934 thoughts on “Anxiousness – The War Within”

1. Without intending to criticise any particular person I was reflecting on how much of medicine is about fighting and extinguishing symptoms, we fight cancer, suppress menstrual periods, we we look to cure and overcome conditions of all kinds, but we don’t just accept what is happening and deeply feel ourselves, the illness, and why. Of course it’s wonderful to have professional support and treat whatever is ailing us but do we have to fight it, could we just feel it instead and see what we could learn?

   1. Just feeling the anxiousness and see what we can learn, ‘A couple of weeks ago I was driving on a busy freeway and could feel the anxiousness rise. As I started to berate myself, I was inspired to ‘just feel it and don’t fight it.’ What happened felt like a miracle – the anxiousness didn’t disappear, but definitely released its hold.’

2. The real battle has always been within and this falsity can be overcome so simply as you have shared Carmen. And thus as we appreciate we are these essences or “divine essence” the level of appreciate-ice-ness expands as we become aware that we can reconnect to so much in the knowing it comes from God and this develops our True appreciation.

3. We rarely appreciate what affects us when we are growing up, the consequences of what we experience, what we witness and most of all what we feel and yet cannot put a name to because it is not part of mainstream eduction from our family, school or community on the whole. Yet learning to listen to the body, to bring understanding and learning skills to allow, to surrender, and bring deep care to the way we look after ourselves, offers a welcoming door to the loud and subtle communication from the body

4. Those internal battles we have with ourselves are exhausting and leave us feeling defeated as there is no victory in war. Choosing to feel the anxiety and then let it go we free ourselves of the conflict.

5. When we begin to be more accepting in life it highlights the level of control and expectations we have lived with and how this has stunted our grow and evolution.

6. Very inspiring Carmin. “I may have lived during wars, but the real fight was within me.” Resolving that fight is to win the war.

7. It is great to recognise that war has its many expressions and how ultimately it is us, the human beings of this planet who express them.

8. When we label things as good or bad we decide at this point to colour them rather than just observing what is there is to felt and not judging it. To come to a point of acceptance and observation gives us a space and freedom to feel and observe all that is there and in do so we are no longer a slave to those feelings.

   1. very true, the same could be applied to feeling well and feeling sick in the body. We fight feeling sick yet if we surrender and allow more ease in our body, there can often be a release from the ‘battle’ we are waging with whatever the body is communicating.

9. We tend to see the mind as a mighty character. Yet, it is not capable of rationally convincing a traumatised body to let go.

10. Hardening up and bringing out logic/judgment to push away what I am feeling sounds very familiar, and I can really see where I do that. It stops me from appreciating the bigger picture and I can feel how that freezes me in time to keep repeating the same reaction over and over, only to reinforce my own judgment whether that is against others or myself.

11. Very amazing Carmen. I like the anecdote you have supplied us — to never stop feeling everything because behind that awkwardness and uncomfortability is the untouched stillness within — the only way to it is to feel your way.

12. When we take that step to come back to our bodies, just naturally, and simply, we will find that the age-old plague of anxiousness starts to simply disappear.

13. This is a deeply healing and supportive article Carmin for anyone who has experienced anxiousness and feels there is no way out of this exhausting and undermining condition.

14. Anxiousness is a debilitating emotion that just erodes our ability to realise how powerful and awesome we really are.

15. Thank you Carmin, I appreciated all you have shared even though I have read this before. It is a huge topic not wanting to feel what is going on inside ourselves and it begins quite early in life when we are told to “be a big girl/boy” and not cry, etc. As adults we are also not too transparent with what’s really going on for us, as “How are you?” is often met with the obligatory “Good, thank you” even when we are anything but. Learning to be with what we are feeling is like retraining ourselves, I know for me I am not always able to do this so I appreciate the encouragement and support your blog offers.

16. “I realised that I have labelled certain emotions and feelings as ‘good’ or ‘bad’.” There were certain feeling and emotions that I would not allow myself to feel because they were considered by me as being bad, they were so squashed down that after years of living this way nervous breakdown and panic attacks were the results of not wanting to feel this created so much anxiousness. Gradually over time the anxiousness has become less as I allow what I am feeling to be there without so much judgment and much more love.

17. When we judge ourselves as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ we are in comparison with what we ‘think’ we should be. The truth of who we are in our inner-most essence just is.

18. That it is possible to actually let go of something that is so pervasive, that affects so many people… Not to just let go of it, but to truly start to heal its source, is indeed wonderful.

19. Every reactive behavior is a yes to what causes it.

20. Simply by connecting with ourselves, in such a gentle and obvious way, this has such a profound effect on our body and our central nervous system… Who would have thought that within gentleness there could be such a beautiful reconnection.

21. Wow Carmin, what you’ve shared is incredible. My understanding is that one of the key ways to heal anxiousness is to allow ourselves to feel, to feel everything and not try to run away from feeling what is coming up for us. The other key point is acceptance and letting go of control. This is very inspiring how you have managed to heal a lifetime of anxiousness and thank you for openly sharing your profound experience.

22. “By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing.” I’ve been invited to some events and I feel a little dread about going, yet reading this just now I realise that I haven’t allowed myself to truly feel what is coming up and why and being okay with it. I can feel it has nothing to do with the events but past worries that I still have in my body. So this is awesome, for myself and everyone who I see as I’m taking responsibility for me.

23. Oh I am so pleased to come back to this blog again, each time I read it I remember how amazing the Gentle Breath Meditation is for building a relationship with your breath and getting to know what our body feels like. From there we can acknowledge that we are feeling something and look to work out what it is and why it is. Thank you again!

24. Allowing ourselves to feel everything is a great step forward in our healing.

25. Thanks for sharing your learning Carmin, acceptance is a big learning for most of us, ‘The lesson for me is acceptance. Acceptance of who I am, acceptance of occurrences in my life, letting go of trying to control what can’t be controlled.’ I agree, acceptance is so important.

26. Allowing ourselves to feel everything, whether we’ve labelled it good or bad, is part of developing an honest relationship with ourselves.

27. Acceptance is such a loving posture we can offer to ourselves. There are things we have identified ourselves with that are in fact not true and actually unsupportive or even abusive, but accepting where we are at, what comes up for us, while knowing and deepening the connection with what is actually true is very healing.

28. As long as we try to fight our anxiousness the war continues and it is amazing how it dissipates when we make the choice to feel it and not be owned by it. It is so draining when all our energy goes into trying to block certain feelings and this then takes a bigger and bigger hold on our lives. As you say acceptance is the key and the humility to release control and trust that we will be supported.

29. Thank you Carmin it’s great to read your blog again, and the insights you have shared about your anxiety, to “feel it and don’t fight it” and how it led to you be able to “At the same time as feeling the anxiousness, I could feel my inner strength and power.” That’s amazing because anxiety has a way of taking over and extinguishing the whole person. I really appreciated everything you have shared because it makes sense when we try to not feel something we don’t also feel our whole selves – we are a complete package and whatever is coming up to be felt needs to be.

30. ‘Whether we like it or not, we do feel everything all of the time and can’t ‘pick and choose’ what we are prepared or not prepared to feel.’
    This is a great reminder Carmin, to keep things simple. What we feel is not the enemy, choosing to battle instead of accept our feelings is.

31. This is a potent antidote to anxiousness and it should be circulated widely as it would bring understanding to this crippling condition. As you say, to overcome it means to go through it and not to circumvent or try to avoid it by going into a fantasy world or wishful thinking of our own making.

32. “I could feel my essence and that the anxiousness wasn’t me. When I felt it, it couldn’t consume me. In this, I realised that I have labelled certain emotions and feelings as ‘good’ or ‘bad’.” It feels so easy to do this, as I have too. labelling certain emotions as bad or good, probably put in place by parents who in their turn had a similar upbringing themselves. Recognising that anxiousness isn’t who we truly are is a big step. Feeling our essence and the stillness then felt puts paid to the lie – and shows us the truth of who we really are.

    1. This recognising anxiousness as not who we truly are, learning to not define ourselves by those terms, means we can see the straight-jacket those definitions put on us. We free ourselves from the label that we thought we wanted to bring understanding to why we feel what we feel but actually one that holds us trapped and feeling like we cannot get out of it.

33. What a powerful and inspiring sharing Carmin on healing your long term anxiousness, often we feel we don’t have a choice with conditions such as these. I recall having panic attacks for about 6 months many years ago and the debilitating effects this had on me almost making me afraid to leave the house in case I got triggered out in the public. I agree with you that acceptance has been key to allowing me to also regain my steadiness and inner strength and to embracing all of who I truly am which has supported me immensely in dealing with any anxiety if it arises.

34. I have found that to accept life and myself also involves a physical surrender in my body – a letting go of any physical tension and allowing my body to just be.

    1. Yes Andrew and being in the moment, that surrender definitely pulls me back to now, not ahead of myself in anxiety or behind in regret, just living now and addressing what is there to be addressed.

35. Beautiful Carmen. I’ve woken from an anxious nights sleep and your blog reminds me to stop and feel. When I allow myself to be where I am it makes it easy to bring more understanding to myself.

36. This is a very powerful statement Carmen: “By preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, the bad and the ugly) I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am.”
    How powerful the healing is, when we at last feel safe and supported enough to feel it all, that we are held and will not lose ourselves… And how revealing it is, that when we deny what we feel, we in effect cap ourselves from connecting to the essence of who we are within – and that there IS a steadiness, a stillness to embrace and foster our connection with in daily life. No perfection ever required, but to know this is there, changes everything.
    A deeply inspiring blog, thank-you.

37. I continue to remember your blog when I don’t want to feel something, I feel the tension rise and, when I fight it, it is so much worse than when I simply feel it and acknowledge it, without needing to fix it. I almost pat myself on the back and say “well done – don’t know what I am going to do about it but well done for feeling it!” Works well for me as I learn the next step.

    1. This is a great confirmation and extension on Carmen’s sharing Lucy. Saying ‘yes’ to feeling – to not negating what’s going on within, and actually acknowledging that THIS is a deeply self-supportive step to take – is so very powerful. In this, we cannot but also arrest many self-sabotaging behaviours that can so readily flow-on from when we resist what’s there to feel, and do our darnedest to keep it all at bay, or buried even…

    2. Thanks Lucy for your comment, it’s a great point about the simplicity of feeling things also, that we can allow it to be felt without needing to fix it.

38. It is great how this article highlights the anxiety and how there are certain levels. Meaning it doesn’t just turn up one day and is gone the next, there are different levels of awareness to bring yourself to. I have seen other things written in a ‘here today and gone tomorrow’ way and it seems more unbelievable then believable. As is highlighted here don’t expect something to happen or focus on what goes on next, merely stay within the feeling of what ever is going on in the moment and then move into your next step. It not a trying to work out something but more a settlement with a feeling that then becomes another level of awareness in the next moment. Something happens at one point and then we spend the next amount of time trying to stop, figure out, run away from what ever about it keeps replaying over and over. What if next time something comes into your mind or is felt you just stop and allow yourself to feel it. If there is no clear answer we just keep repeating the same steps until the clarity is there. In this what if every time you chose not to feel something it put a layer of something else, an experience over the truth of what you are feeling? It would make sense then for when you start to feel or be truly aware of what you are feeling that you would also need to feel these choices or discard these layers.

39. It is amazing to understand that we cannot select the things we would like to feel without blinding ourselves to everything that supports us. In fact it is an absolute illusion to believe that we can avoid pain by numbing ourselves. The energy is always at play regardless of the reality we have chosen to see. If we choose to see what is really going on we have an opportunity to change it.

40. Carmin it was lovely to ready your blog, as I am currently working on a low level of anxiousness, it was great to ready that it is about feeling all that there is to feel and allow the acceptance in, the good, bad and ugly.

41. I remember this in so many incidents, “So again I hardened up and brought out the logic; “People drive through this tunnel every day,” “you are not afraid to die, so what are you scared of?” “there are exit doors, so if you get stuck you have an escape route,” “you are ridiculous” etc.” The logic of what you are seeing steps in to tell you you are wrong to feel and we go to the physical to explain or to prove our ‘genuinely. When as the article presents you only need be brave enough to make the choice to feel what you are seeing regardless if there is a physical end to it or not. A feeling is a feeling full-stop and the strength comes from being able to turn within and see and feel. In place of bracing ourselves and showing ourselves we have no right to feel what we feel. Growing up and even now I can see how much I feel and how much more I see when I choose to allow myself to feel. There is always the ‘harden up’ knocking on the door to have it’s way but yet the more and more as people we consistently open up to feeling the easier it will be for us all to tap into.

42. I have learnt after struggling with anxiousness for many years, that if I am willing to be honest with myself when I feel anxious, what is actually offered is the opportunity to arrest a loveless momentum, and bring understanding to and address why I chose to leave myself and race ahead. Choosing this moment of reflection allows me to embrace the opportunity to return to being present with what comes next. As there is always a deeper truth to discover through which I am offered the choice to be more of who I truly am in essence.

43. We can’t begin to heal anxiousness unless we’re prepared to allow ourselves to feel it, and know that it is not part of who we truly are. I’ve felt recently how when there’s an uncomfortable situation going on around me I’ll either totally withdraw, or react by being fake and nice and trying to jolly the other person out of whatever they’re in – but this doesn’t work because it’s a reaction, an imposition on them out of a need I have of not being okay with disharmony, instead of allowing them the space to feel whatever they need to feel, and meeting them from a place of solidness.

44. I have just recently recognised how much I am capped by my anxiousness and how this prevents me not just from feeling the bad stuff but also from feeling my amazingness. I have been questioning what the pay off is for me and how it allows me to keep myself small. Choosing to commit to bringing awareness to my choices in how I am as I move through my day without judgement.

    1. Its interesting how we cap ourselves from feeling our amazingness, by going into anxiousness and not feeling the all. What I am noticing is that I am stopping feeling my amazingness by some foods that cause the raciness in my body that triggers the anxiousness, something I am currently working on.

45. Yes acceptance is key and letting go of trying to control the anxious thoughts allows for a settlement in the body and the recognition that we are not our anxiety. This is so massive and needs to be taught in schools because so many, like me, grew up denying that we are anxious when underneath it is an issue, in varying degrees, for the majority of the population.

46. I love that you could feel your strength and power underneath the anxiousness… and through feeling and recognizing it to not be from the essence of you that it could not consume you. This is profound… for so many people suffer from focusing on anxiousness and other ailments that could be deeply supported and even healed by focusing on instead feeling their amazingness underneath and in knowing the power of acceptance and letting go as you have been shown.

    1. Well said Samantha. You have beautifully highlighted how our connection to who we are within holds far greater power that anything that presents in the world or in our minds. And our essence is always waiting to be connected to and lived in all its amazingness and might.

47. Carmin thank you for sharing your experience your words ‘The lesson for me is acceptance. Acceptance of who I am, acceptance of occurrences in my life, letting go of trying to control what can’t be controlled.’ For me letting go of control has been a major step I found the more I wanted to control something the more I lost the real me, and the more I was trying to convince myself I could handle a particular situation, eventually I sought help and support and feeling the need for control although it is still there at times, it is also a reminder to reconnect back to me.

48. “By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing. Whether we like it or not, we do feel everything all of the time and can’t ‘pick and choose’ what we are prepared or not prepared to feel.” Learning to feel everything – if we pick and choose we miss out on the amazing as well as the more uncomfortable feelings. Observing and not absorbing, as presented by Serge Benhayon enables us to accept, and thus cope and not react.

49. It is so true Carmin, ‘Whether we like it or not, we do feel everything all of the time and can’t ‘pick and choose’ what we are prepared or not prepared to feel’.

50. It is in how we relate to what we feel and sense that makes all the difference. Are we in reaction to it or in acceptance of it? In reaction the emotion controls us, with acceptance we are free to discern and make conscious choices.

51. Not making yourself wrong for what you feel has been a huge lesson on how to cope with life for me. I’ve lived with many different pictures of how I believe I should behave, and when reality doesn’t match that, I go into a self bashing tirade. Realising now that it doesn’t serve me to treat myself like that has been hugely beneficial to self acceptance and self appreciation. Life is way simpler when I can shift focus to what is working, and the fact that I’m actually enough just as I am without the need to constantly be outdoing myself.

    1. The perfect comment for me to read today. Shifting focus to what is working… and in this way more things begin working for us. Thank you Elodie.

52. “The real fight was within me. By preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, the bad and the ugly) I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am.” We sometimes fight ourselves harder than anything or anyone else but when we choose to drop the protection and reconnect to our own inner-most essence of love we can welcome ourselves with an open heart.

53. What shall we call Anxiousness… a plague is something that spreads everywhere, is extremely contagious, and usually has very obvious symptoms, okay that sounds about right …..anxiousness sometimes behaves like a virus,… it certainly spreads…. what we do know is that, like the staph bacteria, most people have it but in some it manifests in a very intense way. Anxiousness is everywhere and affects virtually all aspects of peoples lives.

54. Being honest and becoming aware of the many distractions we have set up as a way to manage life in order to not feel what’s around us is the start on healing anxiousness, unless we are aware of these go to behaviours we would find it challenging connecting to our bodies and meeting life through energy first which is the answer to our woes.

55. It is so true Carmin and such an important reminder that – ‘Whether we like it or not, we do feel everything all of the time and can’t ‘pick and choose’ what we are prepared or not prepared to feel.’ Being honest with what we are feeling is the gateway to knowing who we are and living our truth, to understanding ourselves so we can learn, heal and let go what is not of this truth.

56. I love the point you make about seeing all or nothing, so true when it comes to looking at things that we have an attachment or investment in

57. ‘By preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, the bad and the ugly) I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am.’ I guess this has been my strategy as well and still to really embrace how energy truly works and plays out in the world is something I need to open my eyes every moment there is.

58. Wow, Carmin thank you for sharing, showing us how powerful acceptance is and how healing it is when we allow ourselves to feel what we feel. By applying acceptance with understanding to why we feel a certain way, this supports us to let go of control without judgement or attachment.

59. I suppose that if we are truly wanting to feel all there is to feel, we need to accept that there will be a level of discomfort and many other feelings. We have spent a lot of time thinking that being comfortable is normal and having that comfort of feeling as our goal. What if our ability is to feel everything? We need to change what we expect from life. Bringing understanding and love to the world takes courage. Thank you Carmin. I found this blog so interesting and insightful.

60. I am noticing lately how much anxiousness I actually feel in reaction to everyday encounter and interaction, and what strikes me is how well I used to cover it up with hardness and anger. I can feel my throat tightening, my heart beating faster, my arm tensing up from fingertips to the shoulder – my body signals to me that something has been registered as a possible threat. I am learning so much from this choice to observe more, and it feels very nurturing and needed for me at this moment.

61. There is no worse feeling that knowing we are more and not connecting to within to confirm that fact.

62. I love the message in this blog or how in we block feeling we don’t want to feel we directly block everything else. A great lesson.

63. “It is like saying there are some colours that I don’t like so I refuse to see them; I will only allow myself to sense the colours that I do like, that I deem acceptable. The only way to do that is to shut my eyes and see none, and harden my body to not feel what I feel.” This line tells me in short how we tend to deal with issues of anxiety in life. Instead of accepting life in full we tend to not accept because we are not comfortable with that choice and by doing so we miss out a lot on ourselves and with that choose for a lesser way of being which becomes, as per the above example, a colourless life.

64. ‘Whether we like it or not, we do feel everything all of the time and can’t ‘pick and choose’ what we are prepared or not prepared to feel.’ So true Carmin. I also find that by allowing the feeling to be and accepting what it is there to be felt it does naturally dissipate. It is a healing process, just like a pimple is clearing an excess from our body.

65. Allowing ourselves to feel whatever it is that is coming up should be taught in schools. I love what you have shared about some feelings and emotions being labelled ‘bad’ and others being labelled as ‘good.’ When we censor our feelings we also stop oursleves from feeling how amazing we are. Such a trick!

    1. Yes I agree Simone, as children we are often shutdown when we express or acknowledge our feelings, it is far more supportive to encourage and confirm others, rather than squashing their true feelings.

66. Oh this is gold ‘Whether we like it or not, we do feel everything all of the time and can’t ‘pick and choose’ what we are prepared or not prepared to feel.’ it made me laugh a bit too because I have really lived my life as though I could pick and choose. I really dedicated all my time to doing this. Your analogy about wanting to only see certain colours and not others is brilliant – made me smile more too.

67. Understanding that anxiousness is something to be felt and understood is a blessing. We are taught that anxiousness is a disorder and something to be cured but if we consider that it is there to be felt just like all the other feelings, we do not have to claim it as part of us, more as something passing through.

68. This is a great point that by shutting down our awareness to feel what we do not like we may also be cutting ourselves off from feeling our inner essence and stillness. It certainly explains for me why it can be difficult sometimes to connect to that stillness within.

69. I have definitely noticed that when I am anxious it is usually that I am not accepting something and trying to hang on to some kind of control over things I have no control over.

70. Anxiousness is a movement we can feed with emotions, identifications and even with food. I realized that eating something comforting triggers my nervous system, numbs my awareness and lets anxiousness arise. A groundbreaking experience to see how we are the creators of our life and that we choose to be ignorant about the massive impact food has on our body.

71. The fact that you realized that your struggle and anxiousness was within and not triggered by the outside, although you grew up under difficult outside conditions is a great testimony of how we are choosing to surrender to life or to fight or struggle for life.
    The struggle comes from an image we have invested in how life has to be instead of surrendering to what is offered and living by that.

72. ‘ I may have lived during wars, but the real fight was within me’. When we give up the ‘fight’, that is when we surrender, and in the surrender we can accept everything we have chosen that has led to the present moment and experience, making it easier to choose differently.

73. Anxiousness arises indeed when we decide there is something for us to feel where we don’t feel equipped to deal with, I can feel this everytime when it arises, but having the knowing of this I can see that when I allow myself to feel it I know I can handle it. Feeling the solidness in my body, being aware of everything is the key point in healing anxiety.

74. What you have written here Carmin particularly struck me this morning as I could certainly relate to it;
    “By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing. Whether we like it or not, we do feel everything all of the time and can’t ‘pick and choose’ what we are prepared or not prepared to feel”.
    This is such a gentle reminder to allow and appreciate whatever feelings come up. Like you I have a pattern of blocking and stifling feelings, both loving and berating. Thank you Carmin for highlighting deepening my awareness to this.

75. If we see the world and its state of conflict, turmoil and war as a reflection of what is going on inside, a mirror held up to us to show what we have allowed, then we could begin to make the choices to heal what is inside, the struggles and what we have taken on that is not truly us. And if we began to live more truly ourselves, it would be interesting to see how the world changed in accordance with this.

76. We can’t filter life – we can’t say yes to somethings and no to others – it’s like saying I am only going to see green, yellow and blue and not see black, grey and white. But we try – I know i have – saying nope, I see no black, grey, white (whilst actually staring at the colours themselves!). Life is the full colour spectrum and if we hide some, we don’t get to see the rainbows!

77. A lovely reminder for us all Carmin, the more we accept who we are and embrace the stillness within the easier it is to let go of all the images that keep us in constant fight or flight mode, thank you for a great blog.

78. This is a gorgeous blog Carmin. As I was re-reading it today I remembered the one time I have been able to stop a panic attack from happening and that was because I too stopped fighting it. This was the beginning of the end of me allowing anxiety to control me. I used to feel the anxiety/panic set in and used to ‘rally against’ it, hoping it wouldn’t end in a full blown panic attack that would take me out for about 3 days at time. This time I stopped and felt how different the thoughts were to when I am feeling strong and amazing. I reminded myself of how many things I have dealt with and gone through in my life… and was still standing strong. So I began to bring all these situations into my thoughts and the strength in which I had dealt with them all, and the power in this Because this was the truth and it pushed the anxiety and the untrue thoughts out of my head. I was able to settle back into my body, and I realised I had just reminded myself that I am equipped to handle anything, along with a deep appreciation of having done this so many times already. There is nothing greater or more powerful than who we truly are, so no matter what happens we have all we need within us, no need for doubt or recriminations or even anxiety!

79. It’s great to see that early life experiences and patterns of behaviour do not have to define us for life- I too have turned much around and found new ways to be in the world, it’s worth it so much to do the work to claim this.

80. I love how anxiousness has been turned from being a feeling you wanted to deny, to something you express and accept for what it is- no need for it to be different to what it is.
    in this process, you can feel that it’s only a feeling, and underneath it is further depth of understanding to be reached, if we just allow ourselves to feel it first,

81. In the first group I presented my anxiety levels were so high that I stood in front of the group of 60 participants and my whole body shook for the first 10 minutes. I did not try and hide it, I let myself feel what was happening, I stayed with my body and connected with the people. In this process the shaking went away, as well as the anxiousness and my presentation was very good.

82. The fight within me I know so well and I have used feeling anxious a lot to not feel my essence of love and bring this out to the world. When I identify myself with anxiousness, it feels so narrow and small, it is all about me, when I let it be and feel my connection with love I open up to every one I meet.

83. Thank you Carmen….. I love your blog. Isn’t it funny, how I just happened to come across your blog and it was just what I needed to support me, in having more understanding of anxiousness, as this is something that has been in my face lately.

84. I love how you have said it is like refusing to see certain colours and how that would stop us from seeing other colours too. We invest so much in protection, feeling insecure, and not wanting to feel hurt, consequentially preventing ourselves from all the love that is available to us – so we invest some more in filling the emptiness with various booby prizes. This is crazy, but I have done it so much.

85. For me, the feelings of anxiousness were like tendrils that would spread out through my body threatening to take me over, dulling all senses except the one that would say – something bad is going to happen. And if I continued to feed it the anxiousness would continue to spread, swallowing me up in the process. To finally understand that the anxiousness was not me was one huge revelation, and by acknowledging that I stopped feeding it with my many emotions, and slowly but surely its life squeezing tendrils began curling up and dying, leaving me feeling lighter, liberated and connected to the amazing me that had been buried, but not forgotten.

86. In my efforts not to go into reaction about the things happening around me I was also hardening and trying not to feel things. The other day I decided to allow myself to feel the truth of where I was. This turned into an overwhelming feeling of anxiety and I remembered your blog. I went with the feeling. It was a lesson in itself and it brought me the awareness of how often I stop feeling to not be hurt rather than allowing the feeling to be there. I was not allowing myself to feel the mean things, but they were there and true. It is not worth the hardness in my body.
    I found that I was caught up in getting things right rather than feeling what is true. I was so invested in this that there was a fear of failure. I realised that to be open to growing and evolving meant that I have to let these notions go…failure or success…good feelings or bad. What is there to be felt, is there. The truth needs to be felt.

87. Isn’t it interesting that we label some feelings as bad, when in fact a feeling is just a feeling, and we cannot help but feel it. If we squash it down it has power over us because it becomes bigger and scarier the more we don’t feel it. Whereas if we allow ourselves to feel it it is up and out before we know it! I know that I have felt shame about feeling certain feelings therefore I do not want to admit even to myself that I am feeling them. But if I admit them they become smaller than me. They are in fact not me. They are just telling me something. What a relief!

88. I didn’t realise until recently how debilitating and awful in the body anxiousness feels. We can often be not very understanding of others until we go through something ourselves. Which in truth it’s a sad place to be as it shows our lack of compassion and care for humanity. For me this comes from learning to be more deeply loving, caring, honouring and appreciating of myself, rather than harsh and judgemental, in this I am learning to hold people in the same love, understanding and openness.

89. “By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing.” I can relate to this, as I often focus on the negative, as many people do, instead of the amazing that is always there.

90. ‘By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing. Whether we like it or not, we do feel everything all of the time and can’t ‘pick and choose’ what we are prepared or not prepared to feel’. And another absolute gem that I can relate to and still get caught up in.

91. The lesson for me is acceptance. Acceptance of who I am, acceptance of occurrences in my life, letting go of trying to control what can’t be controlled. Perfect for me to read this blog today, thankyou Carmin.

92. A great reminder that trying to pick and choose what to feel, or deploying distraction tactics so as not to feel anxiety, just takes us out and disconnects us from the true strength that we naturally are. Always better not to fight, hide or resist but to face and feel it. That way you get to realise that the feeling is not greater than you.

93. Carmin, I really get what you mean by Anxiousness being the war within. It serves no one when we get caught up in anxiousness, and live stressed out feeling buzzy. I have found if I do the Gentle Breath Meditation before I start work, or even sat at my desk, I am able to have a solid foundation before I start work and interacting with everyone else, and if necessary I will repeat it as the day progresses.

94. ‘As I started to berate myself, I was inspired to ‘just feel it and don’t fight it.’’ – I have found that just by observing what is going on, gives me the space to feel what is really going on, and that allows me not to become overwhelmed by it.

95. Coming back to your blog Carmin I found this simple statement so powerful and wise;
    “I could feel my essence and that the anxiousness wasn’t me. When I felt it, it couldn’t consume me”.
    Allowing ourselves to feel whatever comes up, thus allowing it to release and not consume us, is such a wonderful lesson; thank you for the reminder.

96. I went through a period in my life having panic attacks with fear so great I could not step out side my door , I used music with headphones at night to try to keep the fear at bay. This was the culmination of suppressing what I had felt all my life and not expressing. So anxiousness has been a way of life. Now I am learning that it is ok to say what I am truly feeling, and ok for me to become more honest with myself and what I feel deep down in my bones so to speak. I find now there is much less anxiousness in my body as I hold myself in loving care.

97. The lesson of acceptance is a beautiful one to learn Carmin; rereading your blog reminded me to stay connected to myself, accepting and allowing things to unfold.
    Observing and not absorbing!

    1. Yes Shirl Scott, when I do not want to feel, I disconnect from myself ( my body) and then I absorb everything, and the original thing I did not want to feel, becomes 3/4 times bigger. Big lesson for me to feel what is there to feel which allows it to release ( without growing bigger), acceptance is key!

98. Wow Carmin, an awesome blog. What you have just shared inspires us to learn to release anxiousness. To allow ourselves to feel it, accept it is there and let it go instead of trying to control and avoid feeling it. Very powerful, anxiousness is a plaque in our society so many people will benefit hugely from reading your blog. Thank you.

99. Thank you for sharing so honestly and openly. It really supports me at the moment. The unfavored feelings are something I often fight and they then get so much focus that I can’t think of anything else and indeed of not feel how amazing I am. Reading your blog I could feel it is ok to feel those ugly feelings and also to that I do not have to put so much energy into them as they then only grow bigger and bigger!

100. It is really important that we become very open in our society about anxiousness… It’s one of those elephant in the room things, it’s enormous and takes up so much space but caution, don’t talk about it. You see when we do start to talk about it, it really is the start of the journey of healing, because healing always start with honesty and recognition.

101. Thanks Carmin, I can so relate to this, being diagnosed with severe anxiety 20 odd years ago, while learning to live with the effects of it on my life after a major car crash. Which with much appreciation, love and many thanks to Serge Benhayon, all the Benhayons and the many practitioners I have worked with over the last 5 years from Universal Medicine, I can say I’ve healed nearly all of that. The anxiety is something that I still go into sometimes, well, nowhere near the same constant debilitating level it used to be. It can still be very harming nonetheless. Nowadays at least I can recognise it most of the time and when I clock it, I will breath and pay attention to why I have left myself (i.e. my body ) and allowed this in, and most times it’s because there is some pain or hurt that I don’t want to feel. I say ‘most’ as having lived with it for so long, sometimes I’m just in comfort so to speak and don’t even realise that I have anxiety. These times are becoming more infrequent as my healing and healthly living choices continue to unfold and my awareness increases.

102. This has just summed up my life at the moment, the tensing up, hardness, logical and rational adult speak while on the inside I feel overwhelmed and about 5 years old. Telling the child to just ‘grow up’ and stop being irrational doesn’t work. When I bring my focus on my body, how each part feels (toes tense, fingers stiff, jaw clenched, shoulders hunched, middle caved in) if I clock the quality of these areas and loosen up and lighten up I get to feel everything, the ugly and the understanding. It’s simply a case of choosing to be with my body rather than get lost in that tense state that only creates more anxiousness. Thank you Carmin.

103. Carmin I like your description of anxiety and how you have labelled it as a war within, I feel this is pretty accurate and the best way to counteract anxiety is by choosing a self caring lifestyle

104. Very powerful blog Carmin, and can relate to of having an internal struggle with anxiousness, which at times seems so strong and painful in my body. It is such an awful feeling and I would do anything not to feel it and in those moments it seems that the only way to deal with it is to manage the situation as best as I know how, but what I am discovering is to feel and allow what is happening within my body, instead of fighting it – which only seems to make matters worse.

105. Holding on and not allowing what I feel and I can start to feel an anxiousness but surrendering and letting go supports me in whatever is there to be felt.

106. Carmin thank you for sharing such a huge marker when it comes to the feelings of anxiousness. Controlling the situation or others, harms ourselves and everyone in the long run. What I found interesting is that when we are driven by control all that happens is the intensity of this situation continues… choosing to let go we can literally feel the weight being lifted and the intensity has no where to go.

107. “It is like saying there are some colours that I don’t like so I refuse to see them; I will only allow myself to sense the colours that I do like, that I deem acceptable.” – if we live like this then we shut ourselves off from all our feelings. We are either open or we are not and putting it this way Carmin is so clear.

108. Could it be we feel shamed by these feelings, in labelling them bad & ugly we push them away, disown and deny them, yet this only pulls us further away from a supremely precious relationship with our bodies that offers such truth. Its time to turn around and walk towards our feelings, embrace and accept them for then we are longer run by them.

     1. “It is time to turn around and walk towards our feelings”…what a powerful statement Lucindag. We spend SO much time running away from them, distracting ourselves from them, making up stories to suit what we want to feel etc… If we tried even a little bit to do what you suggested, we would all benefit. But people need to be supported to do so and that is what I have found so amazing from the Benhayon family and Universal Medicine practitioners is the incredible support to do exactly that….to stand firm within ourselves and look at our feelings, embrace them and accept them and in some cases let them go.

     2. I love what you say here lucindag “It’s time to turn around and walk towards our feelings, embrace and accept them”. For me that puts a stop to giving our power away to the anxiousness or what ever emotions it is and give the power back to us…very powerful indeed.

109. Thanks Carmin. Acceptance and surrendering – letting go of trying to manage or control our feelings, and just allowing them to be is what truly heals them and allows us to let them go. As soon as we judge, the feelings get squashed down, hardening the body and adding another layer to be released later down the track.

110. ‘I could feel my essence and that the anxiousness wasn’t me. When I felt it, it couldn’t consume me.’ I have the same experience Carmin, the more I acknowledge and live with my essence I know anxiousness is not me, yes I do get anxious, especially in ‘new’ situations where I think I have to perform and thus put a lot of expectations on myself but feeling the anxiousness I just let it be and feel how in truth I feel very fragile. And this stops the fight in myself.

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112. I too have had strong bouts of anxiousness and panic attacks in the past, and tried to cover it up with music, blocking out the bad feelings, not wanting to feel it. Now I am much more honest with myself these days and when I feel anxiousness in my body, I am able to accept that it is there, no need to fix it or get rid of it, just feel it.

113. It is the saddest thing that we have created a society that feels so threatening that we are afraid to share how we really feel.

114. ‘Whether we like it or not, we do feel everything all of the time and can’t ‘pick and choose’ what we are prepared or not prepared to feel.’ That makes a lot of sense and explains why a great part of my teenage years I wasn’t able to feel anything good or bad. My survival mode had shut down everything there was to feel.

115. What you share Carmin is helpful. I can get anxiousness that does not escalate to a panic attack and I am still able to function but I shut down my expression and connection within what I am doing and what I am doing while anxious is done inefficiently, taking so much longer than it needs to. I have often cleared anxiousness with various techniques but I am also familiar with ‘fighting’ it and this resistance does not shift it at all. What you share about just feeling it is not only helpful it is empowering and goes a long way towards clearing it.

116. Why do people feel they have to present such a perfect side? I love it when I ask someone how they are and I get a real answer. There is quite a difference between someone being honest about how they are feeling and what is going on for them and someone who goes into drama. The first step is honesty with ourselves and then allowing others in.

117. I have noticed of late that is not just the “bad” feelings I block out, it is the “good” ones too. I busy myself to not feel anxiety equally as I do to not feel love. The intensity of feeling things is something I have avoided and I feel as though I hover instead of really being in what is there for me to feel. And I love what you shared about once feeling the anxiousness, it lost it’s hold. Perhaps there is nothing to fear when we really go there and feel all there is.

118. Yes Brendan – these words are very powerful and true. It doesn’t make sense to control our feelings. Acceptance is the key to heal everything what is in our body.

119. I can relate to your sharing about anxiousness very well. I was very anxious in the past and I had a lot of panic attacks as well. How you have dealt with anxiousness is very inspiring to me – as you are saying, there are no good or bad feelings, and we can’t control the feelings. Important is, that we feel everything what is there. I like your revelation – when you don’t want to feel the “bad” feelings, you can’t feel your essence as well.

120. Yes Mary, we can distract ourselves just as Carmin did with thoughts of ‘I’m doing alright’ but not far beneath the surface is the uneasiness that will sometimes erupt out from what seems like nowhere, and take you and others by surprise. Of course it has not come from nowhere, its always been there, buried, and it always does come out. Admitting we are struggling, and being very honest about how we are feeling is a great way to start to get the support we need to heal the issues we keep burying.

121. This blog is huge Carmin, by putting certain values onto certain emotions it can stunt our acceptance of the everything that we do feel. I can certainly say that I have classed the hardening in my arms and knees as something that is ‘bad’. If we do this and we feel these things then how willing are we to be honest and speak about what we feel if they come laced with this perception of being ‘bad’?

122. Carmin your blog has reminded me that I too can block out feelings that I have deemed uncomfortable, unacceptable and not fitting in with my ideal of how things should be. You express the consequences very eloquently… ‘By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing. Whether we like it or not, we do feel everything all of the time and can’t ‘pick and choose’ what we are prepared or not prepared to feel. Thank you for this reminder to open myself to all that is there, without judgement.

123. I love the analogy of the colours you used, so to true we often don’t want to feel the mess created only the good(s) and it can be the other way around too, just doesn’t happen the way we think it does, we get it all, all of the world 24/7 and why wouldn’t we when we are in it!

124. Your blog has helped remind me how much we can still let anxiousness rule underneath even though we think we are doing ok, however it is slowly destructing and undermining underneath.. Trying to defeat it by thinking is worse than useless as it only feeds the energy that is keeping us away from ourselves. Taking the first step connect with ourselves first and to move in that quality of tenderness and awareness, debases the harming energy that so that it ceases to have any power to control us.

125. Beautiful Carmin, it is deeply inspiring to read how you no longer let the anxious rule you, but rather choose to deepen to the connection to yourself and from there can learn to observe and become more aware rather than react. This to me is the beginning of true freedom.

     1. Absolutely Annie – these are the steps to true freedom, mighty is the moment when stillness reigns.

126. It’s taken me a while to realise how much lack of acceptance sabotages our life. Learning to just observe instead helps to allow understanding and thus arrest our reaction that then wants to control. Our reaction also feeds the dynamic, fuelling what is not true and increasing the fog so that we can not see the situation with clarity nor insight.

127. Carmin it is true we do need to acknowledge our anxiousness and to make it OK, seeing it as a need to go deeper and connect back to ourselves through the Gentle Breath Meditation or similar connecting tool. Remembering that we are all one, and not judging each other and ourselves. Thank you Carmin.

128. Thank you for sharing, I can feel that there are so many things that I deem to be bad feelings, like the anxiousness I sometimes feel. I know I can feel everything while I so often still choose to not truly feel what is going on and be able to observe and accept. This again inspired me to feel what is going on in every moment.

129. “The lesson for me is acceptance. Acceptance of who I am, acceptance of occurrences in my life, letting go of trying to control what can’t be controlled.” This is pure gold Carmin.

     1. I agree Samantha, acceptance is huge and it would have to be an area I need to work on

     2. That is indeed gold. When I accept who I am I am not afraid of what is there to be felt.

        1. Yes, same for me Nikki. The more I accept and appreciate who I am the less fear is able to creep back into my life.

130. ‘The lesson for me is acceptance. Acceptance of who I am, acceptance of occurrences in my life, letting go of trying to control what can’t be controlled.
     I may have lived during wars, but the real fight was within me. By preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, the bad and the ugly) I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am.’ Thank you Carmin for sharing your experience and these words of wisdom.

     1. Thanks for highlighting this Jenny. Acceptance of life is a big issue for many people myself included. We hold so many ideals of how things ‘ought to be’ we miss how we can be unscathed by life simply by being in our essence rather than our hurts and fears.

131. “By preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, the bad and the ugly) I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am” It is a steep price to pay to stay in the comfortably numb, when right here on offer is Divinity itself just waiting for us to reconnect.

     1. Yes Annie I agree, when you think of it in this way it seems very silly and a ‘very steep price to pay’!

132. Thanks for sharing Carmin, I am learning too that it is acceptance of ourselves first and who we are is what brings the foundation and a steadiness in our lives – and we can then allow ourselves to feel what is going on around us without being so affected. Trying to control or shut down that feeling and the anxiousness starts to win – but truly being open to observing and feeling everything from our own foundation of love within dissolves stops the anxiousness and allows true healing to arise.

     1. Yes Annie, I have found that as I surrender to accepting all that I can feel -‘good or bad’-, my body lets go, control and protection melts away and I am left with the ‘what is’, rather than the what is not..

133. Just allowing the feeling of anxiety to be, observing rather than trying to hide … very useful sharing Carmin. The more I try and run from my ‘undesired’ feelings the more they consume me but if I allow myself to stop and feel, I can look at the situation more candidly and compassionately, and gradually it changes. Well done Carmin, anxiety from some of the deepest hurts can take hold very quickly and it takes loving commitment to build a foundation that makes space for the changes to happen. Accepting ourself during this process is paramount.

134. What occurred to me when reading through your words is that anxiety as any other emotional state of being is in fact an auto immune disease. We fight ourselves.

     1. Esther that is an interesting insight, and makes a lot of sense.

     2. Simply put Esther, but yes that is what I know I have done for years. Fight myself. No wonder we get so exhausted, and now that I have stopped, I have so much more energy.

135. Wonderful Carmin I love what you shared about anxiousness – this is very much needed as you so beautiful describe in your amazing blog. I love following sentences: “By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing.” That is so true and with that insight we have the constant choice to choose what kind of live we want to life.

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137. This is such a great statement Carmin…”By preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, the bad and the ugly) I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am.” … This is really showing how self acceptance and self love are key to letting go of anxiousness

138. Good point Mary, many live by the ‘life is all good’ thing but underneath they know its not. They are struggling with stress and anxiety and just don’t know what to do about it. For many its so constant that its now just their normal and they don’t know any different. So they might even believe that all os good without being aware that they don’t have to live with the levels of anxiousness they experience.

139. “The anxiousness didn’t disappear, but definitely released its hold”… This line struck me and reminded me that true healing is not about burying our issues or finding a way to distract or avoid them, but rather about allowing ourselves the space and grace to feel them, and thus release the energy or hold they often have over us.

     1. Yes that is what I am finding too, not burying my issues simply means to be willing to feel them and feel beyond them, because when I allow my self to feel them I also allow myself to feel everything else as Carmin so beautifully describes.

     2. Brilliant comment Angela, it is amazing how simple healing can be, it is to allow ourselves the space to feel and to truly surrender.

140. I have read this blog before and wondered why I found myself reading it again – this was the reason for my re-visit – ‘just feel it and don’t fight it’.
     This motto applies to everything, when we allow ourselves to feel however we may be feeling or whatever we are feeling from the outside world than there is really nothing to harden or protect ourselves from.

     1. Yes Rachel, and tied in with what you say is the way we judge certain feelings as either good or bad. I know I don’t want to experience the feelings I judge as ‘bad’ so I’ll quickly suppress them, laugh, pretend I didn’t feel it, or get angry with the situation or person that has triggered the feeling in me. Recently since cutting out certain foods, I have been open to staying with the first feeling and just acknowledge what it is. Its not always pleasant to sit with these feeling as its normally a hurt, but what has happened is I have felt steady enough not to be harsh on myself and just accept and not fight it. This is ongoing and each time I allow myself to feel, it also deepens the acceptance I have of myself. It has been a very healing process.

     2. Yes Rachael, that is a very wise “motto” to apply to everything we are faced with. If we instantly go into protection mode and begin to shut down, not only are we losing an opportunity to feel what is truly going on, but also an opportunity to learn: i.e. what’s behind what I feel and what can I do next?

141. “I could feel my essence and that the anxiousness wasn’t me.” Not very long ago, the night for me was a major source of anxiousness. I used to fear the night because I knew I could not sleep. It reflected a level of unrest within my body I could not cope with. This, which during the day, I could simply ignore, at night was there full blown for me to feel it. The key for me was to realise that night and day were connected and to start changing my way of going through the day so the unrest was not part of me anymore. Slowly, slowly, I lost fear towards the night. Now, there is not a single night I even contemplate the possibility of not sleeping.

142. “By preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, the bad and the ugly) I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am.” This is beautifully expressed Carmin and shows that disconnection from self creates anxiety and unnecessary strain on the body and when we connect to our body there is no room for anxiety to take hold as the flow of life is restored.

143. The berating often happens I find in frustration to the fact that I have allowed this in to my life in the first place – this is crazy for I judge an action I have no real recollection of – it ultimately is a culmination and collection of things that lead to this state. Berating and whipping myself for the anxiety is then so harming for it cents the activity and does not allow the breaking down and acceptance of what is happening – allowing space to make a different choice.

144. Anxiety is a debilitating feeling and I can relate to what you have written Carmin. I have found since removing alcohol, cigarettes, sugar and anything else that may stimulate my nervous system my level of anxiety has reduced considerably

     1. Joe I really appreciate how your comment has inspired me to consider what in my life can I remove that helps alleviate unnecessary anxiety? So not being prepared for events within a space that allows such preparation to be possible, trying to be perfect and do things by myself rather than ask for support. not allowing myself the space to complete the things that need doing, procrastinating and not budgeting.

        Sometimes doing all of this and not getting caught up in the distraction of being late for example, I’ll feel the anxiety beneath. It’s then that being honest with myself and feeling I am anxious that I can then choose to connect with my stillness beneath and choose this rather than the anxiousness. But until I stop all the distracting behaviours I haven’t a chance.

        1. Karin this is a great reflection, and helped also to look at what choices I make that continue to create situations for anxiousness to arise, and I realise the patterns run much deeper than I would have cared to admit. and that there are deliberate choices I am making to perpetuate this,and to distract so to not have to feel those choices I make. Stopping and connecting is the only way to see the sabotage we run and seeing and becoming aware of it is the only way we will then be able to choose differently

145. Well worth looking at the Men in Anxiety course by College of Universal Medicine which spends some considerable time looking at this very subject – http://study.coum.org/enrol/index.php?id=14

     1. Great suggestion, I have watched this online course at CoUM and it has supported me greatly to alleviate the effects of anxiety.

146. Thank you Carmin for sharing your experiences and wisdom. Reading your blog is very timely for me as I have been aware of a level of anxiety sitting uncomfortably inside me of late. Thank you also for the inspiration to take responsibility and lovingly look behind its cause.

147. “The lesson for me is acceptance. Acceptance of who I am, acceptance of occurrences in my life, letting go of trying to control what can’t be controlled.” Very wise words, these stood out for me as they are what I look to live myself. Especially the learning to let go of trying to control what can’t be controlled. This is something that has been a hard one to learn, getting many knocks along the way. But accepting who I am and what has occurred in my life, accepting all of those things and accepting me even more, is an ongoing unfolding.

148. Thank you for writing a beautiful blog, Carmin, ~ it relates to every single human being, ~ the fact of what we allow ourselves to feel, – or not feel. I love the analogy with the colors, we cannot choose to NOT see certain colors, unless we close our eyes, and that’s what we do, we close our feelings. Your blog is a timely reminder to open up, allow, feel and keep life simple.

149. I too am some-one who was anxious most of my life until choosing to be in my body and feel every thing that I am feeling. When I am fully present there is not an ounce of anxiousness as I know I am equipped to do whatever is being presented.

150. Thank you Carmin for not holding back by sharing exactly you feel. It certainly gives me more understanding. I find your blog very inspirational.

151. When we have built a solid foundation that is based on love even when we wobble it is divine grace to know and remember who we really are – that the wobble is temporary and with acceptance we can soon return to feel the love and joy that we are.

152. I’ve had experiences like these as well Carmin (not in a war zone but the extreme anxiety) and as a young child would do similar things to avoid the anxiety and for me it was to constantly read to stop the chatter in my head and avoid the feelings. I thought that if I allowed the feelings to rise I would be overpowered by them because they felt so painful. It’s only been through listening to presentations by Serge Benhayon and having treatments with esoteric practitioners that I’ve finally allowed the feelings to rise and to feel them subsequently dissipate and at times leave me wondering what the big deal was. So much better to allow the feelings to come up and out of the body than to bury them potentially causing illness and disease down the track.

153. ‘letting go of trying to control what can’t be controlled’ – this jumped out at me, of course there is no point in trying to control what can’t be controlled, but i am so often caught in this exact game, and the frustration and tension that plays out is so strong, I can feel my forehead furrow at the thought of it. Acceptance and allowing -just those words melt away the tension and all of what that controlling brings to my body.

154. Accepting what is and not judging something as good or bad has been a big one for me too Carmin. I too have found that the more I allow what it is I am feeling to just be and not try to change it or make it go away the less anxiousness I experience in my body.

     1. I agree Penelope, the more we allow ourselves to nominate and feel what we are experiencing the less need we have to rely on behaviours to manage the situation.

     2. I agree Penelope, good/ bad, wrong/ right are killer ideals and beliefs many of us hold on to. We are the ‘forever student’ as we are a student of life for as long as we exist given there is always something more to learn, deepen into and/or develop how can these concepts be of any truth?

        1. Well said marylouisemyers. These ideals and beliefs are the chains that imprison us for eternity if we are not willing to be humble and open to the fact that as a ‘forever student’ there is ‘forever learning’.

155. Allowing ourselves to surrender and feel all that there is to be felt, enables a deeper connection and increased awareness of the source of the anxiousness.

     1. The line that stood out for me today is “letting go of trying to control what can’t be controlled”. The simplicity of letting go of that control seems a million miles away at the time of anxiousness in its full blown state when happening as the mind tries to hang onto that ‘control’ no matter what. Just having that stop moment and allow (which is so simple as the mind loves complexity) yourself to really feel and as shared by Peter to ‘surrender’ and truly feel all that there is to be felt’ takes away the rising panic of the situation at hand. Awesome sharing Carmin thank you.

156. It is so true when we shut down whatever it is we feel is ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’ that we stop feeling and seeing how amazing we are – what a crazy position we put ourselves in! And no wonder so much tension builds within our bodies and a battle self created…and this all takes an enormous amount of energy to maintain – could this be why so many are exhausted?

157. I simply love this blog Carmin, we do feel everything all the time and whether we clock what we feel or hold onto it, react to it or as you say classify into good or bad, they are all just feelings to be felt and not own but accept and allow as just something I have become aware of and it does not own me, but in truth allows me to open up to all I am.

158. It is amazing that simply allowing ourselves to feel what we are feeling actually allows these feelings to leave our bodies. I remember being stuck in a (still rapidly moving) lift for half an hour a few years ago. I could feel that I had a choice to panic and increase my anxiousness or to feel the situation and accept it. I did both at different times but I was able to see that refusing to accept the situation increased my anxiousness significantly.

159. We are so conditioned to only allow or feel the “good” feelings and that the ‘bad” feelings should not be there- we have to get rid of them. By accepting what the body is offering and not labelling it good or bad we can go a lot deeper into our inner connection and find the source of the feeling and then make a choice about whether it feels true or not. As you have said Carmin, sometimes “the real fight” is within us.

     1. I love what you have written here Anne. The moment we label something as ‘bad’ we have started that fight. The counter to this feels like it is in the appreciation that we are actually feeling – that we have stayed open to the awareness that comes with registering what we are feeling.

160. Well said Gill. We do indeed need to let go of trying to control things out of our reach – it can and does drive a lot of people to anxiousness and frustration. I would say the biggest thing that catches so many people out is trying to control other’s choices. I know for me I have put a lot of effort into trying to persuade friends or family to make certain choices and live a certain way… It never works! Yet so many people (including myself) continue on in our quests!

     1. I can very much relate to what you say here Susie, trying to control other people’s choices never works and in my experience can cause an unnecessary rift between each other.

161. This line stands out for me…”It is like saying there are some colours that I don’t like so I refuse to see them”. The effort that goes into NOT seeing or feeling what is there to be felt is truly astonishing.

     1. Great point Joel. Considering we feel and see everything the effort and energy we use to avoid that is more than I can even imagine.

        1. So true Vicky, I still can see pocket of the way I live life, that I put tremendous energy into ensuring I don’t become too aware of what is really going on…such a drain.

     2. So true Leonne in any given situation that is scary or challenging we have a choice to accept what is happening, remain connected with our bodies and surrender to the situation or freakout, get anxious and panic. It is always a choice.

     3. It is not only the effort that goes into not seeing and feeling what there is to be felt but also the amount of energy we use to suppress what we feel and see needs to be taken into account. Given this no wonder exhaustion is a plague that humanity is suffering

162. Wow Carmel this is huge. It is amazing to recognize the ‘fight is with us’ and not something we have fallen prey to, in that realization the acceptance of what is there to be felt allows anything and all to be felt, and with that awareness surrendered to.

163. “I may have lived during wars, but the real fight was within me. By preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, the bad and the ugly) I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am.” Recently I received some deeply shocking news – at first I didn’t want to feel anything as I was so taken aback. My body seemed to need a while to assimilate it. Several days later in a conversation with someone at work I found myself sharing my feelings about this event and I was able to release the emotional reaction that I had held in my body. Now I am free again and can accept the situation fully.

164. Carmin one line that I feel applies to everyone that would read your blog is “I may have lived during wars, but the real fight was within me.” its sad to feel this on a large scale but I know that was true for me and I am sure for many other people. Even if war for me was not close but all around how I was inside me was killing me far more than anything outside. The level of acceptance and appreciation you share is the true medicine we can all take – at no cost.

165. Even though what is shared is regarding anxiousness and allowing ourselves to feel this without the need to control and distract away from what is felt, this is the case for any feelings or emotions I have that I would prefer not to feel. “The lesson for me is acceptance. Acceptance of who I am, acceptance of occurrences in my life, letting go of trying to control what can’t be controlled.” – Thank you Carmin.

166. Thank you for sharing your story Carmin Wow, you really take responsibility for living truth. I love this line you wrote.
     “I may have lived during wars, but the real fight was within me. By preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, the bad and the ugly) I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am.”
     “The lesson for me is acceptance. Acceptance of who I am, acceptance of occurrences in my life, letting go of trying to control what can’t be controlled”. Beautifully presented.

167. Reading your article again made it clear to me that your recipe of just feeling what there is to feel without hardening and protecting against it applies to many other areas of life and all feelings; from what you write it serves us not to label some as good and others as bad because they are just two sides of the same coin and we can’t keep pushing what we don’t like under the carpet, which is a dead end and doesn’t resolve anything.

168. This sharing is so amazing and a very powerful read. For those who go through such ‘challengers’ with anxiousness/panic attacks, at the time it feels that there is no end to those debilitating bouts. All the effort I put in to try and bury/hide or to control them certainly did not help the situation. Like yourself Carmin I shall be forever grateful and appreciative of the teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. Now joy is a constant visitor and the anxious moments are getting much less, but, if they do surface I acknowledge that and work with what is presented – with no hiding.

169. Thank you Carmin for such a great sharing that I can really relate to about Anxiousness also knowing ” the real fight was within me. By preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, the bad and the ugly) I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am.” So true and such an important pattern to reimprint lovingly for everyone.

170. Yes Diana, this is a huge offering, which I am only just discovering to be true as it plays out in the day. Being open to feeling not only allows us to feel more of what is happening around us, but also in that moment we can feel what we let run us, and what is underneath that is truly us. Holding that space then allows awareness, greater clarity and the deepening of wisdom.

171. Thank you Carmin for a fantastic blog about anxiousness and sharing what you have found works. What you discovered about avoiding and not accepting the anxiousness also blocking out how amazing you feel is quite a revelation – it also feels like a loving and supportive approach when anxiousness has got a grip and won’t be abated easily. Anxiousness is something I have employed often as a way to dominate me so I can avoid feeling something I don’t want to feel so I have also found it helpful to ask myself what it is in that moment I am not wanting to feel or deal with.

172. It is interesting how we do this to ourselves “I decided that feeling anxious is ‘bad’ and unnecessary, so would try everything to not feel it.” I had a similar experience concerning feelings of being ‘persecuted’ or ‘attacked’. As soon as I got these feelings and thought that I may possibility be attacked, I would do all I could to hide. Rather than staying with the feelings and seeing where they would lead, I was fearful of the feelings. I would do what I could to avoid them which meant that I was not expressing myself. With the support of Esoteric Practitioner’s I began to explore what these feelings might be, and at one point it was suggested that I feel what this feeling was completely, just sit with it and see what happens. So often we have a fearful thought or feeling and we attempt to bury it in the fear that we will not be enough and we will not be able to handle it. This is not the case however, our inner light, our essence, I feel it much greater than any issue that may come up for us. This was the case with the feelings of ‘persecution’ when it came up for me, I sat with it, did not try to bury it and the force and impact of had dissipated, I was left with me still intact and feeling more powerful. This is one of my habitual thoughts, so I continue to work on it and if it comes up, I know now it is not me. The force it once had to impact on my life has lessened greatly. I am more free to express and I can feel less imprisoned by imagined fear.

173. Carmin its amazing to hear your experience of anxiousness from such an early age, how different life would look if we had been encouraged to explore our feelings and bodily reactions, rather than to train ourselves to override or distract ourselves from this state of disharmony. These are the coping mechanism that we take into adult life and manage as best we can – enter Serge Benhayon and the extraordinarily simple tools to return to the harmony that is naturally within us all

174. “The lesson for me is acceptance. Acceptance of who I am, acceptance of occurrences in my life, letting go of trying to control what can’t be controlled”.
     This is a very powerful lesson for me also Carmin; truly letting go and letting the rhythm and flow of life and love wash through me is such a challenge and work in progress.

175. Thank you Carmin for being willing to be so honest about your struggle with anxiousness – this is really important to open up as a community conversation. What’s even more stunning though is the way forward you offer – to feel and accept. If anxiousness is just about universal, this is the medicine.

176. Feeling everything seems to be the key,.Leaving bits out or suppressing or ignoring parts leaves us feeling incomplete. I recognise now that I get anxious when I haven’t completed a task in full or ignored what the natural radar in my body is telling me.

177. Why is it that so many of us suffer from so much anxiety? It seems that this big bad world can seem like too much for us as the sensitive souls that we are. I know that when I react to the world I can get extremely anxious, and that when I manage to stay connected to me and simply observe what is going on my anxiety levels are much less. There is still a part of me that is completely startled to be here in this world in the first place! This contributes to my anxiety levels if I let it.

178. “By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing.” This uncovers the fact that we are living in protection, willing to experience the “good” things afraid to see, hear or feel others. We are judging which is on what side. And as you say: as long as we make differences between them, we are shutting down.

179. Anxiousness has been my addiction of choice for most of my life and I could so relate to a lot of what you shared Carmin. Judging what you are feeling really stops you from just being with what you are feeling and accepting it as what is. I have found like you, that when I surrender to what is there to feel and don’t judge it, there is so much power in that one choice to just be.

180. There are many things during a day that would normally make me feel anxiousness and like you Carmin I have learnt ” to not fight it ” and surrender to whatever there is to be felt. The more I allow myself to surrender the more steady I feel within myself and the more understanding I can bring to life.

181. It is super important that we let things ‘surface’ for it allows you to deal with it. The energy that it takes to keep it hidden is enormous, like trying to hold a ball under water, it takes a lot of effort to stop it from surfacing.

     1. What a great analogy Matthew. So true, as trying to resist or ignore anxiousness with distraction, does require enormous energy, whereas, if we accept and embrace the feelings it is bringing up, as Carmen experienced, it does release its hold and diminish.

     2. Beautifully expressed Matthew – how much of our lives would change if we surrendered and did not feel so in need to control everything.

     3. I love your comment Mathew, keeping things hidden requires an enormous amount of energy and fills us with increased tension. When we allow them to ‘surface’ like little bubbles they arise and disperse very naturally and we are left with more space to simply be ourselves.

     4. So true Matthew!

182. Carmin this sentence really resonated with me “Acceptance of who I am, acceptance of occurrences in my life, letting go of trying to control what can’t be controlled.” In revisiting this blog, its beautiful to just let go and feel the surrender of not having to control everything! What a relief!

183. Hi Carmin, thank you for sharing this. What I could feel throughout your blog was a sense of simply allowing things to be and how powerful that really is. It isn’t always easy to feel certain emotions that arise in our bodies that is for sure, but I am learning that if we let ourselves feel them (reminding ourselves that we are not these emotions) they can pass always with something to show us about ourselves. It has taken me a while to experience things in this way but the more I feel it, the more settled I feel in myself.

     1. Anna what a lovely comment. I can feel the tension ease as I read it; especially ‘ simply allowing things to be and how powerful that really is.’ So true and something I will practice more and more already knowing that, as I do, I am giving myself the opportunity to feel my essence so live in the world with a greater allowing and acceptance of myself and all that presents itself.

     2. Yes, allowing things to be and feeling what is there to be felt with a knowing that it is not us, it is simply a feeling we are feeling at this point in time. Acceptance of ourselves and what is happening rather than control feels more loving.

184. This is so helpful Carmin, a timely reminder to allow myself to feel fully whatever feeling is there to be felt, and feel it through the whole body. Trying to escape uncomfortable feelings is not the answer to resolving them, but as you say, accepting them all, and then they can be looked at, felt and so start to lose their power. It reminds me of Rumi’s poem “The Guest House” when he speaks of greeting every guest at the door each day and inviting them all in to sweep the house clean. Then we need no longer be scared of the anxiousness, or even “think” it is bad.

185. An old prayer; ‘God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference’ feels fitting.

186. Words of wisdom Carmin… “letting go of trying to control what can’t be controlled.” There is great power in presence as you beautifully describe, where we can allow ourselves to feel it all while remaining steady in our essence… we need not be consumed by anything outside of us.

     1. Hi Victoria, I agree with you here ‘there is great power in presence’. Presence is the steady rock from which we can feel life from, all of it. The love, as well as all that is not love.

187. I love your analogy of shutting your eyes to not see certain colours however it stops you from seeing anything at all – it is true that when we don’t want to feel what is truly going on for us we shut down our awareness but as you say this means that we don’t connect to and feel our amazingness also.

     1. I agree Sarah, we cannot feel one thing and not the other things. It’s being all in or all out! It sounds pretty scary at first – the concept of feeling EVERYTHING, but I can say from experience that there is a lot more beauty, grace, love, joy and stillness to feel than the other stuff which just sits in the minority above our incredible amazingness.

        1. Well said Donna – ‘It’s being all in or all out!’

     2. That is a very huge revelation – either we feel everything, our essence and what we are not or we reject our feelings including what is actually part of my true me. There is no in between.

188. Since reading this blog for the first time a few days ago, the thoughts of this article keep coming back to me, especially if I have a moment where I feel a little ‘off’. I’ve realized if I stop and allow myself to feel there is generally a reason why I feel a little off or out, and it’s the coming back to allowing myself to feel that prevents it turning into a tension or anxiousness. So I see that tension and anxiety only ever come if I don’t honour what I’m feeling, meaning just acknowledging what is there. The power of acknowledgement and honoring is amazing.

     1. Yes, I find it is important to make space to feel everything, and to feel what’s ‘the trigger’ of my feeling a little ‘off’ or out. To then acknowledge what I’m feeling can stop it escalating, and yes, ‘The power of acknowledgement and honoring is amazing.’

        1. Yes it’s crazy lorrainewellman that we run from something as simple as acknowledgement. It’s obvious that it’s because of any pride of the spirit that may be held, of not wanting to admit that we’ve been off or out of line instead of living who we truly are.

     2. That’s very true Danielle “The power of acknowledgement and honoring is amazing.” it is absolutely amazing and the thing I have to remind my self of is appreciation as I tend to keep looking for the next thing I need to work on when really appreciation for how far I have come is what’s needed.

        1. Beautiful Margaret this feels true and a reminder that if we are not truly accepting and appreciating that we are in truth loving, still and harmonious beings then we will not be able to feel when we are not living this, and instead will oscillate in and out of tension and relief.

     3. I agree Danielle Pirera, that to acknowledge what we are feeling and to express this is very powerful and removes the hold some of these feelings and emotions may have on us. Particularly if they are something that is holding us back in the case of emotions. On the other hand, ignoring them, or indulging them is very harmful for us.

189. Thank you for reminding us Carmin that anxiousness is not something we have to control or shut down, but to feel and actually deal with the causes; thus moving us to a deeper awareness that anxiousness is not who we truly are.

190. There is a lot going on that allows anxiousness to be the end result. It is the interdependence of a lack of trust which drives a need to control. In truth we have no control over anything but ourselves and even that is negligible when taking into account how our way of life is governed by energy. The lack of control creates frustration, resentment and bitterness. Ultimately, it is all a heady ride on the rollercoaster of anxiousness. This is what I have observed in myself.

191. Carmin, thank you for writing this blog; just what I needed to read this morning, having some anxiety coming up and I see now how I have judged myself for it, which did not help at all. Reading your blog I realise and remember that it’s ok, I can accept that and know it’s not who I am. Re-connecting to who I truly am.

     1. Thanks Esther for sharing what is being felt by so many each and every day. Anxiousness has become the norm and all we are fighting as Carmin had so beautifully written, is the war within ourselves that craves simplicity and harmony.

192. This is very uplifting to read, Carmel! Thank you for sharing this truth.

     1. You don’t realise what people go through – it made me think about me, my friends, our community and all the challenges that come up for people to deal with on a daily basis. It’s thanks to organisations like Universal Medicine and the inspiration of Serge Benhayon’s work that we don’t have to live in the misery and fear. That through our choices and dealing with our hurts, we can truly heal. Thank you Carmin – I agree with Christina – very uplifting.

        1. Yes Donna, through reading these blogs and comments, we gain an insight into how people have been/are truly living their lives. What’s been going on for people underneath the veneer that ‘life is all good’. Its quite astonishing the amount of anxiousness, sadness, anger, frustration, lack of self-worth etc…that people cover up. It is also incredibly inspirational how many people as inspired by Serge Benhayon that have chosen to no longer live this way and lovingly make changes for themselves.

        2. That’s a great comment Donna. It is helpful to remember we never know what any given person has gone through in their lives – good to recall before we make a snap judgement about them.

        3. So true Donna, you don’t realise what people go through, behind the mask that ‘Im ok’, can often be a lot more ‘ I’m not ok’ that these blogs have helped to raise my awareness and understanding of, and also so fantastic that with the help of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine many have gone on to heal these restrictions.

        4. This is great to take on board and sit with Donna Harris – we have no clue as to what the road has been like for the person we are speaking with. We don’t know the intricacies and many obstacles they have come up against – this allows for a greater sense of understanding of all. Not out of pity but this can settle the playing field and we can all set to work on how we can truly support each other.

193. How would the world look like if people would realize that the energy of anxiousness that is driving them is not themselves but a force that keeps them being in reaction.

194. Thank you Carmin for this insight, the sentence “by not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing.” deepened my understanding, that we cannot ignore what we do not like, because that blocks us from everything else as well.

195. I have been anxious for most of my life – anxious because I have thought that I am not good enough, might not be able to do certain things and/or meet the expectations of others, might do something wrong. In certain situations I have felt this anxiousness very strong as it did stand out, at other times it was just there, on an unconscious level, even though there seemed to be no reason for it. This anxiousness was with me most of the time which means that I was most of the time controlled by this energy.
     I have started to learn that this anxiousness is not me. When I now feel that the energy of anxiousness tries to take control over me, I am more and more able to stop this. I am learning to not go into reaction and do not let this energy do with me whatever it wants; instead I learn to observe it while staying with me. This makes such a huge difference and is very liberating as it allows me to respond in a true way.

196. I love that Brendan. It sounds so simple and yet if you really look at it – it is such a game changer for our lives. We struggle so much and we really don’t need too.

     1. Accepting that ‘to struggle’ is not the preordained ‘unofficial job’ of every man is something we all have to come to terms with.

197. A great deal of the time – we are masters at creating distractions of the mind, so we do not have to feel the truth of what is playing out.

     1. So true Lee – in the past I always tried to run away from my own hurts but obviously it didn’t work. And as you say, it doesn’t make sense to distract ourselves. We can only evolve, when we start to feel whatever is in my body and then decide what is part of my true me and what doesn’t belong to me.

        1. Exactly Alexander1207 and this is the responsibility that we all have – each and everyone of us.

198. Carmin what you offer here is very power-full. I could feel this strongly when you wrote how if we do not let ourselves feel all the ugliness around us and that we have allowed to enter us that we can not feel how amazing we are either. This supports in letting myself feel the ugliness in the world because as you offer without this I can not fully register the glory in the world, thank you.

199. Coming back to this blog again, I am actually realising that chosing anxiousness will forever give me the excuse of not being able to ‘stand up’ and represent the true me. As I will forever keep myself small and in that emotion, feeling insecure. So this makes me wonder what my starting point is of chosing, allowing anxiousness ‘rule’ my life. For a long long time I’ve really thought that this was me. I was (and can still be) very identified with it. I can feel I’ve used it as a protection. But how different and joyful is my life when allowing myself to acknowledge the anxiety and allowing myself to feel my stilness and steadiness again. I love this blog.

200. Carmin I loved reading your blog. I too have had feelings of anxiousness, for me I was always running my life before I lived it, I would have worked out several different scenarios in my head, what if this or that. When we live like that it’s exhausting, because every moment you are living the moment three or four times over.

201. Very true Brendan. Aptly put.

202. I’ve found that too Marika – that we can put a lot of energy into trying to control things that we can’t have any control over, and this can be a big drain and distraction. Whereas surrendering to accepting whatever happens that is out of our control and dealing with it as it comes about is much more harmonious and joyful.

203. ’I may have lived during wars, but the real fight was within me. By preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, the bad and the ugly) I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am.’ – Carmin, these words are very important and something I can truly relate to, even though I have never experienced war in my neighbourhood, I too felt the constant battle within and a neverending attempt to distract myself from feeling what was truly going on.

204. I too had lived with anxiousness since very young and let it control me for most of my life. If I was walking down the street and a person I knew was walking towards me I would cross the road to avoid them as the thought of having to talk to the person would send me into a panic attack.
     Since attending Universal Medicine presentations on this subject I have come to know that I have a choice to crescendo into full on anxiousness or to breath and bring myself back to my body. Each time I do this the anxiousness does not get a grip on me. The more I choose to be in my body the more equipped I am to deal with to any thing/situation that life presents me with therefore I no longer get anxious.

     1. I agree marylouisemyers, the more I choose to be in my body the more equipped I am to deal with any situation. It sounds so simple and when I make that choice it is confirmed … there is great power in being presence in our body.

205. This blog has been a great reminder that we believe sometimes that it is our feelings that are the problem when really it is our judgement and/or perception of our feelings that is the real problem. I know for me anxiousness has a lot to do with the pressure of trying to hold back a tide of feelings that are impossible to stop.

206. I agree Carmin that in many ways the ugliest, dirtiest war is the one within. Our spirits like to try every trick in the book but our soul will always win in the end.

207. I love the picture with deciding not to see certain colors and therefore shutting the whole body down. That is exactly what we do so often when we want to avoid certain feelings and we don`t even realize that we then also have a reduced ability to feel our amazingness, our divinity, our delicateness, preciousness and so many other wonderful things that are there to be felt…

208. I love your last phrase, as I have done and still do sometimes the same, and how you explain it simply that we cannot but see all colours, unless we close our eyes and not see anything. I have been fighting feeling everything for so long, I only wanted to feel the nice, the good, the divine, but we are here, and the world has both. I love your blog as it shows so much of the struggle of feeling and also the way to accept and feel our divinity.”By preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, the bad and the ugly) I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am.”

209. boy oh boy, the big issue of acceptance. How much are we willing to accept ourselves in the world. For me, not accepting myself has lead to major anxiety and it is only though the work of Serge Benhayon that I have been able to let it go and start to really heal and accept myself for all that I am.

     1. Accepting ourselves as much more than our heads will have us believe can be challenging at times and I can say I have had my fair share of self doubt and lack of self love. But thankfully I found my way to Serge and Universal Medicine several years ago and am learning to let go and start to really feel the real and natural powerhouse that I am and that we all naturally are.

210. Carmen, your blog really offers to people, a ‘way out’ out from the vicious cycle of anxiousness, especially in your words..”By preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, the bad and the ugly) I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am…” The key to stepping through the ‘way out’ door you have demonstrated, is to accept everything about yourself… “the good, the bad and the ugly”… and the most supportive way to begin self acceptance is with self care and self love. Self Care and self love are totally fundamental keys to acceptance. Thanks for sharing your story

211. I find I can get anxious after talking with family members who are going through a trauma in their lives. I can feel this comes from my impulse to ‘want to make things better from them’, from my discomfort when there isn’t harmony. I find it hard to feel the hurt in others without taking any of it on. When I feel the anxiousness, I keep reminding myself that it’s not me, it’s nothing to do with me, it’s for the other person to work through and I can be there to support and hold them in love, but it’s their journey and for them to work through.

     1. I know exactly what you mean Alison Pearson. I have always fallen into the trap of putting others before myself which meant I wanted to make things better for them, and it meant I took on their stuff, took on their anxiousness, not good! That all turned around when I began to put myself first in my life, focused on my own needs, took care of myself, and then the focus was no longer on ‘saving others’. But actually I got to feel how very imposing this is, as if they do not have the power and answers within themselves to sort out their own lives….. yes, I finally learned this after a long time….we all have the power to choose a new way.

        1. Absolutely, Jacqmfadden04 …. and the key, which is quite an occurring theme here is self acceptance and self love and also the understanding that nothing is learnt unless the choice is felt from the person making it first.

     2. I understand this Alison and I often have felt a similar way. The question is why are we taking on other people’s emotions and traumas? It must be that there is a gap or space somewhere in us that we are not filling up from the inside out for ourselves and therefore that place allows these outside things to flood in out of control – that would make anyone anxious. It makes it clear why appreciation of ourselves is so important in stemming this flood.

     3. Beautiful insight, thank you Alison, to let others be and just hold them in love. This is for me such a big learning as the fixer in me is around the corner, waiting to give advice or wanting to do something. But I can feel more and more the absolute power in just being me, in my stillness and being the love that I am. It is far more empowering and offers a great deal of understanding.

212. In the letting go of what can’t be controlled, it’s an opportunity to go deeper and explore what our need is, lying underneath the control. What picture have we created, that we are hanging on to, needing things to be a certain way, what is the hurt that’s created the need.

213. My feeling is that everyone lives with some level of anxiety, exactly for what this blog describes- because we don’t allow ourselves to be aware of everything we are feeling. I’m only just realizing this and also seeing that the anxiousness is actually not that bad, and what’s worse is the tension of trying to not feel the anxiousness, and then the ongoing need for distractions to try not to feel the tension.

     1. This is so true Danielle. I can really relate to the overwhelming need for something to relieve the tension. All that is needed is to stop, nominate what is being felt and observe it rather than running from it.

        1. Absolutely Annie, it’s amazing the things we will go into to run from the tension of anxiety, choices that are way more uncomfortable and self abusive then what we are tense about – crazy. Bring it on I can now say, nominate and let it melt away.

214. “By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing. Whether we like it or not, we do feel everything all of the time and can’t ‘pick and choose’ what we are prepared or not prepared to feel.” Awesome realisation Carmin and one I can very much understand. As you say we can’t switch feeling on and off at whim so if we have numbed ourselves from feeling the challenging stuff we can’t just expect to feel the amazing stuff when it happens. Hard is hard and it’s only by becoming tender and being open to feeling everything that we get to feel the beautiful things that confirm us in our amazingness.

215. Carmin, you show so clearly that we may wish to only feel what is pleasant, but this will not work out. Only if we are prepared and willing to observe and feel all that is there we will be able to truly feel how amazing we are and that all that used to scare us in fact does not have any real power if we do not grant them.

216. Like many Carmin I can relate to so much of what you have shared.- remembering well after attending my first Universal Medicine presentation with Serge Benhayon that the ‘feeling racy and anxious’ was with me. As the presentation progressed my whole body as if breathing for the first time ‘let go’ of so much holding and tension. Yes I too always left feeling ‘connected to the solidness of my real self’ and so inspired. Feeling this for the first time really allowed me to re-connect to something very special which I felt had been buried for so many years.

217. If any ounce of anxiousness exists, then I’m responsible for addressing it. If I leave it, ignore it or bury it, it will always be a drain and an anchor that holds me back and therefore holds humanity back as well.

218. Acceptance of who we are is definitely a key to resolving anxiousness because there is always a tension between who we ‘think’ we ‘should’ be and who we truly are, and who we are is amazing, but we often don’t choose to feel that for ourselves although we can see it in others.

     1. Very beautifully expressed, Carmel. Self acceptance and self love.

219. Anxiousness leaves us living in a heightened state of nervousness. Fight or flight kicks in and we leave our body. As Serge Benhayon presents; a steady, deepening and consistent connection with myself and awareness of my body has been the most amazing medicine for this.

220. Carnin, reading your blog again today has been very confirming. I had a tangible experience today of feeling the anxiousness arise strongly in my tummy about a situation and then let myself just feel it, not indulge in it and in that acceptance I could so so feel me ever so steady and clear in spite of the anxiousness doing its thing. I got to really feel and see that the anxiousness is not me and in observing it and not freaking out it loses its hold and our power and steadiness is what we embody instead.

     1. Katerina, your words ‘not indulge’ have been important and key even to not let anxiousness run amok and riddle my body. Your description here is lovely – the way you allowed the feeling to arise and be accepted, leaving space for the real you to be felt and known.

     2. I have been working with this as well Katerina, really allowing myself to feel the fact that this energy is just that something that directs a certain behaviour that has a consequence. If I kept simple the anxiety releases it’s own hold and loses and withers away – powerless to the grandness I am.

221. Carnin, reading your blog again today has been very confirming. I had a tangible experience today of feeling the anxiousness arise strongly in my tummy about a situation and then let myself just feel it, not indulge in it and in that acceptance I could so so feel me ever so steady and clear in spite of the anxiousness doing its thing. I got to really feel and see that the anxiousness is not me and in observing it and not freaking out it loses its hold and our power and steadiness is what we embody instead.

222. There is something else too, and I may be going a bit off-piste here, but this closure of our eyes, this restriction of our vision reminds me of so many things; an athlete getting ‘in the zone’, a ‘method’ actor, the ABC (always be closing) mantra of a salesman, the tight-knit family, the soldier, I could go on and on…we are constantly and everywhere choosing to narrow our vision, to close-off the full picture. The problem is, as the examples show, that this is trumpeted as a good thing, this is encouraged. Now you might argue that an athlete ‘getting in the zone’ has nothing to do with anxiousness having a hold on us – but is it possible that this conditioning is omnipresent? For example, if the athlete allowed themselves to feel the whole of their body, allowed their lungs and muscles to communicate with them, allowed themselves to really feel what this race was doing to them, or even allowed themselves to feel the root cause of their insatiable need for recognition, would they continue with their endeavours? It seems to me that Carmin’s blog is offering the same reflection with anxiousness.

     1. You raise a very interesting point here, Ottobathurst. In the examples you give, it feels like a complete disconnection from the body and it’s all about using the mind to control the body to do what it needs it to do in that particular instant. As you say, the mind doesn’t actually want to know how the body feels, as this would impede it’s quest for success. Conversely, with anxiousness, to allow ourselves to feel the whole body, to surrender to the body and bring awareness to every cell in the knowingness that we are not the anxiety, allows the space to go deeper and explore what it is that is feeding the anxiety in the first place. What need is there, what aspect of our lives are we trying to control?

        1. It’s interesting what you say “using the mind to control the body”. I get it – absolutely. But recently I have been playing with stuff and realised that a lot of the time I am focusing on the ‘what is not’ and trying to correct that. Instead of giving my all to the ‘what is’ and expanding from there. I say this because in what you have said, i can recognise a pattern of mine which is to try to deal with the mind, quiet the mind, meditate the mind, ponder my way out things, think stuff through etc..etc…you know what I mean. BUT – I’m now finding another way; don’t even go that route! don’t even engage with trying to correct the mind. Focus on the body, appreciate, invest in, engage with, nurture and love the body and then the mind doesn’t even get a look in, so there is no ‘correcting’ that is needed. In short, love the mind out of the equation.

223. This is so tip-top relevant. Thank you Carmin. An amazing blog that reveals the root of, not just anxiousness, but any emotion that has a ‘hold’ on us; be it sadness, anger, jealousy, bitterness whatever…. The point that you have made is that by fighting these emotions we actually are allowing them to become boss, judge and ruler; because, as you explain, we close our “eyes” to try not to feel it, which in turn makes it impossible to feel the gloriousness that we actually all are. I too have so often experienced this. Something that seemingly has such a hold of me..yet, when I finally allow myself to feel all of it and through it…it’s not that it necessarily goes away but just that it is rendered so insignificant by the fullness of the love that is also waiting (patiently and forever) to be felt. Beautiful to read Carmin and beautiful to write about.

     1. Loved to read this comment and what you have expressed here ottobathurst…..yes the fullness of our love waits patiently for us and for as long as it takes for us to return, accept, and allow and express the love that we are.

224. I was speaking with someone recently who opened up about how deeply anxious they were about everything. The fact they felt silly about being anxious and all the problems that resulted their after. As you have shared it stopped them from feeling how amazing they were. I was reflecting then on myself and found it does the same thing with me – it’s certainly a war within that we don’t need to be fighting.

225. Carmin it occurred to me that if the war with anxiousness was contained just within then it wouldn’t be as bad but it’s not. So often our anxiousness effects other people. I have always had anxious feelings about the way other people are behaving i.e. wanting people to behave in a certain way or do certain things in a certain way in order to prevent myself from feeling uncomfortable when they aren’t happening the way that I perceive that they should be. My anxiousness about these many things in the past has been sprayed like a poison on those who have been in my firing range and also those who have been in the vicinity. Like a skunk with it’s tail up I have sprayed both near and far! I am beginning to see more and more clearly that I am not able to control my environment and that the ease that I feel when I think that I have is just temporary. Gradually I am beginning to let go more and more and envisage a time in the not too distant future when I can simply let everything and everyone around me just be.

226. This is a beautiful article whose every word has sweetly inspired me. Whatever it is that is the smokescreen we adopt and feed, that keeps us apart from our true, natural essence, it is the force and attention we give this that imprisons us perpetually. In the moment we surrender it is like we fall through the fog, which is there in as much as we have fed it, but is so insignificant when we see beyond it to our true strength and beauty. So in this case anxiousness was allowed to rule the roost, but in that moment that you let yourself feel it (rather than rush off into your head to cope with it) its hold over you was diminished. In our bodies there is no anxiousness; we simply become masters of creating it in our heads, which then has an impact on our bodies.

     1. Beautiful and inspiring comments Matilda. To understand we are not the sum of our behaviours is truly liberating – but takes time, support and tenderness to fully let go and surrender. The configuration is strong in our bodies which can keep us defaulting back to old patterns, but ‘the moment we surrender, it is like we fall through the fog …’ Thank you.

227. Absolutely Brendan, ‘Letting go of trying to control what can’t be controlled..’ makes so much sense and it is so freeing when we let go of that tension – resulting in an ease within ourselves and an ease with those around us…life begins to flow.

     1. I feel in my earlier years that I was shaped by life to constantly strive for new things and greater understandings as a way to develop myself into a better person. Whilst there may be some truth to that what I am learning of late is that moving forward is as much about letting go of things as it is embracing the new.

        1. It’s a great point you make here Dean, if we do not allow ourselves to let go, how can we truly embrace new things or develop greater understandings, or simply allow our lives (and ourselves) to unfold?

228. The fact that you use the title ‘Anxiousness – the war within’ tells it like it truly is. A war that can either rage in bouts or act similar to the cold war – ever present and on the edge of a full blown ‘blow up’. It tells us all that this is a condition that literally takes hold and we do start to live as if it is something that is us. It is not and yet we have to claim this strongly in order to bring it down and get harmony back.

     1. Well said Lee.

229. Carmin I could feel the healing strength in allowing yourself to feel the anxiousness, it is really honouring of your body. In not fighting the anxiousness there is acceptance, this is what your blog shows me, that when we stay with what we are feeling, our body can restore itself to harmony. Thank you.

230. This is a tremendously powerful sharing Carmin, I especially love this: “I may have lived during wars, but the real fight was within me. By preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, the bad and the ugly) I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am.” Our feelings are true, and can be our best friend and our greatest teacher. we still resist feeling all there is to feel to our great detriment, especially when there is such great liberty available.

231. The trying to think your way out of anxiety is a sneaky yet rational trick that only feeds the anxiety. When we stop avoiding feeling, which is a lot of the cause behind the anxiety, we often realise we were able to cope with that feeling all along.

     1. yes, Nikki, and the anxiety is far worse than what there was to actually feel in the first place.

        1. Absolutely Kylie, and just as Carmin describes, once we acknowledge what we are feeling it instantly has less of a hold over us.

     2. Great point Nikkimckee – trying to think our way out of anxiety is futile, and only serves to keep us in that state. I have found that by simply bringing my focus back to my body – my feet on the floor or my nose and chest as I breathe – I am able to begin to feel me in my body again and slowly but surely, as this awareness grows, the anxiety dissipates.

        1. I agree Hannah Flanagan, bringing our focus back to the awareness of our body is the key to stop that cycle of living with anxiousness and nervous energy in our life, it is that simple and yet the results are profound.

        2. Yep it’s always the way Francisco, it is the simple things that offer the most profound results!

        3. ‘…trying to think our way out of anxiety is futile, and only serves to keep us in that state.’
           So true Hannah as we are still in the energy of the anxiety trying to work our way out of it. But through the body we can come back to simplicity and a truth, even if the body feels hard or wired at least it has a realness and can earth us back rather than investing in thoughts that are probably still panicked.

        4. I agree that trying to think our way out of anxiety is futile but we also need to stop identifying ourselves with it. I wonder how many of us use it in our own way for recognition of some sort?

        5. Interesting point michelle819, perhaps identifying ourselves with the anxiety we are experiencing is all part of distracting ourselves from how simple it actually is to reconnect and for the anxiety to be no more?

        6. I don’t think many of us realise how subtle the games are that we play with ourselves. I have been intrigued at observing some of the ways I have been avoiding simply being. One of the big things for me is getting caught up in my head and thoughts and allowing myself to get frustrated in not being able to surrender into my body as deeply as I’d like to. It was pointed out to me that there is a part of me that identifies with the struggle. In immediately feeling the truth of this it has become much easier to observe when I do it without going into the frustration of it making it much easier to let go.

        7. True michelle819, the trick is that the games we play with ourselves are so subtle that we can easily identify them as us, simply part of the way we are when in fact this is so far from the truth.

        8. Lovely Hannah. It is so easy to get caught up in self bashing (another game we play) once we become aware of these games rather than to say to ourselves this is not who we are and connect to what is really underneath it all.

        9. ahh yes Michelle819, I’ve played that old game many times – and still find myself caught in it’s familiarity at times – but it’s true as you say, we can either choose to be hard on ourselves (which only then sets us up to look for some form of respite or relief) or we can simply allow ourselves to see that the games we have been a part of are not who we are – we are in fact so very much more.

        10. I too have found bringing myself back to my body can transform how I am, it is so powerful that there are also times coming back to my body will be the last thing I will consider so I can stay in the anxiousness and use it to fuel and distract from feeling. These are the times I will be trying to use my mind and think I can think my way out of a situation, this can be comforting as in this place I can believe I am dealing with something but there is always an underlying edge and tension until the basic step to come back to my body is chosen. Becoming familiar with the different ways I can play games to avoid my body has been helpful.

        11. Great point Deanne, the more we are familiar with the different “tricks of the trade”, the easier it is to catch ourselves before we get caught up in them.

     3. Wise words and spot on nikkmckee, I can feel that for me my anxiousness stemmed from ‘avoiding feeling’ and now that I allow myself to feel and now that I allow myself to express what I am feeling, my old friend, anxiousness no longer fits and is no longer welcome in my body.

        1. I hadn’t quite made that connection with my expression. My expression of what I am feeling has gone through leaps and bounds in the past year and I hadn’t quite clocked the effect this had had on my anxiousness (or lack of!).

     4. Yes Jenny when we acknowledge any emotion it has less hold on us. The problem lies in when we try to avoid the emotion and bury it in our body. this ends up poisoning our body and can lead to illness and disease

        1. Exactly marylouisemyers, when we try to avoid any emotion, we engage in an inner war which causes havoc in the body (whether we are aware of it or not) – initially this may be a growing tension or hardness in the body, but long term can lead to illness and disease.

232. A strange thing happened to me while reading this blog, I remembered how “attractive” anxiousness used to be to me. I used to be mildly anxious most of the time and in the past year or two I have been able to let that go. Reading this blog, when you described the panic attack in the tunnel, I felt the pull of it again and it was appealing. I hadn’t quite realised that for me anxiousness was a choice and something I chose to hide in.

     1. This is such a great point Nikki and something to really note with any form of raciness in the body. There is so much in this world to take us out and away from our centre and knowing where you are at and what games we are playing is such an important part of really letting go of these behaviours.

     2. Wow nikkimckee, I had not made this connection either until I read your comment! ‘ I hadn’t quite realised that for me anxiousness was a choice and something I chose to hide in’.

     3. Totally Nikkimckee – I have felt this too with my mum always rushing around loving the thrill of being busy and harbouring heaps of anxiety. Now when I am busy I feel like I’m not doing enough unless I’m anxious too! There has been an attraction and it is absolutely a choice, like you’ve said ‘…anxiousness was a choice and something I chose to hide in.’ It really overrides our sensitivity and ability to read life from the stillness and steadiness we naturally are.

        1. I’ve also been caught in that trap with jobs and how I have worked in the past. I didn’t think I was working hard enough unless I was rushing around in anxiety. And looking back there was a part of me that loved this business – both in the head and in the body. It was that part of me that wants to hide that loved it so much. When I began dropping this way of being, I had to quit one job. The people I worked for associated my growing stillness with being lazy and not working hard enough.

     4. Man I know that one too nikkimckee. I used to use it like an adrenalin rush to motivate me to get things done! Crazy!

233. Carmin I have loved rereading your blog, it is so real and inspiring that there is another way to live and it is that we have to be willing to feel everything, i know I have avoided that and the control is exhausting! I have much to learn about acceptance and love being inspired by you in this way.

     1. Me too Vanessa, endlessly trying to maintain the facade of control- when it is really impossible and only ever an illusion! Crazy!

234. Of all the horrible feelings a person can experience I have to say that the feeling of fear in my body; the dreadful feeling that something is terribly wrong, is the most torturous one. It is pure suffering.

     I have come to understand anxiety as being a message from my soul telling me I have strayed too far from the ease, harmony and Love that I truly am within, and NOT listening to this message only makes it more unbearable…thus I am pushed (lovingly) to try something different.

     I am extremely appreciative of Serge Benhayon’s commitment to share the Ancient Wisdom with all so that we can be reminded sooner what that “different” looks like and just how to get back to the true stability inside us that is who we are.

235. Whenever we judge something in order to not feel what’s there to be felt, we have said yes to nervous energy and anxiousness to creep into our bodies. By surrendering and allowing ourselves to feel everything it is easier for us to accept what is and move forth.

236. Its such a subtle thing, but you are right Jane. If we avoid feeling the bad and the ugly, then an unfortunate side effect is that this means we also are less able to connect to the good, the divine and the glory!

237. Anxiousness is such a crippling emotion that takes over the whole body and leaves you feeling insecure, self doubting with a lot of tension in the body. There is as you have shared different levels of intensity that it can get to which affects us in different ways. It is a viscous cycle that only by connecting to your inner most and accepting how incredible we are will start to cut this emotion. The Gentle Breath Meditation as taught by Serge Benhayon is the only experience that I have had that supports this connection.

238. I can only imagine the devastation that would be felt living through a war. You have this experience the war and by you stating that anxiousness is a war with in is a marker in itself and a recognition of the dis- eased feeling and disturbance this causes. How amazing that you now have given yourself permission to feel your body – the anxiousness and also your amazing essence. An inspiration and also a path forward for many who feel the debilitation of this illness.

239. I have come to do the same thing with other feelings as well. Where as in the past I would have pushed aways feelings of frustration, irritation or sadness, I now allow myself to feel the things I feel, but I also bring understanding to the situation, figuring out what triggered the feeling, and perhaps where I am not seeing something clearly or if I am being judgemental of another person or myself. it makes life far easier – for I am not perfect, but I am also not at the mercy of life.

     1. That level of self-awareness is an incredible thing to have and one that we are all able to develop if we choose to. Being able to become aware of what we are feeling and its origins is very important, but even if we are not able to ‘figure it out’, simply identifying how we feel can be a huge step towards not dumping our issues onto another person.

        1. Yes Naren, trying figure it out can be another distraction that keeps us up in our heads and in itself can create more anxiousness. I have done that too. As you share, simply being aware is major step towards deepening the relationship with ourselves in terms of being more accepting and allowing.

     2. Love the awareness you bring here Rebecca and that it can be applied to anything we are feeling…how simple is it to just feel what we are feeling and to bring understanding to a situation. It takes away the ‘beating ourselves up’ reaction when we feel something we don’t like or don’t want to feel, and also brings a level of self responsibility in how we are with ourselves and with others. And..”it makes life far easier – for I am not perfect, but I am also not at the mercy of life.”

        1. A lot of people do feel at ‘the mercy of life’ – life ‘does them’ rather than ‘them doing life’ and what you offer here Rebecca is a way out of this cycle, a way of living life that involves self-responsibility and yet is truly supportive for everyone.

     3. You mention “to bring understanding to the situation” and my feeling is, that is so important. With understanding I can find out what the root cause of something is and it helps me to accept what I feel in my body. That is for me a key ingredient for healing.

240. An amazing blog Carmin, and boy can I relate! I too have had anxiousness all my life and it is not until recently when I had a session with Natalie Benhayon and she suggested to just feel that I was anxious and feel into why and what was causing it, rather than pushing it down and trying to not feel it, that i have stopped being so anxious all the time, and so hard on myself when I am – its very freeing to be able to give myself permission to be and feel what is there.

     1. What great advice you were given Rebecca. So often we can numb the feeling in some form, often exercise or food, when really we just need to face it head on and look it in the eyes so to speak. So often I hear that exercise is good for stress relief, (which is probably anxiousness disguised as stress), but my question is always ‘why are you getting stressed in the first place’? We just don’t take it back far enough.

        1. I agree Matthew – exercise is a great way to remove the excess anxiousness and stress, and to prevent it just being a band aid, the reason for being anxious and stressed needs to be dealt with

        2. Yes Matthew, we come up with solutions that just distract us temporarily. We feel better for a while, but the feeling always comes back and then there is a cycle we get into where maybe we need to exercise more or eat more to numb the anxiousness. All the while it is still there. Asking why its there in the first place is key.

     2. Awesome reminder Rebecca. I noticed myself getting anxious yesterday and started to harden up inside and wanted to eat and eat. That didn’t feel good and reading these comments supports me by remembering I don’t need to avoid feeling anxiety but just ask come back to being loving with myself and bring as much honesty to it without judgment.

        1. Well said Annie, I wonder how many of our habits we would no longer turn to if we just accepted the way we feel rather than trying to suppress it.

     3. Whatever it is that we are trying not to feel, I have come to understand how exhausting that management and control is. We do feel everything so the process of then trying to modify and control what we think we feel is really exhausting and ultimately dishonest. There is such sweet self acceptance in the moment when I stop the fight and make space tenderly and respectfully so to feel the everything I am feeling all of the time! It is in the fog of fight and resistance that the fears and emotions get to rule – surrendering has been a display of true strength for me.

        1. Absolutely Matilda, beautifully expressed – to know that the feeling is not who we are. ‘From something negative we have to control, to a flag or signal that prompts us to remember who we truly are.’ I have suffered anxiousness and many other negative feelings about myself, but this powerful blog and your comment deeply support the understanding that we have the choice to understand we are not defined by these behaviours and neither should we judge the fact we chose them.

        2. Yes Matilda. In the past I would not have put surrender and strength together as you have, but my recent experience has been just that. I feel stronger and steadier in myself since I have allowed myself to surrender to feeling all of what is going on, instead of expending vast amounts of energy pretending I am not feeling.

     4. Beautifully shared Rebecca. Thank you. For so many years I tried very hard to push those anxious moments away/down only for them to return with an extra ‘kick’ again and in some cases stay around for a lot longer duration. As Carmin shares “just feel it don’t fight it”. Giving ourselves permission to ‘feel’ allows a space to not try and control the situation and to not (if chosen) give ourselves such a hard time.

        1. Well said Marion, when i ignore or try to push my anxiousness away it often comes back two fold!

        2. Great point Marion the permission element is so essential – it basically disarms and allows us to make a different choice.

     5. I can so relate to what you share here Rebecca…once we are aware of the anxiousness it can also be a never-ending cycle of trying to ignore it, push it away and or be hard on ourselves for even being anxious in the first place, which only serves to complicate life and reinforce the anxiousness again. Thank you for the reminder to simply feel that I am anxious, and to feel into why and what is causing it in that moment – love the simplicity!

        1. I agree Paula, we should always feel at ease enough with ourselves to allow ourselves to feel what ever it is we feel

     6. Thats Awesome Rebecca.
        This is something I have been playing with too, just to notice things when they are effecting me and observe them. It’s a little tricky at first because I was so used to just automatically reacting and doing something to not feel what was going on, but once you start doing it – it gets easier and easier, and its really a great support.

        1. I agree, I have tried to make it almost like a little personal science experiment, to observe how I find myself acting or reacting in new situations, or why it is that I am anxious, it gives me an amazing and honest insight into what’s going on for me.

        2. Yes Simon, when I first started to catch myself, it would be after the fact, because my reaction would be so swift I would not be present enough to observe myself in action. Shows how I was living a life of auto-pilot. I have been supported by esoteric yoga and the gentle breath meditation to work on being present, and its this that has created space for me to observe myself in the moment and then actually choose a different response.

241. “By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing”. I know well what you mean Carmin. This was the way I used to deal with painful memories or feelings, distracting myself, getting busy anything to not go where it hurt. Thank you for sharing.

     1. I’m familiar with this one too Patricia. The tragedy is that in distracting ourselves with busyness, etc in order to avoid dealing with or feeling “the bad” in our lives, we also miss out on feeling “the good” – and so “the bad” seems so much bigger than it actually is.

        1. Well said Hannah and when the “bad” consumes us we often find it difficult to come back knowing that these are often beliefs that are fed to us.

242. This was my experience Paula, from being in my head and not feeling my body, I was anxious all the time and as I did not want to feel how anxious I was 24/7, I consumed tons of sugar on a daily basis to numb my body from feeling how anxious I really was. Now sugar free along with the gentle breath mediation, I am no longer so anxious.

     1. I can relate to this too jacqmcfadden04. The gentle breath meditation is a wonderful support to connect me back to my body when I feel anxious.

        1. Jane I agree, when I start to feel anxious about something, I normally do the gentle breath meditation too, and this normally releases the feeling of the anxiousness and brings me back to myself.

243. Anxiousness comes from feeling everything the good the bad and the ugly as well as the beauty and love that we are and is around us everywhere. Feeling it all takes accepting of the world and something to learn to open to see and allow for only then can we have a chance to remove the anxiousness that otherwise resides within waiting to come out.Anxiousness is a plague of how we are all living in the world and Serge Benhayon is presenting to us by his livingness another way to be in the truth and honesty we come from.An amazing blessing for humanity.

244. What stands out for me here is that the anxiousness is not who we are so whenever I feel anxious, most of the time I remember to remind myself that this feeling is not who I am. For most of my life I took on a belief that emotions such as anxiety was part of my make-up, it was who I was but this is so not true. As I let go of that which is not me and embrace all that is me, how I feel about myself, others and therefore life, is changing immensely.

     1. This puts a whole new stance on anxiousness…from something negative we have to control, to a flag or signal that prompts us to remember who we truly are. A choice to put ourselves back in the driving seat rather than let ourselves be played by emotions and mental chattering that are not our true nature.

        1. Matilidaclark I love how clearly you’ve said this. It strikes me that trying to control something that is actually alien to myself is like trying to herd cats, it doesn’t work and ends in feelings of failure and frustration. Much rather acknowledge emotions such as anxiousness and come back to ourselves.

     2. Great point you make here Caroline, to remember that the feeling of anxiety is not who we are, but to allow ourselves to feel it, and not judge it. This allows for space and a step back, where I can then look at it and accept it, without being consumed by it.

        1. That is key Esther. And the moment I consciously recognise that the anxiousness is not who I am, it is like saying no, no more. From this I can feel my next choice is so much clearer.

245. New standards are made by choosing to feel the own amazingness without having to do anything to be that, because we are that and have been all the time. This is something the mind has to bite on, that it does not have to prove anything to be amazing, the only thing is to allow and accepting that it is what we divinely are.

246. I have been anxious all my life and although it is much less in my life I still get anxious. What comes to mind is, if I were to hold a microphone and was to speak in front of a large group of people. What I’m realising is that the more I speak up in my day in front of people the easier it is getting. The more I trust the impulse to say something whether it is with one person or many (and it can be uncomfortable at the time) the less anxiousness there is in my body.

     1. I can so relate Caroline. The thought of speaking into a microphone gives me the heeby jeebies. But when you get down to it what is the difference between talking with one person, 10 or 50? We should still be the same person regardless who or how many people we are speaking to…. and as much as I know this to be true I was at a meeting this week and had alot to say but held back and did not say a thing! Every time I went to say something all I could hear was the thunder of my heart.

247. In this blog Carmin, you have offered us a powerful key to dealing with emotion. We all tend to try to avoid what we don’t want to feel but by doing the opposite and allowing yourself to fully feel it, the healing occurred. In so doing you saw that it was not you – how freeing is that! ‘I could feel my essence and that the anxiousness wasn’t me. When I felt it, it couldn’t consume me’.

248. I agree Raymond, really is it that simple is a question I have asked myself a few times. And yes it really is and anything other then that is not natural. There is so much tension, hurts, unresolved issues to get caught into in this world and yet learning to master observing and not absorbing as Serge Benhayon teaches is a key factor here and one that supports hugely.

     1. Hello aminatumi and the world is full of things we can play into if we choose or we can live simply. The Way Of The Livingness, http://www.unimedliving.com/voice/about-the-audio-presentations/the-way-of-the-livingness-presentation.html

249. Its a completely different approach to consider that the way we live, changes our life experience. So often we think life is about fate or destiny, but what is offered here is our choices change our experiences.

     1. Yes, Heather Pope, we like to think that way. We have a bigger responsibility than we care to see in ‘how’ our lives are. There are many people now who are living testament to this truth, “the way we live, changes our life experience.”

250. Great stuff Carmin, this really opens the lid on our old friend anxiousness, the more we embrace it the less it becomes. My anxiousness is a by-product of me not being who I truly am,so when I am connected and all is going well anxiousness isn’t a problem. Unfortunately life never runs that smoothly all the time with the odd curve ball coming at you from time to time, so its good to know to just hang in there and feel whats going on and proceed with caution so to speak instead of trying to bury it, numb it or pretend it doesn’t exist.

251. Carmin thanks for sharing an awesome revelation that to avoid feeling all that you were feeling whether you liked it or not it stopped you from feeling All that you Are. This is massive. How you said you had lived through war but the real war was within yourself puts reality onto what is actually going on and the impact that this destructive way of living can have on us.

252. Shirley-Ann, it has also been my experience that “recognising that my body is running this anxiousness thing but it is not who I am and if I just accept it lovingly and feel my essence it affects me much less” . Anxiousness continues to affect us less and less the more that we feel, accept and confirm when things are ‘flowing’ for us, when we do something amazing – those moments when we are deeply connected to the divine we all carry. Confirming these moments builds a strong foundation and when anxiousness is felt from this strong foundation i.e. from our glory, then anxiousness seems insignificant.

253. Through practicing Esoteric Yoga I’ve been re-learning how to feel without the complication of needing to know what it is or condemning myself for whatever sensation is there. The rediscovery of, as you say ‘‘just feel it and don’t fight it.’’ is absolutely miraculous.

254. I had never thought about the picking and choosing we can do with feeling – I love the colour analogy Carmin, makes perfect sense – to see one we must see all for all is one.

255. Carmin, I revisted your blog about ‘Anxiousness’ and it feels to me that many of our populations have the experience of an underlying sense of anxiousness for a good part of the time – one has to wonder at the why of this. I happened upon a documentary this week, as it being known as ‘Mental Health Week’ and the person being interviewed indicated that even though he was regarded as being a very funny man, his underlying anxiousness took him along the path of depression and suicidal thoughts. One has to wonder what energy is passing through us all, all of the time, that is seemingly resulting in the effect of so many persons experiencing similar sypmtoms and expressisons of behaviour. Wouldn’t it be amazing if ones such as yourself having through your own development of awareness of the divine connection that we all are graced with were able to share with the world your transformational experience. It seems to me that the whole world, with populations far flung could benefit and find true healing from anxiousness by connecting to their own divine connection within as has been shared with us by Serge Benhayon through the presentations of the Ageless Wisdom Teachings.

256. Thank you for sharing your experience of anxiousness Carmin and how by staying present while feeling the anxiousness wasn’t you and it couldn’t consume you it supported you to feel your inner strength and power. My experience has been similar, when I have experience anxiousness and been able to reconnect through my gentle breath and come out the other side knowing the feeling of anxiousness is just that, a feeling, it is not who I am and it will pass.

257. “It is like saying there are some colours that I don’t like so I refuse to see them; I will only allow myself to sense the colours that I do like, that I deem acceptable.” We are masters at seeing only what suits us, however the beauty of life, cause and effect is that anything we deliberately ignore will keep coming round to present itself in different guises until we choose to meet it head on.

258. Accept everything that is thrown at you in your life, do not react just keep feeling. I have found this to be a powerful key.

259. So true Carmin when you say…”By preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, the bad and the ugly) I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am.” By being in our heads and not feeling our bodies allows our minds to be all over the place creating all sorts of scenarios and therefore anxiousness, which is a nervous energy with the brain being the controller of the nervous system – no wonder people are so exhausted and needing pick-me-ups like coffee! But the anxiousness remains, only to go through the whole cycle all over again. What you present here is a game-changer for anxiousness…feeling our bodies and feeling the anxiousness takes away its power over us, and looking at why it is there in the first place takes away its foundations so it has no more control.

260. I am so glad I reread your blog today Carmin. Thank you so much for sharing so openly. I know I have numbed myself to what I feel and it is great to be able to see how choosing not to feel something I have labeled as ‘bad’ or ‘unpleasant’ stops me from feeling my own preciousness.

     1. Agree Leonne, these judgements really do get in the way of feeling and appreciating all our qualities. The purity of my essence is there, there simply is no ‘bad or ‘unpleasant’ in it!

261. “By preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, the bad and the ugly) I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am.” Thank you for the reminder that everything needs to be felt, the good, the bad and the ugly. I always find when I do stop avoiding to feel things I do not like to feel, and actually do feel them, it is never too big to deal with.

     1. It’s easy to ignore the good the bad and the ugly, but on reading this I can appreciate that letting myself feel it and dealing with what is there I can open the gateway home.

262. ‘I may have lived during wars, but the real fight was within me.’ – So true for anyone regardless of whether we have experienced a war or not. The fight is certainly with ourselves and ourselves alone. Carmin, you’ve inspired me to really allow myself to feel the anxiousness when it arises, which at the moment is often. Thank you.

263. Sometimes we get anxious because of how great we are, how huge our awareness is and all the things we perceive, see in the world and others but don’t like to admit. We imagine we don’t know how to handle it or live in the world with that level of awareness. Whilst we are aware that we can get anxious about wars and so called bad things, we are not always so aware that we can be equally if not more anxious about owning our greatness because that brings a whole package of consequences and requires new levels of responsibility.

     1. Ooh, NIcola, now you’ve touched a sore spot – responsibility! ‘We are not always so aware that we can be equally if not more anxious about owning our greatness.’ You’ve exposed a whole area here that I feel is the root of the anxiousness in my body.

     2. I love what you share here Nicola, I also get anxiousness when I start thinking that I cannot handle all that I feel or when I feel absolutely great and grand. It has to do, like you say, with new levels of responsibility. I make myself belief that I cannot handle more and I get thoughts like oh it is too much. But it isn’t…it is just an energy, they are just thoughts and more and more I experience that I can handle quite a lot.

        1. Yes Mariette, and one of the things that can make us anxious and hold us back in expressing our grandness is dealing with the jealousy of others. The more we express the truth and be who we are the more it exposes others who are not doing that and there can be quite a backlash. This is very well described at http://www.unimedliving.com/unimedpedia/word-index/unimedpedia-jealousy.html

        2. Yes I agree that we can always handle our expanded levels of awareness as they always come with all the awareness that is needed to respond to any situation… or said differently: we might be looking from a less aware space and saying how could I cope with that?, but when we allow ourselves to be more aware we have all the awareness we need.

     3. Spot on Nicola, and I agree that we can get anxious over feeling the next level of responsibility and what that requires us to let go of, and are we ready….. for me it only feels challenging if I resist, and if I do not resist all unfolds as it should.

        1. Yes it is really strange – we all say we want more love, more joy, more awareness or whatever we imagine we want in our life, but when it comes we often get very anxious. In fact we are much more comfortable with all our imaginary issues and misery – they are so familiar to us like old friends. Also we love the identification of having issues and the recognition we get from solving or dealing with them… but we are not so comfortable when it comes to stepping into our power and glory and leaving that all behind.

     4. I love the way life supports us and reading you comment Nicola is spot on for me. When I read the title of this blog I could feel the subtle anxiousness in me, yet wanted to play it down because it wasn’t based on something horrible. But all things are equal and what you describe is so true…feeling anxious about taking full responsibility for every action, movement, thought and intention down to every breath. These are all my responsibility and support a quality of livingness that reflects a level of loving support to another in what ever situation they may be experiencing.

264. So many people are living in anxiousness that we published a free audio of the month and some great quotes here: http://www.unimedliving.com/voice/audio-of-the-month/what-causes-anxiousness-2015-07.html – on what causes anxiousness and what it is – very well worth a read and listen.

265. I love your blog Carmin and expect many people will relate to it. What struck me most when reading it was that anxiousness is an energy. I used to suffer from something similar and would get this feeling of overwhelm (which is actually an emotion) and “I have so much to do”. Like you during the war it was understandable because always I did a huge amount. However, one day about 20 years ago I had absolutely nothing to do as I was stuck waiting for a phone call from a hospital in relation to surgery on my leg and I had nothing to do anything until that was done. I found myself waking up in the morning and huffing and puffing to myself with “I have so much to do… I have to go and get some milk…. blah blah – that was about it. The point was there was nothing for me to do and I was still having that same feeling as when there were a zillion things to do – that was when I twigged it was an energy / emotion and not real. With that understanding it massively reduced its hold on me and I started to allow myself to connect to myself and feel what was really going on.

     1. This is so true Nicola, a great point, ‘ The point was there was nothing for me to do and I was still having that same feeling as when there were a zillion things to do – that was when I twigged it was an energy / emotion and not real’, I have noticed that in my day whether busy or not I can choose, to rush, get stressed and be overwhelmed or choose to just be steady and do what i need to do and not go into any drama or rushing and the result of how i feel and the quality of what i am doing is very different. From experience going into the rushing energy leaves me feeling tired and feels like a yucky way to be with myself and others whereas the steady calm energy allows me to do what I need to do, whilst feeling connected to myself and others and leaves me feeling yummy.

266. Morning again Doug, no worries. There can be all manner of titles, importance and thought given to things when they come up for us to look at. It really couldn’t be more simpler, we don’t need to go anywhere with these things. Just simply feel them fully the best we can and connect back to what ever is in front of us. Life has a way of cycling them back around to us if we didn’t nail it completely, we just need to be connected to see it. Thanks again Doug, great to chat.

267. A needed blog Carmin, thank you. Just today I was feeling an uncomfortable more than normal amount of tension in my body. All I could do was surrender to it. This blog helped me to be with it, and not fight it or go into my head and make it worse. I actually was feeling my essence, and felt really good but just had this awkward tension in my body.

     1. As you say Rik, that this blog has helped you to to be with the uncomfortable feeling. This fact is needed to be told, over and over again, that our way back to who we are is through feeling our bodies and nothing else. Our minds does only make the stories of how things could or should be, but our bodies live the truth and knows the way to go.

     2. That is very much what I needed to hear – surrender to it. I have felt anxiety creep in over the last few days but I’ve gone into battle with it. SURRENDER!! Thanks Rik.

268. Anxiousness is a huge topic and affects many people, it is a growing epidemic and what you share here is certainly very helpful; I find it amazing what connecting to our body rather than opposing what is going on can reveal and lead to.

     1. Anxiousness is also often thought to be about external factors causing the anxiousness. Its revolutionary to say connecting to ourselves, and our inner most will support recovering from anxiousness.

269. Carmin your sentence ‘ letting go of trying to control what can’t be controlled’ is such a game changer for me. When I am trying to control either a situation or a person then there is an anxiousness that goes hand in hand with the control. Even if I do manage to control the situation or the person there is still anxiousness because the control always feels as stable as teetering on the edge of a cliff.

     1. So true Alexis. There are two very beautiful analogies that come to mind “we can’t hold back the wind back with our hands” and “you can’t push a river”. For me these analogies sum up the futility of our attempts to control our lives and control other people, all of which are working in accordance with a much bigger plan than we are aware of. Letting go takes some discipline, but when we do our bodies and our lives feel a lot more spacious!

270. I feel a lot of understanding in the first sentence of this blog Carmin “I have periods of time when I feel my strength and amazingness – I feel stillness, with a solid foundation of knowing who I am, I feel my ‘yumminess’, my essence. I also have periods when I just can’t connect to this, even though I know it is there, always, inside me.”. I could just feel – for the first time – that I easily go into judging or bashing myself exposing myself as being anxious. Rather than giving myself space to understand, accept and give myself permission to feel – regardless of what is there to be felt. Gosh, I’ve been hard on myself. Thank you for the inspiration.

271. It’s such a journey for you to recognise Carmin that despite living in war zones, the battle to understand was the war zone inside you. We can all feel that no matter where we live, and once that one is accepted, the changes become possible.

     1. The tragedy that strikes me is that there are war zones all over the planet where people cannot sleep for fear of harm, and anxiousness and fear are a normal part of life. As a planet we have such a long way to go with basic human respect and care, and once that begins then we have the inner anxiousness to deal with.

272. Yes, very empowering, to just feel what there is to feel. I am doing (feeling…) that more and more and it gives such a simplicity to life. Not only that, when I just feel what there is to feel, it leaves me and I can move on. So it saves me a lot of energy in my day.

     1. I agree Jane and Mariette, It is just about allowing ourselves to feel something without going into the judgement of it being good or bad, otherwise we fall in the trap of having to manage the situation with whatever means we can usually nervous energy or worrying etc and as you mentioned Mariette this gives such a simplicity to life.

        1. Yes, that is such a trap, judging something as being good or bad, or right or wrong. It is just feeling something, allowing it to be there and that is it. So simple, yet our mind loves complexity…

273. Simply expressed Jinya: ‘feel what doesn’t feel great, because that honesty fuels our journey back to the truth’ From my own experience, the longer I kept myself from feeling anxiousness, the more power it had over me.

274. “The lesson for me is acceptance. Acceptance of who I am, acceptance of occurrences in my life, letting go of trying to control what can’t be controlled.” Trying to control life and make it how I want hasn’t worked for me. You are right Carmin, acceptance is the lesson and it is the lesson for me. I need to allow the world to be as it is without wanting it to change and accept it for how it is. The only thing I can change is my reaction to it.

     1. The more I accept me, all of me, the more I can accept another. When I react to another, I know I am trying to control them and the situation; it is the willingness and openness to keep up the consistency of letting go of the control and to accept everything in the process especially at the times when I’ve messed up!

     2. Well said Rachel. When I try to control things it can lead to much anxiety as it does when I feel I don’t have control. When I take a step back and allow things to be as they are and know that I don’t need to “have it under control” the natural flow comes back.

        I can appreciate how far I have come with this. Just yesterday I felt the panic and anxiety start to come in with the workload I have at the moment which is coming in faster than I am able to get through it. I felt my old tendencies and how I was reacting in my body. I was unable to stop it myself so I asked a friend for a chakrapuncture session on my lunch break and I supported myself throughout the day with things like making sure I gave myself time to wind down before bed. I was much quicker to pick up that feeling in my body and to support myself to not let it take over.

275. In my life I am on my journey to accept that I am feeling everything what is going on. In me and in you and in the world. That can be quite overstraining when I am not prepared for that. To prepare for that, to prepare to be aware again of all my feelings and senses so I can handle what I get aware of is key for me. And one very great preparation I found for me is: taking true responsibility and start to live a life of integrity. Honesty is great tool here.

     1. Yes Sandra – we are all so sensitive and completely wired to feel everything that is going on for all. The more I accept myself, my choices and who I am in all my light the more I can allow others to go through and choose what they need to. In that acceptance it feels natural to feel and observe life rather than absorb everything that is felt.

276. It is so interesting to read your article Carmin, particularly ‘I decided that feeling anxious is ‘bad’ and unnecessary, so would try everything to not feel it.’ This is something that I avoided feeling most of my life and it has only been in the last five years since attending Universal Medicine courses that I have started to allow myself to feel more, I have become aware that I do get anxious and that rather than try and ignore this feeling if i sit with it and don’t judge myself for being anxious or go into lack of self worth then the anxiousness starts to dissipate.

277. Observing people around me I would say most of them live under a cover of anxiousness, from the fear of being hurt. From this place, communication takes place, and this in itself feels painful to me.
     What you have written here is gold, Carmin. There is a way to heal this anxiousness in choosing to be more consciously present, i.e. keeping your mind in line with your whatever your body is doing.

278. There is something that happens before anxiousness, and that is the fact that we received energy. We have a feeling about something, and I have found that the more I tune into those more subtle feelings and awareness’, the less anxious I am and the more I know how to approach a situation… to just be me and accept my feelings.

279. in reading this blog I am reminded the importance of feeling everything and skipping nothing out. Anxiousness was me too, I was entirely anxious a lot of the time but it was like it was an under current in everything that I do. Part of healing this anxiousness was to fully accept the amazing, wise and knowing presence that I have, and in my body I know what to do and how to handle situations. Surrendering to this knowing has been a developing relationship. Thank you for sharing about your anxiousness, it is something that I could talk about for a long time.

280. This is a fabulous blog that has so much to offer. So many people are living in anxiousness but are denying or unaware of it, as we have learnt to not allow ourselves to feel. By avoiding feeling the anxiousness we miss out on feeling all the good stuff too. I loved the way you exposed trying to think yourself out of feeling a certain way – this just doesn’t work! You can lie to yourself in your thoughts but you can’t lie to your body. I too have found that being honest about what I am feeling has had a profound affect, and is building my acceptance of myself as I am.

281. It’s the interesting thing about connecting to our essence – we do get to feel everything ‘the good, bad and ugly’ so-to-speak.

     1. In the daily choice of feeling the “good, bad and ugly’, there has to be deep self-care and acceptance so what is not who we really are can be let go, and we are free to be ourselves without judgment.

        1. And the more we feel, the more we realise that the bad and the ugly is at most a small percentage, while the good and the divine, our essential nature, is always the predominant 90%.

282. So true how we need to feel what doesn’t feel great, because that honesty fuels our journey back to the truth if we are willing to know it.

     1. Jinya there is such a freedom when we face our fears, the journey back also can then open so many new doors previously closed tight.

283. Thank you Carmin, I agree, accepting what occurs in our life and living love as a student of the way of the livingness is one of the tools to deal with the tension, stress, anxiety and emotions that are always there in life, there are also many other tools, which are available for all to see, for example the on-line course on men and anxiety I mentioned in another of my comments. I highly recommend this presentation as, having done the course face-to-face, I know it brings a wealth of wisdom. So much was in the course that I have committed to do the on-line course also, with friends and family.

284. I can so relate to what you share here Carmin. I too have experienced anxiety that creeps in in particular situations and also anxiety that is just there all the time and that i’ve tried to distract myself from being aware of.

     What you’ve shared here is very powerful about not trying to not feel the anxiousness but allowing yourself to feel your own power which is so much more than the anxiousness.

     Thank you for sharing.

285. Carmin this blog has again reminded me of where I used to be with my levels of anxiousness in all parts of my life. To call out when you feel anxious is a huge support as it then gives us the option to stay in it or to realise that it does not need to carry you throughout the day.

286. To me, anxiousness is like a chronic disease – it can be healed but we need to know how. Your blog is a great support in understanding what is really going on.

287. Anxiety is so prevalent in our society today. So many people either take medication or just put up with it and learn to manage it. Carmin this blog is so powerful as you offer another way to deal with anxiety that works and If everyone who had anxiety had the opportunity to read this then they would realise there is another part to them that is the truth of who they really are and not the anxiety.

     1. I agree anxiety is so prevalent in out society today. Being anxious contributes to stress and this in turn can lead to nervousness and other conditions within the body. Dealing with the anxiety by allowing ourselves to feel it, is a profound way to heal our body of anxiousness as Carmin clearly shows us here.

288. Carmin, thank you for this amazing blog. Such an eye opener to dealing with anxiousness. ‘To feel it and not fight it’ were key words for me as I have not heard this before. It makes perfect sense as then you stop it from escalating. Most people I see in my work place are fighting against it and not accepting or wanting to feel it. Being aware we are more than anxiousness and being able to surrender and let go of the body we then connect to our essence of who we truly are.

289. I am learning to use anxiousness as a sign that I’ve lost the connection with myself. Only recently I’ve becoming more honest that when I’m anxious I’m not with me. It had become so normal to be anxious that to me that this feeling was me. Where as now I’m feeling (rather than knowing from my head) how different I feel when I am truly connected to me. This blog has supported me hugely in this. There’s so much delicacy and tenderness to be felt. Our body is actually a great indicator of where we actually are.

290. ‘At the same time as feeling the anxiousness, I could feel my inner strength and power. I could feel my essence and that the anxiousness wasn’t me. When I felt it, it couldn’t consume me’ …… this is absolute gold for anyone suffering from anxiousness and panic attacks, which sadly is the vast majority of us all. I love how you were able to feel everything and feel it all in perspective. Your realisation that the anxiousness wasn’t you too all it’s power away.

291. Wow Carmin, thank you. It really resonated within me that if we shut our senses off to one thing, we must close our eyes completely – because it is all around us! It’s all or nothing! Just like letting love in and out- it cannot be for a select few.

     1. Exactly, you cannot swim in the ocean without diving fully in. Dipping your toes in as and when is a very different thing altogether!

292. Wow Carmin, this is a very deep and profound lesson. I can really relate to the analogy of picking and choosing what to feel and ignoring the rest. It is like only wanting to see the colors that you like, which is impossible, we feel everything whether we acknowledge it or not. By accepting that anxiousness is there,, but it is not part of you and does not own you, puts you back in the drivers seat.

     1. And this is the place to be – empowered and living our life rather than having our life live us.

293. “I may have lived during wars, but the real fight was within me. By preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, the bad and the ugly) I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am.” Wow, thank you for sharing Carmin Hall. This is an important message you give to the generation who has lived during wars. It is possible to heal anxiousness and not to accept it as normal.

     1. Beautiful quote to highlight Janina, Carmin is living proof that is it possible to over come the deep anxiousness experienced by those who have lived through a war. Our greatest challenges are so often learning how to feel and not judge or fight those feelings, but to accept and allow, so that they can dissipate through us, like evaporating steam. In effect the fight to control the emotion keeps heating them up, learning to identify and accept them and know that they do not equal us being a failure or a bad person takes the heat out of the sitaution. Carmin clearly demonstrates the incredible results this can deliver and paves the way for so many of us to begin to change our relationship with anxiety, regardless of why or how it arises.

294. I’m about to sit an exam and I can feel my anxiety creeping in. My anxiety is with time. How much time I have per question and before I even read the question I am panicking and I ‘block’ my knowledge. It’s a really debilitating pattern I have created for myself. My tutor showed me through a sample question how long 2 minutes was and what I can achieve within that time. He also showed me how to break down the question. These techniques allowed me to create space with time and rebuild my confidence and disempower my anxiety.

295. Thank you Carmin for starting the conversation about an area that affects pretty much all of us in one form or another. I have an undercurrent anxiousness which can at times get very loud. This loudness usually corresponds with not feeling prepared for what I sense the day requires – often a direct result of my lack of care and attention to preparing for my day. The lack of preparation can be the quality of wind down at the end of the previous day and my sleep; it can be food, conversation, activities or thoughts that have a dulling effect on my energy; often it is ignoring my niggling awareness of attention required for the task at hand; etc. I already start off knowing I am not bringing my fullness and I am not honouring the constellation in front of me. I am less able to read what is required in situations that come up. And so the anxiousness and trying to control keep escalating. Until I remember and start making choices that honour who I am and take responsibility for my energy and my part in the world once more.

296. Isn’t it stunning how by choosing to face our fears they suddenly release their hold over us, as there suddenly is no more energy to feed them?

     1. Yes, Michael, it just shows how much we feed them by going into our ‘sad’ story and focussing on them as we try to avoid them.Take that away and there’s nothing to blow them up – like a limp balloon.

     2. Totally stunning Michael Kremer. If only we knew that all along. How much easier and evolutionary would that have been. It is an amazing gift from Universal Medicine to learn to allow ourselves to “… feel, to accept, and to heal a lifetime of anxiousness ..” or whatever emotions distract us from our lovely essence. A gift for all in fact.

     3. The ultimate trick to consider we feed our fears and give them power to appear mighty and overwhelming as if they own us and yet they are gone in an instant when we call them for what they are and give them no more fuel – this exposes how flimsy they are indeed and formed from lies.

     4. Great observation Michael, to feel them is to see them for what they truly are. The worry just adds fuel to them making them so much bigger… such a simple yet profound difference.

     5. The illusion of the strong grip is exposed.

297. I thought a lot as a child and now reflecting on it, it was an escape from what I was feeling, the anxiousness and sadness etc. I feel less anxious as I slowly grow and develop in acceptance of me. I will remember your blog that I don’t need to judge what I am feeling. Just observe and bring all my love and understanding to it.

     1. On reflecting I too as a child would go into my head because I simply didn’t want to feel; it was too painful as I didn’t want to see the world and the people living in it for what it was. Today I allow myself to feel my body but there are times especially when I am in the company of others where I shut down what I am feeling; it is afterwards when I am on my own and I want something to eat… which is a sure sign that I have ignored the feelings, that I begin to feel uncomfortable in my body and I know I have to be honest with myself to all that is there to be felt.

298. Wow I just couldn’t imagine growing up and living a in a war zone, what an amazing turn of events that have supported you in healing the other war that causes so much turmoil the war within

299. From my experience I know that just feeling what’s there can be unusual or uncomfortable but it also allows me to feel what’s great or amazing within me.

300. Constantly inspired by how healthy it is for our bodies to connect deeply to what we feel. Thank you for this sharing.

301. ‘The lesson for me is acceptance. Acceptance of who I am, acceptance of occurrences in my life, letting go of trying to control what can’t be controlled.’ Carmin this is fantastic and so beautifully written. I myself walk with anxiety in my everyday and am only just starting to get a sense of what that really is about for me – to really know that this is not me and this is the hold that is slowly being released.

     1. That breaks it down to the very essence of it – to know that we are not the anxiousness. To start dealing with anxiousness with this deep understanding already means to let go of the identification with it (giving our power to anxiousness) and reconnecting to who we are in truth. And to understand that anxiousness may be a construct (and a choice) that deliberately seeks to disconnect us from ourselves takes it even a step further and raises the question of why or what for.

302. Carmin that is amazing to see how far you have come. I particular felt connected to what you said about… “Whether we like it or not, we do feel everything all of the time…” and about only seeing colours you want. Of course we see all the colours and also feel everything all of the time. There is no hiding from it, denying it, or ignoring it. I also felt the tenderness and understanding you bring to yourself with now accepting more of who you are.

303. What amazing changes you have made Carmin. The thing that stood out for me reading your blog is that these things don’t go away until we face them. You moved across the world only for your anxiousness to follow you. When you have chosen to look deeper and feel what is going on is where the changes start to happen. I can relate to this very well.

304. Thank you Carmin for sharing about this part of your life which built up such a deep anxiety within you and later in your life when it re-occured your ability to step back and heal this debilitation through a loving acceptance of it. I like these words “In this, I realised that I have labelled certain emotions and feelings as ‘good’ or ‘bad’.” and how changing this led to the healing.

305. I love this Carmin – ‘Whether we like it or not, we do feel everything all of the time and can’t ‘pick and choose’ what we are prepared or not prepared to feel.” This is so true and all we have to do is be open to feeling all and the body will respond accordingly. I love your blog and you are so right when you say that it is time to accept who we are, all that happened in our lives and to let go of all that we can’t control anyway.

306. It is amazing to discover the many different ways we have stopped ourselves from feeling what is truly going on, trying to control everything around us and creating such huge anxiousness.

307. Carmin, this is amazing. I did not imagine that anxiousness was something to be truly felt and that by doing so you release the hold it has. We do have to be honest about the feelings that we have and you are right, we cannot pick and choose what to feel and what not to feel without stopping feeling everything. We ignore the feelings we have in our bodies at our peril. We may not like them but burying them deeper in our bodies cannot be healthy.
     The wisdom of your blog and accepting the things that have happened is inspiring. Thank you so much.

308. I love your blog Carmin, there is so much to see here. How many people in this world are anxious and carrying horrible momentums inside of them. What I have learned with Universal Medicine is the fact that there are karma and past life choices that effect us still in our current life – because the wound/issue was not healed. We can’t escape from this old momentum, but we can learn to feel them and accepting that they are there but choosing our divine essence and being all that we are.

309. What a great blog Carmin to read again is so supportive and revealing, Anxiousness is such an epidemic of behaviour patterns we use to keep us in a turmoil and separation from who we really are.This article is so supportive in seeing what is going on and how we can change this and have a new way of choices and simplicity of connection. The true choices are what we are making every moment opening up to the love we are everything else is not , no wonder anxiousness is a epidemic driving our bodies in ill health and disharmony. It is thanks to Serge Benhayon that this is being revealed by his inspiration and absolute integrity.

310. The War Within is one of that is deeply debilitating. The fact that Anxiousness affects everything we do, the quality we do it in and the way we feel and connect with people shows how much of a problem this has become. It’s deeply healing to understand the simplicity of acceptance, feeling what is their to be felt and knowing that this can change everything.

311. Dear Carmin, I could really relate to your blog as Anxiety has been a big one for me and persistently dogged my life. I know in my head that it is a choice but I still harden when I can sense this within. Your blog has really allowed me to see that it is possible to break out of this cycle which has felt like a trap for so long and that while I try to control it I will not break free. As you have said ‘By preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, the bad and the ugly) I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am’.

312. Its great that you are choosing to stop and feel this anxiousness and to not allow it to dominate your world. Knowing you are love and that you can always connect to that within allows us the choice to connect to our true power. Choosing to feel everything (the good and the bad) teaches us what is truly going on and allows us the space to heal that which doesn’t feel good.

313. I like: “just feel it and don’t fight it” – I guess to fight any feeling makes no sense and also it does not work at all.

314. Anxiousness is such a debilitating way of living so it is great that you talk about it Carmin, and expose the underlying ways it affects us. Learning to accept myself fully and not let self doubt creep in has helped me see the anxiousness for what it is and the un-necessary harm it can cause to myself and those around me

315. Thank you Carmin for sharing this and what a subject to discuss as Anxiousness is such a big thing for so many today. What came to me is when you mentioned driving and tunnels. I can recall in 2010 on a long flight that got delayed and then we had to land in another country. The coach trip was long and we had to go through a tunnel to reach the UK. This was to that day my worst nightmare. Panic attack would be mild words to use and I literally froze and my body was hard and the anxiousness was off the scale. Suddenly I started to practice the Gentle Breath that I had learned from Serge Benhayon. Sounds a bit airy fairy but it was not. I totally changed and I saw the doors close as we entered the tunnel and my mind was not having crazy thoughts. I stayed with my body and did not try and escape my feelings. Focussing on the gentle breath got me through. The total journey was 44 hours from Australia. A trip I will never forget and it most certainly healed a deep fear and that anxiousness has never come back.

316. Carmin what you so honestly present here is the pervasiveness of anxiousness, but that we can learn to befriend it, rather than fear and give it more energy. When we see it for what it is (separate from us) we can gently step away from it and release it from the body.

317. This is an amazing lesson in acceptance Carmin. Acceptance of anything that is there within us to feel, no matter what it is. The more we accept, feel and observe the difficult feelings that arise the more we are able to accept the amazing beings we are underneath all the feelings.

318. Mind over matter, or heart over matter, when we feel everything anxiousness will never have a foundation.

319. So many people that I speak with have a problem with being anxious and it is very crippling for them. I would say that it is far more common than we are aware of and hence why it is so important to discuss. What you have said Carmin about acceptance is a real key in dealing with it. I have found this in my own life.

     1. Hello Elizabeth Dolan and I would agree. Most of us live in anxiety but accept it as being a ‘normal’ part of our life. I think what Carmin is saying makes a lot of sense and what you have highlighted Elizabeth, “acceptance is a real key in dealing with it”.

320. If we have always lived with anxiousness we are not aware that there is another way of being that feels different in the body without anxiousness. However somewhere deep inside we all know that this is not our true way of being, that there is another way where we feel deeply surrendered in the body. The Gentle Breath meditation is an awesome meditation that gives us a taste of what this feel like, to come back to ourselves, it gives us a marker in our body to feel “this is me”.

321. Beautiful sharing Carmin 🙂

322. You have offered something really tangible Carmin when you shared …”the anxiousness rise. As I started to berate myself, I was inspired to ‘just feel it and don’t fight it “. Resisting the anxiousness when it comes up, I have experienced, seems to magnify it ten fold. Embracing and accepting this feeling actually enables letting go of its vice-like grip, and it diminishes. Its another opportunity to accept ourselves more deeply, Thanks Carmen.

323. This was beautiful to feel and read, learning to understand and accept all that we feel and to just be with it. I loved your analogy about colour…how very true! Overcoming ‘justifiable’ emotions like this by letting go of the fight to not have them, rather than just putting up with them as your lot in this life, feels like true healing to me.

324. There are subtle forms of anxiousness that many people feel but choose to suppress. Thank-you Carmin for giving a deeper understanding of how by not trying to control these negative feelings but by accepting them is the key in being able to let them go. ” by preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, and the bad) I prevented myself from feeling my divine essence and being all that I am”.

325. Carmin thank you for sharing the impact of the pattern on anxiousness has had in your life. What I loved about what you have shared is the fact that you choose not to judge the anxiousness you were feeling. It seems when we judge anything that we dont like in how we feel in our bodies, it tends to magnify instead of abaiting it. By surrendering to what we feel (or stop fighting) thats when the potiental to change it actually presents which is happening for me at the moment with physical issue in my body.

     1. This is an excellent point Sharon. On top of anxiousness, many people choose to judge themselves and beat themselves up for being anxious or nervous – which just ends up making it a hundred times harder to pick themselves back up from the anxiousness! It can be a very vicious cycle, one I know I’ve been trapped in in the past with self loathing and acceptance – I get angry at myself for not taking care of my body, and as a result don’t take care of my body… This can go on, and on and on, and can have awful affects.

326. This is such a powerful blog Carmen. To accept everything you feel without judgement is truly healing. I grew up where if you started to cry because something hurt you the response from others was “cheer up” or there would be a distraction to take you away from allowing yourself to feel what you felt. I realise now sometimes the tears are not so much an emotional reaction but a clearing that washes away the pain. When that process is interrupted it traps what is to be cleared and makes the body feel tense and constricted instead of allowing for the expansion and opening up to feel how glorious we are.

327. I have noticed the more I feel what my body is telling me, the more I am open to the profound wisdom it has to share. We spend most of our lives being educated to think from our minds and forget that our body has another form of intelligence to share. Forget about it, that is, until we are in pain or otherwise, when it speaks very loudly!

328. Anxiousness is pandemic in today’s society, although many would probably not know it. We have so many ways to escape our anxiety, from medication to TV. What you offer here is fantastic, not to judge how you are feeling, but simply to notice it and accept, but not in a way that has you powerless, but actually empowers you in honouring yourself.

329. Thank you for such simple and profound living wisdom Carmin: “By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing. Whether we like it or not, we do feel everything all of the time and can’t ‘pick and choose’ what we are prepared or not prepared to feel.”
     Being selective prevents us being amazing… I love how simple this feels.

330. Carmin your sharing of how it actually felt to surrender to the anxiousness feels amazing. You choosing to hold your connection to your essence while accepting unpleasant, overwhelming feelings also being felt at the same moment is huge.
     How freeing and light this must feel in your body, knowing that the anxiousness doesn’t control.

331. The lesson that we cannot pick and choose what we feel is such a profound one, Carmin Thank you for reminding me of it!

332. It is amazing what happens when we allow ourselves to simply feel our body without judgment or going in to it. Just observing what is going on without reaction and feeling what our body is telling us. Thank you for this honest and open blog Carmin.

333. Reading today I can feel how turning a blind eye to parts we don’t like actually keeps us stuck with them. What you share here Carmin helps me see fundamentally how the anxiousness is not me.

     1. Right on Joseph, such a great reminder that ‘the anxiousness is not me’….its there and doing its thing and all I have to do is stay home in my body and let it be. After so many years of ignored and sophisticated numbing techniques I love the space that opens up when I let go of control and allow, revealing, even if the feeling of anxiety remains, that it is absolutely not me.

     2. I agree Joseph, we try to deny what we feel and override it. This way we don’t deal with it and it stays in our body.

334. “thinking about something else to distract me from the anxiousness I was feeling” This for me was quite an important point Carmin, because it is something I can definitely relate to having done quite considerably throughout my life, the feeling of being anxious can feel so consumptive and therefore the need to go into my mind to distract myself has been rather prominent, the affect this was having was massive on body, I would feel constantly drained, never allowing myself to be still and could never open myself up to the world and people and the crazy thing is – because I was distracting myself from feeling it, then it meant I could never once deal with it. In more recent times the feeling of anxiety has been lessening more and more as I am understanding that the anxiety comes from not first being with me. I learnt through the process many mechanisms to deal with the anxiety rather than run from it, such as feeling how my body feels rather than distracting myself in the head, building up confidence in a foundation of a day to day rhythm, or doing an activity to bring me back to feeling my body rather than the anxiety such as going for a walk. Anxiety is a horrific illness that we are learning to tolerate, rather than addressing the issue and how to deal with it.

     1. Such a great comment Oliver. I can really relate to what you are sharing and your point: “because I was distracting myself from feeling it, then it meant I could never once deal with it”, is so true. I caught myself yesterday racing in my head trying to get everything done, but then I stopped and asked why I actually needed to get everything done as soon as possible as actually it was not needed at all. I noticed I was ignoring to appreciate myself for my day and not dealing with this lack of feeling worth of appreciation drove me into anxiousness and my mind. Once I stopped and felt me and my body I was able to deal with it.

335. Anxiousness is so unnecessary isn’t it. It is just our mind running away with itself which then causes undue tension in the body and it is exhausting! Our body is only equipped with dealing with the present, so maybe we choose anxiousness to distract ourselves from not feeling the love that we are, yet at the same time this love is what we yearn for.

     1. So true and beautifully said Sandrahenden. Anxiousness comes from a lack of presence.

336. Carmin, I love how you have explained your experiences with anxiousness. I feel that most of us suffer from this much of the time. This feels so very important to me, “By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing. Whether we like it or not, we do feel everything all of the time and can’t ‘pick and choose’ what we are prepared or not prepared to feel”. What a great sharing this is, obviously the key is to just stop and let yourself feel the anxiousness that is there, with no judgment, and see what happens. You have shared that acceptance is the key, and that feels so right to me now. Yes, yes, accept whatever is there, which then of course includes all the beautiful things we can accept, such as the true love that we really are within us all. But if we shut down from feeling the anxiousness then we also shut down our ability to feel the beautiful. An awful result. I thank you for this amazing sharing.

     1. Hi Beverley and Carmin I agree that just STOPPING in these situations is great. Sometimes if I feel myself getting busy or anxious it can also be a message that one of these things have happened: I have left myself, lost my breath, disconnected from my body, got caught up in the spin of the world, absorbed something etc – all I need to do is stop for a moment reconnect and all is well again. What I reconnect to is my body, my presence and my breath – it might only take a few seconds. It is very simple because over the years I have developed a marker in my body of what it feels like to be connected to myself in stillness so that allows me to recognise what is not of that quality and reconnect to it. It doesn’t work 100% of the time in which case I have other techniques including moving in total presence. The main thing is not to continue to act in that energy and let it build up in my body as it is harmful to both myself and others.

337. Beautiful – not fighting the anxiousness anymore and not judging the feeling, this should be taught to every psychologist, counselor, teacher, doctor, parent… This is so empowering!

338. It is interesting what you say about using logic to calm the mind as I can see after having read this blog this morning how much logic comes in through the day to explain different difficult situations, it is not isolated to anxiousness. This observation exposes how much the mind can override what is going on and there to be felt and grow from. Thank you Carmin for raising my awareness to this.

     1. Yes the mind is tricky. Sometimes I catch myself when I think I am with my body but I am actually thinking and not completely present.

        1. Yes johanna08smith I recognise this too, without true presence, the mind can take you everywhere.

339. The moment I go into thoughts of not being enough anxiousness strikes again. The moment I re-connect to the knowing of who I am and accepting myself as being enough and equal, anxiousness has no hold over me any longer. Either I am outside of myself or I rest deeply inside me.

     1. I love this Alex so simple so true and it says it all to me. Either i am outside of myself and thus in anxiousness or I rest deeply within me . Thank you beautiful and Carmen for this very real blog.

     2. You raise a great point Alex, With anxiousness there is a fight, struggle and resistance to all that is so easily there waiting for me to accept. When we surrender and accept there is a deep rest and feeling of being held. That holding is always there as soon as I let go, I just can’t feel it when I am caught in the struggle.

        1. Further proof of us choosing to create (and not being victims of) the struggle to separate from being held, i.e. being part of a greater whole governed by harmonious order and love – as much as we suffer by our creations we somehow seem to ‘enjoy’ it anyway.

     3. Great comment Alex, I can relate to what you say, when I doubt myself or have thoughts of not being good enough it is as if I call in this energy to feel anxious to confirm my lack of self-worth. And when I feel great, there is no room for feelings of anxiousness. So for me this means that feeling anxious is because of a choice we have already made before we let this energy in.

340. This is an amazing and honest blog Carmen, And so revealing for all of us. It is clear that you have had anxiousness quite strongly in your life the whole time, and the events in your life or surroundings that makes it understandable – like Civil War and Violence around you. But what is important to also mention is that so many people, even here in Australia where we live mostly free and undisturbed lives – still carry the anxiousness of not accepting themselves in who they are each and everyday. We walk around in a kind of tension and tightness or ‘holding’ in our bodies. It is actually there all the time for so many. I have it sometimes still and I have been aware of it and consciously letting go of it for some time now. The question I ask here is why would we need to live in anxiousness when we really have nothing to be afraid of?

     1. A great point simplesimon888, and I am sure many would feel the same. Part of this I feel is that we are trained to act in this way, they have been our reflections for aeons on how to live in this world, so working on stopping these behaviours does take effort in the beginning and being consistent with it does take dedication. Once the behaviour has been dismantled then there is an accepting in all that you are, as you have said but in all areas of life not just the parts you think is needed most.

     2. Good point Simon, I have no war or violence in my life yet I feel a deep anxiousness which at times I allow to really affect how I function. It is key I feel in knowing that the anxiousness is not who I really am but something that I have let take hold of me, and that there are tools and techniques I can use to alleviate these feelings and take back control of my life. That self acceptance is so important and what I have learnt is that no-one else can give that to us, we have to apply the deep care for ourselves that means appreciation overcomes anxiousness.

        1. The simple statement of anxiousness not being who you are is immensely powerful. Something that can assist many people who are afflicted by this condition.

     3. So true simplesimon888. The holding pattern keeps us in a constant fight or flight tension, even when there is no foreseeable danger. It is no wonder that humanity uses things like drugs, alcohol, tv and other mental checking out activities to escape the exhaustion created by the anxiousness.

     4. This is a great question simplesimon888. For me the key is being aware of the anxiousness I can carry – without this awareness there is seemingly nothing to question.

     5. Yep, so true simpleSimon888. I have lived in a ‘safe’ environment my whole life, yet it doesn’t chnage the fact that I have been in battle with myself for as long as I can remember. There is nothing to feat – exactly! So why do we play the game and listen to the thoughts that enter when we know they are not true?

     6. Well said smpleSimon888. This was what struck me when I read carmen’s blog that many of us don’t have an obvious external reason for the anxiousness. It is a constant for most people even though it varies in how strongly it affects us. It is so true that it is a tightness and holding in of ourselves and it takes a lot of effort to hold back all we naturally are. When I let go of this need to hold myself in, accept the grandness that is there, the anxiousness melts away. I am still exploring this, but I am finding that anxiousness and acceptance are very interwoven.

341. To honour what we feel instead of controlling and selecting what is anyway there but is not liked takes away the tension of avoiding what we don´t want to feel and accept. Just that is already a relief and gives space to responsibly and self-lovingly take care of the issue. The ability to be and deal with whatever we feel was not taught to most of us but is very necessary to not feel overwhelmed by life and it is never too late to learn such self-empowerment.

342. What you are sharing here Carmin is really great. By accepting everything about what you feel it becomes clearer then what is and is not you, therefore accepting you becomes more simple. Also there is nothing wrong with anything that we feel, we may not necessarily like it, but our body speaks to us in a myriad of ways and through accepting what you were feeling, you were accepting the miracle that our body is. A great lesson for us all.

343. Wow Carmin, this is extremely inspiring for people who may be suffering from anxiousness to read. How you have overcome it sounds so simple, by …”Acceptance of who I am, acceptance of occurrences in my life, letting go of trying to control what can’t be controlled.” This is the key to no longer choosing to live with anxiousness, absolutely inspiring Carmin, Thank You!

344. “By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing”. Carmin this was also a revelation which came to me some time ago. I also became aware that “by preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, the bad and the ugly) I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am”. The more that we allow and accept the feelings that confirm our connection to the divine, the less the feelings associated with anxiousness can affect us.

345. This is great to see another way of recognizing what Acceptance means – I have not been putting acceptance of myself together with accepting all feelings that pass through me- in a sense I see by rejecting so many feelings I have been rejecting myself – and then giving myself a really hard time, berating myself for not being connected and hurting me, but not understanding that the way to acceptance is simply by allowing myself to feel everything that is going on including the feelings that come up within me. I’m going around in circles! Literally too.

346. I love this Carmin, I too had a similar realisation that in all this effort to not feel how awful things are I was missing out on feeling my power and the beauty I was held in, you have deepened this with your analogy. We can’t pick and choose what we feel but rather accept all that is there to be felt.

     1. True Vanessa, if I have an idea that I could just focus on the ‘good bits’ and avoid the ‘bad’ then I am in effect not able to feel the real glory. So I am in effect not accepting all of me in any way. It shows it’s not a bad thing at all to feel how awful things are.

347. It is amazing that after all these years of anxiousness you discovered that allowing to feel all there is to feel is actually really healing and might provide you with a real way out instead of an imaginary one like avoiding the feeling of fear.

348. If we talk about acceptance I have to be honest about how I have been busy with trying to change what was happening in my life and life in general. I have always reacted instead of observing and accepting the way things are. Very stubbornly I tried to make things better, I now can see it was all control and based on sympathy instead of accept and see what is truly needed. So yes acceptance is the lesson for me too Carmin, and to let go all the way to surrender to God.

     1. Acceptance of the own amazingness by feeling everything what is there to be felt and choosing not the reaction but this grandness inside. Looking at the anxiousness from that place it is so much more enjoyable; it just needs to let go of this pride.

349. Could it be that anxiousness can become a ‘comfort’ that allows us to avoid the responsibility of accepting our amazingness?

     1. Good question Peter. I guess we put up all sorts of obstacles as we have all been reacting to the outside world not knowing there is this amazingness within us which we can connect to and live in a way that is not in reaction.

350. As you share, Carmin, if we build a shield to protect ourselves from feeling what is unpleasant we also block feeling those things which are loving and joyful. Personally I had built not just a shield but a fortress and thankfully through loving inspiration and support of the Benhayon family and Universal Medicine I have begun the dismantling of this fortress.

351. Carmin, there is so much wisdom in this blog. It is very easy for us to focus on the negativity rather than feeling deeper in to what is there. Although my anxiety levels have been greatly reduced since making changes in the way I live I still get caught up in the negativity of anxiety which it does not need to be. Thank you for sharing your experience.

352. As I honour me and take great care to nurture me and consciously self care, it alleviates and reduces the anxiousness that can be in my day. When I let my rhythm slip, the subtle waves of anxiousness can slip in, if I focus on this, I only seem to make the thoughts more real and the whole rhythm goes out the door.

353. These are great words of advice…”The lesson for me is acceptance. Acceptance of who I am, acceptance of occurrences in my life, letting go of trying to control what can’t be controlled.” I will be trying this next time the anxiousness creeps in for me.

     1. Yes acceptance, but equally important – appreciation for who we are. The more we truly look at the world, the more we start to understand that we are always looked after and held in the body of God. We do not appreciate the fact of our simple existence enough.

     2. Yes, Irena what a great quote from Carmin, it says it all. Continutally going to acceptance of who I am and allowing that to filter throughout my body is the answer to anxiousness.

     3. True Irena. Acceptance is key and I feel is vital in all areas of our daily life. I find that when I choose to accept then I am allowing and being honest with who I am and what I feel. We can accept many things, for example, others’ choices, our own power, the feelings we are currently feeling, our life and past choices, our amazing qualities and so on. This then allows us to change old harming patterns and build on the truths in our lives.

     4. Irena that’s what is so great about reading all these blogs. They allow us to try things like Carmin suggested and to not go into our usual patterns.

     5. These words are huge. Acceptance is a blessing if we are willing to go there. Sometimes, if not often, it feels like we are relinquishing control but the reality is we are loosening the tight hold from around our necks and the burden we carry on our shoulders and elsewhere within.

354. Wonderful Carmin, I so enjoyed reading this blog and feeling there is no need to shut out or judge any feelings – just gorgeous!

     1. Yes Susan Hayes, its great to know that we don’t need to shut out or judge any feelings, but can just let them be when they come up and then know that they are not us anyway, just something that we have chosen to take on but they are not more powerful than us.

     2. We do seem to have judgement inbuilt and I feel so much of this has been imposed from our education system. I question why we find it hard to accept and why we tend to see things as right or wrong instead of seeing it as being true or not true for us.

355. How amazing that you were able to feel your anxiousness and your essence simultaneously, Carmin, so that your essence could highlight that the anxiousness wasn’t you. We do seem to believe that you can’t feel more than one thing at a time – perhaps because of the limitation of not being able to think of more than one thing at a time. You show how feeling operates differently to this – that we can, in fact, feel everything at once – including two very distinctly different feelings. How miraculous that the lesser emotion dissolves in the light of the True feeling of self / essence.
     We have an amazing Father…..

356. I love this Carmin.”By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing. True acceptance of ourselves comes from allowing ourselves to feel ALL that is there. Only in this allowing do we come to recognise that which is truly us and that which is not”. It is this recognition that allows the “not” to start to dissipate.

357. Carmin, even though I didn’t live in a war torn country, I have always been anxious, I would also go running into my parents room each night as I was frightened. What you have said is so amazing, because when I got that anxiousness I would also tell myself that I shouldn’t get it, so would try to shut it down and not feel. Thank you for expressing another way.

358. Wow, Carmen, thank you for talking about your experience. ‘I may have lived during wars, but the real fight was within me.’ what a divine revelation, I am so glad it came to you, and gave back your power. Amazing.

359. As stated in the blog we can be selective about what we allow ourselves to feel and it can work both ways. Not only do we select ‘positive’ or good feelings to focus on, sometimes we may be in the habit of dwelling on negative ones, when that is not the whole picture and even only a very small part of what is going on in our bodies. Carmin shares ” By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing.” This seems pivotal to acceptance, embracing we are so much more than what may have become the focus to keep us small in our lives.

360. This is very inspiring to read Carmin, especially how you were able to stop and just feel the anxiousness for what it was. My life has been run on anxiousness and it played out as hardness and control – endlessly trying to fix everything and everyone so I would be ok, and it was exhausting! The interesting thing is that I was totally oblivious to this whole game until attending Universal Medicine presentations – thank God for Serge Benhayon presenting Truth and the Way of the Livingness.

361. What a corker of a blog Carmin, thank you. I love what you have written and I agree that quite often it is the fighting that causes the most trouble…when we surrender quite often it dissipates. A great remedy for returning to you and realising that anxiety is not us.

362. “To feel, accept, and heal a lifetime of anxiousness” – a true miracle with the help of one super simple tool, i.e. to feel it all without judgment or the need for it to be other than what it is.

363. What you say is great about “just feel it and dont fight it”, re the anxiousness, Carmin. This is when I feel very vulnerable but I am slowly learning that vulnerability is a good thing and in letting myself feel, whilst breathing gently with much more tenderness towards myself, (rather than hardening to mask the anxiousness) it dissipates.

364. I loved reading your blog Carmin. We cannot filter what we want to feel and what we don’t want to feel by control, for we feel everything all of the time. How different counselling would be if this was what was shared in sessions rather than teaching techniques to distract from those feelings.

365. Wow Carmin reading this has helped me remember that’s exactly what I did when I was a kid ! Minus the war though… But I was really scared at night and in the dark and I too would actively generate as many happy distracting thoughts as possible. Funny, redecorating my bedroom and my wedding were top of my list too!!! That really explains everything! And the fact that I’ve not allowed myself to feel that anxiousness and just kept it going even though now there really is nothing to be anxious about…. I feel like I can have some understanding for myself for being such a head strong thinker – something which I have recently felt really overwhelmed with… Awesome blog thanks.❤️

366. I too Carmin, have experienced lifelong anxiousness to a point where I just accepted it as a part of who I was and had almost given up that life would be any other way. And running parallel with the anxiousness was exhaustion, as you can’t expect your body to be continually anxiousness and not be affected in other ways: my body was a continual battle field. It was finally by finding my way to the inspiring presentations of Serge Benhayon that I learned about feeling energy, and how we often choose to numb ourselves so we don’t feel the pain and discomfort in our body, and I realised that I definitely had been a master at that. And like you I soon learned that: “Whether we like it or not, we do feel everything all of the time and can’t ‘pick and choose’ what we are prepared or not prepared to feel.” This was a life changing lesson, one that has made so much sense of the anxiousness and as a result it now makes very few appearances in my life

367. “By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing.”-
     I too have experienced anxiousness in the past, and have tried to suppress it by distraction, or numbing the feeling with food.
     I have also tried to convince myself that it is ridiculous.
     In judgement of it being bad I have stopped myself from surrendering to it, and allowing it to just be and know that deep down this is not me. In stillness, I can feel the strength and power of who I am.

368. This insight is significant. “At the same time as feeling the anxiousness, I could feel my inner strength and power.” – the fact that the moment we allow ourself to notice what we feel, we immediately recognize that what we feel is not who we are and that in fact there is a strength within that is far greater than what we feel from the outside.

369. ‘“By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing.” This blog is full of gems and wisdom including this pearl.

370. I really appreciated being able to understand a little more of what life can be like growing up for people in harsher places – thank you for sharing this with us.

371. Carmin I know that feeling of anxiousness very well from my past. Once we understand what it is that causes that anxiousness, then we can do something about it, but I know that we often have no idea what the cause is! So using the Gentle Breath Meditation will often be enough. I congratulate you in singling out the feeling that you need to look at everything that comes up to be felt and let go of.

372. What a great sharing and observation Carmin anxiousness is such an epidemic in the world and a destructor to our own stillness within. You show the way of livingness to support our consistency and trust of our innermost connection to who we really are and to live it all the time. A great sharing and wisdom with the enormous support of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon thank you.

     1. Beautifully said Tricia. Anxiousness is indeed an epidemic, not only among the war generation. If we don’t deal with anxiousness it becomes more extreme and can extend into panic attacks.

373. Carmin , thank so much for sharing about this very important subject. I am sure we all experience anxiousness although to varying degrees. It feels so true to allow ourselves to feel all that is coming up because I feel when we try and push something away or not feel it ,the issue just gets suppressed again and that is not good for our bodies!

374. I love how you compare closing our eyes to seeing colours to closing our senses to feeling what is there to be felt. Such a good analogy! Anxiety is something that has been a big part of my life as well, and I spent a very long time trying to numb it out and at times felt paralysed by it’s affect on me. But it’s true that in feeling these things, along with everything else, we are unlocking the power they have over us and releasing the love from within.

375. Looking back in my childhood I can really feel how anxiousness crept in and started to take hold. Now that ‘tight grip’ is loosing its constrictive grasp. Gently with the amazing teachings of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon those old patterns I hid behind are releasing their hold as like you Carmin I’m learning “to accept and to heal a lifetime of anxiousness”. Your sharing has given me an opportunity to go deeper with this healing and to accept with appreciation how far I have travelled also. Thank you.

376. I have spent a large part of my life living with anxiousness and most times it was myself that created it. Stress was a drug that drove me. I now live in London and I do not do stress or anxiety, even the traffic jams give me time for reflection… and I can only put it down to what I have discovered about myself with my association with Universal Medicine.

     1. sjmatsonuk, how great to have the awareness of being the cause of your own stress and reactions to it. I had never thought of stress being like a drug before – thank you for offering this angle to it.
        “Stress was a drug that drove me. I now live in London and I do not do stress or anxiety, even the traffic jams give me time for reflection… and I can only put it down to what I have discovered about myself with my association with Universal Medicine.”

     2. For most of my working life I have lived with stress and anxiety. I was hooked on stress too as it kept me driven to succeed. I am so very thankful to Universal Medicine that the stress and anxiety I used to feel have gradually diminished over time to almost non existent without me trying.

     3. Interesting how easy it is for us to create anxiousness ourselves, and blame it on the things happening in our environment or the people around us; a great example being living in a city – people having to get to work quickly, traffic jams, tourists and so forth, but as you say it is our choice how we respond to those situations, and something like a traffic jam can go from being the biggest, most stressful inconvenience in the whole entire world to an opportunity for reflection and calm.

     4. That is such a huge turn around sjmatson, to realise that stress was a drug you were choosing to drive yourself with. I too can see these days that choosing anxiousness is a way to avoid a situation I am not willing to address or be accountable for and I know that studying with Universal Medicine has enabled to me stay with myself more and more and choose anxiousness less and less.

377. All consuming anxiousness – Having experienced this one too I can, so relate to this amazing sharing of your journey Carmin. Trying to manipulate these such debilitating bouts of anxiousness and panic attacks with controlling mind games has not worked for me in the past either. An allowing to feel all that there is to come up and to accept with an openness/honesty that these bouts are not who I really am, but a distraction to prevent me from ‘connecting to my divine essence’. Thank you Carmin for this heartfelt sharing.

378. I come across anxiousness, fear and panic attacks a lot in my practice and most either withdraw from life or try to fight it, meaning to fix what is going on. As you say Carmin the key here is to allow it to be so it can be felt and when we feel we can discover there is so much more to connect to then just this feeling of fear or anxiousness, there is a sea of love and stillness underneath. From this connection it is much easier to address the root cause of the feeling and a true healing can occur.

     1. It is true Carolien, I come across anxiousness much in my salon and also in my day to day life. It seems that it has become a normal way to live life, so normal in fact that many actually do not even know that they are anxious. Having seen this as normal myself until working with Universal Medicine I can say that it is so NOT normal and a very exhausting way to live life. Realising that you can actually do something about it with support of esoteric practitioners and a commitment and dedication to working on it, it is something that can be let go of and what a joy to not live with such an exhausting behaviour.

        1. That’s a good point Amina, it has become so common that many do not know how stillness and harmony feel in the body. I know I sure did not for a very big part of my life, even when I at a time could not work due to illness. My body was always agitated with sugar, caffeine and most of all an always underlying feeling of not being good enough. This was my normal and not until meeting Serge Benhayon did I find a way back to the stillness within.

     2. So true, Caroline Our beauty within is the place to connect, and it is in everyone, we just have to allow it to be connect back to it. Rebuilding trust in feeling our pure essence is allowing to heal the wounds inside.

     3. This is so lovely to feel what you have shared Carolien “when we feel we can discover there is so much more to connect to than just this feeling of fear or anxiousness, there is a sea of love and stillness underneath.” Yes we are so much more than the uncomfortable anxious, nervous, fearful experiences that come up first. It’s one of the tricks of life I’ve been discovering, that is to think I have a problem and stay so focused on that I forget there is a deep well of loving connection to the divine to live and celebrate.

379. Anxiousness is probably the most underrated yet potent illness in our lives. To be honest I had never considered it to be an illness till right now. I suppose anything is an illness if it separates us from love. On our path back to God and living from love, we can build false ideals based on what we should look like on this path – projecting the image of ‘on top of it’ or ‘in control’. Lately I too have come to allowing myself to feel what is going on rather than trying to fix it. Focusing on the fix is actually ignoring what we feel. A very clever way to not deal with stuff like anxiousness that can keep us stuck for many years, even whole lives.

     1. Absolutely great point Jinya ‘I suppose anything is an illness if it separates us from love.’

380. Describing anxiety as the war within is a great analogy, as when I feel anxious I know that I am choosing not to feel what is going on inside me or around me or both. This then creates a war within as I really do want to connect to what is there to be felt as I am feeling it anyway, I am just not connected to it. So the war begins. What I find interesting is that the war begins because we actually do want to feel as this is our natural way, whereas being disconnected is not.

381. I experience anxiousness as a doubt on what I am. When I doubt who I am, which is the son of God, then I get disconnected to who I am and then I cannot feel the support from my divine brothers anymore. I am lost. Here I want to control life – which is not really possible – and so I get anxious when that is revealed. As soon as I reconnect – be it by accepting that I am a feeling being, or my breath, or what ever works at this time – anxiousness does not get fed anymore. So anxiousness is one signal flag for that it is time to reconnect or to connect deeper. It is not my enemy – it is just a reflection.

382. Wow Carmin, what a cracker! “By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing.” – Our strategy to not feel our hurts, anxiousness or what ever does not work at all AND is keeping us away from our amazingness as well. Feeling is what we do, all the time. To accept that is one step back to our true being – which is nothing else than amazing.

     1. In leaving our body behind and not staying present with us and all that we are feeling, we disconnect from Love and from God. Accepting and appreciating in every moment is key. When we remain connected and in our body, we are equipped for anything.

        1. Love that Deborah! “When we remain connected and in our body, we are equipped for anything.” – Our connection to our body & soul prepare us for all occasions. No need to control.

383. You’re writing ‘my words’ Carmin. I’ve also been – as long as I can remember – anxious. There are hardly any moments that I am not. And – as you – it is only recently that I noticed the difference when I just allow myself to feel it. As if it took the Power away of this feeling. As soon as I felt it – even now when I’m writing – I can feel that I am connecting to my Sacredness and Power. It feels as if I’m connecting to the True me. The Me that I can feel. It’s Beautiful and confirming. And there are also many thoughts and other feelings around it. More exploration what is going on is revealing itself. Thank you Carmin.

     1. I can relate to what you are saying here Floris, and I agree this is a really valuable blog Carmin has written regarding anxiousness – I also recognize that I am not letting myself really feel my feelings much of the time, if I were feeling all my feelings then I would be present with myself and then I would have no need to be anxious! It almost feels like a hard wall I have trained myself to put up and I can also feel how exhausting it is to maintain that wall of ‘protection’ to prevent myself from registering what is passing through me anyway! It just makes me less aware or partially numb. And when I realize that if I were to let myself feel everything that is passing through I would also get to feel much more of my amazingness I see what an horrible trick I have been playing on myself!

     2. Thank you, Floris, for your confirmation of what Carmin has shared in her blog. I feel that the next time I feel this anxiousness come up, it is time to let myself really feel it, and not try to avoid feeling it, and see what develops.

     3. Floris, you are expressing my experiences with anxiousness. It is interesting to observe how anxiousness is like a subtle energy which seems to control my life, my thoughts and actions. It is like I am doing the things I do in a rhythm which is subtly controlled by anxiousness. All these have to do things are done under a certain pressure or sense of duty and are controlled by an anxiousness. What would happen if I would not do them this way? When there is no more pressure, which is often the motivation fuel, how different would it feel to live one’ s life, as then the fuel would be nothing but love.

     4. Ah, thank you Floris for your honesty and sharing your experience with anxiousness. Connecting to the true me, is so healing. And we cannot hide from feeling our hurts, going there is the step out of it, with the knowing that underneath the hurt is love.

384. Thank you Carmin for sharing your inspiration to ‘just feel it and don’t fight it’ when the anxiousness rose up in you. Having gone in and out of periods of anxiousness in my life and having always tried to rationalise it away I can relate to how disabling it can be and how trying to control it didn’t work. As you share acceptance has been key for me in allowing myself to accept me, anxiousness and all, and stop berating myself for being a bad person and a failure because I was anxious.

     1. Helen ‘just feel it and don’t fight it’ is an approach we can take to many areas of life, it is so easy to fight what we feel if we don’t like or accept it (or want it not to be there) but as Carmin has shared through feeling and acceptance its the only way for it to truly change.

     2. Thank you also Helen for sharing your experience. Both yourself and Carmin have helped me to understand more about anxiousness and those who go through it.

     3. Awesome Helen, your sharing is so honest and inspiring. I have experienced mild anxiousness. I rarely experience it anymore now and that is due to accepting more and more of who I am, letting go of control, allowing myself to feel everything, appreciating myself, everyone and everything.

     4. Anxiousness leaves one without self-confidence and opens one up for all kinds of doubts and mental overactivity, creating a cycle that feeds and repeats itself without allowing to see another possibility. To accept what we feel without judgement but as observing and accepting as possible slows down the merry-go-round and we may even be able to jump out of it.

        1. Agreed Alex. The non-judgment of the anxiousness is key as the judgment or ‘stern parent voice’ in us just creates more anxiety.

     5. I wonder if an “antidote” for anxiousness is not trying to fix it or fight it. Bringing understanding is an incredible first step.

     6. I’ve learnt the cycle of berating oneself doesn’t evolve us, it keeps us stagnating and staying in comfort even though it feels uncomfortable. To heal is to truly accept what is going on and bring truth to what the anxiousness is really about.

     7. I relate to what you said Helen. I also have had anxiousness and sometimes it rears up again – it is a bit like a background noise that sometimes gets louder. As Carmin said, ‘I have periods of time when I feel my strength and amazingness – I feel stillness, with a solid foundation of knowing who I am, I feel my ‘yumminess’, my essence. I also have periods when I just can’t connect to this, even though I know it is there, always, inside me’ .

        Acceptance of myself, stopping giving myself a hard time, has allowed me to accept being all that I am. This is a really great blog Carmin.

385. This is a great example of managing the good, bad and ugly through hardness and control, many people would end up on medication or going to a therapists for this kind of panic attack. As you say Carmin we have the key, through consistently building trust with our innermost, even in these bad moments we are able to let go of long held patterns and allow our bodies to return to the all, the strength and power that we are.

     1. Great point Lucinda, Carmin has proven that there is a new way of dealing with anxiety and panic, through learning to build trust in something within us rather than depending on some one or something outside of us. We can achieve the most miraculous shifts in deeply held behaviours through building that inner trust and surrendering to it in moments of stress, which in turn supports us to feel even more and to learn the difference between what is truly us and what is being released from us, an important distinction in re-discovering who we truly are.

     2. A wonderful reflection Lucindag. Many conditions can be healed by lovingly being with ourselves day by day and as you say ‘building trust with our innermost’. One day this truth will be known and available to many. Someone I know, and for whom medication has been the chosen route for years, still lives with the debilitating effects of anxiousness and panic attacks.

     3. You say it Lucinda, and the costs to treat anxiousness for the medical system are huge and out of control. And medication taken for lifelong are having also side effects, to cope with. Returning back to the bodies own healing in allowing ourselves to go to the root issue of the anxiousness and rebuilding the love we are back to our daily life is the way. Thanks to Universal Medicine with amazing modalities that can support in a true way.

     4. I agree Lucinda, by learning how to deal with all of what we are aware of we then automatically deal with our anxiousness. Once we have the confidence from our body we can see how the anxiousness arises from outside of us first, before we internalise and magnify it.

386. I have recently viewed the College of Universal Medicine’s Anxiety in Men online course http://study.coum.org/enrol/index.php?id=14 and there was a lot of discussion about the management strategies we use to try and manage anxiety which actually psychologically and physiologically end up feeding the anxiety more. There was also a lot of discussion about allowing ourselves to feel the anxiety and not judge whether it was good or bad. Valuable stuff and I highly recommend it to all men because I feel it is a big unspoken about epidemic in men today.

     1. What an invaluable resource – Thank you Andrew for bringing this to the attention of us all.

     2. This is really helpful Andrew, ‘allowing ourselves to feel the anxiety and not judge whether it was good or bad.’ This feels like it would take the pressure and intensity off the anxiousness and stop us thinking that we have done something wrong or that there is something wrong with us.

     3. ‘..I feel it is a big unspoken about epidemic in men today.’ I feel this too, Andrew. There is a deeply cemented belief in our society that men have to be courageous and without angst. With all the stresses and expectations in today’s life this is, for most, impossible. And if they do not feel it, then they have probably pushed it away and not addressed it.

     4. So true Andrew, building a relationship with what we are feeling is critical to understanding anxiety, and the course you mentioned is absolutely outstanding, very practical and down to earth.

        1. That seems to be the key, feel and understand the anxiety. There seems to be a stop moment needed when it starts to stir, to be able feel whats going on in the body and whats coming up. Very powerful and healing.

     5. Yes, the more you try to fight anxiety and get rid of it, the stronger it becomes, especially when we try to push away what we feel. Nevertheless, allowing myself to feel anxiety feels very challenging to me as I have recently noticed a deep and buried level of anxiety in my body that I never felt before. I heard lots of recommendations of this course and will definately do it now online.

387. This was so powerful to read Carmen, about how we tend to accept certain feelings but not all feelings. I can so relate to this and for years when anxiousness or nervousness would come up I would feel like a failure or wrong for feeling that which of course created more anxiousness! I love this – “By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing.”

     1. I have experience this Aimee as I have also had those feelings of being a failure or being weak and a bit pathetic because I have felt anxious in situations where I can see others are thriving and really enjoying themselves and I feel I should be doing the same. And of course that fear of the failure just creates more anxiousness, when in fact an allowing can clear away some of the strength of the feelings and allow ourselves to just be in that situation much more willingly.

        1. I can feel a lot understanding in your writing Stephen, and that shows that you have allowed yourself to heal with the understanding for yourself. Anxiousness is huge and I do know many people that are effected by it. The journey back to the hurts can be a bit uncomfortable, but once we allow to go there, it gets easier and easier. Feeling the hurts and choosing the love we are is the way I have found to be the true way of getting rid of anxiousness. Restoring the love we are.

        2. Such a powerful comment Stephen “…when in fact an allowing can clear away some of the strength of the feelings and allow ourselves to just be in that situation much more willingly.” And then with that I feel we are much more open to seeing how often we choose to go into anxiousness and why.
           I’ve realised over the years how much of a comfort feeling anxious has been for me, its like something familiar….it’s what I do in this situation or how I am around these people or what I go into when it comes to taking the next step up. This has only come about after attending Universal Medicine, before that I thought anxiousness was something I completely had no control over.

        3. Agreed Aimee anxiousness, low or high grade just seemed like a tension that belonged pretty much consistently in my body, i never questioned that i had the power to clock it so readily, to feel where and how its directing me and to let go of this all too familiar pattern.

     2. This is a great point Aimee – ‘we tend to accept feelings but not all feelings’, it can really get us stuck when we only want to see half the picture. Choosing what to feel and what not to feel is a dangerous game, and over time although we think we are still very aware we allow ourselves to be played by the same illusion everyone else is under.

        1. It is a dangerous game of pretending Susie, and where do we think those feelings of anxiousness go when we push them away? For me, they have just sat there bubbling away and whenever I am feeling low they come back with full force. I feel a big part of dealing with anxiousness is being honest with how I feel in certain situations, and ask myself gentle questions like I would with my children or anyone “How do you feel with that?”

     3. I love how you reveal that trying not to feel anxious, or making it wrong to feel anxiousness, Aimee, only escalates the anxiety so is totally ineffective! These sharings all confirm how we need to feel everything without judgement, in acceptance: so cool!

     4. I agree Aimee, this makes so much sense. If I spend time and energy on it I can easily cover over what I don’t want to feel, but I’m also at the same time blocking out what could be cherished, appreciated and enjoyed!

        1. Reading your comment rosannabianchini, I can feel the sabotaging way we can choose to use anxiousness to cover over feeling amazing, joyous and enough. Wow there is so much to expose and ponder on about this subject.

     5. This is so true, Aimee and I have experienced this ‘feeling wrong’ for feeling anxious therefore have tried to deny and bury it which means it becomes worse! It is incredible though that it is feeling that can be there for everyone but through not letting ourselves feel and accept it no one has spoken about it and hence then for so many it has increased!

        1. Imagine if we spoke like this or were encouraged to speak like this from when we are very young. There would be no right or wrong, or good or bad feelings, there would just be feelings or emotions that showed us something. Showed us where we are at with something, had we reacted or judged something or did we allow what was there and were not attached to it. There is so much emphasis in society on feeling excited and elated, as a reaction to not feeling interested in anything or drained by how we choose to live. Allowing ourselves to feel and be honest is a great reflection on what is truly going on so we can then heal… for me this is true medicine.

388. “By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing” – this is a great realisation. Anxiousness feels to be already an aftereffect of halving our presence.

     1. Fumiyo as a lifelong sufferer of anxiousness I would say that it more than halves our connection to the current moment. Certainly for me when I would have an anxious moment then that moment would feel to be completely owned by anxiousness. The poisonous currents running through my chest, the tightness in my body, my scrambled mind, the palpitations in my heart all served to completely sever me from the current moment

389. This is excellent Carmin, so relatable, and completely enjoyed the colours example, makes sense. When you spoke of this:” By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing” – it made me wonder as I deal with anxiousness myself too, whether and from the continuous or well-worn position in choosing anxiousness, that anxiousness itself becomes something that we deliberately use to sabotage ourselves with – to NOT FEEL amazing. So anxiousness becomes like a comfortable comfort/position to not step up and take responsibility…to assume amazingness.

     1. Great line you’ve highlighted here Zofia and what you share is so true. Many of us may have experienced anxiousness to some degree but how we choose to deal with it will determine how much we allow it to controls us, to then not feel how amazing we are. It is an exhausting and can be a debilitating process all because we are in fear of our own light, amazingness and power. Once we take responsibility, recognise the energy and reasons behind why we choose to go into anxiousness it will simply dissipate.

     2. Zofia, this feels true. Rather a great revelation with an Ouch! – deliberately choosing to sabotage our amazingness through being in anxiousness –
        ” …in choosing anxiousness, that anxiousness itself becomes something that we deliberately use to sabotage ourselves with – to NOT FEEL amazing. So anxiousness becomes like a comfortable comfort/position to not step up and take responsibility…to assume amazingness”.

     3. Bingo, Zofia, you named it; This is what anxiousness is in my understanding, too. Anxiousness itself is something that we deliberately use to sabotage ourselves with, to not feel amazing. Anxiousness is a comfort zone to not step up and to take responsibility.

390. what is very important about this article is that it gives an insight into a condition or state of mind that pervades our society… Anxiousness is everywhere and is rarely talked about but if we dig deep enough it will be there in everybody. And we deal with it in different ways but that’s the thing .. its dealt with, not addressed and healed as Carmin writes about.

     1. This is true, and I had not considered previously that using logic to counter the irrational thoughts was a way of avoiding what is actually going on. Thank you Carmin.

        1. Yes jsnelgrove36 it just brings more pressure as we are going into our heads to unlock the reason for the anxiety. This is what starts us unravelling. When we stop and re-connect to our inner heart the anxiety has nowhere to reside.

     2. This is so true cjames, ‘ Anxiousness is everywhere and is rarely talked about’, many people that I know have anxiety on some level which makes it crazy that we do not speak about it, it is just accepted as ‘normal’. I have witnessed people associated with Universal Medicine that do not live with anxiousness, I can feel how this is possible for all of us, we can live a life of feeling still and joy-full and this feels like a much more natural, true way of being.

     3. cjames2012 this is very true, I see anxiousness everyday with patients that I nurse and we do not address it or offer healing. It’s managed, medicated and avoided and as Zofia said, avoiding feeling who we truly are.

     4. This is so true, anxiousness is so prolific, it consumes so many people’s lives and yet we don’t talk about it enough, to understand it to, to expose it and to heal the root cause of it. Carmin’s blog is insightful, inspirational and holds the answers to this extremely common mental illness.

     5. I agree, cjames2012, the key is to address the situation by letting yourself feel the anxiousness, much more simple than the ways that people use to try to not feel the anxiousness. Yes, that feels the way to go, rather than ‘dealing’ with it by burying it.

     6. Thats very true cjames2012. We have become masters of dealing with it but not of healing it and truly addressing it. It is an ill of society when an emotional condition such as anxiety is so pervasive it is ‘normal’ and hides behind a thin veil of everything we have accepted life is, a veil which is an ignorance of not truly dealing with these conditions.

     7. This is a great point Cjames2012 I too have experienced anxiety in many ways, and still do to an extent, although it is much less than it used to be, thanks to the teachings and modalites from Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. It is as you say, that we learn to ‘deal’ with it in order to cope with situations in our lives, rather than actually address it and allow healing to take place.

     8. It’s interesting cjames2012, I had no idea just how bad the anxiety I had in my body was until I had my first chakra puncture session where the contrast was so stark that I realised the level of anxiety I was living with was quite extreme.

     9. Cjames2012, I am discovering more and more I am learning of the insidious hold that this emotional state has on the general populace, and following a documentary on this subject that I saw last night whereby a well know comedian revealed his state of anxiousness has led to suicidal thoughts. It seems that there are millions of people out there that could benefit from the very things that Carmin has spoken about in her blog. As you say in your comment “..it’s dealt with, not addressed and healed…”. Could the beginning of that healing be as simple as sharing with people the importance of making a choice of reconnecting with themselves once again and learning to breathe the Gentle Breath.

391. Carmin this is so powerful, especially being someone who has also allowed anxiousness to play a big part in their lives. I love the fact that you share that in truth if we are trying to control what we feel we stop ourselves from feeling all of what there is to feel so therefore can’t feel how equally amazing we are. This makes so much sense! I feel the more we allow ourselves to stay with what is felt that those feelings then don’t build up to something more, but that we can see them for what they are. For me anxiousness occurs when I am not with myself and the more I choose to bring presence to my body and what I feel, the more I came back to me and the anxiousness dissipates. Thank you for your awesome blog!

392. Anxiousness runs many people’s lives – and as you have spoken about here Carmin, can result in quite severe or dangerous consequences like panic attacks. Learning to accept our choices, as non-perfect human beings is key, as it allows a whole load of pressure to be taken off our shoulders – pressure we may have placed there on ourselves in the first place! Thank you for your sharing Carmin.

393. “The lesson for me is acceptance. Acceptance of who I am, acceptance of occurrences in my life, letting go of trying to control what can’t be controlled”
     This is an awesome lesson for me to Carmin; I also loved what you said about feeling it and not fighting it.
     Thank you for these beautiful reminders and for sharing your story and wisdom.

394. Carmin, you have presented an important blog with anxiety being such a huge issue in our world today. In my work as a counsellor I am seeing increasing numbers of clients who are suffering from anxiousness and it has often been diagnosed by medical staff as ‘Generalised Anxiety Disorder’ meaning that the focus of the anxiousness keeps changing but the anxiety remains. It can be quite debilitating. While some therapies encourage acceptance of feeling and emotions, none except what Universal Medicine presents, takes this right back to accepting and knowing ourselves in our true essence and understanding that there is an amazing person right there inside all of us. Your story is very valuable reading for others and offers them a way to have a different relationship with it and themselves.

395. Thanks for the blog Carmin. Like you say, we cannot pick and choose what we feel, so by surrendering to it all without absorbing too much, is the way to go. That way we’re not using energy (hardening etc) to not feel the energy we cannot help feeling.

     1. The step to recognising our feelings is a big one, for most often we go through life ignoring, overriding, or pretending our feelings aren’t real. Recognising and then not judging them is an essential first step.

396. One part of your blog that is almost an aside to the main message Carmin, is the feeling as a child unsafe in your own bedroom because of the other energies that were at play there, and not just the immediacy of the war raging outside the house – and wanting to shut out this awareness (which was clearly very switched on for you), due to not having access to or support with the tools to deal with the imposing energies.
     As a child, I was so freaked out by the energies that would come, often intending to scare me, telling my parents was no good, as the stock understandable response from somone who has long shut down the awareness is ‘dont be silly there is no such thing as monsters’. I realised that my steady warm expanded breathing was what made me so visible to the energies that would come and hang around, so I actually tried holding my breath to not be seen on a number of occasions.
     It is so so different now raising my own children that when they feel the presence of such imposition, it is a matter of fact ‘accepted’ part of life, and not something to have any power over us. My daughter regains/retains her power by simply describing in detail what the ‘monster/s’ was/is like, the colour, form, what it did, why, etc. As she does this it is most often the case that the imposing energy cannot stay, and she is empowered by her staying aware, and not shutting down as so many of our generation did. Imagine the difference if we had grown up with such simple tools, which are never too late to reintroduce, and parent ourselves with.

397. Carmin, the real fight is within us, the honesty in expressing this in your beautiful blog surrenders my whole body back into feeling safe. How simple it is to come back to truth when we allow ourselves to feel.

398. Anxiousness feels heavy, and it is nothing like the joy and lightness that I know to be me. What is not of me, but I have chosen to let come in me, tries to convince me that it is me, and that I am flawed because I think what is not from me is me. The mind likes these complications.

399. Carmin, thank you for sharing your experiences around ‘anxiouness and panic attacks’. I can only imagine how debilitating this past behaviour must have been prior to your choosing to lovingly address this emotional dilemma with the choice to come to know Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, and to consider to be a student of yourself, as I also chose to explore another way, that being The Way of the Livingness. What springs to mind is that as we learn that all energy passes through us all of the time, is it possible that unwittingly the flood gates are opened so to speak when one allows oneself to be consumed or overtaken by overwhelming thoughts, thereby almost inviting, in this instance, the emotion of anxiousness to be magnified and exacerbated by the presence of that energy already surrounding us from other sources/people. Just something to ponder on I feel.

400. I observe that when I do not wish to feel, I will be anxious right away. This is an immediate response from my body that I am not wishing to feel—whether it is the anxiousness or something else—I just do not want to feel, period. To come back to feeling, I hum in some low notes and the vibrations that go through the whole body asks me to feel again, and the anxiousness subsides.

     1. I like how you hum to get in and feel your body.
        I find that making up little songs of self appreciation can shift my focus from the ominous “I’m doing something wrong thoughts” and bring me into self acceptance.

     2. Diningwithoneandwithlove what a lovely way to bring yourself back to feeling you. I love the idea of humming and feeling the vibrations as they disperse thought the body. I will play with this the next time I feel anxiety and observe what happens.

401. When we do not feel full in our essence, the void we have left open essentially allows anything to come in and occupy it, anxiousness have been a frequent guest in my life as well. When we choose to open our homes already feeling full and, just being real—not perfect, anxiousness finds that it has no place to stay.

402. Anxiousness when judged as bad is rooted in a non-acceptance of ourselves, it is something we have to change in order to be better. What if we are born with greatness but have chosen to hide it with emotions such as anxiousness? What if, anxiousness and other emotions are just our choice to veil what we already have and cannot change that we have it and we do not accept ourselves as being great? When we do not accept our greatness, we also do not accept our anxiousness, we do not accept the world. Since it is not a normality for us to accept our own greatness from birth, we have lived life far away from our own greatness, and that is super hurtful as we are all from greatness, and as human beings we create for ourselves many pains which when we don’t accept we are convinced greatness is the farthest thing we could ever reach, which is a belief without any truth.

     1. acceptance is key and the game that we play is rooted in not accepting ourselves and what we feel around us. When we fight against everything we are automatically in separation from the natural whole that we come from. We can so simply re-connect to the love and natural power we are and in that is everything, there is something inside us that stops us just accepting this fact and it’s days are numbered, hence the game to keep us in the dark of what is so so simple.

     2. “What if we are born with greatness but have chosen to hide it with emotions such as anxiousness?” A great insight, diningwithoneandwithlove, I love it. That feels true to me. Isn’t it ridiculous what we do to ourselves? Next time any feeling of anxiousness comes up, I will test it out.

403. Beautiful what you said about acceptance Carmen, I feel when we don’t accept ourselves, our feelings or other people it creates a tension in our bodies that becomes anxiousness

     1. That’s a great point, Thomas – that anxiousness can arise because we don’t accept ourselves, our feelings, or others ..and I would add also when we don’t accept life. I feel you are correct that this builds a tension in our body that becomes anxiousness – so well said – thank you!

     2. Yes Thomas Scott, Acceptance. I have wanted to know the cause and the antidote to this horrible state so many of us struggle in and call anxiety… and I do find more and more that it is about not accepting what is.

        My recent surge of anxiety triggered by life events, is helping me actually begin to let go and accept the kinds of things I never have accepted… because every time I offer myself the blessing of self acceptance, self appreciation or the grace of letting go of something I can’t change, the anxiety melts and I feel the beauty of the warm peace in my body again. I once again arrive to myself where nothing is wrong.

404. “By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing. Whether we like it or not, we do feel everything all of the time and can’t ‘pick and choose’ what we are prepared or not prepared to feel.”
     This paragraph is gold Carmen, I constantly feel I avoid feeling certain feelings and react to them and to other people that trigger the feelings that are inside of me, rather than simply feeling what is their to be felt.

     1. I agree Thomas, that we can’t ‘pick and choose’ what we want to feel. Again, it tells me that my body is going to tell me the truth no matter what, whereas my mind will make up a very plausible story to patch things up without ever ‘going there’. The process of feeling, allowing, observing and surrendering is like surgery for the soul; anxiousness doesn’t stand a chance!

     2. Yes Thomas,
        Reacting to others has been huge for me. It has greatly lessened from my choice to hold myself with love and understanding. For I am coming from this platform now when I meet others and find it much easier to understand them, to love then and to respond to them with great honour that they too are love deep within.

405. Having suffered from anxiousness my whole life and it is still there at times, I found your insights very useful and enlightening Carmen, and really appreciate you sharing them with us all.

406. Carmin I’m inspired by your words ‘just feel it and don’t fight it.’ as I realise there are situations where I block out all feeling to avoid that once thing I’m avoiding. I love your analogy about avoiding seeing a colour too … acceptance of all our feelings is key. Thank you for this drop of lived wisdom Carmin.

     1. Hartanne60 I also love the absolute simplicity and pure power of what Carmin says when she says to ‘just feel it and don’t fight it’. It seems that so often our knee jerk reaction to anything remotely uncomfortable is to do something to avoid feeling the discomfort. But by that time the feeling has already embedded itself in the body and lays in wait to sabotage things in the future.

     2. I love this too hartanne60 – “just feel it and don’t fight it”. Simple and true.

407. It is also super important for me to see why I use anxiousness which is to avoid being all of me, to avoid taking the next level of responsibility and living in my power. I have hidden myself because of all the hurts and attacks over many lifetimes. Once I see it for what it is, I have the power to connect to who I am and express this once again.

     1. Emma, I feel a truth for myself in your words..I feel I have used anxiousness as a way to avoid being my full self…I feel anxiety has become a way to hide and not take responsibility…but oh what a torture! Feeling fear and anxiousness is so not worth it. I am ready to commit to FEELING what is coming up to feel instead of existing in the shadows of anxiousness.

        1. Yes Jo, anxiousness and contraction is a torture! What I am feeling is the need to feel the rawness, to surrender into the humility of this … to let myself feel the spaciousness within me.

     2. Yes I can create all sorts of seemingly legitimate reasons to be anxious but when I do stop and connect to who I really am beneath all that, I get an inkling of what I’m capable of bringing which is worth acclimatizing to!

408. Yes, Carmin, by trying to steer our awareness away from what we feeling we are creating a separation within ourselves – our conscious part then refuses to deal with what is there so we then feel all sorts of heavy, painful, dangerous things without being aware of them. It is like speeding towards oncoming traffic while looking out the side of the car – no wonder our body registers anxiousness.

     1. I like the analogy you present here Christoph, and I find that it super important to deal with each moment accordingly and not ignore what we feel.

     2. Perfect analogy Christoph ‘It is like speeding towards oncoming traffic while looking out the side of the car’ – this is exactly how anxiousness feels in my body.

     3. What a great analogy Christoph “It is like speeding towards oncoming traffic while looking out the side of the car” – being aware something is coming towards us or we heading towards it, while at the same time avoiding or denying that it is! Using this analogy, doesn’t it make more sense to drive with conscious presence with our eyes wide open and on the road, so that whatever is coming up ahead, we can be aware of, and navigate accordingly?

        1. Angela that is so beautifully said – it sure makes more sense to live our lives in conscious presense and with our eyes wide open. To be in denial of reality is not only not healthy it robs us from a life in harmony.

     4. Brilliantly said Christoph. Put like this it is no wonder our bodies register anxiousness. Like going for a lovely walk before work but not taking a watch to check you’ll be back on time; or spending money when you haven’t checked you can afford to spend so much.

409. This is an excellent blog Carmin. Anxiety is something I have tried to deal with for most of my life and as you say, feeling it and not fighting it is actually an effective way to start to face and accept it. It then doesn’t have the same hold.

     1. Not wanting to feel it plus fighting it gives anxiousness much energy and keeps it alive.
        Bringing back the awareness to ourselves (presence with our body and the qualities that we can identify as our true beingness) withdraws anxiousness the energy. Unfortunately many anxious people lack a sense of such presence or miss to develop and honour it when not being anxious. But we can always start choosing and practising being present.

     2. I’m starting to realise that anxiety is actually an opportunity to understand more; to look at how we are choosing to resist who we truly are, what is it that we don’t want to see, feel or acknowledge. Seeing it in this light, it is becomes something to befriend rather than to run away from.

        1. hi Alison, I have come to understand that anxiety is the sympom of not living my truth and expressing that all of the time. Anxiety is an opportunity for me to look deeper and see how I am living that creates this tension.

410. Carmin, you are wonderful! This is such an inspirational blog for all of us who experience anxiousness as it supports us to actually surrender to whatever it is we are feeling and not try to harden up or close off which only disengages and disconnects us even more. When we are feeling anxious we can feel unequipped to deal with whatever is ahead of us, but the truth is that when we do allow ourselves to deeply fall into ourselves, our essence, we are capable of dealing with anything and everything and that’s a fact.
     I also love that there is no perfection in feeling the good or the bad, we have equal choice to stop, feel and allow in whatever the circumstance and know that nothing outside can ever touch the beauty and divinity that is within.

     1. Beautiful reminder Cherise – ‘that nothing outside can ever touch the beauty and divinity that is within’. We are already complete… easy to say and know, however not so easy to always hold on to, this truth.

411. This is so revealing Carmin, revealing of how ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ and ‘good’ and ‘bad’ pictures or categorising actually shuts us off to ourselves. Your realisations about the whatever the experience was going on on the surface as not being you, and so it not being able to take over or get a foot hold – this is gold – it puts us back in the drivers seat in more of an observational way, rather than from being caught in the thick of it. From your sharing I can see that the viewing something as ‘wrong’ (or ‘right’) and judging it actually gives it more sway over us, and we more tend to identify it as being part of who we are, and in this case, part of us is not ‘okay’. Acceptance is the hugest gift, willing to feel whatever is there, and know it is actually not who we are – how empowering and paradigm shifting.

     1. observation with love and care is the way out of the critical mind, when we stop personalising everything and take responsibility for our choices life reveals itself in all its glory.

     2. I love how you speak of an observational way Kate. It really does distance us from what we are feeling and we are able to not get caught up in or get invested in the emotion that arises. Without that investment, we are less likely to judge ourselves harshly for what we are feeling and just observe.

        1. So true Jennifer, being observant and not absorbent is absolutely key in learning to see emotions for what they truly are – a reaction to the lack of control we have over what comes to us in life from others. We have expectations and pictures that if not met or developed, invites anxiousness. Could anxiousness be a lack of true responsibility and commitment to honouring our own feelings and expressing from them, not putting pictures or expectations out and then judging self and others if they are not met or developed?

     3. I love your understanding of what Carmin has written, Kate. If we are not accepting then we have made a judgement and categorised what is happening. If we accept and observe then the power that could have been is rendered powerless. Keeping it simple and not inviting complication. Great blog Carmin.

     4. Yes I hear you Carmin and Kate and I know that the delicate balance between acceptance and observation is key. How powerful is letting good, bad, right and wrong just fall away?

     5. Absolutely agree with you, Kate, acceptance is key, “Acceptance is the hugest gift, willing to feel whatever is there, and know it is actually not who we are – how empowering and paradigm shifting.” And how simple that is truly. And then we can feel who we truly are, truly amazing beings.

412. An amazing insight Carmin. That not allowing ourselves to feel the stuff we don’t like, we actually miss out on feeling and receiving all the incredible love and insight that is simultaneously there. For me it is like being a parent to myself, reminding myself of the strength and solidness of who I am and that it is ok to exhale and trust this moment and whatever it brings. Then I can remain open to life.

413. What a beautiful and honest sharing, thankyou Carmin. It was very healing for me to read about this topic as I feel there is still a shame in admitting anxiousness as if it’s a weakness or defect. It can also be quite confusing, especially in childhood, feeling this big thing going on in your body that you don’t understand. Reading through your story has supported me to just accept how I feel and be with it. That in itself is an enormous healing, thankyou Carmin.

     1. Good point Melinda, there does seem to still be shame surrounding anxiousness. People are allowed to be nervous about competing in a race or public speaking, but to feel anxiety during the everyday, becomes like a mental illness that is avoided like a plague. To deny that it is there just keeps feeding it for decades so to speak up about your story on anxiousness Carmin, it is very supportive and healing for many.

414. Carmin thank you for reminding us that we feel everything, I love how you say that we feel the good, the bad and the ugly. I have come to realise that for most of my life I have not been letting myself feel things. This has then allowed patterns to repeat themselves because I am not learning my lessons. If I allowed myself to feel hurt by something or someone then I would say I am not allowing that to happen again but instead I have held a pattern of not feeling and thus repeating things that do not support, honour and cherish me. Thankfully I have become aware of this and I, like you, am letting go of the tension or fight within my body, and surrendering to whatever is there to be felt.

     1. oh… thanks Sally the penny just dropped for me I have been doing exactly that, not letting myself feel things, which allow patterns to repeat because I have not learnt my lessons.

     2. And I have noticed that if/when I feel a niggly pain in my hip/back, I focus on that spot, giving it my full attention, and invariably I am delivered a reason why that niggle has come up. Just like when the anxiety is felt, by observing it is there, gives it an opportunity to be understood, and with understanding it doesn’t seem to have such (sometimes any) a hold over me anymore. All by allowing the feelings to be there.

415. ‘The lesson for me is acceptance. Acceptance of who I am, acceptance of occurrences in my life, letting go of trying to control what can’t be controlled.’ – thank you for sharing this powerful lesson, one that I am still learning. The war within ourselves in one that deserves our loving attention. I have discovered that without this attention, the war within that is played out in our lives never ceases. And the most powerful dispeller of this war is acceptance, of all that we are and where we are at. As from here we can rise above this war to then live in appreciation the divine love that we all eternally are.

416. I can really relate to a lot of what you share Carmen as I was addicted to anxiousness/stress through most of my life, and I too resorted to thinking it through to get by. I am slowly learning to allow myself to just be with those moments of anxiousness when they come up which is a big one for me, but well worth the choice to do so.

     1. Carmine’s experience coupled with my own and also your’s Julie, that using our brains to rationalise the emotions running through just doesn’t work. It’s like trying to put out a fire with a candle. I am realising more everyday, the power that my body has over my brain. Giving in to how things feel first is a new way to live and experience life, and seeing the solutions that come from my mind as being watered down compared to what can come from my body is how I plan to go forth 🙂

     2. Absolutely Julie, being with the ‘moment of Anxiousness’, and understanding it is not us, is the key.

417. Carmin I can relate to what you have shared about anxiousness. Although my experiences have been different, I am also learning to feel the anxiousness, not fight it or criticise it, acceptance is the key, as when we allow ourselves to feel, we realise that we are not the anxiousness at all. I also appreciate Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine for supporting me to live with more awareness and acceptance, and I am enjoying the connection I now feel to my delicateness and inner knowing.

     1. Acceptance is the key, and I also appreciate Universal Medicine for showing me a path where acceptance is now something I am developing each day.

418. The war that wages within is only ever from the choice to be love or not. It comes about from the enormous pull to be that love once more, offset by the enormous resistance required to not be that. The tension is there as the marker for the love not yet being lived in full.

     1. You express so clearly why the war wages within, thank you Liane. Love this sentence, “The tension is there as the marker for the love not yet being lived in full”

     2. Liane how true your expression feels.
        The tension will remain until the love is lived in full.
        It is our choice to be or not to be 🙂

     3. I love that there is such an enormous pull to be love. I love that the Universe is aligned that way. I love that people are discovering this fact through Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon because for so many of us we live in the tension but not understanding what the tension is. Your comment Liane and the beautiful blog of Carmin’s shows what this tension is and that we need to surrender to what is there to be felt – any given time – and to lose the judgement of it.

     4. Awesome explanation of anxiousness Liane and for any other tension that arises – we know that love is our home, our truth and when it is not expressed, tension is natural. It is unfathomable why we would resist our own love; so strong has been the attraction of our individuality which can never hold the fullness of love. They are two opposite forces.

     5. Love what you share here, Liane. When we are not choosing the love that we all are, this creates a tension in our bodies, we are resisting the pull to be our gorgeous selves. This feeling of tension creates an ‘anxiousness’ and we so often look outside of ourselves for a remedy or relief, the latter often coming in the form of a distraction or something to numb out the anxiety. However, in truth, all this does is to take us further away from connecting more deeply with our selves. When we feel the anxiousness, to stop, take a moment to surrender and allow ourselves to explore the anxiety, acknowledge it’s presence and also the fact that it isn’t who we are, rather a consequence of NOT allowing ourselves to live the love that we are, we then have the opportunity to choose differently moving forward.

419. When we feed our body with acceptance and love we create light and space for the love to pass through. The less we do this the denser the space is and the more the anxiousness enjoys what you have on offer.

     1. Accepting ourselves deeply definitely leaves less space for nervousness or anxiousness, I was speaking with someone about this today. They were sharing with me this wisdom of this.

420. Thank you Carmin, articles like this are very needed in the world today. We judge ourselves so harshly when we are experiencing difficult, unpleasant or de-stabilising emotions, yet when we are truly able to ‘just feel it and don’t fight it” we give permission for miracles to unfold. So often we contribute to the tension within us because we are attempting to control something we cannot. When we learn to accept and simply feel, its like opening the sluice gates and allowing the energy to drain away quickly, revealing our inner connection again. Your article has given me another understanding and appreciation of the word ‘surrender’ and just how important it is to not fight, but just accept and feel. We are not the emotions we feel, we are the stillness that lies underneath, discovering a way to surrender and allow the emotions to clear faster allows us access to that stillness once more. Your article is a true gift Carmin, thank you for your very open and honest sharing.

421. Wow I loved reading this – I often still judge myself for feeling certain feelings/emotions though I know better (!) Rather than accept myself and them I’ve tried to shut myself down which is horrible. So, after reading this, I’m saying to myself, why not stand by myself and feel all that there is to feel. Only then will I get to see the whole rainbow (love the colours analogy)

422. I suppose that most of us did not grew up in a war area, but I can imagine that kind of anxiousness is quite a strong one and not easy to deal with. But in general anxiousness has an enormous hold on our bodies. From my own experience it is a tension and hardening which I use to not feel. In situations where anxiousness arises and I allow to feel it and let it go – my whole body get’s a release. It shakes as the tension is gone and I can relax my muscles and nerves. Then I realize how exhausting and hard work it was actually for me to live like this.

423. We are love and this love naturally flows from our hearts like a great waterfall pouring out of our every cell. Naturally, it will take a mighty force to block this. We have different ‘blockers’ but it can be said that we have mastered the art of ‘damn building’ via our many emotions and behaviours, be they anger, sadness, overdrive, apathy, anxiousness and so on. In order to block/resist that which so naturally flows, we need to switch to a different mode of running and so rather than live from the heart where all truth resides, we begin to live from our nervous systems, the orchestrators of ‘fight or flight’ and in this way we become ‘that which we are not’. Love is a choice, and once made, will naturally infuse every choice thereafter so that we may be once more, ‘that which we truly are’.

424. Anxiousness is something that has dogged me as well Carmin for much of my life, and even though I didn’t grow up during war time what I can feel now was that regardless of the fact that mum and dad were in the other room sleeping at night, a part of me still felt unsafe. This was the part that was anxious on whether I could really just be me. There was an anxiousness at opening up to the world that may not accept me in all my joy and giggles of delight as a child and then later as an adult. Outside influences on what would be causing the anxiousness were really just be decoys. As you write here, the real battle was within me, grappling with a tension of what I let myself be amongst people. To open and let all of me be see uncut, in full, would mean dropping an enormous wall of protection and allowing all my sensitivity to feel what would be going on with others, the stresses, the tensions, the jealousies towards others. Far easier to shut that sensitivity down and create a cage around me. But not so easy at all, what it did was create an enormous bedrock of anxiety to keep that going, which now steadily but surely I’ve been knocking down and away.

425. I can relate to all you share here Carmin. I too suffered from anxiety and panic attacks. For me it was the accumulation of feelings not dealt with – as you say, things that I was picking up on but not wanting to see. It was worst on busy peak hour trains, where I could not bring myself to board them when people were jammed in there, pressed hard against each other. Either I would not get on the train, and just be late for work, or I would get on and deal with the anxiety. Either way it was an awful and overwhelming feeling of not being able to cope with what lay before me.

     This anxiety has played out in my life to varying degrees, from nail nibbling to panic attacks. While the extreme end of this scale has subsided in recent years (with deep appreciation to the teachings and modalities of Universal Medicine), there can still be an underlying tension in my body regularly. The key for me here is to always give myself permission to keep ‘reading’ the scene before me, what is really going on, what don’t I want to feel, etc. Ironically, the outcome of not wanting to feel it, such as the tension created, the broken nail or the panic attack is far worse than what is actually there and is being avoided. Giving ourselves permission to feel all there is to feel, releases us from the stranglehold of anxiety. We are beings of expression. Anxiety is there to block what would otherwise flow – love.

426. Awesome post Carmin. A timely read indeed. Your colour analogy is also a wonderful tool to describe what it means to shut ourselves down from feeling certain feelings. On one level I know that we can all feel everything all of the time, but I’ve chosen to not 100% believe it because I have definitely allowed my anxiousness to block a lot of the feelings out, meaning I block all of the good ones out as well. You’ve really helped me visualise what it means to harden my body from feeling.

427. I can see too Carmin how important it is to not ‘fight’ anxiousness as such, and neither to indulge in it. Through reconnecting with our inner essence, the still, steady place that always lives within us it is easier to see what does not belong and so easier to let that go.

428. What a massive revelation Carmin, a significant moment in seeing through the energy that runs us, or what you have described through us, once we come to relise these energies are passing through us not of us, we are free to observe and feel and not jump on board as the train goes past. I loved the part about preventing yourself from feeling amazing, it has me still pondering. We harden to the stuff we don’t want to feel, then prevent ourselves from feeling the amazingness on offer. We have then and do put the amazingness in the don’t want to feel box, still pondering……

429. Carmin, what you share sounds so simple… to just let go and feel the anxiousness as it came up, but I can imagine that it took enormous courage. The courage to look at things clearly, founded on a base that it was not going to be bigger than the healthy, strong, connected you. On so many levels, this is an inspiration to have that courage to look what we are afraid of in the eye, so we too can realise that it is but a shadow compared to our glory.

     1. Very true simonwilliams8 – it takes courage to be honest in a world that is based on dishonesty and keeping a facade.

430. This is beautiful Carmin, I realise that I have judged the anxiousness when I feel it as a bad thing, as a kind of failure or a ‘what did I do wrong’ to be feeling this? I felt more recently how just really small things can bring up that anxious vibration in my body, for example looking at my phone when I’m driving or not saying what I mean. So what this shows me is that a disconnection and not staying present with myself and what I’m doing allows an anxiousness undertone to run – in place of (as you so beautifully put it), “connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am”.

431. Wow Carmen, that is gold and so true. We fight the feelings which scare us and which aren’t palatable, squashing them which makes them worse. We learn to manage them rather than address why they are there. It is far ‘safer’ to learn to feel everything and to build experiences in our body of being ok with feeling everything. It is a feeling of it not being part of the essence of who we are, observing not absorbing. Otherwise it is like saying there is not a row going on that is upsetting you, when there is a blazing row happening in front of you. It teaches you to deny the truth, hence the anxiety of feeling something and denying it is there. The foundation of fear and danger is like post traumatic stress, it takes time to understand it, to build a relationship with it before it can be understood. Then, it is possible to see it as outside us, not in us and not defining us.

432. This is an inspiring blog of the empowering nature of allowing oneself to honestly and truthfully to feel whatever one is feeling.

433. Wow Carmin, it is great to hear how you worked with your anxiousness and could establish that feeling things was in no way a bad thing, it was actually something to be treasured… I’ve found this too – feeling things can be intense, but only when I take things on or am invested in people choosing differently than they do.

434. This is Awesome. Burying your head in the sand has never worked, and will never work. And yet as a society we seem to be doing it on a mass scale – unable to look at the way things are really going.

435. Thank you for sharing your experience of anxiousness Carmin. It is so clear that we can rationalise and try to think our way out of anxiousness and similar situations but this is trying to trick the mind and not trust the body. Accepting and feeling all that is there can help in so many situations. If it is felt in the body and accepted for what it is, then it can be understood.

436. I love the title of this blog as it really depicts what goes on for us when we experience anxiousness. It is indeed a battle, a war that goes on in our minds. I use to have this battle play out all of the time and it wasn’t until I realised that by going around and around in my mind, coming up with all sorts of scenarios but with nothing changing that this was not the way forward. Through Universal Medicine I have learnt to re connect with my body and it is through choosing to feel that we have the opportunity to step out of the prison of our minds.

437. What you have shared is a great support for those who suffer anxiousness. I often do the same of noticing but still thinking I just need to push through and trying to work with it or work around it avoiding situations that might bring up the anxiousness or going into it and allowing that to dictate how I will be but never accepting it and in that not giving it power- thanks for your sharing, I will now pay more attention to it and feel it when it comes up. I recently heard Serge Benhayon share that we are equipped to deal with everything that is before us, so in knowing this, as it has been the case in my life, it shows that there is actually no need for the anxiousness.

438. Thank you Carmin, I really enjoyed your very honest and open sharing on anxiousness, something which affects so many people today. I didn’t even know I was anxious, I was so used to having low grade tension in my body that I thought it was normal and I was very effective at numbing it out so I didn’t feel it. I love your point about us being able to feel everything all the time. This is so supportive as I know my tendancy is to hone in on the what is not me, to give myself the space to feel what is me feels very healing, and very important to be able to move forward to the next stage in my own learning and development.

439. Thanks for your profound sharing on anxiousness Carmin. It is amazing how deeply healing it is when we choose to connect with our body and feel. By staying in our minds and now allowing ourselves to feel, we stay locked in our patterns and can never heal them. This is indeed a trick of our spirits that keeps us disconnected. By choosing to feel our bodies, it is only here that there is the opportunity to feel what is underneath the anxiousness and claim the glory of our essence which is always there.

     1. Beautifully said Donna – we need to remember that there is a choice, that either takes us further away from ourselves and confirming the anxiousness, or we can accept what we feel in that moment and remind ourselves that the tension is not who we are.

440. Hello Carmin Hall and this is a very brave blog, thank you. I agree anxiety is a huge thing in society and I also went to good or nice thoughts to try and ‘feel’ better or to not feel anxious. As you say, “By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing. Whether we like it or not, we do feel everything all of the time and can’t ‘pick and choose’ what we are prepared or not prepared to feel.” This has changed with the support of Universal Medicine but I still do feel anxious at times, this as you explain is just another point to feel and not to run away from. Thank you again Carmin.

     1. Ray I also have felt anxious at times, not to the same degree now … but I also loved Carmins point ” we do feel everything all of the time and can’t ‘pick and choose’ what we are prepared to feel” This has been quite a revelation for me as I have catalogued a lot of thoughts and feelings to be ” bad and unnecessary” and have blocked them. I now realise all of these are vital clues to deeper hurts that also are waiting to be cleared.

        1. Hello merrileepettinato and I agree. No matter what title these have or how ‘big’ we perceive them to be they are just there to be felt deeply and then connect back to what is in front of you. We waste a lot of time in thought, trying to work things out when in fact we are being asked to feel and not map out a plan so things won’t be repeated. Life is cycling to us all the time, we need only feel and connect, the rest will take care of itself. I love how you have explained this Merrilee and this is ever unfolding.

441. At the root of all anxiety is just the choice to not want to feel what is really going on, and so we choose to cover such feeling with anxiety. When we truly understand this, we see that anxiety is actually a choice. At first this is difficult to understand, but as we open ourselves to developing a relationship with all that we feel – including anxiety – without judgement, or condemnation, but through simple observation, we start to see in time that such “conditions” do not have to have the hold over us that we allow them to.

442. There are so many techniques out there these days that mask what we are feeling – positive thoughts, mindfulness, affirmations, etc, etc that seem to attempt to stop or distract away from what is going on in our bodies. What you’ve shown us Carmin is that going into our minds or distracting ourselves doesn’t work…it is just a temporary way to not feel in this case, anxiousness. You’ve shown us that being honest about what you’re feeling, accepting it and not trying to control life allows you to connect to the part of you that isn’t full of anxiousness.

443. Thanks Carmin for such an open and honest blog. Anxiety is huge in our society and isn’t often talked about. I don’t hear people at work talking about how they feel anxious, however I see how their behaviours and props are to cope with it. I suspect a lot of people aren’t even consiously aware that they are even feeling anxious but have had it for so long and have their ‘go to’ behaviours to deal with it.

444. This is a terrific blog Carmin it shows that stopping and feeling the anxiousness allows you to also feel the love within and that love is so much more powerful than the anxiousness thank you for the clarity this brings.

445. Awesome sharing Carmin – and one that I can very much relate to. I too, as a young child (from ages 1 through till 8), grew up in countries where there was great political unrest with curfews and much violence and riots and we ended up fleeing from these countries as a family, at times not knowing if we would all get away safely or even alive. My parents slept with weapons under their beds in case of attack or break-ins into our house. Understandably this did affect me tremendously, but like you have shared in this blog, no matter what happens to us on the outside, the greatest challenge for us is to claim the feeling of inner safety, warmth and holding and realise that we do not have to be governed by our past experiences, by the anxiousness and feeling of lack of safety. I love how you have talked about feeling it all and then realising that we are not the fears, the anxiousness nor the darkness, but rather that we have the choice to be and accept the light, the strength and the stillness that resides within. Thank you Carmin for this timely reminder!

446. Really lovely article, I particularly related to learning to feel all that there is to feel, rather than trying to find a way to avoid certain feelings. I know when I have felt raw and unsure some times I try to bury it or ignore it, rather than just sit with it and observe it. I am becoming aware that observing it and figuring out where this feeling has come from has really supported me to feel more me and so connect more deeply with divinity which is all around and within us.

447. What a great analogy to describe how ridiculous it is to think we can pick and choose what we can and can’t feel …. “It is like saying there are some colours that I don’t like so I refuse to see them; I will only allow myself to sense the colours that I do like, that I deem acceptable. The only way to do that is to shut my eyes and see none, and harden my body to not feel what I feel.”

448. I like how you referred to the seeing colours analogy Carmin. We can’t actually pick to see them and so we’d have to shut our eyes and not see any of them. This is like what we’ve done with the things we feel around us, though by doing this we miss the beauty of the colours that we are surrounded with.

449. This is beautiful Carmen thank you, It has helped me and I’m sure many others to have greater acceptance of when feelings of anxiousness come up, it also reminded me of the amazing book by Tanya Curtis and Desiree Delaloye “Whoops” which reminds us that every mistake is a learning opportunity.

450. You describe anxiousness so perfectly Carmin, I straightaway recognize this feeling within my body. It is so powerful that by becoming aware of this anxiousness, it no longer has a hold over you (or anyone). Catch it once it is there – is so powerful. What this blog really offered me is to feel beyond this anxious feeling, and I actually deeply sensed my own awareness of feeling energy all of the time. I have used a mechanism to avoid feeling everything which has shut my body down – become hard and unloving towards myself and others. Like you shared it is all about acceptance, as if I allow myself to accept that whatever I feel is OK, I actually have not to be anxious, perfect ! I will explore this upcoming days. Thank you Carmin. I can feel my body relax.

451. I found your blog great to open up this topic Carmin, anxiousness is something many of us live with or have lived with. Reading your descriptions of yourself as a child and how you deliberately used your mind as a little girl to escape what you were feeling and in a sense shut down your awareness so that you could sleep brought back memories for me that I had forgotten. I remember doing the same thing, comforting myself with making up stories of idealised and very loving situations so that I could go to sleep and not feel the the anxiety, and fear of the dark and what was around me. Thank you this has been healing to realise how I shut down like that, and how I trained myself to disconnect from feelings I judged to be unpleasant and overwhelming – something I am still learning to undo.

452. This is great that you are sharing this Carmin as it is something that is not talked enough about in society today. I have heard it said that humanity has an epidemic of anxiety and it is on the rise and this is in no doubt the facts. How normal is it to feel a form of stress, pressure or drive and then underneath feel at least a low grade form of anxiety or nervousness about life. When we live like this our bodies are in constant ‘flight or fight’ and this has a huge toll on our health and our well being.

453. Allowing ourselves to feel what we’d otherwise rather not, enables us to connect to the fact that that tension or worry is not who we are, it is but amplified in the refusal to feel what is there to be felt. To choose to feel what we cannot in truth not feel may not always be comfortable however at the same time empowers us in conscious presence. Thank you Carmin for making the clear distinction that the fight fought inside us is one we can never walk away victorious.

454. I particularly like how you describe the fact that we can’t pick and choose what to feel from all that we’re feeling. The analogy of attempting to live life based on only seeing certain colours and obstinately refusing to accept all others is brilliant. It just underlines how controlling we try to be in order to avoid feeling those childhood fears and hurts – and how it’s actually completely futile. Way better as you’ve described, to feel everything. Then it’s done. You don’t harden. You can feel it, observe it, accept it and move on. And that means you can even get to feel and accept your own amazingness.

455. We always talk about the wars that are happening in the world, but the real war resided inside of us. This is the seed of all wars. Thank you for addressing the war within, as this is where we have to look at if we want to come back to true harmony.

456. I was not raised in a war zone, but I can relate to every word in your blog. Anxiety affected my whole childhood and returned very badly in 2012 when my relationship with a very dear person broke down. I recall lying in bed for months at that time, sleepless, feeling like I was burning all over with anxiousness. My thoughts were a spiralling mess of real and potential fears.
     Like you, I berated myself about this. Of course, this just compounded the feeling of anxiousness.
     I still need to be very aware now of not falling into that trap when I do not feel lovely. When we condemn ourselves for feeling bad, well the bad feeling just deepens. It makes no sense, but boy it such a familiar thing to do that it can it be hard to stop.
     Lovely blog Carmin.

457. It is very powerful acknowledging what is happening in the body. When I am feeling amazing, my body is glowing – just by acknowledging this it expands. When I am hit with anxiety, which comes out of nowhere and I acknowledge ir – it subsides very quickly. It is easy to get hooked into whatever is happening in and around us believing that this is who we are, but knowing that there is another way and that the choice is ours has changed my life and relationships. I am a Son of God first and share in the same tender and loving essence as all others. I loved your comment Carmin – ‘At the same time as feeling the anxiousness, I could feel my inner strength and power’, this is the truth and the inner strength and power is who you are. Thank you.

458. Wow Carmin, how powerful we and you are. You illustrate exactly how in labelling and judging our experiences we identify with them and make them our reality. The simple way you present how this unfolded for you is so easy to feel how this anxiousness is not true. Considering anxiousness appears to be at epidemic proportions in the world today what you have shared here is huge.

     1. Joseph I agree – what Carmin has shared here is huge, and truly needed in a world that is seriously affected by this very condition.

459. I love this sentence Carmin;
     “Whether we like it or not, we do feel everything all of the time and can’t ‘pick and choose’ what we are prepared or not prepared to feel.”
     I know that I have in the past tried so hard to not feel certain things and put my own blinkers on but underneath it all, I felt it and was just in denial.

460. So many experience anxiety Carmen and I am one of them. Anxiety is now accepted as something that is low level and only deemed as an issue if it interferes with our normal every day functioning. But this is not true, because with anxiety one’s body is on high alert all of the time and this leaves us feeling on edge and less than our naturally vital selves. It is actually exhausting to live this way. Knowing that there is much more to us than anxiety is the key which you have shared here. Not criticising yourself and allowing yourself to feel opened you up to feeling the more. Beautiful.

461. Carmin, I too was born into war and in my early years was constantly bombed. Hence the devastated adults around me would rush to the bomb shelter whenever the sirens sounded as if you did not get to the shelter in time, there was a possibility that you could die. I carried a low-grade anxiousness, which I have only recently become aware of, as I would get anxious if I felt that we were going to be late. I am in the process of completing the on-line Anxiousness course offered by the College of Universal Medicine and like you I am finding that the key to dealing with anxiousness is to allow yourself to feel what is there to be felt, both the feelings that are associated with anxiousness’ and the feelings that are associated with feeling our grandness, our glory and other feelings that confirm that we are divine. Then it is our choice which group of feelings we give more attention to. As you say, when we allow our self to only focus on the feelings associated with anxiousness’ “I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am”. When we are connected to our divine essence and being all that we are, we have a strong foundation from which to observe our anxiousness and hence it becomes more and more easy to observe the anxious feelings but not absorb them.

     1. What a great comment Anne.

462. “The war within” is the true anxiousness. The tension of life we want to avoid, but have to learn to live with from our sensitivity. Great blog about how we can look at the outside for the reasons that created anxiety in us and with this avoiding to look at the war within that is the real source of holding us back in our full expression.

     1. Most people make life about what we see with our eyes, but I have come to understand that there is actually much much more to life than what we see. And it is what we feel that is truly our most powerful sense. And so feeling the anxiousness as it comes up is going to be a great way to deal with it, to observe it from all directions and see it as something foreign that doesn’t need to be there, ‘a war within’.

463. Another thing you also expose is that anxiousness is not real.

464. Carmin you expose the foothold of many new age modalities which are out there. offering a way to fix, manage or alleviate ailments such as anxiousness or fear by visualisation, mediations to trippy music or thinking about calm places. When in actual fact and truth, all they are doing is masking the issue, burying them deeper and not dealing with why they are there in the first place – only for them to then come up later ten fold.

465. It’s amazing how many things we label as ‘bad’ – this simply just escalates them.

466. That is so great, what you are sharing here. I used to be a very anxious child and later adult, although it never seemed in the outside like that. It is a great point that it doesn´t make sense to overwrite it – I often went into doing- feeling all there is…. And acceptance..so true- I ll remeber that next time when I feel anxiousness is coming up..

     1. steffihenn that is a great point. You can’t always tell on the outside that a person is anxious – we are learning at young age that we need to cover it up and act as if everything is ok. We get so good at this game that we even convince ourselves that everything is ok. Not until I met Serge Benhayon did I understand that I was often living with anxiousness.

        1. So true Eva, I know I have been very good at convincing myself that I was OK when in my heart I knew there an emptiness caused by not being true to myself. It’s as if we are on a hamster wheel in constant motion to stop ourselves connecting to our essence and to realise that we are beautiful and amazing just as we are in our stillness.

        2. Same here- I covered it up so much, that I never realized and gave space to the anxiousness that was actually constantly there.

467. A great blog Carmin Hall – Thank you. ‘By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing. Whether we like it or not, we do feel everything all of the time and can’t ‘pick and choose’ what we are prepared or not prepared to feel.’ – I can very much relate to this, I used to spend a lot of my life on distracting from reality, so that I did not have to feel the ugliness and simultaneously not feel my own amazingness.

468. “Acceptance of who I am, acceptance of occurrences in my life, letting go of trying to control what can’t be controlled.” It’s amazing how acceptance of who you are saw the anxiousness release its control over you.

469. Wow Carmin, i love this article, this really helps me understand that we cannot pick and choose what we want to feel, we are either feeling or not feeling, and if we do not want to feel then we harden our body, the problem is that this stops us feeling our loveliness as well. Thank you for bringing such clarity around this, it helps me make sense of what happened when I was growing up and why I lost the lovely connection with myself. ‘By preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, the bad and the ugly) I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am’.

470. This is such a beautiful and important blog Carmin. I observe myself and the world around me avoiding feeling what we are feeling. Whether we do it to avoid showing others how we feel or we are scared that it will hurt too much to feel, I can find the urge to avoid accepting and feeling what there is to feel, very powerful. As I become aware of this, and develop my connection to myself, I am able to accept what I am feeling and not judge it. “Whether we like it or not, we do feel everything all of the time and can’t ‘pick and choose’ what we are prepared or not prepared to feel.” This is very true, and I can feel my body opening with an acceptance of this.

471. Thank you for sharing this Carmin – I feel your point relating to the aspect of trying to control our feelings and emotions proved so important for me in understanding my own panic attacks some 10 years ago. I had the moment of realisation myself with divinely timed help from my father. We were in a lift going up to his office where I was working and I felt the beginning of a panic attack – my chest was tightening and had the feeling of dread but without knowing what of – my father noticed or felt what was happening and simply said “it’s ok, let it wash over you” and just like that I let go of trying to resist what was happening and the attack dissipated. Developing an acceptance of what is happening allows us to come to the truth of what is really happening underneath.

472. Opening ourselves up to feel all there is to feel and accepting ourselves just as we are will be the basis for really loving ourselves and appreciating where we are now. By that, anxiousness and fear might still be present, but they have neither hold nor control over us anymore as we know that come what may, we have ourselves to come back to.

473. Thank you for your honest blog Carmin. I can much relate to what you have shared here – and how beautiful you described the changing point to realize, that, when you “just” feel the anxiousness, without trying to get rid of this – inside categorized – “bad” feeling, it looses its hold. Recently I became aware of the pattern that repeats itself inside me like automatically, when I am feeling something, I don’t want to feel for what ever reason. And how then a whole “apparatus” of distracting, numbing, overwriting it starts its action and anxiousness is like a side-effect of it. This is also, because I am choosing to separate from my essence, when I am trying not to feel. Every situation has a message for me and my essence within, so I found the way and true healing is through feeling it and holding myself in love without judgement. I am relearning this now as a daily work in progress.

474. Carmin, what you share is fantastic, I love that analogy you use of colours we can’t not see colour unless we want to move to a monochrome world and then we miss them all not just the one we don’t like say. And it’s great to be reminded that we feel everything and it’s about accepting that and knowing and and allowing as you did here that we are not those, that there is an essence in us which is always there unwavering and true. Thank you for a beautiful blog.

     1. I agree monicag2, is like getting an actual handle of anxiousness and seeing it as not part of us, but as if it’s something there to inspect, like a camera takes a shot for our viewing, so too can we view the anxiousness and see it for what it is.

     2. I also love this colour analogy and the fact that we are actually in effect judging which colours are good and which are bad. But surely colours are just colours to be observed simply for what they are? The moment we make a judgement on our own feelings we absorb the situation and disconnect from our divine essence and we lose true perspective of what is happening around us.

475. I so do recognise that when there is something to feel that I don’t want to, the anxiousness rises, and gets hold of my being. But when choosing to just observe the moment, and feel what is actually going on is helping to release the tension.

     1. I’ve noticed that too Benkt. Allowing space to understand and appreciate what is being felt brings all the difference and doesn’t make the anxiousness feel like such a huge thing.

     2. When we choose to surrender in our body, it’s as though we allow greater clarity and perspective, whatever we’re trying to avoid feeling can be seen for what it is. It doesn’t own us and we can learn so much from letting go of the control and letting ourselves be, to feel and observe what unfolds.

     3. I agree Benkt it is quite amazing to notice how much anxiousness I have when I fight what I am feeling or refuse to feel at all.

     4. Thank you Benkt for for your sharing about how you deal with with your anxiousness. The way you describe it makes it so simple and clear and it makes of the big thing as anxious can be looked at to a factual experience we can easily handle by allowing us to just feel what there is to feel.

     5. Well said Benkt – I too have experienced that it is when I fight what is there for me to feel that the anxiousness kicks in.

476. So true Carmin anxiousness is like a war within ourselves, and one that often feels irrational and makes no sense. It is only recently that I have been able to see anxiousness for what it is, that it is not me but a way of keeping myself small and using it to hold myself back. When I am in anxiousness I would try and rationalise it with myself and/or try and hide it and pretend it wasn’t there so that I could get on with my life. I would also relate anxiousness to certain areas of my life and I learnt to avoid those areas….such as public speaking or confrontational situations, wherever possible. Anxious can still creep in but I am much more aware of it and have the tools to deal with it so it no longer has the hold over me it once had.

     1. When I stop to think about it, I am amazed at how many of us live, have lived, with some type of anxiousness. It is a pretty global phenomenon, but as has been shared with me by the Benhayon family we create anxiousness when we have a lack of presence. Going by the level of anxiousness there is in the world it says a lot about how many of us do not choose to stay present!

477. ‘Just feel it and don’t fight it’ – these words really stand out to me as the difference between giving our power away to a situation, or staying connected with ourselves and simply feeling what is at play without shutting down or reacting. A very powerful message, thank you Carmin.

     1. I like this part too Janet. It’s like we feel it anyway so why fight it.

     2. I agree, Janet. The more we fight, we more we allow ourselves to stay in denial we’re choosing not to understand what is really going on that’s making us feel this way.

     3. I agree Janet, this is a great and powerful message reminding us that we don’t need to protect or harden ourselves to our awareness but simply feel and honour it for whatever it may be.. What if we did this more and more when confronted with anxiousness or nervous tension? is it possible that we would let go of a way of living and being that hasn’t ever supported us in any way and re-found a way that provides true healing, support and the deepening, ever expansion of love in our lives. What are we waiting for? I would say you hit the nail on the head when you mentioned Acceptance Carmin.

478. Carmin thank you for your honest sharing on a topic that effects us all. I feel that anxiousness has become a world wide plague. As someone who has had an obsessive compulsive disorder for most of my life I know anxiousness very well. Like you I had the same revelation that anxiousness was not actually me but something layered on top of me. So often we identify with an illness or a condition or even an accident and then our connection to to who we are in truth gets very muddied.

479. Carmin what you share here is really important. I think we can all relate to shutting down to feeling the bad stuff, but to confirm that when we do this we are shutting down to connecting to ourselves is huge! I love that when you allowed yourself to feel the anxiousness and did not fight it you could also feel your power and strength which supported you through the process. So we could say through acceptance we also get a confirmation of who we are.

     1. Lovely michelle819 – ‘through acceptance we also get a confirmation of who we are’ – when there is acceptance there’s also an ease about ourselves, and so when there’s ease, and bags of it (!) anxiousness can dissolve. Deeper acceptance is what brings the at-ease we feel inside and with this comes the steadiness of ourselves; who we truly are.

     2. This is really important. Not feeling things that we do naturally feel is not only shutting ourselves off from what is happening but shutting ourselves down from within. In that we are not living as the ‘whole’ us and so can not appreciate and just be who we truly are.

     3. Carmen you have written such a clear and interesting blog. I haven’t suffered anxiousness per se, but have lived with a low level of anxiety or nervous tension that just is enough to have me react to a lot of situations, just enough to have me not be connected truly to me. I have worked through a lot of my reactivity but appreciate the sharing as I feel it applies to us all and as you say to feel “the good the bad and the ugly” as all contain a message from the body to be looked at and felt.

480. Thanks Carmin – this line is powerful – “I may have lived during wars, but the real fight was within me.” – I connect to the inner battle with what is and isn’t okay to feel, rather than accept what is felt.

     1. Hello Joel L, this is a huge line or statement for me. I can’t imagine what Carmin Hall’s life would have been like and how it was to live in that way but to say this you can feel how freeing this is. I loved the whole paragraph as it really bought the blog home, “I may have lived during wars, but the real fight was within me. By preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, the bad and the ugly) I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am.” Thank you Joel L.

     2. The inner battle is one that everyone is fighting to some extent or another. But there are a few, inspired by Universal Medicine, who I have seen rise above themselves and they are an inspiration for humanity.

     3. This is so true Joel. Anxiety has a lack of acceptance component to it. Usually a lack of accepting what is there for us to feel.

481. Letting go of control and surrendering to what is is huge. This is trust and if we have a momentum in our bodies that resists trust it may take a while to free ourselves from this crippling habit. Thank you for your simple example of allowing for a deeper level of connection to yourself and a step in accepting yourself in full.

     1. I agree elaineharthey, the surrender you describe here Carmin is such a powerful message. That’s the antidote to anxiousness, not a run up and fix it approach, stop it get rid of it thing, but an allowing ourselves to feel what is there, and surrendering to that feeling without fighting it and trying to change it. I’m on my my baby steps with this and this blog is one I’ll keep coming back to.

482. I reckon anxiousness is a ‘hidden’ emotion that many people live with and just cope with it as best as they can. It is a very subtle emotion that has varying degrees of strength and debilitation. Thanks for opening up this topic Carmin.

     1. I absolutely agree Matthew, that anxiousness can be a ‘hidden’ emotion. This is the worst thing about it. We easily find distractions or behaviors to override it and for me it feels like we build on it to have more of it then.

483. I can really relate to being anxious whilst living in Aden as a small child, during a time of conflict in the sixties and having a distinct feeling of the anxiousness my parents were experiencing the night we were evacuated. Then growing up anxiousness just seemed to be part of my life that I had to manage and cope with, my solution was to avoid situations i.e staying clear of a tricky roundabout, avoiding situations where I will have to speak up in front of people, in fact anything that didn’t feel safe.
     But I have now come to realise that my life has been very restrictive to a point where I haven’t been living at all, but only functioning. For me now being anxious is a choice, sometimes I still get caught out now and again, but if I feel anxious I say to myself ‘Anxiousness is a choice, Julie’ and I breath gently and focus on that and within seconds it clears. This is such an important topic Carmin, as I am sure there are so many people living with anxiousness to some degree or other.

     1. That’s interesting Doug, as quite often I am only aware when I get a sense in my body and then tell myself it’s a choice. But I am starting to recognise that the thoughts of things like ‘Can I do this’ or ‘Am I good enough’ etc, are in fact there before hand, especially when facing new situations.

484. This is a great blog really highlighting how we can distract ourselves from feeling and how important it is to feel and be honest with what we are feeling to allow our body to heal. Most of have suffered or suffers from some level on anxiousness, it’s like you say accepting the whole of who we are, good, bad, ugly is the process of over coming anxiousness.

485. I have experienced severe anxiousness often in my lifetime and what supported me through those times was when I chose to not feed it,not give in to it, to come back to my body and feel what their was to feel. It was always a sign that I was not in my body and not wanting to accept the next level of responsibility.

     1. This makes perfect sense marylouisemyers! By distracting ourselves with anxiety, we avoid feeling our amazingness and therefore avoid responsibility to be all that we are.

     2. And facing anxiousness is the best way that it loses it’s hold over us. If we don’t ‘feed the monster’ to grow – it cannot eat us.

     3. I agree. I have noticed that when I have felt anxiousness – I have been aware that I have not been in my body and that it was a little loving warning to reconnect to my body and key myself feel what was going on in it.

        1. Thank you Carmin and Johanna, I agree, anxiety is not the true us, therefore anxiety is something that can be dealt with when we get an understanding of the love we are.
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486. dear Carmin, Thank you for addressing anxiousness.
     So many people I know speak of living with levels of anxiousness all the time and I have had lots of it myself. As I read your words about acceptance being key I felt a hardness within begin to melt; I know I can learn to live without anxiousness and I know acceptance is a huge key for me to move through it.

     I too find that when I can accept what I’m feeling, that feeling doesn’t consume me like when I’m trying not to feel it. I also find that the more I appreciate and accept the true things about ME, it melts my anxiety…this change of focus is like an antidote to dwelling in all my worries and fears that I’m doing something wrong or that people I love are not OK.

487. Thank you Carmin for expressing how acceptance of your anxiety, as in ‘feel it don’t fight it’, actually allowed you to feel your essence, and that the anxiousness wasn’t you. Your experience serves as an inspiration to many of us who have experienced anxiety at different times throughout our lives.

     1. This is true. And this is also an article that inspires others to just allow themselves to feel, to feel what is going on in their body, acknowledge it, nominate it and accept it. From here we can look at it, confirm how perhaps surrendered or joyful or fluidic our body is feeling . . . Or simply let our self feel perhaps pain or overwhelm or anxiousness. It is this honesty that allows us to love forward instead of overriding or ignoring what our body is communicating.

     2. Thank you Carmin and Rosemary, I agree, anxiety is not us, but something in life that can be dealt with when it is understood from the love we are.

488. The title of this blog says it all, Carmin. I had been anxious all my life until I met Serge Benhayon and was introduced to Universal Medicine. Nervous and anxious. . . I was totally out of my body and in my head. I now know that that is worth being anxious about.

     1. I also lived with anxiety Kathleenbaldwin everyday all day and nothing changed that until I met Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. I didn’t want to feel so much that was around me and in my body, so I chose to be constantly in my head. This blog has been amazing to read as I’ve realised that I have a judgement on certain feelings.

489. Thank you Carmin. Just as anxiousness fuels a war within, the way you describe accepting and surrendering to everything you feel is analogous to a blossoming flower, naturally beautiful, being no more and no less than what the flower naturally is.

490. Beautiful Carmin. Anxiousness can be there even when we sleep, what a huge issue if we really consider it. I relate to a lot of what you describe.

491. Super blog Carmel – thank you so much for sharing! I too have found that when I am intent on trying not to feel things, life becomes duller, it loses its shine (and so do I) because you cannot pick and choose what you block out – it’s all or nothing! What’s more, I find that I can never truly block things out anyway, I can only numb myself to stave off feeling it for a while, but as soon as the numbness wears off I have to feel whatever it was that I was trying to avoid – only catch is it can be a little trickier to make sense of because it is out of context – ie there is a delay between whatever occurred and when I am allowing myself to feel it so it can make it harder to back track and put the pieces together. So essentially, in my experience avoiding feeling not only makes life duller, but incredibly more complicated. Although it may be a bit uncomfortable at times, life is much simpler when I allow myself to feel – to feel the grandness of who I am and both the ugliness and beauty in the world around me – and to accept all that I feel.

492. Carmin you are amazing and I love what you have shared. Your analogy of shutting out all the colours to not see some is awesome and absolutely captures the beauty we deny when we close ourselves off to feeling what is there to be felt. Letting go and accepting is a great start to feeling and addressing the fight within and choosing to feel it all as you have shown, is deeply healing.

     1. Hello Samantha Westall and I agree. This paragraph you are referring to is very revealing, “It is like saying there are some colours that I don’t like so I refuse to see them; I will only allow myself to sense the colours that I do like, that I deem acceptable. The only way to do that is to shut my eyes and see none, and harden my body to not feel what I feel.” I wonder what else we ‘close our eyes to’ in not being aware of everything we are feeling. There is more to the world then we allow to meet our eye, becoming more aware of what we truly feel opens us further to the magic that surrounds us in every moment. Thank you Samantha.

     2. Yes I loved this analogy too Samantha ‘Your analogy of shutting out all the colours to not see some is awesome and absolutely captures the beauty we deny when we close ourselves off to feeling what is there to be felt.’ How by trying to close off one aspect of ourselves we shut down so much else and lose the joy in our life.

493. This is very profound. When we do not want to see certain things we also shut down our ability to see other things, things we actually might want to see. In that we hold us on one level of seeing or not seeing, going in circles and running in the same problems over and over again. This, repeating the same issues, can only be broken by making the choice to see more and not to see selectively but to see what presents itself and is there to see. So, it does all come back to awareness as Serge Benhayon continuously presents. Thank you Carmin for bringing such a great example.

     1. Yes, and what Serge also presents that comes up for me here is: you cannot love one person more than another. If you shut your heart for one you close your heart for yourselves and for others too.
        We are feeling everything all the time and we try to deny some parts, but the costs are immense.

        1. Well said Monika R. Yes, love is not selective but is more about being Love in life, with everyone.

494. Thank you for reminding me how important it is to feel all that is there to be felt Carmin. Your blog feels like a game changer to me. I will be revisiting your words often.

     1. Leonne, I have revisited this blog many times now, and each time I feel anxiousness in my body before I comment. My anxiousness is around am I allowed to visit this blog again? What will people think? Am I allowed to comment again? I could focus on so much what I think what the actual anxiousness is and I can make up anything. What supports me is to breathe into it and let this be my focus. Stillness in my breath can restore me back.

495. I agree Carmin that it’s important to allow ourselves to feel whatever is coming up no matter how overwhelming we feel it’s going to be. I find the more I try to push the feeling away the worse it gets whereas if I sit quietly and let it rise this allows it to clear from my body.

496. ‘By preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, the bad and the ugly) I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am.’ This takes any fear away from feeling what is there to be felt without judgement.

497. This is really gorgeous Carmin. I very much relate to the experience of anxiousness. It is still ongoing and I will remember your words about accepting who I am, the things that happen around me and not fighting what I can’t control. Thank you.

498. Great blog Carmin, I could not imagine the fear you experienced as a child. Its great that you have found a loving supportive place to be, with great tools, especially the gentle breath meditation to support you, as well as Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

499. I really agree Carmin the key is to allow ourselves to feel the anxiousness and not fight it or need it to be gone. It seems we have programmed ourselves to avoid such unpleasant feelings. I also agree how acceptance is vital to overcoming this avoidance. Both in acknowledging the anxiousness is not who we are and also in acknowledging that who we are is so much more powerful than these feelings.

500. Carmin thank you for your post about anxiousness and how debilitating it can be. For me I would often find myself getting anxious when going to talk with certain people or groups,or just doing everyday things. Like you I hit a point where I didn’t want to feel this as I know it wasn’t good but in that I ended up denying it was there let alone feeling why. Having now taken the step that when I feel anxiousness to let myself feel it without judgement I also feel its hold lesson and can start to heal whats behind it.

501. Wow Carmin. By labelling and judging emotions and/or feelings as ‘bad’ or ‘good’ we move and go through life in a certain way of avoidance. But if we can’t stop feeling then enormous effort must be put in place to not stop avoiding. Thus avoiding all feelings. This is huge and yet so simple as if it should be common knowledge. But until reading this blog I never saw it as such, Thank you.

502. Wow- it’s understandable that during the war anxiousness would prevail. Carmin- how wonderful that finally you were able to overcome this, through acceptance. -” Acceptance of who I am, acceptance of occurrences in my life, and letting go of trying to control what can’t be controlled.” Thank you for your honest sharing.

503. Acceptance of me and feeling all there is. I can relate to that. I have also realized ánd felt you can’t shut down for something ‘bad’. You shut down everything. I am opening my eyes and body now more and more to feel all that is whatever it is. Whether I like what I feel or not. For me it is a learning to be with what comes to me and how I relate to that. I found out I have a choice to nominate it, for myself or out loud, but not absorb it. This is a daily practice.

504. This is a very powerful title “Anxiousness – the War Within”. Like depression, anxiousness is wide spread among people of all ages. It’s a topic that needs our attention.

     1. Absolutely Katinka, “Mental illnesses such as anxiety and depression – there is comorbidity between the two – cost the UK economy some £80m annually.” Found this in the Guardian newspaper.

        1. Wow lucindag, reading all these comments do we have the answers to anxiousness? Esoteric Medicine goes to the root of the issue to bring awareness of why for the understanding and how to choose and change those behaviors. Thank God for Esoteric Medicine!

505. Thank you Carmin for your sharing on anxiousness. I have denied the fact that I have had moments of anxiousness throughout my life. It comes in different degrees and I understand now that it only shows me that I am not connected to my essence, power and divinity when it occurs. When I feel anxiousness coming up nowadays, like you I don’t deny it anymore or fight it, I try to observe it and it releases it’s hold.

506. I too have often separated good feelings from bad feeling and have done everything in my power to not feel the bad feelings. However I have found that trying to limit what to feel restricts my understanding of life and my our evolution.

507. It would have been absolutely terrifying, growing up in a country besieged by civil war. You have done incredibly well facing the civil war that rages within and feeling everything that there is to feel, thus loosening its stranglehold on you. Very inspiring and a great reminder that we can’t compartmentalise life and think we will get away with it long-term, it does catch up with us.

508. Carmin, thank you, I love what you have shared here, it really does highlight that the anxiousness that MOST of us deal with on a day to day basis does not have to be debilitating, that we can face it head on without going into a reaction or hardness and within this the joy of feeling who we truly are the strength and power we innately hold and can live from if we so choose.

509. Someone close to me has suffered from anxiety attacks for years, used prescription drugs to manage the condition, and then became dependent on the drugs. The irony is though we had endless conversations about his condition, my own disconnection from my body meant I didn’t ever share my own experiences with this person. For me, anxiousness was still out there, happening to someone else, not me. I was arrogant and in complete denial. Only when I reached the point of acceptance was I able to share my own experiences with this person open up a truer level of communication.

     1. Thank you for sharing this kehinde2012 – it is common to hide our anxiousness, I have even been anxious about people finding out that I am anxious! Now I would say I am less anxious than ever yet more aware of my anxiousness than ever (just as well). The more honesty and openness we bring to this topic the better. We are living in a world where most people are very anxious (even if they don’t know it themselves). Keeping the problem hidden allows it to grow.

        1. I agree Leonne, sharing our anxieties with others takes away the power we give it when we lock it away. Being able to recognise anxiousness when it appears helps me get to the source quickly, see it for what it is and let it go.

510. Wow. What a sharing Carmel and how awesome that you let yourself feel the anxiousness, this allowing it to not have the same hold over you. Acceptance is so important as is allowing and learning that we need to let go of control. These are all elements that i am currently working with and can feel the constraints of. As you say the key is to feel and then also be with that feeling.

511. Thank you Carmin, you describe so vividly the all consuming nature of anxiousness and how debilitating it can be. ‘I was inspired to ‘just feel it and don’t fight it.’’ In the past I experienced anxiousness and panic attacks sometimes intensely, (I remember vividly how an intense panic attack prevented me from attending my first Universal Medicine course in Somerset), but not always frequently. For a long time, and because I was so disconnected from my body, I didn’t know that what I felt was anxiousness. First I had to accept I had a problem, then share this with others. Thank you Universal Medicine, for teaching me to separate feelings of anxiousness from who I truly am, Love. From Tanya Curtis of FABIC I learned to understand the causes of my own anxiousness, recognise early signs and to take responsibility for bringing my body back to balance. Now, when anxiousness descends, I recognise it, feel it, but am not consumed by it. I choose instead to connect with stillness, quietness and love.

     1. Lovely sharing, thank you kehinde2012.

512. “When I felt it, it could’nt consume me” I love this advice Carmin, it is so simple and yet I had to read it twice as I just didn’t want to take it in. I feel anxiousness a lot and will be trying that tip, it is a trick of the mind that keeps us away from feeling powerful and divine, and yet we all have accessed those feelings and they are very easily accessible if we let them in.

     1. Wise words Stephen G, reading your comment and feeling the all including my anxiousness even to comment, I felt the power of me and to hold back and deliver what I know, and like you said remaining open to feel it all – I can choose then what feeling is me and what is not.

513. “Anxiousness ,the war with in” what a very real and honest article you share so clearly and simply about the war that is with in and felt just as everything is felt. This is so revealing and beautiful to feel and know that in accepting that we do feel everything it is ok and we do not have to fight this but let it be with our eyes open, only then can the anxiousness subside to a knowing and understanding and we can come from our essence and simply breath our own breath.Thank you Carmin for your great sharing and awareness.

514. It is so true that when we allow ourselves to feel our feelings they do not hold so much power over us. We can spend a great deal of time and energy pushing feelings away trying not to feel them, but it’s true they keep pushing at the door like a rush of water. This makes them feel even more scary and bigger than they actually are. I find that when I acknowledge my feelings and allow myself to feel them all the while knowing that they are just passing through, they are so much easier to deal with and mostly do not last as long as I think they will. It’s so important to accept things as they are with a curious observation rather than reacting to how things are and making it all worse.

     1. Rebecca, your comment made me ponder more deeply “I find that when I acknowledge my feelings and allow myself to feel them all the while knowing that they are just passing through, they are so much easier to deal with and mostly do not last as long as I think they will”. When I read this I realized we must know every feeling before we choose to not feel them. Universal Medicine presented the fact ‘the all’ does pass through us including those dense ‘out of place’ thoughts. It’s true – I still get the way out of line suicidal thought. It’s only got base because I used to choose the behavior to insight this thought. Now I choose which thought belongs to me – my future mind.

515. Reading your blog Carmin reminded me of my own childhood and specifically of waking up from a bad dream, and while I can’t say I had the same degree of anxiousness, I can clearly remember on many occasions waking up from a bad dream, and trying to ‘think’ my way out of what I really felt by telling myself or being encouraged by my mum to ‘think of something happy’. Invariably I used to fall asleep, but probably more out of exhaustion than the fact that the technique was successful, and although I don’t have specific memories, I’m sure that I still didn’t feel quite right after waking up the next morning. I still have the odd bad dream now, but am much more willing to just feel whatever it is I’m feeling – rather than try and distract myself or pretend I’m not feeling the way I do. It’s a far more powerful and empowering way to deal with anxiety (or any feeling that may be coming up) and has been very supportive, not only in relation to dreams but any activity, event or relationship that might trigger similar feelings.

516. Truly beautiful & inspiring to just feel the all there is to feel – the food & bad thank you

517. A very apt title Carmen. Anxiousness was my middle name when I was a child growing up in an alcoholic household. However, having dealt with my childhood issues (through regular esoteric sessions) I am less and less affected with this condition and if it does pop back up, I have the tools in place to deal with it, namely presence.

518. Carmin, what a beautiful and honest blog. Apart from living through physical wars, I can resonate with everything you write here. The biggest war has always been within myself when not accepting the truth of who I am /we all are.
     I now am aware that when not in conscious presence with myself, anxiousness has a large loop-hole to zoom in through my mind and this can be felt in my body with hardening, the sense of panic or threatening overwhelm. From the presentations by Serge Benhayon, I too have chosen another way – simply stop and observe:
     ‘I was inspired to ‘just feel it and don’t fight it.’ What happened felt like a miracle – the anxiousness didn’t disappear, but definitely released its hold”.

519. Carmin, I love the way that you are not using your childhood experiences as an excuse to not be responsible for your own sense of anxiousness.

520. Such a powerful statement Carmin: “By not allowing myself to feel everything that is there to feel, I have also prevented myself from feeling amazing.” I know this so well, I sometimes am so much fighting what I feel that I cannot feel how amazing I am.

521. Dear Carmin,
     Anxiousness consumed the most part of my life too. I did not live in a war zone or move country, but the anxiousness I felt was always with me and I too used to deal with it by thinking, but it never left me. Now I find myself in a place where as you describe to simply let myself feel what is there to feel. Each day how this is in my life expands and I tend to feel more and more and some of what I feel I do not like, a lot of what I feel though is precious, tender and oh so beautiful to feel and fully accept in my life. My biggest learning of late is to simply accept and allow everything that I feel. To claim in full that I feel it and that I am not mistaken. I am again learning to trust myself, something that I never did when I was allowing anxiousness to run my body.

522. Wow Carmin, this is awesome, thank you for sharing it here. I used to feel anxious most of the time and like you, accepted it as par for the course. Realising that it is our own resistance to what we are feeling that feeds the anxiousness has been huge in my experience and letting go is like draining the body of a poison. Further still though, what you have written here about feeling everything is a revelation to me for I can see how I have remained selective about what I allow myself to feel – and in so doing, negate feeling everything and hence all that I am. More allowing to do here for sure!

523. What a super lesson you have learnt Carmin and thanks so much for sharing it with us. What you have written about can be applied to so many things we try and shut out and not see or feel. Acceptance of ourselves is such an enormous thing. I feel the key for me has been not to label anything good or bad. When I label something bad, then I give myself a reason to berate myself if I do it. It’s a horrible cycle to be in. Acceptance is what frees me from this cycle.

524. Hi Carmin, I can only imagine what it must be like living in a country at war. Its great how you got yourself to feel the anxiousness which sort of then put you in the drivers seat. Many of us live with anxiousness in varying degrees and I guess that is the trick to feel and acknowledge it and not try and pretend it is not there and just hope it goes away.

525. Acceptance is a huge support in my life as well. The more I learn to accept life as it happens and more allow myself to feel everything and read its implications, the more I am able to let go of wanting to control things and life becomes extremely easy and any anxiousness subsides.

526. Hi Carmin, thank you for showing how it feels to live in a war zone, there are many who experience this today around the world and their level of anxiousness is, I am sure, huge. Many of us experience varying levels of anxiousness in our lives, even if we are not living in such extreme circumstances. From your words I can feel that acceptance doesn’t mean giving in or giving up, but developing an inner calm that enables you to be with you and feel OK no matter what is going on around you.

527. A great blog Carmin, thankyou. “As I started to berate myself, I was inspired to ‘just feel it and don’t fight it.’ What happened felt like a miracle – the anxiousness didn’t disappear, but definitely released its hold.” It is amazing that when we accept what we have been resisting for a while, things seem to release their hold over us. Acceptance is one of the keys I feel.

     1. I agree sueq2012, with acceptance I have found it so much easier to surrender – surrender to what is there…..leaves no space to fight or resist, but allows the healing on offer.

     2. Yes Sue acceptance and allowing what is there to be felt and not pushing it down or numbing ourselves are the keys to help unlock the feeling of anxiousness and return to the stillness we hold within.

     3. Yes Sue, resisting is just calling you to be more and dealing with your hurts. This has helped me keep it simple when I am anxious instead of shutting-down and withdrawing.

528. That mental conflict of trying to convince yourself all will be well if you just think ‘nice’ thoughts is exhausting as you are constantly pushing against a steel door to keep the anxiousness at bay. The teachings of the Ancient Wisdom and The Way of the Livingness presented by Serge Benhayon have shown me that by choosing to be aware of all I am feeling and staying connected to the loving stillness within my inner-heart I have nothing to fear and the shadows are dispelled by the light.

529. And your title ‘Anxiousness – The War Within’, this is how it feels, a fight where we seem to loose our say about leading our way to be who we are.

     1. Amazingly said Annelies! Anxiousness is “…a fight where we seem to loose our say about leading our way to be who we are.”

     2. Yes that is so true Annelies. It drains all of my energy when I am in that mode of trying to fight what’s going on inside me.

     3. I so know the war within Annelies. Recently I have come to understand that the war can only be waged in my head, I will find myself going into this back and forth, do I, don’t I, I don’t know etc. Yet the moment that I take my focus from this and allow myself to feel my body and be with it, something very different has presented itself to me. My body knows exactly what to do or say and when and the war I was waging looses its hold immediately.

        1. I agree Leigh Strack, you expressed it so simply – it’s constant choice to choose the behavior that has the intent of being with my body. What helps me with this is to choose my breath. It’s actually a great practice to learn to choose how you want to be.

     4. Great title. A war is exactly what it feels like with in.

     5. Yes Annelies, I have found the more I accept and embrace my anxiousness the less hold it has over me and the more it begins to subside.

     6. That is exactly how anxiousness feels to me, like war within, without having a say about what happens in my body and what I feel. A battle that you loose from the very beginning, because we are not designed to fight at all, either with ourselves or with another.

        1. yes I feel too it is a war against everything we are, as we shut down what we feel and leave our bodies to deal with life without us there to respond to what it is telling us about ourselves and the world around us.

        2. Yes, so true, we are fighting everything we naturally are with anxiety and try desperately to handle the situation without being present ourselves.

530. Thank you Carmin for your blog about anxiousness. Anxiousness has taken over lots of times in my life. It felt I had no skills or tools to stop it. Until lateiy I came to the same observation you share in this blog, the anxiousness is not me and I was able to observe it and it did not have its awful hold on me. I love this: ‘It is like saying there are some colours that I don’t like so I refuse to see them; I will only allow myself to sense the colours that I do like, that I deem acceptable. The only way to do that is to shut my eyes and see none, and harden my body to not feel what I feel.’ This is definitely what I have done and sometimes still do. I am more and more accepting and appreciating who I am and that is truly amazing.

     1. Yes I am reminded that I don’t need to harden up to not feel. And also not making it wrong to feel anxious, but as you say Annelies observing it and nominating that the anxiousness isn’t who we are. Acceptance and appreciation of who we are – that is key.

        1. Annie that is so important ‘to not make it wrong to feel anxious’, I have experienced that this is accelerating the anxiousness. If I have a picture or belief of how I should be or should feel and it does not match I am instantly in anxiousness as I will let go of my stillness and go into a doing to be better or do more. If we can accept what is there then we can address the cause instead of trying to change it.

     2. I love this line too Annelies, about shutting our eyes to all colour because we don’t like one, or see it as ‘wrong’. Accepting and appreciating who we are, (and what is not us) is a golden gift that changes everything.

     3. Equally i often suffer from low grade anxiousness, today i have greater awareness of how this feels in my body and can clock it pretty quickly, my usual pattern is to harden up & push through but more recently through the presentations of Serge Benhayon I have a clearer understanding of where anxiety comes from and the tools required to let it go.
        http://www.unimedliving.com/voice/audio-of-the-month/what-causes-anxiousness-2015-07.html

531. Anxiousness is a symptom a lot of people suffer from. I experienced similar symptoms like you having horrendous fear concerning wars, even if I never lived in countries where wars were happening. When I experienced the love of Serge Benhayon my anxiousness started to heal. As you describe it, allowing to feel everything including the amazingness of who we are has no space for anxiousness any more.

     1. Great to read that the prescription is to feel the love, and let that fill the empty spaces instead.

     2. Yes Katie, it seems that we accept being anxious as part of life and put up with it. We all seem to get it in varying levels of intensity. The presentations of Universal Medicine have helped me considerably with dealing with my own form of it.

     3. Great point Katie, it is epidemic proportions, and so common it is actually normalised. We so often come to see ‘learning to live with it’ as the suitable fix, not understanding or perhaps knowing that a fuller, complete healing is possible.

     4. I agree Katie, it can be considered as just part of life to live with anxiousness day in and day out. With myself though there was this constant tension that this was not right or true to live this way, but instead of understanding this clearly I reacted to anxiousness which compounded it even more. Once I did get understanding I could then see I have a choice.

     5. For a long time, I didn’t even know I was anxious. I had lived with it for so long that it had become my normal. Looking back I can also see how I had many things I would ‘go to’ to not feel the anxiousness. And there were many – alcohol, drugs, food, tv, music and even exercise. As these were gradually removed I was left to feel the anxiousness more and more. Serge Benhayon was the first to explain to me that anxiousness is a lack of presence and that our body knows immediately that when we are not present we can’t deal with whatever is in front of us. This is felt as anxiousness – like a shakiness within.

     6. I agree Katie, people do not realize they may have a low grade of anxiousness.

     7. Very true Katie – I had no idea even what anxiousness was, or that I was carrying it in my body, until I met Serge Benhayon and was learning about this constant tension and how much it affected my wellbeing.

532. Carmin I connected with much of what you have shared here. I too suffered from a lot of anxiousness during most of my life and have now been able to connect to more awareness around why I go into anxiousness in certain aspects of life. I used it to protect myself and hid away for a long period, out of fear and hurts I held. But now I choose to be out and with the world confirming me and my heart. Thank you.

     1. Very true Kelly Zarb – key is to develop a deeper awareness, this has supported me to understand that there is always a point where I can make a choice. That choice will either confirm the anxiousness and take me further away from myself, or it will be an acceptance of what I feel in that moment and something that I can let go of and move on from.

        1. Beautifully said Eva being aware gives us the choice ‘That choice will either confirm the anxiousness and take me further away from myself, or it will be an acceptance of what I feel in that moment and something that I can let go of and move on from.’

533. Carmin what you present is truly inspirational. I know exactly how you feel. I use food to hold myself back, suppress my anxiety or to numb myself. When the tension rises in my body I eat my chosen food to dull the tension. If I allow myself to feel the tension and explore it, it’s like what you said, it releases its hold on you. It loses its power.

     1. Lindellparlour, today was a great day for me to read Carmin’s blog, and your comment. I have for years buried my anxiety with food, and only last week really felt it for the first time. Now I can choose to feel the tension, explore it, and let it go.

        1. Catherine that’s awesome that you are becoming aware of your tension. Once you understand what hold it has over you, you can see that it is all just a game that the spirit is trying to fool us. Once we are onto the spirit it has no power and it just lets go.

     2. “It loses its power.” a very simple and powerful truth – when we choose to not focus on an energy which is not us, it loses it’s power.

        1. It happens in an instant Gyl. As soon as we recognise it for what it is. BAM it’s gone.

     3. So true lindellparlour, what supports me is to constantly accept it and breath gently to focus my mind and not take it to some thought that not really belongs to why I am actually anxiousness. Keeps me focused .. and when you stay with it you will discover why you are anxiousness.

        1. Your words of wisdom Rik were delivered to me at a pivotal time. I am about to sit an exam and as I am in my final days of studying I find anxiety can creep in at times. I’m going to try your method of breathing gently to focus my mind. Thank you.

534. It feels so revealing to let go the judgement on what to feel or not to feel Carmin Hall and thank you for bringing this to me. When we allow ourselves to feel what is there to feel and not disregard this feeling because at some stage in life we have nominated or associated this feeling as unpleasant, frightening and something we do not appreciate in us, we are disconnecting from a part in ourselves that causes the anxiety in the first place, something we all experience in life. Actually the anxiety is there because we have disconnected from and are disregarding our feelings, our connection with who we truly are. So feeling anxiety is in a way a great signal because it tells us that we are disconnected from our feelings and when we are open to it, gives us the opportunity to choose another way, the way of returning to a way of living that allows our feelings to be our guides in life.

     1. So well said Nico, what a great summary! It really clarifies a lot for me. The moment I feel anxious I have allowed something outside of me to enter and put a demand on me, I am trying to live up to some outside ideal or expectation instead of trusting my innate feeling and connectedness to the whole.

     2. This is great Nico. Yes, if we choose to see it so, anxiety is a communication from our body telling us ‘something’s up’ and we are disconnected from everything we are in some way. Awesome.

     3. Spot on Nico, the anxiety is there because we have disconnected from our feelings, and checked out from our bodies. As you say, feeling anxious is a great signal that we have lost connection with our inner most…then it is time to stop, breathe the gentle breath and/or get support to bring you back.

     4. Great point Nico, that anxiety is a marker that we have disconnected from our feelings, and our essence and we can use it in this way to come back to ourselves. Reading this blog by Carmin has made me see that I too, have been judging any anxiety I feel as bad rather than it just being there as a signal.

     5. I have begun to learn that when I am feeling something, either lovely or not, it is important to simply observe it. When we don’t get caught up in the identification of the feeling then we can’t get emotional about it, making it much easier to stay connected to our essence especially if what we are feeling is painful or heavy and dark. My normal response to something like this is to shut down but ever so gradually I am becoming aware of just how important it is to stay open to feeling everything.

535. This is a huge article that highlights the sheer importance of being very honest with how we feel as each and every moment. What I find interesting is that we do feel everything all of the time and so to not feel means we have to have distracted ourselves or done something quite dramatic to stop the unstoppable.

     1. Yes beautifully said, to not feel everything we have to constantly put effort into not feeling which is like you said in distracting ourselves with whatever is possible. For if we stop we have to feel.

     2. Great point aminatumi – we ‘do’ feel everything all of the time, so it’s interesting to observe the array of techniques and distractions we use (and have often perfected) in order to try and convince ourselves we ‘don’t’ feel.

     3. Yes feeling and acknowledging and honouring what we are feeling is hugely important. It is part of being honest. This honesty slowly leads us to the truth of the matter.

     4. And I love the way Carmin has revealed that we cannot be selective about what we switch off to. The colour analogy for avoiding feeling what we are is exquisite. I might love the colour red and hate blue (I don’t, of course) and do all I can to avoid blue, but I cannot avoid it without making myself blind to every single colour. Switch one part of my awareness and all of it is switched off.

     5. Hello aminatumi and I agree. Carmin Hall brings a simple message through a really traumatic and somewhat disturbing story, no matter what is going on just surrender to what you feel. This is a huge quote from Carmin, “I may have lived during wars, but the real fight was within me. By preventing myself from feeling all there is to feel (the good, the bad and the ugly) I prevented myself from connecting to my divine essence and being all that I am.”

        1. That’s right Raymond, we all have a story that affects each of us differently in each of our bodies. Surrendering is the key to allow yourself to be and not fight to control the situation, or personally for me to fight my own body in all I feel. It really is amazing what your body can hold.

        2. Hello Rik Connors and I agree, we all can compare stories about how things are and that’s a way of identify each other as being different or better, worse etc. Or we can simply surrender to what you feel in each moment not matter how big or small the title is and from there connect to your body and back to what ever is next. Thanks Rik.

     6. So true aminatumi. I love the analogy of trying to only see the colours that we like – it only works if we close our eyes to not see any colours at all. It is not always pleasant to feel everything that is going on, however, feeling the truth of all that is going on allows us to understand and accept what is happening.

536. Excellent topic to write about Carmin as I would suggest a lot of people suffer from some type of anxiousness. I recently did the men and anxiety course offered by The College of Universal Medicine, this course was very effective in explaining the cause of anxiety in men and I also gained great coping strategies in dealing with anxiety. Thanks Carmin for your blog.

     1. I agree. Many people I know in many different spaces do suffer from some level of anxiety. Anxiety in society has gone to quite an extreme rate that I feel those who suffer from low grade anxiety are not truly aware of it.

     2. This is true Joe – how many of us do not experience anxiety in one way or another?
        How blessed we are to have the understanding of anxiety and its root cause at our disposal thanks to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

     3. Thank you Joe, I agree, the on-line course is extremely effective.
        Understanding Anxiety in Men – ONLINE COURSE. See link below:
        http://study.coum.org/enrol/index.php?id=14

     4. Yes, anxiousness it is not fully understood how much it impacts most of us. It is managed from a young age becoming a normal feeling. I heard the course ” Understanding Anxiety in Men” at The College of Universal Medicine was so supportive and I plan to do it soon too – thanks Joe

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