709 thoughts on “Are We Taking Responsibility For Our Own Lives?”

1. I can recall the days where I would go on daily runs, and yet undone it by the weekend with eating, drinking, smoking and late nights. Thinking I was a healthy person and it turned out to be the opposite.

   The abuse is everywhere and around us, there is no escaping and if anything, it is seen as being the norm.

   It is only when we start being responsible for our selves, that we realise many things. This then becomes a reflection to others to either accept or reject it. And at the end of the day it is their responsibility too.

   Over the years I’ve learnt more and more about responsibility and it is far from perfect, but I know I live my life more differently to how I used to live. And I know that I would never go back to how I used to live. I feel I have a responsibility to others, whether they accept it or not, is their choice too. In the meantime I continue learning more and more about myself and how the whole of life works.

2. This is a great question for us to ponder on, if we keep our hurts buried, and so active, how can we be responsible and more loving in this world, ‘ how can we change our response if we have spent our lives creating ingrained reactions and behaviours that cover up and hide the undealt with hurts we carry inside, which in turn fester and grow, ultimately causing ill-health, illness and disease, just adding to the gargantuan mess we are in?’

   1. I agree burying things inside, just harbours it and it explodes from time to time. We have a responsibility for one another, so why not you first, and reflect to others, there is another way.

3. Responsibility is not a drudge, it is to be and live all the love and magnificence that we are.

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5. A true king and a true Son of God, lives and breathes responsibility. We were born this way, so why do we resist it so and have such a history of resistance as humanity to the throne we crave to re-cliam?

6. Once we clock a certain level of responsibility, then there is no turning back so to speak – we cannot undo what we know …but we can re-interpret it or deny it or pretend to forget it. Deep down we know that in reality this is futile for at some point we will be faced with it and at some point will be looking at embracing this in our lives. Responsibility is the bridge to God and our own divinity.

7. Thank you Christopher for your sharing – in one part of your blog you talked about how the more responsible you get the more you realise how more responsibility there is to live. And this is often how I have exprienced life in terms of the more I learn the more I realise how much more there is to learn. This openness is what allows us to to explore life more and hence then choose to live it all or as much as we can in increments at least as we build up to the all.

8. Being responsible for our relationships is super important and, at the very least, we should be showing everyone decency and respect.

9. Christopher, your willingness to look more deeply at your attitudes towards women is inspiring and is something that we could all learn from. However much we have truly healed in regard to our relationships with both men and women has to be acknowledged and appreciated, but there are always deeper levels for us to look at and to heal.

10. If we want the world to change we must begin to take responsibility for our own lives, pointing the finger and blaming others doesn’t work and keeps us stuck in the mud, the only true way out of the mess we have created is to begin to live responsibly and to feel how empowering and freeing that choice is.

    1. Absolutely Anna, and when we point out there are three fingers pointing back at us, and those fingers could be saying to us treat everyone with decency and respect as a minimum responsibility.

    2. Living and being how we would like the world to be, so reflecting that livingness for another to see and feel.

11. “what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different” – this is why I have not put a lot of trust in some market research or focus groups because what people say/think they are/want to be like and how they actually live/are can be vastly different. And often people aren’t consciously aware of the difference.

    1. Thinking who we are and what we truly are can certainly be polar opposites so in effect when we do this we are living a lie and often very convincingly so to ourselves and those around us. But to become aware of this means we then have choice to change this and live a truth instead.

12. Its a fact that we like to retreat – we like the time off or the moment to just stop. I’ve noticed how we can even use being busy to not be truly doing what is needed. But the more we have true purpose in our lives, the more i see the bigger picture, the less there is the space to go watch movies or scan through social media. I know the importance of responding to what is needed in each moment.

    1. People like time out, for themselves, but have we ever pondered deeply why we feel we need that, ‘Are not all these pastimes ways of distraction to not feel our predicament and ways of checking out from who we are and what life is truly about?’

13. Everything we have lived we carry in our bodies and it’s only when we truly feel and see how we’ve been and understand it that we can let it go, and by doing so we return to our naturally responsible way.

    1. Love what you have share here Monica – for it is about shedding what we do not need to carry so that we can live who we are. This is the utmost responsibility.

    2. Returning to our magnificence involves us discarding what is not true, what is not love, ‘only by taking responsibility for this and looking at the true cause can I clear this from my body.’

14. We can only change the world in a more loving and responsible place to live on by starting to live this responsibility for our own first. And it will not be perfect, especially not in the beginning, but that is inherent in living in this human body that is not perfect as it has its flaws because we have created on our own and not in co-creation with God.

    1. Living in this world with love, and responsibility, and so reflecting another way to live, ‘Is it possible to employ business leaders based on the responsibility of how they live their lives, how they take care of themselves, their employees and the customers they provide goods and services to?’

15. Taking responsibility for our selves and responding in accordance with our body rather than our mind is a huge step closer to true responsibility especially when we are able to see the bigger picture and how it affects everyone not only ourselves.

    1. Absolutely Sally, look no further than what we bring to every situation as it is our responsibility to deepen where we are at starting with being (at the very least) decent and show respect in every situation.

    2. As opposed to not being responsible, and then having to face the consequences of that further down the line, ‘one where we are not taking complete responsibility for our own lives, and our own health and well-being.’

16. Responsibility for every small move we makes offers an awareness of our responsibility to the all.

17. Responsibility starts with ourselves being honest with our choices. Discovering the layer of lies we have been accepting and living can be a very uncomfortable process, but the utter discomfort of staying in comfort eventually gets exposed.

    1. Responsibility means being truthful in every area of our lives, ‘what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.’

18. Taking responsibility is an inward movement that holds the key to bring life to another level by powering up our movements.

19. I have found this to be true from my own experience
    “…the more I sense a resistance in my body, at the same time knowing that I cannot turn back and return to more irresponsibility as I know that would be so self-destructive as the particles of my body now expect so much more from me, and rightly so.”
    My body is asking me to be more responsible and not be a bystander in life as it is the bystander in life that lets our society slip from the standards that were set. If I take a look around today they have slipped such a long way and I am in part responsible for this as we all are we have contributed to the society and what it is today but don’t like, so we have no one to blame but ourselves.

    1. There is no one to blame, also not ourselves. It is all about returning to a state of being and to a movement that naturally will be responsible in all that we are and express in the world.

20. Once we are ready to take responsibility there is still momentum from our previous time and that can take some time to clear but clear it will if we continue to take responsibility.

21. Feeling how to respond from our body, instead of reacting to our own emotions, could be the way out of our global collective mess.. yes-and as we start responding like this on a personal level, it has a ripple effect into everything that we’re a part of and involved in. Everything matters, everything is of equal importance.

22. No place like starting to take responsibility for how I look after my whole body and how I have often let the being in the body run over the body at its own expense.

23. I have learnt one key fact in the deepening of my relationship with myself – if I react then there is something for me to look at and learn from and that is regardless of how ‘wrong’ they were and how ‘right’ I was…

    1. I love what you share here Lucy, pure gold, ‘if I react then there is something for me to look at and learn from and that is regardless of how ‘wrong’ they were and how ‘right’ I was…’

24. The questions raised here are so pertinent, the big flashing one for me today is how open am I, how willing am I to let people in and let others see me … I’d love to say I am and for ages I had this picture of me, but recently I’ve been seeing this is not true, and that I’m selective in how I am, and it’s taking responsibility to show me this and for me to understand that there is more to understand and live here. Responsibility is pulling me up gently and saying you are not this, and to learn how to live more the truth I am.

25. In being willing to take a more honest look at the way we have been living, it is possible to feel the full impact our irresponsibility has had on our body. In our awareness we are able to embrace self-responsibility the more we change our choices to be far more caring and loving with ourselves, and the body responds to restore itself back to its true harmony and rhythm.

26. Responsibility can seem like such a huge all encompassing and overwhelming word. Yet when we break the word down it starts with ‘Response’ so what are we responding and being obiendent to? Is it love or is it not love? When we make love our basis and so respond from their then we naturally consider all in the equation. So the word no longer seems so daunting rather one we can embrace and live.

27. Sometimes we don’t like to admit just how irresponsible we actually are and more importantly the actual consequences of our irresponsibility.

    1. Very true I have found it is often the consequences of the irresponsibility we do not want to fess and own up to.

28. Christopher, it sure seems like you have laid down a template for the True way forward for humanity, to take full responsibility for all our actions, thoughts, and intentions, and for moving forward with our whole loving being connected with our soul and thus the All, which will guide our every step towards that inevitable harmonious future.

29. ‘The more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.’ With responsibility comes greater truth and love, anything that doesn’t belong then sticks out a mile.

30. When we actually stop and honestly reflect on how we are living our day to day we realise how often we compromise quality in order to stay comfortable.

    1. Yes, we live as if love and truth are useful but only if they don’t interfere with our comfort.

31. “the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.” The deeper we move with the wonder of the Universe and the Divine, the more deeply we are aware that we are part of the wonder of the Universe and the Divine.

32. And each barrier and untruth that is uncovered and exposed for the lie it is, humanity gets more of you, which is a reflection of responsibility that is much needed in our day.

33. As one deepens one’s level of responsibility so one becomes increasingly aware of how much of an illusion one has been living in and how much that illusion is so dull compared to the reality of Truth.

    1. Yes, it is a real embracing of truth isn’t it? We have run away from truth considering it harsh and unfair, but it is the fairest and most loving and respectful way to live.

       1. And simpler.

34. We can do the same checking out more subtly even when we live a busy, productive life, simply by the thoughts that we indulge in while we are in all this activity.

35. The first and foremost responsibility for industry leaders and anyone who has a company or institute is the evolution of their employees and profit can follow, but is not the goal. Of course employees have their own responsibility for their health and well-being.
    Now that would change and revolutionize the world and I vote YES for that.

36. We could so easily not consider many of the areas you have touched on here as our responsibility, surely we cannot effect change on a global scale? Yet our abdication of responsibility in our own lives, in our own families and in our local area means we allow more abuse to go unchecked. The ripple effect means a more centralised society and culture and so conflict begins till it hits an international scale. It really does start with us.

37. Thank you Christopher, taking responsibility for ourselves so we each can return to and live from our essence and soul is the only true way forward out of the mess that is currently life on earth.

38. Responsibility brings truth into movement.

39. Blaming robs us of the opportunity to learn more about ourselves, there is no evolution at all only the gratification of creation at it’s best.

40. And when the reflection of blame comes my way I have a wonderful opportunity to assess the appreciation and love I have towards myself. Do I react or do I observe and truly value all of me and what I bring?

41. How great to have parents that are aware and responsible when they raise their children, ‘Is it possible for parents to take more responsibility first and foremost for themselves by deepening their self-care, then to stop and ponder on how they raise their children’.

42. Yes, responsibility is the way forward, even if I just look at my quality of being, and how my quality is and what it is reflecting, this is huge.

43. “Could it be that responsibility is the way forward?” The more I learn about responsibility – and the more I accept my own responsibility to the whole, the more I realise this is definitely the way forward. If we all took responsibility – for even seemingly trivial things – we could make huge changes in our world.

44. When we react, blame or point the finger it is a surefire sign that sore point has been touched, a point where we have let ourselves go and not acted on what we knew to be true.

45. Absolutely agree, lack of responsibility is huge, ‘one where we are not taking complete responsibility for our own lives, and our own health and well-being.’

46. We generally don’t want to look at responsibility or what we can tend to do is pick and choose where we want to be responsible and where we don’t want to be. But it doesn’t work like this and because ‘Everything is Everything’ as presented by Serge Benhayon and the teachings of Universal Medicine and if there is a pocket of not doing this then that is the highest level we can go to as it was an action we chose to not be responsible and that influences and has a ripple effect everywhere else.

47. This is a great article, asking us to look a little closer into life and what it is all about in such a simple way. Life is not complex but we have made it so and are meanwhile lost in all the chaos and complexity there is.

48. Why are we running marathons? The guy who did it originally had a pretty strong purpose (an invading Persian Army), and I understand that he died once he completed it. So what are we so determinedly running away from?

    1. I like this. It shows how we take things and turn them into something totally different and then champion them or say they are good for us.

49. ‘Has self abuse become normal?’ I would say yes, absolutely it has. I remember at school it was pretty cool to be messy, unkept, and live in total disregard. Looking after yourself and taking care equalled boring and dull. To be edgy and cool meant you had to be a bit reckless and pretend you didn’t care about anything. Now when I look back I see how lost we all were as teenagers, all pretending not to care, desperate to fit in and be accepted by the pack. This world so desperately needs to know that there is another way to live – one where taking care of yourself actually allows you to know and be more of who you truly are, not less.

50. There is indeed an endless list of what humanity does to dim, dull or decimate their connection with life and the universe.

51. ‘The amazing thing is that when we are consciously present and connected to our inner-most essence we are actually harmonious and full of joy, and responsibility is a natural way of living.’ There is no effort with the fact of living responsibly and it is not a burden such as usually this concept is sold. Responsibility is just the joy of bringing our very essence in everything we do, with integrity. Light and simple.

52. It is a strongly held belief that parents should sacrifice themselves for their children, forsaking their own well-being. This really doesn’t make sense, as surely if they take care of themselves, they will be 100% fit and well to carry out the hugely important role of being a parent.

53. This is a process that is never ending and constantly refining. Once you think you have got things moving more is offered to bring a quality that was not lived before and in turn asks more.

54. It can be relatively easy to make those changes that are obvious to us, to live in a more responsible way – i.e. committing more fully to our day to day responsibilities and obligations. But how often do we consider that the way we think and move is also our responsibility? That the quality of our thoughts and movements actually affects others?

55. We don’t always know what lives below the surface because we have become so at ease that the patterns and behaviours just feel normal and safe. It is only when we take a moment to ask ourselves why we do what we do that we can look afresh to see if what we do, is fed by a fear of missing out or perhaps being less, even though what we do is actually not supporting our own bodies. It is only then that we offer ourselves a moment of honesty to decide again. Perhaps it is time to create an environment that lends itself to more honesty and see what comes to our awareness.

56. Irresponsibility is like a stalker and hides in the shadows. Without awareness we fail to see how it influences the way we think, our beliefs and ideals. Convincing ourselves we are responsible is the first trip rope, that prevents us from seeing all the areas where we are not.

57. When I look outside and see how senseless and irresponsible much of life is, I’m reminded to explore within to see how the outer reflects how I am living my life.

58. Why is it that 30% of the world’s population is obese? I think generally we skirt this issue but it is a very real question not only for the 2 billion people who are experiencing this, but also for the systems that are creaking under the weight of it all (apologies for the pun).

    1. Yes Simon, here in the UK, the NHS is buckling under huge pressure to cope with the growing numbers of diseases caused by lifestyle choices.

59. I had always thought i was a ‘good person’ but the more I become aware of myself and the responsibility I have to live lovingly and harmoniously with and in life the more I get to see and feel the consequence of those insidious ‘little’ beliefs and Ideals that are running in the background within me. The realisation of each of these and of how unconscious many are has been shocking to me too Christopher. But the expansion of harmony and joy within myself and my life when each one gets dismantled and let go of is worth more than anything, and once realized can not be undone without great loss to the truth of who we are.

60. This article is so well written and has so much to deeply consider that it is almost mindblowing. This feels like it is actually a good thing, as this may bring me to feeling what is going on rather than filing my head with the usual distractions to not know and pretend I and am everything out there, are OK.

61. Awesome article Christopher! And yes, I agree that self abuse is normal, I’m guilty of that one for sure. A string of thoughts to keep me in self doubt, brought on by something as simple as my food choices is self abuse. Some may find this concept absurd, and I would understand as once upon a time, I would have agreed. But through experimenting with self responsibility and actually placing myself in the world as an equal contributor to the all, I now see clearly just how ignorant we have all become.

62. “The more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.” I always thought I was hugely responsible – and I am in the physical practical world. But as I step more into energetic responsibility I can see there is a whole other level of responsibility that I was not going near.

63. We all know abuse even in the way we move or the thoughts that we allow to enter. We don’t want to see it because we would much rather hold onto our hurts, ideals, beliefs, investments and pictures and not see the truth even when it is called out and exposed. But, if we choose inspiration we can be inspired through reflection to take responsibility and let go of that which is not love to uncover the ‘real’ woman or man that we truly are.

64. It has been a strange journey so far… the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am. Yes, Christopher, the more responsibility we choose, the more we see areas that we are not as responsible. Great to uncover these and feel the truth that responsibility is really choosing deep love.

65. Self abuse is certainly normal – its so weird to say that but it is undeniably true. But natural… absolutely no, and perhaps the greatest challenge of our times is in finding the courage for everyone to look at why?

66. “What we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.” This is a huge realisation, which when honestly addressed brings a whole new relationship with everything in one’s life. The more one lives as one – who we think we are and who we truly are – so life flows more harmoniously and with ease.

67. A great article that poses the big questions. As much as life seems to be complicated, responsibility quickly makes it clear and simple.

    1. So true Leigh, I know I avoided responsibility for many years as it felt all too hard and boring, how wrong I was as learning to be more responsible has been one of the greatest steps I have ever taken and has offered me more awareness and understanding about life.

68. It gave me a smile reading: “the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am” because it reminded me that I always used to say: “the more aware I am the more aware of how unaware I am”. These days I don’t feel that so much but do keep becoming more aware!

69. I know what I do and the energy I do it in, is what I give out. I see this as being a bit like adding ingredients to a big pot of soup, where the ‘soup’ is the energy that’s around us in the world – what everyone has created in their lives so far. I also know that the quality of my choices in each and every moment of the day is what decides whether I’m adding toxic energy, or not, to the mix that everyone lives in and there’s no escaping the level of responsibility this holds for me and for everyone else as well.

70. It’s amazing what you are writing here, the fact that we drink and take drugs to avoid our pain is so obvious, we all know it, it’s everywhere. However, the lack of self-love and real responsibility is not discussed in the world so much, nobody likes to admit the fact that they do things to please and not from their heart, that they lie about how they feel or what they did because they don’t want to get exposed… there is so much underneath the surface that we should be talking about!

71. A powerful and insightful blog to read Christopher. I was particularly struck by the total and amazing inequity of wealth in our modern society; proof surely that our world is in absolute chaos and diabolical trouble.

72. Thank you Christopher for such a deeply honest and powerful blog it is certainly humble to read those statistics that have exposed the true state of humanity and the irresponsibility that has allowed this – so many have accepted this as ‘normal’ but in fact living with true responsibility will begin to shift this mindset and bring the healing that is so needed.

73. A deep and raw honesty in this blog Christopher. How easy it is to judge another, when we don’t want feel the truth about the judgements and lack appreciation we hold about ourselves, which colours our view of everything. Great that you have exposed this’d felt the consequences in your body.
    “Why do I look at women the way I do, why do I objectify, why do I consider them lesser and why do I judge?”

74. Thank you for this beautifully referenced piece Christopher. When I questioned life as a child I remember being told that “everything was fine as long as you weren’t hurting anyone”. I grew up hanging on to this belief and of course I never included myself in the ‘hurting anyone’ equation… and everything was not fine. Now I know that my true potential is a priceless treasure that I spent many years squandering. This hurt not only me but many other people. Responsibility is a truly loving choice that benefits all.

75. When we say ‘Yes’ to evolution we change, our surroundings change, the people in our lives change, everything changes so what we once thought we were becomes irrelevant.

76. A very thoughtful and deeply pondering contribution about responsibility and how it plays out in daily life; it portrays how taking responsibility is the way forward out of the mess we are in, one switched on individual at a time.

77. We know how to live responsibly – with energetic awareness, because everything that we have created is the exact opposite of this divine responsibility. So we must know, to know how to live the opposite way.

78. ‘I thought that taking responsibility would be simple’ You reveal Christopher that there are layers of responsibility and once one is uncovered, another becomes apparent. The doing can be easy, connecting to where we truly are with ourselves honesty, less so. Once we see ourselves more clearly and understand the reason why we think or act in a certain way, we’re well on the way to releasing what is not true.

79. This is a WOW of a blog Christopher! There is so much here for me to ponder and in taking that deeper look within, start to make positive changes in my life.

80. ‘Feeling a true response from our body and our responsibility in any given situation, rather than reacting emotionally, may be the way forward out of the chaotic mess mankind has gotten itself into.’ Reacting emotionally feels horrible to the body and spreads ill feeling everywhere. By being still and connected in our body we are able to feel and stay with a response that precedes emotion and thus avoids the harmful effects emotions do to us. Sustaining this way of being when it seems like others want to engage us in an emotional tussle can be challenging but it is only in staying firm and true to ourselves that we can stay responsible and free.

81. At some stage the human race is going to get to a point of such irresponsibility that the consequences will be too large to ignore any more, for when there is more sick than healthy, when obesity, diabetes and cancers are so rife they are the normal and the poverty this causes as the benefits will run out. Then we will on mass have to wise up and start listening to the few who are already living such a life of true responsibility.

82. “…the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am. The more I change this, the more I sense a resistance in my body, at the same time knowing that I cannot turn back and return to more irresponsibility…” This is deeply honest outlook. I too feel that I want to dig my heels in when it comes to being more responsible and my resistance is strong, but there is only one true option and that is to take greater responsibility in everything that I do.

83. It is only when the distractions go that we are clearer within ourselves to feel what’s really going on. Having a constant stream of numbing ourselves with computer games, TV, food, sport, whatever it is we use to get through life is like a drug that keeps us subdued so that we do not start to ask the all important question – There has to be more to life than this?

84. I know for one I have not taken responsibility for where I am actually at living a lie of thinking I’m in a better place than I actually am. Feeling this has been hard, but I have been far more in my body, real and humbled. I’ve been pretty arrogant thinking I’m somewhere im not – total irresponsibility. But finding this out and feeling this has brought me closer to people. I have become far more real.

85. Taking responsibility is often avoided and mis-interpreted as a burden, but when we consider energetic responsibility this ups the anti and brings responsibility to a whole new level – one many are not prepared to face, let alone go to… and yet it can be profoundly life-changing.

86. Oh yes, the good old pastime, I know that one well, as in the past and even sometimes now, my mind will try to gravitate to convincing me I need to do this or do that as a form of reward or as a, time out. Time out from what, I ask, as when you choose to stay with you in all that you do, no perfection of course, the absolute joy of moving with you in your own delight-full love is exquisite, so why would you want to spend one moment away from that, and at what expense?

87. “The list is endless. Is this just simply filling in time, a bit of fun, a social outlet – or is it something more than that? Are not all these pastimes ways of distraction to not feel our predicament and ways of checking out from who we are and what life is truly about?” This is an interesting one, to work out what our ‘pastimes’ really are for. Passing-time? For what reason? To check-out from what we are really feeling about our life?
    very exposing blog. Thank-you.

88. Gorgeous, healing blog raising the subject of responsibility and how we need to take our responsibility in our own life, before anything else..

89. A new way of living is needed like never before, for has there ever been so much disharmony and distraction and so many living life without joy, well since the dark ages. The way we live now so irresponsibly cannot end well for humanity and the time is well past that we change our ways to avoid inevitable catastrophes.

90. I read this story the other day, of a woman who is in her 80’s and competes in Ironman competitions. How far has she run/is still running from herself?

91. It is a commonly held belief that we can come away with living irresponsible lives. Overtime things come to the light as a result of us living in this irresponsible way. Then we tend to come with solutions but they are still from this same place and set the path for a continuation of the way we’re living. We can only stop this by understanding that the idea to live without being responsible for it is a commonly held belief and not something that naturally belongs to us, as when we are honest we all know what responsibility is and from this honesty we can let go of our false beliefs. From this our own choice, we make the space to return to that state of being that is more natural to us and will relief a lot of tension, not onely in our own bodies, but also in our society as a whole.

92. It is clear from your article Chris that even the civilised world is in quite a mess. We have been irresponsible towards ourselves and our own health, and grossly irresponsible to our fellow humans. This is good to realize and be aware of so that we can correct our behaviour.

93. “adding fuel to the already out-of-control, raging forest fire of irresponsibility that we are all part of?” What an image, this has stopped me in my tracks. Is that how bad it really is for me in my life?

94. Being responsible has no end point it is a way of being that becomes grander and more glorious as we step up to it.

95. I realize that every time I hang onto what is not perfect enough for me—although nothing is ever perfect being a human being, except we can refine our expression to be, it is a distraction I choose to hold onto to not be the true and real me. I have so many excuses of not being able to now be the awesome me, I create all of these excuses and then hold onto them. But despite how imperfect I feel I am, it is deeply inspiring to be honest that I do bear self-judgement on myself, because I am unwilling to truly feel and accept how what is within me is never affected by what I hang onto as imperfect on the outside, and what is within me then is my responsibility to express no matter how my external conditions are—yes it is the deepest joy (and naturally a responsibility) to be the true man and true woman we are.

96. Certain movements offer inspiration and other movements do not. Sometimes we commit to those movements that do not offer inspiration and evolution because of certain ideal pictures which do not bring truth. Following these pictures is in effect moving in a way which is anti to the natural movement of the universe, this gets very uncomfortable and it is our choice then to stop and choose to move back towards truth. The process itself is one which although is definitely delay, offers us another opportunity of understanding of why we want to take the long route and this understanding deepens the love for myself.

97. I’ve spent an awful amount of time and energy waiting for others to take responsibility and live differently. It’s almost laughable because I’ve been waiting for someone else for me to start being more responsible. Now I see it starts and stops with me… I can live responsibly and reflect that or reflect irresponsibility and confirm too others that it is OK to live like that.

98. We can get so caught up – erroneously so – in what we might think responsibility is, and then think it’s a heavy burden we’d rather avoid. In doing so, we conveniently avoid the true responsibility, which is to let the truth of who we are be expressed, to read situations and people without measure, and to appreciate all we already know and always have. Living responsibly is living lovingly – they are one and the same.

99. I agree Jane. And when we do have those conversations at our dinner tables and let our own curiosity express and ask the most natural questions to ask, there is so much joy and inspiration to be had. Choosing to keep our lives capped is just that: a capped life. Choosing to open up to the endless responsibility we are being asked to take is choosing a life that has harmony, love and joy at its very base. Living responsibly is choosing to live gloriously.

100. There are some zillion ways to avoid acknowledging and accepting what life is all about and taking responsibility for our part in it. Our creativity is endless and our capacity to convince ourselves that doing A has nothing to do with doing B or C, while in truth they are all actions to cope with what we desire most.

101. Having been addicted to the TV since around the age of 14 (now 56), and after many years of using will power to abstain and relapse, I have finally come to the realisation of how much time I have wasted watching the television, and now I have no thoughts of wanting to watch this or that, because I can feel how much of a drug it really is, and how lethargic I would get by choosing to watch.

102. Thank you Christopher. You make it easy to see that change is possible on a large scale if we each take responsibility for our own lives. I can feel how much I personally resist this and it makes me wonder what it will take to wake us all up. I am very grateful to have the support of Universal Medicine as I take steps to become more responsible in my own life.

103. The more responsible I become the more irresponsible I realise I am. I have felt and thought this so many times. It’s like opening a can of worms, but it is a good can of worms.

104. There is some great detail and statistics in this article that most know and I have seen regularly. They are no surprise and yet at the same time I don’t think I have allowed them to fully sink in. The waste of resources, the money being spent, the attitudes towards other etc I have read them all before and yet there was an outward blame or a turn away from my responsibility in them. It’s not a ‘it’s my fault’ style of thing but more seeing and reading where others have a part but also in turn seeing my part and where I have my hand in the circle. By seeing or becoming more aware of the part I play I will be able to continually see more of what is actually going on in any situation. Or I can sit and pretend to accept all of this as a part of life and out of my control, all being the responsibility of others. We need to get ourselves off the couch more and become an active part of the world, not to force it to change but to be aware of our part in it and live that awareness. This very action will pull the world to be the same, it can resist but that should only inspire us to go deeper within our own awareness.

105. Something to consider is that when stopping doing something that we recognise is harming us is if we don’t look at the energy behind why we were doing it we can end up replacing it with another perhaps more refined behaviour but the same ill energy is still there… And so stopping harming behaviours is great and needed but to take a deeper level of energetic responsibility is also needed if we are to truly heal and evolve…

106. To consider the true meaning of responsibility has invited me to embrace it and practise applying it in the way I treat myself. I see how this impacts all areas of my life… an experiment and curiosity to be continued!

107. This is such a big on – responsibility. We really do so many things to not always go to the next level of responsibility in our life. Even when we usually have awareness as to what that actually means for us. We feel everything. So it is allowing that awareness to shine, to not hold back and to go for it that allows the next opportunities to unfold.

108. Thanks for sharing this – it brings to my attention again the state of the world and also the role I have in it. That by taking responsibility I don’t just take it for myself but for others too. I am part of the all and just knowing that is a responsibility to live it.

     1. Great point HM. We cannot go back once we know this truth.

109. True true Christoph, we must see and open ourselves up to what is going on in the world, and see that indeed it is more than just living and containing life without purpose to why we live in the first place. With purpose I mean not just own existence and fullfillment but actually our part, individually, in society, the quality of life we live and the true levels of integrity in one’s life. With integrity also meant the absolute respect, care and truth lived to oneself and people. I guess we’ve got a lot to learn and open ourselves up to.. No longer ignoring things that truly matter and need our attention and true action. Everything matters, hence where is our attitude that carries that integrity?

110. The humbleness I feel that the end of this blog needs to stay with me in order to always make the choice to question what I have taken as normal. To inspire me to see below the surface of what I do, put in my mouth, think and say, to see why I do them all.

111. ‘what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.’ I really picked up on this one today Christopher as recently I’ve become aware of how much I make things about me, and despite my ideas that it’s about all of us, many times it’s not, so it’s great to read this today and understand that it’s just another layer to look at, and unpick the false ways I’ve been.

112. “It has been a strange journey so far… the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.” This is what I am finding too, and whereas before there would be a stubbornness and defiance in wanting to see and accept my irresponsibility, I now embrace it (most of the time) knowing that once something is exposed as being irresponsible, refusing to accept it is no longer an option, and if chosen comes with consequences that feel horrible in my body.

113. “what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.” This is an – at times – uncomfortable but incredibly freeing – way to live your live. To be open to what is really going on.

114. We think we can come away with being irresponsible to our lives but that is not how our bodies are. Our bodies are truth and will clock everything that is done in disrespect to this and will present this sooner or later in illness, disease or another way and will make us to surrender that that loving quality that is living in our inner hearts. One day each and everyone of us will come to this point where we are asked to reconsider in taking responsibility for our lives.

115. Oh yes, the big R of responsibility, I can really relate to as we become more responsible then it becomes apparent that there is more responsibility in our lives needed and there is a tension there felt between the potential of the next step and what is being lived in the present.

116. Responsibility, and irresponsibility, have been the big fat elephants in the room for far too long – this is great to expose the truth of what is truly going on in our society. Thank you for your inspiration Christopher.

117. I think the next step for myself personally is to take more of a stand against corruption, within every aspect of society we see things that are not true, the importance is in the choice to not accept this corruption. A great start for me has been no longer buying newspapers that are filled with lies and misrepresentation, not eating the foods that are not good for us. If we stop buying and supporting things that are not working for everyone, we will see change. But most of all not being in reaction to corruption, but being steady and resolute in saying no to all the things we know need to change.

118. How we breath, how we move and how we live affects everyone around us. The more we develop this understanding the more we can also open up to more levels of responsibility. The more we take on board these levels of responsibility then the less it actually burdens us! And we get to realise how many levels there are yet to take on board – and so it is about growing into these layers no different to growing into a jumper that is too big to begin with: initially it feels awkward and a little strange, then as we grow into it it fits perfectly and supports us back to a T, and then as we grow more, the jumper gets too small, too tight and we need to look at changing to a bigger one. Growth comes from taking on responsibility, and it is endless how much we can actually grow. It is something to be celebrated and not feared.

119. It is a given that most of us “are not taking complete responsibility for our own lives, and our own health and well-being.” – I too have looked around and seen adults behaving like children in so many ways. I watch at the supermarket and I see what foods people buy, and I see grown ups lunch boxes and lunch choices, and to me these look like children’s foods. I watch people in town and around see adults dressed as big kids and behaving like big kids, walking around with a lost look, playing a role or a game in an attempt to give themselves a purpose to the day. And I see so many who are homeless and have no work, in a country that offers every opportunity to get out of this predicament. It makes me see how this is all contributing to the way our world is, how this is setting an example for the youth to follow in…And it allows me to see how important it is for each and every one of us to live as an example (to the best of our ability and with no perfection here asked) so that we can inspire by virtue of how we breath, how we move, how we live whilst taking responsibility on all levels, however seemingly small and however seemingly big.

120. As I develop my own relationship with responsibility I find not only do the areas of irresponsibility now stick out like a sore thumb, they simply can’t be ignored for irresponsibility feels too uncomfortable in my body to let lie.

121. This blog ask much and raise up some more questions – what is great. To ponder just on one: “Why do we take resources from others to enrich ourselves, only to leave the others in dire straits?” I see us slave-drive people and resources in other countries just to spent some money and aid workers later to ‘help’ the country. This is absurd – on one hand. But if it is about ‘taking responsibility’ this stage behavior makes ‘sense’ in a way. We try to control everything instead of taking our role in life an make this planet working. Together. So we can hang on to our individuality and creations. But. This will not make us happy, not successful at the end. Refugees will come into the countries which try to hold the upper hand on the world and show them that we are ONE world and can’t hide or separate from each other in truth. It is our choice if we will learn it ‘the hard way’ or voluntary. But to learn we have it and we will.

122. We do not care to realise the impact our irresponsibility has on our bodies, our lives and our fellow human beings. Thank you Christopher for raising our awareness in this regard and putting the finger on the festering wound, a very needed subject to discuss indeed.

123. When we take responsibility for our own lives it has huge implications not only for ourselves but also for others and for our planet. If we all did it we would have a very different experience of the world.

124. Becoming aware of the irresponsibility with which I have been living has been a daunting process but I have come to the understanding that it is a necessary part of my journey for it is awakening within me what it means to be present with my body and to live responsibly.

125. What an exposing blog about where humanity is at! Quite confronting.. I could feel my spirit within squirming, not wanting to hear the impact of how our world is living because we are not each taking responsibility for it.
     Life is about individual pursuits, recognition and reward and not about looking at the bigger picture, and how we each affect the all by our quality of our movements.

126. Much is made of endeavours such as climbing Mt Everest yet what purpose do they serve? They seem to be about the quest for individual recognition and reward, and that’s about it. There’s not a whole lot of responsibility there, particularly considering others are often negatively impacted by those activities.

     1. This is all coming to the surface as the Nepalese start to talk about the cost to the sherpas of supporting others to climb Mount Everest. Yet how many want to take responsibility for that and how many justify it to satiate their need for ever more extreme challenges and experiences? Taking responsibility is humbling and offers a choice for lasting change.

     2. What a brilliant question to ask. How many of our human pursuits make any sense when under scrutiny?

127. The responsibility that can be felt sometimes is for my past choices. If I’m willing to accept and understand that I can choose again and my past choices don’t define my essence I can gently and lovingly choose what does feel loving and caring in the way I live.

128. If we accept there is no wright or wrong then taking responsibility isn’t something to be of any concern, pressure or imposition.

     1. I agree Sandra, whilst the world is governed by everything being considered either right or wrong, understanding the truth about responsibility and the quality in how we are living is almost impossible to comprehend as anything other than being a very daunting and difficult task to change things.

129. Opening up to our inner curiosity, being willing to explore and learn is responsible in itself, the next step comes simply when learning is accepted and appreciated for what it is.

130. A powerful and inspiring read about true responsibility and how our ways of living with huge irresponsibility are further exposed as we return to more responsible choices to be accountable in life.
     “It has been a strange journey so far… the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am”.

131. Yes, the initial steps are almost the easiest because we’re just chipping off the surface. However, once we begin to open up to truly get to know our harmful ways of being, we can go deeper in self destructive mode. I can very much relate to that because I always thought for myself of this very kind, caring, and super patient person. However, the more I begin to open up to myself, the more I can feel how much resentment, and fury I have held inside of me. It feel poisonous, and I know that the only way to get rid of all this is through taking more responsibility and healing it from within.

132. Each step we take to become more responsible for our quality of being, the way we are living and what this reflects, it becomes clearer and clearer what is true and what is not.

     1. Yes I agree Vicky, “quality of being” is the essence, not the things we do.

133. I had an old friend look at me with a worried kind of bewilderment when I said I didn’t do most of the stuff I used to do, like the drinking, partying, watching sport and motorcycle riding, all the stuff to fill in my time and fill up my life. She just didn’t believe me when I said without all that stuff, my life was far more fulfilling and joyful now that I was being a more responsible person.

     1. I have found the same but can now see it is because we have stepped out of the norm – it is like saying it is possible to breath underwater, it may be beyond our experience yet that does not mean it is not possible.

134. A mighty and beautiful call to be in the natural responsiveness of our responsibility – to ourselves and all others equally. I’ve felt the same, the more I deepen my sense of responsibility, the more I’m aware of how irresponsible I am. It can be a real stop moment to feel how complacent I can be about so much wrong….this is the tension we live with everyday yet if I stop addressing it in myself, I’m responsible for its continuance in the world. It seems huge and could be interpreted as overwhelming, but that’s the giving up excuse we can’t afford. In truth, it’s a joy to realise that each time I step up and be more responsible in my choices, I have a ripple effect that can and does affect everything and everyone…life is way more fun when we embrace this power within ourselves. No need for hurrahs just simple, everyday power in all we do, say, feel and think. This is great, Christopher. Thank you for the wake up call to continue choosing awareness and responsibility by living from our bodies first and foremost.

135. It’s our responsibility to appreciate ourselves, because, if we don’t, we end up expecting recognition or approval from others which can strain a relationship (that has potential) with conditions and tension. As soon as we clock a need from another, it’s our responsibility to see where we are not giving that to ourselves or where the lack is – and usually, in my experience, it leads back to appreciation.

     1. Yep, and that lack of appreciation is usually rooted in a lack of self worth. What’s horrific however is that if we don’t observe ourselves, we fall “victims” of our own mess as it can feel very like a mud bath that we cannot get out of.

     2. The seeking of recognition and approval from others causes us to buy into a one-upmanship, a very dangerous road to head down, and one I feel is more familiar than appreciating what we all bring.

136. “maybe we would lovingly admit to the things that don’t feel true to us”. I have been pondering on this one lately and how I resist admitting that something is not quite quite right and does not feel true. It is like there is a pollyanna (someone who thinks good things will always happen and finds something good in everything) who lives inside of me that has her blinkers on, by not wanting to see what is truly there. But that takes up a lot of energy because in truth I am feeling what is there to be felt but am choosing not to admit it and put on a pair of rose coloured glasses at times.

137. I read this blog and know it. I can feel the very thing that lives in the arrogance to this knowing my human spirit. It is reacting and keen to finish reading this blog so it can do what it wants to do in its own individual conundrum. It is great to feel this and take a moment to stop and be responsible to what is really needed next for brotherhood and not self. It was all said in this blog and written in such a loving tangible way that it does give you something to consider, feel and observe just how you are living. What do we do next? Be responsible. For there is a next thing we are all given equally by the order of the universe and that is either irresponsible individualism or responsible love and brotherhood. As Chris claims one gives you nothing while the other gives you joy and love within.

138. That swallowing of pride and admitting that what I had chosen to adhere to was not true was the hardest part for me. It felt like ‘I’ was becoming nothing. But it’s really funny to look back because no matter how much investment I have had in, nothing can be dearer than true truth.

     1. It is indeed the clarity that comes when we let go of the false belief systems we once have fallen for and to realize that we actually have accepted these beliefs because they allowed us to be less responsible in life is a great revelation to me. We are not just irresponsible but we actually are because of our knowingly made choices.

     2. Beautifully put, Fumiyo, even though the stripping away of investments, ideals and comfort can feel rather exposing and uncomfortable, the lightness and the expansion that evolution brings is like nothing else and much more valuable.

     3. Yes, that pride being punctured and hurt can be very difficult to take at times but that ability to override our pride is THE key.

139. Brilliant breakdown of responsibility and how it affects everything Christopher. We can be surprised when we become truly honest and understand that we are not what we think we are at all, and when we give ourselves this time and space to look we can often allow a more natural way of being. It takes time and courage, and of course a willingness to face our hurts, but it’s worth every step of the journey, even with the stumbles along the way. Responsibility is indeed a joy once we embrace it.

140. Unfortunately we tend to wait for the consequence of irresponsibility in order to make changes in life; rather than seek responsibility from knowing our part of and to the whole.

141. I think it’s great to ask all these questions of ourselves, people and the world,as long as we ask then from love – by holding ourselves other people deeply in love, no matter our or others choices – otherwise the questions just become a critique and judgement and a reaction to ourselves, our choices.

142. It is great to expose the rot like you have for it is only when the truth is exposed that there is a choice to then continue, in the irresponsibility of our choices or stand up and say enough and do something about it. Any step towards truth is a step for the all and therefore it’s importance can not be discounted…. For if you have lived in the darkness and nothing else, you will not know there is more until someone shines a light.

143. People are not asking the true questions that will lead to healing and evolution because they are not ready for the true answers that require them to be responsible.

144. “And if this is so, could there be a way of living responsibly as a true brotherhood, the brotherhood that mankind is truly here to be – founded in self-care, responsibility and truth?” – all the problems in the world start with each individual. All the political problems are fuelled by individuals. All the religious problems are fuelled by people. All the wars – fuelled by people. Every group is made up of people. And so it makes sense to bring it back to self care and responsibility first.

145. Serge Benhayon is one such man who has been asking much needed questions for the last 17 years, like why we run marathons, why we are so overweight and unwell. Through his simple and practical questioning of things we have become blind to, many others have been inspired to ask these questions too. This has helped to lift our heads out of the fog that ‘normal’ creates. When I look back at civilisations that went astray, I can see the central role accepting normal has in society, by gradually eroding our knowing of what a truly harmonious body, life and society can be.

146. That is a very good question, Jane, “what is the purpose” of tv, sports, fishing, novels, etc, and what makes me giggle about this is the fact that it is so obvious, and as clear as the day, that there is no purpose, no evolution, no love in those things. Only distractions away from responisibility for our lives.

147. This is such a crucial question, Christopher, – if we are taking responsibility for our own lives. Who else will do it if we don’t do it ourselves? I love the perspective you bring, from absolutely ALL angles. From the distractions, to food, to entertainment and how it affects or thoughts and behaviours, – it is all interrelated. Nothing doesn’t affect another aspect of our lives. Which in turn affect the society we live in. The statistics you reveal are devastating, but then again it does seem like the question you asked “are we so habitually abusive to ourselves that we don’t even recognise it as self-abuse anymore?” is true. Sadly so. Until we stop and take true responsibility. Awesome blog that needs attention.

148. ‘ the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am. ‘ I have found this too Christopher, but would not change my choice to look at these things even though it can be challenging and painful at times, it is journey I would not want to go back on because of the joy stillness and harmony I am building in my body from this.

149. I can totally relate Christopher and also feel ‘… the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am’ and have been.

150. It is only as we unpeeled the layers of irresponsibility in ourselves that we can see the irresponsibility that has been taken as normal in our society. When you ask the questions about politicians, business leaders and parents we have to ask why this is not our normal?! Being and living the change we want to see in the world is the only way this will change.

151. If we are not taking responsibility for our own lives we certainly need to be; thus forever deepening what we are responsible for.

152. ” And if this is so, could there be a way of living responsibly as a true brotherhood, the brotherhood that mankind is truly here to be – founded in self-care, responsibility and truth?” Yes this is our evolutionary path to discard all that’s not love, each of us returning to joy, harmony, living naturally from our essence. This is our planet and we are here to evolve our way out of this current mess by learning true responsibility.

153. I love it when you read a blog and it is revelant to my current and possibly ongoing unfolding path. I have been pondering my responsibility in relationship to my every thought and action and at a deeper level realising anything that is uncomfortable is all a reflection to be identified and discarded. It’s like an onion, layer upon layer till you reach the core, appreciating the tension and confirming the evolution.

154. If I am totally honest there is part of me that doesn’t want to be responsible, to stand out, to be super solid and have people come to me, look at me. Maybe this is picture in my head of what I think it will be like. This may sound selfish and arrogant but it’s true. And I feel until I admit this then I cannot take full responsibility and be responsible for everything I do, say and think.

155. It can be very easy to become apathetic, overwhelmed, disheartened and disengaged by what we see in the world, and Christopher you manage to cover many of our self destructive ways with a real depth and clarity. Yet what I have observed many times are people who know the way we live is not it, and are seeking another path. For many this means they get embroiled in spiritual practices that do nothing to support this change they seek, but what is heartening, and should keep our love switched on, is the simple fact that the light of change is within us, that how we act, without poisonous thoughts and with deep care and compassion does change the world, and that the disharmony that seems to be growing is only a resistance to the way we all actually want to live, in love and harmony, and to which we are all destined to return.

156. Once we start taking responsibility of certain things in our own lives, you come to realise there are more and more aspects and the activity of the way we live that we become more responsible of, and how very closely related responsibility and self care are with to other.

157. We can go into overriding when we know what is true and the responsibility that comes with this, but in the long run it always catches up to us and we get to feel the consequences of those choices. Its interesting how we can sometimes take the long way round and very exposing at the same time.

158. It is so important that we discuss and consider why we have created such distractions with hobbies, interests and focus on eating and consuming food. Wht are we really avoiding?

159. Advice to children that the world is their oyster and they can become and do anything; this has always been possible! It is also possible when things become challenging we just step back a little until this become the normal and responsibility becomes some else’s problem! Children are easier to be guided through the maze to adulthood, where it is not a matter of teaching old dogs new tricks, but remembering the joy of things we have stopped doing!

160. The more we are responsible and surrender the more honest our body becomes, the louder it communicates and informs is when things don’t feel true.

161. Fantastic blog Christopher! It’s crazy and insane that these destructive ways of life have been blindly accepted as part of global society for so long when clearly not only do they not work but they actually make all of our lives a lot worse in fact!!!! I imagine like lots of things, for change to happen, we as a society would need to admit that what we’ve been actually choosing for ourselves hasn’t been working and that would involve feeling the fact that we’ve been wrong and the fact that this rubbish state off affairs is all our own doing. That’s a big pill for many of us to swallow and so lots of us would rather continue claiming ignorance is bliss despite the message to the contrary being shouted out by their own bodies as well as millions of others in a desperate plea for us to change our ways and stop the constant barrage of abuse we inflict on ourselves, and others.

162. Responsibility is often equated with burdensome restriction or accountability in a negative way, however if we can begin to understand true responsibility is about holding our quality of light no matter what the situation, and of allowing what is needed to be expressed to come through without hindrance, then responsibility takes on a whole new meaning, one that is simultaneously humbly obedient, deeply freeing and full of joy.

163. it can sometimes feel like there is so very much wrong in this world that to tackle it seems insurmountable and a futile exercise – so easy to choose the numbing and checked out route – however this will guarantee that nothing will change, as every day returns the same consequences of a checked out given up world. Once we start to recognise this is nothing of the truth of who we are, then there dawns the possibility that it could indeed be a different way – and it starts with us…

164. Yesterday I heard a Doctor talking about the ongoing crisis in the NHS and she was saying it was everyone’s responsibility to maintain it which was really refreshing to hear as all to often all I hear is blame and finger pointing as to who’s fault it is that it is in such a mess. The truth is it’s because as a collective society we do not take responsibility for ourselves so the only real solution to our health care crisis is that we collectively start to take responsibility. You can throw as much funding at the NHS as possible but nothing will change if we do not start to take responsibility for the way in which we live our lives.

165. As I open the door to truth and start to walk the path of responsibility it seems to get more difficult to align my ways to being fully responsible. I feel responsibility as a tension that can distract me, which in some cases means that I still look for the crunch in foods or the thoughts that dulls me from being at a deeper level of responsibility. I know what it feels like in my body to do things for so called comfort and it seemingly is becoming more difficult to eliminate those things that are abusive, and this is a situation that everyone faces at differing levels as you have shared Christopher in references 1,2 and 6. As I feel into this I have the ultimate call on responsibility and have to accept this and live with my choices and know that there is always more and my loving movements bring a way of existence that will change things; food for thought?

166. Great point Jane I have felt my levels of abuse drop away as I take more and more responsibility for my own way of being so that what I used to call normal is no longer my normal. As I feel more tension in my body to become more responsible I can either succumb to that new level of abuse and if I do not shift I start to feel all my movements go out and if I do not pay attention to that I start to get little hurts or injuries that are showing me to deepen my responsibility. So being loving and tender in all my movements is a key to deepening my responsibility.

167. There is a point that responsibility is the reason for what is joy-full about living not the reason we want to avoid life. This is a truly sweet moment to appreciate.

168. Reading that “the particles of my body now expect so much more from me” was one of those stop moments when you are offered something incredible and possibly life changing to contemplate. I can feel that from now on, each time I am heading towards a choice to be irresponsible that I will ‘hear’ my particles yelling ‘don’t go there’! Now that will definitely be life changing for me!

169. Accepting responsibility is accepting who we are, without we cannot be fully who we are.

170. Beautiful what you share concerning deeper levels of responsibility, there will always be more to learn concerning our own choices and responsibility. Responsibility is sweet, empowering and life changing and not just for the person that chooses it.

171. This is a great blog Christopher I love the way you have married the microcosm with the macrocosm as everything is everything all of the time.

172. Blame is a ‘good’ distraction from seeing our part in a situation! We can brush something off as being ‘just random’ or attribute it to someone else or something else and use that to not look at what there is there for us to see and learn about ourselves. Developing a relationship with ourself that is honest is key if we are to make steps towards a harmonious way of living.

173. Christopher, what a powerful blog. This would have many people squirming in their seats reading this. One can not help but feel how far we have come from living responsibly and what effects this has had on all.

174. The crazy thing is that these statistics, while seem fresh to some people, are actually known innately to us all. We ALL know deep inside that something is sorely wrong with the way human life is set up and the way it operates. Something is simply not true. Yet most have settled for comfort instead of standing for the truth we know within. This comfort delivers no true good to anyone

175. On reading this again, a sentence that struck me today is “what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth”.I have also found that we can be so wedded to and identified by our persona, our more or less refined but nevertheless very familiar facade, that we end up believing in it ourselves; it is only when honesty enters the scene that this charade shows its true colours and can be dismantled – enter responsibility and humility.

176. Chris, I love the simplicity and lightness of this, ‘if we were to take a closer look, to explore, to observe, to open up our innate curiosity, or swallow our pride, maybe we would lovingly admit to the things that don’t feel true to us and embark upon a new beginning’. It seems that it is often our pride because we do not want to have ‘got it wrong’ and often our identification of us being a certain way that stops us from being open to changing and exploring a new, truer way of being. From my experience I have found that it is definitely worth letting go of these old patterns and ways of being that do not work and keep us stuck.

177. I can so relate to what you express ‘the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.’ I was considering this recently and realizing that this will go on forever as we can always be more responsible. Look at the responsibility God has!!

178. So many people just seem to be filling in time between birth and death and you can see that they are not really joyous in it and they get so easily bored with the mindless distractions but seem to just go from one to another in an attempt to not feel the lack of love and joy in their lives. They often then give up, especially at retirement when any purposeful activity ceases. Yet this is indicative of the fact that many were driven to succeed for recognition or reward and were not living with any true purpose even when committed to their daily jobs. One wonders how this came about and your blog Christopher, makes it clear that avoiding responsibility has been a big factor in people not being willing to live to their full potential and with true purpose.

179. This is like a breath of fresh air Christopher. Starting by focusing on our own responsibility in our lives and how we do what we do is a great place to start so we don’t get overwhelmed by the mess the world is in. Each time we address an area that might have been stagnating we ignite another area. Bit by bit we start enjoying responsibility and seeing the consequences of one person choosing to be the change they want to see in the world by being it in their life.

180. The more responsibility we take, the more harmony and joy we bring into our lives. It is beautifully simple.

181. Responsibility runs through every particle of our body; rippling out to every aspect of our lives, to humanity and the universe. It’s quite something when we start to take responsibility for some aspect of how we live, doing this reveals the next area ready for some consideration to adjustment when we are ready, and so it goes on. Appreciation of what we are choosing is an essential aspect, supporting the ripple effect of ‘quality responsibility’ in all we do and are.

182. Many people would argue that running a marathon is an achievement to be heralded. Having run one myself I can say it is a mammoth physical challenge to survive, and I can understand why people feel a sense of self pride. The question is why put your body through 42.2km of pressure, strain and enduring pain to feel that pride. Why instead not address whatever stops you from having self-love as a constant instead?

183. Responsibility is a significant word for us all.. Its one of those words that we learn more about when we commit to living it in our day to day lives.

184. so true – we have so normalised violence, aggression and vicious competitiveness that we have accepted a greatly diminished form of relationship as being ok or wonderful simply because it doesn’t involve any of the aforementioned aspects, or even if they do have some – but this means we are missing out on the huge volume of love and true relationship that is on offer to us – an invitation to go deeper in every moment. How does it look to see relationship based not just on decency and respect but absolute love – and why do we not see more of it>?

185. Some brilliant and pertinent questions posed here that invite us to explore our true purpose and the meaning of life.This curiosity coupled with honesty about the state of our world, are the beginnings of a willingness to review our collective choices to date and our relationship with responsibility.

186. The more responsibility we take, the greater the resistance we have in our bodies…I find that during these moments I have to go back to the body and heed its true response. Knowing the body’s true response I then have a choice to obey or disobey, and then I have the responsibility to understand the choice that I make.

187. Self abuse does appear to have become the normal and by our choices we are filling the hospitals with illnesses we do not need to have. My sister is a nurse and was telling me about the daily stress the staff are experiencing at the moment, and how lots of staff are leaving because of the constant stress they are exposed to on a daily basis. We must wake up and take some responsibility for ourselves and our lives, so the hospitals are able to deal with the very poorly people.

188. When we truly connect with our bodies they offer a level of responsibility that cannot be denied.

189. Corn crisps, was the last crunch that had me hooked and I can feel how self-loving choices have to start with ourselves, because of how after eating corn chips, there was a undeniable feeling of waking up with a hangover. As I bring more love into my life this seemingly rubs off on others as they feel a difference in me.

     1. I still remember my last pie and pees from uncle Tom’s Pie Shop, yuk it left a greasy taste in my mouth for day and I also felt ill. Today all my food tastes so yummmy and I feel that I always over indulge. It was the same when I drink beer I would drink buckets-full and love the taste but I can still remember my first taste and I spat it out and said never again. Taste is what has brought me undone even though I have taken time to feel what a food has done to me and leave it alone other foods do the same thing.

190. Yesterday I was talking to a Doctor who said the NHS will crumble by the end of 2019 if we don’t get something together, by taking responsibility for our own health and living healthy to the best of our ability we are not and not just leaving it to over worked, underpaid doctors and nurses who are at breaking point.

191. Blame can never work to bring change . . . ever . . as change comes from looking within and never from pointing at something outside of our self.

192. I love this Martin, and the list is endless and we as a humanity will keep adding to this list if we keep shirking our responsibility to be all that we are

193. This is an incredible eye opener Christopher… for all of us.

     I can really relate to this on a personal level as one who has been getting more and more honest with myself and on a global level as I see what we are doing and not dealing with and then accepting as ‘normal’.

     I realize that what I have gone-along-with, in the past, and even protected as “normal’ is so far from the true beauty & true care we all carry inside us.

     I have realized that it is my responsibility to bring the beauty of who I really am inside, out. All I needed to do was to shift my focus from distractions to getting honest and taking true care of myself; it is this which is supporting me to develop my ‘ability’ to ‘respond’ as needed in every part of my life.

194. Thankyou Christopher, as I read your dot point list of human behaviours I could begin to understand how when we don’t take responsibility for what is within us that we innately know is not from decency, respect or love, we step further away from ourselves and can begin the process of making choices that hurt ourselves and our fellow human beings. Responsibility in this instance could be seen as responding to that we know is not love to deal with it and let it go, so that we can embody, live, and express love in all that we do.

195. The thing about taking responsibility for your own life is that once you start there is always another depth of it to claim and the more responsibility you claim, the more joy and empowerment is to felt in the choices based on being responsible for yourself and towards others.

196. At last I am beginning to realise and understand that the world is not all about me – and that in taking responsibility for myself I am offering that reflection to the world – and the opposite is true also. As my awareness expands so my commitment deepens and begins to kick the traces of all those ideas and beliefs that have kept me apart from being who I truly am.

197. Great article Christopher, there is so much irresponsibility in the world. I particularly notice with the way we parent children; with the food and drinks given to children – which are often full of sugar and also the amount of TV and video games that children play, does not feel healthy or supportive. I notice how these affect them and change children from being their sweet, innocent selves into being sometimes hyperactive, hard and sometimes cruel with each other.

198. Great question you pose and one that is worth of a deep an honest look.

199. It is the million dollar question that if answered honestly could save us billions in health care.

     1. I also feel that if people were responsible it would turn the health care industry on its ear. If billions of people looked at their daily choices as I and hundreds like me have done, then what could be achieved would be out of this world. This is the trillion-dollar question that we have to come to by our own steam. Thank you Samantha great point you raise.

200. This was very inspiring “The amazing thing is that when we are consciously present and connected to our inner-most essence we are actually harmonious and full of joy, and responsibility is a natural way of living” It means that responsibility does not lie with the actions towards things outside of us but within us.

201. Responsibility is the simplest choice we can make, and yet, the one we delay more than any other.

     1. And I know my relationship with responsibility is developing all the time. It used to be something burdensome to avoid, but now I realise it is the willing uptake of the part I play in life; awareness of the choices I make and feeling the impact and importance of each and every one of us.

202. The word responsibility is huge. It’s no wonder we avoid it. But from experience, as soon as I take responsibility in any area of my life I start to feel amazing. So it’s actually crazy to avoid it.

     1. Taking responsibility, contrary to the word on the street – is the bomb!

     2. I also feel that as I take more responsibility in my life in one area it flows to another area and so it builds a momentum that becomes a foundation that I am responsible for holding onto. I appreciate all you have shared Rebecca, it is amazing.

203. Responsibility to be in true brotherhood embraces everything we do. it is impossible to leave anything out , because that would mean we are leaving one thing separate … so no brotherhood. This is a great road of re-discovery for me and one that i love to undertake. The joy of returning to true brotherhood far out weighs any ‘stuff’ I am still harbouring.

204. ‘could there be a way of living responsibly as a true brotherhood, the brotherhood that mankind is truly here to be – founded in self-care, responsibility and truth?’ – I would say the answer is definitely yes, the question is, are we willing to let go of the comforts and distractions that keeps us mainly focussed on self?

205. We are responsible to surrendering to the love we innately are and expressing this in every move we make.

206. So much of life we have set up to just be looking at things at a surface level and with that are dismissing or ignoring what is going on underneath energetically. Our world is entirely made of energy and yet we generally pay very little attention to that fact! The more we open up to our multidimensionality and what is going on underneath and behind anything energetically the more we can begin to take responsibility for it.

207. ‘Is it possible for parents to take more responsibility first and foremost for themselves by deepening their self-care, then to stop and ponder on how they raise their children’ – I say YES to this. We cannot disregard how observant and sometimes absorbent children are. We can see it in their mannerisms and know where they picked them up from. So, it seems crazy that there is not more awareness around how we are with ourselves as parents and what we are reflecting to our children. Movements speak far louder than words.

     1. This is so relevant to me in every situation Rachael, because for me I feel that my every movement can be a reflection that is speaking louder than words.

208. Christopher, I love how you expose amusement, entertainment, pastimes and hobbies, which on the surface look harmless, as ‘the embodiment of irresponsibility’ and how choosing things to amuse or entertain us are actually choices to put the brakes on our evolution by choosing irresponsibility.

209. Could it be, the only thing we seem to take responsibility for in our lives is always to have someone or thing to blame for what doesn’t work? The only person that never gets blamed is our self!

210. With a new year upon us we have the opportunity to make different choices, one that are going to be held in responsibility and supportive of ourselves and others. If we embrace this the way life will unfold can only feed us back with Love and Harmony, even if sometimes that means clearing the irresponsibility that we have lived up to that point. Everything is always held in the body, every choice we make so it makes sense for them to be ones that are loving and encompassing of the all.

211. It is new years day and a great moment to reflect, review and consider what next… I am not going for any specific detailed resolutions this year since I know in the past these have simply set me up to fail and repeat a cycle of lack of self worth. This year is about accepting and appreciating where I am at, all there is on offer to learn every day and the endless inspiration of being a willing forever student.

     1. I learn so much when I feel everyday is a place for me to listen more deeply to what my body is sharing and thus I am deepening my relationship with myself as I become a forever student of my own body. Thank you Matilda, I can also feel the tension of being responsible to the best of my ability especially on those days where I face a yellow line.

212. I appreciate the example you offered that you have been a man living with care and respect of women for some time, and then you realised that you could take it a lot deeper. This shows that responsibility is an ever unfolding quality. All we need do is commit to it and take one step at a time, and life itself will offer us the next steps that help us evolve.

213. The world is not OK – we are in deep trouble and being irresponsible feels like I am directly adding to this. When in fact we have an opportunity to start considering that we have a choice at every moment, and in that choice we can harm or heal. Bringing it back to this simplicity makes it practical for me to take more responsibility.

214. Taking responsibility for our own life, is something that gets us to feel that a lot of what we have been led to believe life is about is false and by fact the essence we are born with which remains until this day and forever is the most important thing, and then temporal/practical commitments which help us function harmoniously.

215. I noticed the other day when I pulled over in my car on a yellow line to ‘just nip into the bank’ that this did not feel OK. So minor on one level, sure, but actually part of the lack of care and consideration for others and the infrastructures that are in place to support us to live together respectfully and harmoniously. This level of awareness and attention to detail feels very inspiring… hmmm, no more yellow lines?

216. “are we so habitually abusive to ourselves that we don’t even recognise it as self-abuse anymore?” This is a very pertinent question that you have asked Christopher and one that required us all to ponder on more deeply, especially with behaviours becoming more extreme, what seems like daily. I saw a young woman yesterday who has just got herself a tattoo. What was interesting to observe was the reaction of the men around her. They were astounded that a beautiful young woman could do this to herself. This behaviour is commonplace now (and desired by some) and was certainly something that I did a number of years ago also. For me it was about recognition, standing out from the crowd (even though this is now the behaviour of the crowd) and being accepted. But if I am needing all of that, is not whatever I invest in to meet my needs abusive? Whether it be tattooing, food, sex, shopping. Because no matter what I am attempting to fill my emptiness with is a behaviour that will only result in a greater craving, perpetuating the cycle of need, emptiness and abuse. If it is not healing then it is harming.

217. It amazes and saddens me that we blame government, we blame doctors and nurses in fact we will blame anyone and anything but not take responsibility for ourselves. This has to change if we really want to a healthy race of people.

218. Responsibility begins with being honest with ourself first and a willingness to change those behaviours that are harmful no matter how small or inconsequential we may consider them to be, for as we become more aware of how the quality we live in effects everything and everybody the more we are aware that we are in fact all role models towards each other and there is no use in speaking of responsibility if it is not followed then by living in a way that reflects what true responsibility is. The magic of God in nature offers us all in the most amazing wonderful reflections of what responsible living is.

219. ‘Some people may react, deny and even aggressively contest the validity of raising these questions…’ but then in doing so this in fact exposes that there is a deeper knowing that they may not have answers that they are working hard to not be aware of.

220. Wow Christopher, there is a lot in this blog, but just referring to one question “Has self abuse become normal? I feel it has, if we look at our supermarkets for example there are whole isles dedicated to chocolates, salty snacks and sugary drinks, if there is one health food isle, what is in the other isles? The statistics on obesity are clearly showing how widespread self-abuse is. Alcohol and cigarettes are also clear signs of self-abuse and this abuse is surely detrimental to ones mental health. If we are self abusive with what we consume it also spills out into other aspects of our lives like: loathing of self and others, anger with self and others, frustrated with self and others. There is a tremendous amount to be gained by just taking responsibility for ourselves and addressing our self abuse issues.

     1. Yes, great point Bernard… there is a tremendous amount to be gained… collectively the community, national and even global health standards would significantly improve, and the standard of living and wellbeing amongst people would be far more harmonious.

221. I was moved when I read about the surprise and devastation you felt when you realized a level of arrogance and disrespect under the gentle, tender and respectful relationship you have with women, and how you chose to go to a deeper level of love and deal with whatever was being revealed. Life constantly gives us reflections and nudges towards the next level of our unfolding love and responsibility. We have clear moments like this example when we get a glimpse of the message. Then it is our choice – do we ignore it or capitalise on the precious moment to expand our awareness and evolve.

222. ‘…the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am….’ how awesome is that! We may not like ourselves at being exposed, but at least we then have the opportunity to turn our lives around, change our old patterns of behaviour and steadfastly begin to walk the true path of evolution in full responsibility without giving ourselves a hard time about what happened in the ‘past’.

223. You mention voting for politicians and my feeling is that the world of politics has a long way to go before all politicians, without exception, put people first and not self gain. Looking after self means a deep level of self care which then extends to all others. There needs to be no need for recognition, no need to be liked, no need to be always right, just a simple and true sense of purpose to serve their local area and our global community.

     1. True Carmel. Our politicians are simply a reflection of what we as a humanity have chosen. The politicians will change when the people who vote for them call them to account. It order to do this we (the people) must first be willing to address our personal relationship with responsibility.

224. The blame game and not taking responsibility for one’s own life and health is one of the major problems facing our modern medical systems today. There is a strong tendency for human beings to live in a way that does not take care of the physical body and then when something breaks down we like to blame something outside of us and we want medicine to come up with the fix or solution without looking at how we are living which may have contributed to the problem in the first place.

225. Taking responsibility goes much deeper than many are willing to go – your reflections leave much to ponder.

226. What I understand more and more, is that energetic responsibility asks something totally different from me, as the picture I carry of how responsibility should be. Looking from the outside I would say I am super responsible, but looking from inside, observing how I treat myself, how I think about myself – am I in comparison or not – if my movements are harmonious or not, then there is still a high potential to learn about true responsibility.

     1. This is a great point I also find very relevant Kerstin; if my movements are not in line with my thoughts and thus not harmonious, I feel a greater tensions so I am more easily distracted and therefore I have lost responsibility for my thoughts. My harmonious movements are a key ingredient in me feeling responsibility for all I do.

227. Responsibility is a big word, and one we shy away from not realising that it actually grows us and, wait for this one…liberates us!!!
     There is much I have learned about responsibility and it is far grander than what we assume in our society. We see responsibility as ticking boxes, as going to work, as doing the shopping and making dinner, as tucking our children in bed at night, walking the dogs etc etc. And to a degree this is a level of responsibility. But only a level. Yes we need to do certain things and keep up our jobs and chores and all the things in life…but there is so much more to just ticking a box and doing what needs to be done. The question is do we want to make it more than ticking a box? The reality is that if we do make it more than just ticking the box, that if we do make it about doing all these things with energetic responsibility, then this is when it can be experienced as a liberating thing instead of the incarcerating experience we have conditioned Responsibility to be.

228. “…Some people may react, deny and even aggressively contest the validity of raising these questions, but that’s okay as the amazing thing is that we all know deep inside that these reactions may well be indicative of the problem we are living with in our world today…” What a reflection… the fact that we may be living with a tension deep within our body, yet distract from it by finding ways of ‘entertaining’ ourselves away from this very personal question that we all have, of what is the purpose of life on earth, and placement of earth within the solar system, within the expansive universe…

229. Finally responsibility means to live in consideration of everyone all of the time, not in perfection but to the best of our ability. Therefore responsibility asks us to let go of individualism while still being unique in expression. As individuality is our most beloved treasure it is no wonder that we resist responsibility so persistently.

     1. We have been living in ‘individuality’ for so, so long that we identify it with being who we are and yes Alex, we stubbornly persist in holding on to a way of life that is causing us pain and misery, doesn’t make sense does it.

230. Chris, I love the point that you raise about not being able to go back once we begin to take more responsibility. The honesty of the body just gets louder and louder and the pain of resisting the new awareness feels like it would be unbearable.

231. In every moment we have a responsibility. I really noticed this week that I lost my focus, and it took me a few days to correct this and find the part of my life that was letting the team down (so to speak!) and address it. But imagine if we addressed things straight away? That we gave every moment it’s equal and deserved importance, and if things ever begun to slide then we put a stop to it straight away.

     1. Yes, that would be very responsible instead of allowing for the comfort of being individual and exclusive at the expense of everyone including us.

        1. Very true, our dabble with indulgence and allowing things to remain the same without making the firm choice to change is always at the expense of other people, including us.

232. Yes the responsibility that is required by us all which we dance around and play with like a cat with a mouse is the sole outcome in the way the world is today. To be committed and consistently choosing responsibility and understanding why this would be worth while I have only really understood recently at one of Serge Benhayon’s courses. On a scientific level we are created with particles that are in alignment with the Universe and we are to be honouring and confirming this in every choice we make. This is huge, yet as a society we don’t even consider on a moment to moment basis that we are part of the Universe and the whole.

233. ‘It has been a strange journey so far… the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.’ – this is all part of it, it takes a lot of honesty and understanding to see and let ourselves feel the impact our irresponsibility has on our own bodies and also others.

234. Being responsible need not be burdensome, as we have been led to believe, and why at the jump of a hat we seek the relief of those past times mentioned at the beginning of this blog. In many ways what we have got is all upside down. We are expected to take responsibility for things that are extrinsic to us and often beyond our control, and yet do not take responsibility for the things we truly can change and do have control over, such as the quality of our being. Thus why we associate it with burden, because we mistakenly take responsibility for things that are not ours to carry, meanwhile ignoring where true responsibility lies.

235. Very true, Christopher. We do all know that there is another way, but the question is exactly that – can we swallow our pride to admit we knew all along?

236. The more we are willing to be aware of how we are living and the choices we are making on a daily basis, the more we will relaise that we do have a responsibility for everything that we do and how we do it. And it is only by making changes as a result of this, and living responsibly that things around us start to change in ways that we would never have previously thought possible.

237. ‘And if we were to take a closer look, to explore, to observe, to open up our innate curiosity, or swallow our pride, maybe we would lovingly admit to the things that don’t feel true to us and embark upon a new beginning, and thus, in this, embrace the fact that we have been living in irresponsibility.’ This feels so very true – it only takes for a willingness to go a little deeper, beyond the normally accepted reasoning on the surface that we have accepted as all there is for so long to get to the truth beneath and the awakening within it.

238. I agree as uncomfortable as it might be sometimes to take more responsibility for our lives and the hand we have in them, we can never lose by doing so.

239. Ah, it is that time of year in the northern hemisphere, in England the day after Christmas large groups of people go for a quick dip in the sea at 11c. In Minnesota in the US on 1st of January, the polar bear club cuts a large hole in the ice of a lake to have a quick dip. We could put fire walking on the other end of this list of self-abuse. We are not indestructible but still keep looking for that limit. There is a man that competes in the world’s strongest man competition that was the first human to deadlift 500kg, ½ a tonne… what must that do to the body? Where is our responsibility to self, when we keep pushing the limits of the vessel we occupy?

240. So many things fall by the way when we are supported by our own responsible self love and true care, as the emptiness that was there with the hobbies and pastimes, just does not exist.

241. If we are willing to choose responsibility and energetic responsibility, then life opens up and we can see what we are truly here to bring.

242. We develop hobbies and interests to occupy the time we could otherwise spend on far more purposeful pursuits that actually do something to address the ills of our world. We seem though to view life as one endless holiday – well, that’s considered the goal to aim for anyway: making enough money and having enough time and means to do as we please. We basically champion and defend the right to sheer self-indulgence, and never mind the rest.

243. This is a sobering set of statistics presented here – surely enough for us all to grasp the terrible ironies with which we live. How can so few own so much? How can half the planet be starving and half overweight or obese? It just doesn’t make sense – which alone should tell us that something is wrong.

244. It’s only when we find true purpose in life that our hobbies and distractions disappear. Until then our past times are simply just that – a way of passing the time.

245. Yes Jane, a very important question indeed. So many things are ‘normal’ in the sense that everyone does it and nobody questions what we are all doing. What I found so beautiful about Christophers blog is that he does question these ‘normals’ and other things that go on, which are, if you think about it a little longer, not making sense at all.

246. It is so easy to play the victim and blame everyone and everything outside ourselves but in truth whatever it is we fear about taking responsibility is illusionary. I have found that taking responsibility for my every action is empowering beyond my wildest imagination.

247. “what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.” This is huge and true. It is easy to paint a perfect picture of ourselves in our minds but what is felt and noticed by others is the way we live every day of our lives, be it alone, at home or at work between a lot of people.

248. Rereading your article I have a lot pondered about responsibility and what it means, what living love means to me and how I can deepen this in my life. The responsibility to live true love and take everybody with me who is willing feels enormous as every choice counts going with or against love.

249. It is exposing when we remove the top layer we have built to fit into the world we live in. What is left is the raw stuff we have not wished to confront – all of the small ill choices we have made that we bury and that have piled up over the years. It is like going on holiday and not stopping your mail when you do come back and open the door; it is all waiting for you!

250. In today’s UK news they were saying that Health Officials have said that almost 90% of men are obese, drink too much, or eat unhealthily… they actually stated that we can no longer recognise what a healthy body looks like.

251. This is all very sobering indeed, for those who’s eyes are attuned to truth. But how to reach the drunkard who knows not that s/he is drunk and sees the world through eyes that take in what they want to see and dare not feel what is being reflected? The answer is through love, so that all of one’s actions leave one full of a love that sees love first in all and sees the world from the ocean of love available to all. Only then can inspiration penetrate those caught up in reaction upon reaction who make up the statistics. Therefore where does our responsibility truly lie?

252. A powerful blog sharing all our responsibility to truth and integrity in this world and the effects we all make and have on it. The enormous abuse that is rife in the world has a depth far greater than you can imagine yet to be exposed but every little detail we pay attention to and make loving changes with has an on going magnifying effect and this is remarkable and very empowering when done with love for us all..

253. I loved reading your whole blog Christopher, and in particular these words resonated with me as they precisely explain a knowing deep within that I cannot turn back ‘The more I change this, the more I sense a resistance in my body, at the same time knowing that I cannot turn back and return to more irresponsibility as I know that would be so self-destructive as the particles of my body now expect so much more from me, and rightly so’. Once we have committed to responsibility our bodies note the change and with this marker the denial begins to dissipate and we accept more readily a path that feels true to our particles.

254. The list of distractions is indeed endless, and the path within is simplicity itself… an apparent conundrum until the energetic truth of both is revealed

255. To get ourselves out of this current mess Responsibility is our only true way forward.

256. It takes a brave man to admit the prejudices he has held against women. Thank you Christopher for leading the way in unearthing what exists in even the gentlest of men… Or perhaps we could say what exists as a form of consciousness into which men – possibly all men on some level or the other – can tap. This is extraordinarily ground-breaking and voicing it here cannot but help to start to change what has long been set in stone.

257. ‘It has been a strange journey so far… the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am. The more I change this, the more I sense a resistance in my body, at the same time knowing that I cannot turn back and return to more irresponsibility as I know that would be so self-destructive as the particles of my body now expect so much more from me, and rightly so.’ Christopher, you hit the nail on the head with this most perceptive summary of the situation – this is exactly how the journey to complete responsibility is. Embarking on the path there are wondrous changes that unfold; going further simply brings to light our deepest and longest-held pockets of irresponsibility (hence the resistance). But as you say, forward it is, for having come so far and witnessed the change in ourselves (and others by osmosis) there can be no turning back – or if there is, we have to bring in a LOT of irresponsibility to counter the expansion.

258. I love your question “Has self abuse become normal?” I would say a resounding yes. What is now normal wasn’t so, 10, 20 years ago, it is quite astounding what we now allow, on our billboards, in magazines and on TV. What we allow in relationships, how we speak to each other, how we parent, how we are with family members and people we don’t know. It is time for a change, but that change has to come from each person and their own relationship with responsibility.

259. Yes it is bizarre how we eat, drink, checkout to our various screens, extreme sports etc, and then its… ‘ OMG’ surprise, surprise. and sympathy… when our bodies need to unload what we have put into it. Hello?!

260. Christopher, having just re-read the blog, I can feel your sensitivity as a man, connecting to how much in the world at large is mess and a knowing that we all contribute to this in some way or another whilst we indulge in our lifestyles and are not willing to look at our own issues and in the mean time turn a blind eye to what is actually happening out there/in our own neighbourhood or in other countries. It is about the key word responsibility, and interestingly we tend to run a mile away from this word, rather than realise that it does represent the path to our return, a part of the answer of how to deal with the world and how it is today. Responsibility does not have to be seen as chore or a difficult thing – for it is about us connecting to the purpose first, and from here responsibility is known and natural to step into. This may not always be easy for we may fight what is natural to us, but it is really that simple.

261. It can be easy to react to a situation and stay on the plane of life where the physical plays out. Yet we have the ability to ready beyond the mere physical and have understanding for what more is at play – to look at the energetic factor. A simple example, if I spill something I can get annoyed and frustrated. Or I can read into why I spilt it giving me a much greater understanding of why it happened. The same applies to bigger scenarios in life. There is always a reason and nothing in life is random. A wise man I know that goes by the name of Serge Benhayon has repeatedly said “Everything is because of energy”. When we accept and embrace that, life changes quite dramatically.

262. ‘Feeling a true response from our body and our responsibility in any given situation, rather than reacting emotionally, may be the way forward out of the chaotic mess mankind has gotten itself into.’ Our ability to respond rather than react comes from our willingness to be response-able in every moment.
     Brilliant comment Kylie, it truly is essential that we are able to respond and live in a way that makes that a certainty.

263. I really appreciate this blog because it is showing me clearly the relationship between awareness and responsibility. I am now going to work more on building my awareness and then using this responsibly. Thank you for this step up in my unfolding path.

264. “…what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different,…”
     So true, we often identify with a certain role or character that we create for ourselves with the help of what is reflected back to us from other people. We then craft an identity that defines us through which we introduce ourselves to the world and act in accordingly.
     Who we truly are is hidden behind that picture, that mask that we show to the outside and often we ourselves are so out of touch with this truth that we cannot immediately connect to it without first discarding some of the falsities. But it is worth it as who we truly are is divine.

265. The answer to the question is ‘hella not’! We are caught in the riptide of life that is dragging us further away from ourselves. Have we lost sight of the shore and do not realise the movement we are stuck in? By swimming sideways, we are allowed to stop and view where the motion has been dragging us and gives us a moment to choose which way we proceed.

     1. Spot on Steve, we need a moment to take stock, we need to be willing to have an awareness of the wake we are leaving behind and the waters we are headed into so that we can make a decision and change the way we are with each other and ourselves. As you have said it is about taking a moment to choose which way we proceed, AND which quality we proceed in.

266. To check out, distract or numb with the myriad of interests, entertainment and hobbies that we have created for ourselves is to delay being full present in each moment when we could be returning to who we truly are.

267. This word ‘Responsibility’, it is a very powerful word IF LIVED. Recently someone spoke with me about the Responsibility that I have to say what I feel/is going on for me in my relationships. This was an OUCH moment and a jolt as I could feel afterwards the anxiety in my chest area from all of the times I have NOT said what is there to be said. Therefore if it was affecting me in this way, what is it doing to others? What I do know is that it brings a lot of complication into our lives and our relationships when we are dishonest and this I have experienced many many times.

268. “Is it possible to employ business leaders based on the responsibility of how they live their lives, how they take care of themselves, their employees and the customers they provide goods and services to?” – what an amazing way of looking at industry and the leaders that we have in our companies. There is no doubt that this would bring a whole different quality to companies and therefore the products that we buy and how they support us.

269. The essence of responsibility could be said to be connection… If we truly connect with ourselves, our bodies, and each other, then responsibility for our actions thoughts words and deeds become so much more natural… In disconnection… It is so much easier to ignore consequences on all levels

270. For years I have stubbornly held onto a picture of myself as being not good enough which came from a comparison with a picture of how I thought I should be. The more I believed this the more it seemed to be confirmed by situtations in my life. With the constant reflection from Serge Benhayon and students of Universal Medicine of who we truly are, I see now, as you say Christopher, that ‘what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.’ Often it seemed easier to stay in the comfort of the old way of thinking, which gave myself an excuse not to commit to life but I am now seeing that this so-called ‘comfort’ is stifling and deadening me and I am no longer comfortable in it. Though I still feel resistance I know I cannot turn back so what is the point of delaying any further?

271. When what comes at us from outside does not match our picture of who we think we are or who we think others are or should be, we tend to react because our expectations are not met. Without these pictures we would be able to tune into the ‘true response from our body’ which means we would be able to respond to each situation as needed without the filter of our pictures warping the situation.

272. Being self deprecating and denigrating was simply a false modesty and a way to step back from being all I could be, from being fully me and fully responsible for my choices and behaviours.

273. Unfortunately yes, self abuse has become normal and often an expected way to be as a kind of ‘badge of honour’, how bad we are towards ourselves held as a weird kind of pride.

274. I have considered myself a responsible person. However i am noticing that I am pretty reactive when i feel someone else is not being responsible. When i react to something, I understand now that it is message that their may be more going on here and if I can go deeper, it is an opportunity to deal with my stuff.
     So my reaction to other peoples irresponsibility, has allowed me to uncover other things that i can work on, like taking responsibility for my reactions. And understanding that EVERYTHING happens for a reason and it is my responsibility to pay attention to all the amazing support that is constantly being offered.

275. What I loved when I read your blog Christopher was your honesty – ‘ the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.’ This is beautiful and something I very much relate to. I can find in myself an arrogance when I think I have reached somewhere, a kind of ‘pinnacle’ in terms of my evolution, yet this is complete illusion and is simply my resistance to going deeper with my responsibility.

     1. When we think we have reached the destination we envisioned in our mind, we are truly lost in our responsibility to our self.

276. Great title Christopher. It is easy to call out the irresponsibility that we see around us, but how willing are we to admit it might be reflecting back to us our own irresponsibility?

277. This is beautiful Christoph – as we are taking responsibility for ourselves, we take our part for the whole world as we are One, and we come from One.

278. ‘these reactions may well be indicative of the problem we are living with in our world today – one where we are not taking complete responsibility for our own lives, and our own health and well-being.’ – I know it sounds weird, but I had no idea what taking responsibility for my own life, health and well-being truly meant until I was nearly 50 years old. Learning to take responsibility has turned my world upside down in a way that I could not have imagined, and even though it has not always been a walk in the park, it has been and continues to be an amazing unfolding process of growing and understanding and my health and well-being has improved tenfold.

279. True responsibility is an absolute joy for living a responsible life ignites true purpose in accordance with and in connection with the greater whole.

280. I’ve noticed that I’m deliberately sabotaging the way I am with my body to be able to not take the full responsibility I could otherwise take. That is, to be more loving then I’m currently choosing. Under the false belief that ‘I can’t be myself, if I don’t feel my body’. Yes, it is natural to feel me inside my body when I’m truly caring and nourishing myself. But if I’m not fully with my body, this doesn’t mean that I don’t know when I am expressing me or not. We’re indeed masters of energies. So much so, that we fight the fact that we are. We are to take lovingly responsibility and use the support of others around us (physical and non physical) to support us whenever needed.

281. It is worrying that governments may not have the resources to pay pensions in the future… but perhaps if they spend less on military projects there will be more funds available. Many pensioners keep on working but not everybody has the good health to do so, although health is another matter that is within our own hands, not just the NHS.

282. Because we haven’t been brought up to be responsible, usually in most cases totally irresponsible. What I have come to realise it is a matter of retraining and re-configuring myself to consider the responsibility that is required in everything that I do. Thanks to Serge Benhayon and the teachings of the Ageless Wisdom I am now understanding why I would even consider responsibility is a necessity in life. We are part of so much more than what we care to imagine and that it is not just our immediate people that we connect with who is effected by our choices. It goes well beyond as we are part of a mighty Universe and to be apart of this we must be mighty as well and there lies the responsibility.

283. I used to react so much that I would quietly sit on the side-lines until my inner turmoil would pass. I now am learning to observe and not absorb so that I can respond in a loving way to a situation.

284. It is common for us to have an understanding of responsibility which includes looking after other people, a job, property or anything else outside of us – none of this can be done if we do not have self-responsibility first.

285. “… could it be possible for mankind to heal the hurts and atrocities on earth by taking responsibility for everything we do, every intention we have, our every thought, word and action…” Absolutely Yes!!!

286. Startling as it may initially seem, how often do we really clock that all the ways we look to “enjoy” ourselves are “ways of distraction to not feel our predicament and ways of checking out from who we are and what life is truly about?” As an avid TV and film watcher it was ages before I could admit that what I was really enjoying was numbing out and not feeling what had happened in my day! It was like an addiction that I couldn’t say no too, and this is just one example of many of how I didn’t/don’t want to feel what life was/is about.

287. “what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.” Yes I have come to this too and it is not always comfortable to feel. Being honest and seeing that we are not who we think we are, makes it easier to take the responsibility to make changes that support us in finding out who we truly are.

288. ‘Has self-abuse become normal?’ – Great question Christopher, and as you’ve shared we really need to discern whether our behaviours, pastimes and habits are supportive for us, or if we have developed them to ‘fit in’ and enjoin with the self-abuse that is reflected back to us by society.

289. I know in the days when I expected my doctor to fix my health issues, I just carried on feeling extremely un-well and frustrated. When I began to listen to my body and how it felt in relation to the many different choices made in my day, I began to correlate certain clues – eat chocolate, get a headache; eat pasta, feel intensely sleepy; eat ice cream, get raging rhinitis, stay up late, feel drained the next day and so my choices started to change. Taking responsibility for our selves is very simple, what makes a huge difference is being reminded that we are innately awesome and well worth taking immense care of and when we do, so many of our common ills just vanish. The big question then is are we prepared to live without the drama that our ills bring us?

290. Universal Medicine has taught me to first and foremost look at the energy I am choosing to align with. Where I am being irresponsible, what is the energy I have chosen? This is where true change occurs – on the energetic level. We can act responsibly but need to be very clear that true responsibility is in choosing the energy of our true essence first – otherwise we are simply playing a game with responsibility that looks good on the surface but is not really evolving us at all.

291. Just today I felt the effects of not taking responsibility for my part in a conversation and holding back. I could really see how it was like everyone was stuck in a time warp and going nowhere except around and around in the same stuff. Absolutely no evolution and no love.

292. We are able to poison our planet with ease as a direct result of being able to poison our bodies with ease. Whatever we can do to ourselves, we can do to another.

293. If time is a measurement of evolution, then a past-time is a way to pass evolution.

294. Universal Medicine inspired me to see the effect that every single one of my moves and choices makes on others. I still don’t hold this as a fact in every moment of every day – that is a work in progress, but this fact is the foundation of responsibility.

295. “what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.” I agree. We take on so many ideals and beliefs from a very early age, and can grow up even thinking that we like certain things because that is what we’ve always known, until we come to know oursleves in full and realise that we have taken on these ideals and beliefs from other people. There can be many layers to uncover, and the more that is revealed that we have taken on, the closer we get to know who we truly are.

296. ‘I discovered that it all comes down to feeling inadequate, having self-judgement and a lack of appreciation for myself, and to cover up for that I ‘blame’ women.’ Thank you for your honesty Christopher and I can feel how I too have blamed others, often men, for my own perceived inadequacies and how this cycle is so destructive to not only my self esteem but also my relationships particularly with men because there can be no true openness when I hold myself as lesser and react in inappropriate ways. Developing a deeper level of appreciation has been key for me to starting to change this behaviour and being open about my journey has opened up so much support. I am so grateful for everyone who is willing to share their experiences on these blogs because it supports us all to reconfigure ourselves and the way we interact with each other on a daily basis.

297. This is such a beautiful call to responsibility and the potential for humanity to live in brotherhood if we are willing to look at our part in the activity that leads to so much current disharmony. Challenging and confronting as it undoubtedly is it is so worth it for the gift of living in harmony and joy with ourselves and others without the need for distractions and free of the many self-abusive ways we have used to not feel what is truly going on.

298. I would answer your question with a ‘yes’ Christopher, pastimes are ways of distraction to not feel our predicament and ways of checking out from who we are and what life is truly about. Yet it is when I remind myself what life is truly about, it confirms the responsible choices are in fact the only way that lets my body feel vital and light, which is a very different feeling from distracted or entertained.

299. Well said Brendan, and like you have stated ‘Self-responsibility’ – it does have to start with us first and not expect others to do it for us or to start before we will.

300. Very true responsibility is not something that gets mentioned a lot but when it does it comes with a heaviness and strictness that wants us runaway from it or to abide, put the straightjacket on and do what you need to do. But, as we can see what Christopher describes and the many comments/conversations that have followed here, there is so much more to responsibility than we are aware of, and it allows us to see, understand and take our place in life/the universe.

301. I too have seen a reaction to the notion of being called to responsibility for our choices – that there is blame or judgment – but that can just be another way of avoiding the true call to responsibility. There is no blame or judgement in love, just a reminder that there is another way… one that we do know.

302. ‘Feeling a true response from our body and our responsibility in any given situation, rather than reacting emotionally, may be the way forward out of the chaotic mess mankind has gotten itself into.’ Our ability to respond rather than react comes from our willingness to be response-able in every moment.

303. The call towards the responsibility from our bodies particles is a surrender rather than a thought process, it is feeling the body each and every moment. Whenever we have a stop moment, we have to understand why we stop; if we don’t, the responsibility will come back to us in other areas of our lives.

304. There are many aspects to responsibility, all of which stem from the quality of relationship we choose to have with ourselves.

305. I love the honesty that is required to becoming more responsible. It unearths some home truths I have not wanted to admit but accepting this as a necessary part of the process and feeling the amazingness of who I am beneath all the irresponsibility I’ve chosen in life and no longer accepting these choices or the energy that accompanies them as who I am is a game changer.

306. Today is possibly the most well know day of the year for a significant number of the world’s population. A day when there is a bit of a theme to over do things and participate in things because it is a certain calendar day. I’m very aware my body doesn’t get the day off from feeling anything it is subjected to. I know this from past experience. This is a day for me to be super loving, tender, gentle and responsible with my body the same as every other day, except for the external emphasis that it is ‘ok’ to let loose.

307. Although I would never want you to cry, it was very touching and sweet that you did, when you realised some ways of thinking about women that you did not know you had. I can relate to this feeling of devastation upon realising something that we would never consciously choose had been chosen for a vey long time, purely out of the irresponsibility of not choosing any other way.

308. I like the title of this blog, we are not even asked to take responsibility for others or the whole, it is just the responsibility for our own lives and yet we are having a very hard time with that and instead of ‘getting to work’ we keep ourselves busy denying the responsibility we have.

309. “herein though lies the problem – what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.” And it is one hell of a massive problem at that. Our idea of responsibility is way off the mark and we need to face this if we want real change in our world.

310. I feel that responsibility is one of the things we could develop that would change our health significantly. I have read a lot of public health books and articles this year and many are concerned that asking people to be responsible is ‘blaming the victim’. As a health professional, I do not see responsibility in this false light that has been used in the past. Responsibility for our health is empowerment, it is getting to know and love your body and treat it with care. It is not giving your power away to experts, when your body knows what it needs. Responsibility for health professionals also means for them to do the same, be true role models and to not take on the responsibility for others health and choices. This would impact the high levels of burnout and even suicide in these ‘caring’ professions.

311. What we are not quick to acknowledge is that there is an ongoing tension to life and it is not just to do with the fast paced nature of modern life, but more the tension we carry within as a result of the way we carry ourselves. It makes sense then that we seek to avoid that tension in a myriad of different ways.

312. Do you ever get the feeling or sense to do or say something but then ignore it, dismiss it out of hand and then find something to distract you? I am honest this happens all the time. It’s like I am sent an email and detailed instructions from God, but I don’t reply and let the email go into the spam folder. So today I get strongly Christopher that responsibility is really made up of our ability to respond to God.

     1. God is always communicating to us and when we value our awareness above and beyond anything else we are taking the steps to deepening our relationship with Him.

313. When I read this line – “I now know that each time I do this for myself and step through these self-imposed, ingrained barriers, painful as they may be, I become more of the true man I am meant to be – and as I overcome each obstacle I am filled with love, joy, stillness and harmony.” I appreciated what true healing is – to allow yourself to feel what is going on (warts and all), take responsibility for your part, let it go and when you let it go, you allow yourself to become more of who you truly are. And that involves the qualities of love, joy, stillness and harmony.

314. The answer to your question… “Are we taking responsibility for our own lives?” would have to be a resounding “no” worldwide… otherwise the world in which we currently live would not be the mess it is! And it is important here to also recognise there are levels of responsibility, and it may look good on the outside but the intention may be for selfish reasons. Some may argue they are taking responsibility but is this in a ‘tick-the-box’ kind of way, of ‘doing good’, coming from a place of burden/resentment and ‘having’ to… or is the responsibility coming from a true purpose of loving harmony in brotherhood and commitment to all of humanity equally?

315. “But then there came a point when I began to look at the way I lived, my thought patterns, my ingrained behaviours, remarks and responses, my attitude towards others” – absolutely Christopher, and when you look at it like this, responsibility being in everything, our every intention, thought and action…. then even the way we sleep, eat, sit, walk, shop, dress and so on, all have an aligned responsibility for the chain effect they have on oneself but also due to our inter-connectivity, everyone else too including the universe. What responsibility this is.

     1. Well said Zofia, we will all come to remember that we are all responsible for each and every unfolding moment.

316. This is so inspiring to read…”… could there be a way of living responsibly as a true brotherhood, the brotherhood that mankind is truly here to be – founded in self-care, responsibility and truth?” What we all crave, deep within… Brotherhood, Harmony, Love and Truth.

317. This is a great question to ask Christopher… “…are we so habitually abusive to ourselves that we don’t even recognise it as self-abuse anymore?” It becomes ‘normal’ behaviour until someone who has moved on from that behaviour reflects to us a level of self-care and self-honouring that we recognise and know we also want – this is when it becomes so not normal and we bring loving change to our own lives. It takes one person to step into that responsibility, to make their changes, and it has a ripple effect on all those around them. The more of us who take responsibility, the more who will also step up and do the same – there is a responsibility in being responsible!

318. “the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am. The more I change this, the more I sense a resistance in my body, at the same time knowing that I cannot turn back and return to more irresponsibility as I know that would be so self-destructive as the particles of my body now expect so much more from me, and rightly so.” Taking responsibility changes us and our lives in so many ways and who we are becomes so much more than we could have ever thought we are. What a great sharing and inspiration.

319. I also have felt the same resistance to being more responsible as you describe Chris…it makes sense to take those steps of responsibility but can feel, at times, a stubbornness to taking them. The only way that has enabled me to get through the stubbornness is to feel how my choices affect my body.

     1. Rachel, I too love how the honesty of the body shows up the lies we are being fed through our thoughts.

320. As we do take the steps to become more responsible it can’t help but show us the choices that have not been made with that same commitment. I can’t help but appreciate the way responsibility brings new awareness and the opportunity for greater understanding and humbleness.

     1. To look at what hadn’t been the moment before instead of appreciating the step we have just taken is very much what we learn, so I very much appreciate what you are saying here Vicky, as it allows us the space and grace to take more responsibility with the understanding that our awareness will sharpen and thus we start to see more and with seeing more we will of course see how irresponsible we have been but likewise how much more there is to life and how much more there is to explore.

321. It can really be felt from this blog that responsibility is a constant commitment to living in accordance to our awareness and not turning away from this; a constant unfolding and process of self-development.

     1. I agree Michael and it is also about being consistent with responsibility – which is something i am certainly developing as I can live it here and there but as yet have not been able to lay it solidly in my foundations so that I am consistently responsible. Something to work on for 2017!

322. This is a great blog, it is exposing our irresponsibility. That is in store much that we do, all our behaviours we use to not live that what we are meant to be, and evolve to.

323. Wow, you have posed a lot of questions to get all of us to start feeling what is truly going on. There is more irresponsibility being expose, as we start to be more responsible.

324. ‘Why do we simply accept all of the above as normal, when we know it to be harmful and untrue?’ – This is an interesting question when we all know that the examples above are simply the tip of the iceberg. The corruption, the lies, the greed, the harm, the hate, the indifference, the irresponsibility and the abuse goes nonstop not only in our societies but within ourselves. WHY is indeed a pertinent question if we want true change.

325. ‘It has been a strange journey so far… the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am. The more I change this, the more I sense a resistance in my body, at the same time knowing that I cannot turn back and return to more irresponsibility’ Love how you say this Christopher . I have found responsibility to be a deepening relationship with myself that always goes to the next level.

326. These figures are extraordinary: ‘According to figures released by Oxfam, in 2015 the richest 62 people in the world owned as much wealth as the poorer half of the world’s population, and the richest 1% of the world’s population owned more wealth that the remaining 99%. (5)’ In other words, there is plenty of wealth to go round, there are plenty or resources somewhere on the planet, and if we can all work together, the wealth and resources could be shared and distributed. But in order for this to happen, we have to first get rid of competition, greed, jealousy, arrogance, comparison, competition, the need to be recognised, the need for reward, the need to be liked, and all that will take a few centuries yet. It starts with each one of us.

327. “Why do I look at women the way I do, why do I objectify, why do I consider them lesser and why do I judge?” This is such good question Christopher. The belief that women are less is so ingrained in society that we all walk around believing it on a subconscious level but not really being aware of it. When we start to uncover the layers of ingrained beliefs that we hold personally it can be quite a shock to discover and feel what is there. It is a collective belief that we have taken on. By dealing with it personally we contribute to the deconstruction of this belief on a collective level.

328. To consider that every time we overeat, or eat the wrong thing, or check out on a screen or social media that we are being irresponsible is another whole way of looking at life. What really strikes me is how we don’t really count every moment as precious, or that this life is really important, and that we are actually responsible for our lives and what we are being offered here.

329. If we all started taking responsibility for our own lives then imagine what would happen the our world would be – i bet you a million dollars that with out trying to fix the world the world would naturally sync into a harmonious flow. The sooner we all start living a responsible life with absolutely everything that we do then magic will happen before our very own eyes.

330. I would say self abuse has become extremely normalised. Growing up, especially as a teenage disregard was so cool. This included smoking, drinking, and placing your body into ‘unsafe’ and unnatural situations.. all to get a bit of a elation.

331. I love this break down and do very true – are they passing the time or wasting and wishing our lives away with entertaining distractions. If we are needing the distractions from life then wouldn’t it make sense to look at how we are in life that we are trying not to feel. That is simple with commitment to change.

332. I totally agree Ariana. If the next steps to taking responsibility for any one person are not real then they are very hard to relate to and make the very needed changes.

333. Perhaps we are taking responsibility to the best of our knowledge of what life is and what life is about. The issue may be that we have chosen to know so little about life.

334. There are many distractions in life to take us away from feeling our true responsibility, it makes it very easy to live with our heads down and get through life being half asleep. When we open our eyes to how we can live in full responsibility of our lives, there is a process to go through of realising things are not great but we cannot continue to bury our heads any longer. By ignoring it, it doesn’t go away, it gets buried deeper so it is great to start and change the flow.

335. I too am embarking on the process of committing to “step through these self-imposed, ingrained barriers”, and it is without judgement or reaction but a willingness to learn and free myself from old ways, that have kept me less than who I truly am.

336. Responsibility in the true sense is rarely mentioned yet it does get mentioned in a very watered down way in education or later in life such as being responsible for following the rules or handing in assignments etc. but very rarely is it mentioned about our quality, our actions and how we are with others, when really this should be the foundation.

337. Why should we take any responsibility or lives! If it feels good, tastes good just do it! ‘Just do it’ is a famous product slogan that promotes pushing our boundary’s! Have we, because of denying and relinquishing our responsibilities to others… just forgotten them? Without claiming our responsibilities we are but another empty vessel on the bus.

338. “The trouble is amusement, entertainment, pastimes and hobbies are all the embodiment of irresponsibility and as I removed these, the real meaning of responsibility was uncovered, and it was much, much more than I ever realised.” Christopher, I too am realising the same thing. When we start to peel back the initial layers of responsibility, we discover that these layers go much deeper that we would have ever imagined. It is an ever ongoing process, and one that cannot be over looked however much we try to avoid it.

339. All the questions you pose, Christopher, lead us back to ponder on what is going on, what is the way we live in today within humanity and what is the truth of it. A great reflection of where we are at in the moment and where our way heads to if we are willed to take responsibility.

340. ‘the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am’… its an interesting sentence Christopher. It hints at what we keep hidden from ourselves, conveniently so we don’t have to take a good look at how we are in the world, or for that matter the state that the world is truly in.

341. There is an amazing feeling of freedom that occurs the more we reclaim responsibility for our selves. That constant feeling of being at the mercy of external factors and forces begins to diminish. If I get sick, its because of what I have been: eating/drinking, getting stressed about, ignoring, getting to bed late and all my ‘work hard, party hard’ choices. It’s not because ‘there is a bug going round’ or ‘because I spend too long on the computer’ or any of the myriad of other external causes I might choose to blame. When I really address the actual causative factors, then I empower myself to resume the quality control of my life and hence my health and vitality. Its not rocket science just a very simple equation: if I want to feel well then I need to take care of myself well and the bottom line is we are all worth taking immense care of.

342. It is a great question and very revealing. It is so easy to blame others for our woes and not take responsibility – yet when we look back we can see that we had a choice in each moment and so have created whatever state we are currently in. It is then and now up to us to resurrect ourselves back into the true glory that we are. No blame of ourselves or anyone else – simply learning and moving forward – back to the love that we are. And yes with this there is a responsibility to also show others what is possible and that there is far more to life than purely what the eyes can see.

343. ‘Could it be that responsibility is the way forward?’ I definitely feel that this is it. That as and when we each step up and take responsibility for our choices and the impact of these, it will be with ease that we turn the tide on the chaos our stats clearly show we are currently living in.

344. True response comes from our body everything else is a reaction. Therefore how important is it that we are fully present in our body and being aware of our every movement….now this is taking responsibility

345. One of the greatest responsibilities that we have is to stand up for truth. This occurs in every moment and by not doing it we create the world that we are now living in.

     1. And one of the greatest surprises I have had is that truth and love, deep down, are the same.

346. A true unfolding on the responsibility called for that opens us up for more and more in every field in our lives and the planet we live on let alone the universe we are all part of ultimately.The layers to unfold are buried deep and much work is needed by each of us that allows for a lightening and vitality of everything ultimately to be reimprinted.

347. If you talk to people about what they do and how their life runs, their answers can seem matter of fact and honest and clear. But when you measure this up to the minute, to the clock, it seems to me that much of what we say is not actually fact. We can if we wish, continue to live in parallel universes which we prefer, but our body, the environment, our society will relentlessly show what is real. If we stopped as a world and truly conducted a stock take today – what is the state we would discover? I feel as you show Christopher it would be a very unpleasant reality we would find. But like a patient with rotten teeth is it not better to address this fact now rather than continue to eat the damaging sweet treats of self-delusion any longer?

348. From the outside many might think that I am not a very responsible person as I no longer give to charities or help my friends out in the non stop way that I used to. But from the outside you can’t see that I am taking responsibility of my every thought.

349. Interesting reading your 8th research link. I had never heard of brominated oils before, and didn’t realise that MSG had so many names, ‘natural flavours’ being one that would certainly fool many of us. I will be checking the labels more thoroughly now.

     1. I agree Jeanette – checking labels is simply a necessary life insurance.

350. I know from my own experience that the times when I have thought that I was being my most responsible, were actually the tines when I was being my least responsible.

351. Most of us live as recklessly as pirates on the high seas.

352. ‘Could it be that responsibility is the way forward?’ I feel this is a definite yes Christopher. If we all took responsibility for all our actions and choices, our world would be a different place. When we look around, irresponsibility is mostly celebrated and as a result of this we are seeing more and more irrational behaviors, illness and disease, corruption and the list goes on. Learning to take responsibility has certainly supported me to see how irresponsible I was previously living and now I embrace responsibility more and more, it’s actually been very empowering.

353. Your question, has self abuse become normal… YES, it sure has, to the point that people are self abusing with out any awareness that it is even abuse in the first place.

354. Reading your comprehensive blog made me realise I have only touched the surface of what I have been allowing myself to see of what actually goes on in the world. My awareness has expanded enormously but there is so much more to not turn a blind eye to. I appreciate the awakening quality of your writing and I am slowly working my way through the links you shared.

355. I’ve been distracting myself with a milliion things, without even being aware of the fact that I was actually distracting me from me. I would have had a thousand words, excuses, reasons why I did the things I did, but never would I be honest that there was actually a deeper factor at play: missing M E. Me as the lovely, cosy, sweet, tender, communicative, playful, sacred man that I am. Because these are qualities that belong to me. And whenever I don’t feel them within me, I’m actually not in connection with me.

356. My responsibility has been lacking in the expression department of late, holding back when I need to express, and this is really highlighted for me now. I am catching it after the fact but still feeling how it feels in my body and how it is anti-evolutionary for all. I can see that it is tied up with the being nice and polite belief which I have used for most of my life. I can also see that I have set my life up in this way so that I won’t speak my truth or the truth and hold myself back in this way. It’s time to express what is there to express and learn to love the squirm that can come, as with true expression, I am saying yes to my own love, to my soul, to evolution.

357. Quite revealing when you write that “I cannot turn back and return to more irresponsibility as I know that would be so self-destructive as the particles of my body now expect so much more from me, and rightly so”. There comes a point when we stop being self-abusive because the body sends very clear and immediate signals that it’s not okay and making us ill, no matter how ‘normal’ that behaviour might have looked previously. Makes me wonder whether ‘normal’ is a cult that we are all in until we see through it and jump ship.

358. You paint a very dire and rather absurd picture of what life has become on this planet Christopher. Many people don’t want hear about these statistics, but the fact is, they’re all alarmingly true, and all because we are choosing to not stop, feel and connect to who we truly are and take responsibility. We may ask ‘what can I do to change the world?’ – STOP and FEEL and get honest about what is truly going on.

359. “It has been a strange journey so far… the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am” – how true such an unfolding occurs Christopher, once it’s recognised in one area of our life, we see it’s there in all others too to coat it with a thick layer, and, how bold and strong it is to ‘stay with it’ .. and go on remove more of that layer, to deeper reveal and hence to rightly-activate what is needed.

     1. This part you’ve highlighted Zofia is what I have experienced too. So true, once we are willing to take responsibility in one area of our life we begin to see and feel how this supports us. This then inspires us to be more open to taking responsibility for everything else and take it a step further, as there is always an opportunity for us to expand and grow.

360. When I pondered on what you have shared here Christopher Murphy, I can feel that the power of being consciously present with my body is my most basic and effective tool for living responsibly. In fact it is the only way in which mankind can do so. There is no other way when we stop to honestly consider responsibility. And yet, how many of us know and understand what being present in our bodies means? Your article and my increased awareness because of it, is all important in breaking the current mould of irresponsibility in our world.

361. What an eye opening post Christopher, the depth you’ve gone to explore the world we live in, and the way it is how it is, is a study that brings us up back round, again and again in regards the issue of personal and global collective Responsibility…..A scratched record that will not cease playing it’s tune until self-love, and deeply caring about the quality we’re living life in takes precedence, so as to hold ourselves and all others by the same quality.

362. “Why do we engage in violence and hatred of our fellow brothers and sisters? ” we consider this normal, ever day since growing up the news was filled with abuse and violence against our fellow human beings, it was the norm, what went on yet shows no aspect of love or responsibility. When we are responsible for ourselves we are then responsible for all others.

363. What is fascinating to realize is the body accepts what ever we do – until it reaches a point where it can’t. It never asks for the treatment it receives it simply communicates back whether it is supportive or not. So whatever information is feed into us to choose anything harmful – be it something ingested or an activity, it’s always worth remembering that this information comes through the mind, it isn’t the natural intelligence of the body. This to me is the start of taking responsibility for how I choose to live.

364. Wow Christopher, you have clearly, succinctly and truthfully summed up the grim state we are in and the fact that we are here due to our own choices. This is s very important summary calling for very clear cut and definitive solutions. A great piece of philosophical, politics for individuals, groups, nations and all of us alike.

365. Christopher, this is awesome – “the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.”. This is very similar to something I discovered as a teenager marvelling about the world and realising that the more I learned and the more I knew, the more I realised how much there still is to know….It is realising the magnitude of what lies beyond our narrow version of intelligence or knowing or responsibility that is indeed very humbling.

366. The steps towards self-responsibility are simple when we take them gently, tenderly and lovingly toward our self (and everyone else) with no running critic or judgment. Just like we observe and lovingly support a baby learning to walk. We innately know what to do from our bodies; it is the mind that will present anything and everything else to interfere with the fragility of the re-connection.

367. When we understand how interconnected we all really are, it changes completely what responsibility is. The really fascinating thing with this is the more consideration we give to this the more we realise how supportive responsibility is to ourselves and to everyone.

368. Oh how we humans are our own worst enemies by not learning from the past and not changing all the things that obviously do not work. There is always something, someone or some part of ourselves that can’t resist throwing a spanner in the works, so harmony is always out of reach. Is this what we were really given free will for?

     1. It appears we are using our free will to take us to the brink before we wake up and realise that living in such a disregarding way, both with ourselves and others, is NOT the answer.

369. ‘I thought that as a man I was very gentle, tender and respectful to women, but recently through looking deeper into my way of being I have realised that although true on one level, there lies deeper an arrogance and disrespect for women that I have to deal with.’ I am sometimes fascinated by the insidious beliefs that lurk deep within. I only recently realised that my acceptance of the abusive ways of men came because I had also been running deep down with the belief that women are lesser. This certainly stems from the lack of self worth I carried as a girl and it is easy to see from this perspective how this lack of self worth (often unacknowledged) of women feeds this cycle. For me this is responsibility in action. If as women we were ready and willing to see ourselves not as victims of men’s prejudices, but to understand that we allow them because we have reduced ourselves ourselves then we could easily begin to redress inequality and discrimination!

370. This is a great blog as the questions you raise are asking us to step out of the box and look beyond our own man made constructed version of life, and showing us that there is more… Kind of like those early astronomers who discovered that the world was not the centre of the universe, and that the sun did not revolve around us, but in fact it was our planet that revolved around it… Today, in the 21st century, its seems as if collective human behaviour continues to act as if life revolves around us, that the human being is still at the centre of it all, but, from the facts and figures you share, the fact is, that our life revolves around our choices and responsibility, which determines our health, our wellbeing, our relationships and whether we evolve or not. Responsibility.. this is much bigger and consequential than we care to consider…

371. Responsibility comes with Responsibility! And I am only just starting to understand and slowly apply this myself. It is a word often used by society in a loose way. You often hear people claiming they are Responsible . But if you read between the lines quite often they are not, it is just a used word . Responsibility = Consistency simple as.

372. ‘But then there came a point when I began to look at the way I lived, my thought patterns, my ingrained behaviours, remarks and responses, my attitude towards others.’ – This should be top priority in every family and every school – supporting children to understand the importance of energetic responsibility.

373. Something beautiful about taking responsibility is that there is no end goal and it doesn’t really require giving up things to be more ‘good’.

374. It’s interesting that as we drop layers of protection we discover attitudes underneath that we didn’t know we had. The more honest we get the more we are called to be even more honest. Sometimes I am not ready to admit something that is plainly obvious, and I can go into denial in the hope that I can avoid it, but ultimately I know I will have to deal with it eventually. It’s just a matter of time.

375. “Why are there always wars? Over the last 3400 years only 268 years have been without war.” – that is staggering to consider that humankind has been in a state of war most of the time which shows that we are not evolving at all as a species.

376. Serge Benhayon has presented that the biggest scourge we face as a mankind is comfort – a comfortable life, in whatever way/s we tailor life to be comfortable for us. But humanity is cycling around and around in chaos and any comfortable life we might be living is an illusion. There is so much to be and do. How can we sit comfortably by while humanity continues to suffer?

377. I feel at the same point here too Christopher..’ the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.’ It’s a bit like the Shakespeare quote of the more I know, the more I realise how much I don’t know. It is very easy to point the finger at others when we actually need to turn to ourselves and look at our own choices we have taken and responsibility we have shirked throughout our lives.

378. ‘we have and make all our own choices’ – This is very true. No matter what’s happening outside of us, in the end we make our own choices and govern what kind of life we are going to lead. We can be influenced by other people or inspired by them, but no one can choose for us.

379. We’re definitely losing our markers of what true health, vitality and responsibility are and agreed, the moment we choose to pick up the reins again, we realize that there are layers and layers of responsibility to reclaim, but I know from personal experience it is our only salvation. I know that ditching the TV, the junk food, the commonly accepted poisons we like to indulge in and getting to bed early has established a level of health and vitality never previously known in my life. And by choosing to take responsibility for my choices and actions, the quality of my marriage and relationships with people in general has gone through a complete 360 revolution. At times it can be challenging and painful, but it is extremely worth it for all our sakes.

380. I particularly like the fact that in this article ‘responsibility’ has not been reduced to what I just saw in the dictionary: “duty to deal with something or control over someone” and “being accountable or to blame for something”! The expanded and empowered way of living with responsibility in the whole of our life is indeed something that will enhance every area of society.

381. You raise such an important question here Christopher and a very topical one given the time of year. I have had quite a few people say to me over the last few weeks, how they have either been out for the evening and over ate or drank too much, or that is what they will be doing over Christmas, knowing that they won’t feel great afterwards, but will still be doing it. It is extraordinary how we do things even when we know our body is not going to respond well, and I include myself in this. We always seem to be able to find an excuse as to why it’s ok to do it anyway. But therein lies the responsibility, as in truth excuses are just a get out clause for not being responsible.

382. Taking responsibility is an enormous topic and one it seems we have avoided at all costs. On every level of life, it is startling to see how collectively we have failed…and oh how easy it is to want to blame others, but I can see there is no taking responsibility for myself here and seeing where in this I have contributed!

383. Your lists of facts clearly show our response to modern life… is to stick our heads in the sand. Yes, responsibility is the cure!

384. in the UK part of the driving test involves knowing the Highway Code. One of the first statements in the Highway Code is “Ignorance of a law is not an excuse”. It’s the same with responsibility.

     1. Yes Otto, Being aware or not aware of Universal laws does not change the fact that there is an effect to our every choice. We will need to wake up to responsibility eventually in order to get out of the cycle of pain and instability we are all in… so why not start now?

        I know now that as painful as it is allowing myself to see how far from my heart I have let myself go, there is a great sense of purpose in working to get back to a true and responsible way of being and living.

     2. Custom laws have the same as far as I know – can’t import prohibited items. Seems pretty simple we could choose to adopt the same level of responsibility across the board from the manufacturers of harmful products to the consumer. This would highlight responsibility on everyone’s part.

385. I too had no idea how irresponsible I was being until I started to look at responsibility. In fact I would say that the revelations of my irresponsibility are still coming at a pretty steady flow! At times these revelations can really sting – irresponsibility is a tough one to feel because there is, by definition, no wriggle room – but the acceptance of responsibility has brought a true purpose to my life that I always craved.

386. A very important part of responsibility is to notice what we are doing right, to appreciate it and to be able to live and work from that appreciation. We are not perfect but it is important to be all that we are – it is also quite joyful.

387. It is a long way to return to that world that is waiting for us, a world where we all will live responsible lives. For sure we will all arrive at that point sooner or later as it is our natural way to go.

388. My father would go fishing for hours on end at weekends and before work in the early morning by himself, sometimes I would go with him as this was one of the few times I got to hang out with him. This was his escape from the world, he would just sit in his little boat out on the ocean with his fishing rod…fishing.

389. Every-thing is either an ‘away-from’ or a ‘towards’, it is our responsibility to discern which category every-thing in our lives falls into and to work towards getting rid of the ‘away-from’ category entirely. What we are always either going away-from or towards is ourselves and as we are the living fabric of the One Life, then if we are going away from ourselves, we are also going away from God.

390. We all know deep inside we are not taking complete responsibility for our own lives, and our own health and well-being.This is a great blog sharing everything so clearly where we are as humanity and the love and appreciation we could bring to our lives in every way and the whole world can benefit and heal and grow from this.

391. Self-Abuse has totally become the accepted way of treating ourselves and seeing others do this to themselves without any questions or support to not have this in our lives. Sometimes it can be clear as day to see someones else in a position of self-abuse yet we don’t saying anything because we know deep down that it would be calling out and exposing our own abuse towards ourselves. This cycle of dismissing and ignoring what is really going on fosters the normality of Self-Abuse that is a global plague.

     1. Wow. Saying it as it is. Thank you, Natalie. Self abuse is a global plague that keeps us all in a cycle of dismissal and disregard. When we build back responsibility into our lives we build back respect, worth, tenderness and care… these ingredients work wonders on our relationship with ourselves and life.

392. Re reading your blog Christopher I am reinforcing my need to look closely at what my responsibility to myself an the world is. A true need for me to continue to put these uncomfortable questions up to really look deeply at. Thank you!

393. What Christopher you have done very well here, is to place the fact of who we truly are next to the fact of our behaviours, and by this it is clear to see that the two do not always matchup. But I have to say that for a long, long time I have not understood what this term ‘who we truly are’ actually means. I can say the words, and think that I do know, but the reality is that I only partially understand the gravitas of these words, and from this I get the sense that there is a deep deep responsibility that we as a human race are avoiding, and so when we do come to understand who we truly are, that responsibility will manifest to its greatest point.

     1. This is a great understanding Shami, and and an great point to ponder on, what is it that responsibility that we collectively are avoiding? Could it be that we all are equally responsible for the mess our societies are in and that it is also our responsibility to undo all the atrocities we have created by living our irresponsible lives for that long? And if this is so I do understand that this is not an easy pill to swallow.

     2. This is a great comment Shami – for surely our ultimate and primary responsibility is to know who we truly are. Without that is it possible to be entirely responsible?

     3. Yes Shami, ‘who-we-truly-are’ is not matching up with our behaviors and the answer to this massive, pain causing problem is in Christophers’s blog: “The amazing thing is that when we are consciously present and connected to our inner-most essence we are actually harmonious and full of joy, and responsibility is a natural way of living.”

        Well said Christopher; this blog is a true message from the heart and a service to humanity.

394. There is so much in this blog. I absolutely agree that the more responsible you become the more aware of how irresponsible you really are. It’s like you are in a fog of ignorance until you take the steps towards responsibility. Being more aware of your irresponsibility isn’t a bad things as the more you embrace it, the more natural it feels and the more responsibility can be interchanged with the word love – for self and everything else.

395. Reading the first paragraph of this blog, I would say that generally speaking there are not people wondering why we do all those things like fishing or reading a ‘good book’ that have become so normal in out lives. Before I found Universal medicine and re- discovered my body and ability to feel the deeper version of me and the world we live in, I would have felt these were perfectly good ways to pass the time. When you miss yourself and don’t feel a bigger purpose, you need fillers, escapes and rewards to make it feel worthwhile.

     1. You are quite right. They feel completely normal except that, over time, a creeping emptiness set in and they became less enjoyable and sometimes needed to be replaced.

396. We do seem to go to great extremes of behaviours with complicated hobbies or intricate pastimes to distract ourselves from feeling what is truly happening. When we observe this, we don’t like to see how irresponsible we have been and you are absolutely right here Christopher, we hide from the truth because we find that ..’what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth’. This can take some acceptance.

397. There is something in the emotional response that seems key to changing our ways and removing ourselves from the mess of the wars, violence, illness and disease that plague our world. Only in a non emotional outplay can we respond with the level of love required to change things. On a personal level being caught in emotion makes me less rational and less able to communicate effectively.

398. There is so much in this blog. I absolutely agree that the more responsible you become the more aware of how irresponsible you really are. It’s like you are in a fog of ignorance until you take the steps towards responsibility. Being more aware of your irresponsibility isn’t a bad things as the more you embrace it, the more natural it feels and the more responsibility can be interchanged with the word love.

399. It’s remarkable how much we live with in our bodies and because it is always there we accept it as the norm when the body has the intelligence to tell us what is exactly we are feeling and what to act on next.
     “If we then focused more upon this natural way of living, maybe we could regain what ‘normal’ truly is, i.e. being continuously consciously present within our bodies, deeply connected to ourselves in everything we do?”

400. I just read an interview of a woman who was a sex slave for European’s elite from the age of 5 to 11. She was spared being killed at 11 on a block where many children before her had died. Many of these elite were businessmen and politicians and said one was a royal family member. These are the people that represent us. So when you raise your questions about having a politician and businessmen that we have that we choose based on the integrity in which they live their lives, I say yes. Universal Medicine is re-connecting us to the fact that we can all read energy and this is the tool that will save humanity from the rot it is in. Because once we re-connect to that, we cannot be fooled by words and we will know when our leaders & our everyday people are part of such horrors and call them to account.

     1. Thank God for a Universal Medicine.

401. Thank You Christopher Murphy for a detailed account about this word RESPONSIBILITY and your questions to the world to consider. It is a fact our world is a mess and nothing is really working if we are to be honest.
     Your blog confirms this with the facts you have simply shared.

     Most of us do not like the word RESPONSIBILITY because it is asking us to be accountable for every choice we make in every moment so there is no blame game. Its a tall order and not one we want to make as we are somehow comfortable in our uncomfortableness. With little or no regard for our precious body and how we treat it every single day we act surprised when things go horribly wrong. Our medical systems are facing bankruptcy and we keep hearing that ‘lifestyle choices’ are contributing to a lot of our ill health.
     So WHY is it that we are not paying attention, taking note and questioning life and what is going on in our families, community, country and the world?

     Once upon a time I was a medical and welfare statistic, draining the resources of my country. Today, thanks to the teachings of Serge Benhayon, I am a live that word RESPONSIBILITY to the best of my ability day in and day out. I do not have an off switch. My life is far from perfect but it is real. My commitment to life is unwavering and my dedication to simply get on with it and inspire others remains consistent. I feel that word CONSISTENCY is key. Living a life of True Responsibility is a life of true Consistency.

402. “Is there anyone out there truly taking a deeper look at why”.. I felt to ponder on this specific point as in simple terms there is not many people that really is looking at why we do a whole host of things, in a way that considers the quality of energy first and foremost. Where Universal Medicine comes in is to bringing life back to truth which is quality of energy first, from there and only there I feel we can start to understand why we get hooked on screens, gamble away, drink, take drugs, have abusive relationships and so on. For in truth that makes no sense to the intelligent beings we are supposed to be.

403. From my understanding of how I have dealt with life in the past and at times still do, plus an observation of humanity – most of us avoid responsibility for how we feel and reflect this out so quickly we really think that the problems are all caused by another source or force. Taking true responsibility for how we feel is a foundational step towards harmony amongst us all.

404. Very powerful blog Christopher, we really do need to wake up to these facts you have pointed out, for the world cannot survive much longer at the rate that illness and disease is skyrocketing and war and the horrible way we treat each other. Waking up to brotherhood and getting out of the self centred, self absorbed and self serving way that most of us live by and making life about brotherhood and not about how much material possessions and cash we have is essential to our survival.

405. I am the same on this one, the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible i know I am, its like the more I know, the more I know I don’t know.

406. I love your point about how the more responsible we become the more the particles in our body enjoy it and want more of it. This is because responsibility and love is one and the same thing. The ability to respond (responsibility) to any given situation rather than react to it supports the body enormously because when we react we are using our life force to go against the body.

     1. Completely. I have recently been learning a huge amount about reaction and am beginning to see and feel what happens on a very physical level to the body. Within that one choice – to react or not – everything changes (get the Heart App on your phone if you want practical proof!)

407. Any time we point the finger to something outside of ourselves, we are avoiding responsibility. Responsibility is taking full ownership that we are our own creators of what plays out for us in life via the choices we make that are past of present. An understanding that nothing happens by chance.

408. I love the examples you have offered of a world built on responsibility: electing politicians, employing business leaders and living as parents with responsibility for self and then others. In fact the ability to live this quality and inspire the same in others is far more significant and invaluable than all the mental qualifications and verbal dexterity that we have been holding on such high regard.

409. The crazy thing is that the reality we defend and excuse (in order to avoid responsibility) is not the reality we even want to live in.

     1. And in fact it is not our natural reality – it is so far away from who we truly are yet we can think it is normal because the abuse etc has become so common. Common does not equal normal and definitely does not mean that something is natural to us. For me normal is that which fits with how natural, content and surrendered in my body feels.

410. Blame is a big one and not something we often relate to reaction but it is very closely related – and it is an avoidance to being responsible for our own quality.

411. The more responsibility we ask for the more we get to see and feel how irresponsible we have been and how painful that irresponsibility is. Painful yes but we do grow from it and for me I feel that appreciating what happens, the ripple affects I create when I am more responsible, helps support not running away from responsibility. The more I appreciate the more I value it and the less I feel the need to run away and react.

412. ‘What we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth…’ I love this line Christopher. Once we all wake-up and realise who we truly are and choose to take the path of responsibility, then the world will begin to change, not for the ‘better’ but to return to a way of life lived in brotherhood, then we will be able to take the next step on the path and return to who we TRULY are. This is the kind of writing that should be printed in the press, one that speaks truth and exposes much of the world for is irresponsible behaviour, lack of integrity and disharmonious way of being. Your journey back to you is also very inspiring, once you realised it is not just about ticking all the boxes (and I’ve been there too!) it goes much deeper than that, and that is where the true responsibility and challenges begin.

413. Reading these statistics I can’t help but see as a whole we are living beyond our means, and hence understand why anxiety is on the rise.

     1. Totally agree. Living well beyond our means through greed, over indulgence and other extreme behaviour.

414. It’s an interesting observation you make Christopher, that “the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.” Choosing to take responsibility means we are willing to see what we have been choosing to not see before, and so the once-protected irresponsible behaviours and thoughts are revealed to us, we can then bring changes with this awareness.

415. A great blog Chris, as with all the issues abundant and becoming more prevalent in our world, from health, political, cultural and religious differences, it is time to start asking these questions to raise awareness of the disharmony that is happening and not for this all to become the ‘norm’.

416. “Feeling a true response from our body and our responsibility in any given situation, rather than reacting emotionally, may be the way forward out of the chaotic mess mankind has gotten itself into.” This would be a huge shift for the world, and one that would make an enormous difference not only to our own lives but also to the lives of many.

417. what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.
     This is very true Christopher, as until I met Serge Benhayon and started attending his workshops and courses, I felt like I was just a destiny pawn going along the track of life. Little did I know I could choose to be so much more than I had previously be living as and accepting about myself, and that choice has been there for me all along.

418. Our responsibility goes beyond just this life. The YOLO (you only live once) generation is predicated on a lack of responsibility…do it now because you only live once. But knowing and understanding that we do come back to do it (life) again and again means we really do have a great deal of responsibility on our hands.

419. This has been a new understanding of responsibility in learning that it comes down to every thought and intention, that there are no secrets or time away from this but also that it comes with a huge amount of love.

420. Great article Christopher, reading this I can feel how crazy it is that in society we continue our self abusive ways ignoring these facts; ‘Self-inflicted illness, disease, alcohol and drug abuse are pressing Health Services around the world to the verge of bankruptcy, some already bankrupt’.

421. A lot of people do take responsibility for their lifes. But they’re doing it from the perspective of doing. The identification that we are just a functioning vehicle is very strong. We listen, see, taste, touch and smell from this perspective! We then experience a feeling of unsettlement and from there settle for comfort behind a wall of protection. True caring is allowing ourselves to also feel the choices we’re making. And if these choices match what we feel inside. How beautiful is this!!

422. Once we uncover and reveal how irresponsible we are in life the more we are able to see there is no end to responsibility and the deeper levels we can go to.

423. The statistics you share are quite shocking. We are indeed in a mess, and if we continue on this trajectory our future does not look very good.

424. ‘what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different’ – True Christopher. Our own ideals and beliefs about who we’re supposed to be, what a woman or man should behave/look like and how to be as a father, mother, daughter, cleaner, receptionist, accountant, teacher and all our other roles can block us from knowing how we’d truly behave and who we really are.

425. Yes indeed, Christopher. Responsibility is the way forward, as it reminds us of the bigger picture, of how everything we do affects everyone, which must mean that we all belong to the one source.

426. Each one of us is an equal piece of God that we have to take responsibility for, if we don’t then there will always be a piece of God that is left open to abuse.

     1. As I read your simple, yet profound words Alexis I came to the understanding that yes, you are absolutely right, but for many, having the conscious awareness that we are all an equal piece of God may be a million miles away from the truth for them, and even though they may deny it, hide away from it, avoid it or simply numb or distract themselves from feeling it, one day they will come back to it, but not without the reflection of those that have woken up to the truth and feel it in their bones, and therein lies the responsibility to reflect to others by our every thought, word or deed. Responsibility indeed!

     2. This is a responsibility reality check worth taking note of – if I were asked would I intentionally abuse God the answer would be No. But indirectly I can be causing the same disturbance if my choices are irresponsible – irresponsible I’m discovering means not living all of my essence and reflecting this to humanity.

427. You really do highlight the “insight into the mess we are in…” This is startling to see it on the screen Christopher and yet as you say we accept this all as being normal, (when it is so far from our normal as can be.) We have given up and accepted the unacceptable.

428. ‘the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.’ – Brilliantly put – I can very much relate to this. When we start to truly take responsibility, it opens up for deeper awareness into deeply ingrained and ignored patterns.

429. I love the challenge and inspiration of this article. Picking responsibility up and bringing it into our lives to explore and develop a relationship with it; getting honest about the thoughts that pollute our days from the shady recesses that we try and pretend do not exist and dismantling the constructs that have us as individuals and fuel behaviour that is not considerate of everybody. Thank you, Christopher, much to work with here.

430. Is life slowly coming around full cycle? When life was simple and basic, we had to have responsibility. Then we made things better! We gave up our responsibility to others to be the caretakers of the task. When we did not like the way things were being handled, we denied our part in creating the mess. After deciding this was the new normal, we let the rot grow as long as we did not have to smell it. We can now smell what we have refused to see and are slowly accepting our part in this mess and are now trying to get back a life that is simple once again.

431. It is a totally different way to read the world, its systems and ourselves in terms of whether we take responsibility for the quality that we live in. When I stop to consider the purpose of entertainment, interests and hobbies I consistently come up with the view that I need these things either to escape from the tension in the world or to reward myself for getting through life. What happened to living life in joy and in the connection with myself and others?

432. This is such a brilliant article Chris. Each time I look at it, I appreciate the amount of detail and work in it but also the multi-symptomatic mess it reflects about our society. Every single point that you share here could be unpacked further and related to everyday living of people and this is the gold of what this article offers. For example if we take one point such as, ‘Pensions in the future will no longer be paid, Governments will simply not have the source of income to cover the amount needed for ever increasing numbers of seniors, early ill-health retired, sick and disabled. (3)’ We can look at everything before this (how we got there), in this (what it is like for those experiencing it daily), around this (what are the ripple effects around this at the time it happens for this it is happening to and those around them) and what will result from this (what does the future hold for future generations). This one point reminds me of a documentary I watch about the black market stealing of food in London to support people’s drug addictions but also to support the people who are not doing drugs and are living below the poverty line with benefits cut. The ones not doing drugs in order to survive are giving shopping lists to those who steal so they can eat. This stealing feeds the drug addictions and the lives of everyone involved. It is a desperate state and vicious cycle that now goes into future generations. But what started this . . . Greed.

433. Chris, your blog is an important reminder that we are all a part of this world together, equally so, and therefore, we are all responsible for the mess that we are in. When we are feeling shocked, repulsed, hurt, angry about the state of our society, it’s important to consider that if we are not taking a stand to stop the atrocities, we are contributing. There is no such thing as sitting on the fence, we are either helping to restore harmony or adding to the turmoil.

434. When I hear the word responsibility I like to keep bringing it back to our ‘ability to respond’. This way it reminds me that we are all in it together and that we each have our part to play.

     1. I do the same thing! Responsibility has been a load that was loaded with a burden and heavy weight to bare. But my Response-Ability doesn’t feel the same way. Serge Benhayon has often presented responsibility as ‘being who you are’ and responding to how I feel, how my body feels, feels the most responsible choice to make.

435. Responsibility is so the way. I know that a sneaky excuse of a part of me that doesn’t like to be responsible (when responsibility, as you say does bring joy and harmony, connection and love) is to say I can’t possibly be upfront and honest with myself about how I am irresponsible and the significant effects this has on myself and everyone. But this is exactly what needs to happen so every time I allow myself the awareness of what I’ve been up to I can actually choose to celebrate this awareness and feel the impact of how I’ve been living so I may take the steps to return to responsibility.

436. This morning, as I re-visit your blog, Chris, I’m feeling the question is simply, do we want to be living in this way together? If not, it’s important that we understand that we have the power to change things, if we are committed to doing so. The true power comes in showing by example that there is another way to live.

437. I often wondered the reasons behind why we are trashing the planet and not caring about the earth’s wellbeing, it’s other inhabitants and our future. It makes sense to me now, as I can see the reflection of how we treat our own bodies, how we trash them, not care and not be bothered about our future health. The irresponsibility we live with is reflected with how we treat each other and the planet.

438. I am still struggling to process some of the statistics you provided exposing just a slither of the rott we have created. There is so much that is wrong with the world it is hard to imagine it step into any self-responsibility to shift it from where it is. However it only takes more people such as yourself willing to do so and speak up about the harm of irresponsibility for things to begin to change.

439. No one likes the way that life is; the war, poverty or atrocities that are experienced world-wide.
     We are responsible for living in the way we wish earth life to be – in brotherhood, harmony and joy.

     1. Each and everyone of us makes a contribution to life and it is the quality of that contribution that we are each responsible for. All of us have a responsibility for the mess we gave today – for it was humans in their choices far away from from their essence that created it.

440. The way my life (and from observation so many others) has unfolded itself since I started taking more care of myself is absolutely Gracious and not comprehensible from the separated mind. Literally everything has had Purpose, even the littlest thing that I just took as normal. There’s much to appreciate and let go when love is found and accepted for the truth it holds.

441. Gosh those statistics are frightening. But what’s more frightening than them is the fact that I needed to read them in this blog. That is another example like those you have shared here of irresponsibility. How do I not know about the level of devastation that is going on in our world? I do, but to what level do I allow myself to actually feel it. I can feel the resistance in wanting to know more because it’s so out of control, and i want to hide away from it so it does not become my problem. But it is my problem, and everyone elses. We are all responsible for this mess.

442. ” the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.” Hmmm it’s like I am on this path back to the real me, discarding all the junk I have accumulated over life times. These thoughts and ideas resurface at any given time to be chosen or not, discarded in an instant as not thoughts I would engage with. It’s like the particles in my body are clearing any old imprint that no longer serve.

443. Very interesting what you share about the particles in your body – if we go back and re-introduce a heavier way of being it feels to me my particles can’t accept this as they are now a little more refined. Listening to their response can be a bit of a challenge because my mind wants to think it should be ok based on the past. This feels like the way I delay my own evolution.

444. Christopher thank you for sharing so honestly your process of reflecting, observing and assessing out thoughts, beliefs and patterns. The facts and figures you have provided here are indeed shocking, and the way of living as a society which you speak of, in true brotherhood, with self care, responsibility and truth is inspiring.

445. It is true Christopher, when we begin to take responsibility for our lives, it is like a flood gate is lifted and we are shown just how irresponsible we have been. It is then for us to walk through our past choices and reimprint with a new way of being where we are fully aware that everything we do, say and think has an impact not only on ourselves, but on everyone and the world we live in. The more we clock that we are not individual and that we make up and are part of a Whole, can we step into a deeper level of responsibility for how we live in each and every moment.

446. Blaming and saying things happen that are out of our control or wondering why did it happen to me is something that was quite normal to me in the past, so normal that I wasn’t even aware that I was doing it.
     Realising now that everything is a result of a choice I have made and that nothing, absolutely nothing just happens has changed everything for me. I have to be more responsible and I have to be more aware of each and every choice I make as it has an impact not only on me but on everyone else too.

447. Thank you for sharing Christopher – the extent to which there is such inequality at play. The facts are staggering, and I appreciate reading these and feeling in my body the tension that knows there are areas where I do not do things equally, that add to the very situation we’re faced with. It is quiet shocking to feel the extent of illness, war, poverty ect. But it is also an opportunity for us to consider how we live in a way that supports ourselves and others.

448. There is much to ponder on in this blog Christopher, this one line stood out for me “The more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.” Responsibility is an enormous topic as we have lived so irresponsibly to ourselves, others and the wider community. Individually are irresponsibility is big but collectively our irresponsibility is enormous.

449. Christopher, I love reading this it means so much to consider the true understanding of responsibility. I remember talking to a someone about this thinking responsibility was taking out the rubbish and mowing the lawn – at the time this is what I thought it was – yet today my understanding of responsibility is far wider and far deeper and starts with the quality I choose in each of my movements.

450. ” what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.” Taking responsibility for ourselves in all areas of our lives really does make so much difference and we would no longer need to check out and look for distractions to fill us. The truth of what is really going on in the world and the true beauty and love we are is well worth investigating and comes from a deeper way of living with integrity, honesty and commitment as the only way. A deeply thoughtful sharing Christopher thank you.

451. ‘Feeling a true response from our body’ indeed is key rather than a familiar and reactive approach to lives which leaves us in our all to irresponsible patterns and does not arise us to be more.

452. Responsibility is certainly the way forward in all aspects of life. You have outlined clearly what is so wrong with the world today and how simply it could be fixed, if we were to connect to ourselves fully and accept that we are all one brotherhood. We can either do this the easy way or learn the hard way with more of the same.

     1. Yup, the time our realisations take to apply responsibly in our lives is totally up to us.

453. It is a strange out of balance and harmony world we live in with obesity in one part and starvation in another. nothing will change on a world scale until we attend to the inner worlds of each person.

454. The way I am learning to be responsible has also been a slow learning curve with many traps that I thought were true but were just me hiding in a set of imagines or ideals. What I held onto about others and myself was actually keeping me from feeling the connection that was available to my loving aspect. Upon finding my loving aspect, I am now shifting the way I think so that my life flows in a very consistent way.

455. ‘there came a point when I began to look at the way I lived, my thought patterns, my ingrained behaviours, remarks and responses, my attitude towards others.’ There is so much to the way we live and mostly we are unconscious of it and how it affects everyone around us. Paying attention to the details, the energy in everything we do, think and say, enables us to feel these more subtle (and some not so subtle) effects. From there we can choose a different way.

456. As we gradually return back to who we are by restoring the livingness of our essence the more we take the responsibility we have, ie the responsibility to be who we are and thereby inspire others to also be themselves in full. In that process two things happen at the same time, exposing and releasing what we are not and embracing what we are, both aspects requiring responsibility and both at times are challenging but actually are the two sides of one coin.

457. Self abuse comes in many forms and most often, not even seen as self abuse as they are an accepted normality with the majority of humanity indulging in the same behaviours. Whether it is food, drugs, alcohol, giving ourselves a harsh time from self critique or judgment of others, excessive and hard exercise, addicted to computers or TV (the list is endless) – the harm to the body and its true health and wellbeing is cumulative (known from personal experience).

458. Thank you Christopher for this very needed article about where we are at, it is time to open our eyes and truly see the state we are in and how we are all contributing with our own irresponsible behaviour. To swallow our pride and stop blaming others but being honest about how we live, choosing ‘out’ moments and make a change for ourselves will lead eventually to responsibility and yes,very true ’the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.’ An ongoing process of discarding what is not true in ourselves and embody the love that we are.

459. “….how can we change our response, if we have spent our lifes in creating ingrained reactions…..”
     This question alone is an offer to deeply ponder on how we live, which quality we choose in our lifes and which purpose we have in life.

460. ‘But then there came a point when I began to look at the way I lived, my thought patterns, my ingrained behaviours, remarks and responses, my attitude towards others’… it appeared that this was a real turning point in your life Christopher and from that moment on, as you share, this is when the REAL responsibility starts and we become aware of the reflection that life gives us in every moment, and if we choose to not turn the other cheek and ignore the reflection then the opportunity to evolve is great. To take responsibility we have to come out of our comfort and look at ourselves squarely, which doesn’t always feel that pleasant, but has you also share, once we know the truth there is no going back, and even though we feel we may plateau for a while, life just keeps on bringing us opportunities to move forwards in our evolution until there comes a point when we just can’t numb or distract ourselves anymore, the pull to return to who we truly are is too strong.

461. Great title Christopher and one we should take heed of. Until we take responsibility for our own lives, and the way we live in every way we will never see the affect we have on the world by being irresponsible.

462. Very well said, Christopher – “the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am”. I can relate to this very much – choosing to be more responsible now (finally) is confronting because it is in every choice, which highlights how many moments of irresponsibility there have been…even in the last week!

463. What strikes me very strongly reading this blog is the disconnect between what we think we are and how we in fact behave – until we get truly honest and feel what in fact we are really living in what we say and what we don’t we will continue to accept and allow the state of the world around. I love how you’ve been willing to see what in fact is going on with you and how that’s impacted on you and others and this is something for us all to look at and consider how we in fact truly are, a never ending exploration of truth and honesty, and I know it’s something I am developing even with the blips (and more) of resistance I encounter along the way.

464. I had a moment yesterday as I walked through an affluent area close to where I live. It was a beautiful sunny day and people were sitting outside cafes eating and drinking seemily enjoying pre-christmas celebrations. As I walked, I reflected on the clip I’d seen about Aleppo, Syria and what’s been called the holocaust going in there. It was a moment where I considered the disparity between the 2 situations and how it could be possible for these both to be taking place at the same time on our planet.

465. I really resonate with this sentence –”the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am. ” We have to be responsible for every little thing in our lives and not just the things that we like to do. I certainly see that pattern in myself where it is easy to just brush aside things that I find difficult to do or more correctly said things that I avoid doing. Everything is everything and in truth nothing is more important than anything else, yes some things might take priority but that does not make it more important.

466. Chris.. you describe this so well… and I whole heartedly agree…”the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am. The more I change this, the more I sense a resistance in my body, at the same time knowing that I cannot turn back and return to more irresponsibility as I know that would be so self-destructive as the particles of my body now expect so much more from me, and rightly so…”

467. Those statistics and articles are very shocking and we do need to be aware of them! I just read this in number 9 on your list, the amount of money the U.S has spent on destroying people and places is frankly staggering! “From 1940 to 1996 (a period that includes several cycles of war and peace, including the arms race of the cold war), America spent $16.23 trillion on the military ($5.82 trillion of that on nuclear weapons), versus $1.70 trillion on health care and $1.24 trillion on international affairs”. What if that was used to support people, to build relationship and trust between us instead? Thanks for drawing our attention to these issues Christopher.

468. I absolutely agree that self abide is now normal and if you are self loving and caring to your body you are considered wierd and controlling. The normal way of living has delivered enormous disharmony around the world – I feel it is time for the tide to turn and for a new normal to begin.

469. I agree Christopher, it is down to each and every one of us to take responsibility and look at how we are contributing to how the world and humanity is today. No more looking outward to blame for this and that but to look to me, to what is my part, responsibility, in this.

470. “amusement, entertainment, pastimes and hobbies are all the embodiment of irresponsibility” This is quite a big statement to make, and one that may be a shock to many people. I’m sure that people with hobbies and pastimes view them as simply that – as something to pass the time and something to enjoy. If they haven’t yet opened to a deeper level of understanding of life then to them there is nothing wrong with it. A hobby can be a saviour to someone who has been into crime or violence and is on their way out of this. It gives them a focus that is healing for them. It depends where people are at as to whether a hobby is a good thing or not. I feel we need to be careful not to make blanket statements like this.

471. Thank you Chris for your powerful blog here about a very important key in life – responsibility. I agree when you look at all the ridiculous self-destructive behaviours that human beings engage in, it does not make any sense unless we consider that it may be all to avoid something. Something like responsibility.

472. ‘…the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.’ I love this insight into the realisation that our irresponsibility has run deep through our way of living and being for many years and that to return to responsibility we will realise and see this on our journey.

     1. The sad thing is that responsibility, the actual word responsibility is also being bastardised and reduced to mean much less. Thus people in general “think” they are being responsible when they have a good income, family, some friends and donate a little money or volunteer for a local charity once a month. As many of us are finding out, responsibility encapsulates everything we are, everything we do, say, think, every intention we have, the whole of our being, the very meaning of, not just our own existence but the existence of everyone together, the reason why humanity are here on this planet and our path out of the illusion we all live in.

473. It is very easy to blame external factors, it allows us to be irresponsible and say ‘it’s not my fault, it was fate’. But what if we were all to understand we are masters of our own fates by the choices we make, therefore what happens to us is of our own making. How different would the world be then? The doctors surgeries would be less full, the banks would be truly looking after our money and the law courts would change completely, everyone would be pleading guilty and accepting their learning journey. It is all up to us to be truthful to ourselves. If we choose not to take responsibility and look at these things right now, the messages are only going to continuing to increase until we do.

474. Thank you Christopher, you have raised so many amazing questions that are very much needed. Your honesty, openness and vulnerability is hugely inspiring. It is so true that once we start taking responsibility, all our irresponsible choices get exposed, not necessarily to anyone in particular but most important of all they get exposed to ourselves and this assist us to learn and grow from them.

475. When we begin to look at the way we live, the thought patterns, ingrained behaviours, reactions and attitudes towards others, our ingrained choices can become quite confronting and uncomfortable (– then we head for those distractions – and the salted crisps!). But far better to realise these things as it is only by challenging and working on them that we begin to eliminate them from ourselves/lives. As a result there is one less person expressing this harm and one more person reflecting responsibility – that is good news for everyone.

476. ‘But then there came a point when I began to look at the way I lived, my thought patterns, my ingrained behaviours, remarks and responses, my attitude towards others.’ Learning to become responsible takes on a whole new meaning when we are prepared to be honest and look at those insidious behaviours that have become so normalised we don’t even register them. I am always so inspired when I hear others recounting their stories around this one as it is very rare to hear. Thank you for the inspiration Christopher!

477. Yes once we start taking responsibility for our own lives this will be reflected in our leaders. Once I am willing to take responsibility for myself and let go of blame it opens up the space for true evolution.

478. Christopher, reading your article I can really feel how irresponsibly we are living in our society. It is rare for us to take care of ourselves knowing that how we are effects everyone. It is more common for us to live lives that are based around comfort, entertainment, hobbies and not being present in our bodies and it feels like we are covering up and denying that this is how we are living. Our bodies are showing us the truth, that we are not living harmoniously and lovingly.

479. When I read the dot points you wrote down about how to move forward with more responsibility I could see how deep in ourselves we all know what is needed and how we can make this society working towards harmony and brotherhood once again. The question is therefor not so much about what and more about when we are going to surrender to living what we know is true inside us?

480. If we care to take a look at how we are living, what we are consuming, the inequality in our world and the suffering so many people live with on a daily basis – we can hardly fail to come to the conclusion that something is very much amiss – unless we numb ourselves to the facts or go into denial. Humanity is reflecting something back to itself and that is that something is wrong. We have created bodies of people to deal with social problems, education, crime, war, illness and disease but in doing so have we negated our own responsibility for these things. Is it really the responsibility of the education system to teach our children or does this fall to everyone? Is it really the responsibility of the police alone to deal with crime or are we all part of this equally? What about the vast ‘problem’ of our elderly? Is this for Social Services to manage…somehow…? Or are these things for us all to work together to find a true answer within ourselves? When we are at war, there is a sense of coming together to fight a common enemy and we get a feeling of how it is to all muck in together. Perhaps the real war we are facing is one of social issues, health problems, separations between neighbours and in families – right under our noses – and we are faced with a choice to continue denying our responsibility – or to accept it and be the answer we know we can be in our hearts.

481. ‘Has self abuse become normal?’ From the statistics you have researched Chris the answer is yes. Not a comfortable answer, because we are all responsible, but where to start? I like the section where you pose questions about taking greater responsibility for ourselves and each other.

482. It feels like the first step for us all is to want to be honest about where we are at. Until we can be truthful about this, nothing will change. We will simply continue to delude ourselves and believe whatever feels convenient.

     1. That’s it Alison! Honesty is the key, for without it nothing will indeed change. To come to that level of honesty we may have to let go of our comfort and for many, it appears to be a step too far considering the level of self-abuse, numbing and distraction that is going on in the world. The majority of humanity is asleep to the magnificence that is within us all, and if it takes the ground to shake beneath our feet to wake up to the truth then sadly, we may have to live with the consequences of our choices until that level of honesty is reached, and ask the question ‘why ARE we are choosing to live this way?’.

     2. Yes Alison, the change starts with ourselves. Looking beneath the behaviours, reactions and seeming hurts to the root and truth of who we are. Then those layers can be discarded and we can reflect the potential of what human beings can be… Soulful and in connection with the all.

483. Let’s face it, we are in a real mess, it’s easy to go into overwhelm and then tempting to turn the other way and continue on with our lives. There is so much to address, what difference can we really make? ….. actually a lot more than we think. We can show how much we care about our planet and each other by choosing to take responsibility for the way we live. Not just now and then, or when it suits us, but consistently because we know how every decision we make has a ripple effect, meaning we are always contributing to the pool of life that we are all swimming in and our contribution is either harming or loving, it’s that simple, the choice is ours.

484. Sometimes it can be quite uncomfortable at first to feel and accept where I am at and to express it can be even more challenging but to live responsibly I am realising is living transparency and there is nothing to be ashamed of as to live love I know I have to face lovingly and honestly where I am at and as Christopher says in his blog, this can be very different to what I think I am and the way I am living.

485. Christopher, those facts and statistics are simply shocking. Not one person can look at those and honestly say that mankind have evolved or are evolving.

486. Correct Christopher, we often escape our responsibility by blaming all sorts; God, other people, situations, luck. All this just so we don’t have to say “I did this”.

487. Where there is a reaction to a matter-of-fact, there is a defence of behaviour.

488. Wow Christopher, this is so wise, and responsibility and care is felt to the roof. Your expression here is so amazing and the dedication to put all these facts so clearly together. Thank You. A huge gift for the world is this article worth gold well actually unmeasurable.

489. A man just ran 401 marathons in 401 days. When interviewed after his feat he said he no longer felt he had a purpose and just felt like a loose end. If he was running away from something… it didn’t take long to catch up with him!

490. In my experience there is a responsibility to deal with what is wrong in life but there is also a responsibility to deal with and build up what is going well in life with the latter being surprisingly important.

     1. You make a valid point her Christophe, many times you wonder why in the medical profession they study the illness and people who are ill but rarely study people who are well and why, what are they doing differently, how are they in their day to day. This also applies to every aspect of our lives, and like you have stated equally important.

     2. I understand what you are sharing about responsibility and the importance of dealing with our hurts or what is wrong, could you please expand on or give some examples of when things are going well?

     3. Well said, Christoph. Certainly something we probably look less at in life. And for me, something to really consider and appreciate.

491. “And in this, are we so habitually abusive to ourselves that we don’t even recognise it as self-abuse anymore?” – much of our self-abusing behaviours is entertainment, culture, life’s little pleasures etc, no wonder that we don´t recognise them as abusive as they are the relieving medication for the tensions we feel with ourselves and life.

492. Observing the state of the world, from the seemingly endless wars to the huge rise in obesity and Diabetes 2, it is very obvious to me that it is time to stop blaming ‘something or someone else’ for the dilemmas in our lives and begin to take responsibility for every choice that we make. Unfortunately most consider responsibility to be a burden to be carried, whereas I have discovered for myself that it is nothing of the sort but simply a way of living that supports us to improve the quality of our lives, our health and in turn, our world; isn’t that, at heart, what all of us really want?

493. We all know that greed and corruption abound on this planet, it is why we have become so fat, and why we allow tonnes of plastic to pollute our earth. Personal gain is also a reason why we have people who would rather make money than let other human beings have access to clean drinking water. I find myself looking at such news stories and thinking, well can we really make a difference, but of course we can, and it is a question of energy, a lot of unseen actions take place when we care for ourselves and are respectful in all our actions, and why we must never give up but face front on what it is we see, and wish to change.

494. Wow Christoph I love what you have presented in your powerful blog. You should go and be a politician as someone like you has to start to show the world that there is an other way to be in politics. This following quote from you would be a wonderful slogan for your campaign: “. . . the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.” That would be an eye opener for the world!

495. Responsibility is for sure a thing that is missing in our nowadays society but as you say Christopher, we cannot just switch on this responsibility as we have ingrained that irresponsible way of living so deeply in all of our behaviours and ways we move in our daily lives that, when not consciously aware we just repeat, repeat and repeat and will never find our way out until we meet some people like you, who have been able to make these steps and to get inspired by.

496. It is absolutely outstanding in the lengths we go to avoid seeing our behaviours which in turn are masking an issue we are carrying.

     Does this in itself show how sensitive we all are.

     Clearly the survival of the fittest isn’t our next step in evolution.

497. One of the things that really struck me when I first started attending Serge Benhayon’s presentations was the simple and yet revelatory questions he asked. It really got me wondering why did I never ask that question and really the answer was already contained in the question. There are a lot of in-your-face questions that we seem to ignore or not ask as if we do not want to see the truth of what is going on.

     1. I couldn’t agree more Nicola, as I have also many times asked myself why did I not question this and that, and some of the things that were in my face and I still managed to ignore them.
        In the early days of attending the Universal Medicine courses I used to get annoyed and could not see the point to having discussions on certain topics but now I can see that everything needs to be spoken about, regardless of the subject matter, as it is far healthier for us to have open discussions instead of ignoring, given up, pretending and lying to ourselves.

498. A perfectly timed blog to read Christopher for I have also noticed a pattern of stagnation and lack of commitment in my life. What has also been very powerful for me at the moment is reflection and how situations have been brought into my life to mirror this lack of commitment and responsibility, making it a perfect opportunity to change these movements and move from the simplicity of my own connection and to put my self care first. The power of responsibility is breaking through old patterns and behaviours and moving into a movement that carries our presence from its full loving quality, that is a stunning reflection to behold.

499. It’s a LOT to take in and digest… the more we see and are willing to see in regards to how we live as a whole, and then our own part in it. The ‘ouch’ moments, when we feel the responsibility for the part each of us play, can most surely be intense…
     Yet I read this article and cannot but feel the intensity of frustration, of hurt – at our own and each others’ lack of love, lack of unity (all the things that are stated here – the list is endless)… I don’t see that experiencing such frustration can be avoided – it’s a part of the process of truly waking up and stepping out of our ‘salted crisp’-fuelled slumber… We all have to meet it, and no doubt it will be ongoing.
     Yet, can we go deeper here? Cannot our responsibility for the whole and our impact upon it, call us to see, call out and acknowledge our rampant irresponsibility, and yet also then embark upon deepening our capacity to love and hold in love and the deepest of understanding, all that is so? Our capacity to love is what will be felt by others and inspire the true change that is possible from each and every one of us.

500. The question of “Are we taking responsibility for our own lives?” Christopher is one we all have to answer at some time if we truly want a world that heals not harms. The way we have set up such an imbalance in all areas of life from the distribution of wealth food and possessions such as even a simple roof over our heads is irresponsible in the extreme! This is a must read Christopher and re read for sure. Thank you for this wakeup call!

501. Stunning blog Christopher. Responsibility has for too long been viewed as a ‘heavy’ word, one which we have to carry and that means we have to be serious and have no fun, when in truth, as you so beautifully and humbly point out, responsibility is our natural way of being when we are living from our essence, that is, from a deeply honouring and loving connection to our body and all that we bring through it. It is an absolute joy to live this way – which I have felt moments of, and am now sitting here pondering on what on earth could possibly be worth giving this away for. It’s certainly a head-scratching question because there is nothing and yet I do give it up for many things. I will go to my bed tonight with a deeper understanding, connection with and commitment to my responsibility. Thank you so much.

502. For our own self, as well as for the society and the world over, a proper stop to be very honest with what is going on is very much needed. For the sheer fact that we are having to employ a word ‘responsibility’ to sit ourselves upright is such a giveaway that the way we are living is nowhere near where we are supposed to be. Our ‘normal’ is so not normal.

503. ‘Why do we have headlines like “8 million tons of plastic will be dumped into our Oceans this year” (7) and why do we pollute our own planet, poisoning our very own food and drink?’ You only have to look at many of the beaches around the world to see how disrespectful we are of our planet but then if we do not care and respect ourselves is it any surprise that we do not respect and care for our planet?

     1. Very true -how we test ourselves is reflected in how we treat others and also in how we treat our environment. There is no segmenting life – the quality we choose is how we are in everything.

504. “could there be a way of living responsibly as a true brotherhood, the brotherhood that mankind is truly here to be – founded in self-care, responsibility and truth?” This is not pie-in-the-sky wishful thinking, but absolutely possible when we choose to take up our responsibility for ourselves and then naturally for one another.

505. Responsibility is often something that we think we want to avoid. I know once upon a time I thought I had freedom as I thought I had no responsibilities. But there is not an ounce of freedom in irresponsibility, as the statistics mentioned show.

     1. A powerful observation shared here Nikki McKee that we can be sold the idea that freedom has no responsibility. This is so common and the “carefree attitude” is often glamorised as the ultimate way of being. Yet it is far from the great strength and inner love and commitment one feels and continues to strengthen when we take steps no matter how big or small towards responsibility.

     2. Being responsible offers us a freedom because it is us choosing our quality – choosing to be in a way that allows us to express all of us – and that is freeing.

506. Taking responsibility for ourselves on an energetic level, for the quality of our intentions, thoughts and actions is a key level of responsibility we all need to embrace to help turn around the conflict, turmoil, discontent, illness and rife abuse we have in our world today. We don’t own our thoughts and so they are not who we are as such but we are responsible for what quality of thoughts we choose and that is something that should be foundationally taught to us from young.

507. Under nourished but over weight, it makes you wonder what we are eating and just how few nutrients there are in so many of the foods and drinks we consume.

508. Taking responsibility never stops – there is always more that we get a chance to look at and address as we peel away the layers of distractions and excuses.

509. If there ever is a ‘list’ to revise and consider for a ‘new year’ these points you refer are the ultimate to consider. If we did choose responsibility then the usual new year resolution list i.e.- loose a few kilos, start exercising, save money, and clean the garage wouldn’t ever need to be considered because the way of living responsibly with a focus on what is truly required for humanity, would naturally sort these things out. It becomes simple to care for ourselves when we have the entire perspective of our part in universal responsibility as our purpose for getting up in the morning. Motivation is not required as connection of true purpose to serve supports everything that we require as I’m discovering and embracing from my choices.

510. Great blog Christopher as everything is everything all of the time we certainly have some work to do as individuals on ourselves and as a collective, a one humanity, as all the above-mentioned is not just going to go away.

511. Responsibiltity is the way forward, it might seem a burden to some as it is forever evolving so there is no room for comfort but when we connect and build a true relationship with our bodies we understand that it is a natural flow as part of our evolution back to the love that we are.

512. The world in which we find ourselves is a complete mess because we have not yet collectively taken responsibility for our choice to separate from our true origins – the great love we are and are born from. Not expressing this love means we end up expressing all that is not of this love and so deep down, as love is our essence, we each know and feel to our bones and beyond, how harmful this is. Turning a blind eye and further polluting our bodies with foods that do not support our awareness and sense of clarity and by indulging in distractions, be it emotional behaviours or pastimes that allow us to check out, means we are still choosing to be oblivious to the big dinosaur in the room, into whose jaws we have fallen… Thankyou Christopher for this wake-up call. A call back to a truth we have departed from but in-truth has never left us.

513. It’s appalling how much time we waste through mindless distractions and how much we dull our awareness with food, drugs and entertainment yet it is obvious that no-one is fulfilled by doing this. Once people connect to true purpose and are willing take full responsibility, they come to life and these distractions naturally fall away as there is no time for any moment that is not lived with purpose.

514. It seems to be the way, that only when we are forced to stop, do we actually look at how we have lived and the choices we have made. How uncomfortable will our past choices be, when the stop of rising illness and disease is not even cushioned by a hospital bed due to lack of availability?

515. It is a very insightful process when you start to let go of the first round of distractions (sport, over working, exercise, TV, shopping etc….) and start looking at the next level – the emotional patterns & behaviours that we use to distract us. From this point you can start to uncover ideals and beliefs that have been well buried by social & emotional activities. It is a brave and courageous thing to do because we dont always like what is there. What I got from your sharing here Chris, is that the process can be uncomfortable at times, but it can be looked at lovingly and with no judgement and then let go as it is not part of who you truly are. Which is far less uncomfortable than the almost slow burn that living with this ideal and belief buried in you, filtering your views on women or what ever the topic is.

516. We really can be our own worst enemy, working against ourselves and the natural flow of things because we want control. But in this need for control/security, we aren’t being truly responsible for the choices we are making while trying to do that.

517. Christopher you raise some key questions which challenge our acceptance of what is normal. Self-abuse has become so normal that we do not realise the degree to which we tolerate abuse and the more we are willing to look at this the more subtle layers of abuse we uncover. The same with responsibility, as you say Christopher, “the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am”. There are layers upon layers to uncover, yet if we simply connect to our ‘inner-most essence’ we naturally are responsible to live in a way that is in tune with everything and everyone and it is a joyous activity not a burdensome chore.

518. Bring on the day when our leaders are chosen by how responsible they are for how they live. Then we will have true role models chosen from a place that cares.

519. Thanks for sharing Christoph. The statistics are shocking and I will have to read this a few times to let all the information sink in as a part of me was struggling just reading it. Already I didn’t want to know, I wanted to check out and not feel and I am sure that is the case with many as we already see this so much in the world.

520. “Are not all these pastimes ways of distraction to not feel our predicament and ways of checking out from who we are and what life is truly about?” for me I would have to 100% agree with this, thats been my experience and I used to always want to run away from things in the past, today its such an amazing feeling to not run to these distractions as my default, however when I do its clear that I’m avoiding some particular issue.

521. It’s great that you’re raising these questions Christopher. If we continue to ignore everything that’s going on in the world, the state of humanity’s health and the abuse we are tolerating towards each other and ourselves then how will change ever come about, and the severity of these things will only increase.

522. Realising that each one of us is part of a greater plan, and that it will take each one of us to bring true purpose back to life is a joy. It is inspiring and empowering to feel the potential for humanity when we work together. This is our responsibility, both individually and collectively.

523. The article calls into question what is the purpose… are we just killing time or is there a reason for a circumnavigation of the sun each year. Responsibility is the key.

524. Hi Christopher- there is so much to ponder in this blog , so much in each paragraph and each sentence. You have totally exposed the way of living that so many are choosing in order to fill their ‘aching need’. I loved your sentence – ‘It has been a strange journey so far… the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am’. Is this what thwart the ‘good intentions’ of mankind and allows them to revert back to the irresponsible behaviour we observe everyday. Deepening in our observations of ourselves does uncover the choices we are making that are not truly loving and these deepening observations go on to expose even finer details of absolute disregard in our own lives and relationships with others. The statistics you have shared are shocking and it will be healing for all of us that read and respond by making more loving choices as we deepen our responsibility for the lives we are living. Thank you for bringing this to our attention.

525. This is a powerful blog Christopher and the truth. Responsibility changes the quality of the way we live and we natural live principals that brings us together rather than dived and conquer, competition, disconnection and the list goes on in our world. as you state ‘and as I overcome each obstacle I am filled with love, joy, stillness and harmony.’ This is a very real way of how we could be living.

526. Great sharing Christopher! Exposing irresponsibility in so many different aspects of our lives at many levels. Once we stop distracting we’ll start seeing our role in this. The individuality stands out as a core of this situation that we have in this world. The responsibility starts from us just by being responsible for our energetic quality of living. thanks for Sharing!

527. Christopher you have raised an incredibly important topic here and despite the fact that it is potentially very confronting for people, you have done it in a very sensitive and gentle way. You have a flair for presenting the truth in a way that is not only both eloquent and honest but also easily digestible. Keep the writing coming, humanity is in dire need of what you are able to bring.

528. We live in times where common sense often goes out the window and where distraction, desire and greed run rife. There is much insight to be gained for times when we lived much more simply.

529. There’s much revealed in this article. For me it is about global responsibility, meant to be held by each and everyone of us. Rather then shying away from it. We’re to accept that our worldly problems only exist because we choose to ignore or deny these facts. When there’s not enough self-love or self-care in the world, how on earth could we have a loving world?

     We’re not to control any one or trying to own somebody! We’re to start taking responsibility. Not for any one else, but because we feel to do so!

530. Responsibility is never-ending and a constant deepening process. We do not reach a point at which we acquire it or a level at which we ‘coast’ but rather it is living commitment to bring our all in every moment, for the all of which we are part.

     1. Very true Deborah, as awareness expands so to does our level of responsibility… our ability to respond in truth.

531. It is so easy to point the finger outside to someone else or something that is going wrong, but to look at ourselves and detect the wrongs and correct them is something we do not like to do, we rather demand it of others.

532. Responsibility is certainly very much needed within our world, and especially in health… there is so much demand to be given a quick fix, only to go back to old habits, and return for another quick fix – an endless and pointless cycle of irresponsibility… and a complete waste of resources.

533. “… could there be a way of living responsibly as a true brotherhood, the brotherhood that mankind is truly here to be – founded in self-care, responsibility and truth?” Absolutely Christopher… individually and collectively, responsibility is key to our way forward in true brotherhood.

534. Thank you Christopher. The current world facts that you outline here are absolutely shocking and the responsible antidotes are inspiring beyond measure.

535. It’s true, the more responsible we become the more irresponsible we realise we are. It can be quite a shock!

536. Wow Christopher, I could really feel that there is a whole new level of responsibility to go to. There is definitely something seriously wrong when there is so much self-abuse we can’t even look after our own health. It is the height of irresponsibility that we have accepted this as normal. It will come as a very rude awakening when the health care system crumbles under the strain as our irresponsibility catches up with us.

537. Hello Christopher and thank you there has been a lot of research into this article. It’s interesting to look at things like this and why we choose what we choose. As you can see from the statistics somethings we do really don’t make sense. What if, as Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine and now many others associated are presenting there is more than just ‘me’ choosing these things? Why do we continue behaviours or make some behaviours better when the whole thing isn’t or doesn’t truly support us? There is more at play then just a human being making decisions and if you are just seeing this then you or we think it’s just you making a choice, freewill, your right etc. If we take the animal kingdom as an example they don’t see the world as just being physical, they are aware of a natural cycle and don’t take over the world but live with it and know instinctively how to be with the nature around them. Whereas we put ourselves above it and them and think we run the show. We are humbled by natural disasters, disease and even death realising there is a power greater then we can see. What if we aligned to this power and accepted and understood our part of why we are here and how we support in what’s going on. Instead of overriding everything to have our beer, our movie, our life. I don’t see life like I use to and some might say this comes with age but I say what I feel is age old. We are going further into a life that already doesn’t support us and you can see the fact of it around you if you want. But you also have the choice to be blind and keep hurting yourself out of not wanting to see. There is an energetic world that we live in and when we turn our head away from that then you think you make a decision or a choice but the turn away is the choice and everything thereafter is already chosen for you.

538. The more we accept responsibility is our own lives and live in that way, the more it will inspire others to do the same. Only then will we begin to see some of those devastating statistics change.

539. Life is full of endless distractions, if we take them away what are we left with….our self…why do we avoid getting to know and understand our self? Maybe we may discover a beautiful, loving and tender person that we never knew existed. I know I have.

540. Responsibility is a much maligned word and even dreaded by some….what does it entail to take on ‘responsibility” and what does that really mean. In out minds we often give ourselves an overwhelming picture that adds up to it being ‘too much’. But Responsibility is actually quite the opposite. A beautiful empowering and joyful state of being where everything is balanced, without complication, totally sustainable, includes the wellbeing of all, and makes complete sense.
     Simple and easy ?.. Yes it is! Why do we make it so hard ?
     We are still unravelling what responsibility truly means in our lives and relationships, and we don’t want to look at how irresponsible we have truly been.

541. “I thought that taking responsibility would be simple…” , then “the real meaning of responsibility was uncovered…..” – we don´t get responsible by just using our will, that is the mindful will; too much irresponsibility is stored in our bodies and in our psyche that needs to be exposed, released and left behind for good. This is a process, just as you honestly share, and with every step of taking more responsibility we can look back and realize that the magnitude of what we are dealing with is much bigger than we have known just the moment before and thus gives us a glimpse of what is still to come.

542. ‘And if we were to take a closer look, to explore, to observe, to open up our innate curiosity, or swallow our pride, maybe we would lovingly admit to the things that don’t feel true to us and embark upon a new beginning, and thus, in this, embrace the fact that we have been living in irresponsibility.’ – You are hitting the nail on the head here Christopher – are we willing to swallow our pride and admit that we got it wrong, and that we have in fact as a humanity lived irresponsibly and that as individuals we need to see that we are all part of what is playing out at any given time.

543. I read this Christopher agreeing with what you had written and then came to ‘what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth’ and it felt a bombshell had landed. When we feel more deeply into our patterns, it exposes how we can so easily blame our circumstances on everything else but our own self-responsibility.

544. A lot of people cringe at the reality of what is going on in the world and often we blank it out and try to ignore it from our reality. But you have given a very real and simple way of helping to heal and not contribute to this – simply be lovingly responsible for how you are and every single choice you make!

545. The world does not change on its own. It comes form a collective of people who choose to be responsible and are willing to take on the “squirm factor” in order to learn that the way they have lived may not have been respectful or full of responsibility. There is an awareness to make a change as you have shared so passionately and with true authority Christopher Murphy.

546. There are a lot of things to ponder on in this article and it will take many more reads than just one, but it is good to address responsibility of us as politicians, corporate executives and parents – everything we do affects everyone else and the sooner we take responsibility for how we live our lives, the sooner the evils of the world will meet their match and cease.

547. “each time I do this for myself and step through these self-imposed, ingrained barriers, painful as they may be, I become more of the true man I am meant to be” – love this statement, especially the recognition that the big barriers are self-imposed.

548. I loved reading this article and getting a much deeper sense of what responsibility truly means.

549. ‘The more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise I am’ – what a humble and honest statement.

550. Connecting global responsibility and lifestyle choice is epic, it makes sense that how we are collectively makes up the world as we know it. It also is fact that we all effect each other, so let’s lead the way back to a future, a future where our eyes are clear, sharp and wide open.

551. Thank you Christopher – humanity are paying a big price for the false delight in irresponsibility just to avoid re-connecting to their amazing essence – crazy.

552. Wow Christopher, so much in this blog… you have given new breadth to the understanding of what irresponsibility encompasses.

553. Another powerful blog Christopher Murphy. Irresponsibility is the heaviest load to carry and as we expose our own irresponsibility and choose more awareness, the resistance as stubbornness and defiance can come to the fore in order to keep us locked into an old cycle and momentum.

554. Great point Mary – this swinging pendulum from starving to obesity makes no sense at all. What has got in to humanity with these choices that are so out of balance from the inherent harmony within?
     “It seemed only a few years ago people were starving to death and just a few decades later, people are eating themselves to death”

555. ‘It has been a strange journey so far… the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am…’ I know what you mean here Christopher. I reached that point too, and it hurt when I realised I am not the person I thought I was and my level of TRUE responsibility was practically zilch. But how amazing to have this awareness in the first place because then the real healing begins.

556. I love every part of this article. The simple fact that it calls each of us to, in some way, deepen our own commitment to living responsibly is pure gold. It covers many areas where as a humanity we have shirked our responsibility, be that as an individual or as a collective.

557. ‘The amazing thing is that when we are consciously present and connected to our inner-most essence we are actually harmonious and full of joy, and responsibility is a natural way of living.’ It’s taken me a while, but as I become more consistent with living in a consciously present way, connected to my inner-most essence, I am experiencing more harmony and joy. The more harmony and joy I experience, the more I naturally choose responsibility in my day-to-day living.

558. Massive article Christopher with much to ponder on, what mainstream society is doing is obviously not working. However the Ancient Wisdom presented by Serge Benhayon is proving to be a positive alternative to anything else on offer.

559. Amazing blog – some pertinent questions for us to consider and to raise again and again whilst we live in the ill-flowing society that we have created and allowed.
     The potential for true equality, brotherhood, Love, humanity and decency is forever present should we take responsibility for our own choices and part in the whole.

560. Really powerful blog Christopher! ‘what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth’ I love this statement as I was only just having a conversation where I made the point that we like to justify and dismiss our ill behaviours by saying to ourselves “but I am a really nice person underneath’. It is so important that we accept that we have ill behaviours and that they are there as reaction to our hurts. The most responsible thing we can do is to heal our hurts so that we don’t impose our reactions on others.

561. Whilst on the tube the other day I saw a man playing a super simple mathematical computer game, it was very repetitive and he was immersed. On the one hand it looked as if it would be stimulating the mind with basic mental arithmetic and no doubt this is how it is sold. His top score was over 100,000 and he was currently on around 2,300. As I watched I was shocked how quickly I was drawn into the monotony of it, there was something that gripped me about what he was doing. I zoned out. I then caught myself and it occurred to me how long he would have to remain drawn into the screen and disconnected from life in order to achieve or beat his top score, only for it to end in a moment of frustration or elation before starting all over again thus keeping him detached from reality and responsibility. This is the way most of us are living, this example is more extreme than many maybe but most of us are walking through life in our heads, immersed in our thoughts and disconnected from what our bodies are telling us.

562. Yes Christopher – we are so much more than what we currently live right now. Life doesn’t have to be the dark gloom picture we see at the moment. We just have to be honest and admit that what we are doing is not true. This is a huge pill for many to swallow but then again we could also ask how bad do things have to become until we actually say that things should be different.

563. Bravo Christopher. Lately I have been feeling despair looking at the war in Syria. I have felt the feeling of powerless and frustrated at times not knowing what to do and wanting so much for it to stop. Serge Benhayon’s presentations remind me that my need for things to not be as they are is imposing and not being responsible. Your blog reminds me that my actions contribute to the whole .e. each time I abuse my body I add fuel to the energy that has destroyed the lives of the people in Syria and countless others.

564. ‘what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this’ – what we think we are is created out of the pictures and ideals we take on, pictures and ideals that keep us supposedly ‘safe’ ultimately in a box where we don;t stick our neck out, get noticed and dull away our natural amazing shine.
     It does take a lot of responsibility to accept who we truly are, because then we know that it is our light, our immenseness, that we are here to bring.

565. ‘Could it be that responsibility is the way forward?’ – absolutely, Christopher, without a shadow of doubt. Right now it seems if we are faring better that the accepted norm, we feel we’re doing pretty well in life. However, given our ‘norm’ for most things seem to be getting more and more extreme, and not in a good way, this is not a good measure of anything, other than our ability to not care very much unless we are being personally affected in some way and even then it can take a lot for us to stop and take a really good look at how we are choosing to live our lives.

566. Truly appreciate all you have put before us Christopher, our irresponsibility is grossly out of control as the lists of facts prove. I agree, we have made self abuse so commonplace that we do not even see it for what it truly is. Self-responsibility is our only way out of this enormous mess, taking back control of our thoughts, emotions and actions. Dumping the blame on others, resentment, bitterness and revenge do not work and are the very height of irresponsibility that is very surely leading us all to un-imaginable disasters. If our current behaviour is bankrupting our health systems and displacing 65 million people from their homes, surely its time to wake up, wise up and get real. We have some huge problems to address and it all starts with really, truly dealing with our own, not always pretty but immensely life changing, wholeheartedly recommended and quite frankly our only option.

567. That last line is very inspiring and you sharing openly the struggle with moving forward that is self made but nonetheless holding a lot of us in patterns and ways of being that are not loving.

568. Well said Christopher and so many pertinent questions posed here. It is also deeply inspiring for a guy to go there with the issue of deep beliefs held about the objectification of women and their reason for this. A calls for us all to look more carefully at what lies beneath the surface.

569. At first when I started reading this I was wondering where it was going and then you said this ‘what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.’ which for me hit the ‘jackpot’. Yep how we ‘think’ we are and yet how we ‘truly’ are, are in many cases so not the same! It takes great honesty to be able to feel and see this and I appreciate the honesty you have shared here. Reading the few examples of the mess we are in one could easily ask or feel this is impossible for us to turn around. But it is possible, it just takes all of us, the whole of humanity to start to live a different and far more loving way …. we just have a lot of work to do here thats all!

     1. I agree, Vicky, our thinking and our truth can be far apart, both ways. We may be much worse off than we think we are and we may also be much better off than we think we are and both can be present simultaneously.

570. I used to hate the word responsibility and try to avoid it as much as possible. Now responsibility to me means, accepting so much more love, for myself and for humanity and making choices that are for everyone equally.

571. “……what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.” Very true Christopher. Master-full blog.

572. Christopher, your description of evolutionary parenting makes so much sense and surely is the key to unlocking hatred and war. If all our children were lovingly raised in harmonious environments, where from young they felt a part of what was going on and were not left to be looked after by a screen or institution etc., the world would be very different.

573. I found a picture for what you describe here Christopher: when we turn on a dimmed light of a room, we will see more of what is going on in the room. Maybe we will see a mess or disorder and by seeing it we feel the urge to bring order to it. The more we light up – the more we become aware. Without turning on the light we would not have the awareness of the mess and so would exist more or less happily in the room of mess without seeing it. But the mess is there – if we see it or not. No matter how dark we dim our light, it is there. And … we know it. Seeing is not our only sense, we feel, we know, we sense. And so we feel the urge to bring order to the mess of this world and in us – but we dim our light and we dim our awareness. Be it with food, negative & critical thoughts and behaviors or what ever. This is irresponsibility. And we all know it: when we do not bring order – the mess will become worse. Mess attracts more mess, more complications and blindness. Order brings clarity, a wider view. And it is our choice if we chose to dim or light or to turn it on more. Anyway the mess is there. We did let it come that far. Now it is on us to clear it up again. Lighting up and roll up one’s sleeves.
     And the beauty is: when we sit in our room of shadows and darkness, we feel alone and lonely, but when we light up the room (take responsibility) we see all the people (brothers) around us, we can look in each others eyes and see our connection, we can work together, hand in hand clearing up this mess. Make space for the joy of connection.

574. To have the two end of the scales regarding food in one society at one time is crazy in itself and something that alerts me to the fact that we are definitely not the most intelligent species around. Where is our wisdom? Or should the question ask Why are we not connecting to our wisdom? Animals live in harmony – this knowing when to eat and when to stop – when to hunt and when to rest – but humans seem so off the mark.

575. It is true the world is in a mess and what your blog shows Christopher is a huge imbalance in how we are living, yet we seem to accept this as just being the way it is. Until we remove all our creature comforts that keep us from wanting to see how we are really living I fear the mess will increase and become much worse. As you say we like to blame everything and everyone but until we reach the level of responsibility where we understand that it is us and our behaviours that affects the world, that it is us that affects the weather patterns and create the disasters around the world an it is us that create our own illness and disease, we will continue to lay blame at everyone and everything but ourselves.

576. Super informative blog Christopher and even the title is a moment to pause and reflect before going any further, to ask ourselves the question, Are we taking responsibility for our lives or are we still in the blaming mode, (usually our parents cop it here), blaming everyone else for where we are in life, instead of getting honest in how we are living and from there slowly making different choices….

577. A very thought provoking article Chris on so many levels, however this line really stood out for me “….are we so habitually abusive to ourselves that we don’t even recognise it as self-abuse anymore?” If we are supposed to be, as some would say, the most intelligent species on the planet, how is it that we have got it so wrong that we can override what we know is destroying us to such an extent that we are no longer even aware of it?

578. I love this line: “Is this just simply filling in time, a bit of fun, a social outlet – or is it something more than that?” How many moments a day do we waste on a bit of fun, or on something that has no purpose or no meaning? I suspect if we added up all those moments we would be stunned.

579. I agree Mary – it’s such a sad state of affairs. From the outside looking in one must think ‘hmm, this isn’t working properly, this place is broken.’

580. We have become quite complacent as a society, comfort and security being what we have craved most, no wonder there is now a counter to this in extreme sports and dicing with death in other ways, like the manufacture and taking of extreme drugs. This maltreatment of our own bodies and selves has been going on for centuries in different forms, now it is more sophisticated and far more insidious. We do need to wake up and start looking at what is going on and firstly looking at that in ourselves, for the world is only a reflection of where we are at on some level. There is a seeming new way to be that works and I feel you sum it up here: ‘Feeling a true response from our body and our responsibility in any given situation, rather than reacting emotionally, may be the way forward out of the chaotic mess mankind has gotten itself into.’ Easily dismissed by the mind as an obvious fact but let’s live it and see what happens.

581. Wow Christopher, where do I even begin…you hit on so many topics. Your honesty and curiosity by way of questioning is really cool. I was that person – and still am – that reacts to not taking responsibility. But the difference between me today and a few years ago is that I have a greater awareness and understanding of what responsibility is – and so if I react I can recognise why I’m doing so and thus start the wheels of change. It’s so easy and comfortable to blame others, but very empowering to accept that we are, in truth, the ones who are responsible.

582. Beautifully written blog, clear concise and accountable, exactly what is necessary in a world where irresponsibility is so prevalent. Taking look at where we can be more responsible is so worth it, true responsibility is a joy, no chore involved. It has allowed me to have a deeper, richer, more true experience of life and I am committed to walking this path and uncovering and developing and more responsible way of life.

583. Chris I love the amount of facts and questions you have included in this article, as well as your insightful personal sharing. This article has made even more relevant and clear the importance of us each living the responsibility to be all of who we are in life. The Way of The Livingness makes more sense than ever – to support ourselves to live in joy, harmony and stillness with the love we are for ourself and others especially when the societal trends of life today are reflected in all the stats you included.

584. Whilst reading this it occurred to me that we can turn a blind eye to what we are doing to ourselves, others and the planet, and pretend that everything is ok, but for how long – in other words how bad does it have to get, and are we trying to block out the fact that deep down we know everything is a mess hence the distractions.

585. ‘what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.’ – this is awesome Christopher and like you, the more I have discarded things that are not loving, the more I see the depth of responsibility underneath it all.

586. We may scream out to the world to change and nominate all that is not right but is this bringing a change? The true change comes from taking responsibility for our own choices in every moment of our day. What thoughts are we thinking and are we holding ourselves in the deep care and love we would like to see in the world? This is great to ponder on.

587. Christopher, you raise some important questions in this article, this question i would say a definite yes to, ‘Has self-abuse become normal?’ From what I observe self abuse is the norm in our society. Looking after oneself – not drinking alcohol, going to bed early and putting ourselves first is considered odd, selfish and unusual. It feels like this is the opposite to how it naturally should be.

588. Facing the bitter pill that we, individually and humanity, are living a life of irresponsibility is the medicine we need to swollow to resolve the ills of society.

     1. And it is clear that many are loathe to admit it let alone be still enough to recognise the mess we are in and see our way clear of. We are medicating in the opposite direction at rapid knots- to dull, numb, distract and avoid the pink elephant that is forever sitting in the room with us calling us to be responsible, be true and live accordingly.

     2. Sure that is the way we all have to go, but we have to be patient as each and everyone of us has to come to this understanding in his own time, when they are ready to take off the blinds and see where they are truly at. But in the meantime there need to be the ones that do take this responsibility and lead the way and show the many what is possible in human life.

589. “I now know that each time I do this for myself and step through these self-imposed, ingrained barriers, painful as they may be, I become more of the true man I am meant to be – and as I overcome each obstacle I am filled with love, joy, stillness and harmony.”
     Thank-you Christopher, without doubt responsibility is the key to our evolution but as you rightly say not without a foundation of self love & appreciation. The figures and facts you present are horrifying and crass for a so called superior intelligence. Reacting and band aiding these issues solves nothing, constantly applying greater responsibility to our way of being will bring change, for as you have so wisely reflected it is our natural way.

590. Very powerful indeed your article. It shows that it all starts with ourselves and we take care of ourselves. Not in the ‘normal’ way by being greedy, only thinking of ourselves and living a life of comfort. But taking responsibility for every step, thought, spoken word. I wonder how the world looks like if we all practice that for one week….

591. It is as if we seem to have become oblivious to the headlines and taken them as being normal where they are far from normal. The Hollywood movies and the media seem to have desensitised us to the atrocities going on. I agree it does not make any sense yet is the current reality, so the question is what are we going to do about it? Are we going to choose to take responsibility for our lives or simply make our lives about us and ignore what is going on around us so long as we are safe and comfortable in our little bubble?

592. Very well said Christopher, it is so easy for us to blame others for the mess we have created and the choices we have made. The problem is we can blame all we want but nothing changes nor will it ever and the longer we stay in this cycle the harder it seems to get out of it. However, as you say when we bring responsibility back to the way we live not purely for ourselves but also for humanity equally then everything makes sense and suddenly my life takes on a whole new purpose.

593. This is so true:’the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.’ The many distractions available to us now are great at covering up just how irresponsible are the choices that we are making on a daily basis. The more I chose to drop these distractions the more layers I am uncovering of irresponsibility and as you share it can be very confronting but so worth it for the joy and harmony that my body feels when connected to a wisdom beyond me.

594. Irresponsibility is the snowball rolling down the hill that just gets bigger and heavier when we pretend it doesn’t exist. What does carrying all this weight do to our body’s?

     1. And irresponsibility starts with the small things which we have not been taught to be aware of and take responsibility for as we grow up. The little things like how we move affects the room and people in it and also how our bodies feel. Eg. How I push my chair in and out at school impacts the class and is something I am either doing gently each day in harmony with my body or in a rush with perhaps aggression that causes my body to harden. The little things like being aware of how we speak and of the quality we are speaking from in our bodies. The little things like . . . are we including the all or just thinking about ourselves, our own recognition, our own security etc – and then being aware that all that has an impact on us personally and the rest of society and societal attitudes collectively now and for the future. The little things like going along with things we don’t agree with or joining in on demeaning attitudes etc. The little things all add up to be the big thing that then makes us stop and consider later in life but because we have not been taught to feel, express and take energetic responsibility from young, we then get confused to why such great calamities happen such as illnesses, wars, earthquakes etc. Our individual collective responsibility is so important.

     2. What an awesome analogy, irresponsibility is definitely a snowfall that gets bigger and faster and heavier – and more out of control if we don’t catch it and start making more responsible choices.

     3. It makes us sick, bloat, overeat, drained, exhausted, miserable and anxious and all adds to the plight that the world is in right now. Shame that the human race appears to be taking itself to the brink by burying our heads in the proverbial sand, and not wanting to take responsibility for our choices but choosing instead to blame something or someone else.

     4. I love the analogy of the snowball getting heavier Steve, if we choose to ignore it. The moment we choose to take responsibility everything seems so much less weighty.

        1. You could say that the stuff we have be carrying around when we accept our responsibility, just melts away.

595. We tend to look at life through the window (the window is a symbol of a spehere that you consider yours and anoither that is out there). We see what happens out there, all the horror that is going on, all the nonsense that we find each day and think, wow it is horrible out there, thanks God it is not happening to us. This thought buys you peace of mind until you realise that what happens out there is related to what happens everywhere. The idea of the inner and outer sphere is a convenient misrepresenation of how really is. Irresponsability feeds irresponsibility. So, we all have a responsibility of living in a way not to add anylonger to what already disgust us and with good reasons.

596. Thank you Christopher for exposing how much we live on the surface of our true potential and how much ‘unknown’ behaviours and attitudes are veiled by this distance way of living we keep to ourselves. And thank you for speaking so openly about the discoveries you have made about yourself that you found you were not as open as you thought yourself to be. This alone shows to me how willing you are to step out of this protection and open up with every step more. I can very much relate to what you are describing and have found that responsibility is not easily claimed back as a whole all at once but that it is a step by step process and with every step we take, more of the bigger picture is revealed to us, thus the magnitude of responsibility realised with every step more.

597. A powerful essay for a ‘State of Humanity’ speech for us all to reflect on and to choose to bring an every-deepening responsibility into our lives and the world.

598. ‘What we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.’ – it can be so uncomfortable to admit that we’ve been living untruthfully, irresponsibly and far away from who we are, and as you say, the more responsible we become the more irresponsible we realise we’ve been. But allowing ourselves to see and feel more of what we’re holding onto and resisting, and why, allows us to start to let these old ingrained patterns and behaviours go. I found that making changes to my diet and sleep patterns relatively easy, but then the resistance kicked in, as I could feel that my body is asking me to go to a deeper level and let go of old thought patterns and ways of being that I’m stubbornly clinging on to. Seeing and reminding myself of the bigger picture, that I am part of a much greater whole, is a huge wake up call that my life is not all about me: we’re all in this together and all have a responsibility, an equal part, in returning the world to its natural state of harmony through how we live.

     1. Yes, this is our true way forward, it is a wake up call and one that ignites true purpose and brings joy to life. There is a constant tension when we are not living in a way in respect of ourselves and others as we do know deep down we are a equal part of the whole and we have our part to play. It can seem an overwhelming situation when we look at the current state of the world, yet when we bring it back to our everyday relationship and the moment to moment choices we make with loving responsiveness, we are doing our part. As my level of awareness deepens so does my level of responsibility deepen with this.

599. Love this blog Christopher, it is a real eye opener, and for me these words, among many, stopped and demanded another read or two: “the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.” That was a big aha moment when I read it as I could relate to these wise words so very easily. To have one’s irresponsibility exposed when you had actually managed to convince yourself that you were being responsible, is definitely an ‘ouch’ moment!

     1. So true Ingrid and this is exactly why the foundation of self love and appreciation is so fundamental, so that every ouch moment is met with a ready made bed of love and understanding.

     2. This quote is gold and I have also felt this. The more I become aware, the more I understand just how much there is to be responsible for and when that level that I am aware of is. It lived – it is tangibly felt as a disharmony.

600. Reading this blog Christopher lights a fire in me I can feel we are all connected to and come from. We all know that our societies are a mess, and because we have chosen a way of living that makes us not as aware of this fact we continue to making choices that adds to the waywardness we are in. Articles like these are so needed as they light that inner fire in which we do know and from there can become more consciously aware of the true state of our societies and start to make other choices.

     1. It’s definitely a very real article and I agree, one well needed.

     2. I agree Nico – blogs like these give us all an opportunity to see how we contribute to the state of the world today.

     3. We have to be very loving to ourselves to admit our irresponsibility because self-judgment is another road to despair and there is no responsibility there. Self love is about honesty and honesty fuels the fire within- we are not here for ourselves, we are here for all of humanity and it is responsible for that principal to be at the forefront of all our choices.

     4. Well said Nico…it lights a fire in me too.

601. Responsibility is such a joyful word. The more we embrace, embody and live true responsibility the more we liberate ourselves from our loveless ways.

     1. And how amazing it feels to be liberated from the strings that use to once hold us.

        1. Yes, and looking back to see it was us who tied ourselves up all along!

     2. What a refreshingly beautiful definition of that word Nicola… something normally associated with burden, obligation and hard work.

        1. Thank you Jenny. I LOVE working. There is nothing hard in hard work – that too is a great joy!

     3. I am so in agreement with you here Nicola, “Responsibility is such a joyful word.” In the past I definitely didn’t think so as to me it was something to be avoided at all cost, but today there is no doubt as I have experienced the joy that has come from taking responsibility for choices that in the past I would have been blaming someone else for; a much more liberating and uncomplicated way to live.

        1. Yes indeed, it is so simple!

     4. Beautifully said Nicola, I totally agree. The more responsibility we are willing to take, the more we realise how supportive and joyful this choice actually is.

602. There is a lot to swallow in this insightful and thought provoking article but perhaps it is all best realised as Chris alludes to by our own aims, we don’t change the world in sweeping steps but through our own actions, and thus if we want a gentler, kinder, slimmer, healthier world free of violence and hate then we must continually deepen our own loving actions to present the possibilities to others that this can be how it is.

603. Reading your blog Christopher exposes the apathy many are living with, and it also calls us to take a broader view, and to live more responsively. A unified approach is surely needed; every choice we make not only affects us on a personal level, but every one of us.

604. If we stop for a while and cease distracting ourselves, there is something you can hear. Perhaps it is faint at first. But it is the call, the pull of the world and what we are here to do. Like background music we can’t stand, we can put on all the ear mufflers we like, but no matter what you do there underneath there it stands. Responding to the task at hand, what the world needs to hear and understand, acting on what is there for you to deliver, is what we were born to do. I love how you describe this fact Christopher and that this ability to respond is not static but in fact it is something that grows like any muscle. The more you use it the stronger it becomes and so it goes. There is always a deeper level for us to know.

605. Brilliant expose Christopher Murphy. Until I go to my own depths and discover my own levels of irresponsibility I continue to look outside myself for some else to lead the way. Powerful sharing that explores the micro and the macro of responsibility. Thank you.

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