Years ago, I started reading Serge Benhayon’s books and attending presentations with him and Universal Medicine. Over time much has changed for me and something that has particularly developed is a strong understanding of the importance of supporting and caring for each other.
A valuable source of assistance in learning to do this has been through reading blogs on the various websites by Universal Medicine students. These blogs have frequently highlighted what I have been feeling and thinking, but perhaps dared not express outwardly before, or the writer has given me new insight into a topic I hadn’t paid much attention to or didn’t know anything about previously. I have felt inspired and appreciative of those who have been willing to share their stories in writing and to readers for their broad ranging comments on articles.
I know I’m not alone in feeling daunted with honestly letting others know what is going on in my head and heart. Verbally expressing myself is often a big step; one filled with trepidation around how others might react. When I have spoken up, experience has taught me that often I have drawn surprising responses from others which has taken relationships to new depths. At other times, I’ve been challenged by reactions from the alternate end of the spectrum.
What I have noted however, is that written expression has its own set of self-imposed trials. While finding the writing of others, especially on the Universal Medicine student websites, often inspirational, I seldom contribute my own written material to such forums. Taking the time to honestly examine why this is the case has proved interesting with reasons including the following:
- Using the excuse of lack of time; telling myself I’ll get to it ‘later’, which of course, doesn’t happen.
- Comparing my level of writing skills to others; thinking that my writing style is boring for readers.
- Baulking when I feel a spark of enthusiasm by assuming the task will be laborious and unpleasant.
- Using negative self-talk to block further progress: “What if my views are deemed repetitive, nonsense, pathetic or just plain silly and therefore subject to ridicule?” or “Will others respond kindly and with interest or react aggressively to what’s been written, and I’ll end up humiliated and embarrassed?”
- Feeling concerned about the permanent nature of the written word with no control over where it ends up and the possible subsequent implications of this occurring.
When I stop and look back at what I have written here, it’s glaringly obvious that all my excuses are imbued with a desire to maintain the current status quo where written expression is concerned. Yet, if the writing scope is broadened from me in my individual self-protection mode to considering how my behaviour impacts on others, this avoidance seems indulgent, selfish and childish. It’s like I am expecting the world to support me while I go on a permanent holiday. However, placing writing in a compartment and treating it as separate from the whole, directly contradicts my values in terms of caring for and supporting others. I know that my behaviours impact either negatively or positively on others and therefore contribute to the overall quality of the world we live in.
At a societal level, our concern for the welfare of others affects how we care for our children, rates of illness and disease, how and where governments spend money, what’s legal and so forth, because collectively the standards accepted by the majority become the norm. While I can’t singularly change world environments, I know that it’s important that I play my part fully and that every little step counts.
The way I walk, talk, my level of openness and genuineness etc. all affect the quality of my relationships with myself and others. It can be a very warm, loving experience… or the opposite. When in reaction, the anger, defensiveness, blame, judgement, criticism etc. often feel like a physical blow to not just myself, but also for the other person. How can people stop to question the quality of the standards that are being set if there is nothing available to spark their awareness of how everything is interconnected to the whole, and that it’s up to us all to play our part in creating the type of world we would like to live in? Wouldn’t all this make it even more important that I made the time and effort to write and share it in the public domain?
The more I examined my excuses for not writing, the more I have learnt about myself and my relationship with others and the world. When I let go of this avoidance, including any attachments around the outcomes with the finished product, I now realise I am offering so much more than what it appears to be on the surface.
For instance, there is a level of intimacy and openness offered through a willingness to let others in, which is essentially what I am doing when I write something that others are reading. Readers can feel the quality in which I have shared my views; it’s like there is a certain vibration that invites a response from the reader. Of course it’s up to them if and how they respond, but the important thing is that I have offered an alternate ‘menu’ around a topic for others to consider. I have no way of knowing where others are at in their lives, so possibly what I write about is something they have been grappling with also. Perhaps this is the support they were looking for elsewhere but were unable to find? What might the ripple effect of this be? And what’s the impact of my holding back due to my own concocted box of beliefs etc.? Is that not irresponsible and simply adding to the current high levels of individual isolation for myself and others?
When I take this broader view and value writing as something that offers opportunity for both self-development and a form of service for humanity, I can feel the shifting of a self-imposed load off my shoulders that allows a spacious lightness and flow to enter. In the expansion my perceptions are sharpened.
This emerging capacity to take a helicopter view and consider things from this grander vantage point has undoubtedly been enhanced by the support offered through Universal Medicine, Serge Benhayon, fellow Universal Medicine students and practitioners. The seeds sown by this group of fellow travellers, who have committed to writing and sharing their wisdom, just highlight even more to me how important our expression truly is compared to the defeated sounds of silence.
By Helen Giles, Social Worker, Townsville, Australia
Related Reading:
The Gift of Expressing from our Essence
My Relationship with Writing
Healing through Writing and Expressing
The Truth about Serge Benhayon 
There really are many excuses/barriers we present, some of which Helen listed , ‘ Using the excuse of lack of time; telling myself I’ll get to it ‘later’, which of course, doesn’t happen.
Comparing my level of writing skills to others; thinking that my writing style is boring for readers.’
Helen I’m with you about how others may feel with our expression, it’s a biggie for me. Afraid or worried that it may not be accepted and when it is accepted, then I am feeling good about myself. It’s since meeting Serge Benhayon has my expression evolved and I’ve learnt to express from within me. What I found that when I calculated or calibrated with an expectation, my expression would be affected and later left wishing or thinking I had said this or said that. When I express from within my body, and the words just flow out, with no hesitation or expectations/outcomes, I’m left feeling, I said what was needed and feel complete.
I’m finding the more I express, the more I learn about myself and where others are at. Learning to not to hold back is so supportive for everyone including me and in this, I realise more and more that expression is everything and in everything…
Expressing from our Essences, Inner-most-hearts / Souls opens us to a plethora of wisdom that can only be shared when we are connected to this innateness that has always been within.
Greg there’s a contentment when we express from our souls, because it isn’t for us to keep or own, it is for the all – that’s what I love when expression comes from our essence.
One step at a time, one word after another. When we say or write something and then let go of the ownership of what we have expressed it is for others to react, respond or be inspired.
When we allow ourselves to be totally honest in our expressions, then this liberates us from the societal incarcerations of how things should or should not be. I still find it hard to be completely open and honest all of the time, especially in certain situations, as it requires a certain surrender to situations that I am still giving myself space to learn and allow. But when I do allow the total openness, I can feel the difference in the quality and in the way I feel afterwards, regardless of the physical/temporal outcome or perceived success of the situation.
Helen I love how you have made it about the quality of your expression and how much this actually impact on your life but equally so on the life of others.
Every opportunity to speak, to write, to sing, to draw and even to move is an opportunity to express that which naturally what lies deep within.
Yes if we really do have something to say, that is if we feel impulsed to say something, and then don’t we can feel defeated and this drop in our energy impacts everything thereafter until we choose to come out of the doldrum we have created for ourselves.
Reading this has confirmed to me that I need to get on with writing. My biggest issue is the comparison to how others write and mine won’t be good enough.
I feel everyone has their unique expression and this expression serves everyone and it could be in the simplicity of just one word.
Like anything, consistency and commitment is the key to bringing about change.
Silencing ourselves in expressing the love that we are is against out nature and at the end very, very exhausting.
Yes it is attack against ourselves…..very much like the way cancer works.
Our auto-immune conditions are all about the body fighting itself, symbolically so. The body speaks loudly to us and lets us know when we are not choosing something that is deeply nurturing and loving for self and others equally so.
When we attack ourselves, we can be pre-disposed to get an auto-immune condition, which is simply the body attacking itself.
In holding back the love we hold to be expressed, we allow space for the opposite, for the bullying, controlling and abusive ways of expression with we see so much in our nowadays societies. And when we look in history we will find that this is the case already for thousands of years.
Wise words Nico, for expression cannot truly be stopped – if we simply choose not to express our natural love and tenderness and put a stop to that, then another form of expression must take over which then allows the separatism, the violence, and the bullying etc in all its obvious but also far more subtle ways, to come through. It is one or the other, as there is not middle fence to stand on.
Whatever we choose will have an impact on the world, how do we choose to impact the world, ‘I know that my behaviours impact either negatively or positively on others and therefore contribute to the overall quality of the world we live in.’
Such a great sharing on how we get in the way of simply being transparent and open. I know I absolutely love it when people are like this, especially in public domains like social media it’s so endearing and loving.
Reading the bullet points for what gets in the way of writing, I see the impact of our education systems – leading people from a natural propensity to express to a fear of in some way ‘getting it wrong’. If this is the case for many of us then surely we need to urgently review our education system.
There is a tendency to comment negatively on peoples expression in writing because it needs to fit in a certain pattern or plan and not to forget all grammatical rules you then have to comply with. People can comment on these minor things compared to the gold that is expressed and with that can crush the expression and make it of not being important.
Even when it’s about the same topic, every expression comes with a certain nuance and personal angle which allows another to get just what they need to get, in the correct dosage and at the right time.
I totally agree with this. Everyone’s particular expression adds to our understanding and insight into life.
Your list of self imposed trials is a very familiar one Helen highlighting just some of the excuses we can use to not write for public eyes. But when writing flows through a connected body, it is not for us to dictate what we write or who reads it, as it is always for everyone, whatever they make of it. And I know when I write in this way, I can look back at what I have written and really question how I wrote what I wrote because I know that it couldnt have come from my thinking mind.
Being in relationship with ourselves is the spark that encourages us to notice the little things that have a big ripple effect on the world. It is by not choosing to see those ‘little things’ that allows the atrocities we see and react to and then feel it is too overwhelming to do anything about.
Very good point Lucy, it’s easy to get overwhelmed but the power of us taking responsibility for our expression in every area of our life is huge.
And each step counts, ‘The way I walk, talk, my level of openness and genuineness etc. all affect the quality of my relationships with myself and others. It can be a very warm, loving experience… or the opposite.’
I have a sense that I am not far from the truth if I said that most of us came to Universal Medicine thinking ‘health and well-being’, and who would have thought that writing had anything to do with it?? But it does, and actually nothing in life escapes from it as it is a One spherical life.
Love this line – “all my excuses are imbued with a desire to maintain the current status quo”. I wonder if we were all so honest about our excuses, about a myriad of situations, as to what we would find out. A lot I would guess are about maintaining the status quo. And really, when you think about it, the status quo is not doing very well at the moment and really needs some love-shaking-up.
It’s beautiful to know more about what is going on for people, because more often then not, it’s something that we too have experienced and gives us a point of commonality and connection.
Yes I remembered at work once when a visiting colleague came by my desk and asked how I was, and I answered very honestly which was a bit anxious at that time. He then opened up and was very honest with me too and it was a heart-warming connection that could not have happened if I had just responded ‘fine thanks’ and he had done the same. We shared what was going for us.
Allowing ourselves to feel the lightness in our writing, is a gift for everyone, including ourselves. Every element of our expression has the potential to make us energetically lighter, or heavier, spacious or dense.
We give as much as we receive in turn, if not more. Energy is never stagnant and nor does it have any man-made borders.
This is so true Chris. And whatsmore, is that if we hold back what we feel by not expressing, whatever way that maybe, then we are potentially not giving others an opportunity to see or understand that there is possibly more to life than they were previously aware of.
We can make a fuss about anything that we dont want to do, when basically we dont want to take responsibiltiy for it.
I love this phrase – “how important our expression truly is compared to the defeated sounds of silence”. Those inaudible and muffled sounds of the silenced ones speak of a deep level of given-upness that keeps being cemented over lifetimes.
I agree, this phrase is gold : “how important our expression truly is compared to the defeated sounds of silence” – it reminds me of the dawning realisation I had that my expression is really important to the world because I am an integral part of its wholeness and if I’m not expressing, in every way, as impulsed, then I’m letting the whole down by not playing my part in it. Its a responsibility! I have been one of those defeated ones and convinced myself there was no point – what a trick!
All of our expressions are a valuable part of the whole, ‘I have felt inspired and appreciative of those who have been willing to share their stories in writing and to readers for their broad ranging comments on articles.’ I agree.
Thank you, Helen, for writing about the avoidance of expression in the written form. I myself have been looking at the areas of life I hold back on and writing a blog and getting it published is one of them. So, there is no accident finding this blog this morning.
Yes, it’s interesting to see the areas we hold back on, and look at why.
Beautiful Helen, your last sentence brings it so clearly back to responsibility, we can be in and with those defeated sounds of silence or we can stand up and speak and write and one thing I realised reading here today is that in writing we offer ourselves and our world to a wider audience, one that goes well beyond our circles and one that reaches places we might now imagine … I feel the importance of writing which I too have been avoiding, thank you for reminding me.
Writing is our modern cave painting, allowing us to express how we are living.
Yes and much like cave painting, we leave a legacy behind for all to read and learn from for generations to come.
Great to read this again today Helen, and it’s true that we can have many reasons why we should not express, but we need to consider the many benefits for ourselves and others when we do. Your final words about the “defeated sounds of silence” sum up how we give up on expression without realising the true power we can bring to the world by lovingly speaking up and sharing how we feel. All the reasons I had that felt legitimate to not get my blog published were exposed as having no substance at all when I went through with it, prior to this the beliefs and pictures around what could happen if I did this were something I was giving my power away to.
Even though at our core we wouldn’t wish any torment onto another, it is always very sobering and somewhat reassuring to know that other people are experiencing life in a way that relates to you. Ultimately, we are never alone in this and are all connected all of the time, but sometimes we need relatable experiences to feel that fact.
A lovely comment and so true Rachael, we contribute so much to people accepting and understanding themselves by sharing openly and honestly.
Yes and that is where we start to breath from our whole bodies again. I find when I read these blogs I notice so much more about my body and the way I am approaching everything I do in life which I could easily have ignored.
I have just started writing a journal again, a little bit every night. I love this practise it completes the day for me and there is something about writing with a pen instead of on the laptop that allows for a different kind of flow which I feel to be very supportive right now. The actual process of writing with a pen, the way we move across the page, it is like a dance and shows us a lot about how we are – just as much if not more than the content.
Expression is everything, as is communication and it is when we don’t express or communicate that things start to get complicated or misunderstood.
Writing is a wonderful way to express ourselves, and need not be feared. In so many ways it is no different than speaking.
Writing is a way of expressing ourselves, of being seen and heard, ‘there is a level of intimacy and openness offered through a willingness to let others in, which is essentially what I am doing when I write something that others are reading.’
Self-worth issues are a killer…. for writing. When you write, particularly, when you share something that is personal, you get exposed to others and that may prove to be a reason to not do it, just in case, you get rejected somehow confirming your fears and self-worth issues. So, self-worth issues guarantee a movement that returns to itself. Breaking this pattern requires a lot. Most importantly, it may bring a way out of the known pattern that leads you nowhere and that leaves you with nowhere to go.
I love considering this paragraph: “When I take this broader view and value writing as something that offers opportunity for both self-development and a form of service for humanity, I can feel the shifting of a self-imposed load off my shoulders that allows a spacious lightness and flow to enter. In the expansion my perceptions are sharpened.” It applies to every single aspect of life.
When we hold back our expression the world misses out on what we can offer. For me it has been about getting ‘self’ out of the way and letting go of any ideals and pictures as this was crushing my expression and my natural flow.
When we make it all about us there can be a heavy feeling around whatever we are doing, alternatively making it about humanity, our larger family, somehow allows more space and a lightness to pervade our activity. I find this interesting as usually it is thought upon as the other way round… Could it be our connection that makes all the difference here?
Holding back from expressing either in writing or speaking up creates a tension in the body. It is this tension that is actually supporting me to express and set a standard/marker in my life. From setting standards I can build and keep on developing and building my relationship with expression.
From experience I have found that when I get myself out of the way and write from my inner knowing, then the words just flow. Its only when I start thinking about what I am going to write that it becomes complicated and hard.
True – it is about putting down what is needed and not about what we want or need to get out of it. I shall take that into my report writing for work straight after this inspiration.
Many of us get bogged down with the pictures that we have nothing to offer or that we are not good enough, or only certain people with x,y,z can write. Whatever the beliefs and things stopping us, at the end of the day they are designed by nature to stunt our natural expression. Taking the risk of putting yourself out there is a huge step forward to breaking down those false beliefs.
Viewing writing as something we can do for humanity completely takes the self out of what we can do. Getting ourselves out of the way – great for many things in life….
Yes, not making life about self, knowing we are here to serve the plan.
Writing, like all modes of expression is a responsibility and something to be embraced rather than feared.
If we connect to the truth, we’ll understand that everything we do is golden – there is no task greater than another or beyond bringing all our love to.
When we write and publish, on the WEB it becomes like cave paintings and dinosaur footprints, they are out there forever. It is always the author’s responsibility for what is submitted and the energy it was written. Every time we hit the send button, it sends out a ripple on the pond that cannot be recalled!
We do not own expression. It comes through us so there is no trademark on it.
That said, our responsibility is to always know what energy has sourced our expression.
Writing (and publishing it) is making a statement that exists on its own, a creation we are responsible for. It is actually the same with words or even thoughts but the moment it is manifested in matter we are much more aware of the responsibility and that we can and will be held accountable for it.
The reasons you give for not contributing to something by writing about it from a place of true connection are all things I can relate to. However once I overcame this inertia I had to not write and just made a start, I found that it not only supported others, as I do have something worth expressing through writing, but that it has also supported me to be more expressive about how I feel about things in so many other aspects of my life. And so even more people can beneift from what I have to say. It has highligted the responsibility I have to be consistant with my own expression.
Why make a fuss about writing? Why make a fuss about life? It’s not difficult, and the quality we align to takes care of the rest. All that we need to do is choose it.
“When I take this broader view and value writing as something that offers opportunity for both self-development and a form of service for humanity, I can feel the shifting of a self-imposed load off my shoulders that allows a spacious lightness and flow to enter.” This shows how we can support ourselves by making it about the bigger picture instead of making it totally about us and our problems we have to solve. Most of the time the making it about ourselves only, is actually the source of the problems anyway. Opening ourselves up again is then a natural part of healing.
Without a helicopter view, we are limiting ourselves and choosing to blinker ourselves and ignoring the world we live in.
“Yet, if the writing scope is broadened from me in my individual self-protection mode to considering how my behaviour impacts on others, this avoidance seems indulgent, selfish and childish.”
I feel that you could take out the word writing and insert almost any type of behaviour and I think the results would be the same.
A wonderful sharing on writing and expressing ourselves that offers so much love and understanding that it really makes one want to write and share all that we feel to express with true responsibility and purpose and is very inspiring.
The ‘helicopter view’ is our willingness to see life beyond the end of our own noses; to be open to understanding all of our inter-connectedness and the big plan that life on earth offers.
When things get difficult it is always wise to take a few steps back and look at the bigger picture. This brings understanding and acceptance and a greater capacity for love.
I have also felt incredibly inspired, touched and supported by all the insightful pieces of writing on this blog site and other similar ones. So many times I have read something that approached the subject from a different angle that I had not considered before which means that my own understanding has deepened and grown. This is how we can support each other in humanity.
I totally agree Andrew. When we can read about how someone else has approached something in a completly different way to how we would approach it, not only can it inspire us but it can open us up to so many other opportunities that would otherwise be missed. So the more we share about ourselves, the more everyone else benefits.
It’s so true, our writing is so important, it is the light in the darkest night, it is the compass to help guide humanity back to its own true path.
‘it’s up to us all to play our part in creating the type of world we would like to live in’ yes indeed we can choose to live the future now and be role models for our children and our fellow human beings.
Just as with writing it is with speaking up and expressing whatever we feel needs to be expressed for us and everyone involved to have received the full package of what everyone needs to receive by one´s expression. We know it when we do or don’t do it, the body always shows us.
I too appreciate and am inspired by those who write from their heart. There is no doubt it is having a knock-on-effect supporting me to write, share and also express in other ways too.
Writing is a joy like breathing, it cannot be separated from Life as it is a part of life like everything else. Compartmentalizating writing as something special is going to cause a lot of problems in life thinking it’s more or less important than other things. But Truth is Life is Life, it is only one experience.
What gets in the way of uninhibited writing is (too much) thinking.
Too much thinking blocks the flow and connection our body innately knows.
When we stay silent we allow that gap to be filled with another’s interpretation of what we think and who we are. We are always expressing, even when we’re silent and holding back- that is still communicating a message.
I have re-read items I have expressed in writing in the past and found many that were profound. I feel it is because I did not have any ownership of what came out of my fingers.
I love those moments when it is glaringly obvious that what I have written or said is not of my doing or ownership; that free of a need or attachment to self-identification, we can express so much more than we are.
I have had the same experience, it confirms it is not stored knowledge or recall, simply vessels who can know anything any one time for the all.
The written word can be very challenging no different to a photo: one cannot pretend it was not what they meant to say or do – there it is in ‘black and in white’, the truth for all to see.
Yes, writing in connection is a healing all around. It also allows us to grow and even learn from what comes through us as we never own it.
We are born to express… whether that be by movement, by word or thoughts written – however, what is key is the quality of that expression and we need to know the importance of this from very young.
I have not been a prolific writer knowing every one of the excuses listed here so well. Being a frequent visitor of blog sites such as this one, I also know what a gift and blessing it is to read what someone has written from their heart, and what a joy comes through. This means that instead of making a big deal of those reasons that stop me from writing, I could just connect more deeply to my heart and letting the love flow.
Write as who we are and people get to know themselves as who they are.
Expression and writing from our Livingness offers the gold experienced to others who are going through something similar so we are living connected as human beings rather than separate.
Expression is everything, and writing is one way of doing this. Better out than in I say!
Yes and when we express from our truth and it rings true with another no level of academic structure or rules can compare!
Helen, I can relate to many of these excuses for not writing, the lack of time being a common one. When in fact if we are writing from our hearts and not our heads then this can be really quick and not take long at all. I can feel how by not writing we are saying that what we have to share is not as important or helpful for people as other writers, when in truth we all have something to share that can support another.
“Why Make a Fuss about Writing?” – and why make a fuss about ourselves too … since our writing and ‘making a fuss’ of it is equally making a fuss of our expression and thus who we are; therefore everything to “fuss over”.
Expression is a part of self development and also supports others in inspiring them to do likewise.
And the purity of expression unhampered by self, a need for recognition and/or being right or wrong is what we can build true relationships and community with.
Thank you Helen for highlighting how important it is for us all to express – and knowing that this is indeed something to develop gradually!
Expressing myself allows me the space to feel things in my body and actually learn and grow rather than sit and wallow.
Whenever we justify ourselves with excuses we are making it all about us. This keeps us stuck in a pattern that leaves us feeling helpless and given up. When we connect to the responsibility we have to express all of who we are we realise that our choices have an impact on everyone.
The old excuse of getting red marks and crosses all over our school books in primary school has curbed our expression in writing may have been true, but for most, that was a long time ago. It is so easy to let that go, and allow what we know needs to come through to express in full.
So could it be that the old saying, ‘silence is golden’ has little true value as true expression shows caring, respect-full and Loving ways of sharing so much that is needed to be shared within a society that has no true concept about Love in expression?
It is interesting, but out of date that; writing is silver and silence is golden. To not express and staying silent was a discretion for whom? Perhaps someone that would become uncomfortable? How can the truth ever not be evolutional?
This is great Steve, and may I add to the conversation by sharing is it possible that ‘the pen is mightier than the sword’? Which I feel is “True” then blowing your-self up would fly out the window and become a relic of the past!
The defeated sound of silence is what we have accepted as being normal, not putting our head above the rest of the people and for it to be looking different. Not all, over history there have been a few that have stood for the truth. Having these blogs by students who are sharing another way is what is super inspiring.
Thank you for sharing something that I needed to hear!
I was, or still am a bit if I’m honest a bit concerned with my lack of higher education when it came to writing but I know that is totally an idea and belief situation because if it comes out on paper from the heart it can’t be wrong, even if the grammar is.
How long and how many people hold back on writing what we feel just because we don’t like all the rules. Is it not the same telling some past Olympian runners from Africa they could not run fast barefoot? There is a lot of expression with all of us; we just need to let it run.
If we settle for the status quo of what we are expressing we actually are settling for less. This is because we are forever able to deepen the connection with who we truly are and it can be felt energetically as everything is energy and because of energy.
‘When I stop and look back at what I have written here, it’s glaringly obvious that all my excuses are imbued with a desire to maintain the current status quo where written expression is concerned.’ – Your own expose here is simply gold – I can feel how this stirs up my own protection and head in the sand tactics when it comes to writing.
What an amazing idea… to take the I out of writing, and to serve with every word.
Our expression is so important whether it be written or spoken. We all have something to say that is of great benefit to others. We may never see the results of what we say or write, but that is what makes it so important because then there is no investment in any particular result or being recognised for what we say. Our expression also supports others in their expression too.
A great understanding of what is going on and what the world dictates as to our expression and the written word. Learning to express fully what we feel in our own expression is very empowering and supportive and something to learn to appreciate and love for ourselves.
Our resistance to doing something takes so much effort, and when we eventually begin, that all drops away and whatever is needed flows effortlessly… when we allow our minds to rule we exhaust ourselves; allow our bodies to move by impulse and life flows with vitality.
And in our resistance we are blocking and or fighting everything we are being offered to get the task done.
By making a fuss about anything we have reason to keep us from doing, expressing or living from what actually is naturally there for us to activate and thus refrain from the responsibility of contributing to the all.
“The way I walk, talk, my level of openness and genuineness etc. all affect the quality of my relationships with myself and others. It can be a very warm, loving experience… or the opposite.” Yes, the most important factor in our life, how loving we allow ourselves to be in every moment. When we allow for this that is where the magic starts with no end.
Is writing like the liquid that we fill our fountain pen with? Is it clear spring water or muddy pond water laden with all kinds of nasty bugs. What are we truly expressing?
We have been indoctrinated into a world of ‘average, better and best’, a league of rating and competition over how we express. This whole way of measuring is horribly wrong. Each of us has access to great beauty – however it comes out. We don’t need to be Shakespeare to have something wise to say.
When being honest we realize that we have a responsibility to express what serves everyone equally as by withholding the expression everyone is left less. That gives some perspective to our ‘issues’ of not expressing.
Yes, the perspective it offers is a big ‘ouch’.
When we express ourselves honestly we open ourselves up to the world and let the world really see us for who we are. Unfortunately we learn from very young that when we do this we often get rejected, so it is very healing and empowering to claim back our expression as adults and to honour who we are and how we feel without the need for approval or recognition from others.
“…collectively the standards accepted by the majority become the norm” – this makes so obvious that we have to contribute the qualities to societal life that we want to be the norm by living, practising and thus setting the standards that are truly serving everyone equally to bring out the best in us, in other words, to evolve back to the divineness we innately are but have not yet activated.
I agree that having an intention to write to support other people to have greater awareness or something deeper to consider makes a huge difference to how writing is normally done. Generally, I would say that writing is about getting your emotions and feelings out, which is effectively adding to the state of emotions and issues in society. Writing needs to be free of this, if it is to offer a hand up out of the mud we are in.
An internal voice can still criticise me with my expression, so there is always more learning to be had and an appreciation of how we are changing our patterns. It is really important that we express what we are feeling, for communication in relationships, for being open and intimate, for stating truth when it needs to be said. I have learnt so much from other people’s expression, and it feels like it is time for us all to write more for all to read.
Before we attend school, we have found our voice, which allows us to express everything. Then school requirements and standards require end products. Is it not dissimilar to the production of force-feeding the goose to create foie gras? Do too many rules kill our expression at a young age?
I agree Steve, trying to write the perfect essay, with correct spelling, and impeccable grammar, can kill our natural and heartfelt expression stone dead.
A great point Steve – we start out with something natural and end up with something manipulated and formed to fit into a box.
We make a fuss about writing because we are caught in self identification and recognition. This cripples us from expressing from who we truly are.
So true Kathleen….if we can get the “I” out of the way we make room for our natural expression to flow.
Thank you Helen for a great article, I too feel the same as you, reading the articles here has been so inspiring and expansive for me, we all have wisdom from our individual experiences to share and when we do the world is indeed blessed.
When we grow up with judgment not only of ourselves but of others, it’s easy to see how this stunts us. We hold back in the fear that others will think us stupid, uneducated, foolish or what we have written is not perfect – there are so many so-called valid reasons. In the end, everyone loses out due to this holding back of expression.
When I read blogs that are from people of all walks of life, sharing openly their experience of how their lives have changed with the inspiration of Serge Benhayon it is just another confirmation of what is on offer. The teachings of the Ageless Wisdom and how practical yet multidimensional they are simple nails it every time.
It is crazy to keep on as I have most of my life (and I am sure many lives) waiting for a sign that people are ready to hear and accept what I have to say before I say it. Because that ensures that there is nothing put forward to inspire a change maybe not in this moment, but sometime in the future. What a self-created stale-mate I have been realising.
Golnaz, I know its so much better just to say how we feel. For me this has been a gradual process of building more trust in myself until the point that I feel solid in myself and have now started sharing and expressing what feels true in that moment. What I realise is if I am being true to me then what I say is never too much.
Thank you Matilda for the understanding shared of our education system and each other in crushing our writing and natural expression and also for the knowing that we can change this and free ourselves to be and express naturally all we are and feel for humanity and to make a difference that is so much needed.
I had lived with trepidation for years, with just the thought of expressing in any form of writing. Six years ago the students of the Way of the Livingness started a collection of blog sites to communicate to the world our thoughts and how we have chosen to live our lives. I felt the pull to express and put my words in writing when it was announced that they were going to set up these sites and needed blogs. I put fingers to keyboard and submitted something that is now in the new Library of Alexandria the WEB.
So often we use the ‘I’ll do it later’ excuse, which avoids the science that there is a perfectly designed moment to complete things, initiate or start up a new project in. Fighting what’s on offer in each moment in our day is fighting our worth and maximum potential to be an agent of change.
It seems crazy that we should be scared of expressing at all. In an ideal world we would be able to express how we are feeling without the fear of being attacked or judged. This just highlights how much work we have to do in terms of accepting and understanding others and allowing our differences. We have a long way to go if we want true harmony.
I do agree, Rebecca. What I have experienced is that if someone does not like what is being said, they can use education to attack and concentrate on the words spoken or written to debase a person. It seems like the strict rules we have on grammar and constructing a sentence can be too complicated and can be used to squash our expression, if we allow it, that is.
I understand why people do make a fuss about writing; when it comes to writing our education system incrementally steals away the joy and confidence we naturally have to express. It is very inspiring to realise, from this blog and comments, that we can throw this caution and fear back to the wind and go for it. Thank you.
Thank you Matilda for addressing this simple truth, our eduction system indeed does not support the joy of expressing ourselves but full frontally crushes it. But this does not mean we cannot go back to the joy and ease we used to express that we knew as children and which was absolute and natural to us. Nothing is ever lost and all can be reawakened.
“Nothing is ever lost and all can be reawakened.” Wise words Esther… our Soul is always calling us back to our innate joy, to the love and truth we knew within us as children, that is equally within us as adults and waiting for us to reconnect to.
Oh, how true.
‘that we can throw this caution and fear back to the wind and go for it’ Thank you Matilda, very supportive to read your comment today. I have been all wrapped up in a belief about writing stemming from my school days, which very recently I have let go of and now feel inspired to write.
I so relate to “the sounds of silence” as it is opening our ears up to feeling the stillness that is there and always has been there for us to reconnect to.
Indeed, and that brings us back to ‘getting ourselves out of the way’. Letting go of the need to own that which we write or express.
When we are connected to our inner essence and write it is so healing for another to read because it shows us that we are all the same in essence.
And I can feel there is an inherent healing for the one writing from connection to their inner essence also.
Yes, when we are all connected to our essence everyone gets a healing, and when we are disconnected we are all harmed.
The excuses are very real to me, Helen (thank you for writing them down for all to see). I can feel how I want to squirm and run away because of being attacked previously. The pen can be mightier than the sword, and we can conquer how we use it.
‘Over time much has changed for me and something that has particularly developed is a strong understanding of the importance of supporting and caring for each other.’ – This is super important and something that goes against the trend in our society in general.
“Why Make a Fuss about Writing?” – I used to love writing having been a writer/journalist in my very first job. The last few years and now living with simple care, regard, love and truer understanding of myself has made all the difference to how I now write, express – where there is an aliveness that speaks and a palpable difference to before where I lived life the opposite to how I am today and hence the writing although it was good all those years ago missed that alive vitality. How we live, how we are with our bodies dictates the quality of how we write, express and is what makes the read/writing/expression what it is.
When the truth flows through us, it is favoured just a bit from our perspective at that moment of expression, which allows others to expand and build upon.
I love your approach here, by simply doing what you find you have have difficulties doing. A very simple and effective approach: learning by doing.
Helen, seeing writing as a means to support and care for others feel lovely and makes it, for me, less of a daunting task; ‘placing writing in a compartment and treating it as separate from the whole, directly contradicts my values in terms of caring for and supporting others.’
We make a fuss to avoid the simplicity of the fact that we all have equal access to truth.
So it is simply a distraction to wield the power that we have.
It is interesting how there can be many excuses or blocks for writing when it is simply another form of expression. With talking, a comment seemingly is invisible, but when this expression is put by pen to paper, it may feel like its etched in stone to withstand time… Responsibility of expression, be it verbal or written is something that we all know deeply, and that words, and choices of words, do matter.
It is with writing, just as in verbal communication or in expressing through actions and deed, often in life we have those moments when we observe or hear of something horrible, and we know deep down if we had done our part and allowed the loving expression that was ours to deliver things could have been different. It is a great “ouch” moment, but the beauty of life is that we are always given another chance to go for it and express the grace that our heart has to offer.
Holding back our expression doesn’t make sense, as there is always something to share that will be well received from others.
History has shown us that we all know what happens when the silent majority don’t say anything or speak up so it is great you are writing about this and knocking out this idea that somehow it does not harm to hold back what we know in our hearts to be true.
Thanks Andrew what you state is a shocking truth which is worth remembering again and again. So much evil has been wielded and taken root in the world on the back of the green light offered by the silent majority choosing personal short term security ahead of the empowerment and vitality of living true to their heart.
If we worry about how others will react or respond to our expression it can be really debilitating, draining ourselves with holding back or calibrating what we say rather than freely expressing what we genuinely feel and sense.
I get the exhaustion you talk about Fiona in the interrupting of a natural flow. Like damming water it is a constant effort to stop something that flows so naturally.
Whilst I have never really found writing to be hard I have found actually speaking out and expressing what I want to say challenging at time. I had a lovely experience recently when someone I know was struggling with an essay, struggling is a mild word here! Yet they are an amazing singer/song writer, so can express extremely well. Yet they had a block over an essay needing to do it in a certain way. For me it shows how we can constrain ourselves by knowing what we can and can’t do without seeing that it is all the same. Just like me with expressing and speaking out it is all there, as it is when I write I just need to give myself the space and give it a go. Universal Medicine has been great at supporting me rebuild and reconnect to my inner-most which has given me the knowing and confidence to express myself knowing that what I have to say and share is needed and wanted by others.
Writing can be; fiction, non-fiction, technical and informational but if the person who reads it and doesn’t understand what is being presented, it is not the reader’s fault. Writing is meant to communicate something to others, and there is no need to complicate this process just because you are lexacomic, a walking, taking dictionary on legs. The sign: road closed bridge out ahead, requires no embellishments☺
“It’s like I am expecting the world to support me while I go on a permanent holiday.” Now that is a great call to responsibility, I can feel how I have done this myself and its actually not on. Yes these blogs are super inspiring and very supportive in many ways for the readers and the writers..
There is a sense of entitlement that is bred from this expectation of the world delivering stuff to us while we abdicate responsibility. And this pattern leaves us in the chaos of the world today. One by one, as we embrace the part we all play in life, things will change.
Oh my Goodness Helen Giles, what a stupendous piece of writing, You have unleashed a beautiful form of expression from within yourself, and we are so much richer because of it. And so are you. Thank you, As one who also has had a resistance to writing for the various and similar reasons you have outlined, I feel nothing but inspired by your words.
The excuses I could come up with to not having to write, are beyond any reason and really makes no sense at all. Like it is a fixed idea that has previously owned me and that I still am constantly being asked to challenge and let go of.
When you read the words of another, it gives you an angle of life that we may not have seen or are ignoring. This is why we need others to help us to see a situation in full, otherwise, we can be blinded by our own pictures and not see the whole truth.
Yes, I so very much agree with you Julie, and this is something we all need to understand as it will help us to come out of judgement and see the true qualities in each other so we can really enjoy each others company and learn from each other.
When there is an accident, all the witnesses see different things because of their vantage point. Each view is like a puzzle piece that help builds a complete reconstruction of the event.
Yes, we need each others viewpoint, otherwise we are caught as an isolated spot in the grandness of the universe.
We intimately understand what occurs when we talk, write and express love. We all get the opportunity to expand. The simple fact is there’s a part of us that prefers to withdraw and stay back and have a comfortable life. But in effect this comfort is nothing more than a sordid, turgid pit of misery. Who’d truly want to stay in that?
We all have experiences to share, life lessons we have learned, and we all have different ways of expressing. When it comes to writing, we all have different styles so comparison is unnecesssary. It is our responsibility to share ourselves in full.
When I was young I was told not to speak up so I used that as an excuse, a hurt that then meant I didn’t have to speak up but boy oh boy did that not support me or others. Now I write and speak and some react and some thank me dearly. I don’t always get it right, and I am okay with that for it is in these moments that we learn so much and we also allow others to see that you don’t always have to get it perfect!
How dull and uninspiring would life be if we were all perfect! Imagine all the experiences of the lessons learned when we mess up, that we would not experience!
I just got a picture of a bunch of robotic movements, all perfect but with no life to them. Yes, very boring and uninspiring.
Writing is our responsibility. To share our lives and learnings with All is natural for us.
I was at a course recently on writing and what was interesting is how our own set of self imposed rules with whether we think we can write or not stem from school and of course the rules of correct writing that do come from school. What was highlighted that we can all write because we all have something to share and its just our previous hurts that we hang onto that prevent us.
My list for not writing was a lot shorter, I had chosen in school all those years ago the writing was the hardest subject in school, and I couldn’t get my head around all the rules, so I allowed my self to almost become illiterate when it came to writing. But at the same time excelled in fun classes like Chemistry and Physics, they both had rules that were black and white. Being silent for so long, I found that I do have a lot to express from what I have lived and not expressed. Writing has become fun because I am not hindered by the rules that in the past complicated my expression. Now, I give my fingers permission
express what is required.
There is something about the physicality of putting ‘ink to paper’ (finger to keyboard) that makes our intentions, thoughts, movements etc. manifest. That is, we draw out all that is being lived and mark a blank piece of paper with it so it is visible before our very eyes. Not all are so comfortable with this level of transparency, for you cannot hide your livingness in this way in the sense that if you do not live what you write, your words will feel empty on the page. Just pick up any standard text or tome that is written from the head and not the heart, to feel the devastating effect of this.
“The more I examined my excuses for not writing, the more I have learnt about myself and my relationship with others and the world.” This is the answer to the worlds problems I reckon. You can substitute the word writing for anything that you are not doing that you can feel in your body is something worth doing. When we take the time to get real, get honest, do some loving examining of what is going on, we can learn so much about ourselves and others, that life becomes less of a mystery and you are more active player in this world.
It is a great resource Helen, to read other people’s experiences and feel how similar they may be to our own experience. As children we all have so much to say, but we stop that expression for a variety of reasons. Returning to that expression can be very fulfilling and healing, so everyone benefits.
Helen, your article really inspires me to write. You have listed many of the reasons that I don’t write for these websites and it’s great to see that these are not valid reasons and that what I have to share is valuable and supportive for others.
When I think about the way I was taught at school to write, with all the rules and regulations and nothing about truly expressing how I felt, was a big factor in putting me off writing anything for years but that now is just another excuse. With all the beautiful inspiring expression I get to read these days there can be no excuses any longer.
‘What I have noted however, is that written expression has its own set of self-imposed trials.’ – Yes, the expectation and judgment of our own writing can be relentless.
I was at a writing course today and the presenter asked us what our relationship with writing was. It got me pondering and I realised that there is great power in expressing our truth through writing so my relationship with writing is the same as my relationship with power. Writing asks us to be in our power and in our authority and this means responsibility which many of us avoid at some level.
I am touched by what you write about ‘letting others know what is going on in my head and heart’. Why have we chosen to make it so difficult to naturally express that what lives within and instead live a life completely opposite to that? Not expressing at all or only that what you think is being acceptable for the situation you are in. It feels so measured, automated, like you play a recording over and over again, in a continuous repeat loop. While expression from our heart will be alive and never the same as it is not a fixture but forever evolving and deepening as we then share form the unifying universality we all belong to an one day will return to after we all have regained this ability.
While writing and sharing on a subject was not my normal, I have learned that this was simply because I held back on living and sharing the immense wisdom that lives within. Now however, I am rediscovering the ability that I can write and that what I bring with that is the way I observe and experience life, which is unique and not there to keep for myself.
‘a desire to maintain the current status quo’ … reading this today was a stop, to consider where I might have a desire to keep things as they are, and how I might live in a way which perpetuates that.
We all have such GOLD to share and re-learning to express it is a magical process.
Indeed Michael, we all have GOLD to share but the point is we are not always aware of this fact that it is equally in us all. Therefore it is important for those that do feel that GOLD that they put their pen to paper so the simplicity and power of the writing can be the inspiration for those that are yet unaware but have the power to do the same.
Such a cool expose – how many of us have felt exactly this when we come to put pen to paper? And yet it is only a tiny hurdle that stops us from everything that writing has to offer, both self development and so much more for us all.
When I write I am often surprised by what comes through. I can at times learn something new, something I needed to hear at that moment as we are but channels of energy; and so pearls of wisdom can come through us if we are willing to connect and allow ourselves to express.
‘The defeated sounds of silence’ was a place I inhabited and indulged as I hung onto making life all about me. As I begin to understand the full beauty of sharing this life with others I realise how much lighter and lovelier I feel and connection can heal the hurts that kept me stuck.
Something magical occurs when we physically write something down, the activation of expression goes out and it is transformative rather than thoughts circling your mind.
Years ago in school, I was told that taking notes was a good way to learn something by hearing, seeing and writing. What happens when we express through writing? We can at times see and read something that doesn’t come from our mind that can expand us and others.
If we consider that writing is a support for ones’ own self development and a support for those who read what we write the question arises… why do we hold that back?
Writing is an expression for all and when we offer more we ignite more in others.
“Feeling concerned about the permanent nature of the written word with no control over where it ends up and the possible subsequent implications of this occurring.” – Looking at this reason for not expressing oneself through writing, I can see another angle on this too, in that it is really amazing to feel how we can leave an imprint of love via our writing on this planet that ripples out and literally lasts forever to be a healing one for everyone coming into contact with it.
The writing we leave ‘out there’ on the WEB is not like our early efforts of cave drawings that took aeons to be discovered. Our truth can be accessed now and it is expressed by many.
A lot of people are scared more of the IDEA of writing than the actual writing itself… Once you put pen to paper, and start to get into the flow it’s amazing how much there is to say about life. Particularly if you don’t have an attachment to saying a certain thing or persuading an audience.
The dot points of what gets in the way of writing is a perfect snapshot of what goes on in our heads. With all this internal chatter and excuses, it’s a wonder anything is written. I find that if I write when I first feel the spark of the writing, it is energising, easy to write. But if I leave it and the original spark is dimmed, then the excuses have space to grow and flourish.
Fiona so true. I have noticed that about any form of expression. It seems that holding back the expression opens up a gap into which all these thoughts and excuses pour in, and the longer you leave it the more they seem to take hold. A wise move to just go for it without making it complicated.
Since making a dedicated space to read and write comments the difference in my commitment and expression elsewhere has grown. I can see there is an opportunity to see the potential to transfer that to other areas.
Why make a fuss? Writing is very important and allows us to enormously increase our reach.
Very true Christoph the spoken does not have the longevity and reach that the written word has. I wonder if this is why I have more difficulty writing as I am aware of the responsibility of the written word that can not be so easily dismissed.
When we write from our heart our words touch others.
The more we express, the easier it becomes, its like doors start opening from within and we are able to access our inner wisdom that has been there all along and just needed activated.
It’s so interesting to examine the ‘reasons’ we give for doing, or not doing things. These justifications always hide some truth that we are not wanting to see for ourselves. There may be an aspect of our ourselves that we don’t want to admit to having, forgetting that this aspect is not really who we are but something we have allowed to stick to an outer shell and is merely a convenient excuse as you say. Calling out these excuses and feeling what underlies them can break the spell they have had over us and frees us up to connect in a way that is loving and truthful, or at least a lot more honest.
Willingness and openness in writing is letting people in. Wow there goes the penny and it drop! I have had a similar experience like you Helen and hadn’t quite got that this point is actually part of why I haven’t fully embraced my writing expression. Thank you.
Expressing the impulses that we receive, and feel is the key in life and writing is a great way to do this…no more excuses.
Writing is a beautiful way to express ourselves. Often I find it therapeutic, as I am able to find ways to express things that I haven’t otherwise known how to express. It can take me a while to be honest with myself about how I am feeling about something, and writing often helps me to get to that. Once I have written something down I can become clearer about what it is I want to say.
It is really interesting to observe all the negative talk I have around writing and how often it still slips in.
Seeing the bigger and … True picture. Yep Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have been awesome in helping me and many many others see this to .. and it keeps unfolding. There is so much to learn and remember ✨
It is changing our approach that helps. Taking ourselves and our reservations out of the way and connecting to what others need to hear. This is a very honest sharing of all the complexity we can call in to not put pen to paper when in fact we all have so much to share and learn.
There are two sources of expression we can draw from. Am I seeking recognition, wanting to get something off my chest, anticipating what others might think or how they will respond? Or am I feeling loving and am holding everyone in that light and the expression is a natural expansion of that? A big difference.
Our resistance to doing something – created by ideals and beliefs – creates a great deal of angst and complication… and yet when we actually go ahead and do what is needed it is often very simple.
Yes, the resistance is actually a very forceful action even though nothing seems to be outwardly happening. A bit like stemming yourself against a breaking dam wall.
We are all unique and add our flavour to mix of humanity, what better way to add to the mix than our voice through the written word. The spoken word is the sound a bell makes; the written word is the bell.
In exploring myself in my relationship with writing I found that there is a pattern through my life, a pattern that was in avoidance of writing. Such as creating difficulties with Dutch lessons at school, actually not wanting to learn all about how to express myself in writing, my later study choice, to go to the technical school where it is much more about manual labour and working with formulas than in writing and learning languages. It is interesting to see how these choices have influenced my writing as from this I have developed the idea that I am not good in writing and that I have nothing to say that is worth putting it on paper. But boy oh boy, the truth is actually completely the opposite. I can write and my view on life is important to be shared.
What I found with writing is that it is actually very natural to me and that my view on life is worth being written and can at times be inspirational for others to read. So why should I hold back on this as I have done for a great part of my life is an interesting question I take with me today to ponder on.
When we get those ‘sparks of enthusiasm’ and beautiful impulses that feel so amazing we have the awesome opportunity and responsibility to follow through with them in the quality and absolute joy that they were delivered.
What a gem of a blog. This is for each and every one of us. Our voice is valuable and without it we step away from contributing the what we live in our homes, community, society and world. Without adding our voice we cannot complain about the state of relationships in our home, or the government we have.
Expression releases stuff from the body. This is more than just a theoretical statement, the well-known phrases “Get it off your chest” and “It’s like a weight off my shoulders” confirms that we know we harbour things in the body till they are expressed.
That resonates with me Michael, the body can contain a lot that needs to be shared but is hold back. Only when we give ourselves permission to give expression to that what we contain it feels as a relief because we have held on so long for it. Otherwise it would be a natural flow of expression directly expressed when we have received the information that needs to be expressed. And to me it feels as a continuous flow when i open myself up to it and stop holding back on giving expression to the love I am in continuous connection with.
Reading your blog makes me realise how writing is another way of expressing and deepening the relationship with your Soul.
It’s lovely that you are sharing yourself with whoever chooses to read your writing, Helen. You know, there have been quite a few times in my life that someone has said something to me and I haven’t really connected with it, then later, the same person or someone else expresses it in a similar manner and I’m right there with it and them. That’s the beauty of your words in writing. It can sit there quietly and then at the right moment the words you’ve penned are there for the next person to be inspired or confirmed by what you have shared. Best of all, they are there for people you may never ever have the opportunity to meet in person. How great is that!
Yes, it sits there waiting for when we are ready. Words matter and lay as an imprint for us to walk through. Written words are slightly more obvious than the imprint of the spoken word that has an equal consequence.
When I look at writing as a responsibility in the way that you have presented it, I can see that there really is no need for self-doubt or criticism. That we all really do have a voice in words on paper and a capacity to express ourselves that can contribute to the whole of life being lived, even if our words do not touch the ears or eyes of every person, they still contribute and this feels important in a world where harsh words and condemnation are prevalent in our global social media communications.
‘Using the excuse of lack of time; telling myself I’ll get to it ‘later’, which of course, doesn’t happen.’ This can be an excuse which prevents us from even trying to find out what is possible and is one that I have as a belief which prevents me from doing what is called for at times.
We have a very human fear of the permanence of the written word. We tend to look at something written down as if it were set in stone, immutable, unchangeable. Therefore it is understandable that we fear going there, for what if we ‘get it wrong’ etc. But what if words carried a living quality that does not age nor wither nor stand like rock untouched by the oceans tide, but more so grew with us and were subject to the ebb and flow of all that we live so that they become imbued with the truth of who we are, or alternatively remain empty of it? If we consider this then we are able to build a relationship with words that is enriched by all that we live and breathe that is forever deepening and never going stagnant. There is always something ‘left behind’ that we can build upon. We do not have to ‘get it right’ first go. By writing it all down, we leave a legacy, not of perfection, but one that tracks our progress back to our true self (Soul) that can help others also find their way home by understanding the various steps taken along the way. And while there may be slight variances from person to person, in truth there is only one path back to God and this we can all relate to.
Giving it a go and getting the expression out of our bodies is so important because the lack of expression builds up like Mount Vesuvius if we don’t. It will explode, it is only a matter of where and when. If we take moments like this to express what we feel then we build a relationship with expression that means we will start to build a new foundational normal when it comes to expressing our truth that will have a ripple effect into other areas of our lives.
I love this Liane. No right or wrong, just Truth.
Love what you have said here Helen: ‘For instance, there is a level of intimacy and openness offered through a willingness to let others in, which is essentially what I am doing when I write something that others are reading.’ Yes. I have experienced my body feeling hurt, almost attacked, when a piece of writing is not coming through a certain level of intimacy and energetic goodwill. So I really appreciate pieces of writing like this blog which speak with a non-imposing authority and do not hurt the body in any way.
I can feel that what would come up for me with writing, next to being transparent and wanting to control that, is a form of ownership and wanting to get recognition for what I wrote. From this energy it is difficult to write the truth and let the true impulse come through, for there are many blocks in the way.
I think we can all relate to this experience Monika. ‘Writer’s block’ is simply the self (the individual seeking recognition) that positions itself between the source of divinity we draw from and the human vehicle such wisdom can come through and express into this plane of life. Once the self is in the way, we get fed from the other ungodly source, either by way of getting stuck or by following a tangent that leads people away from the truth and not back to it.
Nothing beats getting into the flow of writing, and I love that you’ve really emphasised the CHOICE we have in this. We have writers ‘block’ but what if what was more natural was actually writers’s ‘flow’?
I agree I have often felt very inspired by other people’s words of wisdom whether that be verbal or written down. Words have a great power and potential to unite people and evolve them and also to confirm in them that what they have been feeling all along as well is actually true and perhaps common in us all.
‘Words have a great power and potential to unite people…’ I love this Andrew – suddenly there is a greater purpose to our choice of words and what we align to to access such language.
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‘How can people stop to question the quality of the standards that are being set if there is nothing available to spark their awareness of how everything is interconnected to the whole, and that it’s up to us all to play our part in creating the type of world we would like to live in? Wouldn’t all this make it even more important that I made the time and effort to write and share it in the public domain?’ These are such good questions Helen. We must provide a reflection of another way of living, otherwise people are surrounded by and inundated by, the devastating momentums that is currently running the world. We can share it simply being in our jobs, families, groups, shopping centres, and we can certainly share it in through the written word (if it is lived) in the public domain of writing, which also imprints the internet and ether.
It is interesting how we can ‘go into stuff’ when we put pen to paper… or for some it may be holding a microphone to speak and yet we can speak perfectly well in other situations. When we go into an ideal or feel pressure of having to perform in any way it immediately takes us out of our natural expression and everything stops flowing.
We can support each other so much when we write a blog and others can relate to it. Our expression is unique and many stories have been written about the same subject but the way something has been described gives a beautifully different way of explanation from how or what we have lived.
When I get myself out of the way writing becomes quite easy and the words flow on the page, but I still find that I interrupt the flow by allowing self doubt and wanting to get it right, get in the way of what should really be an extension of my verbal expression.
It’s beautiful to let the flow express through us – no complication, just a connection and an opportunity to share that written, spoken or simply felt.
When I write after I get that spark of enthusiasm it feels easy and light, a far cry from laborious. It’s like the whole blog is pre-written and all I have to do is sit down and write it. Serge Benhayon has been teaching that we do not think, we simply receive energy, which then determines the quality and range of thoughts we can have. Feeling how pre-written these inspired blogs feel is confirmation of that for me.
‘These blogs have frequently highlighted what I have been feeling and thinking, but perhaps dared not express outwardly before, or the writer has given me new insight into a topic I hadn’t paid much attention to or didn’t know anything about previously’, I have been so interested in reading about why we collect things – why people have collections of shells, stamps, dolls etc. The blog and the comments have been very enlightening. Some of the topics have been brilliant, giving a whole new perspective from the Ageless Wisdom. It feels like a great community effort in communication and expression.
I agree Ariana, get ourselves out of the way to express the truth from within, we all have pearls of wisdom to share.
“When I let go of this avoidance, including any attachments around the outcomes with the finished product, I now realise I am offering so much more than what it appears to be on the surface.” This is beautiful what you share any attachments holds us back in expressing the truth, when there is purpose we must just express without attachment.
“Why make a fuss about writing?’ because then I have an excuse not to do it. Madness this is because I love writing.
I was told that I was not a good writer in school, I could not spell and my grammar was as loose as it could be….it still is in many ways, but I am learning to embrace this and write from my heart. When I am connected it flows, if I need support I get it, otherwise I get on with it and enjoy reclaiming expression, understanding there is always more to come and in truth it comes through us, my experiences have informed my expression, but when I write from my heart what ever is needed comes though.
I totally concur with what you say about the blogs, they are pure gold and absolutely invaluable – bringing deeper awareness and understanding to areas I often find that I have taken for granted or not been aware of at all.
The blogs have supported me in changing my life, they are full of gold and wisdom, I love reading and commenting on the blogs.
I agree Eva. There is so much we can all take from these blogs, every one with its very own nugget of wisdom to inspire us and deepen our own understanding and awareness of so many different aspects of life.
What a great and inspiring blog Helen containing so many lovely expressions. One that felt super lovely this morning is ‘…the important thing is that I have offered an alternate ‘menu’ around a topic for others to consider.’ What a beautiful way to express what we do in writing and that there is no need to try to meet the expectations of a reader but just to offer a perspective and a quality on what you write about.
It’s so cool that we can read several blogs on the same subject and each will have its own flavour.
The beauty is its everyones own lived experienced so they all have different flavours.
Yes, and it gives us all a broader understanding of life from all angles.
This blog has certainly put to bed all the excuses I have ever used about not writing so now there really is no excuse.
I can understand how being able to write freely and without reservation has a lot to do with how open and transparent we are with other people, and how willing we are to let people into our lives in an intimate way. There seems to be a direct correlation between protecting ourselves from getting hurt via this intimacy thru writing and our ability to write and express ourselves in a way that does not need anything back from the reader, including any acceptance or recognition.
Comparison is killing our natural expression.
It has taken a long time for me to be confident to put pen to paper but it has shown me the extent of how much I would get in the way.
Well said – the things we would come up with to ‘get in the way’ are endless.
I for one am very glad that you are no longer holding back Helen.
A beautiful appreciation for the truth to be expressed in the written word that comes with experience love and understanding and is very inspiring.
I like you Helen have found huge inspiration from reading these blogs – so often there are some words of wisdom that are exactly cogent for the day, or remind me of something that I have forgotten about. And I love that you have plunged in and are writing now. I love writing and write regularly for UML (http://www.unimedliving.com/) – it has been one of the most amazing expansions of expression and service for me, so I do understand what you are expressing here.
Writing is a form of expression and in holding back this expression we hold a part of ourselves back, that would be of great value to others. Writing is a medium of sharing ourselves with others.
I love the honesty of sharing Helen and your openness about writing as me reading this is very timely as i have got snagged in – ‘nothing is coming’ to write. Just you expressing about writing has opened something in me and this is how it works.
Quite often we also have heard about the squeaky wheel that gets the most attention but when we understand that empty vessels makes the most noise from an energetic point the truth needs to be expressed. So sharing your views that brings true expression, which will expand our awareness is definitely a blessing so thank you Helen.
In my experience one of the reasons why we hold back is because words are very powerful.
I can write something turgid and boring and it puts the reader to sleep or they go elsewhere.
I can write something that panders to them and stimulates them.
I can write something that comes with joy and understanding and they enjoy reading it and have plenty of ‘Aha’ events. That is very powerful and draws attention to us, some of it we may not want. Hence the hesitation even though that power is always there.
It’s not just writing that I make a fuss about, I avoid, procrastinate with so many things which I then exhaust myself with as they constantly play on my mind. This morning I felt to deal with what I felt I didn’t have enough time to do and it felt very freeing.
“highlight even more to me how important our expression truly is compared to the defeated sounds of silence” – It’s true Helen. When has staying silent, isolating ourselves from the world or hiding away helped us to move forward, in our own lives but also as humanity on a whole?
Through writing we express who we are and give voice to our truth on what is happening in our world and the world around us. I’m grateful for the opportunity to share daily with a global community expressing and sharing openly. Together we learn and support each other: no longer writing for self or accolades, but humanity.
I find that the more you sit on the fence and don’t express, the more daunting it becomes. And on the other side the more you do express the easier the expression starts to flow.
Everyone has a different style of writing and it is important that we all write something because all our readers will respond to the different styles and the more there are, the more people can engage with us and be inspired.
Great to see your blog on here 🙂 And I love your open honesty.
We all support each other when we write. We realise we are not islands, we have similar issues and feelings, and are connected to each other. We all have so much to share by our expression.
When it comes to writing, I have been procrastinating, holding back…but this is just a symptom of holding back generally in life and not being fully committed. Jumping in with both feet and saying yes to all that there is, I am sure will enable the words to flow when it comes to sit down and write!
I find the more I allow myself to express how I feel in every part of my day no matter where I am and who I am with, the more easy it is to write what I feel and know to be true – if my expression in daily life is flowing then so does my writing pour out.
When we write about our own experiences with no imposition or loading with hurts etc but instead with a clarity and true understanding of what we have lived and why it can support another, we can support them to learn and heal something in their life they have had a similar experience with.
When we make it about all of us, humanity, rather than the reason why not to write, there is purpose. Thank you for the prompt.
Great point Ruth. This can be applied to many aspects of life – so often we make it about ourselves but if we broaden our focus to include humanity, we may find our stuff a little less relevant .
I think by taking the time to honestly reflect and consider why we’re making a fuss about something or finding it challenging or procrastinating we can really help to free ourselves up. It’s like in naming the blockage within ourself it helps us to let it go or at least begin to…
So true, Susan, and the very fact that we feel the need to make excuses confirms the fact that we can feel the truth of what is being asked of us, but are resisting and choosing not to go there.
Helen, thank you for reminding us all that we each have a voice to share, verbally and in writing, and that the world is a richer place when we do.
Very true Alison, “we each have a voice to share, verbally and in writing, and that the world is a richer place when we do” This breaks down every stereotype about good and bad communicators and writers.
Yes, and so are we.
‘When I stop and look back at what I have written here, it’s glaringly obvious that all my excuses are imbued with a desire to maintain the current status quo where written expression is concerned.’ – this feels so true for any ‘excuse’ we make. The very nature of the word suggests that we know what we ‘should’ be doing, but are choosing instead to do something different.
The moment we write from our body and not our mind, everyone will and can relate to what we are writing.
Sometimes people get trapped by the idea, that our mind needs to come up with certain words or phrases. When in fact our body is feeding the mind to write- only then will your unique way to express be pouring out. I am pretty sure and I can assure that from my own experience, the moment, I let my body and my own livingness “talk” there is no stuttering or looking for words. It just flows. As this is the true source of wisdom.
I love what you have expressed Stefanie. This got me to reflect about how when I express with my mind I can not actually feel the other people. It is as if I am in my own bubble with this need to get some idea out, but when I am expressing with my body and my whole being, I am actually open to feeling everyone and everything, there is an ease and yes a deep source of wisdom and it just flows.
When I was a child, I was not asked and addressed to express in a way, that truly captured how I was doing. “Good” as an answer was accepted, which never challenged me to actually feel deeper inside myself, how I was doing actually. I learned, and it is still a very fragile terrain to express from my vulnerability, to not keep the expression of how I am for myself and to not allow to override the actual deeper truth.
I have one more item on your list as to why we don’t express we are lousy spellers! I know for myself it was a subject I thought was hard at school with all its complicated rules, so I put little effort into learning. I was also diabolical at playing anything that was meant to produce music. I thrived at courses that were fun and easy to comprehend. For me; chemistry, physics and the alchemy of film photography were interesting. With the advent of technology, spelling is no longer an excuse not to express. Writing is just the hard copy of what we do freely every day.
I get this, Jane, that our expression is ‘allowed’ (accepted by our social ‘rules’) when it fits in with a status quo that does not challenge the ‘norms’. How many of these ‘norms’ actually enhance and develop our well-being?
A brilliant and beautiful article that invites me to consider and expose the excuses I use to hold back my expression in any way. Supported by writing such as this I am understanding more and more that taking care of ourselves and others requires openness and honesty at the very least. Thank you, Helen.
This is a very important piece of writing which seems to cover all the excuses that have run through my brain, for not sitting down and expressing what is on my mind. Writing at school for me was a chore as it was all about the rules with little or no emphasis on truly expressing, so I did carry that through into my adult life.
Why make a fuss about writing? Why make a big deal about living Love? Why make a song and dance when we heal? Just accept and embrace it as natural and normal like breathing, but confirm whatever we do that it’s because we honour truth. As you do Helen Giles.
I love what you’ve written. I’ve had an ‘issue’ with writing all my life. Well, really if I’d read the situation at school I would have seen I didn’t have an issue with writing, just writing what was required to fit a very small tick box of achievement. I have avoided writing in jobs for years and when I couldn’t I resented the work – how many people complain about excessive paperwork? But knowing any resentment really affects myself and those around me I’ve made it a point to bring harmony in what I write – no matter how mundane. I’ve made great changes and see the purpose in what I write but I still have my achilles heels like education and meeting criteria on assignments. But it’s where humanity is at where we have to write how we should be like without assessment of the quality we bring. It’s a wonderful lesson in humility and bringing love in all the systems I’m involved in.
Resisting what we know we want to do and can do yet creating excuses is such a draining exercise. This can apply to many things as well as writing. The fact that you know what needs to be done but your not doing it just hovers and you can’t ignore it, well you can very easily but you certainly feel it in your body thats for sure.
For me this was a wake up call to feel how much others could be held back by my choosing not to express something that needed saying.
Every comment and blog on this site is an important point of history, as we share our lived experiences that report truth, something our media is unable to do in this day and age. Therefore every expression no matter how brief lays an important foot print that others can walk in.
I used to feel the same way about writing, or expressing in any form – always judging myself far more harshly than anyone else would ever do… but have come to realise it is just an excuse to not show the world who I truly am – and the world so needs us to be true to ourselves, to reflect a loving and true way for all to recognise the same in themselves.
When we create so many excuses as to why we can’t do something we are only thinking of ourselves – we create complication with all the excuses which only delays what is needed and there to present at the time for everyone.
In a world that shuts down true expression in children from early ages, it’s so inspiring to see so many people embracing this quality and exercising it.
‘It’s like I am expecting the world to support me while I go on a permanent holiday.’ …. this sums up how a great many of us are choosing to live today – hence the enormous mess we find ourselves in.
We can all find excuses for why we don’t do the things we know we need to do and holding back our expression is not clever, it’s avoiding taking responsibility for sharing our livingness.
I found there is an enormous element of practice in writing – learning how to express, how to communicate and one good way is by doing it and seeing what happens…
Everyone has something valuable to share with the world and when we hold this back the whole world misses out.
I think appreciating the value of what we each can express and share from our essence is key here, regardless of the amount of recognition the expression does or doesn’t appear to receive…
I could’ve written a blog like this! You really hit the nail on its head. For me, just writing comments have been a huge development and a great exercise to express myself in a foreign language. I’ve learned more and more to put myself out of the way and go with the flow. Awesome blog ~ great inspiration!
Oh yes you could, and you can Nathalie. It is a huge achievement already to appreciate how you write so beautifully in a foreign language. That is the point, we can all express ourselves, by simply adding another sentence to what you write and another and another.
We all have so many different ways of expressing that the more of us that can express through the writtten word the better, especially those who are hesitant about expressing because they are under represented and so all those people who would relate to their particular way of expressing are missing out.
‘…placing writing in a compartment and treating it as separate from the whole, directly contradicts my values in terms of caring for and supporting others.’ I love what you express here… as someone who has also held back from writing, making similar excuses to the ones that you share, to consider that by not writing I am being uncaring and unsupportive, is a great motivator to get on with it.
I am not so sure about the ‘uncaring’ part but I am sure on the fun we miss out on when we don’t write.
The helicopter viewpoint can really change our perspective on life and take it away from it being completely about us to being able to see there is a whole big world out there and we have a part to play – whether that be in our writing or our work or even our relationships with ourselves.
My writing has changed enormously, a few years ago I would procrastinate and doubt what I was writing, it would take me forever to send emails as I would write and re-write them before sending them. Now as I accept myself more with all my imperfections it is becoming far easier to write.
There is a bit of getting ourselves out the way in this – knowing that what we write is not for us but for others, and that to hold back our expression actually holds back what there is to be shared with another. Reading blogs that don’t have any attachment or need from the author is very healing in the body.
The pen is mightier than the sword. We need but to wield the power that lies within us all and express.
I was asked to write something recently and I had this familiar feeling that it would be a chore, but when I pondered on this it was something I had carried through from my school days that really had no place or reason to still exist. So I started to write when I made time to do so and it flowed and was easy.
It has been my experience that it is all in the way we communicate that makes the difference. The trouble is that we get trained at school to communicate or express from our heads and this comes tied up with all sorts of expectations including not getting things wrong and trying to remember or recall information under pressure. So most of us still feel the tension of trying to express in this way which is not in fact our natural way of expressing. When we express ourselves from a connection with the body and heart an inner knowing or intuition rather than intellectual recall, our bodies feel very different – much more light and at ease and expansive. So expressing in this way actually is a joy and revitalises us rather than wearing us down or feeling like a burden.
How many of these beliefs and patterns do we carry around and is it as simple as asking ourselves questions about why we react to certain things in certain ways that reveals these patterns and therefore provides us the opportunities to make changes?
There is nothing like the broader view, the broader the view the more wise can be the ‘thoughts’ and action:
‘When I take this broader view and value writing as something that offers opportunity for both self-development and a form of service for humanity, I can feel the shifting of a self-imposed load off my shoulders that allows a spacious lightness and flow to enter. In the expansion my perceptions are sharpened.’ Certainly everything we are ‘doing’ and undertaking in life must be about true self-development (evolution) and then it will serve humanity.
No one taught me how to write the way I do. I used to write very jagged-edged and would often have writers block trying to make it sound good. What I have started to do is just write from what I have lived and the rest just comes naturally – no pretences or put on’s.
You make a great point, Michael, there is a flow and an ease when we share what we have lived and, for the reader, a particular and special quality that is felt when reading someone’s lived experience.
As with anything, we can male a big fuss about doing something we dont ‘normally’ do, however when we allow ourselves to simply get on with what needs to be done, rather than procrastinating because we dont think we have enough time, then its not long before we can look back and ask ourselves ‘what was all the fuss about?’
The world is in the state it is in due to our collective holding back of expression, holding back our truth and wisdom has allowed what is not ok to become our normal.
We all have so much to share with one another… our life experiences, truth and wisdom, which is expressed in how we move, talk, write, even our thoughts.
If we start by actually listening to and valuing ourselves, then we have a foundation for hearing each other with the same care and respect… I get a sense that this is where we can build true equality.
I am realising more and more these days that making a fuss about doing anything is simply a delay tatic. When I just say yes and allow myself to surrender to the task, everything seems to come together so effortlessly. When we get our selves out of the way, life is so much easier.
This is very true and also what I have experienced rowenakstewart. When an impulse is felt and followed there is a natural rhythm and flow with it. If it is there within us it is there to express.
It is not so much the writing that puts us off (even though we can concoct a myriad of excuses and reasons why to delay or not do this), but more so the level of transparency that is required when we allow ourselves to express from the heart. This level of ‘nakedness’ can be quite frightening when we have lived heavily protected, for it is asking us to not only let ourselves out to the world, but also to let the world back in.
This is a beautiful point you make here Liane and great to consider whenever we find ourselves reluctant to do something – what is truly behind it other than what we think it is.
True Liane, I hadn’t considered that writing lends itself to building a relationship with intimacy before.
This is so true Liane, I have often been a bit frightened by what the outcome might be or what people might think of my expression, after coming from a heavily protected existence, but most of the time I have nothing to fear as more often than not the fears are unwarranted and people find the truth a breath of fresh air.
Beautifully and honestly expressed kevmchardy. In a world that prides itself on charades and costumes, the unadorned ones stick out like a sore thumb. It is this attention and the tension it creates that we need to build a relationship with if we are to truly evolve back to our original and divine roots. Depending on where everyone is at within themselves with this, there will always be those that will appreciate such expression and all that it reflects and those that will not. So it is for now.
There are so many things we are given that are not ours, but are there to be shared.
Writing is also a form of deepening intimacy and letting other people in by sharing about what you live and have learned.
I love what you share here, Monika – we ‘think’ we own our thoughts, that we are initiating everything that comes into ‘our head’ or that we feel in our body. But what if what we feel isn’t ‘ours’ but is there to be shared, so we can support each other through talking, writing, speaking up with honesty and a commitment to truth so we all learn and grow together.
Whenever I hear about what is happening in the world today and how many people are led down the garden path so to speak by things that are absolutely not supporting us as a collective human race, I get fired up and want to write so that people have a true choice. Once I feel this purpose it is like I cannot stop writing.
I have often placed writing as less important as other things in life. Hence delaying or avoiding getting on to doing some writing. However this is complete illusion as nothing in life is more important than any other thing when we bring our love to it.
“While I can’t singularly change world environments, I know that it’s important that I play my part fully and that every little step counts” – This attitude and sense of responsibility is what creates true change on many levels.
A beautiful relationship between responsibility and humility, I agree Susie.
We have a great responsibility with words, both spoken nd written. It is up to all of us to ensure that the words are there to heal and not harm.
The more value and worth I feel for myself the more I feel how what comes through me is for the all.
When I connect with my body what is there to be expressed flows easily. When I am over thinking I struggle with my expression and all those negative thoughts that you have listed creep in and stifle any true flow
Also do we hold a picture of how long a piece of writing should be? Just one sentence of gold can be more than enough to inspire another. Indeed I have oft returned to the same sentence over and over and over. Truth feeds us to great depths.
Ah yes, the permanent nature of the written word, putting down on paper our truth and standing by what we say – it can feel daunting to so openly express ourselves in the day and age of the internet when what we can travel the world in minuets out of our control. And yet, how is it really different to every word we speak and action we make in everyday life. They touch the people around us and ripple out without our control – it seems to simply be that writing it down really brings our attention to what we are saying and our quality of expression.
Thinking what we have to say needs to be big, impactful, new, powerful, interesting or ‘great’ is just a way of avoiding the truth: that when we just connect and express as it comes we can’t comprehend the beauty contained within. Turns out the greatness we all seek is in us naturally inside without us even trying hard. Thank you Helen for reminding me to let out the natural me.
When reading through your list of reasons why not to write it becomes clear that there is always a way to doubt if we let it, but in the end it comes back to: do we like the world as it is or do we see many things that need changing big time? As how you say there is so much wealth in all of us to share for the benefit of all and we all play a significant part in all the world’s affairs. And if we do not take the steps that are necessary then who does?
Helen, I love that you have written this. It makes me realise that I’m not alone in having these self made limitations about expressing myself through the written word. What I feel now is that it is totally possible for me to do this as you have here, thank you for your inspiration.
Every expression counts on this earth. When we stop playing the personal games that are keeping us small, we eventually will work together again instead of against each other. Great you are pointing out the responsibility everyone has in this world by expressing their angle of truth.
“I have no way of knowing where others are at in their lives, so possibly what I write about is something they have been grappling with also. Perhaps this is the support they were looking for elsewhere but were unable to find?” – and thus it reveals the grand order and hand of the soul that does know, and in this for us to surrender to heeding its call and impulse to write from our lived way of life/ – The Livingness.
It’s a great excuse not to write anything if we tell ourselves that what we are going to write has no value or is likely to get ridiculed.
Thank you Helen for making it so clear the importance of writing and that there is little excuse for not doing so. Apart from anything else it is great to have the truth published when there is so much rubbish on the internet.
I had some fun with this comment. How much data is there on the internet. More than 1 Zettabyte – which is an utterly unimaginable amount, since I can’t even image how much one gigabyte is (anyway for those that can, 1 zettabyte is one trillion gigabytes). Anyway, it’s A LOT! So, yes, as you so accurately say Kevin, amongst this quagmire of ‘predominantly garbage’, it is very great to have some truth published.
I have often freaked out about where what I have written has ended up as well, but that is why we have to make sure what we have written is coming from truth therefore we can’t really go wrong.
Thank you Helen that you are not holding back and share all your thoughts about holding back your writing. This is indeed very inspirational because I am sure there are more who have the same thoughts. With your contribution you show a way out of this . . . so I am sure more blogs will come in the future.
‘When I have spoken up, experience has taught me that often I have drawn surprising responses from others which has taken relationships to new depths. At other times, I’ve been challenged by reactions from the alternate end of the spectrum.’ Yes, I have experienced this too Helen. And this is the moment that we can draw on our magical tools that have been given to us, in this case, not taking anything personally, being un-attached to whatever the reaction is and appreciating it when an expansion of the depths of relationship also occurs. The most important thing is to align and express, which you have so well said.
I have found it really interesting when talking to people about writing – sometimes I can see how supportive it would be for others to read and possibly learn from another writing down their experience, and yet often this suggestion is met with a lot of resistance as we face all our ideas about writing, intelligence and expression. But for me, the most inspiring blogs I have read are amazing simply because you can feel the person’s genuineness and honesty in their words, no matter the layout or word structure.
“But for me, the most inspiring blogs I have read are amazing simply because you can feel the person’s genuineness and honesty in their words, no matter the layout or word structure.” Yes, and yes to that. It is the beauty in another of who they are that inspires and no sophistication can compete with this.
I agree – when there is no pretence or trying, only speaking from the heart with honesty it is so inspiring. I meet so many people who share their stories with me and I know that more than the flimsy gossip that fills the media, their true and amazing stories are what we should be reading.
“Comparing my level of writing skills to others; thinking that my writing style is boring for readers.” – comparison is always guaranteed to lead us away from our divine self, separating us from everyone else. We all have our own unique flavour to add, whilst our voice is familiar to us and may not ‘rock our socks off’, to another it’s a love bomb – the loving support that is absolutely constellated to offer what is needed for them in that moment.
We can create all sorts of stories around why we won’t do something but in the end, when we take the plunge and do whatever is needed, we find it is really quite easy… it was the idea of it being a problem that made it complicated and difficult.
Expression is so important in our lives – how we write, speak, move – the key is the quality of our expression… whether it is supporting ourselves and others to evolve, or not.
Writing supports us to deeply understand ourselves and allows connection to others that may be having similar experiences. The wisdom that comes from expressing our everyday living way brings so much clarity and often breaks down the block that has gotten in the way previously. The one point I would like to add in regards to what gets in the way of writing and sharing is the very first moment where I sit poised to start and get stuck in that – ‘where to start’.
Expressing our truth through writing is a responsibility of evolution… a gift shared for all to learn, grow and evolve equally.
What you share with us Helen sounds so familiar to me. In the past I had so many excuses not to write and even when I had time to write, I would find a distraction. Everything was more important than writing. Even today I’m still struggling to allocate one part of the day to writing. I have to look at my daily rhythm and I have to find out, why am I avoiding writing so much.
I am observing that the key to writing is in ensuring we open our heart and let the world in. This is still one I am working on but what makes our writing relatable and truly healing and interesting is ensuring we hold nothing back for anyone. The more I let the world in when I write the more I am surrendering, letting go and opening up to all. Truly beautiful!
I feel you did that in this comment Joshua and I jumped in 🙂
Very inspiring reading your journey with writing and the insights you have come to along the way. It is so true that the choice to share with love and transparency offers the space for others to also open up and reflect on their own relationship with life too.
To be able to truly say ‘here I am, warts and all’ is liberating beyond belief.
Developing and exercising my expression has been one of the best decisions i’ve ever made.
I second that Michael, it’s allowed me to see a so many qualities to appreciated within myself.
Same here Michael, it is an incredible experience to feel my expression expand due to my choice to simply express more and more.
Same here, Michael! It allows true intimacy and embracing the purpose why I am here for- expressing myself expands. Holding back, lets people only get a small portion of myself- but they deserve everything of me. Expressing my love and truth does change the world, so keeping it for myself is no option anymore.
Dear Helen, what a beautiful writing. And guess what, a lot of the things you have shared are exactly things that I too have considered before. Voilà! You gave me more insights into the ‘fuss’ about writing.
Thank you for exposing many of the excuses I have used to not get round to writing and inspiring me to get back to a blog that has been waiting for my attention for a while.
The written word has the capacity to transcend time, where something written can be as relevant today as it was yesterday and is for the future generations. If the voice, heart and Soul is captured in word, the message becomes a living lineage for many people.
I used to dread putting pen to paper and felt very exposed with every word that I wrote. The more that I accept myself the easier it is to write.
That is very interesting Elizabeth, I feel the same. I used to get very stuck when it comes to writing. I didn’t learn to read and write English until the age of 9 or 10, it was at a time of my life where I felt completely lost as I was struggling my way through life plus learning a new language. When I started secondary school I was very behind in English and thought I was terrible at it for most of my life. Now, like you shared, the more I accept myself the easier it is to express.
Helen this is beautifully expressed, and what this reflects for me is that instead of going into comparison with other people’s style of writing that we simply express in our own way and that brings a different perspective to everyone.
There is something about writing with a pen on paper that I love and prefer to writing on a keyboard. On a keyboard I have become so accustomed to misspelling, erasing and reviewing my writing as I go. Whereas writing by hand ask for a level of conviction to be expressed – it’s not so easy to edit along the way.
I know what you mean Abbey there is definitely something about putting pen to paper that has some sort of affect on expression and understanding,
This is something I have woken up to
“While I can’t singularly change world environments, I know that it’s important that I play my part fully and that every little step counts.”
I have come to my own understanding that love counts above all else and the smallest thing that we do if done with absolute love for humanity is like a small stone that starts an avalanche.
This is super beautifully said Mary, and so important for us all to understand.
Currently in my area of the world there has been a massive escalation in murders of young people. Never before has it been so important to live with the Livingness we know and have been inspired by.
Ah and I join in appreciation of all the writers and the blogs but also you for adding your voice to the mix. I can see that if we are always the reader and never put our hand up to be a writer then “It’s like I am expecting the world to support me while I go on a permanent holiday.”
That’s true Lucy! Writing is a way of giving back to the world, what I had the honour to get reflected and the opportunity to learn from. Only “consuming” will never activate your own innate wisdom.
YES – a big note of appreciation to all the blog writers – there is absolute gold in these blogs and also in the comments.
As I write a blog, that subject gets really in my face. Once published and commented on others bring in their take on the situation which can be equally supportive. Without my sharing on the subject I lose out on others sharing.
Agree, we grow collaboratively when we express and invite others to share the wisdom they have arrived at. In this way we all expand our awareness.
Writing is a seed that when planted grows and bares fruit for all.
I love the nuggets of gold others can bring to a topic and in that sharing the blog becomes richer and more expansive.
Thank you Leigh, there is something hugely healing about writing on many levels which we are not aware of until we write.
I love the growth and expansion that comes with all the comments. Something gets taken and people run with it in the most beautiful way.
There is a beauty with the expansion and growth with each comment, the wealth of expression to be shared by everyone is amazing.
We get ‘taught’ from young that writing is a skill and art-form that some have the knack for while others don’t. And from young we are pigeon-holed into the camp of good writers, mediocre ones and not so good ones. But this is part of the huge lie we set up for ourselves by believing it and perpetuating it. Writing is a means to express and its quality will be determined not by the sharpened mind or stimulated intellect, but by the depth we are willing to go to, to live in connection with our soul. Then we don’t write to impress or be seen as the good writer, we write to lay the impress of God in form and in word – and that’s the writing that inspires tremendously.
So beautifully expressed Katerina. The writing that comes straight from soul is a movement of expression that is simply as it is – no need for anything from the outside as what is written is enough as it is sent from heaven.
Thank you for writing Helen, we are blessed by your expression.
I love this, and it’s a beautiful pull up to see and feel that life is not just about us, our bubbles and how we are in them, but about all of us, and writing offers a wide platform for many to access. It’s easy to complain about how the world is but how do we individually contribute to that or not in how we are. I know I’ve had so many excuses about not writing and when it comes down to it I haven’t made the time, and I’ve been comfortable in not challenging that and as noted here ‘all my excuses are imbued with a desire to maintain the current status quo’, and that’s the thing, I’ve not been willing to change anything to change that status quo, so some change in how I am and how I move are needed here, otherwise I will still have this same line in 10 years.
All your points are excuses I have run with so that I don’t have to express from truth and from my heart. I am learning that how I write can expose how I am living, if there is any negativity in my writing then it is also there in my Life. The more I begin to appreciate who I am and the amazing life I have this will then be reflected in my writing.
Expression can feel daunting but like many things, once we start, we can easily overcome it and learn so much about how old patterns which held us back were not serving us at all.
“placing writing in a compartment and treating it as separate from the whole, directly contradicts my values in terms of caring for and supporting others.” Thank you Helen. As one who has avoided writing my whole life I am gradually opening up to it as another form of expression with which to share myself with the world, but I hadn’t considered it as part of caring for and supporting others. It’s a painful awakening to feel how my holding back has affected others, but one I welcome.
Beautiful to hear about your development in writing and willingness to ‘go for it’ without making a fuss, or entertaining self doubt. This is certainly the way to do it, because when we delay or sit on things that’s when all of the doubting thoughts can flood in.
Great point Susie W. ‘Go for it’, explore what is behind any situation where we feel somehow ‘stuck’ – an openness to get to know ourselves more.
“Why Make a Fuss about Writing?” – how i see it, is that when we make a fuss about writing, we make a fuss about our expression, and when we make a fuss about expression, we make a fuss about ourselves and others too.
Helen it is awesome to read your blog and to feel and understand on a deeper level the absolute importance of writing and sharing ourselves. It really rung home the isolation I have been living in and how this has confirmed others living in such a way also. The more we share our lives with openness and transparency the more we will truly connect with people.
These blogs are confirmation of the fact that we are never alone in our ‘struggles’ in life. Whenever, we ‘think’ that something only applies to us, that everyone else has ‘got it’, except for us …… these blogs confirm the opposite to be true. We all have our struggles and what a beautiful forum this is to start the true conversations about what is really going on for us, right now and the wisdom we are learning along the way.
Thank you for sharing Helen. We are all vehicles of expressions and there is never a moment when we are not expressing. What I have noticed is that the writing on these blogs and the comments shared bring us closer together, and offer inspiration.
‘Baulking when I feel a spark of enthusiasm by assuming the task will be laborious and unpleasant.’ I do this a lot in life, I have something that needs doing and rather than do it I procrastinate about doing it and build it up into something it is not in my head and then by the time I get to do it it feels like it is going to take ages and be hard work, when invariably if I simply focus on what is needed it is nothing like the self made drama I have created in my head.
‘I have no way of knowing where others are at in their lives, so possibly what I write about is something they have been grappling with also.’ This is something I have been learning over recent times, whether I’m sharing the written or verbal word. It is not up to me to filter what I have been given to express, as it might just be the opening for many, many people to re-awaken an aspect of their lives that needs addressing.
This is a beautiful sharing Helen, and the world is blessed to have this voice speaking, and writing truth.
Our expression is so important and what I am learning more and more is that my ability to express is deeply linked with my ability to observe, listen and respond, which brings a huge advancement in the quality of all my relationships.
We are all one, and at the same time, we are all unique! That is what sets our writing apart. When we express from our body and not our head, there is a truth you can feel. Your short list of reasons why not to write all come from our head. You will be surprised what appears on the screen or the paper, the wisdom that comes out of your fingers when you express!
I have always found writing so much easier than talking! I find I can express myself so beautifully through the written word, but can flounder when I try to verbally speak. I realise while writing this that I can make a fuss about not being able to verbally express in the same way you do about writing! Time to let this go and get myself out of the way…
Writing is another way of speaking. Its interesting how sometime when you read another person’s writing, its like you can hear their voice as if speaking directly to you. Reading the expression of another is a beautifully intimate sharing.
When reading your words it becomes clear that we are making writing a struggle that it does not need to be.
“collectively the standards accepted by the majority become the norm.” Thank you for the invitation to us all to contribute to sharing who we are.
Every time I feel defeated, I would write. I would expose all my feelings and beyond that, what is causing these feelings to reach a clarity for myself. The other thing I would focus on is how I take care of my body, these two ways Support me greatly to come back to myself.
Thank you Adele, this is beautiful to read and know. Two very simple and loving ways to support oneself.
So glad you have written this blog Helen. I can so relate to a lot of what you have mentioned. I feel inspired to persevere with putting pen to paper myself. I didn’t find it boring or silly – the opposite really. I love your sincerity and vulnerability too. And in-spite all the excuses you did it. From me I thank you for your contribution to the all Helen.
I have noticed that what we hold back in expressing becomes a poison that is then stored in our body and used in other ways.
Life transforms when we take the self-absorbed ‘me’ out of it, and make life all about service for all.
Beautifully shared Helen… a healing for all who read this. It exposes just how important our expression is – whether that be written, verbal, energetic and or through our body language.
This is brilliant. Thank you, Helen. This is something I need to read again. What stood out for me on my first go was this line: “However, placing writing in a compartment and treating it as separate from the whole, directly contradicts my values in terms of caring for and supporting others.” This is so true for me as well. I am feeling just so inspired by the depth to which you have allowed yourself to look into your relationship with expression. As Serge Benhayon keeps saying – expression is everything, so what is going on for me to blank myself off from this one of the most direct form of expression I can employ?
Love reading your writing Helen. You remind me that the excuses I come up with to block my written expression are not true.
Is it possible that all our excuses, all the fuss and all the doubts and judgments are nothing but attempts to seek identification at all costs?
Beautifully written Helen, I can so relate to what you’ve shared. I previously had huge resistance to expressing myself, especially in written form. Now, I understand expressing truth in full in any way is deeply healing for us all. It is our ability to express love and truth that can change the world. When we stay silent we are in a way conforming and agree with what is going on around us. It took me a while to realise that staying silent is also a form of expression, it is one of holding back, hiding and avoiding responsibility.
That avoiding responsibility means that we agree by not speaking up. If not me then who, if not now then when?
Thanks Helen ,you have exposed the points or things that can get in the way of us writing and expressing from our innermost. Also you have confirmed the power and awesomeness of people expressing that even the smallest expression of truth packs a big punch so to speak, uplifts and allows others to confirm and rise above all the things that stop us from sharing deeper. I understand how expression is everything and so important for our evolution,well expressed 🙂
Helen, what a gorgeous debut into the world of writing. We put so much pressure on ourselves to ‘get it right’ and not ‘upset’ anyone that we rarely notice the toll this muted expression is taking on us. On top of that many of us live in fear of being judged. I know this was all true for me initially. However, I came to a point in my life where to not express was far more painful then expressing and seemingly getting it wrong and being judged/attacked for it. In truth there is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’. There is only what is true and thus the willingness to live and express this or not. Once we reconnect back to all that is of truth, love and beauty within us, it is increasingly difficult to not share this with the world because it hurts to keep it to ourselves because deep down we know that such grandness is the essence of us all.
I love the clarity you bring here of the value in our expression when we make it about quality first and foremost – a sense of quality we have connected to from inside of us and not an imposed ideal of the ‘perfect’ article or blog.
There is a saying along the lines of “the only stupid question is the one that goes unasked”, and I feel that the same could be said about writing. There isn’t anyone who hasn’t got gold to deliver and each and every expression, angle, piece-of-the-jigsaw is just as vital, inspiring and important as any other. We are all in this together and we all need each other to evolve and show each other the way.
Thank you Elizabeth for your comment and so true regarding our writing and verbal expression, to “take responsibility in order to contribute my part to the overall expression of truth within our world.”
Thank you Helen, it’s an extraordinary piece of writing, honest, clear, open and very much representing the voice of humanity. It is so important to look at why we don’t write and the impact this has on the world, we may not like the world the way it is but we also contribute to that status quo by not offering our own input. I also appreciated that you just shared how this was for you and weren’t telling others what to do.
On a very practical level, everything is either co created with fiery energy or created with an energy that has been impregnated with prana and so writing with fiery energy places an indelible marker of fire in the world that works to permanently pull others up. Fire is fire.
Helen you have many qualities that are apparent through your writing but one that really stood out to me was your ability to consider things in detail. You’ve taken a topic and gone over it with a fine toothed comb. You have considered it from every angle, including the ramifications of not doing it, as well as doing it. This is an invaluable skill that not everyone has and so the simple fact that you are reflecting this strength to others is just one benefit of sharing yourself through your writing.
Helen I’m not sure that we’ve ever met in person but now, through the sharing of you through your written word, I feel that we have. Just for that alone, I’m glad that you’ve shared.
Helen, I love this article. Reading your list of reasons why you previously didn’t write articles, I can relate to them all. Thank you for showing that it’s possible to overcome this, to see the bigger picture and also how important it is to express rather then staying silent, thank you.
You express so well Helen! I will look forward to reading more from you.
“Baulking when I feel a spark of enthusiasm by assuming the task will be laborious and unpleasant”. Hands up whose done that? (leaving the space for quite a few hands to go up).
This is a trick of the human spirit to keep us from not expressing or doing a task that we view as laborious and unpleasant. When this happens to me and I ‘push through’ and then quite often get to the end and go, well actually that was OK, even fun, and I like the result. But even though it got done, it was done in that energy of pushing through the unpleasantness. Imagine if that did not even exist and it was done with the spark of enthusiasm and an openness and willingness to enjoy the task at hand?
I love that you have taken this step and that you share yourself with the world through writing. For me writing a blog is like having tea with humanity. You share yourself, bringing your flavour and your unique expression. You bring something that we don’t bring. So bring it on! Looking forward to read more from you.
This is beautifully expressed “While I can’t singularly change world environments, I know that it’s important that I play my part fully and that every little step counts.“ I used to feel overwhelmed by the prospect of changing the world, but what really needs to happen is that commitment to the purpose of life day to day in every part of life. Everything matters, no choice is too small, if it is from Love, Truth it can offer another way.
I have many many many things to thank Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine for. One of them is for the expansion in my expression and understanding the importance of this, knowing it is not about being ‘right’ or ‘perfect’ as there is no such thing but instead having a go and letting it unfold. Seeing this unfold with not just myself but many students expressing is deeply beautiful and something to be truly appreciated. I used to have very little confidence in expressing in writing and even just talking with people and now this has completely turned around. Anyone who is unsure or a little hesitant of writing I would wholeheartedly say just give it a go .. take the first step and the rest will follow ❤️
It is true what you share how amazing it is that so many people have been willing to share their experiences in this very public format. Literally anyone in the world can access the internet so the potential to be read by people all around the world is massively different to previous mediums like a newspaper. It is courageous and inspiring how the students have shared so willingly.
A great point you make Helen – the simplicity of getting ourselves out the way. We are filled with excuses – and like you, so am I – but I also read many blogs and am constantly inspired by the depths people are willing to go to. No perfection, just a commitment to express the truth.
Writing is another way of discovering yourself and when it is straight from the heart, its another way of expanding and exploring the Universe within. Fabulous blog Helen, Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for this invitation to write and not hold back what we have to share.
Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine has certainly made me aware of the fact I am not alone on this journey back to soul and what I experience in life is experienced by many others too and much more than what I realise as we are all connected. This awareness of myself with others has greatly supported me to write and share as I learn to live openly and transparent in my day.
I love your blog Helen as it is highlighting for me how excuses have been able to get in the way when there is always so much to express and there is a world out there that is waiting for all of us to share what we live from our own unique expression.
“placing writing in a compartment and treating it as separate from the whole, directly contradicts my values in terms of caring for and supporting others.” It is crazy how we think we can compartmentalise certain aspects of life to protect ourselves by upholding a false belief or reasoning around it. I love the recognition and subsequent appreciation of what you offer by sharing yourself in this way Helen.
Half way through this blog i realised I feel I have not much to say that is not already said or someone else can say better. Woa, now there is a corker…how could I have nothing to say when my life has been turned downside up and inside out in the past 10 years and every single day offers learning and evolution. All that needs to be expressed is how I live in my daily life and then we have a potential book already.
I carry a belief from school that I am no good at writing which is untrue but the best way I am going to shake off this belief is by actually writing.
This is brilliant and a timely read for me as I have a similar dialogue of excuses as why not to write. By you sharing so openly and honestly I can relate to what you share, particularly of the belief that I can’t write because I may be ridiculed or what I have to say is not of value. Thank you for writing this it’s the first blog I have read for sometime that has made me contemplate my complacency.
We have no right to hold back something because of our own lack of willingness to express what is there to express and share with all. I have used all your excuses and probably a few extra but there comes a time (thanks to Simone and the Expression Programme) that I feel I am getting myself out of the way enough to not allow the excuses to get in the way of writing. The crazy thing is I know that the more I express the more expression comes to me. As you say we have no idea to the extent the ripple effect might be, that could support another to grow and evolve from what we have expressed.
I’m seeing more and more how unhelpful and hindering silence is. When we hold back and don’t express, we leave a gap for others to interpret our lack of expression in their way, according to their own filters and perceptions and ability to read a situation. We allow someone else to tell our story for us, in their words and not our own.
Wow, Helen, you could almost have written this about me. Thank you very much for sharing. I can relate most to your last argument: ‘Feeling concerned about the permanent nature of the written word’, since I don’t experience this level of holding back with speaking. But I also realize they’re are all just excuses.
Amazing Helen – you have cracked something significant here. I can very much relate to what you are writing and your points are all standing out for me. Thank you.
When one holds back their true expression, all of us are less. Thank you for no longer holding back.
Helen, thank you. Firstly I want to appreciate you for writing so beautifully and eloquently about a subject that I can totally relate too. And secondly to thankyou for writing it. It took me a long time to actually write something that would be as you say have a “… permanent nature” and that I would have “no control over where it ends up”. But as you also say, it can be and often is surprising the responses that come back, and how inspired others can be by what we have expressed through our writing, highlighting the responsibility we have to not hold back our true expression, in whatever form that takes.
As it happens with everything else, writing can be seen as a ‘me me me’ exercise, or we can write to help others, to share our wisdom. We definitely need more of the second kind.
Yes the second type without any desire for an outcome, that’s the tricky bit for most of us, so much do we still bring in the me, me, me into conversation.
Writing can be very healing. It is a process that unlocks what is there to be expressed. Often I do not know what I am going to write until I start the sentence. It often astounds me what comes out!
Thank you Helen. How often do we doubt that what we have to share is of benefit to all? I too am learning the joy of communication and expression and how when we take that step to open up, we break down those self-imposed barriers that prevent us from understanding our collective dilemmas. A friend recently reminded me of a beautiful saying her granny always said to her: “A problem shared is a problem solved”. When we let go of our ideals about being perfect and allow our selves to see life as one long learning curve, it becomes natural to share our issues because they are points of learning for us all.
I would say that the belief that we don’t have anything different or worthwhile to add to a topic is one of the reasons why we stop ourselves from writing – or even getting the impulse to write. I have loved reading the blogs and its an integral part of my day. They connect me with other people, give me insights I did not have and sets me to pondering about how I feel about the topic. If something has been a problem or a joy for you, it will also be for many others. This is how community works, sharing and inspiring each other and writing can be a powerful way to do this.
The ‘functioning’ world relies on us thinking that we are alone and have to operate individually. Writing about our experiences and life with the openness and dedication to truth in these blogs breaks through this made up concept. These blogs offer up the heart and truth of the matter – that we are all the same in essence and we are here to share that and deeply care for each other. That writing is a way to care for each other by letting each other in brings yet more depth to the purpose of writing.
I love the depth you have gone to here to explore your reticence with writing because my list of ‘excuses’ is exactly the same. We know how everyone’s expression is unique but has equal value, and we all have so much to share. When you defuse the ‘excuses’, there is no reason at all for not writing.
“The way I walk, talk, my level of openness and genuineness etc. all affect the quality of my relationships with myself and others” – and so too the quality of what is written and expressed. When we write or speak from the loving, caring and aware quality we live, then whatever is written or spoken is always gold.
Brilliant Helen – you have thoroughly trounced the writing gremlins, those thoughts and beliefs that make it all about ‘technique’ instead of energy. Yes there are billions of skillfully written books out there but very few where the author lets their light shine through.
The world is heavy with ‘writings from the head’ and needs much much more ‘writings from the heart’ to uplift us out of this denseness.
Yes and ouch – I can relate to this honest list of excuses to not write.
Yes Stephanie when you see it in black & white it is so obviously all excuses and nothing to do with loving ourselves and others more to put ourselves ‘out there’ in written word.
It’s about getting it started and practicing. I have tried it before and will try again
Writing is not just an outward flow of what’s on the inside, but actually is how we open up and let people in. This is part of why we find excuses not to write.
Wow Simone, great point. It makes sense to me now why so many people have issues with this form of expression, writing. By letting ourselves out, we also naturally let people in, it is a flow similar to our in and out breath. We would turn blue in the face and feel very unwell if we hold onto our breath for too long.
I had never looked at writing in this way before, thank you, Simone ….. it makes so much sense, what you share. With writing, we are there in words, on ‘paper’ for everyone to see, feel and read, for eternity, potentially. We are putting ourselves ‘out there’ through our writing, and in so doing, inviting everyone in at the same time. It requires us to allow and accept a deeper level of ‘open-ness’.
‘I know I’m not alone in feeling daunted with honestly letting others know what is going on in my head and heart.’ I used to feel this so keenly, however, I have been inspired by others who have been willing to be transparent and when I have clocked this honesty and my appreciation for it and how it has left me feeling – mostly more open and expanded by their authenticity, I have been encouraged to share more. There is a refreshing power to expressing in this way either verbally or in writing.
Helen what the world needs is people like you who write from the heart – your writing is easy to understand and flows. I get the excuses for not writing and could add to the list with my own, but one thing that has helped me enormously to write is the Expression Program. Writing comments for three years every day has helped me to express what I want to say in the written form without worrying about getting things right. It has also changed the way I communicate at work; I have a lot more confidence when speaking in front of a group of people – so much so that I now teach in my spare time. It has shown me that I can have an opinion and it does not have to be accepted by everyone and that we are not wrong when others do not agree.
Indeed Helen you are not alone; thank-you for sharing your appreciation, your self imposed trials and your journey beyond these imposts. What makes the Universal Medicine websites so inspiring is the rainbow of expression that colours its pages, here we have a resource that explores & values everyone’s lived expression for as you say not only do the blogs support and deepen the readers awareness but equally the process of writing offers a grand “opportunity for both self-development and a form of service for humanity”.
Love this. “A resource that explores and values everyone’s lived expression”. When you consider the truth that this is, there is no other website, teaching, insight or resource out there that can get close to matching that. These web-sites are the future platforms for humanity’s learning; true libraries of true support.
Brilliantly expressed Helen and very relatable, I am sure, to many who would love to write but hold back…just in case. I too was one who did hold back for many of the reasons you have shared. But one day I finally felt that I was in a place that I was ready to start writing and I did. Now those excuses, seemingly valid at the time, are excuses of the past. And as you say there are people in the world that could be waiting to read exactly what you feel to write. So why hold back, even if what you write is only read by one, that person’s life may just change as a result.
Beautifully expressed Ingrid – and if there is a chance that just one person’s life could be inspired by our writings then who are we to get in the way of that? This level of selflessness and purpose is very humbling and yet another loving pull-up to shed yet another layer of individualism.
Thank you Ingrid, I found that when I did eventually write and get published the excuses and fears I held, that had felt real, were shown to be not valid at all. None of the things I was concerned about happened and those thoughts and fears literally dissolved in the process, in fact it was not a big deal at all. Writing, editing, publishing was actually the easy bit, but the emotional reactions and distorted perceptions around it all were what needed to be exposed and let go of, and the best way for me to do this was to simply write and publish.
The sound of silence is delicious and divine but when it comes to expression, to writing and sharing ourselves with the wider world, silence is, as you say, defeatist and keeps us in isolation. Divine silence is a different kind of communication and heavenly it is but must not be used as an excuse for holding back our expression.
‘Divine silence is a different kind of communication and heavenly it is but must not be used as an excuse for holding back our expression.’ – And if we are truly honest, we can all feel the difference and know very well when we are holding back.
Defeated sounds of silence” ahh that rings such a well-known chord, over life-times about myself and witnessed in society. I hear the call for greater level of love, openness and responsibility. Thank you for choosing to express.
Helen, what a powerful, insightful and inspiring blog you have shared here. Reading and commenting on this and various other blogs on a plethora of topics, is opening up a deeper level of expression and gradually wearing away resistance to being seen on paper. Thank you.
I too have an issue with writing – not so much the actual writing but the getting it out there. Yet as you say “While I can’t singularly change world environments, I know that it’s important that I play my part fully and that every little step counts.” So true. We all have a unique way of expressing and every voice needs to be heard.
I love hearing the wisdom and lived experience that others have to impart and to me, none of it is wasted or lacking in value, no matter how little self-worth we may have or insignificant we may feel. What I love most about teaching is when pupils start to trust themselves more and then open up in their expression – what gold there is in us all and it is a tragedy that so many of us don’t connect with or trust the awesomeness that is naturally there!
It’s true that our natural expression is often not valued, especially in the educational environment where it’s about getting the right answer and not sharing what we feel and the wisdom we each hold – children included. Some of the most profound truths I have heard have come from children and their observations of life. If we were to record and share this wisdom from children and adults and place value on this the world would change. Yes, we need knowledge so the world can function but without wisdom and truth we have what we see now, a world where people are not living the fullness of themselves, or the love and harmony we are capable of living together as a global community.
True expression, starts with the understanding that we have been living a lie and that we have to become honest before finding absolute honesty on the path to truth and before ‘Universal Medicine’ the “sounds of silence” were deafening. Now the truth is available every day from recording and videos so we are all realising that it is “important that I play my part fully and that every little step counts.’ So the question is are we open to the possibility we have been or are living a lie?
I feel this question is really important that you have asked and needs pondering on .. to really feel and ask ourselves this ‘So the question is are we open to the possibility we have been or are living a lie?’ What I appreciate is that in knowing Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine I can not only ask myself this question but know where to look (go to) to have the reflection of Absolute Truth come back to me so this can be felt and confirmed in my body and this is a great blessing.
Even worse Vicky, could it be possible we are been kept in the lies because the truths have ‘always been attacked as not being the truth’? When history is showing us the fact that what once was considered a lie is now known as a absolute truth. And the ridiculous part we have to use the word absolute truth to make it known and not just the simple-‘truth’, a truth being unifying and for everyone equally.
We all have so much to share. Why we don’t is very much worth pondering on. I know I can get caught up in the “I don’t have the time” but the truth is I do and I can certainly make the time. Something that you have said Helen about the intimacy we share when we write our stories ring true for me; holding back on being intimate in sharing who I am. However any experience I have had with writing has mostly been met with love and support. I have had experience where I have received hurtful comments to things I have written, but what I can read in that is that that person has not connected to me in my writing, but has rather attempted to make an intellectual argument, which is not me. Its not about being perfect or showing how smart we are, simply sharing our perspective and our experiences and where we have come to as a result of that.
I have experienced receiving hurtfull comments on something I had been sharing and very true what you say here Jennifer, it comes from their intellect that is challenged by what, in this case i had written and they were not connected with their whole body only there with their mind and thus not able to feel the depth of what I was sharing and that’s okay too but it has nothing to do with me and doesn’t need to be an excuse for not writing.
I love your list of excuses on why you cannot write, I know them all too well.
I know them too Mary-Louise, and to see them in black and white shows how in signification or blatantly untrue they are.
We all have something to share because we all have lived our life and how experienced it in all our senses and probably learned from it. Through sharing it others can be inspired to consider parts of their life they didn’t consider before. I find that a very beautiful purpose to write with.
You are so right Helen our expression is so important, and I really wouldn’t have had any idea of this importance without it being made known by Serge. I struggle with getting around to writing anything apart from commenting on blogs and all your excuses seem all to familiar to me as well, so I thank you for your expression here Helen, as we know there aren’t any real excuses for holding back our expression.
Helen, good on you for sharing your experiences of writing, or not as was the case and now putting yourself ‘out there’ for others to see there is indeed a different way to the current norm where we can live the love that we are and not simply stand by and let ourselves and others be crushed.
In relation to the 4th dot point – same as previous comment – anything written from the heart is beautiful and the other thing is that what YOU have to share can only be shared by you in the unique way you express (same applies to all of us) and so if we hold that back the world is a poorer place as a result.
How true – if we sit on it, hold back, everyone is missing out.
Holding back our expression we are denying this access to the rest of humanity.
Whenever we have feelings of self-doubt and are feeling the impulse to stay small rather than speak up, it’s confirmation that there is something else at play trying to pull us back from shining the divine light that we are. There is nothing insignificant, boring or mundane about everyone of us. It’s us who may choose to see ourselves that way, but it is not who we truly are.
Beautifully said Alison!
In relation to your second dot point I can tell you your writing is NOT boring. As far as I am concerned it is impossible for anything that is written from the heart to be boring, so the only qualification or quality that is needed is to write from our heart or at very least honestly. We all have something to say and share and I very much enjoyed reading yours.
“When I take this broader view and value writing as something that offers opportunity for both self-development and a form of service for humanity, I can feel the shifting of a self-imposed load off my shoulders that allows a spacious lightness and flow to enter. In the expansion my perceptions are sharpened”
Hitting the nail on the head thank you Helen, oh how refreshing it would be if all journalists took this view and purpose to writing.
Yes, I definitely agree Sam. It’s mind boggling – but shouldn’t be – to even consider that sort of journalistic code of conduct and integrity existing as the norm in the general writing and publishing world.
Thank you Helen. I have clocked the depth of healing people receive when they write. It unlocks them from old ways of behaviour with the opportunity to be honest in how they have lived and what they now live. Life is to present and express all of you to the world. The internet provides a platform where we can interconnect with each other and give back to anyone surfing for honesty and truth.
Absolutely Rik there is a depth of healing people receive when they write, when the connection is from their lived experience the healing is so great.
‘How can people stop to question the quality of the standards that are being set if there is nothing available to spark their awareness of how everything is interconnected to the whole, and that it’s up to us all to play our part in creating the type of world we would like to live in?’ – this is heaven sent. Every cell in my body feels the purpose in what you are sharing, Helen. It’s not about me it’s always about all of us and it’s up to us all to take responsibility for this, to claim the part that we are here to play and to never hold back from expressing our truth through our words ,verbally and written, through our every movement.
Oh my goodness, where to start, thank you so much for your incredibly beautiful and powerful sharing Helen, what a gift. How could you have ever questioned what you have to offer through expressing your truth in words. It shows how much we give our power away when we do this, when we question the divinity of what we have to offer when we simply share our truth openly, without any expectations, when we get ourselves out of the way.
This is a wonderful Helen – a full investigation of what has lain behind the not writing of a blog – it unearths the whole world of behaviours, ideals and beliefs that operate to oppress us from letting the full volume of who we really are through us: ‘When I stop and look back at what I have written here, it’s glaringly obvious that all my excuses are imbued with a desire to maintain the current status quo where written expression is concerned. Yet, if the writing scope is broadened from me in my individual self-protection mode to considering how my behaviour impacts on others, this avoidance seems indulgent, selfish and childish. It’s like I am expecting the world to support me while I go on a permanent holiday. However, placing writing in a compartment and treating it as separate from the whole, directly contradicts my values in terms of caring for and supporting others. I know that my behaviours impact either negatively or positively on others and therefore contribute to the overall quality of the world we live in.’ How beautifully put, and how true that it is all ‘one life’ and that if we are being indulgent, selfish and childish with one thing then we are actually this across the board.
Thanks for sharing all this thought and what if’s that you have gone through when writing. I used to have some of those but these days I just write as I know how good it feels to express and share.
Thank you Helen for sharing, as this is something so many of us would feel either constantly or at certain times through life. I found with writing some blogs about personal experiences how many didn’t know about the topic I was writing about or had gone through something very similar and then had an opportunity to express how it was for them. We all have a wealth of wisdom from how we have lived our lives and from what we have observed, that there could be hundreds and thousands of more blogs on these websites.