321 thoughts on “Are We Taking Responsibility For Our Own Lives?”

1. Absolutely agree, lack of responsibility is huge, ‘one where we are not taking complete responsibility for our own lives, and our own health and well-being.’

2. We generally don’t want to look at responsibility or what we can tend to do is pick and choose where we want to be responsible and where we don’t want to be. But it doesn’t work like this and because ‘Everything is Everything’ as presented by Serge Benhayon and the teachings of Universal Medicine and if there is a pocket of not doing this then that is the highest level we can go to as it was an action we chose to not be responsible and that influences and has a ripple effect everywhere else.

3. This is a great article, asking us to look a little closer into life and what it is all about in such a simple way. Life is not complex but we have made it so and are meanwhile lost in all the chaos and complexity there is.

4. Why are we running marathons? The guy who did it originally had a pretty strong purpose (an invading Persian Army), and I understand that he died once he completed it. So what are we so determinedly running away from?

   1. I like this. It shows how we take things and turn them into something totally different and then champion them or say they are good for us.

5. ‘Has self abuse become normal?’ I would say yes, absolutely it has. I remember at school it was pretty cool to be messy, unkept, and live in total disregard. Looking after yourself and taking care equalled boring and dull. To be edgy and cool meant you had to be a bit reckless and pretend you didn’t care about anything. Now when I look back I see how lost we all were as teenagers, all pretending not to care, desperate to fit in and be accepted by the pack. This world so desperately needs to know that there is another way to live – one where taking care of yourself actually allows you to know and be more of who you truly are, not less.

6. There is indeed an endless list of what humanity does to dim, dull or decimate their connection with life and the universe.

7. It is a strongly held belief that parents should sacrifice themselves for their children, forsaking their own well-being. This really doesn’t make sense, as surely if they take care of themselves, they will be 100% fit and well to carry out the hugely important role of being a parent.

8. This is a process that is never ending and constantly refining. Once you think you have got things moving more is offered to bring a quality that was not lived before and in turn asks more.

9. It can be relatively easy to make those changes that are obvious to us, to live in a more responsible way – i.e. committing more fully to our day to day responsibilities and obligations. But how often do we consider that the way we think and move is also our responsibility? That the quality of our thoughts and movements actually affects others?

10. We don’t always know what lives below the surface because we have become so at ease that the patterns and behaviours just feel normal and safe. It is only when we take a moment to ask ourselves why we do what we do that we can look afresh to see if what we do, is fed by a fear of missing out or perhaps being less, even though what we do is actually not supporting our own bodies. It is only then that we offer ourselves a moment of honesty to decide again. Perhaps it is time to create an environment that lends itself to more honesty and see what comes to our awareness.

11. Irresponsibility is like a stalker and hides in the shadows. Without awareness we fail to see how it influences the way we think, our beliefs and ideals. Convincing ourselves we are responsible is the first trip rope, that prevents us from seeing all the areas where we are not.

12. When I look outside and see how senseless and irresponsible much of life is, I’m reminded to explore within to see how the outer reflects how I am living my life.

13. Why is it that 30% of the world’s population is obese? I think generally we skirt this issue but it is a very real question not only for the 2 billion people who are experiencing this, but also for the systems that are creaking under the weight of it all (apologies for the pun).

    1. Yes Simon, here in the UK, the NHS is buckling under huge pressure to cope with the growing numbers of diseases caused by lifestyle choices.

14. I had always thought i was a ‘good person’ but the more I become aware of myself and the responsibility I have to live lovingly and harmoniously with and in life the more I get to see and feel the consequence of those insidious ‘little’ beliefs and Ideals that are running in the background within me. The realisation of each of these and of how unconscious many are has been shocking to me too Christopher. But the expansion of harmony and joy within myself and my life when each one gets dismantled and let go of is worth more than anything, and once realized can not be undone without great loss to the truth of who we are.

15. This article is so well written and has so much to deeply consider that it is almost mindblowing. This feels like it is actually a good thing, as this may bring me to feeling what is going on rather than filing my head with the usual distractions to not know and pretend I and am everything out there, are OK.

16. Awesome article Christopher! And yes, I agree that self abuse is normal, I’m guilty of that one for sure. A string of thoughts to keep me in self doubt, brought on by something as simple as my food choices is self abuse. Some may find this concept absurd, and I would understand as once upon a time, I would have agreed. But through experimenting with self responsibility and actually placing myself in the world as an equal contributor to the all, I now see clearly just how ignorant we have all become.

17. “The more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.” I always thought I was hugely responsible – and I am in the physical practical world. But as I step more into energetic responsibility I can see there is a whole other level of responsibility that I was not going near.

18. We all know abuse even in the way we move or the thoughts that we allow to enter. We don’t want to see it because we would much rather hold onto our hurts, ideals, beliefs, investments and pictures and not see the truth even when it is called out and exposed. But, if we choose inspiration we can be inspired through reflection to take responsibility and let go of that which is not love to uncover the ‘real’ woman or man that we truly are.

19. It has been a strange journey so far… the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am. Yes, Christopher, the more responsibility we choose, the more we see areas that we are not as responsible. Great to uncover these and feel the truth that responsibility is really choosing deep love.

20. Self abuse is certainly normal – its so weird to say that but it is undeniably true. But natural… absolutely no, and perhaps the greatest challenge of our times is in finding the courage for everyone to look at why?

21. “What we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.” This is a huge realisation, which when honestly addressed brings a whole new relationship with everything in one’s life. The more one lives as one – who we think we are and who we truly are – so life flows more harmoniously and with ease.

22. A great article that poses the big questions. As much as life seems to be complicated, responsibility quickly makes it clear and simple.

23. It gave me a smile reading: “the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am” because it reminded me that I always used to say: “the more aware I am the more aware of how unaware I am”. These days I don’t feel that so much but do keep becoming more aware!

24. I know what I do and the energy I do it in, is what I give out. I see this as being a bit like adding ingredients to a big pot of soup, where the ‘soup’ is the energy that’s around us in the world – what everyone has created in their lives so far. I also know that the quality of my choices in each and every moment of the day is what decides whether I’m adding toxic energy, or not, to the mix that everyone lives in and there’s no escaping the level of responsibility this holds for me and for everyone else as well.

25. It’s amazing what you are writing here, the fact that we drink and take drugs to avoid our pain is so obvious, we all know it, it’s everywhere. However, the lack of self-love and real responsibility is not discussed in the world so much, nobody likes to admit the fact that they do things to please and not from their heart, that they lie about how they feel or what they did because they don’t want to get exposed… there is so much underneath the surface that we should be talking about!

26. A powerful and insightful blog to read Christopher. I was particularly struck by the total and amazing inequity of wealth in our modern society; proof surely that our world is in absolute chaos and diabolical trouble.

27. Thank you Christopher for such a deeply honest and powerful blog it is certainly humble to read those statistics that have exposed the true state of humanity and the irresponsibility that has allowed this – so many have accepted this as ‘normal’ but in fact living with true responsibility will begin to shift this mindset and bring the healing that is so needed.

28. A deep and raw honesty in this blog Christopher. How easy it is to judge another, when we don’t want feel the truth about the judgements and lack appreciation we hold about ourselves, which colours our view of everything. Great that you have exposed this’d felt the consequences in your body.
    “Why do I look at women the way I do, why do I objectify, why do I consider them lesser and why do I judge?”

29. True Carmel. Our politicians are simply a reflection of what we as a humanity have chosen. The politicians will change when the people who vote for them call them to account. It order to do this we (the people) must first be willing to address our personal relationship with responsibility.

30. Thank you for this beautifully referenced piece Christopher. When I questioned life as a child I remember being told that “everything was fine as long as you weren’t hurting anyone”. I grew up hanging on to this belief and of course I never included myself in the ‘hurting anyone’ equation… and everything was not fine. Now I know that my true potential is a priceless treasure that I spent many years squandering. This hurt not only me but many other people. Responsibility is a truly loving choice that benefits all.

31. When we say ‘Yes’ to evolution we change, our surroundings change, the people in our lives change, everything changes so what we once thought we were becomes irrelevant.

32. A very thoughtful and deeply pondering contribution about responsibility and how it plays out in daily life; it portrays how taking responsibility is the way forward out of the mess we are in, one switched on individual at a time.

33. We know how to live responsibly – with energetic awareness, because everything that we have created is the exact opposite of this divine responsibility. So we must know, to know how to live the opposite way.

34. ‘I thought that taking responsibility would be simple’ You reveal Christopher that there are layers of responsibility and once one is uncovered, another becomes apparent. The doing can be easy, connecting to where we truly are with ourselves honesty, less so. Once we see ourselves more clearly and understand the reason why we think or act in a certain way, we’re well on the way to releasing what is not true.

35. This is a WOW of a blog Christopher! There is so much here for me to ponder and in taking that deeper look within, start to make positive changes in my life.

36. ‘Feeling a true response from our body and our responsibility in any given situation, rather than reacting emotionally, may be the way forward out of the chaotic mess mankind has gotten itself into.’ Reacting emotionally feels horrible to the body and spreads ill feeling everywhere. By being still and connected in our body we are able to feel and stay with a response that precedes emotion and thus avoids the harmful effects emotions do to us. Sustaining this way of being when it seems like others want to engage us in an emotional tussle can be challenging but it is only in staying firm and true to ourselves that we can stay responsible and free.

37. At some stage the human race is going to get to a point of such irresponsibility that the consequences will be too large to ignore any more, for when there is more sick than healthy, when obesity, diabetes and cancers are so rife they are the normal and the poverty this causes as the benefits will run out. Then we will on mass have to wise up and start listening to the few who are already living such a life of true responsibility.

38. “…the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am. The more I change this, the more I sense a resistance in my body, at the same time knowing that I cannot turn back and return to more irresponsibility…” This is deeply honest outlook. I too feel that I want to dig my heels in when it comes to being more responsible and my resistance is strong, but there is only one true option and that is to take greater responsibility in everything that I do.

39. It is only when the distractions go that we are clearer within ourselves to feel what’s really going on. Having a constant stream of numbing ourselves with computer games, TV, food, sport, whatever it is we use to get through life is like a drug that keeps us subdued so that we do not start to ask the all important question – There has to be more to life than this?

40. I know for one I have not taken responsibility for where I am actually at living a lie of thinking I’m in a better place than I actually am. Feeling this has been hard, but I have been far more in my body, real and humbled. I’ve been pretty arrogant thinking I’m somewhere im not – total irresponsibility. But finding this out and feeling this has brought me closer to people. I have become far more real.

41. Taking responsibility is often avoided and mis-interpreted as a burden, but when we consider energetic responsibility this ups the anti and brings responsibility to a whole new level – one many are not prepared to face, let alone go to… and yet it can be profoundly life-changing.

42. Oh yes, the good old pastime, I know that one well, as in the past and even sometimes now, my mind will try to gravitate to convincing me I need to do this or do that as a form of reward or as a, time out. Time out from what, I ask, as when you choose to stay with you in all that you do, no perfection of course, the absolute joy of moving with you in your own delight-full love is exquisite, so why would you want to spend one moment away from that, and at what expense?

43. “The list is endless. Is this just simply filling in time, a bit of fun, a social outlet – or is it something more than that? Are not all these pastimes ways of distraction to not feel our predicament and ways of checking out from who we are and what life is truly about?” This is an interesting one, to work out what our ‘pastimes’ really are for. Passing-time? For what reason? To check-out from what we are really feeling about our life?
    very exposing blog. Thank-you.

44. Gorgeous, healing blog raising the subject of responsibility and how we need to take our responsibility in our own life, before anything else..

45. A new way of living is needed like never before, for has there ever been so much disharmony and distraction and so many living life without joy, well since the dark ages. The way we live now so irresponsibly cannot end well for humanity and the time is well past that we change our ways to avoid inevitable catastrophes.

46. I read this story the other day, of a woman who is in her 80’s and competes in Ironman competitions. How far has she run/is still running from herself?

47. It is a commonly held belief that we can come away with living irresponsible lives. Overtime things come to the light as a result of us living in this irresponsible way. Then we tend to come with solutions but they are still from this same place and set the path for a continuation of the way we’re living. We can only stop this by understanding that the idea to live without being responsible for it is a commonly held belief and not something that naturally belongs to us, as when we are honest we all know what responsibility is and from this honesty we can let go of our false beliefs. From this our own choice, we make the space to return to that state of being that is more natural to us and will relief a lot of tension, not onely in our own bodies, but also in our society as a whole.

48. It is clear from your article Chris that even the civilised world is in quite a mess. We have been irresponsible towards ourselves and our own health, and grossly irresponsible to our fellow humans. This is good to realize and be aware of so that we can correct our behaviour.

49. “adding fuel to the already out-of-control, raging forest fire of irresponsibility that we are all part of?” What an image, this has stopped me in my tracks. Is that how bad it really is for me in my life?

50. Being responsible has no end point it is a way of being that becomes grander and more glorious as we step up to it.

51. We can get so caught up – erroneously so – in what we might think responsibility is, and then think it’s a heavy burden we’d rather avoid. In doing so, we conveniently avoid the true responsibility, which is to let the truth of who we are be expressed, to read situations and people without measure, and to appreciate all we already know and always have. Living responsibly is living lovingly – they are one and the same.

52. I agree Jane. And when we do have those conversations at our dinner tables and let our own curiosity express and ask the most natural questions to ask, there is so much joy and inspiration to be had. Choosing to keep our lives capped is just that: a capped life. Choosing to open up to the endless responsibility we are being asked to take is choosing a life that has harmony, love and joy at its very base. Living responsibly is choosing to live gloriously.

53. There are some zillion ways to avoid acknowledging and accepting what life is all about and taking responsibility for our part in it. Our creativity is endless and our capacity to convince ourselves that doing A has nothing to do with doing B or C, while in truth they are all actions to cope with what we desire most.

54. Having been addicted to the TV since around the age of 14 (now 56), and after many years of using will power to abstain and relapse, I have finally come to the realisation of how much time I have wasted watching the television, and now I have no thoughts of wanting to watch this or that, because I can feel how much of a drug it really is, and how lethargic I would get by choosing to watch.

55. Thank you Christopher. You make it easy to see that change is possible on a large scale if we each take responsibility for our own lives. I can feel how much I personally resist this and it makes me wonder what it will take to wake us all up. I am very grateful to have the support of Universal Medicine as I take steps to become more responsible in my own life.

56. The more responsible I become the more irresponsible I realise I am. I have felt and thought this so many times. It’s like opening a can of worms, but it is a good can of worms.

57. There is some great detail and statistics in this article that most know and I have seen regularly. They are no surprise and yet at the same time I don’t think I have allowed them to fully sink in. The waste of resources, the money being spent, the attitudes towards other etc I have read them all before and yet there was an outward blame or a turn away from my responsibility in them. It’s not a ‘it’s my fault’ style of thing but more seeing and reading where others have a part but also in turn seeing my part and where I have my hand in the circle. By seeing or becoming more aware of the part I play I will be able to continually see more of what is actually going on in any situation. Or I can sit and pretend to accept all of this as a part of life and out of my control, all being the responsibility of others. We need to get ourselves off the couch more and become an active part of the world, not to force it to change but to be aware of our part in it and live that awareness. This very action will pull the world to be the same, it can resist but that should only inspire us to go deeper within our own awareness.

58. Something to consider is that when stopping doing something that we recognise is harming us is if we don’t look at the energy behind why we were doing it we can end up replacing it with another perhaps more refined behaviour but the same ill energy is still there… And so stopping harming behaviours is great and needed but to take a deeper level of energetic responsibility is also needed if we are to truly heal and evolve…

59. To consider the true meaning of responsibility has invited me to embrace it and practise applying it in the way I treat myself. I see how this impacts all areas of my life… an experiment and curiosity to be continued!

60. This is such a big on – responsibility. We really do so many things to not always go to the next level of responsibility in our life. Even when we usually have awareness as to what that actually means for us. We feel everything. So it is allowing that awareness to shine, to not hold back and to go for it that allows the next opportunities to unfold.

61. Thanks for sharing this – it brings to my attention again the state of the world and also the role I have in it. That by taking responsibility I don’t just take it for myself but for others too. I am part of the all and just knowing that is a responsibility to live it.

    1. Great point HM. We cannot go back once we know this truth.

62. True true Christoph, we must see and open ourselves up to what is going on in the world, and see that indeed it is more than just living and containing life without purpose to why we live in the first place. With purpose I mean not just own existence and fullfillment but actually our part, individually, in society, the quality of life we live and the true levels of integrity in one’s life. With integrity also meant the absolute respect, care and truth lived to oneself and people. I guess we’ve got a lot to learn and open ourselves up to.. No longer ignoring things that truly matter and need our attention and true action. Everything matters, hence where is our attitude that carries that integrity?

63. The humbleness I feel that the end of this blog needs to stay with me in order to always make the choice to question what I have taken as normal. To inspire me to see below the surface of what I do, put in my mouth, think and say, to see why I do them all.

64. ‘what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.’ I really picked up on this one today Christopher as recently I’ve become aware of how much I make things about me, and despite my ideas that it’s about all of us, many times it’s not, so it’s great to read this today and understand that it’s just another layer to look at, and unpick the false ways I’ve been.

65. “what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.” This is an – at times – uncomfortable but incredibly freeing – way to live your live. To be open to what is really going on.

66. We think we can come away with being irresponsible to our lives but that is not how our bodies are. Our bodies are truth and will clock everything that is done in disrespect to this and will present this sooner or later in illness, disease or another way and will make us to surrender that that loving quality that is living in our inner hearts. One day each and everyone of us will come to this point where we are asked to reconsider in taking responsibility for our lives.

67. Oh yes, the big R of responsibility, I can really relate to as we become more responsible then it becomes apparent that there is more responsibility in our lives needed and there is a tension there felt between the potential of the next step and what is being lived in the present.

68. Responsibility, and irresponsibility, have been the big fat elephants in the room for far too long – this is great to expose the truth of what is truly going on in our society. Thank you for your inspiration Christopher.

69. I think the next step for myself personally is to take more of a stand against corruption, within every aspect of society we see things that are not true, the importance is in the choice to not accept this corruption. A great start for me has been no longer buying newspapers that are filled with lies and misrepresentation, not eating the foods that are not good for us. If we stop buying and supporting things that are not working for everyone, we will see change. But most of all not being in reaction to corruption, but being steady and resolute in saying no to all the things we know need to change.

70. How we breath, how we move and how we live affects everyone around us. The more we develop this understanding the more we can also open up to more levels of responsibility. The more we take on board these levels of responsibility then the less it actually burdens us! And we get to realise how many levels there are yet to take on board – and so it is about growing into these layers no different to growing into a jumper that is too big to begin with: initially it feels awkward and a little strange, then as we grow into it it fits perfectly and supports us back to a T, and then as we grow more, the jumper gets too small, too tight and we need to look at changing to a bigger one. Growth comes from taking on responsibility, and it is endless how much we can actually grow. It is something to be celebrated and not feared.

71. It is a given that most of us “are not taking complete responsibility for our own lives, and our own health and well-being.” – I too have looked around and seen adults behaving like children in so many ways. I watch at the supermarket and I see what foods people buy, and I see grown ups lunch boxes and lunch choices, and to me these look like children’s foods. I watch people in town and around see adults dressed as big kids and behaving like big kids, walking around with a lost look, playing a role or a game in an attempt to give themselves a purpose to the day. And I see so many who are homeless and have no work, in a country that offers every opportunity to get out of this predicament. It makes me see how this is all contributing to the way our world is, how this is setting an example for the youth to follow in…And it allows me to see how important it is for each and every one of us to live as an example (to the best of our ability and with no perfection here asked) so that we can inspire by virtue of how we breath, how we move, how we live whilst taking responsibility on all levels, however seemingly small and however seemingly big.

72. As I develop my own relationship with responsibility I find not only do the areas of irresponsibility now stick out like a sore thumb, they simply can’t be ignored for irresponsibility feels too uncomfortable in my body to let lie.

73. This blog ask much and raise up some more questions – what is great. To ponder just on one: “Why do we take resources from others to enrich ourselves, only to leave the others in dire straits?” I see us slave-drive people and resources in other countries just to spent some money and aid workers later to ‘help’ the country. This is absurd – on one hand. But if it is about ‘taking responsibility’ this stage behavior makes ‘sense’ in a way. We try to control everything instead of taking our role in life an make this planet working. Together. So we can hang on to our individuality and creations. But. This will not make us happy, not successful at the end. Refugees will come into the countries which try to hold the upper hand on the world and show them that we are ONE world and can’t hide or separate from each other in truth. It is our choice if we will learn it ‘the hard way’ or voluntary. But to learn we have it and we will.

74. We do not care to realise the impact our irresponsibility has on our bodies, our lives and our fellow human beings. Thank you Christopher for raising our awareness in this regard and putting the finger on the festering wound, a very needed subject to discuss indeed.

75. When we take responsibility for our own lives it has huge implications not only for ourselves but also for others and for our planet. If we all did it we would have a very different experience of the world.

76. Becoming aware of the irresponsibility with which I have been living has been a daunting process but I have come to the understanding that it is a necessary part of my journey for it is awakening within me what it means to be present with my body and to live responsibly.

77. What an exposing blog about where humanity is at! Quite confronting.. I could feel my spirit within squirming, not wanting to hear the impact of how our world is living because we are not each taking responsibility for it.
    Life is about individual pursuits, recognition and reward and not about looking at the bigger picture, and how we each affect the all by our quality of our movements.

78. Much is made of endeavours such as climbing Mt Everest yet what purpose do they serve? They seem to be about the quest for individual recognition and reward, and that’s about it. There’s not a whole lot of responsibility there, particularly considering others are often negatively impacted by those activities.

    1. This is all coming to the surface as the Nepalese start to talk about the cost to the sherpas of supporting others to climb Mount Everest. Yet how many want to take responsibility for that and how many justify it to satiate their need for ever more extreme challenges and experiences? Taking responsibility is humbling and offers a choice for lasting change.

    2. What a brilliant question to ask. How many of our human pursuits make any sense when under scrutiny?

79. The responsibility that can be felt sometimes is for my past choices. If I’m willing to accept and understand that I can choose again and my past choices don’t define my essence I can gently and lovingly choose what does feel loving and caring in the way I live.

80. If we accept there is no wright or wrong then taking responsibility isn’t something to be of any concern, pressure or imposition.

    1. I agree Sandra, whilst the world is governed by everything being considered either right or wrong, understanding the truth about responsibility and the quality in how we are living is almost impossible to comprehend as anything other than being a very daunting and difficult task to change things.

81. Opening up to our inner curiosity, being willing to explore and learn is responsible in itself, the next step comes simply when learning is accepted and appreciated for what it is.

82. A powerful and inspiring read about true responsibility and how our ways of living with huge irresponsibility are further exposed as we return to more responsible choices to be accountable in life.
    “It has been a strange journey so far… the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am”.

83. Yes, the initial steps are almost the easiest because we’re just chipping off the surface. However, once we begin to open up to truly get to know our harmful ways of being, we can go deeper in self destructive mode. I can very much relate to that because I always thought for myself of this very kind, caring, and super patient person. However, the more I begin to open up to myself, the more I can feel how much resentment, and fury I have held inside of me. It feel poisonous, and I know that the only way to get rid of all this is through taking more responsibility and healing it from within.

84. Each step we take to become more responsible for our quality of being, the way we are living and what this reflects, it becomes clearer and clearer what is true and what is not.

    1. Yes I agree Vicky, “quality of being” is the essence, not the things we do.

85. I had an old friend look at me with a worried kind of bewilderment when I said I didn’t do most of the stuff I used to do, like the drinking, partying, watching sport and motorcycle riding, all the stuff to fill in my time and fill up my life. She just didn’t believe me when I said without all that stuff, my life was far more fulfilling and joyful now that I was being a more responsible person.

    1. I have found the same but can now see it is because we have stepped out of the norm – it is like saying it is possible to breath underwater, it may be beyond our experience yet that does not mean it is not possible.

86. A mighty and beautiful call to be in the natural responsiveness of our responsibility – to ourselves and all others equally. I’ve felt the same, the more I deepen my sense of responsibility, the more I’m aware of how irresponsible I am. It can be a real stop moment to feel how complacent I can be about so much wrong….this is the tension we live with everyday yet if I stop addressing it in myself, I’m responsible for its continuance in the world. It seems huge and could be interpreted as overwhelming, but that’s the giving up excuse we can’t afford. In truth, it’s a joy to realise that each time I step up and be more responsible in my choices, I have a ripple effect that can and does affect everything and everyone…life is way more fun when we embrace this power within ourselves. No need for hurrahs just simple, everyday power in all we do, say, feel and think. This is great, Christopher. Thank you for the wake up call to continue choosing awareness and responsibility by living from our bodies first and foremost.

87. It’s our responsibility to appreciate ourselves, because, if we don’t, we end up expecting recognition or approval from others which can strain a relationship (that has potential) with conditions and tension. As soon as we clock a need from another, it’s our responsibility to see where we are not giving that to ourselves or where the lack is – and usually, in my experience, it leads back to appreciation.

    1. Yep, and that lack of appreciation is usually rooted in a lack of self worth. What’s horrific however is that if we don’t observe ourselves, we fall “victims” of our own mess as it can feel very like a mud bath that we cannot get out of.

88. “maybe we would lovingly admit to the things that don’t feel true to us”. I have been pondering on this one lately and how I resist admitting that something is not quite quite right and does not feel true. It is like there is a pollyanna (someone who thinks good things will always happen and finds something good in everything) who lives inside of me that has her blinkers on, by not wanting to see what is truly there. But that takes up a lot of energy because in truth I am feeling what is there to be felt but am choosing not to admit it and put on a pair of rose coloured glasses at times.

89. I read this blog and know it. I can feel the very thing that lives in the arrogance to this knowing my human spirit. It is reacting and keen to finish reading this blog so it can do what it wants to do in its own individual conundrum. It is great to feel this and take a moment to stop and be responsible to what is really needed next for brotherhood and not self. It was all said in this blog and written in such a loving tangible way that it does give you something to consider, feel and observe just how you are living. What do we do next? Be responsible. For there is a next thing we are all given equally by the order of the universe and that is either irresponsible individualism or responsible love and brotherhood. As Chris claims one gives you nothing while the other gives you joy and love within.

90. That swallowing of pride and admitting that what I had chosen to adhere to was not true was the hardest part for me. It felt like ‘I’ was becoming nothing. But it’s really funny to look back because no matter how much investment I have had in, nothing can be dearer than true truth.

    1. It is indeed the clarity that comes when we let go of the false belief systems we once have fallen for and to realize that we actually have accepted these beliefs because they allowed us to be less responsible in life is a great revelation to me. We are not just irresponsible but we actually are because of our knowingly made choices.

91. Brilliant breakdown of responsibility and how it affects everything Christopher. We can be surprised when we become truly honest and understand that we are not what we think we are at all, and when we give ourselves this time and space to look we can often allow a more natural way of being. It takes time and courage, and of course a willingness to face our hurts, but it’s worth every step of the journey, even with the stumbles along the way. Responsibility is indeed a joy once we embrace it.

92. Unfortunately we tend to wait for the consequence of irresponsibility in order to make changes in life; rather than seek responsibility from knowing our part of and to the whole.

93. I think it’s great to ask all these questions of ourselves, people and the world,as long as we ask then from love – by holding ourselves other people deeply in love, no matter our or others choices – otherwise the questions just become a critique and judgement and a reaction to ourselves, our choices.

94. It is great to expose the rot like you have for it is only when the truth is exposed that there is a choice to then continue, in the irresponsibility of our choices or stand up and say enough and do something about it. Any step towards truth is a step for the all and therefore it’s importance can not be discounted…. For if you have lived in the darkness and nothing else, you will not know there is more until someone shines a light.

95. People are not asking the true questions that will lead to healing and evolution because they are not ready for the true answers that require them to be responsible.

96. “And if this is so, could there be a way of living responsibly as a true brotherhood, the brotherhood that mankind is truly here to be – founded in self-care, responsibility and truth?” – all the problems in the world start with each individual. All the political problems are fuelled by individuals. All the religious problems are fuelled by people. All the wars – fuelled by people. Every group is made up of people. And so it makes sense to bring it back to self care and responsibility first.

97. Serge Benhayon is one such man who has been asking much needed questions for the last 17 years, like why we run marathons, why we are so overweight and unwell. Through his simple and practical questioning of things we have become blind to, many others have been inspired to ask these questions too. This has helped to lift our heads out of the fog that ‘normal’ creates. When I look back at civilisations that went astray, I can see the central role accepting normal has in society, by gradually eroding our knowing of what a truly harmonious body, life and society can be.

98. That is a very good question, Jane, “what is the purpose” of tv, sports, fishing, novels, etc, and what makes me giggle about this is the fact that it is so obvious, and as clear as the day, that there is no purpose, no evolution, no love in those things. Only distractions away from responisibility for our lives.

99. This is such a crucial question, Christopher, – if we are taking responsibility for our own lives. Who else will do it if we don’t do it ourselves? I love the perspective you bring, from absolutely ALL angles. From the distractions, to food, to entertainment and how it affects or thoughts and behaviours, – it is all interrelated. Nothing doesn’t affect another aspect of our lives. Which in turn affect the society we live in. The statistics you reveal are devastating, but then again it does seem like the question you asked “are we so habitually abusive to ourselves that we don’t even recognise it as self-abuse anymore?” is true. Sadly so. Until we stop and take true responsibility. Awesome blog that needs attention.

100. ‘ the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am. ‘ I have found this too Christopher, but would not change my choice to look at these things even though it can be challenging and painful at times, it is journey I would not want to go back on because of the joy stillness and harmony I am building in my body from this.

101. I can totally relate Christopher and also feel ‘… the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am’ and have been.

102. It is only as we unpeeled the layers of irresponsibility in ourselves that we can see the irresponsibility that has been taken as normal in our society. When you ask the questions about politicians, business leaders and parents we have to ask why this is not our normal?! Being and living the change we want to see in the world is the only way this will change.

103. ” And if this is so, could there be a way of living responsibly as a true brotherhood, the brotherhood that mankind is truly here to be – founded in self-care, responsibility and truth?” Yes this is our evolutionary path to discard all that’s not love, each of us returning to joy, harmony, living naturally from our essence. This is our planet and we are here to evolve our way out of this current mess by learning true responsibility.

104. I love it when you read a blog and it is revelant to my current and possibly ongoing unfolding path. I have been pondering my responsibility in relationship to my every thought and action and at a deeper level realising anything that is uncomfortable is all a reflection to be identified and discarded. It’s like an onion, layer upon layer till you reach the core, appreciating the tension and confirming the evolution.

105. If I am totally honest there is part of me that doesn’t want to be responsible, to stand out, to be super solid and have people come to me, look at me. Maybe this is picture in my head of what I think it will be like. This may sound selfish and arrogant but it’s true. And I feel until I admit this then I cannot take full responsibility and be responsible for everything I do, say and think.

106. Once we start taking responsibility of certain things in our own lives, you come to realise there are more and more aspects and the activity of the way we live that we become more responsible of, and how very closely related responsibility and self care are with to other.

107. We can go into overriding when we know what is true and the responsibility that comes with this, but in the long run it always catches up to us and we get to feel the consequences of those choices. Its interesting how we can sometimes take the long way round and very exposing at the same time.

108. It is so important that we discuss and consider why we have created such distractions with hobbies, interests and focus on eating and consuming food. Wht are we really avoiding?

109. Advice to children that the world is their oyster and they can become and do anything; this has always been possible! It is also possible when things become challenging we just step back a little until this become the normal and responsibility becomes some else’s problem! Children are easier to be guided through the maze to adulthood, where it is not a matter of teaching old dogs new tricks, but remembering the joy of things we have stopped doing!

110. Yesterday I heard a Doctor talking about the ongoing crisis in the NHS and she was saying it was everyone’s responsibility to maintain it which was really refreshing to hear as all to often all I hear is blame and finger pointing as to who’s fault it is that it is in such a mess. The truth is it’s because as a collective society we do not take responsibility for ourselves so the only real solution to our health care crisis is that we collectively start to take responsibility. You can throw as much funding at the NHS as possible but nothing will change if we do not start to take responsibility for the way in which we live our lives.

111. As I open the door to truth and start to walk the path of responsibility it seems to get more difficult to align my ways to being fully responsible. I feel responsibility as a tension that can distract me, which in some cases means that I still look for the crunch in foods or the thoughts that dulls me from being at a deeper level of responsibility. I know what it feels like in my body to do things for so called comfort and it seemingly is becoming more difficult to eliminate those things that are abusive, and this is a situation that everyone faces at differing levels as you have shared Christopher in references 1,2 and 6. As I feel into this I have the ultimate call on responsibility and have to accept this and live with my choices and know that there is always more and my loving movements bring a way of existence that will change things; food for thought?

112. Great point Jane I have felt my levels of abuse drop away as I take more and more responsibility for my own way of being so that what I used to call normal is no longer my normal. As I feel more tension in my body to become more responsible I can either succumb to that new level of abuse and if I do not shift I start to feel all my movements go out and if I do not pay attention to that I start to get little hurts or injuries that are showing me to deepen my responsibility. So being loving and tender in all my movements is a key to deepening my responsibility.

113. This is a great point I also find very relevant Kerstin; if my movements are not in line with my thoughts and thus not harmonious, I feel a greater tensions so I am more easily distracted and therefore I have lost responsibility for my thoughts. My harmonious movements are a key ingredient in me feeling responsibility for all I do.

114. Chris, I love the simplicity and lightness of this, ‘if we were to take a closer look, to explore, to observe, to open up our innate curiosity, or swallow our pride, maybe we would lovingly admit to the things that don’t feel true to us and embark upon a new beginning’. It seems that it is often our pride because we do not want to have ‘got it wrong’ and often our identification of us being a certain way that stops us from being open to changing and exploring a new, truer way of being. From my experience I have found that it is definitely worth letting go of these old patterns and ways of being that do not work and keep us stuck.

115. I can so relate to what you express ‘the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.’ I was considering this recently and realizing that this will go on forever as we can always be more responsible. Look at the responsibility God has!!

116. So many people just seem to be filling in time between birth and death and you can see that they are not really joyous in it and they get so easily bored with the mindless distractions but seem to just go from one to another in an attempt to not feel the lack of love and joy in their lives. They often then give up, especially at retirement when any purposeful activity ceases. Yet this is indicative of the fact that many were driven to succeed for recognition or reward and were not living with any true purpose even when committed to their daily jobs. One wonders how this came about and your blog Christopher, makes it clear that avoiding responsibility has been a big factor in people not being willing to live to their full potential and with true purpose.

117. Blame can never work to bring change . . . ever . . as change comes from looking within and never from pointing at something outside of our self.

118. I love this Martin, and the list is endless and we as a humanity will keep adding to this list if we keep shirking our responsibility to be all that we are

119. This is an incredible eye opener Christopher… for all of us.

     I can really relate to this on a personal level as one who has been getting more and more honest with myself and on a global level as I see what we are doing and not dealing with and then accepting as ‘normal’.

     I realize that what I have gone-along-with, in the past, and even protected as “normal’ is so far from the true beauty & true care we all carry inside us.

     I have realized that it is my responsibility to bring the beauty of who I really am inside, out. All I needed to do was to shift my focus from distractions to getting honest and taking true care of myself; it is this which is supporting me to develop my ‘ability’ to ‘respond’ as needed in every part of my life.

120. Thankyou Christopher, as I read your dot point list of human behaviours I could begin to understand how when we don’t take responsibility for what is within us that we innately know is not from decency, respect or love, we step further away from ourselves and can begin the process of making choices that hurt ourselves and our fellow human beings. Responsibility in this instance could be seen as responding to that we know is not love to deal with it and let it go, so that we can embody, live, and express love in all that we do.

121. This was very inspiring “The amazing thing is that when we are consciously present and connected to our inner-most essence we are actually harmonious and full of joy, and responsibility is a natural way of living” It means that responsibility does not lie with the actions towards things outside of us but within us.

122. Responsibility is the simplest choice we can make, and yet, the one we delay more than any other.

123. The word responsibility is huge. It’s no wonder we avoid it. But from experience, as soon as I take responsibility in any area of my life I start to feel amazing. So it’s actually crazy to avoid it.

124. Responsibility to be in true brotherhood embraces everything we do. it is impossible to leave anything out , because that would mean we are leaving one thing separate … so no brotherhood. This is a great road of re-discovery for me and one that i love to undertake. The joy of returning to true brotherhood far out weighs any ‘stuff’ I am still harbouring.

125. ‘could there be a way of living responsibly as a true brotherhood, the brotherhood that mankind is truly here to be – founded in self-care, responsibility and truth?’ – I would say the answer is definitely yes, the question is, are we willing to let go of the comforts and distractions that keeps us mainly focussed on self?

126. We are responsible to surrendering to the love we innately are and expressing this in every move we make.

127. So much of life we have set up to just be looking at things at a surface level and with that are dismissing or ignoring what is going on underneath energetically. Our world is entirely made of energy and yet we generally pay very little attention to that fact! The more we open up to our multidimensionality and what is going on underneath and behind anything energetically the more we can begin to take responsibility for it.

128. ‘Is it possible for parents to take more responsibility first and foremost for themselves by deepening their self-care, then to stop and ponder on how they raise their children’ – I say YES to this. We cannot disregard how observant and sometimes absorbent children are. We can see it in their mannerisms and know where they picked them up from. So, it seems crazy that there is not more awareness around how we are with ourselves as parents and what we are reflecting to our children. Movements speak far louder than words.

     1. This is so relevant to me in every situation Rachael, because for me I feel that my every movement can be a reflection that is speaking louder than words.

129. Christopher, I love how you expose amusement, entertainment, pastimes and hobbies, which on the surface look harmless, as ‘the embodiment of irresponsibility’ and how choosing things to amuse or entertain us are actually choices to put the brakes on our evolution by choosing irresponsibility.

130. Could it be, the only thing we seem to take responsibility for in our lives is always to have someone or thing to blame for what doesn’t work? The only person that never gets blamed is our self!

131. With a new year upon us we have the opportunity to make different choices, one that are going to be held in responsibility and supportive of ourselves and others. If we embrace this the way life will unfold can only feed us back with Love and Harmony, even if sometimes that means clearing the irresponsibility that we have lived up to that point. Everything is always held in the body, every choice we make so it makes sense for them to be ones that are loving and encompassing of the all.

132. It is new years day and a great moment to reflect, review and consider what next… I am not going for any specific detailed resolutions this year since I know in the past these have simply set me up to fail and repeat a cycle of lack of self worth. This year is about accepting and appreciating where I am at, all there is on offer to learn every day and the endless inspiration of being a willing forever student.

     1. I learn so much when I feel everyday is a place for me to listen more deeply to what my body is sharing and thus I am deepening my relationship with myself as I become a forever student of my own body. Thank you Matilda, I can also feel the tension of being responsible to the best of my ability especially on those days where I face a yellow line.

133. I appreciate the example you offered that you have been a man living with care and respect of women for some time, and then you realised that you could take it a lot deeper. This shows that responsibility is an ever unfolding quality. All we need do is commit to it and take one step at a time, and life itself will offer us the next steps that help us evolve.

134. The world is not OK – we are in deep trouble and being irresponsible feels like I am directly adding to this. When in fact we have an opportunity to start considering that we have a choice at every moment, and in that choice we can harm or heal. Bringing it back to this simplicity makes it practical for me to take more responsibility.

135. Taking responsibility for our own life, is something that gets us to feel that a lot of what we have been led to believe life is about is false and by fact the essence we are born with which remains until this day and forever is the most important thing, and then temporal/practical commitments which help us function harmoniously.

136. I noticed the other day when I pulled over in my car on a yellow line to ‘just nip into the bank’ that this did not feel OK. So minor on one level, sure, but actually part of the lack of care and consideration for others and the infrastructures that are in place to support us to live together respectfully and harmoniously. This level of awareness and attention to detail feels very inspiring… hmmm, no more yellow lines?

137. “are we so habitually abusive to ourselves that we don’t even recognise it as self-abuse anymore?” This is a very pertinent question that you have asked Christopher and one that required us all to ponder on more deeply, especially with behaviours becoming more extreme, what seems like daily. I saw a young woman yesterday who has just got herself a tattoo. What was interesting to observe was the reaction of the men around her. They were astounded that a beautiful young woman could do this to herself. This behaviour is commonplace now (and desired by some) and was certainly something that I did a number of years ago also. For me it was about recognition, standing out from the crowd (even though this is now the behaviour of the crowd) and being accepted. But if I am needing all of that, is not whatever I invest in to meet my needs abusive? Whether it be tattooing, food, sex, shopping. Because no matter what I am attempting to fill my emptiness with is a behaviour that will only result in a greater craving, perpetuating the cycle of need, emptiness and abuse. If it is not healing then it is harming.

138. Ah, it is that time of year in the northern hemisphere, in England the day after Christmas large groups of people go for a quick dip in the sea at 11c. In Minnesota in the US on 1st of January, the polar bear club cuts a large hole in the ice of a lake to have a quick dip. We could put fire walking on the other end of this list of self-abuse. We are not indestructible but still keep looking for that limit. There is a man that competes in the world’s strongest man competition that was the first human to deadlift 500kg, ½ a tonne… what must that do to the body? Where is our responsibility to self, when we keep pushing the limits of the vessel we occupy?

139. So many things fall by the way when we are supported by our own responsible self love and true care, as the emptiness that was there with the hobbies and pastimes, just does not exist.

140. If we are willing to choose responsibility and energetic responsibility, then life opens up and we can see what we are truly here to bring.

141. We develop hobbies and interests to occupy the time we could otherwise spend on far more purposeful pursuits that actually do something to address the ills of our world. We seem though to view life as one endless holiday – well, that’s considered the goal to aim for anyway: making enough money and having enough time and means to do as we please. We basically champion and defend the right to sheer self-indulgence, and never mind the rest.

142. This is a sobering set of statistics presented here – surely enough for us all to grasp the terrible ironies with which we live. How can so few own so much? How can half the planet be starving and half overweight or obese? It just doesn’t make sense – which alone should tell us that something is wrong.

143. It’s only when we find true purpose in life that our hobbies and distractions disappear. Until then our past times are simply just that – a way of passing the time.

144. Yes Jane, a very important question indeed. So many things are ‘normal’ in the sense that everyone does it and nobody questions what we are all doing. What I found so beautiful about Christophers blog is that he does question these ‘normals’ and other things that go on, which are, if you think about it a little longer, not making sense at all.

145. It is so easy to play the victim and blame everyone and everything outside ourselves but in truth whatever it is we fear about taking responsibility is illusionary. I have found that taking responsibility for my every action is empowering beyond my wildest imagination.

146. “what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.” This is huge and true. It is easy to paint a perfect picture of ourselves in our minds but what is felt and noticed by others is the way we live every day of our lives, be it alone, at home or at work between a lot of people.

147. Rereading your article I have a lot pondered about responsibility and what it means, what living love means to me and how I can deepen this in my life. The responsibility to live true love and take everybody with me who is willing feels enormous as every choice counts going with or against love.

148. It is exposing when we remove the top layer we have built to fit into the world we live in. What is left is the raw stuff we have not wished to confront – all of the small ill choices we have made that we bury and that have piled up over the years. It is like going on holiday and not stopping your mail when you do come back and open the door; it is all waiting for you!

149. In today’s UK news they were saying that Health Officials have said that almost 90% of men are obese, drink too much, or eat unhealthily… they actually stated that we can no longer recognise what a healthy body looks like.

150. This is all very sobering indeed, for those who’s eyes are attuned to truth. But how to reach the drunkard who knows not that s/he is drunk and sees the world through eyes that take in what they want to see and dare not feel what is being reflected? The answer is through love, so that all of one’s actions leave one full of a love that sees love first in all and sees the world from the ocean of love available to all. Only then can inspiration penetrate those caught up in reaction upon reaction who make up the statistics. Therefore where does our responsibility truly lie?

151. A powerful blog sharing all our responsibility to truth and integrity in this world and the effects we all make and have on it. The enormous abuse that is rife in the world has a depth far greater than you can imagine yet to be exposed but every little detail we pay attention to and make loving changes with has an on going magnifying effect and this is remarkable and very empowering when done with love for us all..

152. I loved reading your whole blog Christopher, and in particular these words resonated with me as they precisely explain a knowing deep within that I cannot turn back ‘The more I change this, the more I sense a resistance in my body, at the same time knowing that I cannot turn back and return to more irresponsibility as I know that would be so self-destructive as the particles of my body now expect so much more from me, and rightly so’. Once we have committed to responsibility our bodies note the change and with this marker the denial begins to dissipate and we accept more readily a path that feels true to our particles.

153. The list of distractions is indeed endless, and the path within is simplicity itself… an apparent conundrum until the energetic truth of both is revealed

154. To check out, distract or numb with the myriad of interests, entertainment and hobbies that we have created for ourselves is to delay being full present in each moment when we could be returning to who we truly are.

155. This word ‘Responsibility’, it is a very powerful word IF LIVED. Recently someone spoke with me about the Responsibility that I have to say what I feel/is going on for me in my relationships. This was an OUCH moment and a jolt as I could feel afterwards the anxiety in my chest area from all of the times I have NOT said what is there to be said. Therefore if it was affecting me in this way, what is it doing to others? What I do know is that it brings a lot of complication into our lives and our relationships when we are dishonest and this I have experienced many many times.

156. “Is it possible to employ business leaders based on the responsibility of how they live their lives, how they take care of themselves, their employees and the customers they provide goods and services to?” – what an amazing way of looking at industry and the leaders that we have in our companies. There is no doubt that this would bring a whole different quality to companies and therefore the products that we buy and how they support us.

157. The essence of responsibility could be said to be connection… If we truly connect with ourselves, our bodies, and each other, then responsibility for our actions thoughts words and deeds become so much more natural… In disconnection… It is so much easier to ignore consequences on all levels

158. “It has been a strange journey so far… the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am” – how true such an unfolding occurs Christopher, once it’s recognised in one area of our life, we see it’s there in all others too to coat it with a thick layer, and, how bold and strong it is to ‘stay with it’ .. and go on remove more of that layer, to deeper reveal and hence to rightly-activate what is needed.

159. When I pondered on what you have shared here Christopher Murphy, I can feel that the power of being consciously present with my body is my most basic and effective tool for living responsibly. In fact it is the only way in which mankind can do so. There is no other way when we stop to honestly consider responsibility. And yet, how many of us know and understand what being present in our bodies means? Your article and my increased awareness because of it, is all important in breaking the current mould of irresponsibility in our world.

160. What an eye opening post Christopher, the depth you’ve gone to explore the world we live in, and the way it is how it is, is a study that brings us up back round, again and again in regards the issue of personal and global collective Responsibility…..A scratched record that will not cease playing it’s tune until self-love, and deeply caring about the quality we’re living life in takes precedence, so as to hold ourselves and all others by the same quality.

161. “Why do we engage in violence and hatred of our fellow brothers and sisters? ” we consider this normal, ever day since growing up the news was filled with abuse and violence against our fellow human beings, it was the norm, what went on yet shows no aspect of love or responsibility. When we are responsible for ourselves we are then responsible for all others.

162. What is fascinating to realize is the body accepts what ever we do – until it reaches a point where it can’t. It never asks for the treatment it receives it simply communicates back whether it is supportive or not. So whatever information is feed into us to choose anything harmful – be it something ingested or an activity, it’s always worth remembering that this information comes through the mind, it isn’t the natural intelligence of the body. This to me is the start of taking responsibility for how I choose to live.

163. Wow Christopher, you have clearly, succinctly and truthfully summed up the grim state we are in and the fact that we are here due to our own choices. This is s very important summary calling for very clear cut and definitive solutions. A great piece of philosophical, politics for individuals, groups, nations and all of us alike.

164. Christopher, this is awesome – “the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.”. This is very similar to something I discovered as a teenager marvelling about the world and realising that the more I learned and the more I knew, the more I realised how much there still is to know….It is realising the magnitude of what lies beyond our narrow version of intelligence or knowing or responsibility that is indeed very humbling.

165. The steps towards self-responsibility are simple when we take them gently, tenderly and lovingly toward our self (and everyone else) with no running critic or judgment. Just like we observe and lovingly support a baby learning to walk. We innately know what to do from our bodies; it is the mind that will present anything and everything else to interfere with the fragility of the re-connection.

166. When we understand how interconnected we all really are, it changes completely what responsibility is. The really fascinating thing with this is the more consideration we give to this the more we realise how supportive responsibility is to ourselves and to everyone.

167. Oh how we humans are our own worst enemies by not learning from the past and not changing all the things that obviously do not work. There is always something, someone or some part of ourselves that can’t resist throwing a spanner in the works, so harmony is always out of reach. Is this what we were really given free will for?

168. ‘I thought that as a man I was very gentle, tender and respectful to women, but recently through looking deeper into my way of being I have realised that although true on one level, there lies deeper an arrogance and disrespect for women that I have to deal with.’ I am sometimes fascinated by the insidious beliefs that lurk deep within. I only recently realised that my acceptance of the abusive ways of men came because I had also been running deep down with the belief that women are lesser. This certainly stems from the lack of self worth I carried as a girl and it is easy to see from this perspective how this lack of self worth (often unacknowledged) of women feeds this cycle. For me this is responsibility in action. If as women we were ready and willing to see ourselves not as victims of men’s prejudices, but to understand that we allow them because we have reduced ourselves ourselves then we could easily begin to redress inequality and discrimination!

169. This is a great blog as the questions you raise are asking us to step out of the box and look beyond our own man made constructed version of life, and showing us that there is more… Kind of like those early astronomers who discovered that the world was not the centre of the universe, and that the sun did not revolve around us, but in fact it was our planet that revolved around it… Today, in the 21st century, its seems as if collective human behaviour continues to act as if life revolves around us, that the human being is still at the centre of it all, but, from the facts and figures you share, the fact is, that our life revolves around our choices and responsibility, which determines our health, our wellbeing, our relationships and whether we evolve or not. Responsibility.. this is much bigger and consequential than we care to consider…

170. Responsibility comes with Responsibility! And I am only just starting to understand and slowly apply this myself. It is a word often used by society in a loose way. You often hear people claiming they are Responsible . But if you read between the lines quite often they are not, it is just a used word . Responsibility = Consistency simple as.

171. ‘But then there came a point when I began to look at the way I lived, my thought patterns, my ingrained behaviours, remarks and responses, my attitude towards others.’ – This should be top priority in every family and every school – supporting children to understand the importance of energetic responsibility.

172. Something beautiful about taking responsibility is that there is no end goal and it doesn’t really require giving up things to be more ‘good’.

173. It’s interesting that as we drop layers of protection we discover attitudes underneath that we didn’t know we had. The more honest we get the more we are called to be even more honest. Sometimes I am not ready to admit something that is plainly obvious, and I can go into denial in the hope that I can avoid it, but ultimately I know I will have to deal with it eventually. It’s just a matter of time.

174. Totally agree. Living well beyond our means through greed, over indulgence and other extreme behaviour.

175. “Why are there always wars? Over the last 3400 years only 268 years have been without war.” – that is staggering to consider that humankind has been in a state of war most of the time which shows that we are not evolving at all as a species.

176. Serge Benhayon has presented that the biggest scourge we face as a mankind is comfort – a comfortable life, in whatever way/s we tailor life to be comfortable for us. But humanity is cycling around and around in chaos and any comfortable life we might be living is an illusion. There is so much to be and do. How can we sit comfortably by while humanity continues to suffer?

177. I feel at the same point here too Christopher..’ the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.’ It’s a bit like the Shakespeare quote of the more I know, the more I realise how much I don’t know. It is very easy to point the finger at others when we actually need to turn to ourselves and look at our own choices we have taken and responsibility we have shirked throughout our lives.

178. ‘we have and make all our own choices’ – This is very true. No matter what’s happening outside of us, in the end we make our own choices and govern what kind of life we are going to lead. We can be influenced by other people or inspired by them, but no one can choose for us.

179. We’re definitely losing our markers of what true health, vitality and responsibility are and agreed, the moment we choose to pick up the reins again, we realize that there are layers and layers of responsibility to reclaim, but I know from personal experience it is our only salvation. I know that ditching the TV, the junk food, the commonly accepted poisons we like to indulge in and getting to bed early has established a level of health and vitality never previously known in my life. And by choosing to take responsibility for my choices and actions, the quality of my marriage and relationships with people in general has gone through a complete 360 revolution. At times it can be challenging and painful, but it is extremely worth it for all our sakes.

180. I particularly like the fact that in this article ‘responsibility’ has not been reduced to what I just saw in the dictionary: “duty to deal with something or control over someone” and “being accountable or to blame for something”! The expanded and empowered way of living with responsibility in the whole of our life is indeed something that will enhance every area of society.

181. You raise such an important question here Christopher and a very topical one given the time of year. I have had quite a few people say to me over the last few weeks, how they have either been out for the evening and over ate or drank too much, or that is what they will be doing over Christmas, knowing that they won’t feel great afterwards, but will still be doing it. It is extraordinary how we do things even when we know our body is not going to respond well, and I include myself in this. We always seem to be able to find an excuse as to why it’s ok to do it anyway. But therein lies the responsibility, as in truth excuses are just a get out clause for not being responsible.

182. Taking responsibility is an enormous topic and one it seems we have avoided at all costs. On every level of life, it is startling to see how collectively we have failed…and oh how easy it is to want to blame others, but I can see there is no taking responsibility for myself here and seeing where in this I have contributed!

183. Your lists of facts clearly show our response to modern life… is to stick our heads in the sand. Yes, responsibility is the cure!

184. in the UK part of the driving test involves knowing the Highway Code. One of the first statements in the Highway Code is “Ignorance of a law is not an excuse”. It’s the same with responsibility.

     1. Yes Otto, Being aware or not aware of Universal laws does not change the fact that there is an effect to our every choice. We will need to wake up to responsibility eventually in order to get out of the cycle of pain and instability we are all in… so why not start now?

        I know now that as painful as it is allowing myself to see how far from my heart I have let myself go, there is a great sense of purpose in working to get back to a true and responsible way of being and living.

     2. Custom laws have the same as far as I know – can’t import prohibited items. Seems pretty simple we could choose to adopt the same level of responsibility across the board from the manufacturers of harmful products to the consumer. This would highlight responsibility on everyone’s part.

185. I too had no idea how irresponsible I was being until I started to look at responsibility. In fact I would say that the revelations of my irresponsibility are still coming at a pretty steady flow! At times these revelations can really sting – irresponsibility is a tough one to feel because there is, by definition, no wriggle room – but the acceptance of responsibility has brought a true purpose to my life that I always craved.

186. A very important part of responsibility is to notice what we are doing right, to appreciate it and to be able to live and work from that appreciation. We are not perfect but it is important to be all that we are – it is also quite joyful.

187. It is a long way to return to that world that is waiting for us, a world where we all will live responsible lives. For sure we will all arrive at that point sooner or later as it is our natural way to go.

188. My father would go fishing for hours on end at weekends and before work in the early morning by himself, sometimes I would go with him as this was one of the few times I got to hang out with him. This was his escape from the world, he would just sit in his little boat out on the ocean with his fishing rod…fishing.

189. We all know deep inside we are not taking complete responsibility for our own lives, and our own health and well-being.This is a great blog sharing everything so clearly where we are as humanity and the love and appreciation we could bring to our lives in every way and the whole world can benefit and heal and grow from this.

190. Self-Abuse has totally become the accepted way of treating ourselves and seeing others do this to themselves without any questions or support to not have this in our lives. Sometimes it can be clear as day to see someones else in a position of self-abuse yet we don’t saying anything because we know deep down that it would be calling out and exposing our own abuse towards ourselves. This cycle of dismissing and ignoring what is really going on fosters the normality of Self-Abuse that is a global plague.

191. Re reading your blog Christopher I am reinforcing my need to look closely at what my responsibility to myself an the world is. A true need for me to continue to put these uncomfortable questions up to really look deeply at. Thank you!

192. What Christopher you have done very well here, is to place the fact of who we truly are next to the fact of our behaviours, and by this it is clear to see that the two do not always matchup. But I have to say that for a long, long time I have not understood what this term ‘who we truly are’ actually means. I can say the words, and think that I do know, but the reality is that I only partially understand the gravitas of these words, and from this I get the sense that there is a deep deep responsibility that we as a human race are avoiding, and so when we do come to understand who we truly are, that responsibility will manifest to its greatest point.

     1. This is a great understanding Shami, and and an great point to ponder on, what is it that responsibility that we collectively are avoiding? Could it be that we all are equally responsible for the mess our societies are in and that it is also our responsibility to undo all the atrocities we have created by living our irresponsible lives for that long? And if this is so I do understand that this is not an easy pill to swallow.

     2. This is a great comment Shami – for surely our ultimate and primary responsibility is to know who we truly are. Without that is it possible to be entirely responsible?

     3. Yes Shami, ‘who-we-truly-are’ is not matching up with our behaviors and the answer to this massive, pain causing problem is in Christophers’s blog: “The amazing thing is that when we are consciously present and connected to our inner-most essence we are actually harmonious and full of joy, and responsibility is a natural way of living.”

        Well said Christopher; this blog is a true message from the heart and a service to humanity.

193. The sad thing is that responsibility, the actual word responsibility is also being bastardised and reduced to mean much less. Thus people in general “think” they are being responsible when they have a good income, family, some friends and donate a little money or volunteer for a local charity once a month. As many of us are finding out, responsibility encapsulates everything we are, everything we do, say, think, every intention we have, the whole of our being, the very meaning of, not just our own existence but the existence of everyone together, the reason why humanity are here on this planet and our path out of the illusion we all live in.

194. There is so much in this blog. I absolutely agree that the more responsible you become the more aware of how irresponsible you really are. It’s like you are in a fog of ignorance until you take the steps towards responsibility. Being more aware of your irresponsibility isn’t a bad things as the more you embrace it, the more natural it feels and the more responsibility can be interchanged with the word love – for self and everything else.

195. Reading the first paragraph of this blog, I would say that generally speaking there are not people wondering why we do all those things like fishing or reading a ‘good book’ that have become so normal in out lives. Before I found Universal medicine and re- discovered my body and ability to feel the deeper version of me and the world we live in, I would have felt these were perfectly good ways to pass the time. When you miss yourself and don’t feel a bigger purpose, you need fillers, escapes and rewards to make it feel worthwhile.

     1. You are quite right. They feel completely normal except that, over time, a creeping emptiness set in and they became less enjoyable and sometimes needed to be replaced.

196. We do seem to go to great extremes of behaviours with complicated hobbies or intricate pastimes to distract ourselves from feeling what is truly happening. When we observe this, we don’t like to see how irresponsible we have been and you are absolutely right here Christopher, we hide from the truth because we find that ..’what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth’. This can take some acceptance.

197. There is something in the emotional response that seems key to changing our ways and removing ourselves from the mess of the wars, violence, illness and disease that plague our world. Only in a non emotional outplay can we respond with the level of love required to change things. On a personal level being caught in emotion makes me less rational and less able to communicate effectively.

198. There is so much in this blog. I absolutely agree that the more responsible you become the more aware of how irresponsible you really are. It’s like you are in a fog of ignorance until you take the steps towards responsibility. Being more aware of your irresponsibility isn’t a bad things as the more you embrace it, the more natural it feels and the more responsibility can be interchanged with the word love.

199. It’s remarkable how much we live with in our bodies and because it is always there we accept it as the norm when the body has the intelligence to tell us what is exactly we are feeling and what to act on next.
     “If we then focused more upon this natural way of living, maybe we could regain what ‘normal’ truly is, i.e. being continuously consciously present within our bodies, deeply connected to ourselves in everything we do?”

200. I just read an interview of a woman who was a sex slave for European’s elite from the age of 5 to 11. She was spared being killed at 11 on a block where many children before her had died. Many of these elite were businessmen and politicians and said one was a royal family member. These are the people that represent us. So when you raise your questions about having a politician and businessmen that we have that we choose based on the integrity in which they live their lives, I say yes. Universal Medicine is re-connecting us to the fact that we can all read energy and this is the tool that will save humanity from the rot it is in. Because once we re-connect to that, we cannot be fooled by words and we will know when our leaders & our everyday people are part of such horrors and call them to account.

201. Thank You Christopher Murphy for a detailed account about this word RESPONSIBILITY and your questions to the world to consider. It is a fact our world is a mess and nothing is really working if we are to be honest.
     Your blog confirms this with the facts you have simply shared.

     Most of us do not like the word RESPONSIBILITY because it is asking us to be accountable for every choice we make in every moment so there is no blame game. Its a tall order and not one we want to make as we are somehow comfortable in our uncomfortableness. With little or no regard for our precious body and how we treat it every single day we act surprised when things go horribly wrong. Our medical systems are facing bankruptcy and we keep hearing that ‘lifestyle choices’ are contributing to a lot of our ill health.
     So WHY is it that we are not paying attention, taking note and questioning life and what is going on in our families, community, country and the world?

     Once upon a time I was a medical and welfare statistic, draining the resources of my country. Today, thanks to the teachings of Serge Benhayon, I am a live that word RESPONSIBILITY to the best of my ability day in and day out. I do not have an off switch. My life is far from perfect but it is real. My commitment to life is unwavering and my dedication to simply get on with it and inspire others remains consistent. I feel that word CONSISTENCY is key. Living a life of True Responsibility is a life of true Consistency.

202. This is a responsibility reality check worth taking note of – if I were asked would I intentionally abuse God the answer would be No. But indirectly I can be causing the same disturbance if my choices are irresponsible – irresponsible I’m discovering means not living all of my essence and reflecting this to humanity.

203. “Is there anyone out there truly taking a deeper look at why”.. I felt to ponder on this specific point as in simple terms there is not many people that really is looking at why we do a whole host of things, in a way that considers the quality of energy first and foremost. Where Universal Medicine comes in is to bringing life back to truth which is quality of energy first, from there and only there I feel we can start to understand why we get hooked on screens, gamble away, drink, take drugs, have abusive relationships and so on. For in truth that makes no sense to the intelligent beings we are supposed to be.

204. From my understanding of how I have dealt with life in the past and at times still do, plus an observation of humanity – most of us avoid responsibility for how we feel and reflect this out so quickly we really think that the problems are all caused by another source or force. Taking true responsibility for how we feel is a foundational step towards harmony amongst us all.

205. Very powerful blog Christopher, we really do need to wake up to these facts you have pointed out, for the world cannot survive much longer at the rate that illness and disease is skyrocketing and war and the horrible way we treat each other. Waking up to brotherhood and getting out of the self centred, self absorbed and self serving way that most of us live by and making life about brotherhood and not about how much material possessions and cash we have is essential to our survival.

206. I am the same on this one, the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible i know I am, its like the more I know, the more I know I don’t know.

207. I love your point about how the more responsible we become the more the particles in our body enjoy it and want more of it. This is because responsibility and love is one and the same thing. The ability to respond (responsibility) to any given situation rather than react to it supports the body enormously because when we react we are using our life force to go against the body.

     1. Completely. I have recently been learning a huge amount about reaction and am beginning to see and feel what happens on a very physical level to the body. Within that one choice – to react or not – everything changes (get the Heart App on your phone if you want practical proof!)

208. Any time we point the finger to something outside of ourselves, we are avoiding responsibility. Responsibility is taking full ownership that we are our own creators of what plays out for us in life via the choices we make that are past of present. An understanding that nothing happens by chance.

209. I love the examples you have offered of a world built on responsibility: electing politicians, employing business leaders and living as parents with responsibility for self and then others. In fact the ability to live this quality and inspire the same in others is far more significant and invaluable than all the mental qualifications and verbal dexterity that we have been holding on such high regard.

210. The crazy thing is that the reality we defend and excuse (in order to avoid responsibility) is not the reality we even want to live in.

211. Blame is a big one and not something we often relate to reaction but it is very closely related – and it is an avoidance to being responsible for our own quality.

212. Very true -how we test ourselves is reflected in how we treat others and also in how we treat our environment. There is no segmenting life – the quality we choose is how we are in everything.

213. Being responsible offers us a freedom because it is us choosing our quality – choosing to be in a way that allows us to express all of us – and that is freeing.

214. The more responsibility we ask for the more we get to see and feel how irresponsible we have been and how painful that irresponsibility is. Painful yes but we do grow from it and for me I feel that appreciating what happens, the ripple affects I create when I am more responsible, helps support not running away from responsibility. The more I appreciate the more I value it and the less I feel the need to run away and react.

215. As I read your simple, yet profound words Alexis I came to the understanding that yes, you are absolutely right, but for many, having the conscious awareness that we are all an equal piece of God may be a million miles away from the truth for them, and even though they may deny it, hide away from it, avoid it or simply numb or distract themselves from feeling it, one day they will come back to it, but not without the reflection of those that have woken up to the truth and feel it in their bones, and therein lies the responsibility to reflect to others by our every thought, word or deed. Responsibility indeed!

216. ‘What we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth…’ I love this line Christopher. Once we all wake-up and realise who we truly are and choose to take the path of responsibility, then the world will begin to change, not for the ‘better’ but to return to a way of life lived in brotherhood, then we will be able to take the next step on the path and return to who we TRULY are. This is the kind of writing that should be printed in the press, one that speaks truth and exposes much of the world for is irresponsible behaviour, lack of integrity and disharmonious way of being. Your journey back to you is also very inspiring, once you realised it is not just about ticking all the boxes (and I’ve been there too!) it goes much deeper than that, and that is where the true responsibility and challenges begin.

217. It’s an interesting observation you make Christopher, that “the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.” Choosing to take responsibility means we are willing to see what we have been choosing to not see before, and so the once-protected irresponsible behaviours and thoughts are revealed to us, we can then bring changes with this awareness.

218. A great blog Chris, as with all the issues abundant and becoming more prevalent in our world, from health, political, cultural and religious differences, it is time to start asking these questions to raise awareness of the disharmony that is happening and not for this all to become the ‘norm’.

219. “Feeling a true response from our body and our responsibility in any given situation, rather than reacting emotionally, may be the way forward out of the chaotic mess mankind has gotten itself into.” This would be a huge shift for the world, and one that would make an enormous difference not only to our own lives but also to the lives of many.

220. what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.
     This is very true Christopher, as until I met Serge Benhayon and started attending his workshops and courses, I felt like I was just a destiny pawn going along the track of life. Little did I know I could choose to be so much more than I had previously be living as and accepting about myself, and that choice has been there for me all along.

221. Well said, Christoph. Certainly something we probably look less at in life. And for me, something to really consider and appreciate.

222. Our responsibility goes beyond just this life. The YOLO (you only live once) generation is predicated on a lack of responsibility…do it now because you only live once. But knowing and understanding that we do come back to do it (life) again and again means we really do have a great deal of responsibility on our hands.

223. This has been a new understanding of responsibility in learning that it comes down to every thought and intention, that there are no secrets or time away from this but also that it comes with a huge amount of love.

224. Great article Christopher, reading this I can feel how crazy it is that in society we continue our self abusive ways ignoring these facts; ‘Self-inflicted illness, disease, alcohol and drug abuse are pressing Health Services around the world to the verge of bankruptcy, some already bankrupt’.

225. A lot of people do take responsibility for their lifes. But they’re doing it from the perspective of doing. The identification that we are just a functioning vehicle is very strong. We listen, see, taste, touch and smell from this perspective! We then experience a feeling of unsettlement and from there settle for comfort behind a wall of protection. True caring is allowing ourselves to also feel the choices we’re making. And if these choices match what we feel inside. How beautiful is this!!

226. The statistics you share are quite shocking. We are indeed in a mess, and if we continue on this trajectory our future does not look very good.

227. ‘what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different’ – True Christopher. Our own ideals and beliefs about who we’re supposed to be, what a woman or man should behave/look like and how to be as a father, mother, daughter, cleaner, receptionist, accountant, teacher and all our other roles can block us from knowing how we’d truly behave and who we really are.

228. I couldn’t agree more Nicola, as I have also many times asked myself why did I not question this and that, and some of the things that were in my face and I still managed to ignore them.
     In the early days of attending the Universal Medicine courses I used to get annoyed and could not see the point to having discussions on certain topics but now I can see that everything needs to be spoken about, regardless of the subject matter, as it is far healthier for us to have open discussions instead of ignoring, given up, pretending and lying to ourselves.

229. Yes indeed, Christopher. Responsibility is the way forward, as it reminds us of the bigger picture, of how everything we do affects everyone, which must mean that we all belong to the one source.

230. You really do highlight the “insight into the mess we are in…” This is startling to see it on the screen Christopher and yet as you say we accept this all as being normal, (when it is so far from our normal as can be.) We have given up and accepted the unacceptable.

231. Yup, the time our realisations take to apply responsibly in our lives is totally up to us.

232. ‘the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.’ – Brilliantly put – I can very much relate to this. When we start to truly take responsibility, it opens up for deeper awareness into deeply ingrained and ignored patterns.

233. I love the challenge and inspiration of this article. Picking responsibility up and bringing it into our lives to explore and develop a relationship with it; getting honest about the thoughts that pollute our days from the shady recesses that we try and pretend do not exist and dismantling the constructs that have us as individuals and fuel behaviour that is not considerate of everybody. Thank you, Christopher, much to work with here.

234. Is life slowly coming around full cycle? When life was simple and basic, we had to have responsibility. Then we made things better! We gave up our responsibility to others to be the caretakers of the task. When we did not like the way things were being handled, we denied our part in creating the mess. After deciding this was the new normal, we let the rot grow as long as we did not have to smell it. We can now smell what we have refused to see and are slowly accepting our part in this mess and are now trying to get back a life that is simple once again.

235. Very true Deborah, as awareness expands so to does our level of responsibility… our ability to respond in truth.

236. It is a totally different way to read the world, its systems and ourselves in terms of whether we take responsibility for the quality that we live in. When I stop to consider the purpose of entertainment, interests and hobbies I consistently come up with the view that I need these things either to escape from the tension in the world or to reward myself for getting through life. What happened to living life in joy and in the connection with myself and others?

237. Each and everyone of us makes a contribution to life and it is the quality of that contribution that we are each responsible for. All of us have a responsibility for the mess we gave today – for it was humans in their choices far away from from their essence that created it.

238. This is such a brilliant article Chris. Each time I look at it, I appreciate the amount of detail and work in it but also the multi-symptomatic mess it reflects about our society. Every single point that you share here could be unpacked further and related to everyday living of people and this is the gold of what this article offers. For example if we take one point such as, ‘Pensions in the future will no longer be paid, Governments will simply not have the source of income to cover the amount needed for ever increasing numbers of seniors, early ill-health retired, sick and disabled. (3)’ We can look at everything before this (how we got there), in this (what it is like for those experiencing it daily), around this (what are the ripple effects around this at the time it happens for this it is happening to and those around them) and what will result from this (what does the future hold for future generations). This one point reminds me of a documentary I watch about the black market stealing of food in London to support people’s drug addictions but also to support the people who are not doing drugs and are living below the poverty line with benefits cut. The ones not doing drugs in order to survive are giving shopping lists to those who steal so they can eat. This stealing feeds the drug addictions and the lives of everyone involved. It is a desperate state and vicious cycle that now goes into future generations. But what started this . . . Greed.

239. A powerful observation shared here Nikki McKee that we can be sold the idea that freedom has no responsibility. This is so common and the “carefree attitude” is often glamorised as the ultimate way of being. Yet it is far from the great strength and inner love and commitment one feels and continues to strengthen when we take steps no matter how big or small towards responsibility.

240. When I hear the word responsibility I like to keep bringing it back to our ‘ability to respond’. This way it reminds me that we are all in it together and that we each have our part to play.

     1. I do the same thing! Responsibility has been a load that was loaded with a burden and heavy weight to bare. But my Response-Ability doesn’t feel the same way. Serge Benhayon has often presented responsibility as ‘being who you are’ and responding to how I feel, how my body feels, feels the most responsible choice to make.

241. Responsibility is so the way. I know that a sneaky excuse of a part of me that doesn’t like to be responsible (when responsibility, as you say does bring joy and harmony, connection and love) is to say I can’t possibly be upfront and honest with myself about how I am irresponsible and the significant effects this has on myself and everyone. But this is exactly what needs to happen so every time I allow myself the awareness of what I’ve been up to I can actually choose to celebrate this awareness and feel the impact of how I’ve been living so I may take the steps to return to responsibility.

242. Yes Alison, the change starts with ourselves. Looking beneath the behaviours, reactions and seeming hurts to the root and truth of who we are. Then those layers can be discarded and we can reflect the potential of what human beings can be… Soulful and in connection with the all.

243. I often wondered the reasons behind why we are trashing the planet and not caring about the earth’s wellbeing, it’s other inhabitants and our future. It makes sense to me now, as I can see the reflection of how we treat our own bodies, how we trash them, not care and not be bothered about our future health. The irresponsibility we live with is reflected with how we treat each other and the planet.

244. I am still struggling to process some of the statistics you provided exposing just a slither of the rott we have created. There is so much that is wrong with the world it is hard to imagine it step into any self-responsibility to shift it from where it is. However it only takes more people such as yourself willing to do so and speak up about the harm of irresponsibility for things to begin to change.

245. ‘It has been a strange journey so far… the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am…’ I know what you mean here Christopher. I reached that point too, and it hurt when I realised I am not the person I thought I was and my level of TRUE responsibility was practically zilch. But how amazing to have this awareness in the first place because then the real healing begins.

246. I love every part of this article. The simple fact that it calls each of us to, in some way, deepen our own commitment to living responsibly is pure gold. It covers many areas where as a humanity we have shirked our responsibility, be that as an individual or as a collective.

247. ‘The amazing thing is that when we are consciously present and connected to our inner-most essence we are actually harmonious and full of joy, and responsibility is a natural way of living.’ It’s taken me a while, but as I become more consistent with living in a consciously present way, connected to my inner-most essence, I am experiencing more harmony and joy. The more harmony and joy I experience, the more I naturally choose responsibility in my day-to-day living.

248. Massive article Christopher with much to ponder on, what mainstream society is doing is obviously not working. However the Ancient Wisdom presented by Serge Benhayon is proving to be a positive alternative to anything else on offer.

249. Amazing blog – some pertinent questions for us to consider and to raise again and again whilst we live in the ill-flowing society that we have created and allowed.
     The potential for true equality, brotherhood, Love, humanity and decency is forever present should we take responsibility for our own choices and part in the whole.

250. Really powerful blog Christopher! ‘what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth’ I love this statement as I was only just having a conversation where I made the point that we like to justify and dismiss our ill behaviours by saying to ourselves “but I am a really nice person underneath’. It is so important that we accept that we have ill behaviours and that they are there as reaction to our hurts. The most responsible thing we can do is to heal our hurts so that we don’t impose our reactions on others.

251. Whilst on the tube the other day I saw a man playing a super simple mathematical computer game, it was very repetitive and he was immersed. On the one hand it looked as if it would be stimulating the mind with basic mental arithmetic and no doubt this is how it is sold. His top score was over 100,000 and he was currently on around 2,300. As I watched I was shocked how quickly I was drawn into the monotony of it, there was something that gripped me about what he was doing. I zoned out. I then caught myself and it occurred to me how long he would have to remain drawn into the screen and disconnected from life in order to achieve or beat his top score, only for it to end in a moment of frustration or elation before starting all over again thus keeping him detached from reality and responsibility. This is the way most of us are living, this example is more extreme than many maybe but most of us are walking through life in our heads, immersed in our thoughts and disconnected from what our bodies are telling us.

252. Yes Christopher – we are so much more than what we currently live right now. Life doesn’t have to be the dark gloom picture we see at the moment. We just have to be honest and admit that what we are doing is not true. This is a huge pill for many to swallow but then again we could also ask how bad do things have to become until we actually say that things should be different.

253. Bravo Christopher. Lately I have been feeling despair looking at the war in Syria. I have felt the feeling of powerless and frustrated at times not knowing what to do and wanting so much for it to stop. Serge Benhayon’s presentations remind me that my need for things to not be as they are is imposing and not being responsible. Your blog reminds me that my actions contribute to the whole .e. each time I abuse my body I add fuel to the energy that has destroyed the lives of the people in Syria and countless others.

254. ‘what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this’ – what we think we are is created out of the pictures and ideals we take on, pictures and ideals that keep us supposedly ‘safe’ ultimately in a box where we don;t stick our neck out, get noticed and dull away our natural amazing shine.
     It does take a lot of responsibility to accept who we truly are, because then we know that it is our light, our immenseness, that we are here to bring.

255. Truly appreciate all you have put before us Christopher, our irresponsibility is grossly out of control as the lists of facts prove. I agree, we have made self abuse so commonplace that we do not even see it for what it truly is. Self-responsibility is our only way out of this enormous mess, taking back control of our thoughts, emotions and actions. Dumping the blame on others, resentment, bitterness and revenge do not work and are the very height of irresponsibility that is very surely leading us all to un-imaginable disasters. If our current behaviour is bankrupting our health systems and displacing 65 million people from their homes, surely its time to wake up, wise up and get real. We have some huge problems to address and it all starts with really, truly dealing with our own, not always pretty but immensely life changing, wholeheartedly recommended and quite frankly our only option.

256. That last line is very inspiring and you sharing openly the struggle with moving forward that is self made but nonetheless holding a lot of us in patterns and ways of being that are not loving.

257. Well said Christopher and so many pertinent questions posed here. It is also deeply inspiring for a guy to go there with the issue of deep beliefs held about the objectification of women and their reason for this. A calls for us all to look more carefully at what lies beneath the surface.

258. At first when I started reading this I was wondering where it was going and then you said this ‘what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.’ which for me hit the ‘jackpot’. Yep how we ‘think’ we are and yet how we ‘truly’ are, are in many cases so not the same! It takes great honesty to be able to feel and see this and I appreciate the honesty you have shared here. Reading the few examples of the mess we are in one could easily ask or feel this is impossible for us to turn around. But it is possible, it just takes all of us, the whole of humanity to start to live a different and far more loving way …. we just have a lot of work to do here thats all!

259. I used to hate the word responsibility and try to avoid it as much as possible. Now responsibility to me means, accepting so much more love, for myself and for humanity and making choices that are for everyone equally.

260. “……what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.” Very true Christopher. Master-full blog.

261. Christopher, your description of evolutionary parenting makes so much sense and surely is the key to unlocking hatred and war. If all our children were lovingly raised in harmonious environments, where from young they felt a part of what was going on and were not left to be looked after by a screen or institution etc., the world would be very different.

262. I found a picture for what you describe here Christopher: when we turn on a dimmed light of a room, we will see more of what is going on in the room. Maybe we will see a mess or disorder and by seeing it we feel the urge to bring order to it. The more we light up – the more we become aware. Without turning on the light we would not have the awareness of the mess and so would exist more or less happily in the room of mess without seeing it. But the mess is there – if we see it or not. No matter how dark we dim our light, it is there. And … we know it. Seeing is not our only sense, we feel, we know, we sense. And so we feel the urge to bring order to the mess of this world and in us – but we dim our light and we dim our awareness. Be it with food, negative & critical thoughts and behaviors or what ever. This is irresponsibility. And we all know it: when we do not bring order – the mess will become worse. Mess attracts more mess, more complications and blindness. Order brings clarity, a wider view. And it is our choice if we chose to dim or light or to turn it on more. Anyway the mess is there. We did let it come that far. Now it is on us to clear it up again. Lighting up and roll up one’s sleeves.
     And the beauty is: when we sit in our room of shadows and darkness, we feel alone and lonely, but when we light up the room (take responsibility) we see all the people (brothers) around us, we can look in each others eyes and see our connection, we can work together, hand in hand clearing up this mess. Make space for the joy of connection.

263. To have the two end of the scales regarding food in one society at one time is crazy in itself and something that alerts me to the fact that we are definitely not the most intelligent species around. Where is our wisdom? Or should the question ask Why are we not connecting to our wisdom? Animals live in harmony – this knowing when to eat and when to stop – when to hunt and when to rest – but humans seem so off the mark.

264. Super informative blog Christopher and even the title is a moment to pause and reflect before going any further, to ask ourselves the question, Are we taking responsibility for our lives or are we still in the blaming mode, (usually our parents cop it here), blaming everyone else for where we are in life, instead of getting honest in how we are living and from there slowly making different choices….

265. A very thought provoking article Chris on so many levels, however this line really stood out for me “….are we so habitually abusive to ourselves that we don’t even recognise it as self-abuse anymore?” If we are supposed to be, as some would say, the most intelligent species on the planet, how is it that we have got it so wrong that we can override what we know is destroying us to such an extent that we are no longer even aware of it?

266. I love this line: “Is this just simply filling in time, a bit of fun, a social outlet – or is it something more than that?” How many moments a day do we waste on a bit of fun, or on something that has no purpose or no meaning? I suspect if we added up all those moments we would be stunned.

267. I agree Mary – it’s such a sad state of affairs. From the outside looking in one must think ‘hmm, this isn’t working properly, this place is broken.’

268. We have become quite complacent as a society, comfort and security being what we have craved most, no wonder there is now a counter to this in extreme sports and dicing with death in other ways, like the manufacture and taking of extreme drugs. This maltreatment of our own bodies and selves has been going on for centuries in different forms, now it is more sophisticated and far more insidious. We do need to wake up and start looking at what is going on and firstly looking at that in ourselves, for the world is only a reflection of where we are at on some level. There is a seeming new way to be that works and I feel you sum it up here: ‘Feeling a true response from our body and our responsibility in any given situation, rather than reacting emotionally, may be the way forward out of the chaotic mess mankind has gotten itself into.’ Easily dismissed by the mind as an obvious fact but let’s live it and see what happens.

269. Wow Christopher, where do I even begin…you hit on so many topics. Your honesty and curiosity by way of questioning is really cool. I was that person – and still am – that reacts to not taking responsibility. But the difference between me today and a few years ago is that I have a greater awareness and understanding of what responsibility is – and so if I react I can recognise why I’m doing so and thus start the wheels of change. It’s so easy and comfortable to blame others, but very empowering to accept that we are, in truth, the ones who are responsible.

270. Beautifully written blog, clear concise and accountable, exactly what is necessary in a world where irresponsibility is so prevalent. Taking look at where we can be more responsible is so worth it, true responsibility is a joy, no chore involved. It has allowed me to have a deeper, richer, more true experience of life and I am committed to walking this path and uncovering and developing and more responsible way of life.

271. Chris I love the amount of facts and questions you have included in this article, as well as your insightful personal sharing. This article has made even more relevant and clear the importance of us each living the responsibility to be all of who we are in life. The Way of The Livingness makes more sense than ever – to support ourselves to live in joy, harmony and stillness with the love we are for ourself and others especially when the societal trends of life today are reflected in all the stats you included.

272. Whilst reading this it occurred to me that we can turn a blind eye to what we are doing to ourselves, others and the planet, and pretend that everything is ok, but for how long – in other words how bad does it have to get, and are we trying to block out the fact that deep down we know everything is a mess hence the distractions.

273. ‘what we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.’ – this is awesome Christopher and like you, the more I have discarded things that are not loving, the more I see the depth of responsibility underneath it all.

274. We may scream out to the world to change and nominate all that is not right but is this bringing a change? The true change comes from taking responsibility for our own choices in every moment of our day. What thoughts are we thinking and are we holding ourselves in the deep care and love we would like to see in the world? This is great to ponder on.

275. Facing the bitter pill that we, individually and humanity, are living a life of irresponsibility is the medicine we need to swollow to resolve the ills of society.

276. “I now know that each time I do this for myself and step through these self-imposed, ingrained barriers, painful as they may be, I become more of the true man I am meant to be – and as I overcome each obstacle I am filled with love, joy, stillness and harmony.”
     Thank-you Christopher, without doubt responsibility is the key to our evolution but as you rightly say not without a foundation of self love & appreciation. The figures and facts you present are horrifying and crass for a so called superior intelligence. Reacting and band aiding these issues solves nothing, constantly applying greater responsibility to our way of being will bring change, for as you have so wisely reflected it is our natural way.

277. Very powerful indeed your article. It shows that it all starts with ourselves and we take care of ourselves. Not in the ‘normal’ way by being greedy, only thinking of ourselves and living a life of comfort. But taking responsibility for every step, thought, spoken word. I wonder how the world looks like if we all practice that for one week….

278. It is as if we seem to have become oblivious to the headlines and taken them as being normal where they are far from normal. The Hollywood movies and the media seem to have desensitised us to the atrocities going on. I agree it does not make any sense yet is the current reality, so the question is what are we going to do about it? Are we going to choose to take responsibility for our lives or simply make our lives about us and ignore what is going on around us so long as we are safe and comfortable in our little bubble?

279. Very well said Christopher, it is so easy for us to blame others for the mess we have created and the choices we have made. The problem is we can blame all we want but nothing changes nor will it ever and the longer we stay in this cycle the harder it seems to get out of it. However, as you say when we bring responsibility back to the way we live not purely for ourselves but also for humanity equally then everything makes sense and suddenly my life takes on a whole new purpose.

280. This is so true:’the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.’ The many distractions available to us now are great at covering up just how irresponsible are the choices that we are making on a daily basis. The more I chose to drop these distractions the more layers I am uncovering of irresponsibility and as you share it can be very confronting but so worth it for the joy and harmony that my body feels when connected to a wisdom beyond me.

281. Irresponsibility is the snowball rolling down the hill that just gets bigger and heavier when we pretend it doesn’t exist. What does carrying all this weight do to our body’s?

     1. And irresponsibility starts with the small things which we have not been taught to be aware of and take responsibility for as we grow up. The little things like how we move affects the room and people in it and also how our bodies feel. Eg. How I push my chair in and out at school impacts the class and is something I am either doing gently each day in harmony with my body or in a rush with perhaps aggression that causes my body to harden. The little things like being aware of how we speak and of the quality we are speaking from in our bodies. The little things like . . . are we including the all or just thinking about ourselves, our own recognition, our own security etc – and then being aware that all that has an impact on us personally and the rest of society and societal attitudes collectively now and for the future. The little things like going along with things we don’t agree with or joining in on demeaning attitudes etc. The little things all add up to be the big thing that then makes us stop and consider later in life but because we have not been taught to feel, express and take energetic responsibility from young, we then get confused to why such great calamities happen such as illnesses, wars, earthquakes etc. Our individual collective responsibility is so important.

     2. What an awesome analogy, irresponsibility is definitely a snowfall that gets bigger and faster and heavier – and more out of control if we don’t catch it and start making more responsible choices.

     3. It makes us sick, bloat, overeat, drained, exhausted, miserable and anxious and all adds to the plight that the world is in right now. Shame that the human race appears to be taking itself to the brink by burying our heads in the proverbial sand, and not wanting to take responsibility for our choices but choosing instead to blame something or someone else.

     4. You could say that the stuff we have be carrying around when we accept our responsibility, just melts away.

282. We tend to look at life through the window (the window is a symbol of a spehere that you consider yours and anoither that is out there). We see what happens out there, all the horror that is going on, all the nonsense that we find each day and think, wow it is horrible out there, thanks God it is not happening to us. This thought buys you peace of mind until you realise that what happens out there is related to what happens everywhere. The idea of the inner and outer sphere is a convenient misrepresenation of how really is. Irresponsability feeds irresponsibility. So, we all have a responsibility of living in a way not to add anylonger to what already disgust us and with good reasons.

283. Thank you Christopher for exposing how much we live on the surface of our true potential and how much ‘unknown’ behaviours and attitudes are veiled by this distance way of living we keep to ourselves. And thank you for speaking so openly about the discoveries you have made about yourself that you found you were not as open as you thought yourself to be. This alone shows to me how willing you are to step out of this protection and open up with every step more. I can very much relate to what you are describing and have found that responsibility is not easily claimed back as a whole all at once but that it is a step by step process and with every step we take, more of the bigger picture is revealed to us, thus the magnitude of responsibility realised with every step more.

284. A powerful essay for a ‘State of Humanity’ speech for us all to reflect on and to choose to bring an every-deepening responsibility into our lives and the world.

285. ‘What we think we are and what we truly are can be completely different, and it takes responsibility to accept this and to open the path to the truth.’ – it can be so uncomfortable to admit that we’ve been living untruthfully, irresponsibly and far away from who we are, and as you say, the more responsible we become the more irresponsible we realise we’ve been. But allowing ourselves to see and feel more of what we’re holding onto and resisting, and why, allows us to start to let these old ingrained patterns and behaviours go. I found that making changes to my diet and sleep patterns relatively easy, but then the resistance kicked in, as I could feel that my body is asking me to go to a deeper level and let go of old thought patterns and ways of being that I’m stubbornly clinging on to. Seeing and reminding myself of the bigger picture, that I am part of a much greater whole, is a huge wake up call that my life is not all about me: we’re all in this together and all have a responsibility, an equal part, in returning the world to its natural state of harmony through how we live.

286. Love this blog Christopher, it is a real eye opener, and for me these words, among many, stopped and demanded another read or two: “the more responsible I become, the more irresponsible I realise that I am.” That was a big aha moment when I read it as I could relate to these wise words so very easily. To have one’s irresponsibility exposed when you had actually managed to convince yourself that you were being responsible, is definitely an ‘ouch’ moment!

     1. So true Ingrid and this is exactly why the foundation of self love and appreciation is so fundamental, so that every ouch moment is met with a ready made bed of love and understanding.

     2. This quote is gold and I have also felt this. The more I become aware, the more I understand just how much there is to be responsible for and when that level that I am aware of is. It lived – it is tangibly felt as a disharmony.

287. Reading this blog Christopher lights a fire in me I can feel we are all connected to and come from. We all know that our societies are a mess, and because we have chosen a way of living that makes us not as aware of this fact we continue to making choices that adds to the waywardness we are in. Articles like these are so needed as they light that inner fire in which we do know and from there can become more consciously aware of the true state of our societies and start to make other choices.

     1. It’s definitely a very real article and I agree, one well needed.

     2. I agree Nico – blogs like these give us all an opportunity to see how we contribute to the state of the world today.

288. Responsibility is such a joyful word. The more we embrace, embody and live true responsibility the more we liberate ourselves from our loveless ways.

     1. And how amazing it feels to be liberated from the strings that use to once hold us.

289. There is a lot to swallow in this insightful and thought provoking article but perhaps it is all best realised as Chris alludes to by our own aims, we don’t change the world in sweeping steps but through our own actions, and thus if we want a gentler, kinder, slimmer, healthier world free of violence and hate then we must continually deepen our own loving actions to present the possibilities to others that this can be how it is.

290. Reading your blog Christopher exposes the apathy many are living with, and it also calls us to take a broader view, and to live more responsively. A unified approach is surely needed; every choice we make not only affects us on a personal level, but every one of us.

291. If we stop for a while and cease distracting ourselves, there is something you can hear. Perhaps it is faint at first. But it is the call, the pull of the world and what we are here to do. Like background music we can’t stand, we can put on all the ear mufflers we like, but no matter what you do there underneath there it stands. Responding to the task at hand, what the world needs to hear and understand, acting on what is there for you to deliver, is what we were born to do. I love how you describe this fact Christopher and that this ability to respond is not static but in fact it is something that grows like any muscle. The more you use it the stronger it becomes and so it goes. There is always a deeper level for us to know.

292. Brilliant expose Christopher Murphy. Until I go to my own depths and discover my own levels of irresponsibility I continue to look outside myself for some else to lead the way. Powerful sharing that explores the micro and the macro of responsibility. Thank you.

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