. There’s really nothing like it for setting you straight and in rhythm with what is true.

587. I have come along way with my understanding of jealousy and how toxic it is for the person indulging in it. I remember feeling jealous one day and the feeling of the jealousy entering my body was like sewerage being pumped through my veins by ME, how crazy! When i realised what I was doing to myself, i simply had to stop then and there, nothing was worth doing that to myself, it certainly wasn’t going to change anything for the better for me. I have never willingly indulged jealous since that day, it still creeps in but i address it very quickly when it arises, no sewerage for me!

588. What is beautiful to feel is that when we or another is in comparison and jealousy that it is an energy, and it never makes someone less. The more I understand this the easier it is to not be affected by the force that is being felt. It is much easier to then see that the gap is the lack of appreciation. Without this appreciation we don’t get to see that the next opportunity to say yes and be open to making a different choice is right there waiting for us.

     1. And when we can see with this level of understanding in the moment – it can also be a confirmation of the truth we are reflecting and that another’s behaviour and jealousy is an energy that is about a choice not being made for themselves.

589. We are so used to point that finger and see the cause of all sorts of situation outside of ourself and in somebody else. However how much more empowering would be our relationship with jealousy if we brought the source of it back to ourself as this article does, and used it as a point of reflection to deepen our understanding, see what needs work, apply it and grow.

590. A much needed conversation thank you Leigh. All too often we brush feelings of jealousy aside, bury them and don’t want to feel it. Only with a deeper appreciation and confirmation of myself, where I don’t make myself less, but live who I truly am, can I truly deal with jealousy on all accounts.

591. When we clock jealously and or comparison and watch it, observe its timing, its motive, it already dissipates its perceived power.

592. Thanks for this honest account Leigh, I can feel the areas where I have been jealous and the effect this has on myself and others. Its a force that feels constricting, one that puts us as less rather that seeing us all as equal. From equality there can be no jealousy.

593. “The feeling of grace is full and encompassing, steady and strong, offering a space for jealousy to be let go of and our true loving light to be set free.” Grace is all of that and so much more. When we walk with Grace, we allow ourselves to be the gloriousness that we are and what is not can be observed and let go. It is one of the most exquisitely divine things in the world. And it is a work in progress to walk with Grace as your blog shows us – but it is always there, and our choice to walk with it or without it.

594. Looking back at my own journey with jealousy I can relate to a lot of what is written in this blog. I can also see how debilitating it was to feel such strong emotions towards others which were ultimately an expression of my own self-loathing. I am so pleased that this no longer is the case and there are friendships happening now in my life which never could have happened before, all because I am learning about and am committed to self-love.

595. I really felt to re-read this this morning and no doubt I will read again. Today I am really struck by how you made the choice to only accept love in your life and how profound this has been. More so in the relationship that you have with yourself. I love how you said that it was much more about how you thought, treated and held yourself. This really highlights how everything must begin with us and the choices we make down to the apparent smallest choices. Thank you Leigh I will take this with me today and most likely more.

596. Sometimes I notice when someone is jealous of me. I can feel it directed at me, and I can detect it in the behaviour and the way people look at me. In this situation I have a choice. I can either react to the person, feel offended and go into the same energy and help it to escalate, or I can simply observe what is happening, nominate what is going on, and simply continue to be myself without shrinking, meanwhile remaining open to the person in a loving and understanding way. I have experienced both.

597. Jealousy is one of the most uncomfortable and destructive emotions we can be grabbed by. Fighting against it doesn´t help but truly understanding the underlying cause reveals so much about who we are and the way we are living. Facing the unpleasant emotions and honestly exploring how they come to exist is setting us free from again and again getting caught in them.

598. Well described Leigh. Appreciation of myself and my choices has made a big difference for me when it comes to comparison and jealousy.

599. It is so easy to get caught up into fitting into a life that is not even really where we are truly meant to be.

600. ‘These moments are now stepping stones, taking me to an ever-deepening love and understanding of myself and others.’ As we release self-judgement and critique we can appreciate more the opportunities presented in every moment.

601. When the focus is on the outer and in comparison to everyone around us rather than on an inner intimacy with self, then it is easy to become jealous as many then are going to naturally reflect the choices we have not made. To me this stands to reason and it is no wonder jealousy is so rampant! Society is still very much on the boat that says we have to put others first and not be a tall poppy. Changing the culture where it is an accepted norm to honour and take care of ourselves first before we observe the outer, without being pulled about by it and getting jealous, is going to take some time.. but the foundation has been laid.

602. I find that jealousy and comparison can sneak in before I realise. For me, one of the ways I deal with both jealousy and comparison when they arise is through appreciation – appreciating all that another offers, rather than comparing myself to them or seeing myself as less.

603. There is no where where jealousy does not exist. It’s bony fingers infiltrate our family life, our work life, our schools and our friendships. It is a silent assassin whose agenda is to cut people down and to promote separation.

604. This is so beautiful Leigh – “No longer do I berate myself when I feel it, but instead surrender to the love that I have within and understand it. These moments are now stepping stones, taking me to an ever-deepening love and understanding of myself and others.” It shows clearly the progress you make and many others will benefit from your awesome and honest sharing here myself included, so thank you.

605. What an awesome blog Leigh, and what I connected to also was – “One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life. This is a very personal choice that I am discovering doesn’t have anything to do with another, but is ever-present in how I personally care for myself.” This is so true and something to be aware of each day and moment, to reflect on if the choice in each given moment is one that reflects love – work in progress and more to do …

606. Your opening line says it all. Jealousy is never to do with another person, what they can do or what they ‘have’, but it’s all to do with our relationship with ourselves and our reaction to the choices we’re making in our own lives.

     1. And this paragraph, as does this blog, really revolutionises psychology and the root of human behaviour. Everything comes back to us and what we have chosen for ourselves and how much we support and let our true self out.

607. Jealousy starts with comparison – we are constantly looking outside of ourselves for a measure of who we are and, when we see another who is deemed ‘better’ in any way, then we can feel jealous. It can be based on looks, achievements, friendships, professional standing, any aspect of life that we can consider measurable. When we look within, at who we truly are, where we have come from and the choices we have made, we can then see and feel our own responsibility for where we are now. All we can do then is accept and let go. Jealousy serves no-one. If instead we allow ourselves to feel inspired to change, then that is different.

608. The choice to only accept love in your life feels like a significant turning point, Leigh. When we choose love how could we possibly be jealous of another, as our cup overruns with what we have longed for all our lives and we are no longer in a state of feeling empty or lacking?

609. Leigh, I love the simplicity of what you are sharing here and how powerful how we feel about ourselves is, ‘what needed addressing more than anything else was how I held myself, how I thought about myself and how I treated myself.’ This has changed hugely for me too, I used to have a deep self-loathing, now I care deeply about myself and am aware of the amazing qualities that I bring to the world. Loving and caring for myself has then meant that I am feeling more love for others too – I am finding that they go hand in hand.

610. I think this is an interesting point you make “to accept only love in my life. This is a very personal choice that I am discovering doesn’t have anything to do with another” – the fact that accepting more love into our lives has nothing to do with another or others, but how we love, deeply care for and honour ourselves, this is huge and life changing on many levels, as we so often go looking for love outside ourselves, the if only and if buts – if truth be told the greatest, deepest and most joyful never ending love is found inside of us, in any moment.

611. “No longer do I berate myself when I feel it, but instead surrender to the love that I have within and understand it.” Leigh i am hugely inspired by this line, for i know when i have felt jealous of others, I can then be very tough on myself and feel like i need to purge myself – to hold oneself in this much love and understanding is game changing for it actually allows for healing.

612. “… what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves.” It is very empowering to realise what it is that we are truly jealous of: another person’s decision to treasure themselves.

613. The subject of jealousy definitely needs a good airing. For so long it has been kept sneakily away in the closet and if we don’t even recognise we have it, it cannot be dealt with. Jealousy and comparison build walls that keep us locked away from the love we innately carry within ourselves. By opening the door we can allow the ill out and expand the love inside.

614. There are many things we chose to do to ourselves that is not loving and supportive. Jealousy and comparison are the worst, for they cause massive ripples in our pond that affect everyone around us.

615. ‘what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself’ Rarely is jealousy described with such clarity and depth.

616. I must say, I had no idea there was another way of life available. I was quite lost.

617. Understanding my own patterns of jealousy and working with these has helped me to not react when I feel another persons jealousy coming towards me.

618. “My focus was instead on fitting into the life that I had.” This is such a pertinent point. How much we accommodate others in place of making our own true choices in life.

619. “No longer do I berate myself when I feel it, but instead surrender to the love that I have within and understand it.” I love that Leigh because if we do not love ourselves jealousy and comparison find their way into our bodies instead.

620. Do I choose to hold myself in the past dwelling on what I ‘lack’, feeling the hurt and fury from these past choices, or do I choose to be fully present in each and every moment, living my divinity in full, appreciating the magic and infinite possibilities that surround me along with all of us.

     1. Oh I love this Alison – “…I choose to be fully present in each and every moment, living my divinity in full, appreciating the magic and infinite possibilities that surround me along with all of us.” How could there possibly be any other way?

621. You present a great recipe for getting on top of jealousy: seeing it as choices that others have made and examining whether one can and would like to make the same or similar choices. This pulls the rug out from underneath jealousy and gets rid of its paralysing and insidious hold over time.

622. Jealousy seems to creep in when we’re considering our lot in life, seeing ourselves in comparison to others. However, when we see ourselves as a part of the universe, taking the lid off our individual world and allowing our focus to flow out to the spaciousness and infinite possibilities that surround us, it can change our perspective to one of appreciation for everything that we already have and impulse us to use what we have for the greater good of us all, the whole of humanity.

     1. Exactly, and it allows us to enjoy what others have been able to do and we can see that we are capable of the same level of love and appreciation.

623. Who knew it could be so simple that the healing of such a pernicious curse as jealousy, as discovered through Universal Medicine, is the choice to connect to my body, and bring to each movement, the love and care for myself. In doing so, I have begun to experience a whole new way of being open up, including choices to relate to people in a different way and take opportunities in my stride with the confidence of knowing who I am and what I can offer to life rather than what it can offer me. Then other people’s true achievements began to be appreciated and celebrated along with my own just as I would appreciate and celebrate a field of diverse, brightly coloured flowers with their own unique patterns and radiance.

624. Leigh I was particularly struck by your statement… “One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life. This is a very personal choice that I am discovering doesn’t have anything to do with another, ” I understand exactly what you mean but only through what l’ve come to understand and experience for myself through Serge Benhayon and the teachings of the Ancient Wisdom. Understanding that love is our own, for ourselves first, is so far from everything we grow up learning about what love is. There was nothing in my life that prepared me for that, quite the opposite, and I spent my first 33 years desperately trying to make the other version of love work in my life. It didn’t… ever! Thanks for sharing how love is unfolding in you… and learning to deal with jealousy, both your own and others, would seem to be a necessary part of this for us all.

625. Once we see that jealousy is not choosing for ourselves what others have chosen we no longer can blame another or feel a victim for we know that the responsibility lays with us and they are just reflecting to us something we could have chosen for ourselves – hard to see but great to feel the full impact of this.

626. Jealousy stops us from truly getting to know another on a deep and intimate level and keeps us at a disconnection from our natural way of being together.

627. This is a beautiful statement from Serge Benhayon: “live the love that I am”. It reminds us that we already are love and living with that knowing by bringing love to everything we do we see everything in the light of love. As you have shown, Leigh, when we have a loving understanding of another’s behaviours we no longer react to what might come at us.

628. Jealousy undermines us in many ways and confirms us in the lack of appreciation of ourselves as we look for comparison to others.

     1. Perfectly said Jenny. 🌺

629. Becoming aware of how jealousy works is important as it allows us to become an observant of life, where we feel, bring understanding to the situation and let it go without getting affected and at the same time offering a true reflection of love to another.

630. It’s a real suck eggs moment when you have to face the choices you didn’t make and the choices you did that find you exactly where you intended to be. Very uncomfortable.

631. This is such an inspiring blog, Leigh, to go deeper with the love for myself. Thank you.

632. ‘I love myself deeply and this grows every single day, at an amazing pace as I see everything in my life as God gently nudging me to take the next loving step.’ I reminded myself this morning Leigh of how it is a forever learning and how we get every day opportunities, ‘God nudging’, to either stay where we are and thus go further away from the love that we are or say yes to the next loving step.

633. It is tough sometimes to accept the choices that we have made, but to resort to jealousy is not a good medicine, it is healthier to swallow the bitter pill and learn to accept where we are at as we then have a foundation we can build on.

     1. True Judith. To accept where we are at, at times and be honest is a far truer step forward to living our own truth than digging our heals in and using such tactics that stem from jealousy. Also how awful for those who are making truer choices to support themselves to feel this jealousy coming from others. On the other hand it can also be seen as a confirmation that ones reflection is stirring the pot of ‘comfort’ up so to speak. Holding our selves and love is the greatest key we can give ourselves. Something to build and deepen everyday in every moment.

        1. Well said Johanna, how willing are we to stay true to ourselves no matter what is hurled at us, there are not many ready to make truth their highest good.

634. Even the word Jealous conjures up the feeling of the discomfort, when its directed at you and when you feel it towards others, it is like a acid in your body, for although we may be jealous of another choices in life in the end we are furious at ourselves for not having made similar ones or taken the opportunities we have been given. It can be a hard emotion to admit feeling, but acknowledging it gives you the space to deal with it.

635. Jealous needs an opening to enter and spread its venom. The openings only exist because we live less than who we are. When we live and express in full there is no vacancy to be filled by what we are not, hence nothing to compare to, feel less and be jealous about.

636. You have shown something so amazing here Leigh, that it is possible to change our behaviours and engage with life in a scientific way. It couldn’t be more refreshing than to engage with life rather than be ruled by reactions.

637. Imagine if we made deepening our love more of a focus in our lives..

     1. One person at a time – and every person who chooses to deepen their love and live it then reflects the possibilities to others.

638. Jealousy is such a poison and yet when we don’t compare with what another did, does or is capable of doing we allow ourselves the freedom to not be in jealousy, and that is when our lives can become magical. Instead of measuring we have this space to just be ourselves.

     1. It is so poisonous. What if we saw another as an inspiration for us to adjust our ways to further support ourselves ? How different the world would be.

639. ’As I integrate my true choices into my days, slowly but steadfastly I am adjusting the way I live my life.’ – My experience is that when we start to make more loving and caring choices in our lives, and make them consistently, the body starts to respond to the new choices, it recognises it as a new movement that then becomes the new normal.

640. And the harm it does to us Doug, our bodies suffer greatly when we allow jealousy into them. For we have to step away from our inner beauty and light to allow jealousy to enter. It is truly a healthy choice to honestly discern any moments that we feel jealousy (ours or anothers), to own them, understand them and surrender our bodies to the well of love and wisdom that resides within.

641. Whenever I see something amazing in someone else that I am not living, I can either get inspired or I can get jealous. The difference is huge! Until recently I had not realized that when jealous I was really seething inside since I had not made the choices the other person had, so it was really a self fury – all I knew was that it felt horrible inside of me and something unpleasant was directed at the other person. I would much rather not have it at all. It is wonderful that building the level of love, acceptance and understanding sets the foundation for this to change. And I love your approach to those moments of jealousy: ”I have been observing any moment that I felt jealous and have then considered why it is that I was jealous of that person in that moment. I have begun to explore what choices I have felt for myself that I had not fully claimed and integrated into my life, and then began to do so.” This allows it to change from the debilitation jealousy leaves us in, to a moment of inspiration.

642. Appreciation is the antidote for jealousy. When I find myself feeling jealous of someone I turn it around to fully appreciate who they are and what they have done. This lifts me up and leaves me with a feeling of lightness and joy instead of one of heaviness and misery.

643. Jealousy feels like an invisible venomous viper.

644. When we are younger we are simply told not to be jealous. But those instructions are never accompanied by an explanation of what jealousy is and that actually the way to combat it is to depend our own self-love and appreciation. Over and over again, when I listen to Serge Benhayon, he totally re-writes how we can be parenting our children and also ourselves. Yes, ourselves. Since meeting him, I have been completely re-parenting myself; it’s a brilliant experience and something that I feel we can do whatever our age.

645. Very true, Mary. And we have a choice in everything we do. So in this instance, why not choose to accept, at minimum, or even be inspired.

646. It’s only since I’ve come to understand jealousy more – through the teachings of Serge, the Unimedpedia section of the unimedliving website and your blog here – that I realise how much it can be felt. That when it has directed at me in the past, I didn’t nominate it and name it for what it is. And therefore didn’t actually see it as a confirmation of the choices that I make for myself. Which is quite amazing!

647. Jealousy is the ultimate act of irresponsibility. An attack on others because of what I myself haven’t chosen.

648. Gorgeous article Leigh, I love the simplicity and practicality of what you are sharing here, ‘I have begun to explore what choices I have felt for myself that I had not fully claimed and integrated into my life, and then began to do so.’ I can feel how it is easy to get consumed in envy and jealousy and so to deal with it practically as you have is wonderful,I love that instead of reacting to jealousy you have understanding for yourself and others and simply make the changes that are needed in your life.

649. If and when we feel jealous of another person, it’s key to first look at what in our lives is so-called ‘not enough’ before we start blaming or criticising that person for having something we want, living in a different way or making choices that’s causing us to ponder the state of how we live.

650. Jealousy is such a rife emotion and can be felt so clearly among siblings as we grow up. Not feeling our self- worth sets us up to compare to another and is an open gateway for jealousy to enter.

651. To replace jealousy which is so toxic for the body, with a truthful moment of self reflection, is a much healthier option. If we feel a lack in ourselves, there is great opportunity to embrace ourselves in our glory, and see what part of us is not fully claimed in that moment. A different approach that could potentially change so much in terms of our relationships with one another – thank you, Leigh.

652. Jealously is so common that we regard it as a normal part of life, but in reality it is just as damaging as tobacco smoke or alcohol on our bodies, such is the level of poison we allow to pass through our bodies and project onto others. And like the other substances, its not until we begin to detox ourselves do we fully appreciate just how detrimental this emotion is.

653. I have actually been avoiding reading this blog, because I hate the feeling of jealousy directed towards me, I have been avoiding feeling it recently, it’s horrible and it hurts. One to learn if we or when we direct jealousy at another – just how much abuse and damage it cause, first to ourselves and then another, it actually ravages our body from the inside out, on a deep cellular level and destroys our light.

654. Whenever I go into any sort of self fury or blame, jealousy, I ask myself a question, are you being responsible? I know now that this is a behaviour that comes from a lack of commitment on my part to take responsibility. I can try and call it something else, but some times when some else is shining their light, it challenges us,we know we are this ourselves, but do not always live it. This is a very dangerous an destructive habit to go into, it is deeply undermining and yet it is prolific, I have felt it being thrown at me, by people and it has brought up a lot for me concerning trust and openness. For me I feel it is an opportunity to learn to be me, hold who I am, whatever is occurring and what every anyone may or may not throw my way.

655. Thank you for sharing this insight into jealousy Leigh. This quote, “to live the love that I am” is huge for me, in that, I must first acknowledge that I am already love. I don’t need to become anything, I just need to allow this love to be and express from this love in all moments. Simple, but huge.

656. Jealousy can be a two-way street. There are people that incite jealousy in others for a mired of reasons. These can be viler than being jealous. Could it be something about wanting to be better than others, the need to put others down to raise one’s self up? Is it posable that this is a person that tries to pound in the wedge that separates them from us? Whereas, jealousy this the wedge we choose to use to separate ourselves from us!

657. It is only in recent years, through the presentations by Serge Benhayon of the Ageless Wisdom, that I have come aware of and acknowledged how intensely jealous I have been, and as you share Leigh, it is of those people who have made choices that I have not made. Realising this has brought the awareness that I, too, can make choices that are loving and enhancing for myself. That is I who has made myself ‘less’ – there is no one to blame as I alone am responsible for how I am.

658. Only little is written about the phenomenon of jealousy although it is a massive contributor of why humanity is in the state it is in. Jealousy can be experienced already before we are even born, it is one of the first reactions we can get as response to the light that we are and bring. In those early days already this becomes our normal and we tend to look away from it for the rest of our lives.

659. Having a focus to observe jealousy in your day, and the changes this personal program has brought is very inspiring “… The difference in my life in the past 10 months is vast. I feel my grace daily, there is an acceptance and love of others that I had not ever before considered was even possible…”

660. I remember as a young child being intently jealous over my two siblings at being left out of activities the both of them did together….that i would be entangled with ‘revenge’ or spats of spite in not being seen or considered by them [as worth being with] [and favourited]…The truth i’ve come to learn today as an adult in understanding my angst about not being seen by them, is because i’d not seen my true self first or felt the importance of this in equalness with them and another. I didn’t ‘favourite’ myself. Bypassing oneself, feeling inferior or not good enough is a self-created issue where comparison slips in, leading to jealousy’s downfall …because not only is it deeply harmful to the person you’re seemingly furious about, but it leaves you as a person utterly wasted too incapacitated with resentment or bitterness. Not a nice way to be or to live. Never before has self-worth been of the greatest importance in my life today, and deepening this.

     1. “I didn’t ‘favourite’ myself.” What a fabulous observation and such a truism that you are not alone in doing.

661. The level of honesty you share her Leigh is like a life lesson that supports everyone who reads it. What a blessing this is. I am totally inspired.

662. Upon recognising that we each have our part to play in the bigger picture, as part of a greater Plan, then we value each of our roles as equal. Bringing understanding to this has supported me in shifting jealousy as I have a deeper appreciation for myself and others and what it is that we uniquely bring.

663. The deeper we connect with ourselves which in turn allows us to let humanity in and connect and feel that we are all come from the same source, the tendrils of jealousy no longer have a place and no longer have a hold.

664. I feel jealousy and comparison come from a lack of self-worth and when we accept and love ourselves we are more open to accepting that within another. We are also accepting of our very own amazing uniqueness all we have to do is to truly be ourself and not try to be a cardboard copy of others. And I am realising that it’s not hard to do, it’s only when we start to make excuses that prevent us from taking full responsibility for our choices that opens up a space to allow jealousy and comparison to enter into our thoughts.

665. Becoming aware of how we feel about ourselves and treat ourselves physically but also energetically is vital to change old patterns that keep us in jealousy. I notice in myself and others that there is often a thread of beliefs and negative thoughts running in us, which may be so familiar that we are no longer aware of them. It is only when I become still inside and check how I am treating myself, that I am sometimes surprised. Trying to change with these beliefs running is like driving with the handbrake on.

666. Whilst we covet what others have but resent it at the same time, it puts us into a mentality of ranking (inequality) and competition with others. This blocks our ability to be inspired by the choices they have made to get where they are in life.

667. If we do not live the love that we are and let this love into our life, we leave the door wide open for all that is not love to enter instead. Jealousy is one such force, given the green (pun intended) light through our lack of self worth and hence lack of love being lived.

668. You bring an amazing understanding of what jealousy really is. Thank you.

669. When we don’t make our focus filling ourselves us with love, it can be all to easy to try and seek that filling outside of ourselves, even in something like comparing to and being jealous of another.

670. This is very profound Leigh, that we can ‘claim our true power and strength and leave us with a knowing in our bodies of the harm that jealousy brings, as well as the feeling of space and freedom that is felt once
     this energy is seen for what it is.’ It is exposing jealousy and ‘outing’ it for the insidious evil it brings when we allow it. It has a force we can all say NO to. This blog encourages me to check more deeply any threads that still run in my life with jealousy thank you.


671. This is very profound Leigh, that we can ‘claim our true power and strength and leave us with a knowing in our bodies of the harm that jealousy brings, as well as the feeling of space and freedom that is felt once
     this energy is seen for what it is.’ It is exposing jealousy and ‘outing’ it for the insidious evil it brings when we allow it. It has a force we can all say NO to. This blog encourages me to check more deeply any threads that still run in my life with jealousy thank you.

672. I am realising that instead of berating myself when jealousy comes up, I can choose to go deeper and feel the sadness I have around the choices I have not made and claim that moment of truth to move forward with the opportunity to choose the love that is being offered to me in that moment.

673. Something else that I am seeing is that jealousy is a two way street. Thus, as I am dealing with my jealousy to others, I am finding that much less is coming my way.

674. “One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life.”
     This is a major step Leigh and one that I am going to adhere to even in the smallest details, like putting my slippers on to go to the toilet instead of walking on the cold stone floor, having a drink of water immediately when I am thirsty instead of waiting 5 minutes or even up to an hour until I finish what I am doing, going to bed as soon as I am tired instead of doing ‘just one more email’….this one will be a hard one.

675. I used to feel very ashamed about being jealous.. it is such a kill joy. As I have opened up more and more to feeling this within myself, I realise now it is a simple fact to feel jealous around someone who is living a quality you are or have been denying yourself.

676. This is a fantastic blog Leigh, and speaking so openly from your own experience and how you have worked with a continual deepening awareness of jealousy and love for yourself. I too gained the full understanding of jealousy and comparison from Serge Benhayon and how much it is in daily life which has helped me hugely to be aware of and work with this in my life.

677. I too have been racked with jealousy. A toxic poison that infects every expression, movement and relationship. A deeper commitment to self-appreciation has worked wonders. I’m not clear yet, but almost all of the time I can now see someone else’s reflection as an invitation to me to be even more. How could I be jealous – they have just given me a gift.

678. I wonder if envy is more passive and jealousy is much more active. When we are envious, how much do we stop the other? When we are jealous, in my experience, we have no compunction about doing things that affect the other.

679. Jealousy is a very debilitating dis-ease and it can affect all our relationships and if not recognised for what it is, can stop us from being completely honest with ourselves. I know that if jealousy creeps in to cut it immediately if I don’t it can run it’s own story and affect not just ourselves, and the person it is directed to; but everyone around us.

680. ‘These moments are now stepping stones, taking me to an ever-deepening love and understanding of myself and others’, This is a super important point – if we expect ourselves to ‘get something’ immediately without any building of foundations or use of stepping stones to support us then we can easily become self-loathsome and frustrated.. Consistently applying ourselves is the key to changing our momentum of past ill-choices, ill-behaviours or attitudes.

681. ‘Over the past couple of years I have been observing any moment that I felt jealous and have then considered why it is that I was jealous of that person in that moment. I have begun to explore what choices I have felt for myself that I had not fully claimed and integrated into my life, and then began to do so.’ – This is deeply inspiring Leigh, talk about walking your talk! I can feel how you are leaving no stone unturned and allowing yourself to truly heal this issue from inside out.

682. Simply being able to admit I feel jealous is a big step towards dealing with it. Its certainly no good pretending I don’t. Facing it and seeing it as an opportunity to question what’s going on is a great place to start.

683. “What I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself…” This is deeply exposing isn’t it, of what really lies behind us becoming jealous. I hadn’t realised this until I heard Serge Benhayon present on the topic of jealousy and comparison and then I clocked it within myself…quite an ouch. Also clocking the antidote to this toxicity, through Serge’s presentations was realising that appreciation of myself and others supported the reduction of jealousy and allowing myself to make different choices all helped. Your upfront-ness in writing a blog on this squirmy subject is great Leigh!

684. Jealousy is a total killer. It robs us of the opportunity to truly appreciate or be inspired by others.

685. Having shied away from jealousy for so long, out of shame for the ugliness that it is, both mine directed at others and that directed at me – I have recently come to understand that its flip side is inspiration. When I meet others who are making choices that I have not yet made for myself, rather than pull back into hateful jealousy, I can simply observe and be inspired.

686. “…..to live the love that I am”. Pure wisdom. We are each uniquely constellated to be where we should be and who we are. Looking round a garden yesterday each plant was unique in its glory and doesn’t compare itself with another (I assume!) An oak tree doesn’t want to be a holly or vice versa – each has its own wonderful grace, strength and beauty. We could take a leaf out of the botanical book….

687. This brings a great understanding to the very powerful and dangerous emotion of jealously and all the harm and unhappiness it can bring to both ourselves and others. Comparing our selves never works is very contagious and we lose the ability to truly appreciate ourselves and all we bring and offer in our own unique way. The reflection to us we feel from others can be a true inspiration also to support ourselves to make more loving choices and this can be amazing if honoured and lived and can change everything also.

688. It feels like to me that we bring in comparison deliberately as a counter to the inspiration that we would otherwise receive from another to help us develop and expand and deepen our awareness.

689. Leigh the whole process of jealousy and looking to the world for guidance on how to be is a really difficult one, its become embedded into the normality of society yet in my experience is one of our greatest forms of poison we can choose. I know how trapped I felt living in this way and though its lessor now there are areas I find where I get caught up such as how I should be or how something should look.

690. This gives us such a true view of jealousy. What do I want in my life that I am not choosing? This could be my thought whenever I find myself feeling envious or feeling that my life is lesser. Bringing understanding into my considerations rather than judgement and pretence means that I can clearly look at something and lovingly deal with it.

691. Thank you for being so honest Leigh, truly refreshing. I love this line “One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life.” What an awesome choice to make, a choice that we all can make and innately deserve.

692. It has been since Universal Medicine presented on Jealousy and Comparison a few years ago that I then had more of an understanding of how these emotions play out in life. I have found though that jealousy is so woven through in either being the one projecting it or feeling it from others that has taken some time to unravel. It is so important to have this conversation as I know I have felt ashamed of feeling jealousy towards another in the past and then I’ve found it difficult to discuss, so thank you.

693. You lay out for us here, Leigh, a simple remedy for jealousy – “to explore what choices I have felt for myself that I had not fully claimed and integrated into my life”. When we hold back and settle for being less than we know we can be, there is bound to be a tension in our bodies which then gets magnified when we see someone else living their true potential.

694. Its an important subject to discuss because I had always believed that I did not get jealous, but what I had not recognised within myself was the subtle forms that jealously can take and one of these forms for me was feeling inferior to other people. This has been a powerful revelation, as I can see that when I choose to go into feeling that others are better, bigger or more important than me, I am quietly berating myself for not making the same choices, for not living my full potential, not being all I am in the world. Playing small creates a void that other people fall into as well, therefore it is an essential self responsibility to live our full potential, to manifest our full quota of love in this world.

695. When we separate, from ourselves by choice, we look in all the wrong places to bring our self back. We look only for the shortcuts to get what we think we need to become complete again, but that only spawns the green-eyed dragon to arise within us because of choices others have made and we have not.

696. Leigh, this is a simple breakdown ‘101’ on how to deal with jealously. After reading it a few times every paragraph has a ‘pow’ factor that could be applied on its own. So worth the share and possible short course educating and bringing awareness to this emotion (We are not educated about this force in school when we should be). We are never less in a universe and world that is designed to evolve. The choices to be aware of next are naturally in reflection of another or ourselves.

697. It’s interesting how when I feel someone is ‘better’ at something than me, rather than being inspired to learn from them, I can see myself as less and feel I have failed in some way, or even dismiss their achievement altogether convincing myself it isn’t something that interests me. The true failure is in not celebrating their success, in dismissing this opportunity to evolve, the chance to learn from someone who has mastered something that I haven’t.

698. Jealousy feeds on our inadequacies and emptiness, it’s a force that we allow in when we are not choosing to live in the fullness of who we are, when we start comparing ourselves with others and feeling where we are lacking rather than being inspired by what someone has already mastered that we have not. We are all different and can offer each other so much if we choose to learn from and support each other rather than choosing to separate, allowing in the destructive force of jealousy to wield it’s power dulling our collective light even further.

699. I have found that jealousy can only be there when I am not living my life in full and in constant connection with the love than I am and when I do live in this connection there is only understanding and a celebration of what others choose to live and step up to.

700. When viewed as a difference of choices, jealousy is exposed for what it is – my choice. Where I am in life is a result of my choices, if I feel that another has made choices that are more loving or more supportive, this is a reflection for me in the choices that I have made. Jealousy feels like I am trying to bring another down rather than choosing differently myself.

701. This is so very inspiring how, putting yourself on a personal study or ‘jealousy program’ has opened up your life more than could have been expected…”… I feel my grace daily, there is an acceptance and love of others that I had not ever before considered was even possible, let alone now to be living. I love myself deeply and this grows every single day…”

702. For a very long time I denied that I ever felt jealous. It was a feeling that would arise and I would quickly push it back down, as I was embarrassed that it was a feeling that I had, particularly towards close friends. Understanding that jealousy is about being upset with myself for not making the choices that they have and bringing understanding to this has helped me to address my jealousy issues and not be afraid of feeling them. Now when I feel jealous, I know it is time to take a look at the choices I have or haven’t been making and it is a sign that I need to go deeper with myself.

703. We often compare ourselves to others for their looks, slim figure, artistic or musical talents or some other aspect of their being and we can choose either to be inspired by what they do and how they apply themselves to their particular art or we can be critical, mean, forceful in our way of speaking about them. The latter creates a resonance of energy that is harming both to ourselves and the other person, a powerful force that can change lives because some people will hold back rather than be on the receiving end of jealousy, because it is such an ugly force.
     The love that is around us is boundless and available to us all equally, if we recognise that we are fat because of how we eat, we can’t play an instrument because we can’t be bothered to practise, we are not good at art because we lost confidence with it at school and never drew anything much after that. There are many reasons why we are as we are, and simply accepting that is a great start.

704. If you begin to bring awareness to this subject, it already brakes the force of jealously. What I am realising is how insidious jealousy can be, not just jealously that we feel towards another but what actually comes at us.

     1. It is quite a masterful ability to not quail consciously or unconsciously from jealousy directed at us, just as you say, Sarah.

705. At those times when I feel a tinge of jealousy or comparison come in, I know, it’s a great stop point to check in with my body and where I am at, as if I’m with myself in my loveliness, I feel the loveliness of another and that feeling is all encompassing so there is no room for anything else, only the truth of each other in that moment.

706. What I understand of jealousy is the double edge blade – the effect it has on those we project that jealousy to, but also the inner fury, rage and regret towards ourselves for the choices we have not made – in the end our choice to look outside and compare to another only confirms the idea we are not enough.

707. Accepting and understanding are the key words that I read in this article. Fighting against myself to avoid feeling jealousy isn’t the answer I’ve discovered. There’s indeed a way, one choice away in fact, to live the love we are. And when connecting to this love I feel a strength, a power, a tenderness, a delicateness and so much love and appreciation of both myself and others that is simply divinely beautiful. ME!

708. Thank you Leigh, I pondered on what was shared & for many years I used to deny I ever felt jealous!……and it feels true. I had made lovelie choices. I meant to type ‘loveless’ but auto type wrote ‘lovelie’ and as I pondered on this word, how & what we perceive love to be, is not all its made out to be, so it is a lie……

709. What a great sharing Leigh, one I can relate to. I am very grateful for the teachings of the Ancient Wisdom as presented by Serge Benhayon for my understanding of what jealousy is. I used to stand back and wonder why I was unable to achieve the same results as others in my life, until I started to see that it was the choices that I was making that made the difference, as well as a lack of belief in ,and love for myself.

710. Leigh there is so much to be confirmed and celebrated in what you have shared but I absolutely love how you describe so beautifully how your understanding of jealousy supports those who are jealous in your company to let go of their false way of being and to join you in a true way of being. That’s the opposite of how many women operate, many women feel a fleeting moment of ‘having won/momentarily being at ‘the top’ and of course that feeling cements the other woman in her jealousy. We really are here to support each other to evolve and when we do, it feels the most natural and joyous thing imaginable.

711. I love how you have seen jealousy as a gift to feel where you are at within yourself. I too have had this realisation and have grown so much from seeing it this way. I know the more love I bring to myself the easier it is to see jealously this way, I become less hard on myself for having these feelings and more understanding of other when it comes my way.

712. If jealousy was taught and presented this way from young, we would have an entirely different relationship with ourselves, each other, and our personal relationship with responsibility and our choices.

713. I like what you are saying here in this blog Leigh and it has made me consider that actually any moment that I feel envious of another is actually a sign that there is something in my own life that I am ignoring or neglecting and so a jealous moment if it is caught, observed and nominated in truth for what it is and not indulged can be a great moment of learning, reflection, healing and growth.

714. We are brought up in a world where we champion competition – from my point of view competition fosters envy, as we learn to continuously strive for the ‘best’.

715. It is great to observe our reactions to each other and to life, to study ourselves with honesty and to arise from all that is less than our Godliness and Love for one another.

716. To be able to turn jealousy into inspiration is a beautiful and healing thing for us all. And to take full responsibility for jealousy and envy brings it back to us and our choices. Then we simply have to decide if we care enough about ourselves to make the choices that will dispel these destructive emotions from our lives.

717. Jealousy stems, grows and flows from this root idea that we are apart, that you have something and I do not, that we are like islands joined only by a common sea of experiencing life. So what if the great evil, the true originator of our distemper is not jealousy or emotion at all, but the trick that we are disconnected and individual? For when we discuss these issues we will go to all lengths, but very rarely are we willing to see, truly, how we come from one place, and under it all there is no real you and me, there is just us. Wow, Leigh now what would it be like to live this here on earth?

718. There have been times in the past when I have experienced some quite intense jealousy and when I reflect on these I realise how easy it is to make it about the other person or what ever they have that we don’t, rather than taking responsibility for the choices I have made and appreciating all that I am and not making myself feel less. “No longer do I berate myself when I feel it, but instead surrender to the love I have within and understand it.” There is so much self love in this approach – it feels amazing.

719. I have recently been sharing with other women the jealousy I have felt towards them and this has opened a space for us to deepen and expand our relationship. In two instances it has led to a feeling of greater warmth and openness as we let go of the barriers that keep us apart and separate, and our conversations have led to more honesty and love.

720. Perhaps if we were honest with Jealousy – I mean really honest – admitting to ourselves that we are envious of the choices others have made – we would start to untangle the cunning thing it has become, so subtle yet very apparent. To look at jealousy for what it is – a comparison of choices – is to then appreciate that we have choices too – at any moment – so we can’t be a victim of our situation but rather a leader of them – and we have a responsibility at any given moment in what our choices will be. Perhaps if we were to claim in full each choice and be absolutely responsible, we would not even be able to have jealousy because there can be no gaps for comparison.

721. When we allow ourselves to look at any feelings of comparison and Jealousy that pop up, it looses the pernicious hold it has over us.

722. Thanks Leigh your article offers great insight into the root cause of jealousy, and offers the opportunity to reflect on choices made that allow that energy to come through us

723. I agree with you Leigh. I am aware that I am jealous of another when I feel that they are taking steps to move forward in life especially taking care of themselves and being true to themself. There is a sense of power when you are the real you and not holding back what is there that you offer.

724. It is great to bring more conversation to jealously, especially how it can play out within ourselves.

725. Being the recipient of jealousy feels as awful as any other form of abuse, and it is harmful to both parties equally.

726. The more we can understand the nature of jealousy the greater chance we have of overcoming it’s force. Like you have so courageously expressed Leigh, to observe it and be aware of any patterns that may lead to jealousy is an amazing start to not allow it to be expressed towards another. We all know how much it stings when it is directed at ourselves so why would we want to inflict that on another. The stand out point for me here is observation.

727. I find that jealousy only has an entry point when I am not appreciating myself. In other words, when I am not with myself and choosing to be all of me there is an opening for doubt and lack of self worth to creep into my thoughts and only then can jealousy really have the footing to strike. Appreciation dissolves comparison and jealousy.

728. Hello Leigh, I feel too much is made of jealousy – what I mean by this is that it’s simply another thing we can easily, lovingly and practically work through, exactly as you have described. And, we don’t have to shut people out, label, or categorise those that have felt jealousy to us – love is much bigger than that. In true brotherhood, we can work together to understand and transmute the jealousy by being aware of new choices available to us, and return to a greater level of love and harmony together.

729. We all have the same potential to shine, to feel our divinity radiating all around us. If we are jealous, this is an opportunity to acknowledge that we’re not fully appreciating all that we already are and not yet taking full responsibility for all our choices.

730. Love your blog Leigh and the courage it takes to speak about jealousy. It thickens and hurts further when it is followed up by shame in my experience. The conversation it has brought about proves that it is something we are all affected by, whichever way it goes.

731. Leigh I have lived with the self inflicted dagger wounds to my abdomen that jealousy causes and until I came to the teachings of the Ageless Wisdom I didn’t understand the cause of jealousy. Once explained, it made total sense that I was pained by another reflecting back to me that I was not making the same loving choices that another was making. What accompanied my jealousy at times were really awful images and thoughts about holding others back. To be really honest, I did on occasion do and say things that attempted to lessen another in some way, it’s a poisonous way of being for the whole of humanity.

732. Leigh you have written with such deep wisdom, a wisdom that is founded on the lived experience of your body. It is because your wisdom is lived that what you have shared has the power to truly support others to change. Leigh your article is the kind of article that should be in women’s magazines, offering women a real opportunity to choose another way of being.

733. “…the true feeling here is envy and so enviously is how I lived. Deeply and bitterly so…” your observation here is so revealing Leigh, that in envy we feel the fact that others are making choices that we have not made for ourselves and that alongside this we suffer a level of frustration with ourselves and our own choices that have become so ingrained that our bodies hurt as we move in that reaction.

734. Envy and jealousy comes because it exposes what past choices we haven’t made that others have, to be doing something we want to be doing or feeling something we want to be feeling. It is inspiring to read how you have made changes Leigh by different choices, so anyone can do that as well.

735. Jealousy is a big one. We can be jealous of people and not even realise. It can lead to manipulation, frustration or abuse very easily if we do not catch it and recognize it for what it is.

736. For so long I suffered from jealousy without realising what was going on and I felt a sense of relief and freedom in understanding why at times I felt so uncomfortable around certain people. When it was explained to me it made such sense and from there I have been able to gain more clarity. I love the way you say you live your life not accepting anything less than love, Leigh – thank you for another inspiring blog.

737. ‚I have begun to explore what choices I have felt for myself that I had not fully claimed and integrated into my life, and then began to do so.’ – Something for me: to be honest and look even closer and deeper at the choices I make and make sure, to the best of my ability, to make and claim choices that support me.

738. I used to feel jealousy all the time and yet was never aware that it was jealousy I was feeling. This really is such an insidious emotion. Learning that jealousy is really looking at another and clocking that they have made choices you haven’t is a revelation in learning a) – to acknowledge the jealousy and b) – acknowledging you are being shown there are some new choices to make. With loving understanding and a deepening self appreciation this new awareness can be taken as the offered blessing that it is.

739. I wonder if there is a difference between jealousy and envy. In my past I was happy for people to be envious of me but jealousy deeply hurt. In envy, I could always feel admiration to some degree but in jealousy there was only the desire of the other to stop me in any way possible so they are not confronted with their choices.

740. Hi Leigh, this is a very inspiring blog for me. Reading ‚..what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself.
     My focus was instead on fitting into the life that I had..’ I have realized how much I have been living according to images, ideas and ideals for most of my life. By trying to fulfill pictures I had in my head I ignored and overrode what I was truely feeling within me. I did not listen to what was true for me and did not – and still sometimes do – make/claim choices that would have truely supported me; with the result of being jealous of others who make choices that support them. It is very healing to clearly feel this now. Thank you.

741. It’s so important that we not only say no to abuse and only accept love in relationships with other people, but also and more significantly in our relationship with ourselves… We spend the greatest amount of time – 24 hours a day, 7 days a week in fact – with us!

     1. I agree Susie, the relationship we have with ourselves is key. The more self-loving and appreciative of who we are and the qualities we bring, the more love we have to offer.

742. Acknowledging that jealousy arises from the reflection of not making self-loving choices as others have done is initially painful but through the realisation one can see one’s choices that previously that was in denial of. This is so empowering, life changing and enhancing as you share, Leigh.

743. “Yet I was not choosing to follow this inner, subtle, yet very loud guidance that was being offered to me.” Essentially this is what it all boils down to. We all have our inner guide, our own oracle of all knowingness that resides inside us, gently handing out messages every single day that we can pay attention to or not, a simple choice to make. So every time we get jealous its actually a golden opportunity to look at what we have been ignoring within ourselves, its a great moment where our inner wisdom can actually say “I told you so”.

744. Isn’t it amazing how something as destructive as jealously can point us in the direction of love when we choose awareness in our lives. It seems that whatever we experience in life, it can offer us deeper awareness if that is our choice.

745. This is a huge subject when you see the actions of many and the constant yearning to have what others have in the material sense, and yet what is truly missing is self love. This is a great example of how getting to know and love yourself can assist you to look at the world differently.

746. It is so empowering to hear you present how you changed your relationship with life through simply changing the choices of how you are with yourself. Shows that we do not need to remain trapped behind the illusionary walls jealously puts up.

747. When I began to understand what jealousy really is, that is not the other person’s “fault “I feel the way I do, but it is simply me feeling an uncomfortable-ness around the fact that they are where they are in their lives because of the choices they have made, the same as I find myself where I am as a result of mine. I have come to feel how painful jealousy is in my body and how what I have allowed into mine also affects their body; that is my responsibility. These days I allow myself to be inspired by another instead of slipping into the destructive energy of jealousy, although sometimes it still sneaks in before I am able to clock it; definitely a most welcomed work in progress.

748. Leigh, it is very beautiful to feel how understanding and loving you are with yourself, ‘I am not yet fully clear of feeling jealous of another and this is something that I am acutely aware of. No longer do I berate myself when I feel it, but instead surrender to the love that I have within and understand it’.

749. When I feel jealousy towards another begin to creep into my thoughts, I give myself a bit of straight talking and begin to appreciate myself and the qualities that are unique to me, and the more I do this, the more I am finding that I have less negative self talk and looking for confirmation or recognition from others. It is not something I have tried to do but has happened naturally the more I appreciate myself, it is always a choice and one that comes from self-love and honesty, so after years of trying to change the world around me it really does work when we go within and connect to what is true inside of us, then things begin to change around us in a way that we never could have imagined.

750. “to live the love that I am”…..this is a simple but very powerful game changer when the principle is applied to daily life. To see, feel and observe the miraculous change in those that really give this a go is quite something. Your story of change is beautiful to read Leigh.

     1. Once we know – even once, for just a fleeting moment – that love is our true nature, EVERYthing changes.

751. ‘what needed addressing more than anything else was how I held myself, how I thought about myself and how I treated myself.’ -Thanks Leigh. We can often try and find shortcuts to making the choice to look after ourselves and hold ourselves in the preciousness that we so naturally are. But nothing I buy or do will give me the love I want to feel 24/7, that I know is there inside me and that I see others having chosen for themselves. I can either wallow in the sadness of not having chosen it for myself and perpetuate more of the same, or make the choice to think about myself and treat myself differently. The effects in my body are so different.

752. “I love myself deeply and this grows every single day” not many people feel this and even less can actually say it is true in their life. No wonder jealousy is so rife in society. Yet what you’ve shared here is that we all have a choice and therefore there is no right to be jealous, rather make different choices.

753. Why are we never satisfied with what we have and ponder on the greener grass on the other side of the fence? Could it be that advertising could at least a small bit culpable? But, they are still down to the choices we make.

754. In my wildest dreams I would not have imagined my life to be mostly free of emotions, let alone aspired it to be free of emotions. After completing some Universal Medicine courses this has changed, my life feels fulfilled as never before and my body is not exhausted anymore by the emotional indulgence I used to live in before.

755. I love this exploration of jealousy and the impact it has – certainly not something to be brushed off and dismissed as insignificant – it pollutes our everyday; our one to one interactions; cultural divides; patriotism… For me one of the stumbling blocks was actually ‘fessing up to myself that I did feel jealous… once I was over that, I have been, and am, able to bring understanding along with a firm commitment to work through anything in me that feeds jealousy.

756. Leigh, this is a great article showing how sneaky jealousy is and how it hides behind closed doors.
     I observe the more I open up to myself and to people the less I experience jealousy, but can appreciate what others are bringing and ” doing”. Writing this I realize I get hurt when it is about doing to get recognition instead of an activity done in love.

757. “…One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life. This is a very personal choice .. how I held myself, how I thought about myself and how I treated myself…” What a great paragraph to read here, as it shows that once you start to self love, and this becomes a foundation in the relationship you have with yourself, there simply is no room for jealousy. You can only get inspired.

758. This is huge Leigh and shows a level of responsibility that many of us, including myself, have not been or only rarely been willing to go to. That what we are really jealous or envious of is the choices that another has made that we have not. This comes down to responsibility in that, if we have not been making loving and supportive choices, then what have we been choosing?

759. By understanding how jealousy works was a great support for me, the next part was being completely honest with myself when I have been feeling jealousy towards others. I didn’t at first want to acknowledge I was feeling jealousy so I’d push it aside thinking I was not feeling it, convincing myself it was not present but this just exacerbated the energy and I would be blinded by it which then hurt myself and others. When jealousy come through me, it was in very subtle ways, in fact it often came disguised with niceness which worked well in fooling myself and others but left me feeling tension in my body without fully understanding why because I was choosing to not be aware of jealousy. It is a great one to expose, to be absolutely transparent about it so it doesn’t fester or get projected towards others adding to the mix of harmful energy. Once it is exposed without judgment or self-bashing, jealousy has nowhere to go. Appreciation is the antidote to jealousy, amazing how it works, so simple.

760. And in addition to the above comment, I would also like to add that when I have experienced jealousy come my way, it is such an awful and unpleasant experience that really requires me to hold steady with myself and not let it bring me down. Jealousy can come in so many forms, and one of the worst is when it is disguised as niceness or kindness – one has to very astutely feel this. Often It gives me shivers down the back because from the outside it looks sweet as honey, but on the inside it is seething with thorns and prickles. However, when we have an understanding of what jealousy is and how it affects us, then it is easier to bring an understanding to why such things happen, and so the learning comes again in allowing another to make their own choices but yet holding oneself steady and not getting affected by another’s choices. And the learning to still keep steady with making the loving choices and growing and evolving despite another’s (often unconscious) protest due to their own exposure of their choices.

761. It is such an awful feeling to compare ourselves with another and feel the choices another has made that we have not made, and then instead of just feeling the “ouch” of our own choices and allow ourselves to be inspired by the other, we instead choose to blame or ‘hate’ the other for showing us what we have denied ourselves. This is a crazy game to play – a game that only leads to more of our own losses and further missed opportunities. If we instead took each moment that was gifted to us and saw it for the inspiration that another can bring to us, and from here gathered ourselves and embraced the evolution on offer, wow would our lives be so different and jealousy and envy would drop away. This is truly amazing to step away from such old patterns and embrace something that allows a win win situation for everyone.

762. This is beautiful Katie. I have found it very difficult to admit that I was jealous at times, it is an emotion that hides in the shadows gaining destructive strength and wreaking havoc in my relationships. As soon as I allow myself to see it it shrivels and dies like a vampire in sunlight. I can then see that I am not the jealousy, it is simply something I allow through when I do not take responsibility.

763. Wow Leigh, this blog feels heaven sent today. I have noticed that it is very important to clock exactly why I feel jealous when it comes through me. For example I recently felt jealous when a friend was discussing an exciting new work venture but I knew that I didn’t want to do the same type of job… I was confused about this until I realised that I was actually jealous of this woman’s decision to go for it without holding back. Once I felt this I was able to allow myself the space to be inspired by what she shared.

764. The more we appreciate ourselves and others, jealousy stays where it belongs, nowhere.

765. I don’t think anyone enjoys feeling envy, being jealous/suffering from it, or in addition having jealousy launched on them by another’s eyes. It is a debilitating condition that affects us all and hence shows the actual deep extent of how much we don’t love, and continue to favour its opposite quality which has created the greed, corrupt and imbalanced world/society we live in and in truth cannot say we truly enjoy. Seems we uphold and revel over what we adversely create and damages us, and then are bound in angst by its torturous grip.

766. It is so beautiful to feel through what you have shared that when we come to an understanding for ourselves, through honesty, of what jealousy is and how it plays out in our lives, we then are able to naturally extend this understanding to a situation where jealousy is coming from another, offering the opportunity for healing and evolution for all, by choosing to connect and appreciate the love that is already there within.

767. I have been inspired to “to live the love that I am” more in my everyday and in every choice I make after reading this blog. Thank you.

768. Jealousy is such a strong feeling, to receive or give out, and so to clock it is rather important as it allows us to understand what is going on, and when it is our own jealousy towards another, appreciate that the jealousy is actually stopping us from initiating the changes that we really want to make for ourselves. Thanks for your sharing Leigh.

769. Accepting love in your life is certainly a great start .. and accepting all as it is. Appreciating where you are at in your body and what thoughts are going on in the mind. Its not a question or a wondering about this or that, the past or the future but allow those choices to be felt in the body, and know that next thought is how you move.
     Awareness in the moment is the greatest gift we share with each other. It is when we guard this awareness and make it a personal duty that we must take care of an ‘aimless thought’. Awareness is the feeling. Responsibilities increase when you purposely choose the act of love towards yourself – delicate, sensitive with authority that this is you right now. And when that love for yourself is openly let out more of that love is there to discover through your own reflection and at anytime through the reflection of another.

770. Awesome to be starting a discussion around jealousy and what it really means and how if we let it, it can really hold us back.

771. It really comes down to accepting responsibility for our lives… when jealousy is all about recognising that another made a choice we know we could have made but didnt, then we need to recognise why we didnt make that choice and move forward from there with our very next choice.

772. This whole jealousy/envy thing can take so much of our energy without us even realising it – it is the constant comparison that keeps it alive… when instead we can simply be the love we truly are.

773. The difference with feeling and appreciating the loveliness of us all in our essence and any thought that tries to negate this feeling is immense. The more aware I am of when thoughts want to sneak in the quicker I respond back with connecting to our essence and grace is instantly there.

774. Jealousy can present in a number of ways – the moment we look outside of ourselves and compare to another we are not accepting where we are at and invite such energy to be with us, in us and through us.

775. That is awesome – and so very freeing: “to live the love that I am”. It is amazing how simple yet profound love is and how difficult and complicated we make life to be so we can somehow get identified by feeling we have achieved something!

776. “what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself.” It is quite sobering to read that, Leigh, for many of us that is the true situation. We all have complete freedom to make choices in how we are going to live from day to day and from moment to moment. Some of us are willing to make the efforts that are needed to live a life of true love, others are not. So there is no ground for us to be feeling envious or jealous of those who do choose that, if we have not chosen to do so. It is our own willingness to take responsibility for the way that we live that is the foundation for our satisfaction with our lives.

777. Jealousy is merely a choice to not be responsible for one’s own choices.

778. ‘what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself.’ Jealousy is undone when we bring our focus back to this key point. How simple it is to turn jealousy it on it’s head and choose differently.

779. “I celebrate every day the difference in my life, and the joy I now feel in my days – none of which was possible until I made the choice to live by the very basic principle that lies at the base of that which Serge Benhayon presents, “to live the love that I am”.” That is so beautiful, Leigh, and you have shown just how beautiful it can be when we take responsibility for living the love that we truly are. When we do this deeply and fully, then there needs to be no place for envy or jealousy, we realise it is all up to us to live all that we are.

780. Yes wishing for life to be another way is utterly pointless and something I can easily indulge and play in my mind with. It doesn’t serve me to behave in this way and find that the more I feel my body and the sheer warmth and deliciousness that resides in my body the less I spend in my mind.

781. With the understanding that when we’re jealous of someone we’re actually jealous of choices they’ve made it gives us a great opportunity for clarity by reflecting on what we’ve been choosing that actually we can feel wasn’t true for us and therefore opening up the potential for true change.

782. When we get honest abut jealousy it can become something we use to highlight an area in our lives that we can pay attention to. It is such an hideous thing to have run through our bodies and so getting honest is a very hard step. But now when I feel it, I use it to look at my life and my choices. Jealousy can transform into inspiration. We don’t need to be jealous of others but it is easily done if we are lacking in love and appreciation of ourselves. It is our own responsibility to love and appreciate ourselves and from there we have a foundation where jealousy can not so easily get in.

783. To live life as self-reflected truly makes life a light experience.

784. This is a blog we can all learn from Leigh, jealousy is so rarely talked about and certainly not with the honesty and understanding you have brought in your writing. To be jealous of another is to see that they have made choices that we have not and rather than be inspired by them we react in the form of jealousy. I am learning that appreciation along with the love for myself, is a great antidote to jealousy, the more I can appreciate me and the choices I have made, allows me to appreciate the choices someone else has made and jealousy no longer takes precedence.

785. Comparison and jealousy does effect all of us through the choices we make, or should I say the choice we don’t make (which is still a choice!). Honestly looking at our choices when the emotions arise and then only accepting love, as you have done Leigh highlights how this is the only way to leave these emotions behind. Makes me wonder how much of the discontent in the world is because of compassion, jealousy and even envy.

786. Feeling myself being jealous has become an immediate marker of not living what I could live if I only were taking the responsibility to make the necessary choices to express, expand, move forward. deepen, appreciate and put into action whatever is required to live, enjoy and share what another is reflecting me by their lived activity. Pride can kick in and try to create an emotional downward spiral but an openness and willingness to truly see what I have avoided living is the beginning of living it.

787. If you are stuck in a jealous moment or you are seeing how jealousy is playing out in your life, consider this “Over the past couple of years I have been observing any moment that I felt jealous and have then considered why it is that I was jealous of that person in that moment. I have begun to explore what choices I have felt for myself that I had not fully claimed and integrated into my life, and then began to do so.” A self responsible approach to what is not only a word but an action. So how do you start to heal something like this? By taking self responsible action for how you are feeling.

788. When we unpick and unfavourably compare, dissect and denigrate, and say that things aren’t great we constantly cut ourselves off from our next step. For as you so humbly say Leigh, each thing we see in our life, is a ‘nudge from God’ for us to develop and expand. So as long as we make others less we miss out on seeing the essential truth – there is no division between me and you and so each ‘win’ for one is a win for all, and each great choice that people make supports everyone to go there too. So let us move forward considering that we walk together on this path, and anything that pulls us apart is a just a game to distract from the truth we have in our heart.

789. I can feel how jealousy is often in my life and is often dressed up in niceties that don’t make it so “bad”. This is yuk -thank you for exposing this, Leigh. I also love the idea of God nudging me in my next loving step.

790. Thank for for sharing your experience – Jealousy is a common feeling and yet can be an uncomfortable one to admit and look at, at least it is for me. By reading about how you simply allow yourself to feel it, but don’t allow it to become something to beat yourself up about, I feel like I am more able to admit to myself when these feelings come in, so I can look at them and from there choose love instead.

791. 5 words of this blog, had me feeling very reflective…”I feel my grace daily”… to sit with and consider what it would be like to feel this each day, and to feel that it is your and not provided by something or someone else…magic.

792. How freeing to be willing to see and feel these pockets of jealously with oneself.

793. This words are really stood up for me: “When I now feel jealousy coming from others there is this sense of knowing why each person is living like they are. With this understanding there is a sense of grace in my body that holds us both in the love that we naturally are. The feeling of grace is full and encompassing, steady and strong, offering a space for jealousy to be let go of and our true loving light to be set free.” It is so true and uplifting. And yes it is possible only when we understand what Love is and embrace our imperfections as well ans our awsomeness.

794. One thing is for sure, if we appreciated and magnified the love we have for others more, jealousy could never get in the way.

795. It is so great that jealousy is exposed and called out and the fact that it is based on illusion. Jealousy is full of the stories we tell ourselves that are not true. The truth is, we all hold and are the most amazing love equally and once this is claimed then all jealousy will be stamped out.

796. you have shown how easy it is to counter jealousy, simply accept we are love and the amazing choices of others.

797. What a gorgeous 10 months you have shared here Leigh.. In the bigger picture nothing is lost, it doesn’t take long to turn the tables and unfold love back into our lives.

798. This is so beautiful ….. ‘I see everything in my life as God gently nudging me to take the next loving step.’ …. a powerful reflection of you living your life in brotherhood.

799. Love your open-ness and honesty, Leigh, very humbling, and thank you for writing a blog on such an important topic, particularly for women, I feel. It’s interesting how we openly comment when someone has annoyed us or hurt us but I’m not sure I’ve ever heard anyone share to me that they’ve been made to feel jealous. It’s like an unspoken secret that we allow to simmer inside of us, that if questioned, we would most likely deny because we make it about the other person, holding them responsible, when in fact, it’s about us.

800. Jealousy is torturous….the inner turmoil of what we are or actually not choosing and when others are, it reflects back to us what we are not choosing. The choice is simply love or a lie.

801. ‘One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life.’ – This sentence is key, when we replace self critisism, judgment, doubt and envy with love, we allow for true change to happen.

802. Leigh, this is a very refreshing and beautiful sharing about the power of true self love and responsibility.

803. All it takes to prevent jealousy from occurring is to accept and take responsibility for our own choices. Sometimes that can be challenging but it is the only way.

804. Jealousy is one of the most destructive forces that harms not only the person that is directing the force at another but also the person it is being directed at, if they take on the energy.
     What you have outlined here as a way to deal with jealousy is much needed as humanity indulges in this emotion far too often.

805. We are all equal in our power to choose differently.

806. Awesome blog Leigh which I feel so many of us can identify with, and I love your honesty. When we get honest with ourselves, the tinted rose glasses come of and we become more aware of how we have been living and why we are in the place we now find ourselves in. And then from that space, we can make new choices. Honesty is a great medicine and cheap too!

807. .
     Wow Leigh this exposes what jealously really is so simply and clearly and all that comes from this. ” What I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself.” What an amazing understanding and wisdom this allows us in life to see and work on for ourselves and the understanding it brings of others and all we can feel.

808. Jealousy just doesn’t exist when you are feeling your own amazing and moving in that quality. I recently had someone comment on my size and I didn’t react, I just said, your not seeing me at all, I’m way more than my physical body. It felt so good to claim me in that moment.

809. ‘what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself.’ With this understanding of jealousy it is much easier to be honest and to bring compassion to ourselves and understanding rather than bashing ourselves for not being or doing good enough. By changing our own behaviours especially the regard, care and love we choose for ourselves these feelings of jealousy toward another or the discomfort and hurt of jealousy from another fade. I have been much more aware of envy and jealousy, how rife this is, and how deep and insidious this energy can go, since being exposed to the teachings of Serge Benhayon and this is supporting me in my acceptance of myself and others and allowing me to deepen my love for humanity, a love without reaction, a true love.

810. It’s great because I actually feel you have gone beyond the feeling of jealousy to get to envy to really get to the bottom of this. Also how awesome is it that you have done this, so often so many of us have a feeling like jealousy or comparison (another killer!) and don’t truly stop to get to feel or get to the bottom of it so it no longer runs us or has a hold on us. This is so true ‘what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself.’ As Serge Benhayon has written “JEALOUSY is nothing more than self-fury. It is a personal attack on yourself for not doing what you knew had to be done, which is then vented outward to those who are doing what there is to be done.” Esoteric Teachings & Revelations, p 123. There has been quite a few times (erm maybe more than a few!) in my life I have felt this and at the end of the day I have been able to feel it stems from all the choices that would have been loving and supported me that I DIDN’T choose or make! I am starting to change this now. I also really loved what you shared about over the last 10 months only accepting love in your life, this is definitely something that would be good for me to reflect on as I can feel the vast change within that has happen for you since doing this.

811. Jealousy early on in life can be felt if siblings are jealous of each other or even if a parent is jealous of their offspring. The choices we make throughout our lives affect us in the future and carry on through lifetimes. If we are on the receiving end of jealousy because of a talent we may have, we have a choice: to continue to use that talent and inspire others, or to stop and dumb down to the level of everyone else, pretending we are like them. When we do that the world misses out on the inspiration we can offer.

812. “With this understanding there is a sense of grace in my body that holds us both in the love that we naturally are. The feeling of grace is full and encompassing, steady and strong, offering a space for jealousy to be let go of and our true loving light to be set free.” For me it has been a pattern to run from jealousy and duck away from it in the hope it will go away – what i love about what you are saying here Leigh is that by supporting ourselves with a consistent loving rhythm we can stand in the face of jealousy, in presenting love, we are saying no to the jealousy and yes to what we know is the equal and opposite force.

813. Love what you have written here Leigh, a topic of which I have been the receiver and the giver of, and there are no winners with either. I also agree that by learning to truly love ourselves and allow ourselves to express from there changes everything, as this takes away the need to be envious of another.

814. Jealousy is such an insidious emotion isn’t it? By its very nature it is sly and quite nasty…it seems that we are all upfront with dealing with our sadness, grief, anger, frustrations but we hardly ever bring this one up for discussion. It is probably fair to say that jealousy is something we have all experienced and it’s great Leigh that you have written a blog about it and started the conversation.

815. I have tended to shrink away when I have felt jealousy directed towards me which I have allowed to cap me but I can feel how empowering it would be to acknowledge what is happening and bring acceptance of this to the situation and how expansive holding the other person in love and grace can be so that it is possible to ‘claim our true power and strength and leave us with a knowing in our bodies of the harm that jealousy brings, as well as the feeling of space and freedom that is felt once this energy is seen for what it is.’

816. There is indeed not much joy in spending our lives in jealousy and wishing we had something else, something more and a ‘better’ life. It’s not about materials, however, and true gold comes about from how we feel within ourselves and the joy we can experience based on how we live and are with others.

     1. Life lived with jealousy feels quite bitter – even just being honest if any jealousy is there is far more freeing than staying stuck in being resentful of what we are not doing for ourselves.

817. As I have observed the jealously I have felt/ and at times can feel towards others I can see how it has woven through all my life. I have seen the evil of this energy as it has affected my choices, my behaviours, my relationships, my family life – in fact everything. It has been since recognising this that I have been able to build my own life based on love so therefore am able to accept myself as the love I am and make choices from this place. Thus jealousy does not creep in so often and when it does I can recognise the feeling and know it is showing me something to consider in my life more deeply.

818. Thank you for delineating the difference between envy and jealousy. I have never particularly envied others material possessions but have certainly struggled with feeling jealous of the choices I observe others making whilst denying that I felt jealous because I was choosing not to recognise it as jealousy! I love how you share about surrendering to your own love and how this has supported you in the process of observing and working through jealousy and I feel inspired to explore surrendering rather than going into self-bashing etc.

819. Understanding the science of jealousy is the first step in not reacting towards others. Thank you Leigh for your honest sharing to help more of us find this understanding.

     1. And it’s such a great step. From this step so much more can be unfolded for us.

820. Deeply transformative to feel, accept where we are and choose to do something about it. In a situation close to me, I observe someone struggle with self and life because they cannot (or choose not to) be honest about themselves and accept they need help. I have been there myself, and deeply appreciate the grace that came my way bringing self awareness and a willingness to be honest about my self and life.

821. This is a blog we can all learn from Leigh, jealousy is so rarely talked about and certainly not with the honesty and understanding you have brought in your writing. To be jealous of another is to see that they have made choices that we have not made, and rather than be inspired by them we react in the form of jealousy. I am learning that appreciation along with the love for myself, is a great antidote to jealousy, the more I can appreciate me and the choices I have made, then allows me to appreciate the choices someone else has made and jealousy no longer takes precedence.

822. What is so beautiful about this, is the way that Leigh Strack has learnt from her own body and her own life what the quality of jealousy feels like and has in turn brought this lived experience back out in to the world so that she may be not judging of others who are also experiencing jealousy in their bodies. And by Leigh holding steady with that love, she offers another the opportunity to let go of that energy and to feel the truth of who they are once again.

823. ‘One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life.’ When I read this Leigh I immediately thought you were referring to how others treated you, but as I read on, realised you were talking about how you treated yourself. How game changing that you are bringing love into the relationship you have with you.

824. I joyously celebrate you Leigh. Your honesty is breathtaking and because of it you healed a deep wound that opened you to love.

     1. Very inspiring and freeing for a lot of people to hear.

825. Great that you have written a blog about the ‘green eyed monster.’ No one likes to admit it’s something they feel, so the topic never gets discussed, but it is very much there in our lives every day.

     1. It’s great there are blogs and discussions around jealousy as its something that comes up regularly in society. It’s refreshing that these conversations and writings are happening.

826. Well spotted Leigh, we often can just ‘pass off’ an envious thought and not take much notice of it, but when considered more deeply we may well become aware of the loving choices we chose to NOT make, and in this deeper examination we can find a way to change the envy into understanding, and therefore, provide ourselves the opportunity to reconsider or change our choices.

827. Thank you Leigh for exposing the harming effect of jealousy and envy. They are a poison that cause disharmony within our own body, within families, communities and people throughout the world. To be aware of the harming energy of jealousy, let it go and feel the love and beauty that is in the inner-heart of each and every one of us is to feel the freedom to be love.

828. Beautiful Leigh, what you are sharing feels amazing, I can feel how ‘common’ it is for us to live with jealousy and envy, it is almost seen as acceptable to think like this, if someone has more material possessions or more friends etc…Reading your article makes me realise how much I used to live with jealousy and how much that has changed since I have started to love and appreciate myself more.

829. When we come to an understanding that when jealousy is felt, it is an offering to support us to go deeper in the love we have for ourselves it changes the way in which we deal with the situation and what arises. I used to react by covering up and pretending that I wasn’t jealous as I simply didn’t want to feel it. As I allowed myself to feel, I began to see that it was ok to feel jealous, call it out and to feel the reason behind what was causing the jealousy. There is so much we can learn about ourselves when we choose to take responsibility and be honest when emotions such as jealousy arises within our body.

830. Thank you Leigh, I know I have had a big streak of jealousy running my life, stemming from the past choices I have made. It’s exposing to feel how engrained it has been, wanting what another has had, and it was often an illusion anyway. Nowadays, I can catch it earlier and feel deeper into where it has originated from. I can see it as a lesson to learn how to return to love and appreciate myself being able to catch it rather than get entrenched in it.

831. Leigh i loved reading your blog as it helped me reflect and appreciate that the one thing we have is our ability to choose the quality of the way we live and therefore all other choices that result after. That when we see someone and feel envy or jealousy that its critical that we stop and consider for ourselves what choices have we made or not made. I feel a great opportunity for society to change jealousy into inspiration to see that others have made loving choices and we have the opportunity to do the same.

832. I celebrate along side you Leigh, for bringing our awareness to the poisonous energy that jealousy is and developing this to the point of bringing more understanding (to ourselves and others) and a loving way to our lives is powerfully profound. Thank you for writing Leigh, about a topic that so many of us live with a very real connection to and yet may not be aware of OR have the grace and willingness to address it as you have so beautifully inspired us with.

833. Such a simple saying – to just accept love in my life. Yet it has earth shattering consequences to the life already lived, which is such an inditement of what we accept / play out as normal. To then be constantly looking over our shoulder at how others are doing and wishing we had this or that… no wonder its like swimming with 2 lead weights attached to our feet!

834. Jealousy is such an insidious thing to feel and it is rare that we allow the truth of it the light of day. To have worked on it in the way you have Leigh is super inspirational. “When I made this choice I immediately felt that what needed addressing more than anything else was how I held myself, how I thought about myself and how I treated myself.” A beautiful example here of how to deal with jealousy – to start to nurture and make those self loving choices that really mean we can live a daily appreciation of ourselves. With this in place there is no need to look outward in a lack at what another has/is, as there is a feeling of fullness and completion within oneself.

835. “No longer do I berate myself when I feel it, but instead surrender to the love that I have within and understand it. These moments are now stepping stones, taking me to an ever-deepening love and understanding of myself and others.” Beautifully expressed Leigh. When I feel jealousy creeping in I am now appreciating what I see and feel in the other person. It really makes a difference.

836. Leigh you are amazing and where you are now with what you have worked on and healed is very inspiring! Jealousy has been a big part of my life as well, both from me and towards me but gee have I seen it more for what it is and how it comes back to the choices I have made and the choices another has made. There is a lady that every time she sees me she says she is either jealous or envious of my choices… in the past I would have shied away or put myself down to make her feel better but now I just appreciate that the choices I’ve made has brought this up for her and she is now making different choices because of it.

837. When we do not have love for ourselves, it is an open door for the green-eyed monster to come a calling and set up house within us.

838. The clarity of with which you express that accepting love into your life, “is a very personal choice that I am discovering doesn’t have anything to do with another, but is ever-present in how I personally care for myself” inspires me to take greater responsibility for myself and that when I feel jealousy to acknowledge the reflection it gives me to look deeper as to where I am not taking responsibility and thereby feeling jealous.

839. Thank you Leigh, jealousy, comparison and envy are pure relationship killers, a poison we willfully produce because as you say, we see others making loving supportive choices that we know we can make for our selves but choose not to. It takes a great amount of honesty to own and admit our jealousy, mainly because we can feel just how poisonous it is and the most common reaction we have is to beat ourselves up about it, to grab the jar of anti-love potion and lay it on thick. However the resolution is always there, to start making loving choices for ourselves, empower us to explore and manifest our own potential, to restore Love as the core principle in our lives once more and from there let everything unfold by the quality of our choices. It can and often does require some effort, to turn around the momentum of un-loving choices, but it is possible as you have shown us Leigh, to make that effort and the changes that is brings are miraculous.

840. It is great to delve into this subject and face this beast for what it actually is and admit that most of us have been there or still go there at times or still an awful lot. I used to get very envious of good musicians until it was pointed out that I had not made the same choices in choosing to put in the same time and effort into practising. When looked at in this way it takes the sting out of jealousy’s tail.

841. Looking at jealousy in this way makes a crucial difference. Feeling envious is a trap that has no end. You can be envious of A and turn and find another reason and so on. Life offers each of us plenty situations where we could go envious. Yet, once you understand that jealousy is an opportunity to reflect on the choices that you are/are not making and that this is all that is at stake, you get your life back. It is up to you in the same way that their choices are to them.

842. A beautiful blog Leigh, jealousy is a subject so much needed to be talked about. We all know it, either we are subjects of jealousy or we are jealous about someone ourselves, both are very harming and should not be part of our lives.

843. Leigh I absolutely adore and am inspired by your transparency and openness. Your willingness to expose the evil force that jealousy is, is a quality that is to be admired through which you clearly present a path to great healing, as when this energy is left unaddressed affects us all in a harmful way. As it is only when we are truly honest with ourselves that we can move from a place of dis-empowerment to one that is of empowerment through embracing the love each of us equally are ourselves. I have learnt and continue to learn that when this energy comes in it is an opportunity for me to look at how I can deepen my connection to love through what it is that I am not claiming from myself. For if we give ourselves over to comparison we instantly dismiss all that we already are and can choose to live.

844. When I consider what jealousy is, the other things that come to me are comparison and individuality, a desire to be more/better than. And here you present how the simplicity of living the truth of what we are in our relationship with ourselves, and others is the key to counter this energy. I really love how settled you feel in sharing this all with the world. It just takes me back to the One unified truth of us all, and I am reminded that it is indeed a simple choice for us to live that, or not. Thank you, Leigh.

845. Seeing life as a series of moments that are stepping stones to ever-deepening love and understanding of yourself and others is a truly beautiful outlook to move through life with. There is absolutely no need to have regrets or give yourself a hard time for choices you haven’t made until this point when you move forward with this as your foundation of each step.

846. Thank You Leigh for sharing this blog, it exposes jealousy, revealing how insidious it is. I only recently fully understood how jealousy works, how I project this onto others and how others project it onto me. What I have learnt is not to take jealousy personally because once I take it personally I have absorbed the poisonous energy it emanates and I then can go into judgement and harmful thoughts resulting in contraction in my body and even leading to hurting others without even realizing, in my case energetically and not physically. Once I understood how jealousy plays out I am able to be more aware of it and more able to choose to appreciate others instead of being jealous. The key for me is to deepen my awareness, this supports me to make more loving choices. Choosing to be love, to be open and appreciate myself and others simply eliminates any self-bashing, jealousy or harmful thoughts and behaviours. Jealousy I can feel is pretty much everywhere in our lives, to heal this is to first understand how it works, to be open and transparent about it when we can feel it, in order to expose it without shame or justification but to simply clear it so we are not perpetuating this vicious cycle. From understanding jealousy I can now expose it without guilt or shame but simply nominating jealousy for what it is with absolutely clarity and understanding, this disintegrates its power and hold on me and therefore for humanity.

     1. I love how you have shared this Chan and how you have not judged yourself. Most of us have been jealous, a lot, even if we are not aware of it. It doesn’t make us a horrible person, its just something we need to work on. It is great to be able to feel it, discern it and understand it. The more I do and the more aware I become, the more I don’t react when I feel it around me and the less jealous I am towards others.

847. Jealousy… wow, what a force it can have behind it. Learning to deflect that force is, I feel, a significant part of mastering life here on planet Earth. At least we can know, as Natalie Benhayon has presented, if we are the subject of jealousy we are on the right track in terms of our own development. We are making, or have clearly made, choices that others can then choose to either be inspired by, or jealous of.

848. ‘One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life. This is a very personal choice that I am discovering doesn’t have anything to do with another, but is ever-present in how I personally care for myself.’ Leigh an excellent insight is offered here: we can’t force another to be the ‘loving’ person we want them to be, but we can live love for ourselves and it is this that will let all else to be and flow.

849. Thanks and deep gratitude to Serge Benhayon indeed for living the truth of The Ageless Wisdom and bringing it into our day and age.

850. One of the biggest revelations for me has been to not be jealous or critical as we never know where a person is in their evolution and just to appreciate the reflection and consider why it’s come up for me to look at, as life is just a big loving lesson really.

851. Feeling jealous of another is a tension in my body, it doesn’t feel good and recognising it is there is a great step towards lessening its effect. By the same token, understanding when jealousy comes from another is also a great thing to do, as the more we understand why people say or act as they do, the less in reaction we are to that occurring. It is that constant willingness to read life that I know is really supportive, yet sometimes get caught not doing and feeling the full effects of a situation because of this.

852. Jealousy is something that I have had to and actively continue to work on. For a very long time I denied the jealousy that I was feeling towards others until I realised that my jealousy stemmed from not making choices that another has made. Now when I feel jealous, I take a deeper look at my relationship with myself and am I making the most supportive choices for me. The more I self-care and self-nurture, I feel the loveliness of me and jealousy does not arise. When I am a little out of sorts, there is an opening for jealousy to sneak in.

     1. Hey Donna, interesting point you make about denial and jealousy. They’re good buddies those two and I feel like so often they go hand in hand. But if we are to free ourselves from that pattern we must consider doing what you say and take a deeper look at the relationship with ourselves.

853. Love the exposure you bring to this very insidious way of being in the world. Jealousy is something that is often felt and seen but avoided – no-one wants to own up to it or bring it out in the open… until Serge Benhayon exposed it for what it truly is: we see choices others have made that we know we havent made.

854. Leigh what i felt strongly in this was when you said about feeling jealousy coming from others towards you, and the space you saw them in their toil over choices, allowed you to be understanding of them in ‘their choice’ because you’d been understanding of yourself in the same regard. When we feel it in ourselves we lose the judgment or bashing of it in us and in others too, to seal entry when this debilitating energy comes knocking its force.

855. Beautifully expressed Leigh… and very inspiring to read how a simple choice can change our lives in so many magical ways.

856. I will never give up holding myself as a woman, even in the most difficult situations or when I least feel like giving myself any attention, I would pick myself up, look myself in the eye, feel the love that I am—and then everything is history. Every woman who commits to loving herself is loving up the whole world, thank you Leigh.

857. Once again a great Blog Leigh! Why would we wish to be comparing ourselves with another, when all this does is creates more separation and misery in this world. Through Serge Benhayons teaching of The
     Way of The Livingness we find that other way of being, and recognise we are all equal brothers even in our individuality of expression.

858. Jealousy only takes us away from accessing the wonders of inspiration around us constantly and it can only take hold on us if we allow it. One thing to note is that when we come from an understanding of how jealousy can play with us, it is easier to see the grander picture and the simplicity of our connection to our bodies. The true markers of love resides within.

859. The opportunity to live the love that we are is an amazing gift and I marvel at this with deep appreciation everyday. Each and every event that I find wondrous is something that I can also choose for myself to embody. If this is chosen to better myself or to compete with another, there is no expansion. The difference is doing the same thing but with a completely different energy, one which is emotional and the other which is love.

860. You’ve hit the nail on the head with this one Leigh Strack. A topic we often dance around and deny what is really going on for us all. Jealousy is so much more harmful then we choose to recognise. I have noticed that I have felt it often from others and would ignore or have down played my jealously noting that underneath that is the reality that I am choosing not to live the quality of life that others have said yes too. Thanks to the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine I have come to fully understand that jealousy is the ‘rage’ we feel in ourselves when we know we can choose exactly what we are jealous of. A waste of time when you think about it!

861. Leigh, I love how you simply lay out what is really going on with jealousy and how we have a choice to see what is going on with us and to understand that we are where we are due to our choices and so we can change it. And your declaration to only accept love in your life is very inspiring, and how you allowed that to practically weave out into all strands of your life is just amazing.

862. A great blog raising the topic on jealousy Leigh. Apersonal study on jealousy leaves one, as you share, with the “…knowing in our bodies of the harm that jealousy brings”. Once the self harm and internal disturbance of jealousy is felt and recognised, it enables the choice to chose self love a more clear and obvious choice to take.

863. Jealousy is an insidious disease, and whilst there are seeming ‘medications’ and solutions, none offer healing, like what you have described Leigh.

864. ‘I have begun to explore what choices I have felt for myself that I had not fully claimed and integrated into my life, and then began to do so.’ This is gold Leigh. Very rarely do we pinpoint the underlying cause of jealousy in life, let alone, make changes in our lives to clear it completely.

865. Leigh, the love you hold yourself in is felt in your words. You talk about a topic that is rarely discussed and do it with so much love and grace. The moment we compare we are being shown that we are in an energy that is not true. From then on we are fed the thoughts and the energy to not only bring ourselves down but to also bring others down. We all know how deeply harming this energy can be but if we make the choice to hold ourselves lovingly moment to moment, this energy cannot enter.

866. Living and deeply accepting ourselves and where we are at leaves no room to foster jealousy for our soil is rich with Love, fulfilment and appreciation of ourselves and therefore of others.

867. This is amazing to read and feel. From the toxicity of jealousy to choosing ‘…to accept only love in my life.’ I’ve chosen to know amazing women who live the love they have for themselves and humanity in their everyday lives. As a result I get to feel what is possible in what they reflect to me and the world and I am left with a choice – to be inspired by their choice to live the love that they/ we all are or fall into comparison and jealousy and not take responsibility for choosing energy that is not love and feels yuck. I can’t pretend I do not have the capacity for not accepting only love in my life, I do and fully embracing this is a wonderful step in self-responsibility.

868. Jealousy can only be present when I do not truly honour my own presence and equality with all others.

869. “One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life.” – and a life changing choice it is.

870. Leigh, this is an exquisite understanding of the force of jealousy, a force that is sent to attack us by way of influencing us to ‘turn down our light’. In-truth, no one can make us do this but we make the choice based on the pain that we feel when this force is used against us. If we are the one expressing jealousy, then we are the one that gets hurt the most for allowing this force to express through us. Jealousy is simply the raging self-fury we feel when comparing ourselves to another who has made choices that are more loving and more true, and as such this force we allow in and then express out, will return back to us to annihilate us also. Understanding that jealousy is only given power if we do not see it is the vital first step in arresting this utterly destructive and devastating force so that true love can be lived in its place. Thank you Leigh for your humbleness, humility and honesty in addressing this ‘elephant in the room’.

871. Jealousy, something we all have experienced, and felt. What an amazing choice, to choose to observe when it happens and wonder why “Over the past couple of years I have been observing any moment that I felt jealous and have then considered why it is that I was jealous of that person in that moment.” Over the last few years I have become more observant of why to happens, there is so much to learn when it arises.

872. it would be so awesome If we read what was behind every action and thing spoken to us, we can get bogged down by the expressions of jealousy and begin to react to life as it is happening – I am reminded here of the power of remaining detached and simply observing, which is so supportive for all around.

873. Jealousy seems to me to have a relationship with envy as resentment does with bitterness. That is, it seems to be the more immediate flaring up of a reaction which has a fury to it, which can only be sustained by turning into envy as a more entrenched, ingrained emotion. If this is true, envy can filter into ones life and become a more deeply held and ingrained point of view, such as always thinking the grass is greener on the other side of the fence and how this can taint our relationship with a whole lot of people at once, for no other reason than choosing to not deal with one’s own jealous streaks initially.

874. It really is quite normal to feel that in life. I have done it, people have done it to me, no one can really judge and it seems to be a constant work in progress as it can hide in unknown pockets. But we do have to take personal responsibility for the choices we make and have made and where they have placed us in our life now. To blame another for the choices we have made is illogical, it is an opportunity to grow and deepen our relationship looking inward rather than outside.

875. Jealousy of course is a reaction that stems from the rage one feels ultimately at oneself for not having made the choices that another has made, and yet knowing that one could have done so if one had chosen differently.

876. This provides a very clear understanding of what jealousy is – a comparison of the choices that we are making with the choices of another. When I base my choices on love and appreciate all the loving choices I have made and see others choices as a reflection and inspiration, I never feel jealousy. I only feel jealousy when I don’t appreciate the choices I have made or when there is comparison.

877. Wow Leigh I am so jealous of this great blog you have written . . . only kidding . . . or am I. Will have to feel into that! You really have covered it all. . . very inspiring.

878. Dear Leigh, what a honest and clear piece of writing. Jealousy is something we all know but we don’t really take the time to explore what it actually is and how it plays out in our world (apart from the more headline grabbing kind of jealousy). But also through the presentations of Serge Benhayon I have become to understand how jealousy plays out on a daily level in all of our lives and is much more present in ourselves than we think. Your blog is a great example of how it can play out and how we can choose differently to make it less in our lives. And I love how you write about grace, my body melts when I think about grace. It allows us so much understanding and space to see things as they are.

879. This is a topic that is very mis-understood Leigh, you have brought a great deal more understanding to what jealousy really is, and why we feel it. Learning to work with your own provides the foundation for dealing with it from others I find, and I love what you’ve shared in relation to your own journey with this. It’s far more common and insidious than most realise, and affects us all significantly.

880. Hello Leigh and this is jealousy summed up perfectly, “what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself.” You can see from this quote jealousy has little truly to do with others and is a very personal thing. We often have all manner of thoughts with jealousy but very few bring the above responsibility to you like this. If you want to see where jealousy comes from have an ongoing look at how you are and you will see jealousy. Constantly look at others and you will remain blind and as they say ‘history will be repeated’.

881. Thank you Leigh for sharing with such graciousness what can be tricky to be truthful about. Jealousy can present in different ways, but the moment I feel any sense of separation from another there is a very good chance I’m comparing or feeling less. What you bring as presented by Serge Benhayon, is the loveliness of what truly matters – in the way we hold ourselves being all the love that we are. From this understanding there is nothing to feel jealous about because we are everything already. Living the truth of this is unfolding for me moment by moment and I’m truly appreciative for all the presentations that support me in this awareness, that it is all a choice of how deeply we lovingly connect with ourselves first and open up our loving connection with everyone equally.

882. It is awesome that you share this Leigh, it is a choice to be jealous or not, and to deal with all the feelings that arise. Jealousy is a marker, showing us that we can take another step, we don’t need to go into feeling jealous of another. Making the choice of love is bringing it all.

883. Beautiful Leigh.. it shows that love is simple and that love is not affection or an expression towards someone or a thing.. it is a livingness from the heart in our everyday activity. This was taught by Pythagoras and now again by Serge Benhayon. A true choice to change life.

     1. Without Love Danna, one thinks things are different and getting better, but the truth is nothing in how we live or feel as a person changes, it just chooses different things that energetically are the same. Using the mind like this I found was so destructive. My body wasted and I had this constant anxiety and need to be better, get better. Then when I choose love, the warmth that fills me from within, the anxiety has greatly lessened and I feel a confidence, trust and steadiness that I never thought would be how I now live.

884. I had never realised how jealous I was until Serge Benhayon presented on the subject and since then I have became very aware of how jealous I can be in different situations but like you have said, it all comes down to the choices I have made and sometimes I react (jealousy) toward the choices another has made. Now that I have more understanding about this behaviour, each time I feel that I am jealous or am comparing to a friend or stranger, I tell myself that it is a great opportunity to be inspired by another, to know that if they can do it, so can I and to change the jealousy into motivation or an inspiration to make that choice for myself.

885. Thank you Leigh. It seems to be a simple choice – we can either go into jealousy over the loving choices that another is prepared to make for themselves or we can choose to be inspired and do the same for ourselves.

886. Your words are like wind under my wings, very uplifting and inspiring and I’m sure it is very inspiring for others as well. You expose jealousy for it is and what it takes to not be held by it but recognize the choices that need to be made and put into action.

887. To realise that jealousy all comes back to oneself, to one’s own choices, is big and a huge stepping stone for possible change. I like how you simply and systematically addressed the jealousy moments in your life and explored what it was you were jealous of and how that led you to actually make different choices. It is when we allow ourselves to see more that we automatically get a greater understanding about what is at play and cannot fool ourselves so easily anymore.

888. When we understand that jealousy is just a reflection of how we are not honouring our own knowing, then it is possible to no longer be consumed by it but rather view it as an inspiration to change and evolve. We may then be able to shift our jealous attitudes into awe of how another does what ever we are not doing and learn.

889. Being jealous us just another excuse for not getting on with your life. If you are looking at other peoples lives you do not have to look at your own.

     If you can look at someone else’s life objectively than maybe you can get a learning from it because everything happens for a reason. So when jealousy or comparison comes up, step back and go deeper.What is the message here?

     Thank you Simple-Living Global and Universal Medicine for supporting me to understand that everything that happens to me is an opportunity to evolve.

     1. Yes Ken I agree, that choosing to indulge in jealousy is an excuse to not get on with our own lives. It is a choice; we can either react and go into the drama or we can be inspired to make loving choices for ourselves that will support us equally so.

890. I great blog, one that gives everyone an opportunity to stop and reflect where jealousy has come in our own lives, either jealousy from others to us or us being jealousy of others. For me this is very much a work in progress. Thanks to Serge Benhayon’s presentations I am so much more aware when jealousy has come towards me or if I have gone into jealousy through a reaction.

891. “how I held myself, how I thought about myself and how I treated myself.” Yes, Leigh I feel these are crucial considerations to allow for change within our lives.

892. Leigh, I also have had and still have many issues of comparison and jealousy in my living and find that feeling the love inside me and then connecting to another is a very powerful way of dealing with this very destructive and insidious emotion. I have never really thought of myself as a jealous person and on the surface many would not see me that way but I know it is there in my body at times and surfaces when I am feeling less about myself.

     1. Dear Anne,
        It is a testament to the love we are that we can feel jealousy when it is there. For without the underpinning love we, as humans would never know, or feel how truly harmful jealousy is.

893. It is a huge topic one that often is presented as a monster, so no wonder everyone pretends they don’t have it! Rather what you present here is to look at and bring understanding to the why you are going into the outside and comparing. With that deepening your connection then it is a gift in a way to show you where you still hold something that is not true and can be cleared.

894. How profound the changes are for you Leigh with listening and living from these simple words of wisdom offered by a very wise man who walks and lives his talk 24/7 – Philosopher and presenter Serge Benhayon’.
     “to live the love that I am”.

895. A brilliant blog Leigh on a much ignored subject. The greatest wounding of Jealousy is not the unpleasant envy it produces but the fact that we cut off from feeling that it is there. We naturally dislike to lust after another, so we have developed amazing skills at blocking it out. But what else gets removed along with these unwanted feelings too? Perhaps we can see how our innate sensitivity and feelings in life are overruled and never make it through? Perhaps this explains why we can be surprised at just what amazing knowing we actually have inside? How powerful then, to notice whenever Jealousy shows its head as you have done Leigh and start to look and understand it, without censoring or cutting it out.

     1. Dear Joseph,
        What I find amazing is that I could always feel jealously, as it was a sure fire way to dislike myself, and to live constantly with the feeling of not being a loving person. What I never felt was my love, until I choose to become a student of Universal Medicine, and Serge Benhayon reminded me that it was there within me, but that I had to choose it.
        How insidious is jealously when looked at in this way, it harms self and others, then the aftermath keeps us reduced and less and wrong, ensuring jealously will be choosen again. That is until our love is choosen, then we begin to feel the presciousness we are, and begin to live ever more from it.

896. Leigh – thank you for this frank, honest and inspiring account of your understanding and experience of envy, jealousy and comparison. It is lovely to read how you are using these as stepping stones to return deeper to the truth of all that you are.
     “These moments are now stepping stones, taking me to an ever-deepening love and understanding of myself and others”.

897. A truly inspiring blog Leigh and I love the honesty and how you have taken yourself by the hand. Like you wrote; ‘When I made this choice I immediately felt that what needed addressing more than anything else was how I held myself, how I thought about myself and how I treated myself.’ The relationship with ourselves is the foundation in life and how we are with others, as you so beautifully have pointed out.

898. I love the thought Leigh, of God loving nudging you to take the next loving step…. like a caring parent who loves their child unconditionally, allowing them to stumble and fall, but is there is pick them up to start all over. Acknowledging and nutting out negative emotions such as jealousy and envy is the first step in coming back to love and acceptance of ourselves. Thank you for your inspiring words.

899. Love this Leigh. What a great turn around to now see jealousy is a marker of when someone else is making choices we would actually like to make for ourselves but don’t commit to. I am learning this too and actually it is really fun. To know that when I see someone doing very well, as in making loving choices for themselves and claiming themselves, I now slowly am starting to see this as an opportunity to do this for myself too. So it is not the ugly jealousy anymore but an opening for more amazing qualities and love in myself.

900. I am strongly impressed Leigh how openly you express about ‘your’ jealousy and how you choose to get rid of it. The way of taking responsibility, you have chosen to follow is exemplary and so inspiring! To recognize & accept where we are right now is in fact the first step to bring a change, if that is what is needed. And to go deeper here and renounce everything what is leading us to an emotion what has no other purpose than separating us, is the next. And so you go your way. Step by step. And with every step the connection to all is felt more deeply so and separation becomes a thing of the past.

901. A very clear, simple, practical and beneficial example of how simple self-love (and hence love with all) can be the real secret to breaking down our emotional reactions and behaviours. To many self-love seems all to power-less but I would say not based on yours, my own and that of many many others.

902. Today I had a chat with someone about my relationship with living the love that I am and realised that comparison has been chosen, and equally so now from reading this blog I can see that jealousy that comes in hand in hand in the form of judgemental thoughts and acting less than I feel to be in the world. It really shuts down and caps our potential to be the love that we are in the world. I can write all of this but I question to myself, what is my relationship with letting go of living by what I see in others lives and live by how the love within feels to live?

     1. A great question Leigh Matson, in my experience it is life changing, it is also very personal. There is absolutely no room for comparison, for how I am, what I choose from my love, is not the same as what another chooses, yet each of what our love guides us to live is needed in our world. The profession we choose, where we live, our integrity in our life, all qualities that each of us individually hold, yet collectively live from our love. In this we are all the same.

903. Thank you Leigh, for your honest account and the way you discuss jealousy here, which really deepens the understanding of what it is and how important it is for us to have a clear look at it to gain a deeper insight into its insidious ways and how we can free ourselves from it.

904. “One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life. This is a very personal choice that I am discovering doesn’t have anything to do with another, but is ever-present in how I personally care for myself.” So important what you have written here accepting that it has very little to do with another and up to us to develop that relationship with ourselves.

905. Love the honesty in the exploration Leigh. Jealousy can be such a subtle yet powerful force to contend with and is well worth the time to feel when and where it comes from

906. Thank you Leigh, the jelousy topic is a discussion we can all benefit from having – I agree this is a sneaky energy that can appear in different disguises, subtle or not so subtle. It is something most of us have lived with all our lives (a norm) and yet it is not something we commonly talk about, and my experience is that most people see it as something to be ashamed of, which then suppresses it deeper into our body, rather than being willing to look at it with honesty and open to heal the root cause of it.

     1. Dear Eva,
        In my opinion, one of the biggest reasons there is so much shame around jealously is because we know innately that it is not the way to be in our world. We also have grown up in a world where many religions berate jealously, so then we see it as wrong, and if we do it, ourselves as bad. But in this berating there is no understanding, no discussion, no healing, no reminding us of the truth of our essence, where there is not an ounce of jealously, no guidance on how to connect with this part of ourselves, which if choosen, jealously gets truly healed and released from our bodies. A moment to ponder on just where our world stands, and the true guiding light that Serge Benhayon is.

907. ‘I am not yet fully clear of feeling jealous of another and this is something that I am acutely aware of. No longer do I berate myself when I feel it, but instead surrender to the love that I have within and understand it. These moments are now stepping stones, taking me to an ever-deepening love and understanding of myself and others.’ Gosh, this is such a loving way to be with yourself.

908. Reading your article Leigh I realised how the true antidote as it were to jealousy is to surrender. To surrender to what we feel, to surrender to the discomfort that is caused when we have the reflection of another who has made that loving choice before us. In that surrender we let ourselves be inspired, and jealousy doesn’t have an opening to enter.

909. Its true what you’re saying to move away from jealously and into bringing all of you. I love the process of turning my so called weaknesses into a movement of strength. It’s not so much trying to make all my weaknesses a strength because it is not possible to endure continuous hard work complicating what is naturally there. It is simply knowing the root of what takes you out and staying ever-so-present to finely know what it is to stay focused with.

910. It is indeed a great blessing to have the understanding of the energy of Jealousy (thanks to Serge Benhayon and the Ageless Wisdom) for this allows us to take responsibility and not dismiss this as simply ‘envy’ or ‘jealousy’ or ‘this or that’ – in examining ourselves closely and our reactions to life is the potential for great learning and growth.

     1. I love this Deborah ‘in examining ourselves closely and our reactions to life is the potential for great learning and growth.’ gold and true.

     2. By seeing and understanding the energy behind it all really allows another to be without it being made into something personal or reactionary. An how awesome is the shift when it is addressed in the way.

        1. Absolutely freeing for all.

911. What a super gorgeous blog Leigh. There wouldn’t be one single human being that hasn’t been jealous of another or on the receiving end of jealousy – both equally as harmful to both parties. I love the simplicity that you’ve brought to this, by exploring and feeling that it comes back to ourselves, and the responsibility we all have to live the love that we naturally are.

912. Yes let’s celebrate the lives we live and take equal inspiration of others in full realisation that their way of living is but a choice away.

913. The depth of honesty and truth in your words is so refreshing. This blog offers every reader an opportunity to stop and consider the effect of jelousy worldwide

914. ‘ I love myself deeply and this grows every single day, at an amazing pace as I see everything in my life as God gently nudging me to take the next loving step’ – Leigh these words were so beautiful to read and something to be celebrated – you are exquisite and you are so easy to love.

915. “slowly but steadfastly I am adjusting the way I live my life”, Leigh this really highlights for me the importance of both consistency and ones own rhythm, that they are key to bringing that steady sustainable change.

916. Leigh – reading this makes me aware of the extent that we allow jealousy into our lives. Even thinking ‘I wish I was like that or had that’ is jealous and envious of another’s situation. And it can creep into our thoughts very subtly. But what I love about your sharing is how you address this now – not going into it, but observing and surrendering more into the love you have built up for yourself, this is beautiful and a great way to not react.

917. Honesty and Truth are so freeing Leigh and I applaud you for the way in which you have shared your experience here. I can so relate to it and love how you have brought it back to how you ‘hold yourself’ and your commitment to allowing nothing less than love as your foundation. Absolutely gorgeous!

     1. I love this too of how she holds herself. This is pure responsibility – not blaming or relying on another but adoring her ability of her own quality.

918. I feel inspired and joyful when I see others doing well and am not jealous, but I do experience jealousy directed at me. I never used to realise that the energetic and personal attacks I received were due to jealousy, but at times thought it was because something was wrong with me. Since hearing the presentations of Serge Benhayon and learning and experiencing what jealousy truly is I have been greatly liberated. It has transformed my life and allowed me to claim myself. Now I usually understand what is going on when people express jealousy (which is a harmful force) towards me, and through the understanding and observation I am not affected. It is still not a pretty sight, but it does not get in like it used to and in fact I take it as confirmation of my awesomeness 😉

919. love this Leigh, You have brought something so important to the fore, for jealousy and comparison to exist we have to give them power.

920. This is beautiful Leigh and the honesty and love you come form in describing jealously makes it so real so understandable and brings a simplicity to something that seemed so un-understandable and confusing. The beauty grace and freedom you describe is so welcoming and absolutely who we are and it’s simply our choice to honour this and the inspiration from others is amazing when we see what it really is reflecting to us.

921. It is so much more healthy to feel joyfull when others are excelling in their life, it gives us also the opportunity to see that anything is possible.

     1. Love this Alexander. Feeling joyful at the claimed lives of others lays the foundation of re-claiming our own lives.

     2. Agree Alexandre. Sometimes though before we know it jealousy can rear it’s head and in that moment as Leigh has beautifully shared her way of working through this – it’s about is being honest, not self bashing and learning to appreciate the others reflection.

922. Deeply honest and very inspiring blog Leigh and I can relate to a great deal of what you have shared. I know this is absolutely true, however, it is something I am still working on “One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life. This is a very personal choice that I am discovering doesn’t have anything to do with another, but is ever-present in how I personally care for myself.”

923. ‘To accept only love’, this would look very different to the way I am living today and allowing my thoughts to slip into self bashing with a rather too regular occurrence. Thank you Leigh, you have created a beautiful stop moment for me with this timely blog.

     1. Yes Fiona it is such a great way to look at it and move forward. To say I am going to accept only love rather than I won’t do this or won’t do that makes it a positive and very loving way to approach it. The approach in itself is loving from the start.

924. What a beautiful and deeply understanding account of what jealousy is, how it plays out and how it is never in truth, personal. We have made unloving choices, the vast majority of us for eons and eons. And in that reflection of love before us, that awareness can blind us, enrage us because of the pain. Jealousy is an evil force and it stings to feel it, to bring it and receive it, but it is what it is, necessary for where we are a human race and for our evolution back home.

     1. Well said Katerina,
        It truly is painful to feel the difference between the love that is there in the world, and within our bodies, and the choices we have made that has kept our love hidden. What a seemingly great remedy is jealously for when it is felt, for a moment the pain disappears, only to intensify next time though, because the jealously is yet another choice that keeps us from our love. A great understanding that suggests we stop and feel the pain of not living the love that we are, and a moment to surrender and let our love guide us forward.

925. I was just thinking about this topic this morning and feeling how I had investments that I noticed another was free of. I wondered what it would be like to live like that and could feel a jealousy there towards others who have that freedom. It is great to read this blog and how you moved through that.

926. Love it Leigh Strack that you can talk about this word JEALOUSY and stick your name on it. How many of us have had what you are describing and pretended its not really going on.
     I have been at both ends and glad to report I am at the point in my life where I am not remotely interested in who is doing better than me or not. What I do know is my choices have got me exactly where I am right now and making more choices that support me to evolve and not stay stuck needs to be at the top of my agenda.
     I find this jealousy stuff a real poison and so unnecessary. It really is a killer and so harmfull.
     With my understanding hat on I know that it is a force coming through another and to not judge and react is work in progress for me. I have not yet nailed it but I do get it and I can feel it now when it comes at me.
     THANK GOD for Serge Benhayon who has brought so much clarity and understanding about what jealousy is and how harmful it really is.

     1. Thank you Bina Pattel,
        You have highlighted exactly why jealously is so rife in society. The fact that many “pretend it is not going on” is the killer, talking about it lets it be seen and the seemingly power it holds is no longer as gripping. Yes thank God for Serge Benhayon, as it is Serge who has begun the true conversation around jealously.

     2. Yes Bina it was a real surprise to see that this was named and not an anonymous blog. Pretty awesome Leigh to be so honest about something so publicly which many of us usually keep very private because if we were all really honest, many of us are doing what you write of. Jealousy is pretty entwined in much of our world but your blog highlights another way through the choices and the presentations of Serge Benhayon.

     3. I agree, Bina – the not judging and not reacting I’ve certainly not nailed. But I try to remember that it wasn’t that long ago that I wasn’t making loving choices for myself. Simply put, it’s just where they’re at in their lives. Remembering that helps me to understand – and therefore judge/react less.

     4. True Bina – how many of us feel envious of what another has chosen and claimed as their way of living but aren’t truly honest about it to ourselves? It’s only when we get honest about what we’re actually feeling then we can start to make changes to our own lives. It’s then we realise it is never about the other person, only what they are reflecting back to us that we haven’t chosen for ourselves.

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